Accepting BARE MINIMUM is a disrespect to YOURSELF!

[@frahelis_betzaida8466]

If you reading this , YOU AINT ASKING FOR TOO MUCH , YOU JUST ASKING THE WRONG PERSON. Men will treat you how they FEEL about you .

[@brandylashay6012]

It’s hard sis because I know he loves me but we definitely tend to fall in love with potential rather than reality.

[@tammanthashaw5566]

Exactly

[@porschewalker5652]

🎯

[@swanam_1]

In narcissistic relationships, we're manipulated into believing that we should be grateful just to have someone willing to do the bare minimum.

[@sherriflemming3218]

It's a brainwash

[@marionschekierka6737]

Sooooooooo trueeeeeeee

[@constantinak6648]

Most men give the bare minimum and I have learned to block them

[@tammywithnell3469]

After trauma, at times we unconsciously put up walls and block our blessings.

[@sheilamyers45]

So true Tammy, I just realized that in myself

[@bxddielux9835]

Exactly the bare minimum is a must in a relationship , if they think they’re doing so much just by the bare minimum that’s because you’re with the wrong person who doesn’t think you’re worth more than the bare minimum 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@BETTERTIPSFORYOU]

Go where you feel HONORED! If it ain’t there, GET OUT😩🙀

[@tammanthashaw5566]

So true

[@purplehearts3287]

I've been disrespecting myself for 5 yrs. I feel so defeated. 😪 💔💔💔💔

[@TUFAAX411]

It's never too late to stand up for yourself. The day I left was the first day of happiness for me

[@michaelenegrant]

Forgive yourself. Remember you have a loving and forgiving father that loves and have forgiven you already. Take every second of each day one step at a time. Do the small things for yourself each day. Invest in yourself, spend time doing the same things you love and like to make yourself happy, pray for yourself and speak kindly to yourself. Remember you are most important. You will make it. You feel defeated now but you are not destroyed. God’s got you. Show up and show out for yourself more than you’ve ever done before.

[@purplehearts3287]

@@michaelenegrant I'm trying.

[@wealthymo2857]

Start to put yourself first in everything. He wont change because he has not made you his priory. You know you need to let him go or you wouldn't be watching this video. It would hurt at first, but watching these videos, will begin the healing process.

[@purplehearts3287]

@@wealthymo2857 Thank you. 😔

[@laurawilde2828]

I think we've all been there. Just don't unpack and stay

[@BlackDiamond8724]

Damn yo, I have legit been begging. I've always been a giver and kind in relationships, but I felt him slipping away. When I felt him slipping away I tried harder and harder. He gave less and less and I figured I should try more until I became drained. smdhhhh....

[@colamoses6041]

You are not alone...my life story.

[@rosalyntillery6164]

Same

[@sherriflemming3218]

Find another giver. Dispositional traits are important. Opposites repel each other.

[@modileshikoane8174]

That's the thing, u can't give someone that like more... You will give more and more while u get less than the bare minimum.

[@amandachristine9286]

In the beginning, I was walking around, no, I was BOUNCING around FULL OF LIFE. I was sleeping like a baby. I was having this bad dream every night for years before we got together and the bad dream even went away!! I was in so much love. He showered me with love and attention. I could cry like a baby right now thinking about how wonderful it was. I thanked God for him every night. He asked me to marry him. I said yes. Then, out of nowhere, everything changed. Everything. I thought that WAS it. I had been working on myself for years. He has completely checked out. I’ve tried everything. Now I wake up like I’ve been running all night and I can barely function. I’m begging for the bare minimum. I don’t understand. I know what I need to do but it’s just so hard. 😢

[@carladorn8948]

Thanks for all you do for the collective‼️🥰🔯🕉☯️☯️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏☯️☯️☯️☯️🙏🙏🙏

[@wealthymo2857]

You are talking the Truth and nothing but the Truth. Late last year, it had to take me to be ill, for Revelation. My family members had to step in, when he was doing the Bare Minimum. The moment I felt better, that was the end of that Nonsense. I have gone no contact and he tries to reach out, but I ignore his Time Wasting Arse. Today, I feel happier and God has helped my healing. The thing I would say Derrick, women who are Broken will put up with this type of behaviour. So, tread carefully, because many don't know they're acting out their childhood issues. I thank God for removing him from my life. Thankyou for sharing.

