Debra Fileta: How Facing Your Triggers Brings Healing | FULL EPISODE | Better Together on TBN

This week on Better Together, Debra Fileta helps viewers understand how facing our triggers can help heal our pain. Join the conversation as Sheila Walsh, Faith Eury Cho, Alexandra Hoover, and Irene Rollins join Debra Fileta to discuss our emotions and how to manage them in alignment with God's Word.
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00:00 When We Numb Our Emotions
11:03 Being Open and Honest When We're Trained to Be "Good"
15:34 Emotions Are a Signal
23:24 When Our Past Trauma Causes Us Not to Trust God
28:07 How Triggers Reveal Our Sore Spots
33:04 "The Lord is Eager for Our Healing"
35:48 What Happens When We Don't Address Our Triggers
40:31 Our Ability to Experience Freedom Comes From Obedience to Conflict Resolution

[@ChildofGod98765]

l find strength through Jesus even as I’m struggling to support my children. I’m constantly faced with financial hardships. Both of my sons are special needs. I’m a single mom. I’m working ,but I’m not making nearly enough especially now that I’m home schooling them. Lord Hear My Prayers. I’m overwhelmed and tired. Struggling to buy groceries. Struggling to pay rent. BUT I’m keeping FAITH i. the name of JESUS.

[@Ntuthu28_M]

It is well 🙏

[@vintagebeliever5023]

I come in agreement with you in Jesus Name. I am very proud of you 😊

[@HTB.5784]

please share this with Kevin Zadia ministries out of Louisiana. They have set up ministry for both helping single moms and homeschooling.

[@annzamore6910]

My suster there us help. If you are in a church, talk to your Pastor. Your community has resources. Take advantage of it. God bless you. I will keep you in my prayers.

[@joycebutterworth5335]

Lord, please meet this woman’s needs in every day.🙏✝️☝️

[@herewegrow9317]

Please pray for me. I'm struggling a bit. I'm a bit shut down myself emotionally. I'm struggling a bit with u forgiveness. I'm a single mom of 5 and I'm stuck in survival mode and too exhausted to deal (heal) I pray the Lord heals my heart, mind, body and soul. I'm tired

[@anitabarbara9005]

Hugs mama, prayed for you.💜

[@TinahAtuheire]

Standing in prayer with you. Somebody shared this with me, read 1Chronicles 4:9-10

[@banthony620]

“Grace allows the mess to unravel” 😮 That’s a word right there 🙌🏽

[@user-zd1qg3hi6y]

So true

[@Eng4555]

powerful

[@user-zd1qg3hi6y]

Amen

[@maryrakes4379]

“Emotions a signal not a sin” They are for our benefit to draw us closer to God our father, so He can comfort us, heal us and make us whole. 🙌❤️

[@sheilatitus-ln2om]

"HE REVEALS WHAT NEED TO BE HEALED"

[@BetterTogetherTV]

Praise God! He does!

[@user-yp1yj3wm7g]

Yes this is very true

[@user-zd1qg3hi6y]

I wonder if someone can pray me to pray how to deal with my emotions. My husband called for a separation period. And smee to be able to get through it. I'm going through a lot of emotions. Please someone pray for me. to this season. And to give him the space he needs.please the strength to cope with this. I need healing with my marriage and for God to bridge the gap and bring us back to together.

[@deborah460]

I am praying for you

[@user-zd1qg3hi6y]

Thanks

[@suzabella2769]

Read psalms

[@user-zd1qg3hi6y]

@@suzabella2769 hi which chapter and what verses

[@tainarimorales1361]

I agree Psalms is Truly refreshing and I Trust The Lord Will minister to you in this difficult and painful time. Even minister to your husband as u worship the Lord. He will allow you to see areas that need to be healed clearly. In the silence and stillness before Him. Praying for u

[@coachdezi]

When it feels like all of my hope is gone, I am clinging to the half of a mustard seed of faith. God… You said your strength is perfect. I am your daughter. I need You now. I am learning to trust You. In this season of my life so many wounds are being opened. Being a strong woman is overrated. I am tired and worn Lord. Please help me.

