Best Friend Of 12 YEARS Chose Her Boyfriend When I Called Out Him Making Moves On Me r/Relationships

[@rubymeaddle]

I could maybe forgive believing the boyfriend but turning the friend group against OP was the line for me. She ruined her friend's reputation.

[@babyfaceweeb8937]

Quick question, if you believe that your best friend was trying to susuce your boyfriend, would you not tell your friends?

[@rubymeaddle]

@@babyfaceweeb8937 well for one, I'd get both sides of the story, and secondly they over embellished the story. Nah, you're defending pick me girl sht.

[@TailsFan]

@@babyfaceweeb8937 Not without talking to the best friend and getting all sides first.

[@CyeOutsider]

@@babyfaceweeb8937 Not without speaking to my friend and getting her side of the story. Then, if I felt she was lying or her story didn't add up, I would tell my other friends what i think happened.

[@elileilani]

​ uuW5😅

[@sgtwhisker26]

I can’t believe how little the op “friends” think of her In the first story they thought so little of her character they believed she would do something like that with no proof, with friends like that who the hell needs enemies.

[@benry007]

People often believe whatever story they hear first. Ex best friend may normally be a reliable source of information. If told matter of factly without OP there to defend themselves it could be very convincing.

[@sgtwhisker26]

@@benry007 True and that type of follow definitely tells you who your True friends are

[@benry007]

@@sgtwhisker26 I think we need to recognise that people make mistakes. People don't always know the right person to believe. OP probably should have spoken to those people if she suspected her old friend was spreading false information.

[@babyfaceweeb8937]

Idk, y'all really out here acting as if there aren't stories of best friends for x amount of years betraying their best friend with that best friend's boyfriend.

[@paulchaudoir190]

@@babyfaceweeb8937 That's true. Some stay friends just to steal and badmouth behind the friend's back.

[@brandi5126]

Oof! Yeah I wouldn't be interested in rekindling a friendship. She didn't even bother to ask you what happened too or get proof before she accused you. Not to mention she turned everyone against you by telling them something she wasn't even 100% sure about. People like that are dangerous. Not worth keeping close to you.

[@kazzuo32]

Agree

[@marshawargo7238]

Even Now! What if Ex Bf changes his mind & wants to get back together, so he makes up Another Story where he says: "I only confessed to something that Didn't Happen, to hurt you, because I was hurting over us breaking up! It Really did happen that She came onto Me!" I'd tell OP to say she forgives, but they are Still Ex-Friends. You just can't move past some things. & Someone who can pick a side without hearing Both sides, is Not someone I want to be friends with.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: honestly if it is true that she ruined other friendships between her mutuals with OP because she chose to believe her lying cheating boyfriend, I wouldn’t be so easy to forgive her. The friendship ended between them she didn’t need to drag other people and drags OP‘s name through the mud based on her boyfriend’s lies. She only believed OP because her boyfriend cheated on her. She practically bet on the wrong horse and ruined a friendship and the friends reputation in the process.

[@mkuti-childress3625]

I don’t know what to think. I had an ex who was a really good manipulator and liar, and I’ll bet the story he told to OP’s former friend was very convincing with perfect details. He probably added a, “She was really embarrassed when I turned her down and _begged_ me not to tell you,” and an, “I know, I couldn’t believe it either!” when she expressed disbelief. He must have made it _good_, to get her to completely ditch her best friend without even asking her what happened. He must have been extremely believable and she must have been very, very hurt. I’m sure he went out of his way to “comfort” her afterward. I think the real bad guy is him. People like that (maybe narcissistic, maybe just manipulative for fun) really know how to lie and create a story that works for them. Coming up with the preemptive strike, where they have to create a story using the same basic facts, but that absolutely damns the well-meaning friend, is one of their best skills. The fact that the story was so good that it both absolutely crushed the ex friend and kept the others from the group from even questioning it shows more about him than about anyone else. These people thrive around good, decent people who would never even think of lying like that. On the other hand, I am in a position where a friend completely cut me off and I don’t even know why. It’s soul crushing. But the fact that she won’t even talk to me means she is very hurt about something she thinks I did. I actually don’t think of her as the bad guy-I think the person who knowingly lied to her is. And if she apologized for it and wanted to start talking again, I couldn’t say no. I’m more mad at myself for not doing more to talk to _her_. I hope that everyone (who isn’t the lying ex) in this story sees this as a learning experience about how, no matter what you think you know, you should always listen to the other person’s side of a story. And, honestly, just that people like that liar, who are very charming, very convincing, and who would destroy someone’s like without even blinking, exist.

[@locusxe1411]

@@mkuti-childress3625 I still personally wouldn’t want to be friends with that person. They’ve been friends for years then just accepts that the boyfriend told her the truth without even caring for Ops side. Manipulation is most definitely part of this situation but still. You’re a grown adult if I’m not mistaken. Why would you listens to this guy you live been dating for a while compared to your closest friends you’ve known for years

[@mkuti-childress3625]

@@locusxe1411 I completely agree, although I’ll bet the other people in the equation who also believed him were probably making it worse by telling her what a crappy friend OP was, etc. He must have been really convincing for not one of those people to take the ex friend aside and tell her they thought it didn’t sound right.

