Black Love Live | How to Heal in a Marriage

[@leslieanderson4292]

When Kev said the gifts were never for her but for his ego, I felt that... this was good!

[@shashavengesayi6055]

Watching these clips makes me feel like I'm in a masterclass for my future marriage. But on a real note Kevin was asking for a death sentence with that comment

[@tanyaparker776]

YASSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!! Agreed!!!

[@ayanaresellerqueen1685]

We live in Washington State with the 2 of them. Kev always on the edge. 😂

[@ayanaresellerqueen1685]

@Miss Dor's daughter also here in Washington State

[@allyb5156]

I love Melissa's realness !! I could listen to her talk for hours without getting annoyed

[@cherishdeb]

yeeessss

[@katharine1285]

Me too Chile

[@Reeses710]

Lol, "I know some women that would've liked that gift" …..and Kev is still here to tell his side of his story, lol!!!

[@eileene]

Kevin🤦‍♂️😱

[@shashavengesayi6055]

that's a death sentence right there XD

[@BluDrop5]

Go ahead and find those women, then...lol.

[@smiley7240]

I stopped what I was doing and yelled "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO" and started looking for his funeral information :/

[@jontisesamuelslewis7092]

I'm sayin' though!! He was willing to risk it all over them Louboutins 😆😆

[@ashleyrenee3906]

The key to Liss refusing to "be her parents" is having a partner who is willing to listen, respond, and adjust. If Kev only ever criticized her concerns if would be difficult. But at least she could say she she tried and be able to walk away with peace if she chose to do so.

[@pathairiston9493]

Good point

[@jalessabragg3230]

I love the rawness of their stories and the unadulterated truth! This is the best thing next to church! Amen

[@TheMichelleRena]

That was a testimony Kev, you preach when you want to

[@RashekaO]

Melissa is so right. I have been a passive person for most of my life but recently I have been very vocal with my partner right away when things bother me. I have been known for holding things in but as I’m getting older and more mature I see how critical it is to communicate, effectively of course, right away when something bothers me.

[@HBoyzFan]

Rasheka Tukes same. I am still learning to walk in my truth (it’s tough when you’ve been complacent for so long)

[@RashekaO]

Delisha Renee Yes it is! It is definitely a process.

[@moni7997]

I'm going through this process now. Like you both have said, it's so difficult to find your voice and be "unbothered" at people's reactions when you do speak your mind and stand up for yourself after being passive, quiet, and accepting of others treatment towards you when you've been that way for your ENTIRE life.

[@KushQueen9]

Yes I love this and I can absolutely relate. I realised this is something I have started changing too.

[@Nahnie-jb8wo]

Fiance said the same to me ... "I know plenty of women who'd love to live in this house (referring to his new home) ... He knew he was wrong as soon as it flew out of his mouth. But I'll be honest, it really crushed me.

[@xinryokux]

🙏🏿

[@natashaj4078]

My mouth dropped open and is still open as i type. Kevin kept it real.

[@Blessemm-c26]

These conversations are so reflective. I just had an epiphany that could lead to a forgiveness of myself that I have been longing for, for years. Thank you Lord! 🙏🏽😇

[@tanyaparker776]

May you always find your path to forgiving yourself with wisdom and ease.

[@Blessemm-c26]

Thank you so much for your kind words. God bless!

[@GoogleAccount00]

❤️

[@jazzyjazz2749]

Transparency and Humbleness 😃

[@twosaints4147]

This is REALLY good stuff. Candid conversations about marriage and how to have it work.

[@papapeedo]

Melissa- Do NOT give up on this man-it feels like your journey should not end the same as your mom!!

[@liveinviolet2908]

7:11 I was LITERALLY yelling at the phone screen with this one 😩 Nooo KevOnStage!! WHEW CHILE 😨

[@virgodiva2811]

Guuuuuurl...you and me both!!! Chiiiiile they had to double the security for Kev when they left the venue that night!!! 😳😳😳😲😲😲😱😱😱

[@camillebranker6218]

Love how real Kev was here.