[@sarahh7254]

You are whole through Christ 💖

[@lwanelemathebula461]

"coming as you are with nothing hidden"...this has changed my life. Thank you so much Sheilla

[@lwanelemathebula461]

@@sheilatitus-ln2om amen♥️

[@michellejerkovich5732]

Thank you Shelia😢

[@lindataylor937]

😅​

[@sheilatitus-ln2om]

And sometimes all we need to do is to in the presence of the Lord and be quiet, be still and feel all the emotions that can be hidden in us.

[@vintagebeliever5023]

Thank you. This was very encouraging for my life right now. 63 years young and still trying to figure out why I react the way i do. This was very helpful.

[@BetterTogetherTV]

Thank you for your comment! We are so glad that you found this conversation helpful!

[@anniebobb7068]

I am 49 and feeling ashamed that I still dealing with these emotional stuff. And asking God why so no I am happy others are other so I don't feel alone.

[@WRXMomma31]

This was exactly what I needed tonight! I was triggered tonight with feelings of rejection from someone on my husbands side of the family, and I love where in this video it says triggers are a blessing because they reveal to us where we need healing ❤️🙏🏼

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so sorry for your feelings of rejection. We are happy though that this conversation uplifted you!

[@jeannovulu-kendi9571]

Ephesians 6:16 Speaks alot about how to spiritually deal with emotions. Just read about this awhile ago. Thank you Jesus, thank you Holy Spirit thank you father.

[@kanetaalexander2668]

This message is totally needed. “You just don’t mute pain, you meet Joy” sooooo profound

[@bukolafatile5645]

I think she said 'You don't just mute pain, you mute joy....'?

[@kanetaalexander2668]

@@bukolafatile5645 mute Joy? That’s the fruit of the spirit. I’ll relisten

[@kanetaalexander2668]

@@bukolafatile5645 👍🏾

[@jeaninerichardson7179]

I definitely really appreciate this... LORD JESUS CHRIST 🤔🧐🥺😪🥲

[@OABlogging]

This video is POWERFUL!! It's something about our 30s yall 😆 God shakes you unveils our issues.

[@valerieanne223]

Elder sister responsibility. Yes Lord help please

[@JMarieTaylor]

Every time I let God know I need to hear from him he sends a word/teaching. This hit home! I can relate to all of what these women have spoken but especially Irene. God knows who to use to get us to that place in Him and most often it is our spouses.

[@iraidamichellearvelo1620]

Wow… just earlier I spoke about this. Oftentimes as Christian we over spiritualize our feelings. I get it… our goal is to always seek God in all things… but what a relief it was to hear you say to tune in and identify/label your feelings. Wow! Thank you

[@modupeoladeinde8995]

I am so glad that God somehow made me run into this conversation today! Just last week I named my emotions and I didn't even realize that what I was doing was a spiritual process to healing, now I feel affirmation that I can go to God with what I named and He will help me and heal me, amen!😢

[@betty1hope]

This is amazing. The Christian culture has in the past frowned upon emotions and most of us who grew up in church were conditioned to numb instead of dealing with emotions. And I just want to highlight none of our emotions are ugly. We have just been conditioned to feel uncomfortable about them and so we think they are ugly. I hope in the future we can allow space for anger and frustration without judging ourselves or others, so that we can really process such feelings with the Holy Spirit when it's us and help others feel seen and loved even through challenging emotions.

[@deborah460]

Thank you ladies. You really inspire me. I am a 29 year old Chaplaincy student. I look forward to influencing women in Africa after my graduation. I learn a lot from you. God bless you ❤️

[@kamilleaustinmusic]

I love this. It's all about spreading the Gospel. May God bless your journey.

[@lynnefetsko3562]

This is SO accurate! I had a lifetime of these emotions. And then when I got married in between 39 and 59 thinking you my husband would make it all better, I lost him too. I'm 63 now, getting stronger but now I feel more alone still trying to overcome life long abandonment. Some days are better than others. Ty ladies 😊🎉

[@alicemusukwa1288]

such a blessed conversation.

[@BetterTogetherTV]

Amen!

[@ryanneyoshimura126]

Oh my this conversation was PURE GOLD 🥹

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so grateful you found this conversation helpful. We agree!