[@ditzyhere3138]

She didn’t believe in OP’s innocence because he was a cheater, it was because he called her a gullible idiot over it during their break-up. If he didn’t get that dig on her she’d have never contacted OP I’ll bet.

[@garthrogers2269]

@@mkuti-childress3625 I bet a significant factor was that 'boy code / girl code' bullshit, where they automatically rally around the percieved victim. I'd also bet that OP was the friend group member who would be the one who typically fact checks in similar situations.

[@nikkiwhray1598]

I love the last story. It's a very accurate picture of true love. The initial infatuation fades, but when you stick it out and develop deeper relationship that is based on friendship and mutual respect, you can develop a bond that is truly beautiful. "The One" isn't always the person you fall for the hardest, or the one who excites you the most. It's the person who you can't live without AFTER the excitement has worn off.

[@srg24601]

Wow poor op in story 1. What a way to find out a large chunk of your friend group think so little of you. Between the ex best friend believing the bf and then the other friends taking her word and not checking in with op it really shows how little they respected her to begin with

[@timtompkins8774]

Story 1: This is the exact reason why I go out of my way to get both sides before making any decisions. You cannot trust what people tell you, unless they have proof, no matter who they are.

[@ComaLies225]

This right here. This story made me so mad for OP. Her ex bestfriend basically got peniswhipped to the point that she only questioned him when he shoved it in her face. I’ve always been pretty impartial but I’m the first to question both sides when things like this go down

[@laraq07]

@@ComaLies225 The truth didn't come out because the friend questioned her boyfriend. It was HIM throwing it in her face that she believed him over a friend of 12 years. How can you ever trust a person like that again? OP can forgive her friend if/when she wants to but that friendship will never become what it once was. If it EVER was as strong as she believed in the first place.

[@pippo17173]

@@laraq07 It sucks so hard when flaws of a person became so obvious in a situation that shouldn't be a big deal. I Was a victim of them myself when I was trying to defuse a petty drama years ago and people I trust spat on my face and never look at me again. Ya never go back to these people even if they apologize. Its just too much, knowing they can do this crap at you.

[@golden_leader9227]

Exactly. That's what me and my best friend built our friendship on, back in the days. Always the truth (with proof attached) and after that blind trust since neither of us ever betrayed the other, especially with something serious. We still like to send or show the other what we are talking about, because we love to be 100% clear on something.

[@timtompkins8774]

@@golden_leader9227 I just wish everybody would do this. Unfortunately most people only want to make themselves look good and other people believe the first story they hear. I don't know how anyone can be friends with someone for years and years and then stab them in the back.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I'm all for forgiveness, but this is unforgiveable. After 12 years she chose some dude over you. I could never be friends with someone who betrayed me this way. Forgive her for you, so you're not caring that negativity in your body, but never be friends again, never have any further contact.

[@sspectre8217]

I’d be angry with the former mutual friends too, seriously did none of them approach OP like “is this for real?” Also, the former friend barely needed any certainty to believe the ex, who at the time had only been dating her for a few months, but it took absolute certainty to believe her former best friend of 12 years.

[@ADWebTV]

12 yrs is what's crazy. like I need this girl to have been saying that boyfriend for like 6-7 yrs. That's a long time to just throw it away. What OP getting from telling her he flirted with her. And she didn't even really hear her out.

[@rmhartman]

It's not just choosing the BF over the friend. It's that she dragged OP's reputation through the mud with everybody else.

[@RJLiams]

Haven't we heard just as many stories of childhood friends actively trying to steal their friend's partners? 12 years means nothing to most people.

[@shadamyandsonamylover]

I’m surprised at the amount of people angry with the friends and best friend. Think about it for a minute. If the boyfriend _wasn’t_ lying, and OP really did hit on him, then the best friend was 100% correct in this situation. She didn’t spread lies, she warned her friends about a truth she was told. She wasn’t maliciously smearing OP. I’m a little annoyed with OP not even trying to speak to her friends (except the bff). In a case with no evidence, you are supposed to pick the side you trust more. And even tho they’ve been friends for 12 years, you’re supposed to be much closer with your SO than your bff. The bff did nothing wrong here. It was the evil boyfriend ruining everything from the sidelines.

[@Kati_P]

Friend break-ups can be even worse than romantic break-ups. OP is better off without the people who believed the bad things being said about her without getting her side of the story. You can't trust people like that to be there for you when you really need them to be, which is an important facet of close friendships. I don't think I could have them be an active part of my life either after they did that, regardless of how much, or sincerely, they apologize.

[@sr7701]

Quite frankly, the exe is right she is an idiot for letting a guy she just met turner her against someone she's known her whole life. I could never respect someone like that, forget about trust.