[@anyaangel1354]

Melisa is so full of wisdom , I’m clicking on everything she’s apart of

[@ItsBridjanay]

I love the reaction to Kevs comment about other women liking the shoes 😂😂😂😂

[@valerieesther5549]

Wooow, Mellisa you are so deep and wise. These are beautiful words!

[@keshianserenity]

I love that. She wanted him to see her!

[@LoniLoni11]

Why am I just seeing this video with Mel and Kev?! Oh my gosh Mel yes feel the feels and do that change that you feel will help keep your marriage together. Amen!

[@Christimony222]

I am so grateful for this channel. God has truly used your marriage to bless an entire collective and save/construct many families. That is such a calling!

[@wesleyking2212]

For me, I love hearing from elders on marital situations. Receiving wisdom from grandma & grandpa never fails..

[@LoniLoni11]

The reaction to Kev talking about other women liking the gift possibly- same here!!

[@TheBeatofRhythmixity]

As a married woman, this was good, helpful and entertaining!

[@cicelyingram7683]

@KevOnStage- great insight! Your courage to be authentic and transparent is transformational! Keep it going! Changing lives!

[@bredbornraised808hawaii4]

Im just speechless! I wish my husband would take just 1% of your tips! Been together now since 2007 almost 18 years this year. We have grown SO FAR APART it hurts my soul. He ALWAYS throws things in my face and says things like “you liked doing it when we just met” or “you liked it when we were strangers” and YES thats the truth. I DID like it, but seriously! I’ve GROWN older and have evolved more into a woman and a person. I dont like the SAME THINGS i liked 20 years ago. OR maybe it could be I CANT do the same things ive done 20 years ago! Im turning 50y/o this year, i know its still young BUT i dont feel like im in my late 20s/early 30s no mo! I’ve LOST myself in between the years. When she said “i dont even know what i like” that hit me really hard. When im asked “what do you like doing or whats your hobbies” i have no answer because i REALLY DONT KNOW! And that is really sad! Anyway, sorry for the long post. I just really appreciate this show because it’s very inspiring and very informative. Thank you so much.

[@tanyaparker776]

How can we get the full series....wait... that's too much growth in one sitting, continue on!! Lol

[@LoniLoni11]

Kev and Mel are so funny !!!! Love them!

[@EbonyShareeVanCharles]

SCREAMS "KEVIN!!!" like the mom from Home Alone when he said that comment about the other women LMBO

[@opreeceb]

Man this was so good 😊to be seen is so underrated 😊

[@SpiritualLifeCoach43]

Amazing show. I really love it. Thank You.

[@sabrinap1]

I think some men are just not as observant and if you don’t speak up they will never know but I get it saying “thank you” so that you don’t hurt their feelings

[@renewilson2540]

Wisdom, you guys spoke nothing but wisdom!

[@violetsni]

Hey love. Start at 5:00

[@bethanypierce_momlife4]

This was so good!

[@jontisesamuelslewis7092]

Melissa!! Speak, Sis!! ❤

[@VersieJean]

Love these talks!! What is the beat playing at the end of the video?

[@TXbutterfly_0816]

Good job Kev

[@norapeace6526]

“I got her the shiny ones” men 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️🤣😭 they think they doing the right thing.. it’s cute!! But wrong! 🤣

[@92Tweetylove]

Absolutely amazing!

[@LifeisSoSincere]

THIS 🖤

[@delaciwoods8864]

My favorite black relationships

[@tangeladavis7882]

He makes me feel so so special 🥰

[@ShalomHazel]

I love this❤❤❤

[@carlacooper2410]

Wow! So much understanding

[@rieuirab4732]

Just past minute 7 is where the gold is at

[@SoulfulRose]

Much needed

[@mcmic1212]

7:13 I almost exit the building....whew! I felt something.

