Best Friends Get Honest About Race | Iris

[@Haybaybay7]

Kudos to the girl on the right for just listening without invalidating every experience of the girl on the left.

[@anchy3366]

She is probably Libra

[@jafarrihbeauty3345]

Beyoncé VEVO true tho

[@jafarrihbeauty3345]

Beyoncé VEVO btw have you seen how much libra beyonce has in her chart 😍👌

[@lamosley1]

Khaleesi Delmar amen

[@zoeyfunderburg8033]

ava lawrence elaborate.

[@gracie9084]

She was such a good listener and knew what to say.

[@alexisjackson4698]

Gracie Probably one of many reasons they are bestfriends 😊

[@rendered33]

Gracie I want a friend who can understand like that. Even though she is not black, I feel like she understands her friend's struggle as being a black women. ♡♡

[@charity9660]

Gracie right lol i want a friend like her

[@kill4eden]

Gracie My "Friends" just tell me to shutup and get over it oh well i can be alone for a few more months

[@GrizzleMoon]

JustEdenNichole well those "friends" don't deserve you if they're not willing to take your emotions into consideration. Stay strong. The right friends will come at the right time I promise.

[@AyaDassai]

Love the white girl for being present, and caring. She's awesome.

[@NoOneHere2Day]

No way that's a white girl.

[@yungbrat8095]

Am I the only one Comment why not? lmao not every white person is satan

[@nh.f3765]

sphi k i think she meant look wise

[@petricedobson7836]

sphi k your right but I love in the south, so.........

[@MsEliteForever]

+Am I the only one Comment Shes not white.

[@Josh-el1lr]

"If a whole collection of people are concerned about a group of people you think are there to protect you, something is up." That part touched my soul😩😫😩😫😩

[@tbg6070]

I heard a variation of that from a post about gender inequality and I have never been the same since. I can definitely say that sentence was the most powerful of my past 4 years and I've been incredibly better as a person because of it. Another thing that I have heard somewhere worth mentioning: "if you think that it's annoying and frustrating being complained to, just try to imagine how it feels being on the other side of that".

[@safiyahashi2703]

One word"Understanding"

[@sarahda845]

Safiya Hashi preach

[@jeswazwadi7049]

rare to find white women who are like that

[@tirzxh]

Safiya Hashi Amen to that

[@AnomaLeOverT.I.M.E]

Yes.

[@yvonneyvonne1010]

💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

[@alexismartin4907]

Many people are disrespecting the black woman because of her experiences. She's not attacking white people, she's just stating her opinions that many black people such as myself, can relate to. Get out of your feelings.

[@rhyannwilson899]

Alexis Martin it's hypocritical for you to tell white people to get out of their feelings, when obviously you had your own feelings and were inspired to share them.

[@chungleandthebims167]

Rhyann Original commenter never told white people to get out of their feelings. That's your assumption. In case you didn't know black people hate on black people as well. The point is, said people she refers to are invalidating experiences instead of listening and TRYING to understand. It doesn't mean they always will, but the point is they tried. It's like someone complaining about a headache and you saying "it's not that bad" when you aren't experiencing it firsthand. The key is to listen and attempt to understand.

[@meriadjouadi885]

Tori Wissinger white people dont have feelings

[@akilahbeatty8951]

Alexis Martin you tell them✊

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

If there is an entire group that doesn't feel safe around police - that's an national security issue. Specific cases of abuse, neglect, crime of behalf of police needs to be gathered and then dealt with nationally. If somebody gets killed I cry because I feel sorry for them. I don't care if they are black or white - if they are killed without reason - that is a HEINOUS CRIME! CRIME cannot be ignored. If national institution, such as police, is corrupt to the point where it becomes dysfunctional or malfunctioning - it is time to do a reform. We need to create a system of checks that would balance the unrestrained power of the police. What kind of checks? Think about it. I don't want innocent people to be just killed in this country. You might relate to them as a "black person", but I relate to them as a plain human being who knows that everyone wants to live just as much as I do. I am concerned because today I became a part of an American society and I do care for American people as a citizen of the US today.

[@channelforpositivitylunder9385]

The Black Woman: Profound The White Woman: Unbelievably Empathetic This is the epitome of true friendship

[@kristinbunch4741]

I agree and there should be these open conversations. Even for Muslim and Jewish friends. As an ESL teacher it's like a mini UN right in the classroom. I teach in Barranquilla and I feel the difference here for sure between rich and poor us even more evident then state side. It's not just 🇺🇸 but a global race talk

[@dionnacarter293]

Such a beautiful, open and respectful conversation. We need more of this in the world.

[@paradiso123]

+Chicken Stealer Like you just did to that woman in the above comment?

[@dionnacarter293]

How am I bothering anyone? If anything you're bothering me because you commented twice. Get life.

[@eiffeltower7503]

@Chicken Stealer Africa, is a great place where everything started.

[@CrystalDoggoIsMissing]

Chicken Stealer racist white guy who thinks he’s being smart and or funny

[@bea5725]

What some people in the comments don't realize; "Privilege is when you think something is not a problem because it's not a problem to you personally."

[@myopinion2395]

Well said

[@fellowcitizen]

True, though even people with this philosophy are often unwilling to accept male victimhood, or that homeless catcallers are a symptom moreso than a problem etc; there still ends up being an us or them mentality which lacks compassion for the other - it just shifts slightly.

[@ninalang9689]

Fellow Citizen stfu about male victimhood y’all don’t even defend women for how men treat them so don’t try to get sympathy for them from us. Cat calling is not ok no matter how fucking hurt they are. Stop defending men for toxic behavior just stop!

[@ninalang9689]

Men need to learn that quote instead of denying us the right to our own bodies and to respect us.

[@fellowcitizen]

@@ninalang9689 I'm not defending the behaviour, I'm stating that there is an origin to all behaviour which needs to be understood in order for it to be addressed. What are your motives? Why are you so heavily invested in conflict and doubling down on your own ignorance and arrogance. You are the bigot. You are an active participant in the victimisation of women by your hateful contributions.