[@marshmello3455]

@@sr7701 that's what I was thinking. I get that she's young, or whatever, but thinking a guy you've been with for 5 months over your best friend? Not even getting both sides of the story? Turning your other friends against her based on his side? Nah, man. Girl sounds exhausting. If she's willing to go nuclear like that, I'm thinking the relationship was not that strong to begin with (regardless of how it seemed on the surface).

[@Davtwan]

I’d be questioning if I even want to keep living in that part of town at this point. The ethics of that generation in the area are deplorable.

[@RokoFireFox]

I 100000% would not be able to trust that friend again. 12 years gone? Cause a GUY, didn't even try to get both sides AND bad mouthed you to friends? Nah don't need someone like that in your life. Don't need any of them.

[@pippo17173]

Ya fuck that. It sucks that it took this long to realize it but when someone can switch moods and have no bad feelings doing shit like this, Its best to leave them now.

[@RokoFireFox]

@@pippo17173 the fact she didn't even try to get ops side. Like nah don't need someone like that. After 12 years your not gonna trust your friend?

[@brigidtheirish]

@@RokoFireFox And the other friends didn't try, either. I agree with the first comment Mark read. Forgive, don't forget, don't trust.

[@RokoFireFox]

@@brigidtheirish yeah honestly I woildnt want any of them back as friends.

[@DoritoBot9000]

Sounds to me like the ex-friend was really insecure/jelous of OP prior to this ordeal happening. She was way too eager to believe boyfriend.

[@TheLugiaSong]

Story 2 is so cute TT_TT it's rare we get something so wholesome. I hope OP and their fiance stay together.

[@brigidtheirish]

It also shows why divorcing because of "falling out of love" isn't a good idea. The emotional part of love comes and goes as emotions do. The 'honeymoon phase' is temporary and people get busy. There are going to be rough patches in *any* relationship. The important thing is to maintain the commitment. Honestly, I don't understand why OP and his fiance decided to delay the wedding until they were 'financially stable' in the first place. They were already living together, might as well make it official. Then again, my parents had about as simple a wedding as you can have. No engagement ring, no reception, no honeymoon. Mom made some adjustments to Grandma's wedding dress and Dad showed up in his Sunday best. Close family and friends were in attendance at the church while the local priest officiated. Dad had just recently lost his job and they were both fairly fresh from college and thus broke. But the *marriage* was far more important than the *wedding,* so they made it work.

[@mashonem]

Thanks for letting me know it’s a good ending 💙

[@jodieg6318]

Story one: it’s more than acceptable that OP dosent want to forgive her former friend; I’m not big on being told ‘sorry’ because it’s just a word. If you want someone’s forgiveness you need to make amends.

[@itsjustme7487]

Story 1..I doubt your friendship can be mended. I say this from experience.

[@MarkNarrations]

Dang, you been through something similar?

[@itsjustme7487]

@@MarkNarrations Yes. 20 year friendship down the toilet.

[@carolroberts4614]

That's bad! So sorry.

[@DoritoBot9000]

So sorry this happened to you too. In my case it was just four years from uni. But it was one of the most horrible things to ever experience. Especially when a whole group of people with whom you’ve shared your most intimate feelings decide to cut you off all of a sudden and wont return any of your calls or texts to even let you know they’re no longer speaking to you.

[@ashleymcgaha5794]

From the perspective of a bff that pushed everyone away. I was in an extremely toxic and emotionally abusive relationship. He made me feel worthless and said I needed to choose between my friends and him. After cutting my bff out I got engaged to the guy and 3 months before the wedding he became physically abusive so I left him immediately. Sadly it took 4 yrs to get back in contact with my bff and was so happy she took me back. And many years, a marriage, and 2 kids later and were still close despite being several states apart

[@RedeemedNephlim24]

Story 2: I feel like those two will grow old together and take this as lessons learned. The love there is so real.

[@phyllis9750]

Story 1:. The part that sticks in my craw is that the friend spread her lies to the rest of the friend group. THAT makes the decision. She was vicious. Do you want THAT in your life?

[@pambarab5506]

Story #1. I understand OP. I had a 10 year friendship that ended (different reasons) and now (40 yrs later) we are acquaintances, but I still don't have that trust back. Story #2. I love a story that has no cheating SO, no MILs, no bullying, no HMOs, etc... This was just a lack of communication and too much work. It's the only time that covid actually helped. lol

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "Normally I wouldn't take someone back but we've been friends for 12 years and there's history" maybe I'm just too cynical but I personally wouldn't. She didn't care about those 12 years when she tossed you out, her boyfriend told her one (1) lie and she immediately took his side, cussed you out and ended your friendship without even trying to get your side of the story. She didn't care about those 12 years of history, so why should you 🤨

[@justinecorrington4106]

Honestly I think OP is better off; because that had not been a great friend group. No one called her up and asked her side; or even asked why did you betray her and come on to her boyfriend? especially if its the same friends who was there

[@laraq07]

This

[@TiffWaffles]

For me, the friendship would be destroyed after she had turned all of our mutual friends against me. I do not forgive and forget easily- and manipulating everyone against me would be one of those things that I would never, ever forgive. I had a friend like this in high school that caused drama, told lies on her own friends just for the sake of drama, and caused a lot of hurt because she would get our entire friend circle to cut this person out. We've been out of high school for some years now, and not one person wants anything to do with her.

