BEWARE OF BARE MINIMUM MEN!

[@JaxnVideos]

Join the Selfish Season Challenge: derrickjaxn.rurl.me/selfishseason

[@lolaweed7467]

A bare minimum/breadcrumbing boyfriend gave me so much anxiety and self doubt completely lowered my self esteem. They don’t care about your well-being. He absolutely has narcissistic tendencies!

[@BashaerB-h2c]

Same here. He brought out the worst version of me.

[@jjcarr6606]

U r spot on

[@sherriflemming3218]

They can have an avoidant attachment. If they don't care about your well being then they need the heave ho! Never settle for anything less than you deserve. Bare minimum equals breadcrumbs. Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix IMAGO Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft

[@docyoumomeries8613]

Don't do it, you will set yourself up for failure and loose yourself. I settled for bare minimum for 17 years of lonely while in a relationship. Time lost that you never get back . Finally found myself and my strength to leave

[@bethlangley13]

Pretty much exact same story here!!! ❤

[@shajhughes2961]

Ditto 11 years

[@nomessnostress]

Has he not bought you anything for a birthday and valentines day?

[@sheriettaanglin6548]

12 yrs 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@yolandatillman6474]

I too gave up 17 years of my life and I’m now in the mindset to do me and grow into my better version of myself and to continue growing more in my relationship with God good luck to you on your journey and God bless you

[@missbrandylicious]

Broke up with my bare minimum boyfriend last night. He’s more worried about his friends than investing his time into our relationship. I refuse to ask him to take me to dinner, the movies, or for flowers ever again. His loss!

[@kelliejackson8152]

This x

[@marleyisms]

Same. ❤ Congratulations on loving you.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Bravo for dumping him! He hasn't got his act together.

[@Hilary945]

When you accept bare minimum, you are submitting to being programmed to lower the cost of what it costs to be around you.

[@sonjacox4874]

Especially since I saw him willing to move mountains for his "female friends " and I got the excuse of "too busy"

[@goldielox1118]

Oh girl, yes!! Especially if they’re filled with drama wrapped up in a pretty package

[@user-j7t8u]

Pretty painful to experience 😢

[@AmericanDreamer]

@@user-j7t8u very! But that pain is also a great motivator to LEAVE! 🔥 We are not trees, we got legs and we can walk! 🔥🎯

[@jjcarr6606]

Forget him asap if he is trying to justify his female friends. Better fish in the sea.

[@bizsquare-ys1py]

Snap!

[@jamest681]

Never beg someone for their love or attention.

[@babydii3487]

Amen

[@tinaellis394]

Same story for me to ladies, I got tired of bare minimum behavior and divorced it in 2009. Been happy ever since I'm making the 💰 and loving me.🌹🌹

[@c.edwards5421]

Facts... you don't need a dependent

[@malenehammersinfokanal1567]

Best way of showing your daughter how she should be treated, is to treat her mama like a Queen!!! Thats truth!!

[@Chalkartistry]

Block 🚫 No explanation, no asking for anything, not even once.

[@jjcarr6606]

Well who are you give me your balls. Speaking respectively I need out of the situation. How do you get the courage.

[@stephaniepynes]

I said “when can we spend a minute” He said “stop pressuring me” I silently gasped. I said “i want someone who feels that I’m their happiness-not their pressure.. and I said..”I mean this in the kindest way possible- “we.are.done” and I fkn meant it.

[@user-ln4qe1sh8i]

Well Done! You did the right thing. 💯 I just ended something, he was always too busy at work. I told him that I hope that they are happy together 😂 I know my worth, and wont be treated like an option!

[@tinawilson7510]

ABSOLUTELY 💯💯💯💯, LADIES KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!

[@tinawilson7510]

IN MY 20'S 30'S YEAH, 40'S 50'S I WILL NEVER TOLERATE BARE MINIMUM!!!

[@dcameron9395]

Definitey experiencing bare minimum...never thought about this so clearly-Thank-You!!!!

[@Thewarriorzone_podcast]

YES! You should never have to ask for flowers ladies … don’t settle .