[@jillianjoy3916]

I'm blonde blue eyes white girl, my BFF is from Domenica, she's a deep black skin white very dark eyes. When we met we instantly become best friends. We worked together for couple years part time working for promo companies doing jobs like sporting events, beer events, golf tournaments, party events, business catering food events, street teams for gyms, club/bar events, casino girls, the list goes on and on. We worked so well together our regular companies requested us always to work together. I've worked internationally for many years prior to meeting my best friend so I know all about experiencing racism and being the only person in the room of my race. I've been asked to leave shopping stores and denied to sit and eat at trendy busy restaurants. So I know what it feels like to be physically pushed down when walking on the street minding my own business. I will say this, when my BFF and I worked together I was blown away by the racism in our home country, I never would have ever in million years though USA could be still like this!! We spoke very openly about our disgust for how she was treated by many. She never understood why I stood up and stood my ground for her on the daily basis when she was so good at ignoring and not letting that horrible crap bother her. Until I told her what I went through for years on end in remote areas of Asia. She never tried to stop me again once she understood I was not only standing my ground for her and because I felt it was the right thing to do, but she understood I was doing it for her, me and everyone else because this behavior effects us all alike. The hair thing I laughed because I remember our talk about my questions about how she can change it so easily. I just didn't know how it was possible because I've never been given that option when going into get my hair done. So I didn't know the process, all I knew was wow I'm jealous and why can't I change my look so drastically and have it turn out so good and gorgeous every time!! Learning and respecting each other being open to talk and ask questions without fear of OMG do I sound racist??? oh just in case I shouldn't talk or ask anything. How else are diferent people supposed to learn from each other if we can't openly talk and ask questions that should be normal life!! We all breathe the same air, everyone needs to get over themselves. If we all looked the same the world would be horrible place.

[@wingeyes]

This is where we dispel ignorance, develop empathy and create honest conversations. This is why we need to have friendships from different backgrounds to break our bubble of what reality means, this is how it no longer becomes a nameless face but someone you LOVE and CARE about that is going through racism and prejudice. Honest conversation, without fear of repercussion and judgement is where we can finally break down barriers.

[@wingeyes]

Even if we don't agree, even if it's different from our opinion if we respect and empathize it makes a HUGE difference.

[@Mimi89_7]

wingeyes i agree

[@mr.scouts9784]

wingeyes Agreed

[@chichii_basi]

wingeyes yes

[@JessicaSue]

wingeyes YES

[@iiMasEcreTaSSaSsin]

OMG THE HAIRRRRR THING!!! They nailed this convo!!!

[@MeekieBadGal]

mekamek95 love your name

[@whetisdis4546]

mekamek95 lol yeah

[@anon877]

mekamek95 honestly, I grew up in a mostly white school ... I struggled.

[@adongaakot2344]

BTS 'Not Today' MV got 11m views in 24 hours AHH SAME

[@kabeisha7664]

BTS 'Not Today' MV got 11m views in 24 hours same army

[@katox2358]

That white girl should win "the greatest listener" award!

[@WRLDconquer]

Best friends are like that

[@nashadali6567]

Kato x she doesn't look white

[@tatiguzman8459]

Kato x she's white. 2:17

[@cycy805]

Kato x YES!!!!!!

[@peacelove4002]

Malaika Shields she looks asian 🤔

[@volb9817]

litterally Yesterday, i was standing in front of a store in the street and i was looking down on my phone. This white italien mid age men walked by and I just happened to raide my head. I smiled at him and he, back at me and then rendomly added " Black is beautiful " he nodded good-bye with a smile and left. To me, this shows that there is still hope and good in this world :)

[@teemadarif8243]

Vol B oh alot of italian men dig that.My elders told me some stories

[@Schmurdoc]

I had a similar thing happen to me on the subway a few months ago. This elderly man came up to me and my friend and said "I'm so happy you're natural" (mind you this was in Sweden though). It made me really happy especially since I get a lot of shit for my hair.

[@TeddyPerv]

So many people know that black is beautiful. I love it. I envy their beauty.

[@ninalang9689]

Vol B yeah no! Men ruin this world

[@angelxbvnnyedits]

R/thatactuallyhappened

[@MachineGunKali]

This has nothing to do with the video but I LOVE both of their tops!!

[@eventplanner461]

Kalimba Hamilton same!! like did they purposely match 😂😂

[@cheekybird6560]

Kalimba Hamilton same😂

[@SacredSounds11]

Was thinkin the same thing lol

[@gamingqueen8922]

Kalimba Hamilton dead but I love them to sis 🤣

[@charusingh2593]

I'm not from America and don't know much about what they experience there because of their color or race, but I totally understand their conversation, their fear, they are so honest. People should have such conversations, because when you LISTEN to them, only then can you understand their story. If you go in with a defensive mode, you would only question and put down everything the other person is trying to tell you.

[@mr.scouts9784]

Charu Singh Thank you soooooo much for this comment. Have a Phenomenal Day. M.L.💙

[@epfizerdoolittleajl2165]

Charu Singh blacks get treated like humans in america unlike in India :-)

[@fubselcom]

why do you have to bring up india?

[@epfizerdoolittleajl2165]

aylatrbl because the commenter is Indian

[@fubselcom]

Ava Karkekian first of all, you dont know that. second of all, that doesnt make sense. believe it or not, just because black people get treated bad by some indians, that doesnt mean every indian treats black people bad! wOW never thought about that!!2!1!1!21!1!!!!! and even if it would be like that, it wouldnt be relevant, bc it doesnt change the fact that black people get treated bad in the united states.

[@niakoala5675]

I can relate to the part when she said " it's hard to be confident when no one around you looks like you it's hard to be yourself " everyone around me is white and I feel like I'm not supposes to be here 😢😢and I'm always shy at schoo😢😢😭😭😢😢😭😭😢😢😧😧😧😧😧😭😖😖😖😖😖😖

[@anoushrajabzoda7519]

Be strong and try to be yourself despite them. Embrace your difference

[@shivaanyparthiparajan6208]

One of my best friends is black (I'm asian) and majority of the people at our school are white. She is literally the most loved and popular person, no one cares about her skin color as she is so much more than a black person and I think the main reason everyone loves her is because she is so confident and different. And being confident has came to her advantage as she's realized there are other people from different races who like the same music, like the same food, same fashion sense etc. Honestly just embrace yourself but don't change who you are. Accept your race and don't hide behind it.