[@DoritoBot9000]

It’s not just that. If it were me, I’d be paranoid that a similar situation could happen again. Ex- friend’s reaction was not only absolute betrayal of their friendship, but she then proceeded to sabotage her with the rest of their common friendships. To me that shows that there was something else going on prior to the bf’s allegations, ex-friend was likely jelous ir insecure or something about OP, and lacks the self-awareness to realize. That type of damage can never be mended.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: dude is a colossal douchr and she is not a good friend. She threw away a 12 year friendship over someone she knew for a few months....

[@TriXJester]

Story 2: Always love seeing good wholesome outcomes from these stories, most of them end so depressingly

[@LeggoMyGekko]

Crazy to think I’ve been watching since late 2020, I was going through a bad falling out with my best friend at the time and you helped get me through it. Thank you! And you’d just changed your name from Daddy Cringe, I’m pretty sure. Lol.

[@MarkNarrations]

Spot on Matthew, changed the name a little while back and whilst some people miss it. I'm glad I changed it in the end haha :)

[@CN-yb5gn]

@@MarkNarrations i like it, sets you apart from the robot voices

[@A_Little_Bit_Of_Everything06]

Same, early 2020 I messed my friendship and it ended and Mark really got me through that hard time

[@paulchaudoir190]

OP: I'm going to learn for her. Wow! Someone grew up fast. Proud of you.

[@VeggieMama722]

Story 1: the fact that even after she learned the truth she didnt just take it upon herself to tell the friends that she had made a mistake and that OP wasnt in the wrong. She had to be told to do the right thing. Very telling

[@theminisimmer]

It gives me so much joy to see people be bought together by my favourite game. I've witnessed it happen in the sims community too. There are two big channels that specialise in playing the sims, and they are now boyfriend and girlfriend.

[@Undomaranel]

I'm happy for you, but stories like that brush my fur the wrong way. Meeting up and common interests are great, but I hear stories from people like you that one couple is cute because it's something you like and another couple is dirty because it's not something you're interested in. Also, what is The Sims exactly? Literally playing god and controlling people's lives to the point of driving them mad, killing them, forcing pregnancy and such on them, literally ruining lives, etc. I find the game really disturbing tbh, it's fundamentally a chew toy for psychopaths. I don't mean that to be rude, but there's a major difference between Minecraft or Skyrim where you explore a world on your own and interact vs controlling who's born in it and forcing everything about a sim's life onto them. If you have fun with it, good for you. I personally fail to see how it's fun or cute for couples to meet up and roleplay through it.

[@theminisimmer]

@@Undomaranelo.o chill.

[@simonO712]

@@Undomaranel Sorry, but I think you're reading _way_ too much into things here. It's just a game, not much more.

[@Tazazak]

@@Undomaranel👁️👄👁️

[@forsomenotreally]

story 1: something similar happened to me. A friend I grew up with betrayed me to other friends. I forgave her and our friendship was never the same and now I haven't spoken to her in years. The situation showed me who she really was and I allowed the friendship to die off. And remember, forgiveness and reconciliation are two very different things

[@wafflestoast4546]

i wouldnt even give her that hope of ever being friend much less go out to meet her. instead of investigating like any sane person, she willingly believed the side that came to her first. she and the group of friends that didnt even hear op out arent ops friends. theyre HER friends. id cut her cold turkey. let it sink in that she lost a great friend.

[@vidhead85]

She chose him: I think OP hearing her former friend out is much better than the treatment she got. I would never be able to be around her having known that she thought so little of me until her boyfriend threw it in her face. Former Friend has a lot of soul searching to do

[@ineslolo5497]

Exactly

[@rachaeledge9719]

the first story…i would do the same. i’d wash my hands if this happened to me. i couldn’t be bothered to give them a second chance. not after being treated so poorly. i’ve had good friends just vanish from my life and if they came groveling back, i’d ignore them.

[@connierichards7781]

No one needs a friend like poor op had in first story. Hope she's happy being all alone.

[@gngrblls2thwall]

"I would be forgiving her when it's not deserved" - ...that's inherent to the definition of forgiveness. If forgiveness were deserved there'd be nothing to forgive to begin with.

[@platinumaether8198]

Story 1: yeah, my friend did the same thing when I was trying to convince her her fiancé was abusing her by starving her and lying about finances. Now she’s in an mlm scheme and is cold to me because I told her I cannot help her anymore if she refused to act

[@miriam9419]

This is unfortunately such a common story. Many people just don't want to be helped but at least you tried.

[@Mimino55-y5k]

The dude in the first story showed more remorse than the friend. At least he tried to right that wrong before dumping that relationship.