[@l.b.acquirel.l.c.464]

Great Post!!!! " I;d RATHER MY BABY GIRL BE DISSAPOINTED THEN TRAUMATIZED" Enjoy HER OWN COMPANY INSTEAD OF SHARING IT WITH SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT DESERVE HER COMPANY""

[@desiscarletblack6993]

I'm honestly dealing with this right now and heading towards a divorce. It is really draining and toxic. And I'm done!

[@nikkibelton2109]

I'm picking up what you putin down. These types of Men/boys are the worst. And your right were expecting them to go hard and they go ALL THE WAY WET BREAD SOFT When I see that, I excuse myself and keep it pushing

[@LITELITE222]

I'm an near pulling my hair out dealing with this bare minimum person. I'm so angry at myself for getting so wrapped up in this poison.

[@lisa.user-xm7kz2tb6x]

^of

[@tonyamadison2980]

If you don't know your Worth no one else will!!💯

[@tinawilson7510]

YOU ARE SPEAKING THE TRUTH, LADIES YOU HAVE TO KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!! 👑QUEENOLOGIST APPROVED👑

[@KimHarris-se6eg]

Single and alone doesn't mean lonely or unhappy, 👁‍🗨

[@dwilliams5700]

You will never come close to getting back what you gave to them .... And they think they are the prize !!!

[@food4stars]

Real Talk. He a B celebrity and I'm a HoodCelebrityy, Jane of all traded Boss Chic. He wants to be sweated and I get sweated

[@creolepleasurezzllchicks778]

Your right my father always showed up like you did when I was a child growing up teens and grown I always expected more than the bare minimum they would act in the beginning then slack I had zero tolerance and that's how come im in the space now and im not complaining I rather be alone happy with a lot of love to give my family and close friends then with bare minimum my words for the vulnerable if you dont do anything else pray 🙏🏿 try and grow closer to God he is the sweetest gift I know as long as you have God you are properly loved and just be consistent on how you show up for your children, yourself love yourself love you first everything you have been through In God timing things will then start to turn around for your good in sweet Jesus name Amen ❤❤❤❤

[@JaxnVideos]

@creolepleasurezzllchicks778 Hey, here's the link to my BEST free dating advice for women 40+ derrickjaxn.rurl.me/40andupfreeadvice2

[@BHall-xm4mv]

Thanks for confirming what I was feeling!!

[@user-sp3sy5zi8i]

I’m still broken and don’t think I’ll ever feel better or normal like I was before. I lost such a big part of myself and who I was

[@karenmutile8923]

Step for step IT Like climbing a stairs of Loving yourself,listening to this KZbin IS one step you have taken i congratulate you sisterhood

[@riasb]

Also, I felt a pull to tell you this. Anything you put out there such as your goodness and love. It will come back to you tenfold. Nothing is lost in God.

[@bregettewashington]

You are so on point and you are special I didn't get anything for Valentine's Day and wasn't happy and I am done not happy and moving on

[@c.edwards5421]

My brother buys his daughter a cake and roses on her bday and delivers it to her school.

[@Shemmise]

Thankyou so much! This really hit home. 💯

[@tammygarrett8427]

Your brother is smart to teach his daughter how to be treated

[@lindagiles9883]

Great job as a dad! Your daughter will gauge her future love and expectations by what she learns from you! 👍

[@_MakeManifest_]

You're awesome Derrick 🙌🏽 Honest and authentic 🙌🏽

[@LonjeMarie7]

When those BMM come into my life, I’m loving kind and respectful, and I request what they should be willing to give matching my energy efforts, etc. they bless me when they just disappear out of my life

[@prposefull8715]

I give thanks to THE MOST HIGH for the gifts you possess to teach, educate, enlighten. TRUELY. I'm learning SO MUCH about how and why I allowed the horrific toxicity I used to call a relationship. I'm very proud to say that my healing journey began sometime back, but encountering your content has propelled me to new heights. Thank you 🙏🏼. As soon as I economically navigate myself out of this DV experience I will be signed up, so eager, and sincerely ready to take part in any CHALLENGE courses you present.