[@violetsni]

Start at 5:00

[@stanmoney8470]

Many people give up on marriage today! The quit over the slightest things!

[@juliavaoitamaevamareko4661]

If married couples would be willing to give energy to elevate & less egomaniacal in situations then perhaps there would be harmony between them.

[@gaillastof837]

As we try not to be our parents, ain't it funny how we may say some of the things they said to us. At least we can pick and choose to do things our way from the catalogue examples in our mind.

[@MrsMoore1]

A word! I notice it more and more that I sound like my mom! Cringe lol 😫😩😂😂

[@ddf5878]

Aye I see you Bizzle at the end there!!!

[@allyb5156]

So from what I see is Kevin love language is presents/gifts because that is how he shows his wife love. But it's obvious that's not her love language.

[@purplerose3565]

Exactly I was going to say the same thing. I'm like Melissa my love language isn't gifts, so when someone gives me a gift I see it as a kind gesture. I can see why knowing mine and my partner's love language is very important. I know mine is physical touch and acts of service.

[@k.alvarado6237]

Her language is probably Quality Time.

[@purplerose3565]

@@k.alvarado6237 You might be right. I'm really good at picking up a person's love language when I'm around them .

[@Carrrnversations]

Soooo good

[@TamsPsychAdvice]

Love Melissa and Kev but… My feelings would’ve been hurt with her reaction towards a gift. For me, it’s the thought that counts. If a gift can’t come from the heart, it’s difficult to guess/mindread what someone likes or what their style is and then hold them accountable for being a bad person when they tried to get something nice. I think it would be better to give the person a list of things that you want. Honesty, to me falls more in the category of you hurt my feelings when you said… Or Saying things like I’m not a seafood person. Overall though, I really liked them a lot and I think they made excellent points.

[@lwills8609]

For 20 years she did the "thought that counts." What she is saying is that after 20 years, she should be able to express what she doesn't like. If anyone's ego is so fragile that they can not allow or understand a person to tell them what they like then something is wrong. He paid a lot of money for a gift that she did not like. She didn't like them. All these years, he gave her what he wanted her to have not what she liked. When she told him to look in her closet and pay attention to her, things changed. He said it himself that his gifts now have been the best. He now sees his wife for who she really is and he likes it. They both like it.

[@heidistringfield7351]

That’s where knowing a person and really paying attention comes in.. he didn’t give it any thought he just bought what he thought would make him look good

[@tubailey2459]

Melissa please don’t let your grief over your parents divorce make you mess up your own.

[@femdivinemind7777]

Loo Boat'nz yoooo 😂😭😂😭

[@ChanelStar1]

*Men, Women do not care what other women like...*

[@menac540]

🖤

[@aprilcarr9346]

Me and husband been married for 31 years together for 32 infidelity playing a role in our relationship he fell in love with somebody else and file for divorce I'm lost it's more to the story but i hate texting

[@mylifeasme5791]

I’m so sorry you went through that. But you got it, I know I can’t relate to having my life so woven into someone else but... you will get through this I PROMISE!

[@f.-j.j.5738]

I'm sorry. You're not lost. He is. You'll be ok.

[@pedicabfilms8791]

Kevin is on point his stories out of everybody seemed the most real on what married couples go through... I don't think his wife is happy with his success and where his career is going.... she trying to keep him right there. she ain't happy with that elevation. Its just a pair of shoes what's the big deal?... make no mistake your husband or wife is a representation of your ego... so if you feeling bling blingish, your mate suppose to represent that even when you are not. Kevin may not have the opportunity to buy some bling bling shoes but he most definitely might want his wife to represent that. Case in point, couple in the middle, he dressed all the way down but his wife his dolled up. she represents his financial come up and he may be representing her being down for what ever, putting in that work. all I'm saying is don't bite your ego AND THE I AINT DODO...BECAUSE IT'S NOT ABOUT MATCHING OUTFITS, its about being equally yoked mentally physically and emotionally. Like yall said it's about the small things.