[@tmarie0929]

This has been such a blessing being I just had a semi melt down feeling misunderstood and rejection. I prayed about it yesterday but God definitely answered the prayer today. I needed this. ❤

[@sonjainez]

Me too

[@sylviamyers-brooks7085]

Listening for the second time. Had a trigger recently and your words came back right through the Holy Spirit.

[@lisaphillipo413]

thank God for treatment centers. God uses that to educate us

[@kamillejames7213]

Thanking God and you ladies for this session. Just what I needed!!

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so happy that you have been encouraged!

[@DebLavern]

This video shined a bright light into my heart today. I am so very grateful for these women and their transparency. I am grateful to learn about why I'm triggered hysterically from something historically and need to meet with the Lord about it. I am so very thankful for God's mercy and grace that walks me through healing and getting to the other side of these triggers. Blessings!!

[@michellejerkovich5732]

Yes, Amen

[@martinanagasha3665]

Would love to see Nicole Crank here.❤❤❤ You will all love her

[@mathembibhengu9751]

I can relate, it took me over 25 years, my early thirties for God to open up my eyes and brought me to a place where I was 6 years old and was sexually molested. My mind had shut that memory. But this one day it's came flooding and I broke down so hard

[@miaramona6257]

I grew up in a home where emotions weren't allowed... we had to "take captive " the emotions... super unhealthy....as a mid 30 yr old...now I'm dealing w the real emotions...so hard

[@user-rd6rn5je7f]

Same here, talking to a therapist is a good way to get to know your emotions and naming them helps a lot..as humans God gave us those emotions for a reason suppressing them won’t help we have to face them and heal in the areas where healing is necessary

[@Godisgood24340]

God is good Amen 🙏🙏🙏

[@BetterTogetherTV]

Yes, He is!

[@lovefelix1566]

Wow! Let the little children come to me (childhood wounds ❤😢)

[@nedraford5461]

Such a good word! I am right where you ladies are. Moving forward to healing and wholeness

[@agnestabi1087]

Thanks for ministering to us ,❤

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We our so glad you were ministered to!

[@christinastoudemire4100]

God thank you for all your help. I Pray for my job to prosper and know christ Jesus. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@user-qy3og5ci3j]

LORD HAVE MERCY-- ONLY GOD LEAD ME TO THIS VIDEO-- I HAVE SO MUCH PAST PAIN AND NOW PRESENT PAIN FROM THE LOSS OF MY SON BY SUICIDE!! JESUS IS TRYING TO HEAL ME-- THANK YOU GOD AND DEBRA!

[@kaylynnfarley]

Amen! Thank you for this message. God started me on this healing journey 3 years ago and there is TRUTH in these words. These stories are my story. When I allowed myself to feel emotions and when I was willing to give every hurt to the LORD, to TRUST Him with them, then I began to feel whole. I began to find who God created me to be. He truly is waiting for you to step into His arms. ❤

[@nonameyay2570]

Wow....this is exactly me. Im the youngest in a very messy emotional family. I grew up unheard, invisible and expected to fix everything in our family. I also grew up aChristian but people say im cold and emotionless.

[@rlbnd1]

Cold and emotionless =protective walls that I don’t invite others to get through. ❤

[@rowchellgreen8030]

So many great gems were dropped! Side note, the diversity of this panel is incredible and makes all the difference!🙌🏾💕

[@reyneharris1136]

This was truly a word from God for me. Thank you ladies for sharing your stories, emotions and truths. It means so much to me on this journey of healing and relationship with God. God wants the real me.. Amen

[@brittanyb9292]

I was just reading Psalms 145 this morning; this was a needed conversation regarding emotions. I had to be honest with God with my emotions.

[@shirleywhite9365]

This is so good. I now understand how to deal with my emotions. Thanks ladies ❤

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so happy this helped you!

[@k.p.9988]

I can so relate to what Sheila said. I was 13 when my dad committed suicide.

[@melissabromley4600]

“Hello Lord… it’s me! I’m just praying for Sheila!” I believe the childlike simplicity of a prayer like this touches God’s heart. He just wants us to come.