[@BerryTrekkin]

I’m glad the couple in the last story worked things out! I think a lot of people think love needs to be constant excitement and butterflies and aren’t prepared for the tougher times, or even the mundane. They were so focused on working to make enough to get married that there wasn’t as much time to spend together, which was the love they had known. Lockdown showed them that the love was still there, it just hadn’t been as obvious as it once was. *cries in single*

[@calicocritterscrafts886]

Story 1: I had something similar happen in high school. I knew from that moment on I couldn’t trust any of them and it’s messed me up for the rest of my life (typical trust issues). Needless to say we aren’t friends now as even though she also apologized, she took the word of someone else and didn’t even give me a chance to say anything. She only apologized when someone else caught the person bragging about breaking up our friendship.

[@mirevans3776]

Mark just has such a smooth voice, I'm already accustomed for my heart skip beats listening this awesome stories 🥰

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww Mir, thank you so much

[@mirevans3776]

@@MarkNarrations Pardon me as I recover from squealing like a fangirl here 😂 I just wanna say you are an incredible narrator and you make so many people's day better, thank you 🧇❤

[@ShaciJames]

@@mirevans3776 I'm squealing for you lol

[@LePhantome273]

'Though I still have to get better with how I communicate things, I'm going to learn for her.' Christ on a bike that made me tear up TT_TT I hope those two have a happy life now

[@spookysugar]

"If she likes Pina Coladas, and playing Sims until late 🎼" Honestly, good for them. Hopefully, they learn to manage their stress levels, since they didn't give up on their relationships, they gave up on that specific lifestyle

[@damien678]

"Some suggested to write a letter instead, or a note, or MARRY HER IN SIMS" BEST SUGGESTION LMAO ❤️💕💘

[@WobblesandBean]

Yeeeaaahhhhh...that's not a friend. She learned that you were right, and yet expects you to just roll over and forget the awful way she treated you? Yeah, no. Don't forgive her, and don't let her back into your life.

[@Vikashar]

Story 1: Friend circles believing one side without even asking for the other side is very common. I've found out the hard way. Any mutual friends who knew me second, I fully expect them to be biased and ignore facts for the person they knew first. I'm extremely wary of 'friend ofs' for that reason.

[@nickymouse1698]

The seacret to a long realtinship is to fall in love with the same person over and over again.

[@starrhunter633]

The last story was sweet. I love when we get good stories and they end happy or at least hopeful. Thanks mark you made lunch so much better

[@AudreyWilliamsMusic]

Whatever she decides, i think she should honestly tell her ex friend that she's afraid that she'll ghost her again in the future based on another lie.

[@shmellomello]

It sounds like the "friends" that iced out op in story 1 weren't really her friends, but they were ex friend's friends.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

I love the posters who apologize for their writing because they’re not native English speakers…..and then proceed in better English than native speakers. 😂🤣

[@beautybard]

S2: "Though I still have to get better with how I communicate things, I'm going to learn for her." Shit almost made me cry. Communication can be tough to get the hang of.. between the way the other person best receives and any hang ups you personally have with vocalizing? It's so fucking romantic for him to genuinely try to figure it out.

[@benry007]

Story 1: People are dumb. We generally believe the first story we hear and often don't fact check it. If OP had told her friend everything in a text straight away she would have had a chance but not after the boyfriend had done damage control.

[@patsymathews2953]

I would demand she tell all your mutual friends the truth. If she refuses, no forgiveness.

[@Shaunssupersounds]

Getting somewhat annoyed by all these people who don't know the difference between getting "lied about" and getting "lied on".. they both usually suck but in different ways..

[@jettaspop]

Story 1: Sometimes forgiveness is less about forgiving the other person and more about letting yourself move on. Holding grudges can be mentally taxing. Sometimes it's better to forgive, not because they deserve it, but because *you* deserve that peace of mind. I also want to say it's ok and it's normal to miss someone even if they're toxic. Despite them, you made it to the other side. You are strong and you will continue to thrive without them.

[@golden_leader9227]

My best friend of more than a decade is WAY more than a sister to me. She's my partner in crime, my platonic soulmate and i trust her with my life. I already trusted her with so much and she never disappointed me (i hope and think it's the same for her). I would never believe some guy over her. Ever. Some friends you have, OP1, that picked a side without any proof and without listening to your side of the story. Never go back to those people. They are not friends, i'm 100% sure of that.

[@Riwy1942]

The last story made me chuckle, I just pictured Mark looking through this guy's window yelling "JUST TELL HER YOU LOVE HER" 😂😂😂

[@kaitohkid7229]

Story 2: a marriage isn't a fairytale. You go through everything. Together.

[@mooseass2996]

You know I work 8-1 everyday and I need to get up at 6am every day. And nearly every morning you basically tell me stories while I get dressed and ride the bus to work. For months. Don’t know what I would do without your stories man! Thank you so much!

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

I find story 1 interesting because none of OPs friends questioned the boyfriends story, they all believed it without question. Are they all just crappy friends or is there something we haven't been told? It's strange that they all believed this story without even talking to OP.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Some people are just really shitty. My friend group had something similar happen because of a misunderstanding and we found out who our real friends were throughout the stupid drama.