[@nzuzothwala9683]

I totally get her though, I'm not married but no matter how wealthy we get I will never like blingy or show off stuff unless I get an iPhone update, then I'll let you know that babe, I think I'm in my bling era... Otherwise as me, I forever want you to get me the most low key uniquest pair of shoes. If there's nude, shiny, n black imma probably go for the most low key, most practical for me pair 💯 no hard feelings

[@drtash21]

You came for 7:13 didn't you??

[@FlipStar26]

Time of death: 7:13.

[@syckindahead]

7:17 NO HE DIDN'T!!!💀

[@LoniLoni11]

This was some shit right here!!!!

[@cindys2995]

Still alive after that? God is REAL! LOL!!!

[@Ms.Jamieh297]

😂🤣👌🙌

[@straightoutofstrat8722]

Love the show, but when are you going to bring couples up on the stage who are not celebrates to talk about their black love???.

[@filmadcamp1512]

You can watch non-celebrities on the TV show. The attendants pay to come to this. They wanna see familiar faces. You're not paying. So just watch and be happy you get to see the gems that were dropped.

[@straightoutofstrat8722]

First and foremost thank you for your negative response back to me. I don't know who you are telling people to be glad for the celebrities are on the show, I stated before that I love watching the show. Before you write anything else ensure you engage your grey matter and say something more positive, as I was just asking a question and secondly you don't no which part of the world that I am situation so how can you say that??.

[@straightoutofstrat8722]

This show is based on black love so it would be highly appreciated if you showed the same kind of positivity.

[@straightoutofstrat8722]

Very disappointed with your conduct, you could have responded in a much more professional or constructive manner. I am all about positivity.

[@filmadcamp1512]

@@straightoutofstrat8722 Okay... You are clearly looking for attention. Your original comment was negative and wrong. You can be happy or not be happy. It won't change their panel selection.

[@latisewilson4561]

Why did she keep her mouth shut for 20 years?! No wonder he got upset. That's not fair to him

[@milkan.8552]

In my humble opinion, I think the moment she decided not to hold stuff within herself and allowed herself to evolve as she matures is the moment she decided to be true to herself. Think about this, if your boyfriend of a few months bought you something, may it be so small, you would genuinely be appreciative of the thought of it. If you married him and 20 years later he gives you something that’s does not suit you, regardless of how expensive, of course you’ll say thanks but if you have some sadness because you feel your now husband of 20 years hasn’t really known your preferences, you would be wise to communicate that with him so that he understands that the issue is not the gift, it’s whether he’s growing and evolving with you as you grow old together. The girl you were 20 years ago is not the same woman you are today. I hope that makes sense.

[@toomuchinformation]

@@milkan.8552 Very well explained.

[@jeffreylaury6549]

People shouldn't get married until they're early thirties by then you know who you are as a man or woman.

[@shannonangel3980]

There is a difference between being honest and being cruel or insensitive. Some people use the guise of "being honest" as an opportunity to say any and everything... and that's not cool.

[@rosej5029]

Men aren't keeping things inside for 20 years in a marriage?

[@MrsMoore1]

They are and they DO!!!!

[@RoSho26]

They absolutely will!

[@papapeedo]

Melissa and Kevin= Watching them on stage- she is so distanced- legs closed- off to the side- hiding in the corner of the couch- and her husband Kevin gets closer and closer so he is almost smooshing her.... I love what they have to say and the words they speak- but there is still something going on between them....

[@tporter6495]

They're a work in progress just like everyone else. Kev has a big boisterous personality that takes up space and Melissa explained that she's used to shrinking herself to adapt. Its going to take a while to unlearn a 20 year habit but these traits portray themselves in body language too. Her body language will expand as she does

[@aatiti2011]

She is an introvert, really introvert. I think being in public with so many ppl to talk might explain the body language. It's completely different in their podcast