[@user-j7t8u]

I really appreciate you Derrick for telling us what to expect in real and loving relationships. Hearing the message so strongly from a brother is powerful and much needed! xx

[@user-ln4qe1sh8i]

I just left one of these. His Breadcrumbs and lack of emotions was just so hurtful to me. His reaction to my upset was completely immature. Thing is, I never signed up for the situation he put me in but for him, the perfect situation regardless of how it made me feel 😢

[@lindatillman4148]

Love you and your thoughts of bare minimum men. I never thought of this! Enlightening!❤

[@Keysofdavid444]

Thankyou for the confirmation of this truth!

[@terricastaples852]

I needed to hear this 💯💯💯💯🤗 GOD Bless You Brother 🙏

[@sonjacox4874]

Been there too many times unfortunately lesson learned

[@kita6707]

You’re a blessing, Derek. Thank you for this reminder of what we all know but convince ourselves to excuse.

[@kiwannajames9858]

Bare Minimum ❤ Limits Growth on every level.

[@HeIsSovereign09]

You are on point big brother concerning your daughter in pouring and demonstrating your love to her while she is young. That will speak volumes to her and when the time is right, she will know how to avoid bare minimum men. Very good!❤️

[@yeswing10]

Excellent talk. Needed this. Watching again.

[@firstptr3and10_]

Thank you. I resolve to stop giving me bare minimum. Break bad habits, start with a new habit and be consistent; talk to me as nicely as i try to talk to other people... etc. This feels good. I am going to watch it again. Thank you. ❤

[@wenyaknowbetter]

Just what I needed to hear 🙏🏽

[@lucianacabral9399]

Iam going to be a much stronger woman watching your vídeos. Thank you! From Brazil

[@LynnMarshall-y1t]

💯 brother ❤ the truth.

[@ZONDRAHARPER-i1q]

THANK YOU FOR YOUR VIDEOS! YOU KEEP IT REAL ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS!

[@willietowns3917]

Yes, a Queen will protect his manhood/not cheat...loyal🎉

[@bijoux171]

Dropping FACTS, once again!! 👏🏻

[@ChristinePuttock-gt5jw]

Oh yes! He was and still is a NIGHTMARE!!

[@LysaJ-i8l]

People place TOO much emphasis on being in a relationship. In particular, Black individuals are carrying historical environmental, and emotional trauma. Please read Post traumatic Slave Syndrome by Joy DeGruy. Black people HEAL, HEAL, HEAL! which means you need time alone to develop into your best self.

[@dreacase1778]

I complained about everything you spoke about and he never put any effort in the relationship; he just complained i was trying to change him and said his exes didn't have a problem with his personality.

[@sexygabby30]

Then why are they exes… see more bull after more bull.

[@MimiCoco-gt7zo]

Move on quickly

[@viviileee]

The only bare minimum I will take, at the very least, is minimum wage pay not men. I’ve learned to just keep walking and don’t turn back around to men like that.

[@lawantawilliams1906]

Sir,OMG SPEAK FACTS

[@dwilliams5700]

Married to one ... Smdh. Valentine's Day is just another day.

[@tammygarrett8427]

Sorry to hear that. Do self love. do not let your relationship drag you down my friend.

[@adriennelarkin8188]

Amen.

[@IceQueen19867]

I asked for my fiance to sing to me and dance with me for my birthday a couple years back. He gave the first excuse that his leg was still hurting, "you know I dont sing because it makes me miss my fav aunt ". The final one was I had a conversation with a mutual friend trying to make him feel better about that happened with his gf and used us as an example and how he can move forward/fix it. He said he didn't do what I asked for my birthday because I was spreading our business with someone who isn't my therapist. I can't talk to anyone about him/us. Mind you that was the last adult I had yo have a conversation with besides him or therapist (got 3 kids). Still waiting on that gift 2 years later

[@poetessaamiinah8273]

You are the absolute best! Thank you

[@hellonatashatherejohnson2320]

🙌🏽 FACTS

[@nomessnostress]

Why you soooo on point

[@sherules5005]

I need this kind of wisdom....daily ✌🏾

[@Tina-q2q9k]

Yes n yes. N thank got he's out. ..I pity his current so called girlfriend....