[@nnurad]

Shivaany Parthiparajan I agree with you. I went to a majority white kids school also, and everyone was super excited when there was someone different

[@cycy805]

freeze zz wisperer i agree💯💯💯❤

[@thatssojayah6886]

freeze zz wisperer I live in an all white town and feel confident and beautiful walking around.

[@TheLivvyD]

When I was a kid my dad took me and my sister and cousins to the park to play cricket and on the walk home he was carrying the bat and stumps and he got stopped and questioned by police about what he was doing/why he was carrying a "weapon" and all this shit. I was about 6 and I just remember crying my eyes out asking my dad "why are they doing this?" It was so clear we had just come from the park which was still in sight from where we were, he was with 5 kids all aged 3-8 and still he was suspicious to them. Eventually the cops came up with their excuse that they had stopped him because his name was "of interest" which was just stupid since they didn't know his name when they stopped us and my dad has never been in trouble with the police in his life. Madness. Six years old and realising I'm gonna have to deal with this shit my whole life because I'm black and therefore "suspicious".

[@danib1367]

TheLivvyD this sounds like when l was a kid to only we were irish and the so called cops were British, they had stop and search checkpoints and my daddy use to say to me if they hit me or put me in the sarson (army tank) go home and tell your mum, they eventually did take him away, fuck the police

[@ratherbenapping10]

TheLivvyD where do you live? im wondering where cricket is played.

[@jadam.2410]

ratherbenapping 10 cricket is usually played in the carribean and india i think

[@thebizness5596]

And the UK

[@c.alexander7775]

So you walked around in fedoras and pinstriped suits all day lol yea I would think that's suspicious too

[@MrAnimelover477]

THIS is what a true friendship is, it's so beautiful:)!!

[@XoXoG]

I love their friendship. This is me and my Latina friend. I love her.

[@idiotsandwich9326]

Shoutout to her for listening and trying to get where homegirl was coming from. I think the main reason why black people can't have conversations like this infront of white people is because, a lot of white people not only don't understand, but they also don't WANT to understand. They're always trying to invalidate or have a counterargument. Its really frustrating.

[@Daysha_Chanel]

omg yes, i go to a white school & in Mississippi at that 😞

[@lolgurl141]

yeah

[@piersnivans5983]

This happens? I am so sorry. I am half white half Asian and sometimes I feel like people only listen to me because of the half white part. The indigenous people of my country try to speak up and are labelled "ungrateful" and "uncivilised" all the time. I speak about their rights to other white people but I feel like sometimes I'm proving the point that people like to talk about problems, just not with the people who are directly affected by the problems. If that makes sense...

[@lillian.catherine]

Mrs Michael Jackson Now you're the one making generalizations. If a "white" person said this "black" people would get mad

[@idiotsandwich9326]

Notice I put "a lot" of white people rather than "All " white people. Because I know that it isn't everyone. ^But thanks for proving my point :) That's exactly what I meant. I'm here trying to talk about how I feel, as a black person and explaining MY experiences, and here you are, making it negative and trying to flip it over on me. Don't assume and just listen to the point at hand

[@amari8971]

Yes, there will always be "worse" problems in someone's opinion. But this is an issue too and nothing is wrong with talking about it. Anyway, I really liked this video and their friendship is perfect.

[@breannanouveaux5132]

Amari sexism is an issue that black women conveniently ignore. Why, sis?

[@cugomelda2309]

People in comments...smh. If you don't think she has a reason to feel scared just stfu. Besides seeing people of color discrimnated against all the time you just dont have the right to tell her how she should feel. Period.

[@Tashone26]

Crazy_panda_ 1357 And you know this because the lying ass media said so? Since when has Gossip been equated to a personal experience?

[@nashadali6567]

Crazy_panda_ 1357 LMAO but wyepipo are the mainly responsible for Rape, Mass murder, the Genocide of Natives, Translantic slave Trade, Mass lynching, Segregation, The colonisation of over half of Africa, The war in the Middle East...So who are the real criminals?

[@nashadali6567]

Crazy_panda_ 1357 Don't get it twisted lmao I brought up present AND past contributions...what did I say that was wrong 🤔

[@nashadali6567]

Crazy_panda_ 1357 black people were lynched on a daily basis due to crimes and things they had not committed , they weren't even given the benefit of doubt

[@nashadali6567]

Crazy_panda_ 1357 and the war in the Middle East the amount of killings white people have yet to responsibility for, Police brutality

[@nathanlorah9331]

This is what BuzzFeed should be doing.

[@myq3642]

Just reading the comments and feeling all of your appreciation toward the white girl in this video for simply listening. As a white man who has recently been awakened to the reality of systemic and oppressive racism in this country in 2017, it's incredibly humbling to see the grace with which my African American brothers and sisters approach this conversation. You all are so grateful that someone just took the time to listen and understand, I can't think of anything more real and beautiful than that. I pray to God that I can play some small role in bringing other white folks to this table, in a humble and empathetic posture, to LISTEN with compassion.

[@danerook]

Myq Racism is NOT systemic. Don't be so general.

[@myq3642]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/i6eyYoKKf86poJo Dane, I don't mean it the way you took it, but racism is in fact systemic. If you actually care about justice and equality, listen and learn instead of assuming you know the answers.

[@danerook]

Myq No it is NOT in fact systemic. That is too broad of a statement.

[@danerook]

Myq I do listen and learn. Is it possible that police are just incompetent. Wait until all the information and facts come out.

[@niyahlily1234]

NhlProShawnPS4 cause he asked you to be compassionate and listen for once? yaaa that’s sooooo baddddd omggggg.

[@itshope3886]

I love friendship

[@lytheprettygirl]

Lolichu bae sane

[@lytheprettygirl]

Lolichu bae same

[@UnknownServant]

xayah where is your bae rakan ???!