[@sprint7412]

The BF could have just been a really good actor/manipulator. He's probably done this before and knows he needs to be the one to tell his story before OP tells her friend. The one who tells their side of the story has a better chance of being believed when there's no evidence.

[@MissCaraMint]

I mean the Bf had that girl totally convinced. The friends probably saw how genuinely hurt she was and believed it too. Especially if the shitty bf was there telling his son story and painting OP in a bad light. It still sucks that nobody tried to verify the story though.

[@miriam9419]

It is hard because she never told them about the situation so that may have made her seem guilty. Maybe she had flirted with people in a relationship before or something so it wasn't strange for them to think that she would do it with her best friends boyfriend.

[@chrisb942]

Reminds me of my old friend group lying about and betraying me left and right. Stealing from me while somehow turning me into the villian amongst themselves. Starting a rumor about my "temper" after I finally starting standing up for myself and my home after they'd come over and leave stuff and trash around in my bedroom. Worst part is I was pretty chill about it until they kept doing it.

[@rmhartman]

now you know how important it is to make time for each other...

[@JMac7395]

When I was 24 my ex bff, whom I'd known since jr HS, decided to abruptly & quietly end our friendship, reason unknown. She ignored my calls & texts. When I called our mutual friends they refused to tell me what was going on, under the guise of being neutral. Yet, these "neutral" mutual friends would deliver random messages from the ex bff but wouldn't deliver any for me. I eventually I stopped asking "why", stopped accepting calls from the mutual friends & moved on with my life. It hurt that everyone chose to ice me out without an explanation or clarity. I learned that no matter the history, some people aren't meant to stay in your life forever. And sometimes it's for the best.

[@Evilducttapeman]

I love the people who say they aren’t a native speaker of English to forgive any mistakes. Then they proceed to give a perfect story in English with better sentence structure then native speakers. To include myself

[@chrisofthehoovers4055]

That 1st story is the reason I always keep my comments to myself until I've heard both sides.

[@platinum_noelle]

It doesn't matter if he was the "one", that doesn't make him more believable than someone you've known and been ride-or-die with for 12yrs, especially if there wasn't a history of that friend lying or coming onto your romantic partners. OP has every reason to not forgive or have her in her life.

[@corlenajames1381]

I remember confiding in my then pastor about how an engaged elder, whose family I was close with, had been extremely inappropriate towards me. The pastor was later discovered by a few members to be involved in an inappropriate relationship with a younger relative of mine😢, and at some point, decided he needed to discredit me😮‍💨 EVERYTHING I'd ever shared with him in confidence became up for grabs, and the elder's fiancee & family began to trash me publicly to whomever would listen🗣️🗣️🗣️. A year goes by, and the then pregnant WIFE of the elder corners me at church demanding she speak with me😒 I just stood there emotionless, listening to her pour her blubbering heart out about things her cousins had been saying to HER family about her new husband, how embarrassed & humiliated she was feeling, & how her family 'thought' she needed to divorce the perv she'd exposed them all to ASAP. They'd even been disinvited from family functions. And she wanted to know WHY I didn't tell her not to marry him & WHY I 'didn't try harder to convince her' about what I'd told the pastor... I told her that SHE chose to run a very public anti (my name) campaign against me before ever considering any follow-up on what I'd experienced... I was just "a young, jealous uneducated bih who needed to stop 'chasing' her man & get my own life, remember? I reminded her that she KNEW the pastor was passing along a confidential conversation with a congregant (me), but she obviously appreciated the gossip immensely until it turned out to involve her life that time. She wasn't interested in investigating what she'd heard about her fiancee from the source... She was a bridezilla already over 30 who just wanted to have a perfect wedding, so I graciously stepped aside and let her have it. It wasn't my responsibility to keep her husband from flashing her 19-year-old cousin from the window as she used the pool🙃 or for staring into her 21 year old cousin's eyes while he fondled his peanut inside her mom's jeep after she'd gone into the garage to restock sodas DURING their annual family Christmas party🙃 Congrats on the baby girl🎉

[@chinavaughan6383]

Story 1: Keep this woman out of your life. Not only did she turn her back on you, based solely on what her boyfriend told her, but it’s possible that she made your other friends hate you. If you do decide to let her back in, be very cautious around her since she’s proven that 12 years of friendship mean absolutely nothing to her when it comes to her partner🙁

[@ashlynnsiobhan]

Maybe it's just because I play the Sims so much, but i find them playing together so wholesome. I would love to just play Sims with someone sounds like a nice relaxing day.

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

Story 1: And this is what is meant with the phrase "love is blind" My bestie & I have been friends for 12 years as well & I would hope we would believe each other over a guy. It has happened before too. Around the time I first met her (before we were even really friends but acquaintances) my, now, ex started flirting with her via FB. He never met her & I never mentioned her. She didn't have my number yet so she called a mutual & asked him to take me to her place where she showed me the FB comments & a message he sent her. My heart sank, but I never blamed her. BECAUSE of that day we became almost immediate besties. Choosing a guy over a long friendship that's basically a sisterhood without ever hearing the other side of the story is baffling to me.

