Black Love Live | Prioritizing Sex in a Relationship

On this episode of Black Love Live, our couples discuss the importance of prioritizing and creating time for sex in their marriages. While Kev is getting FaceTime ""snacks,"" Dondré is waiting on the sound of a locked door. Watch now to find out why!
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[@jocelynd7669]

This is so random but I love how Kev is growing just being himself. Melissa too! They are being so honest, but to be able to keep a crowd like that while talking about something as intimate as their own marriage -- I'm all for it! So happy for them!

[@brooklynforever1990]

“Gimme three I’ll give you seven back!” “To this day when I hear a locked door!” 😂 Kev and Dondre are hilarious!

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[@titanforest2195]

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[@mickyfingaz]

"Somebody lock a door? Who's lockin' doors around here?" LOL!! I just spit out my drink! HAHAHAHA!!

[@adoringgalore5636]

As much as there are spaces for interracial love, it’s nice to see spaces for black love too!

[@judlynewitit]

Thatchickangel and Marcus are in the audience!! 🥰

[@Passion84GodAlways]

GURRRRLLLLL....I said OUTLOUD AAAAND POINTED - "Oh! There's Angel & Marcus!" like I was pointing out family members to a friend! 😆😅

[@Passion84GodAlways]

@@candyjamaican Angel is an actress/comedian that has her own YT channel (name in original comment) who also co-hosts "Here's The Thing with KevOnStage. Marcus is Angel's husband.

[@michaelcalixte555]

Everybody keep commenting on the dude with his foot on the couch but what I really wanna know is... why his foot on the couch????

[@saetae9208]

😂😂😂

[@JoJo-op5xy]

😂

[@bkrnj_]

😂😂😂

[@CheekyPoo22]

FIRST AND FOREMOST....Who else was triggered by his foot all up on that couch like that? We KNOW he know better

[@moni7997]

🙋🏾‍♀️

[@Gigilovehugs]

He is comfortable

[@kashaleon2768]

You wild for that one. Yasss!!!!

[@shemireyahlilly5521]

I thought I was being petty. I was like take your foot of the couch. It was getting on my nerves looking at a grown man sit like that.

[@Aritul]

🙋🏾‍♀️. Me too..

[@LisaX84]

kevin's wife is so beautiful....

[@Reeses710]

Lol, Kev is hilarious!! Loved this clip!!

[@chrisisslick]

Dondre spoke the TRUTH! "My job to stay out the streets and yours to make it easier. " best advice for any relationship on this matter.

[@thatruth8900]

Couldnt agree more and I am a woman

[@RahYisrael99]

Meaning that he really wants to be in the streets.

[@darrylynquick478]

@@RahYisrael99 doesn't every man

[@sofumba]

It's not that we want to be in the streets, it's just that don;t want to come home having to BEG for what is rightly our portion in being Married. We just have a strong sex drive, and if we are Husbands of integrity, we need wives of the same... AMEN?

[@Brainhoneywalker]

Homie is Rick James-ing that white sofa.

[@RealtorDRFoster]

Dondre's comment, "My job is to stay out of the streets. Your job is to make it easier." I think that works both ways. Women are made to believe that if they don't do the right thing, men will stray. While that is true, husband's need to remember the same about their wives. Women want love not just sex. Rules might work for some women, but not many. And I'm sorry but, I would NEVER want my marital business out there for everyone to know. That's not knocking anyone else's choice.

[@Lyssacakes]

I wish the wives spoke on this topic too in this clip

[@ItsSimplyZoe]

Me too! It made me uncomfy how it seemed to be one sided. Don't the women want sex too? But I'm not married so I don't know...

[@onthemudd1]

Men and women have a different wiring when it comes to sexual dersire, sex drive etc. So most women need to feel wanted and special to have sex. Men usually are the oposite we feel special after we have sex... we just have to negotiate and communicate our needs.

[@lovelykupenga640]

So true.. Women's perspective is very important

[@onthemudd1]

@@lovelykupenga640 I wish that at least one woman would give their view/perspective on what a woman expects in a sexual encounter with her husband from how to initiate, foreplay, plateau, orgasm, and resolution phases. Over 20 yrs married and still its not clear.😓 I know there will be somethings a bit different, but there maybe general patterns.

[@Maiden_Warrior_Crone]

@@ItsSimplyZoe Thank you! I'm wondering the same thing!