[@UnknownServant]

not gonna lie she is hot xD with them curves umm um um... xD

[@hileah2989]

Xayah I was the 1000th like:)

[@rebeccaribeiro8895]

this was probably the best conversation and well put together, conversation about race ive seen

[@AndreasCodGamer]

Rebecca Ribeiro no because you never heard about the white womens questions or struggles

[@AndreasCodGamer]

Trixxten !!! So You think IF You are white You dont have struggles? Are You bent?

[@archive5969]

its so important to just talk to one another, thats the best way to understand each other

[@archive5969]

and just not being so ignorant for once

[@kristinavee1012]

A few months ago my fiance called me panicked and I asked him what was wrong, he said he was driving and all of a sudden four cop cars began tailing him when they put their sirens on. They approached his vehicle with guns in hand and ripped him out of the vehicle before he could even take his seatbelt off. They threw him into the concrete and all of them put their guns on him. Turns out, once the confusion was figured out, that someone had stolen a truck identical to his and switched license plates so he was driving around with what looked like a stolen vehicle because of the plates. We're white, and now equally terrified of cops using unnecessary force. He could have been shot and killed for absolutely nothing. So I understand people of colour being afraid, but I stand in solidarity alongside you. I know what happened to him wasn't because of his colour - but it still happened and was still terrifying nonetheless. Police using unnecessary force is utter bullshit.

[@endofanage223]

Kristina Vee less likely to happen to someone white but it does on occasion. But for someone black it is more terrifying because white cops tend to lie and use force on any black person that results in the person being killed. Police have always been this way towards black and brown people. White people are just getting a piece of the big problem.

[@danerook]

Kristina Vee You should not be scared of cops.

[@jaimeemurphy278]

danerook i agree, we should not be afraid of cops. we shouldnt have to feel fearful of someone who is there to protect us. but the reality is that we ARE afraid, and that is the issue.

[@minishcat4756]

We should not be scared of cops. Fear of police breeds resistance against police, and that is why cops are being pushed to use force. The police are every day people who have families. They want to be alive at the end of the day just like you. They are risking their lives to go after someone who stole a vehicle, who could quite possibly have a gun. It’s really shitty that your family got caught up in that mess, but these cops are doing their job and keeping criminals off the streets.

[@zahrai1235]

Kristina Vee now imagine he wasn’t white. Would he have survived?

[@AppleAbston]

I appreciate neither of them being pejorative towards each other and the sentiments they individually held

[@lulibluuedits]

Race? race is something that some people think "white people stay with white people" "black stay with black" people where I lived used to tell me that I can't be friends with them because I'm black today I stand proud of my race not caring about people saying stuff about my colour my skin is beautiful I hope everyone else feels the same color is a beautiful thing

[@tinx214]

RIE -12 yes, I had a black friend hang out with me at the mall and a a black lady who was a total stranger, stepped in his path and held him still, telling him he shouldn't hang out with white people and white girls! it was awful..he said he got this from time to time even though he had many many black friend. it made me feel so bad for him! :(

[@TrillShvt]

RIE -12 its a social construction made by people to categorize people and has become a way to keep us away from eachother and that sucks.

[@emanmehmood2539]

Neon You don't have to go through this. I hope that you know, You have a beautiful race and religion. I'm proud to say that I'm also an arab/Muslim. Be proud of yourself. Be proud of who you are. These judgemental parents should be ashamed of themselves. Keep your head up, And keep slaying. Love ya babe.

[@tinkerbellspixiedust8820]

I didn't realize race was such a big issue until I heard Americans talk about it. As an European our definition of racism crosses all races, which I understand is very different from the perspective of America, where black people have been oppressed by law, and therefore any other race can't feel oppressed by the way off racism . Which I guess would be disclosed as singular racism....But I find that people believe race is actually a thing, and don't realize it's a social pyramid, and also the fact that a lot of Americans don't understand that outside America, we look at racism very differently, that for example a black person making negative remarks about the skin-color of a white person, would be considered racism here. And I hate to say this, but I do see a lot of double-standards in race, which makes me think that if there would be equality in that matter in the US, it could turn to oppression of white, because young people are taught to hate white, or not socialize with white, and meanwhile it seems that it's okey that Asians are suppressed and made fun of by both black and white people. (I hope no one found this offensive, I just wanted to share from a different perspective. I hope the race-issue will get better by teaching children love and self-love.

[@NiaKF]

Tinkerbells' pixie dust I'm European ( British ) and race is still "such a big issue" and I'm sure it always will be. Being European so I'm assuming you're white (correct me if I'm wrong) it's probably hard for you to empathise with but it's very much still there. And in regards to "double standards" Most black kids aren't taught to be racist to white people, but feelings of anger towards them grow as a response to what they feel in society. Blacks race issues I don't believe are comparable to any other race as it's completely different because of the societal structures in place to mentally keep black people as a whole in a worse of position than whites.

[@justkennedy1269]

People who don't understand why she was so scared are failing to miss the serious issues the black, muslims, latinos, and every other minority's group face today. My mom and I got pulled over and I've never been so scared for our lives. Until you've be profiled and fearful for your life, refrain from saying any shit.

[@JohnDoe-yq5bd]

JUSTKENNEDY 12 dont try to speak for us, anyone who actually had a real story about police and excessive force and profiling can accurately speak for us, miss uppity who swears all white people are so bewildered by her existence and clearly lives through what she sees in the news isnt who gets to speak for us.

[@olamude]

what do you mean us, she is included in the us, whent he police pull you over they categorize her just as much as they did you because you are both black, the only difference between you and her is that she was just lucky

[@etroxzy]

JUSTKENNEDY 12 im sorry but look at the Washington posts police shooting statistics it says more white people in 2016 were shot by police than race but that is because whites are the majority

[@tiapetersen2706]

JUSTKENNEDY 12 I was just like she is the best thing I ever did in the morning and she said that you have to go on the same as the day when we came are we are going out and we are all good 😊 said the same as our new book and style and she said it is also a stunning one ☝️ she is one more time day with a new woman that she has done ✅ for her that will have the best in life and style and for it she will never let go out there for a while but she will not let her know what that she said was the best thing.

[@E.P.7131]

Sarah R Replace the words "Muslims" with "Christians" in your statement and it would also be true.... specifically in the U.S.