[@MeekoButterbean]

After 12 years she didn’t even ask to hear her best friend’s side of the story and immediately believed her boyfriend, believed that OP would do that to her. I would never be able to get past that.

[@youshallnotpass112]

Whenever I see the mark narration notification, I click. Simple as that

[@MarkNarrations]

Absolute legend of the highest order

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

Waffles are best served hot straight off the griddle, after all.

[@lesliezin2627]

First story: OP keeps saying this is my friend of 12 years, this is my best friend of 12 years. It's like a chant and I understand that but the other part of that chant should be.... you were her best friend of 12 years yet she believed her disgusting boyfriend over you. That is what I find so utterly unforgivable. If the friend truly valued the friendship as much as OP she would have stopped and taken the time to calm down. She would have thought rationally about it then did the math. Saying: "OP has been in my life 12 years this boyfriend only a handful of months. Who's words carry more weight here?" The very least the friend could have done was hear OP's side of it, but no she didn't and choose to listen to some scummy dude over her best friend. I wish there was a term similar to 'Bros before hos' but I guess the closest is 'Sisters before Wankers" In short, OP should not accept the friend back because who knows what will happen when the friend gets a new boyfriend and decides OP's word is just not good enough. Sure OP can accept the apology, but when the friend asks for things to go back to the way they were she should say: 'I forgive you, but you chose to believe some random a-hole over me. You choose a moron only in your life a handful of months over a 12-year friendship. I cannot be that friend again, you need to accept that your choice ruined our friendship just as I was forced to accept it when you choose him and turned our other friends against me. I hope this has taught you to value your friendship and you think before you act again.' Then OP needs to walk away and let the friendship die otherwise she is just setting herself up for further pain in the future.

[@terramarini6880]

Queens before peens?

[@jenniferpeck4344]

It happened to me but it was a relative who did it to me over a new friend she made. People had known me for years and my relative turned everyone against me for the new friend who was subsequently exposed as a LIAR. I built up my life again. I told my relative things would never be the same again BETWEEN US AND ANY OF THEM. I CUT OFF THE FRIEND AND THE PEOPLE WHO TURNED AGAINST ME.

[@tartlynerdy]

Story 1 - "best guy she's ever been with" apparently those rose tinted glasses were very thick. I feel so bad for op here. I wouldn't take her back. It's not just the betrayal on her part but also the fact that she turned the friend group against op based on a no proof provided allegation. She chose a douche bag over a twelve year friendship. The same douche that had to spell it out how stupid she is. How would you know she wouldn't do it again.

[@TheoStarlight]

Out of the three people I listen to who read Reddit stories, you’ve become my favorite mark, I love that you follow up on updates and also read out some comments too! Plus love your voice as well

[@p_eachymilk]

Ah yes "Posted 4 minutes ago" The perfect time to catch Mark is at 5am when I gotta get ready for uni 💕

[@MarkNarrations]

OOOOF 5am?! I haven't seen that time in a few years!

[@alr3764]

@@MarkNarrations i also have to get up at 5 for uni, it's so difficult haha

[@FanFicnic]

Had a close friend talk crap about me out of nowhere to everyone. Had zero idea it was going on. I was very sick at the time and my mental health was on a tailspin so I was pretty disconnected. What she was telling ppl was completely false. She never even tried to ask me about. No one did. Damaged my reputation with all the younger ppl coming into our organization. She had been one of my closest friends and she essentially just dropped me after this incident she made up in her head.

[@Regrettable-Username]

Story 1: This may be because I'm a Scorpio, but there's no way I'd forgive her. Like she wasn't content in ending the one friendship, no, she went around to all the mutual friends and poisoned them. All over a *guy* 😒✋

[@pa-pa-plasma]

Story 1: I've literally had similar things happen to me throughout school. I don't talk to any of those people anymore. They made their choices. If OP's ex-friend really wants to be friends again, they'll earn it over time, but OP isn't obligated to talk to anyone from that time of her life. You can't just go back to how things used to be right away, and it'll never be the same anyways because what those friends did will always be hanging over all of their heads. It might be best to just move on as acquaintances.

[@oakdovi]

Can’t call that friend a “ride or die” if she chose the boyfriend over her best friend.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

First story, I would only accept her friendship again if she agreed to right then in a group call, call all the other mutual friends and explain the situation. Explain that OP did nothing wrong and she really regrets believing him and she didn't realize she was being manipulated by him but now she knows. THAT is what needs to happen in order to put the past in the past. She needs to clear OPs name. And if she's truly sorry and truly loves OP she will not hesitate to do that. Heck I wouldn't accept her apology as genuine at all until she does do that and own up to her mistake. EDIT I wrote this before reading the update. I guess I should wait before commenting next time. But to me that says that her friend truly is sorry. Which is good but I don't know if I'd be able to forgive her either.