[@lwanelemathebula461]

You've got such beautiful hair Miss Cho

[@rebeccaveenendall7170]

So helpful ♥️

[@miaramona6257]

I'm dealing with this a lot in this season. so hard ❤

[@bballeverules]

Needed this today! Thank you ❤

[@JanineMacMillan]

Also needed this message today. Thank you ❤

[@VansVibes]

Great message!!!❤

[@Abimbola.Abioye]

This was so good!

[@felicitygrace5113]

Saving this one. So good! Thank you Debra ❤

[@testerzone2579]

Thank you for making me realize my emotions are valid.

[@olgasalinas2208]

Thank you ladies for the message (

[@bettywright4338]

Awesome illustrations from each lady, I enjoyed it so much, praise God 🙏

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We're very happy that you enjoyed the conversation!

[@bried3274]

This was such a powerful episode. Thank you!

[@victoriaaidonmiyi]

Blessed to have found this today because lord…….

[@maryrakes4379]

Great message. ❤️❤️❤️

[@oluwadunsinadebayo2276]

Thank you for this episode.

[@buzzybeeT]

Love this conversation! This is exactly what I've been going through. They have taught me a lot in this episode. Need more with this group.

[@mariangoma718]

I am listening my God🙏🙏

[@summerp7527]

This is so healing for me. Thank you ❤

[@HTB.5784]

thank you Ms. Hoover for sharing in a very real way...

[@sophiaduarte745]

Amen what a wonderful message..The Holy Spirit Was talking through You All.♥️♥️♥️🗣️🌎🙏💌♥️

[@gracefabola9984]

Love you better together Ladies ❤❤❤❤

[@lillianmcgrew217]

I love how you are bringing some new ways to look at this

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so happy you enjoyed this talk!

[@sj9339]

This conversation on emotional healing is edifying my soul ❤

[@praisenuwasiima1119]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. It spoke volumes to my soul 🙏🧡

[@agnesbekoe7539]

All I can say is Thank You and God bless you

[@wandashaw7187]

Needed to hear this. Been coming to grips with sexual abuse that happened 50 plus years ago.

[@suzannesmith249]

Thank you for putting programs like this on the show. These conversations and knowledge is so lacking and most churches and so many of us need to hear these kinds of discussions from a Christian perspective perspective. THANK YOU!!!

[@GrowingGlowingw.God10]

Helpful

[@oyeolasunkanmi]

OMG!!! This puts into words exactly what I've been feeling and experiencing but haven't been able to articulate

[@robinjackson2828]

Alexander Hoover, your closing statement is powerful. Thank you.

[@elmosjgsfriend]

Wow, thanks for this, it helped me process so much pain.

[@marjorymsuku9312]

Thank you, Ladies. Emotions do need healing. My main lesson last year was to realise that I had been significantly hurt in my emotions, and God was starting me in the process of healing, and it is still continuing even in this year. While it was not fun to be hurt, and is not fun to process it so that I can heal (how can people hurt each other like this?!...); I appreciate the closer walk with God and ever increasing peace and freedom.🙏❤

[@pulanemdluli4493]

Me Huby's💔 passing😭 made me num and Empty 4 a while... Learning 2 tune in Heavenly Father's way Help me b kind 2 me and cry whn ever I feel lost ☹️... Looooooking AT Me 5 kids as a Widow, asking The lord y now😭 yet checking if de World would still make sense without me💛❤️ Kind Hearted friendship Huby Gama 😭 in it Its Stil Hurts, but His Spirit lives ✨ me and Mine communicate wth Him thru Music 2 Eaz r loss 🌻 Thanx lots 4 Blessing us wth ur Blissful show, ❤❤❤❤

[@claudellej9438]

Thank you all so much. I now realize why I feel the way I do about some of the scars of my past. This includes the death of my father from cancer at age 9, etc.

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so sorry about the loss of your mother, but are happy you felt encouraged by the conversation.

[@avisienitcuevas]

Thank you for sharing your testimonies and for sharing your stories. Thank you for being such blessing.

[@nanaserwaa619]

Thank you for this Video!! I really needed this.

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so glad you were inspired!