[@michellehight3303]

I did for 8 yrs. I left him. I'm happier alone and no more anxiety now and smiling more and happier

[@terriNCCC]

I did. I started to feel dead inside I let it go on for so long. It wasn’t abusive but I wasn’t getting the emotional support that I was giving

[@windyanderson4076]

Minimal Effort+ 1 sided investments= a 💔 😭 "Message"

[@justmenonya932]

I 1000% agree with this and this message is exactly for me right at this time im so thankful for this message!!!! Ive been putting in the work for mental and physical healing...exercising and being healthy and this is the last part... i love this. Thank you again

[@michelleryan6119]

Great! I needed this. No more disrespect.

[@sheilablanton4894]

HELLO THATS HOW I USETO FEEL I SMILE EVEYDAY I CAN AFTER A NARRSISSESTIC RELATIONSHIP !!!!!!

[@gwortman3515]

Put you 1st always

[@amyk8488]

Your videos are so straight honest. I just love them. You are the only one one the internet that's really getting down to it in detail.

[@clarethaperrier6034]

You are 💯 speaking truth I am Awake now. NOLA

[@amymorrissy1322]

Idk if it's me being petty but I got tired of begging for him to help with keeping our home clean. Dishes, laundry, taking out the trash, etc. Lost alot of family in the 2 years we were together, had to pretty much twist his arm to even get him to ask for time off to be with me and support me in hard times. Yet he kept hinting he wanted to get down and was still expecting certain things from me. I ended up breaking it off and now just waiting for him to pack up and go

[@feliciawilliams5513]

I have but I had to learn self love and now I will not allow anyone to give me bare min when I'm giving my all

[@tammanthashaw5566]

He is exactly right, 💯 percent TRUTH. Its like someone telling you, you need nice shoes. But when you gonto the store with him, YOU BE THE ONE BUYING THE SHOES. HE WONT EVEN MAKE SURE YOU GET WHAT YOU NEED, EVEN IF YOU ASK.

[@usomexmartin220]

Truth hurts 😩😟 but you RIGHT Derrick💯💯 If he wanted to he would!

[@indyd9322]

100% Correct! There's a saying, before you call a person depressed, make sure they're aren't surrounded by a**holes.

[@sharonb519]

Loud and clear in NC!

[@don4glenn]

I had to learn to 'draw the line in the cement'; to make up my mind NOT to short-change me and to not allow anyone else to do the same.

[@adriennelarkin8188]

Hello Derrick, That,s why i,m taking a break from the Relationship.

[@stilettosnthaghetto6997]

I go through this all the time but I never stay after the second oh my bad things have been crazy I've been working I split. My issue is I beat myself up afterwards I tear myself down I try to rationalize and create logic where there is none and it leaves me weary with zero energy to even exist in a day no tears just void it's awful.

[@tinatravis5227]

We'll put! From Shreveport LA!

[@Jasmine-et4zm]

Hey from New Orleans 🥰

[@robynwinfield4024]

Oh yes clearly.Florida. I am ashamed of myself. I feel like I am addicted to it. He is using me I think. Wow thank you. I need to break free.

[@robinjayne9556]

Same. ❤

[@patharris5603]

Yes I did and I agree 💯and checking in from North Carolina

[@tracyhowell3409]

Great 👍🏽 insightful Topic" Thanks Derrick 😊

[@KKP20111]

You couldn't be more right and correct, D! 💯💯💯

[@wanstar1771]

Exactlyyyyy! Another excellent video, we appreciate you so much for the gems!! Thank youuuu 💙🙏🏽

[@janebotelho2185]

Your great thank with all my heart

[@tristamarie7115]

And then the person who is giving the bare minimum says, 'Why didn't you call me out?' ....Come on now!

[@Itsnurselo2you]

Just finish dealing with this and I chose to choose myself because i am worthy of more

[@conquesotador]

Thank you for this message.

[@precisiongrindin1848]

He makes a great point. da'naia jackson accepted the bare minimum and it destroyed her

[@marywomack1011]

Yes I have been this person with my husband in so many ways n years again thank God for u

[@andreawerder6385]

EXCELLENT! This is my favorite video of Derrick

[@Gurlhmong]

Yup! Getting ready to leave his bare minimum a$$. 👏

[@Jules-t9m]

Glasgow, Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 ❤

[@la57mo]

You're absolutely correct

[@mzbreezy7561]

Checking in from Texas and I hear you and forgive myself str8 Facts

[@drkhushi_1]

You’re speaking my heart out 🥹❤

[@clairewilliams7762]

I've got so many other women I want to seriously hear this and really injest this!

[@pearlhunter2440]

That's exactly why I'm almost quick to walk out on a mug. And always reluctant to give mugs a chance in the 1st place. No mas... 🏃‍♀️💨💯

[@crunchybobaasmr2130]

That means people that treat people with disrespect is just immoral. Because most of the guys i met are just minimum and i left them

[@sassyb3848]

Eye opening truth! Omg!