[@rasheemwyattreid3351]

Even though I live in a black majority country(Jamaica) I was upset that Trump was elected because they was a slap in the face to my community of people because we are one people regardless of where we live. No border can separate the love I have for my people.

[@lyajob7098]

Rasheem Reid Pan-nationalist 👊

[@phenomena17]

YOUR THE REALIST!

[@womenagainstfeminismreturns]

@Daniel Leslie if you are for all people you would be sad when the guy elected calls people racist and murders cause without even knowing them.

[@cyobanllc]

Thankyou

[@godlove5912]

You are well informed. I was so shocked and appalled when reading the STAR that lots of Jamaicans on the island were happy Chump won! People fail to take into consideration the CHARACTER of an individual they are supporting as long as they are the ‘correct’ party.

[@elvenafae]

I'm half Japanese and half white, growing up I wasn't accepted by white people or asians. It is still a problem today. I know this is a video acknowledging only whites and blacks but I just wanted to put my two cents in here for those of us who are mixed with two very different races.

[@Ilikefrogs..]

I feel your pain. My guidance counselor is Japanese, and she came to Canada in the 70s. She told me once how kids would follow her home from school, throwing stones at her the whole way. The stereotypes about your race definitely effect the way you experience racism, but it's always painful and it's always problematic.

[@lauraaniakor9815]

I feel like this video pertains to everybody, and I can relate, but not because I’m mixed, but because I’ve been in the same situation where I felt that I was no accepted simply because of my race or the color of my skin, so your not alone.

[@jimmylangford3880]

Half irish half ideginous not accepted anywhere

[@fuhrfhrei3441]

Jimmy Langford OK buddy whatever you say

[@jimmylangford3880]

Doesn't matter if you believe I know how I've lived lol and not your buddy

[@gannaelyn]

I honestly love the fact that they can talk about this with no confrontation and are understanding each other's feelings

[@MyNameIsZouk]

What the white woman said about being the only white person of her friend's friend group reminded me of my time in China. I also felt less confident at first but then I also realized, wait... so this is how immigrants feel in my home country (Belgium) or even mixed people and people born in Belgium with a different ethnicity than white. It was an eye-opening experience for me.

[@christinearamboo6202]

I'm brown, im not even black, but when that black women was talking about how she, or her brother can be hurt by a racist police, I just teared up so much!

[@lalouloune6156]

What's the difference between brown and black? How ridiculous to say that. You are just a human being having empathy for another.

[@teemadarif8243]

Christine Aramboo She's brown too lol.

[@opinionsarelikeassholes1986]

I'm so confused over this comment. If you're light skin, caramel, brown and or dark skin. Point blank period you're a Black American. And with some police officers that's all that matters. All ready in they're mind you're a threat. Based off of your comment you are very much so ignorant. And it saddens me that you would post such a comment.

[@xbunnyx99]

She meant brown as in race you all

[@eliandrah8391]

zaria allison Brown isn't a race. You are either Black, White, Native American, Asian, or Pacific Islander.

[@ロージーユリ]

My boyfriend is middle eastern and Im half black/white. We got pulled over the other day and I started to get a little scared. It hurts to think that because im (half)black someone might harm my boyfriend. Vice a versa.

[@ロージーユリ]

Why your comment not there?

[@dransom5821]

Not to be mean but how did you get with a Middle East guy? Their region always comes first and women are always second to men. And even if his parents love you, if they are traditional you will become Muslim.

[@myL12Fvideos]

Jenna Smith are you suggesting that because he's middle Eastern he will beat her....?

[@Lilyyysanchez]

ロージーユリ maybe work on your paranoia not try and bash our police

[@heyyou3609]

D Ransom You and people like you who have these stupid stereotypes about other races, countries and religions are the reason why the world is this devided, and why videos like this are important.. Because you're not even aware that you're discriminating against someone or you actually HURT someone by not understanding and judging based on false accusations and nonsense stereotypes.. This is coming from a Muslim girl who lives in a third world country where men are not assholes who think they rule women and who treat them like slaves like the media shows you.. This is coming from a Muslim girl who always feel loved and supported by her family and community and only feels discriminated against when she reads comments like this and worse in every social media platform from western people who don't understand. I'm sorry if this is too long

[@kekesomkinkush]

I love their friendship you can tell they're comfortable and can talk about anything with each other

[@mh4971]

I am so glad this discussion is being raised, and more importantly, it is not an argument. No "go to google", no "I am not going to explain it to you", no "stop asking me questions". Actual conversations, sharing of experiences, asking questions and coming to conclusions about how society treats them. I love it. We need more of this.

[@ermied]

WHY THE HELL ARE PEOPLE RACIST. White people are people brown people are people, black people are people. MY POINT IS. NO MATTER WHAT COLOUR YOUR SKIN IS, YOU ARE A PERSON AND SHOULD BE TREATED EQUALLY TO THE OTHER RACES.

[@asjahm2083]

Says the ostensibly White person who doesn't have an identifiable name or picture posted with their comment.

[@ermied]

Asjah M yeah I am, but ik not racist against anyone who has a different skin tone? I don't think it matter what your skin tone is, if you're racist, you're not a good person. Full stop.

[@ermied]

Im*

[@prayforharambe6200]

You do realize that you were just racist? 😂😂😂 your statement is contracting it self.

[@prayforharambe6200]

Asjah M I'm drowsy. Both of you are racist. J

[@leahthomas1791]

I shouldn't read the comments because they make me mad. People in the comments sound so ignorant. People need to think about how it would feel to be in other people's shoes. If you can't relate to it, don't judge people who can and say "stop acting like a thug and just talk white"

[@epfizerdoolittleajl2165]

Leah Thomas I'm mixed race though

[@charusingh2593]

Exactly. Most of the hate comments are replies to those who are being positive and understanding.

[@algonzalez6853]

"talk white" lmao why do black americans think every black person in the world acts like them lmao not even all blacks in america talk "black"

[@natalieguzman3493]

0:58 "when the cops are around I feel safer". A feeling as a Latina women can say I never felt.