[@bonitacarlisle6081]

DO GOOD BY YOURSELF!!!!!! GOD WILL SUPPLY OH YEZZZZ HE WILL♥👑

[@leehampton1967]

Putting a word in for your baby girl 🎉🎉😊too cute and real! Keep up the good words

[@Tina-q2q9k]

He never sacraficed a dam thing...n hell never be there in the hard times

[@kizzyward2339]

I totally agree, and I'm speaking from experience!

[@jjcarr6606]

We should have the right to warn the next woman to stay away from these men so they don't have to go through with us and the women before us and the women after us go through

[@IslandsLumpias]

❤ Keep doing all that for your daughter, so she will understand how high her standards MUST be. ❤

[@skrtmusic2061]

I would love to get a copy of that book. I am struggling in my relationship

[@yaniquemurphy6978]

I’m late to your videos. But you speaking facts!! Thanks Derrick

[@AnnikaPitts-g7u]

Amen to this I love your passion and felt as though you was telling me directly 😅

[@veronicadave1450]

Yep

[@Braveh3artGirl]

Check how he treats you 365 days a year and compare it to valentines day too. You’ll see the facts once you do a proper analysis.

[@Lavon_Professional]

You women need to stop choosing men off emotion and let God do it, hard truth to accept?

[@sexygabby30]

@@Lavon_Professionalexactly!!! Cause I’m sick of seeing all the crying and hurt. Yet keep going from one to the next. Not listening or seeing thinking somehow it’ll be different. This is insane.

[@nicolejennings2958]

I'm in a bare minimum relationship now ..smh

[@sherriflemming3218]

You deserve better!

[@moniqueteal7153]

This 🙌 💯‼️

[@amyslayton8830]

Especially when he went in the store and came back out with him a new tumbler cup and his dog new stuffed chew toy and me… nothing.

[@angeladixon4836]

Amen

[@Keana43]

Stay dropping 💎's

[@Lavon_Professional]

Why do you wear s much makeup?

[@hansdearie0051]

Everything you said is true...

[@rachael862]

The church day amen 🙏 🙌

[@stacydixson5534]

I’m done with accepting less I’m not going to have you give me any excuses I’m in my 60s you better have your A game when you come to me now I ain’t no joke I’m not dealing with the bare minimum I’m done

[@sandystoltz766]

Wow! So true.

[@SophiaParker-mc3kg]

Ooohh wee that would be me! I’m with one right now!

[@ConchettaTucker-vc3cm]

I....use to....hell....No...More!!!! Thank you God and Jesus 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

[@qualads]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@BelleDesiree]

I def had one

[@SophiaParker-mc3kg]

He does not give me flowers or anything for Valentine’s Day 😢

[@Prettyrissa]

Yes several times

[@gemltd1428]

Good channel following de about dating

[@p.nicolelawrence1978]

Yes, I did.

[@evangelathomas5061]

Sure would.

[@latashahumphrey769]

Post on point

[@1969boston]

My Daughter just started dating someone like this!!!

[@tammygarrett8427]

It is so hard to see your kids get hurt.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Tell your daughter to leave!

[@aa2210]

Nothing wrong with bare minimum men, just give the bare minimum as well and level the playing field.

[@SassyMylife]

That's a waste of time and gaslight when you are real. So bare minimum is for the birds.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Agree Sassy. The heave ho to these breadcrumbers .

[@followthestormtv]

learned alot here.

[@NalleliLifts]

Sir yes sir🫡

[@willietowns3917]

A Jerry Springer relationship 😮

[@rachael862]

Let the church say 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@jjcarr6606]

I was waiting till Valentine's Day and he didn't show up again not in person but in any other way. All he did was reciprocate an I love you text.

[@PamelaReyes]

Bible ...never settle

[@jjcarr6606]

Oh my goodness have you ever heard a relationship coach be more real and tell you go ahead and be you and deal with what you're accepting and think it's alright and you know in your heart it's not because why else are we watching these videos anyway ladies????