[@crazyxpankes]

I gave bare minimum I’m glad I found this video it was already too late for me it’s never too late to someone who needs to hear somethin like this cause it’s treat people the way you wanted to be treated

[@sheastellocooper2569]

You are right in everything you are saying

[@meganpinder7742]

The Bahamas is listening

[@stephaniewaggoner5144]

That’s me I’m dying……. Inside and outside 😢 ❤ Rosewood Hts Illinois

[@JacobGoldstein]

they are being honest authentic fr

[@watchingthewaves1]

When your bf takes hours to text back or goes a day with out talking to me is that bare minimum? I feel so much anxiety about this 😞

[@misterhenchmen]

if he is showing up for you in other ways that doesn't sound too bad but.. do you feel he is busy with his life? that's what it sounds like to me. or is it something else that he does that bothers you?

[@watchingthewaves1]

@@misterhenchmen I guess He doesn’t make me feel safe and secure. I am not sure if it is me just being insecure or if it’s my intuition speaking

[@Empress-jw5gc]

We hear you in Jamaica

[@spiritualistdestiny76]

Truth be told!!!

[@renzenker2526]

Thank you! God bless you!

[@seagxddessgeaux]

LMN here I did it in a 15 year marriage

[@deeai2283]

What's up! I'm from the Philippines 🇵🇭

[@tonyamadison2980]

Thank you for this message 💯

[@mmommo10]

AN ACTIVE PART... love it.

[@SG-nu7go]

So is going dead inside means the relationship is bad especially when you started the relationship feeling alive?

[@lindaclark3993]

United Kingdom Your brilliant 😊

[@misterhenchmen]

all true, very verrrry true. sharing. thank you.

[@daisyjaefit]

👏👏👏 just what I needed!

[@tanyamontgomery3172]

I get what u saying it is so TRUE ladies know your worth

[@lasonialamay6786]

Tx. 💯 truth!"i"

[@dorothyabercrombie5099]

I can hear you fine! Greenville S.C.

[@angelaabbs647]

I, just recently. I put him on no contact. I deserve 100% better.

[@lesegomatlhale6282]

I definitely went through all'a dat.

[@fellhubb4490]

New Jersey...Great Job !🙂

[@nancygeldres586]

Thank you sooo much, ur the best😊❤

[@adreannetorres7448]

I was in a relationship like that secundaria time in my life time

[@KKP20111]

Realest Talk! 💯

[@kanchanmala8488]

Let's us self celebrate ourselves! 😀

[@rahdigga77]

this is spiritual science

[@spotteddoe1]

Ask yourself…Are they texting/calling you or just responding to you?!

[@maryamzizi13]

I love you so much Derrick ❤️❤️

[@lindaclark3993]

I hear you it's happening to me

[@maryamzizi13]

I love you guys so much ❤️❤️

[@roserodriguez582]

Facts 💯

[@robynwinfield4024]

Straight up you are right about the health issues. Yes! A lot. Physical. I can not gain weight. Iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii.

[@dawnoutland17]

I needed this!

[@evettekey2247]

I understand.

[@donnitafranklin1857]

Michigan ❤

[@His.Heart.]

i totally agree with all of this, beeb through it all.

[@jasminedelee2286]

So True

[@carolynhanner5436]

Meant he started giving me the bare minimum. I let go in June. Let him back in July. Then he's been gone every since..Unbelievable

[@Beautifully_Chaotic3109]

Definitely agree

[@autodidactic]

Minnesota

[@sheliasmith2884]

You are a blessing

[@aminac1299]

Ohh my god. This is so true

[@kanchanmala8488]

Now I will go and have an ablution in River Ganges! 😕

[@simplyneesha5736]

I have had that situation before

[@tme98]

I got irritated at her because we were gonna have a date night at her place, and her living room and kitchen was a pure mess. She has 1 rabbit, 3 cats and 3 dogs living there so obviously it is a lot of responsibility and difficult to keep clean. I was irritated because she didn't clean up before I got there and she started crying saying I was attacking her and if I weren't gonna stop then I should just leave... So I leave, to let her and myself calm down, two minutes later I get a text saying "you made the wrong choice", because she wanted to continue the argument. I always clean when I visit her. I am forced to share her bed with 3 dogs which she says she always puts before me, and in addition to this she never wants to help me out sexually, so I am basically just her maid when I am there which occasionally kisses her.

[@Judybell1959]

He said the things he done with other women 10 years ago when I had cancer that it was bullshit

[@MoonFoxASMR]

Amen

[@sonys9510]

I Cincinnati Ohio