[@samanthacovington6556]

This is so beautiful!! If I were to befriend a person of a different race, I'd want them to be as understanding and sympathetic as this woman!!

[@kbonet]

It's amazing how caring this woman is. She sat there and listened to her friend and understood wholeheartedly.

[@raine1294]

I'm always the only white person in a lot of situations and she described it perfect. I love both these girls!

[@ManFinest]

Yes these are the conversations we need to have with each other rather than violence.

[@milacat522]

Aaah the feels when the white girl said "When cops are around, I feel safer" and the black girl's reaction... that is the difference, right there. That is white privilege. Really good video and really good conversation ❤️

[@sydnimock4290]

I wish that these type of CIVIL, RESPECTFUL conversations could occur more often. I think that a lot of race relations in America would be a lot better! I admire these two women for their openness and honesty

[@Janet2684]

Love the dynamic they have going. This is what an open, productive dialogue about race looks like and we need MUCH more of it. Kudos to the girl on the left for being so articulate and composed when she was clearly very emotional and kudos to the girl on the right for being a good listener and supportive friend. Quality friendships with people who don't look/love/worship like you do are an amazing thing!

[@Verowatches]

They're so cute, compassionate, & smart. I like them.

[@Tink5542]

Their bestfriendship is amazing you can see how happy and how they bond just by this 5:16 video love it!

[@hedwigmokake9501]

Don't touch my hair do I look like an animal to you? this isn't a petting zoo😑😚

[@Mimi89_7]

Hedwig Owls lmaoo im black with long hair my friend who's domincan pulled my hair really hard and told me why is my hair growing what friend do things like that i was pissed but i laughed it off smh

[@ceeceedior21]

Hedwig Owls Dominicans are black first off 🤣

[@TheMiracoulus]

Hedwig Owls not all Dominicans are black 🙄

[@Lunaius]

How many people actually do this though?

[@kacix37]

Lunaius I don't know how often people do that put yeah I have had a few people just walk up to me and touch my hair and had one to actually run their fingers through my hair, I was so shocked and stunned at the audacity to do something like that.

[@hannahrosereviews5073]

For me, I admire all types of art. Hair is an art. So if I know someone has worked hard on making their hair look just right, it don't matter who they are, I'm gonna compliment them on it!

[@treciaingabire4161]

her quote is the smartest thing I've ever heard "it's alot harder to be confident when no else around you look like you"

[@evjewel]

Love this

[@mallorymarion4381]

I live in community where the white population is low(I'm white obviously if u look at my profile pic. I mean how much more basic could it get😂) and I'm thankful I get to grow up in a community where I don't judge people on the color of there skin whether it's black brown yellow or white but by there personalities and souls. School districts around me have a much higher white population and I could switch if I wanted to but I make the decision to stay because I want to be at a place where I learn about different cultures and why and how people do things differently. People think that rainbows in the sky's are pretty but not everyone thinks the rainbow of people is and it's sad. I can't wait till the day comes when the population can be identified as one word(human) instead of thousands of different labels. I may not agree with what everyone has to say or do or what they believe in but I will always give them the respect and kindness they deserve because they are a person just like me and have no lesser value.

[@teemadarif8243]

Mal Marion Actually I couldn't tell you were white by your profile lol

[@opinionsarelikeassholes1986]

Tee Darif I was about to say the same thing. Could of fooled me.

[@annebannan9817]

Mal Marion I'm the opposite, my school is like 97% white. I actually reaaalllyy want a black friend because right now I'm so closed off from all other races. Not to be able to say "I'm not racist because I have a black friend", but because it's hard to understand racial issues when I have no exposure to POC. Growing up where I do, it's almost impossible not to develop some type of racial bias. I'm trying to fight against it though, good thing I have the internet to educate me if my community won't.

[@opinionsarelikeassholes1986]

Twix MixGod I hope that the fact you took the time out to type that. It made you feel extremely good about your pathetic existence. This is the red flag , people need to be aware of. Hopefully, you get help soon. Have a great rest of your day.

[@andrewlehman1035]

Mal Marion just

[@klfloM]

"It's really hard to be a strong, confident woman when no one around you looks like you"...

[@ileanas9823]

I love how safe they feel around each other to speak their minds and their truest honest thoughts It made me really happy to see this , i feel everyone needs friends who have different experiences because it allows everyone to understand , see, and respect each others feelings or even help advocate for change for each other.

[@zazmaniandevil_]

love this, i wish people could have more conversations like this about race. just because it's not your experience doesn't mean you can't try to understand where someone is coming from. we need to listen to each other.

[@demewharton9646]

SHE LISTENED.. literally just sat listened. thank you.

[@samantha808s]

As a Latina myself I know how depressing it feels to hear about someone of the same race get shot by a policemen and even trump made me extremely upset

[@YangaNkonki]

Alyssa looks hispanic, didn't think she was white actually.

[@jeromejohnson5074]

Hispanic means to speak Spanish, so she could be. U mean Latino

[@vianFlu]

Hispanics are a type of white people. Some have large amounts of Native American/East Asian.

[@MAXIMILIAN390]

Latino/a is not a race. It’s an ethnicity. You can be black, white, Asian while being Latino/a

[@eldertoguro1]

Jeffrey Thompson hispanics aren't a type of white people. there are white and black hispanics, most however are mixed with varying degrees of white, black, and native

[@user-gp2ox6ri7l]

Hispanic means to speak Spanish its not a term we like to be associated with much most of the people I know and myself would rather be called Latinos because there’s so many ethnicities and is not just one.

[@BubbleCUPCAKES3366]

Their friendship is beautiful. I want friends that are as caring and understanding as them ☺️

[@devyd.2831]

I feel so much anxiety when my bf even drives. I don’t want him to be next and when he does get pulled over I panic just like she did. Thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone in that anxiety

[@tatianamaccartney1830]

these are good conversations

[@lizzyheart12]

I wish they would've done this with a Latino/a or specifically a Mexican because we know the way that white people see their privilege but no one speaks on how Latinos and African Americans share a lot of struggles as well especially in our current state in this country

[@dawnlittle2501]

lizzyheart12 I find that Latinos purposely distance themselves from blacks despite their similar struggles with racism.