[@TNTMAN360]

Hey Mark thanks to you and some other members rooting on for my bearded dragon he now weighs 500 g and he's doing a lot better he's making full recovery thank you

[@TNTMAN360]

For anybody wondering he had a massive abscess and had a 5% chance of living but he's made a full recovery

[@MarkNarrations]

That's great news TNT, very happy for you mate. Give him a gentle pat from me

[@TNTMAN360]

@@MarkNarrations he's a good boy although he needs some supplements to get his energy back but those are coming in the mail this Thursday also the vet recommended it

[@katiesmith2031]

@@TNTMAN360 he's so cute just glad the worry isn't as much he's a stubborn one

[@TNTMAN360]

@@katiesmith2031 he's stubborn and spoiled but I love him to death

[@bkgksan9798]

Story 1: the friend chose to believe her BF and spread his lies to common friends. Neither she nor any of the common friends asked the OPs side of the story! They all chose to believe that guy. I don’t think forgiveness is a given!

[@kennethbarkley1491]

The first story OP can forgive ex friend, but she would never be best friend again. OP can't trust ex friend.

[@carolsimpson4422]

If he's not 100% sure, he should leave her alone. Noone needs to be somebody's experiment.

[@vidhead85]

Don't take her back without her repairing the damage she caused. I'd demand that she bring all the friend group together and tell them OP is coming and tell them all in person that she lied to them. I'd forgive her, but tell her in no uncertain terms never to contact me again or I'll report her for harassment

[@AstroDomo4]

Story 1, I had to go back to be sure but yeah. 4 months. This girl had been with her boyfriend for FOUR. MONTHS. and instantly believed him over her "ride or die" (apparently not), BEST friend of 12 years who's like a part of her family. Bruh. Everything else is just icing on the cake. Smh.

[@sallyburkholder6808]

Fact is no matter how much you want to forgive you probably won't be able to fully trust her the same again.

[@wierdgamer3067]

I'd have my BFF tell all the friends about how she was wrong, the boyfriend lied, and she tarnished my name. I'm petty as hell, I know.

[@madisonl3401]

Obsessed with these stories! Thanks for scratching my OCD itch lol

[@MarkNarrations]

Always a pleasure Madison thanks for always being involved

[@msredux]

She betrayed your friendship and ruined your relationship with your other friends, I would forger about her.

[@Candicool]

Story 1: my guess is OP is attractive, for a whole group to ignore one side of the story, not reach out and drop her so quickly. It really feel that OP might been seen as the 'hot one' of the group. And this was finally the chance to drop her for a 'real reason'.

[@joellendocherty9507]

Hi Mark, great stories once again. The one common denominator for both stories is lack of communication. Always speak with the people you love. I agree with the first post about cutting the friendship due to the fact that “Friend” turned their mutual friends against OP, and also cutting their in-common friends as they chose “Friend” without ever trying to hear OP’s side of the story. The 2nd story just shows you that communication with each other is as important as love in a relationship. I’m happy for them.

[@KittenUndercover]

I’m impressed that a non-native English speaker knew the word autonomous.

[@utha5034]

Story 1: I’d make her reach out to everyone, with evidence, to tell them the truth.

[@nvfury13]

Story 2: The start of that story is what happens when people think the “spark” (aka, “I want to tear your clothes off”) is *all* there is to love/relationships. Why I’m glad my wife and I were best friends for 20+ years before we got together.

[@ginahouston9352]

S2 brought tears to my eyes.... YAY for LOVE and MAKING IT WORK! 🤩😍🥰

[@marymasavage8986]

The lockdown relationship story: Dude, both you and your girl had so much on your plate. Work, grad school, and more. She's done with school now so some of the load is off now and it'll be easier.

[@kitsuned.m.4550]

I'd tell her to get all the friends together and publicly say she was wrong . then I'd say alright thanks everyone have a good night goodbye

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

1st story. If he hadn't confessed she would still be ghosting OP. That's the truth of the matter.

[@andyshepherd700]

I bet that OP was cuter than most of her friend group. Certain types of girl groups will always very easily turn on a better looking member of that group in a heartbeat. I had a cousin who had this happen a few times and now all of her friends are really good looking. A lot of people think this happens because the cute girls are snooty, some are but I think a lot of times it is just the opposite, cute girls can be catty as hell but certain types of friend groups with lots of not super attractive girls can be twice as viscous. I only say this because not a single one of them asked OP even a single question so it seems like she was a part of that group that was very easily and unceremoniously jettisoned without a second thought. There was something under the surface the whole time, because lets face it an entire girl group turning on someone without even a single of them talking is highly sus.

[@rmhartman]

she didn't just dump OP, she poisoned the other friends against her. wow. and she only knows that the exbf lied because HE TOLD HER. yeesh.

[@mrgaslighting5202]

Story #2. You just have to set time aside for yourself, not break up, but if you can't reset just more on.story#2

[@annabordelon6663]

Former friend still doesn't believe OP, she believes bf