[@theblerdshow]

Everybody commenting about this guys foot on the couch. He's the creator of the show, its his couch.

[@SermonsSubtitled]

This is off topic but why did the guy in the middle put his foot on the white couch? lol

[@shemireyahlilly5521]

Exactly I was like why is he sitting like that?

[@TheRenee10]

It was bothering me loo

[@tanikainsight8271]

Me too ,like don’t duty up the couch

[@Aritul]

Yes! That was the first thing I saw.

[@n.g.3513]

LMAO when he told the audience he didn't give a damn about any of them we knew this was not your average brother. Funny thing is that knee is going to lock up like a janitor when he decides to get up.

[@Noonecares3203]

Would have been nice to hear the women speak honestly about this

[@enmodelife]

OMG Yes!! That's the problem with society in general, women NEVER speak honestly about it, so men assume we feel the EXACT same way about sex in general. Then, they use it to gaslight the women in their lives who do have the guts to be honest about it in their relationship...They even assume that the reasons we actually DO want it (WHEN we do) are the exact same as why men want and need it 😕 I don't know why women can't just be honest.

[@PSALMSOFSONGS]

Sex is a very important detail in marriage. If you both are well and running (😉 lol), then satisfy each other. I also believe another form of affection is just being there with each other talking, laughing, deep conversations, expressions etc.

[@charlestaylor6066]

You get affection. They get sex. Fair trade

[@eleanorcohen1146]

I very much agree.

[@jameelaslaughter717]

That’s true but people need to start addressing hygiene in these videos some people want intermittency but don’t properly wash or take care of themselves and that’s a big turn off but they expect the big band theory

[@kejuanlynette8531]

Did he said 36 carries? Lol😂😂 This was a cute clip! I like The Whitfields and Fredericks 👌🏽

[@dari4303]

Dondre is hilarious!🤣😭

[@greenegreene6042]

Dondré is just as wise as he’s funny 😂 I absolutely love this channel ❤️❤️❤️

[@Ayesha_Michelle]

It so interesting how Men think that they want sex more than Women do. No we want it just as much, but we ain't tryna feel like a booty call.

[@itsautomatik1470]

If you feel like a booty call in your marriage....you need to rethink what your idea of marriage is.

[@enmodelife]

They think that because for the most part, it is actually true and very accurate to most men's experience. Men and women are not, and will never be wired the same.

[@itsautomatik1470]

@Open Minded I'm saying real intimacy isn't a booty call

[@islandgirl8914]

Well said Kev.....

[@amaj_lex]

Dondre go way back. He's very funny!!!

[@janiceburton7119]

Dondre is so passionate! and hilarious! I like the 3 day rule. I’m divorced but I’ll have to remember that if/when I marry again.

[@LovelyPeach40]

Love it, Thank you I have been doing it right, just with the wrong person

[@wongamas7185]

2:00 you could just tell by his posture that, that he really doesn't care about the audience and the project as a whole.

[@christinaduplessis4332]

Really good content... keeping it REAL.

[@rhythmoflove2]

Why is his foot on that couch with those shoes on? Why?

[@foziaa1459]

Exactly. Who does that.....on a white/beige couch? 🤒

[@jdfodio]

No. Home. Training.

[@CheekyPoo22]

Baby find my comment, I said the same thing! That's a relationship read outta this world

[@denisedean2446]

Immaturity and he is a mood. Not feeling him. Childish

[@marilynseptember21]

He's just comfortable. I don't like it but this is why some of us are single, learning to overlook simple things in life. There's more important things than this. I'm learning to let go.

[@christianallsmiles5797]

Who locking doors around here 🖤🖤.. Get so busy & caught up working u just have to realize I need that special touch make u slow down a lil after especially when it's d one u want & need it from LOVE is a great thing with d right one🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤❤️❤️

[@blackcoffee2002]

I wanna hear about wives talking about then men who be holdin out...it ain't always the women!

[@georgeblack2749]

I wish the women talked here.

[@enmodelife]

I'm glad they didn't. Because there is a saying that basically translates to: "also pay attention to what's NOT being said". Women are NOT biologically wired like men, and never will be (just like men are not wired like women). As a woman, I know that's why they were quiet. For the most part, we don't feel the *EXACT* same way as men do about sex in a relationship...and we've been conditioned by a patriarchal society to be as dishonest or quiet as possible about it.