[@arianam6430]

I agree. Some latinos, having some European ancestry, can pass, which helps in assimilating, which helps in distancing themselves. I'm half Puerto Rican and half black- I'm lightskinned. But even though I am hispanic, I've had other latino people use my blackness as a way to invalidate me and to denigrate me...people feel that, in no concrete way, the black struggle is worse than the Latino struggle here in America and they use that. Even though it's not necessarily true- the struggle is just different...but also, very similar.

[@KingPanthro]

Dawn Little We'll said. her comment says it all. If she was down with the struggle she wouldn't need to see a Latina, she would know that the black woman represented her.

[@sundaecantu5413]

lizzyheart12 right!!!

[@danerook]

lizzyheart12 White folks don't have privilege. Get the fuck out of here with that shit.

[@hismajesty9951]

The sadness Tiff shared, upon knowing 4 black men had been recently killed by the police, that's the kind of feeling I have every time I hear of, read about a gay person being murdered or tortured. It felt as if my own heart was being ripped out of my chest. As if a part of me had already been violated. "No, I don't know them personally, but I do."

[@erauprcwa]

I'm black, gay, and I grew up with half of my family being Muslim (I'm not religious but I grew up with major Christian and Muslim influences as a kid). I'm affected constantly by things that happen, plus I work in a very white male-conservative dominated industry.

[@ayanna6327]

Love the fact that this is just an honest conversation and not a debate.

[@lesavera7042]

I'm glad her friend was so open to listening, I've tried having these conversations with in laws only to be shot down because it's not a part of their lives, so happy for this video. ❤️

[@asjahm2083]

They were cute. Very, very cute. I was concerned before the video began how this was gonna turn out, but they did a good job with it.

[@MomTheEbayer101]

@5:16 she couldn’t resist looking at her friends black behind 😂😂

[@User501-q5g]

5:10 lol True tho🤣

[@102_aishaal-sharifaajiwibo2]

This is so true, My muslim parents HAD to move out of the US to safely raise their children and safely practice our religion. Racism is really fucked up.

[@Tash_-en6uo]

Soracchi Muslim isn't a race but yeah it is fucked up sorry to hear that

[@mysecrethaven6360]

Soracchi what stopped them from practicing their religion?

[@102_aishaal-sharifaajiwibo2]

yeah it isn't sorry but it is still an issue

[@102_aishaal-sharifaajiwibo2]

they didn't stop, of course, it was just they were afraid of people harassing their children because their religion is different. My dad's neighbor came over one day and they said to him to "get out of the country". It wasn't safe, my parents were horrified. They didn't want to raise their children in fear. They didn't want us to grow up learning that we are terrorist even if we haven't done any criminal act.

[@Black-Panther94]

How do Muslims treat religious minorities in their countries?

[@user-qq3my9fm2r]

These open, honest conversations are so lovely to see. The white girl wasn't defensive or trued to justify her gaps in knowledge she just listened and tried to learn. Really good to see :)

[@maryjane2965]

What she said about how she felt in the group of Only Black friends and how she understood how her friend felt. Powerful!!

[@virgoplushie]

No offense but if people of other races could be as understanding as her friend is the world would be a better place. If we are speaking out about racial concerns if y'all could just listen and try to be empathetic things would be better in a way. This video is so beautiful 💕 great job guys.

[@DassahMariee]

I wish I had a friendship like this

[@Min-zz4ne]

The reason i don't talk to my "white" friends about "race" is because i don't want them to pity me when i tell them my fears. I did that once and never doing that again, my friend had the same reaction this girl on this video had, not saying it's a bad one, but i don't want people to pity me.

[@BobTheBuilder-bt3tq]

· Min · same.

[@dransom5821]

But your story could be the one that changes a friend narrow view.

[@craymay4766]

· Min · same. I'm like that with everything in my life that goes wrong.

[@courtneypoland9861]

Yeah, I understand. But, help them to understand your life of being black.

[@micaloli]

Only thing is that I ask my (black) friend about her hair not because I'm nervous, but fascinated. I love her hair and what she can do with it.

[@greendayfecer]

I love there friendship. This is understanding, having an open-mind, listening, and just wow. They get each other and I love it!

[@Penelope416]

I thought the white girl was hispanic.

[@esmep9387]

Penelope416 hispanic is not a race. That black girl might as well be hispanic( from the carribian) just like the white one. But if you mean that she doesnt look completly white i agree

[@garrusn7702]

Penelope416 Hispanic isn't a race.

[@Penelope416]

TheFoxWhisperer Right. But the funny thing is I never said that "hispanic" was a race. The previous commentators assumed i did. lol. i just said she looks hispanic. I thought hispanic was a race and Salvadoran or Cuban would be a nationality.

[@garrusn7702]

Penelope416 You would probably say that she looks Southern European. That is what she is, I think. She is definitely white, she just isn't Nordic white. It's like the difference between a Nigerian and an Angolan.

[@natalieviktorya115]

Penelope416 most people see if you're not black or Asian you're white.

[@_alanawalker]

love it! We need more open conversations like this.

[@AprilShowersz]

I love this ❤️ It’s just true that we just need to “hear” eachother more

[@nikojere]

I feel like these were some good conversations for them to have, and they are THE ACTUAL friendship goals!

[@gracefore436]

I started bawling right as they started talking because I have a brother who doesn’t look like me and he gets treated differently, and racism happens so much

[@dovehaven4840]

People tripping in the comments already😑

[@rini12309]

As a white girl I really can't relate to the hair thing... I know plenty of black women but I did not get what they said about the hair. I never heard anyone respond negatively to a black women when she changed her hair, isn't that just basic manner to like not insult someone's hairstyle?

[@witchplease9695]

Ryn sullivan *"As a white girl I really can't relate..."* you answered your own question. You can't relate because you're white, and you don't have to relate. Just listen and respect her experiences. Too many invalidate the experiences of black people just because "Well, I'VE never seen/heard that so.." which is stupid. It's like telling a victim of bullying "You're lying because I'VE never been bullied". That's how it sounds.