[@alanagolmei4248]

What an amazing and powerful women of faith. I was shocked and broken when I lost my mom suddenly two months back. I’m legal practitioner, have been working with survivors of sexual assault, broken marriages and relationships. Only through God I get the strength to keep going. Learning and so inspired listening to all these stories. I need to do more for the people who needs help. Would love to connect with women who share the same thoughts and passion.

[@marcelastacey890]

Thank you - so very much - you all touched my heart and helped me to understand feelings I hadn’t been able to make sense of. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. 🙏🏻❤️

[@jacquelinemcneil1046]

Ladies, this setting, the conversation was a blessing to me. Thank you so much for sharing this honestly giving me a better perspective of what I'm enduring in my marriage. My heart is overjoyed by what has been invested in me. I'm empowered to pray compassionately and strategically as I have been armed with knowledge and understanding of what I've been witnessing for years. Breakthrough!!!

[@TinahAtuheire]

Wow thank you for teaching me how to handle my emotions, as a christian i always thought we are not supposed to feel angry and struggled with it.

[@candacejones1375]

Thank you for this.

[@BetterTogetherTV]

You are welcome!

[@preciousrushwaya4640]

Beautiful sharing there ladies. You are awesome ❤

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We are so happy you were encouraged!

[@vanessacopland]

God really loves me to comes across this discussion whilst i am experiencing emotional difficulties.. wow timely tjank you God for not leaving me the same

[@rayna599]

This is such a rich conversation!! I can relate to so much of what was discussed. Thank you Pastors 💗

[@bridgeegibson2790]

Thankyou. For your honesty and vulnerability. This has been very helpful. I’m off to study those 39 emotions of Jesus. Bridget in New Zealand

[@nicolemathis6155]

Praise God for this word. I’m crying as I finger type this 😊bc I just this morning asked God to show me thru His Angels which habits of mind and emotions to bring to Him to improve and heal me in a healthy loving way. And lo and behold this show appears on my queue. Lack of self awareness and emotional illiteracy-powerful concepts! This videoed discussion is authentic and transformative! Right where God has me is exactly the spot where this has met me today. Thank you! Emotional intelligence! I can take care of me? Wowowow!!!! You ladies have been rightly and heavenly placed right here and now-Emotional Literacy! Get it Ladies! God is Good!

[@angelacoleman7198]

Thank God for this video. So much we deal with and we suppress and will not give our emotions to God. Thanking God for my complete healing.

[@madamemakeupmonologuematur7023]

Tears rolled down my eyes throughout ur sharing like I was watching a sad movie. Yes realized it's a signal of my own sad movie and thanks for this share bc I am in my healing w e lord this week of my inner child. All of u guys watching I urge u to bring ur inner child trauma to jesus asap so healing and self understanding w God's love, forgiveness and acceptance can begin to take place. I am excited for my this week going forward in jesus.

[@jeriad7scott312]

This video and smokie norful sermon on feelings has some really good points. This is really helping me as-well Thank you Jesus for guiding me to these videos. They are so much helpful. Emotions have been very hard my whole life. It’s tiring I’m tired it’s up and down and the feelings is so hard to get out of when they are bad. The overthinking the rampage the negative. It is very hard to get out. But God is wonderful, I see joy again rather it takes 3-5 days or 3 months. I feel what is true all over again. And that’s the Lord he brings me out.

[@roearcher7384]

This was sooo good!! Cheers to #growth24

[@BetterTogetherTV]

We love this!

[@Its_for_women_spa-salon]

This was wonderful wonderful. I wonder if there’s a podcast

[@cindyrobinson3882]

Love this!!! ❤ Beautiful and timely. Thank you ladies for sharing. Jesus is working through us all to give us life more abundantly. 🙏 😊

[@user-rz2mc5rs3g]

i enjoyed this episode..I was blessed by what Debra said, "that God allows us to get triggered to reveal where we are wounded".. I'm one that mutes or tones down some emotions because that's the best way I've dealt with them or the coping mechanism that has worked for me but now I know its unhealthy.

[@ablessedmama4life]

This was a great convo but please respect and understand that trigger warnings can help prepare people for something painful ahead. It gives them the power to proceed, or take a different path, shut it off, etc which they didn't have when the original event or situation happened

[@yazminfrances]

literally realized i muted myself a long time ago and asking the Lord to help me