[@juicymo8356]

🖤Love this clip! BUT i would've enjoyed it even more if Cody took off his shoes and woula been chillin in the couch laxed😁

[@janay7892]

His foot on the sofa was getting on my nerves. Lol.

[@DanyellBordeaux]

Good stuff, real talk!

[@moniquewilson3871]

Dondre is 💯% right about what be said.

[@6familyfirst]

That locked door tho 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

[@kdrew8679]

Kids always know it's about to go down and that's when they need their mommy🤣

[@fragrancesandthingswithtee2838]

Damn I wish God can bless me with a man like these man one day

[@noendlovu4788]

I am sure that Tommy is relaxed and maybe feeling “at home” but can you take your foot off the couch, and sit like you are a gentleman in a public setting🤪😂😂 Otherwise I am enjoying all of you and the show👏🏾

[@starslove6341]

I love love love this show ❤️❤️

[@mimimaneuver5797]

These two men how could u not stay married forever they make u laugh when ur mad 🤣

[@everexpecting3755]

Men actually NEED IT SISTAHS!!! It takes such a short amount of time ladies....don't make him beg. I learned this too! But I also learned Power lies in the Power you wield baby so don't get it twisted!!! It doesn't have to be a one way street of service. Once you get into it...Amen and Amen!!! You're making a deposit...so you can withdraw as needed 😳 😉

[@rogerarvizu5558]

Wait what? 🤣🤣

[@Realrap2727]

Sis talk A LOT (Granted it's her show) but she ain't have Nothing to say when her husband spoke his heart. I Pray she Truly works on making her husband feel LESS Invisible.

[@DimpledNatural]

He was crying out lol

[@filmadcamp1512]

@@DimpledNatural Yeah I feel that you can see it all in his face.

[@diplomat2623]

There’s low key role reversals there in my opinion and that’s not good.

[@lifeaskeyha3172]

Yes ma'am I agree, but I don't like how he said idgaf about y'all? like I feel that was unnecessary. She does seem like she wears the pants, and he's the more chill and relaxed one

[@mi834]

Ya all are spot on! Something is off about the creators. The husband seems very neglected and unhappy and the wife acts like the show is her husband. He was literally begging for attention.

[@stacymcbride6953]

DONDRE IS MY BOY 😎✌🏾✌🏾

[@juliavaoitamaevamareko4661]

Our kids need to be away from the house when it's time for love making 💗. Both of us love a cardio workout and we are FUN when we put in the effort.

[@chinemeremudoh3732]

Aaaaa-MEN, sista! Aaaaa-MEN!!!

[@sthe_ndzi]

Why's his foot on the couch.?

[@yolalola9029]

I get that sex is important but that conversation was all about mens pleasure and the women just putting up with it. Thats not cool

[@jillcollins8424]

Shut up

[@Aritul]

True, but perhaps the conversation was longer than the clip portrayed.

[@patricerenee1717]

I think it was important for them to listen. Truth is I think if a woman hold out too long for sex in her marriage it’s like asking a man to cheat. No he shouldn’t cheat but don’t think for a second that telling him no or neglecting that level of intimacy on a regular basis will keep your husband happy.

[@saetae9208]

Different needs

[@charlestaylor6066]

There is way more content focus on "How to make women happy". Let us live.

[@sigthom3711]

Dude with his foot on the couch trying too hard to be cool smh get yo foot off the couch!!!!!

[@user-im6nt6jp2h]

It’s his show lol

[@cherishdeb]

Awesome work

[@tangeladavis7882]

Putting in God first, love making, finances, quilty time, show him a little something, humble, getting kides sleep, meeting him at the door with banna

[@tangeladavis7882]

Who is sending this?

[@valerie4912]

Oooo I like the 3 day rule. Where is he????

[@Maiden_Warrior_Crone]

Does it seem to anyone else that married women don't like sex at all?

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Women get bored of sex in long term relationships much more quickly than men. Sex can easily seem like another chore on top of everything else. But there are women who have higher sex drives than their partners. The figure is about 33 percent. Not the majority, but a higher figure than you might think.