[@kamdenandrews2301]

It is a basic manner but many people don't have that manner and you need to open your eyes #STOPBEINGNBLIND

[@VenusEllie-ov7uc]

Not trying to shoot anyone's arguments or experiences down but when my blonde (white) mother went to Kenya they touched her hair without asking. As annoying as it may to have someone touch your hair without asking I don't think it's just a white on black thing, It's probably just a international curiosity thing :)

[@rini12309]

Kronise I went to Ghana and had the same experience, actually didn't really mind

[@VenusEllie-ov7uc]

Idk they might have thought her hair was weird but my mother didn't speak any swahili at the time so she couldn't have known.

[@zioneamonie]

I love this video.

[@kings17court]

I hope your friendship continues, cause I sensed a lot of respect, open hearts, and open minds. It was beautiful to watch.

[@mrspaceforever]

Wow! This is one of the most greatest conversations I've ever listened to. What a beautiful friendship! ❤️

[@rediscoverNewark]

I would like to see the white friend's side of things and it not being geared toward how a black person feels. Both sides are valid.

[@Americansikkunt]

Inisa Jefferson Yeah. I'm not saying what she says isn't true, buts she's a little dramatic. Like, why would your boyfriend get shot by a police officer during a fender bender? Last time I checked, police only shoot when the suspect is resisting or otherwise it cooperating. If you're black, cooperate with cops! It might just save your life!

[@wekselbaum]

Because people have been shot during a fender bender......

[@melissabarnes3975]

The girl on the right doesn't look white though, she looks more Hispanic than white. (at least to me)

[@Laura-oq7ir]

Tay Smulders I think she is beautifull!

[@lukasz1154]

Im white and im from poland and I am naturally really dark (for a white person) and during the summer i get PROPER dark and I get mistaken to be a POC all the time so it could be same with her. But then again I heard a large portion of polish ppl have more melanin then western whites so.

[@spxllthetea9083]

Guys Hispanic is an ethnicity, but yes Hispanic is a race. Hispanic is just a general thing about everyone but if we got specific, like me, I would be Panamanian from Panama. Some people could be From Mexico and be Mexican but Hispanic is just the general audience of Spanish people

[@nat-it3sq]

You can't look Hispanic just saying

[@Morealz]

This!!!! Yes!!!

[@sarahsahar5622]

these women can lean into empathy. it's magical. thanks!

[@720p-o9l]

That girl is so right it's so hard being confident when no one around you looks like you.

[@lizziexx7721]

I think the way she feels around the police is so common it's not even funny...

[@yazzyremedy36]

This is unreal. I'm not American, and I can say that this is mostly an American problem. I'm from Scandinavia, Denmark. Everyone, no matter how you look, are raised in the same community. There's no black ghetto's. There's no black gangsta way of speaking. The N word is only known is Scandinavia, because of American movies of television in general. Scandinavia doesn't have no history of slavery either, and we weren't the ones taking over American in the 1500's, so basically what I am trying to say, is that America as far behind, considering racism. The fact that it's normal scares me. In Scandinavia, we consider racism as a mental issue. We know that the word "race" shouldn't even exist, and that it's grammatically wrong referring to anyone, as if they were another race, since it's been scientifically proven, that no matter how you look, or how your skin tone is, everyone is a 100% genetically the same. That's a fact. The only thing that separates us as a people, is racism, which is made up as well, but whenever you refer to yourself as either black or white, you are basically not really stopping racism at all. I have never had the need, to say "a black person" Or "a white person". Why should I? Peace out Americans.

[@jennab1809]

YazzyRemedy I think I need to get out of America then lol seriously tho yes it’s a problem here:( sadly

[@MennoiZz]

this is very misleading... I'm of african decent born and raised in sweden to parents that have been citizen since highschool/college age and saying racism isn't an issue because race is made up is very uneducated. before we knew race was made up racism existed and it definitely still does in scandinavia but I agree it is nothing like in America they do have a huge problem with this. In scandinavia it is rather a anyone that isn't ethnically scandinavian is more violent, less educated, backwards, scary etc. This makes it more difficult to get a job which is the place this racism is mostly seen, the workplace. In certain cases it does affect how the justice system and cops treat non-whites. I think a big problem we have here is that we think that as soon as we knew races and darwinism and all of that wasn't applicable to humans we thought nobody will treat anybody different because of how they look but unfortunately that leaves scandinavia with an issue nobody wants to deal with and it affects most non-white people and it will never be solved. Btw there is a part of swedish history where slaves were bought to an island named St. Martens and I wouldn't be surprised if there is a little bit of slavery in danish history too. Btw I don't know if you heard about this but we had nazis marching here a couple of weeks ago. I know it might seem like I don't speak swedish because of my comment but I want anyone who reads this to understand. Det är MYCKET bättre i norden men inte alls så bra som man tror särskilt i dessa tider där det nästan känns som att hela världen börjar gå bakåt. (btw I probably won't understand if you would respond in danish)

[@emsi7627]

Men Mii preachh, det är mkt bättre i norden, men långt ifrån bra

[@imnotstarra]

YazzyRemedy what was the point of this essay no one asked for?

[@teemadarif8243]

YazzyRemedy you are like the second or third person from another country who has said this.isn't this just sad?

[@biancat7761]

I feel like the white girl didn't get to ask the black girl questions. I think it was a great video. But it needed to be more biased. It was basically the black girl asking questions and talking about her experiences (not a bad thing) but I would have loved the white girl to tell hers whether they be good or bad experiences. But good start

[@amberdasilva124]

Bianca Taylor I think it's in part because the video might've been longer than intended. Also, they're best friends. Im sure they've talked about a ton of things already off camera. Lol

[@youngbluntandmizguided]

I feel like the white girl (wish ik her name) did share her experiences when it related to the subjects but overall she said she didn't experience most of what the black girl experiences

[@algonzalez6853]

lmao like they ever will let a white person talk about racist experiences towards them, and they're afraid to speak up on this aswell

[@lochofmceo]

Like what?

[@sophiawishes3208]

This is so important, we shouldn't be afraid to have these conversations with one another.

[@CD-zx4bp]

im glad they can have a conversation like adults. unlike some ppl. they are just sharing their experiences with each other chill tf out.