Why "It's Not You" Is The Worst Advice (It IS You, Sorry) 🚫🙃

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Hilary Silver

Күн бұрын

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@HilarySilver Ай бұрын

Have you ever received harmful advice from someone you trusted? 🤔💬 Share your experience in the comments!

@jillpesavento9969 Ай бұрын

I am a therapist in California and I totally agree with all of your points!

@HilarySilver Ай бұрын

@@jillpesavento9969 ❤️

@jenevievemajoor7480 Ай бұрын

I absolutely love this video! As someone who grew up in an abusive household, I could not change the fact that I was born with an abusive mother but what I absolutely have full control over and can change who I chose to have a relationship with in future. By accepting the fact that despite my upbringing it is absolutely my responsibility to learn to protect myself from abusive individuals I may meet in future and have to unlearn all the ways I may attract or make myself a target to abusive individuals it will ensure I can one day build a better future for myself and have healthy relationships so that I never get stuck in the same toxic cycle I had with my parent again! If i did not learn this sooner, I most likely would of fell into the trap of getting into another toxic relationship and would of told myself that I am simply a victim of abuse because I grew up in abusive environment which although true is certainly not a mindset that is going to help me get out of unhealthy relationships, stay out of them or allow me to realise how I may be allowing myself to become a victim to this sort of dynamic because I never took responsibility for the fact that I despite the fact that my childhood circumstances might of set me up for failure I am responsible for learning how to guard and protect myself from unhealthy relationships in my life. Point being, great advice you gave in the video, especially for people coming out of toxic relationships!

@HilarySilver Ай бұрын

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@denisesorrentino9496 Ай бұрын

Great post. It is true. Take total and complete responsibility for your life. It is the only way to live.

@HilarySilver Ай бұрын

Yesss!! ❤

@juliemegjusty 13 күн бұрын

So good! Thank you! ❤

@JulesAl-Mighty 11 күн бұрын

My life changed for the better as I started to realize that no one was coming to save me, and that I am very capable of saving myself, and worth saving.

@HilarySilver 9 күн бұрын

Jules, that’s such a powerful realization-bravo to you for embracing it! 💪 You’re absolutely worth saving, and taking charge of your own life is the most empowering thing we can do. Thank you for sharing this; it’s inspiring!