[@enmodelife]

Truth is, most married women DO like it... but we don't think the same way about sex in a relationship as how men think, because we are simply NOT men. And it becomes a chore in our mind over time because we feel like the constant frequency men need is held over our heads and silently demanded of us. Also, for most women, we go almost our ENTIRE lives from early teens (some earlier, sadly) only being wanted for what's between our legs, so sometimes (and ESPECIALLY after we say I do) it would be nice to know how wonderful and special we are outside of what's between our legs - and with EXACTLY the same frequency as the husband wants sex. Some men are better at providing that type of validation to his woman than others. The women's body language and lack of verbal exchange to me looked like disappointment that their husbands were not speaking about wanting and valuing their other qualities/"special-ness" with the same amount of importance and excitement as wanting their legs open. Smart and secure women everywhere (emphasis on smart and secure) understand very well that it takes *NOTHING* for a man to want sex from a woman. He can easily have very fulfilling sex with a total stranger or prostitute. So it's simply just not impressive or "special" to us when a man expresses sexual interest. Even if it's from our husband.

[@KeishaJonesSmith]

Great stuff!!!

[@LoniLoni11]

Oh my gosh that was Angel and Tank at 6:19

[@victorianyutu7863]

keV is hilarious 🤣🤣

[@mindfullytransformed448]

Oh these couples are lit 🔥

[@stacymcbride6953]

That’s Me And Baby ( Hubby) 27 Years And Counting His Is Sex And My Is HangingOut I Love Date Night

[@wshelby83]

You’re truly blessed!!! I wish you many more blessings

[@kejuanlynette8531]

That's an awesome blessing!! God is good! Congratulations🙏🏽

[@irockline]

The guy in the middle must think people care about him. Spoiler alert: we don’t!! Get over yourself bruh. Lol. Hilarious

[@misslc7864]

Exactly and take your foot off the couch!!

[@kay22100]

The man is the middle is annoying

[@beforeveryou295]

I saw thatchickangel 😍😍😍

[@tangeladavis7882]

Give him something he can feel

[@Trust_the_process678]

The hostess husband’s comment was very rude, he’s not invested in this black love project as she is...dude was a bit rude to the audience...smh

[@charles6724]

I will concede that his comment could've been worded much better, but he's not invested??? Please produce proof...because his wife is on record saying that the whole Black Love Series was HIS project that he brought her into.....so go check facts instead of being loud and wrong.

[@Trust_the_process678]

@Charles - No fact checking required...his actions and his demeanor speaks for it’s self. I don’t have to produce proof, he already did WHEN HE SAID “ I don’t give a shit about y’all” referring to the audience, duh.

[@charles6724]

Yes.....so without doing any research, or taking into account any context, you are able to discern the exact meaning of one phrase in isolation. This is exactly how fake news gets spread folks. The truth is, as one of the producers and creators of the show, no one can arguably say they are more invested than he is. As for the remark, although I am not condoning the way he chose to express it, in context it conveyed a meaning that most can support, which is why several in the audience clapped in support after he said it on the clip. #relevantfactsalwaysmatter

[@charles6724]

@Anita Winston yes he was being honest...no one is disputing that. The issue is what did he mean by the comment and in isolation the comment sounds like a dis to everybody else, but in context, his answer makes perfect sense, although I agree that it could've been worded better. I said his "answer" because what he said responded to a question. His wife asked each of the couples to respond to a question, but before she asks the question, she summarizes Deondre's answer in the video clip which was "work as hard at your marriage as your money." the female host then asks the question, "what is the one thing that you want your spouse to make a priority?" Her husband said, "I just need you to pay attention to me. Here's the thing, you all are nice n all, but I don't give a shit about you'll, I need you (my wife) to pay attention to me." In context that means, despite our responsibility to grind for this to be what it is, I want you babe to make sure that you pay attention to me and my needs, and the show will take care of itself. Deondre basically had said the same thing in the opening video clip when he said, if we aren't careful, we could have great careers and no marriage. The male host is not just a financial backer, he's one of the creators and producers of the show. Its literally his baby and yet what he was communicating is, as important as my baby (the show) is, I married you and you are my baby such that by paying attention to me, you provide value that the show can't ever provide. So prioritize paying attention to me and we good. No question he was keeping it real honest.

[@ericsmith5826]

@@charles6724 facts bro

[@teshaberrian3496]

Lol ... that’s good stuff ❗️

[@geasley39]

I LOVE THIS

[@cuprunnethover2509]

I am not sure but three days seems like a long time not to connect? I am not married though so I don't know for sure? Idk??

[@tangeladavis7882]

Day three Oh my goodness 😍

[@tropiccoils4220]

Funniest most honest conversation!

[@davidjemison9480]

Women let's be clear men at times just want to kick everybody out the pool, dog, cat, kids, in laws, friends, work, to have a moment with the two of you in the pool naked. What am I saying you can see his flaws and he can see your flaws but because you two got a moment alone without everyone else you can have a real conversation on how to resolve things and yet be intimate enough when you two come out the pool all those things with family, kids, work, dog, cat in laws can be resolved? Sometimes it's just that simple.

[@naturally_nica]

Maybe this clip is cut short but I hate how one sided this sounds and makes it seem like it's the woman's "duty"...

[@loveafrica97]

Yess when the door locks you know.. idk how I figured this out but I did with my parents

[@1Andrea]

Sex is healthy....💓

[@perejoyce4756]

That bothered me when the couple in the middle where talking but subconsciously I focused with the flow of the conversation with the other two couples when it was their turn and by the end of the clip, I'd forgotten until I read the comments. What I'm saying is, move on to other things, broker deals with the little things that over bother you - it could be he's going to clean the couch anytime he puts his shoes on it 🤷🏽‍♀️ (just my opinion though)

[@Chocolate.barbie444]

3 day rule??? Looool

[@tatendakusena3560]

Somebody lock the door!? 😂

[@lisaeleanor8559]

Kevin and dondre are stupid... I love it.. lol. Question... Why is his foot on the couch?

[@CharCharJars]

😮WOW👌👏👏👏👏👏

[@DimpledNatural]

Who is that middle couple?

[@BlackLove]

Codie Elaine Oliver and Tommy Oliver, creators and producers of the Black Love series.

[@DimpledNatural]

@@BlackLove oh ok, thanks!

[@tangeladavis7882]

Give him his space when needed

[@tangeladavis7882]

I got to lock the door lol.....

[@Realrap2727]

His foot on the couch cuz its HIS SHOW!!! PERIOD. That man can do whatever he want on HIS Show.

[@charleneschannel2570]

Flawless face time is fine with me.🥰🖤🕊🥂

[@syckindahead]

4:51 fax

[@AldermanFredCDavis]

Overwhelmingly, what I hear from married males has been reiterated here...................even in a marriage, the males are largely reduced to "pussy beggars". Evidently, it 'works' for a lot of males, but it just seems odd to me that these 3 successful black males are essentially begging for (more) sex and/or time alone with their wives. Interesting to me, that more men don't see this as problematic. I'm sayin'............I took it that Dondre initiated the "3 day rule", not Salli. Similarly, my married acquaintances make it seem like their wives can "take or leave" the sex.

[@chassidyswann8951]

I didn't see any mention of begging for sex or wanting more sex. In fact, they seemed to be suggesting that their marriages have thrived because they are sexually satisfied.

[@enmodelife]

Your acquaintances make it seem that way because it is the truth of the majority of women (myself included). We can generally take it or leave it outside of maybe the 1-2 days per month when we are ovulating and have that "urge". We are just not wired like men, and never will be. It has nothing to do with my man's prowess or attractiveness (again, women are not wired like men, we want sex for different reasons than men). It is partially due to the lack of testosterone in my body, and me biogically wired to having a higher level of emotional needs than physical.

[@tangeladavis7882]

You want marriage,and money schedule time lock the bedroom door plan budget ect...

[@fahnakafranklin8211]

I’m in an interracial marriage but I’m here for the content.

[@patriceh8444]

Do we have to know this love is love

[@Callhermsross]

Okay....

[@pccc145]

Great content applies to any marriage. Hopefully you heard something useful in the video.

[@adoringgalore5636]

That’s all fine. Y’all have a space and over here this is a space for black love. No hate here 😄

[@oaktree1626]

@@candyjamaican Wow. That was rather aggressive.

[@sherrynelson365]

Amen

[@luckyboozworld]

So I am still curious if Codie planned the date? Am I the only one?

[@luckyboozworld]

like specifically after this event. I mean clearly I know it is working for them as they are still married, but after this event... was a date planned?

[@lrrussellrussell8227]

SEX 🥰 Has to be great in a relationship, because the other person will wonder off. Please and learn from one another, make it fun. And yes pay attention to one another always ❤️👏🏽

[@nerdygirl2316]

Robert!!!

[@careensimiyu1255]

Kev 😂😂😂

[@tangeladavis7882]

We can leave it unlocked 👍 until a baby comes

[@deezal25fuel]

bruh, you're Married to Salli Richardson like...TH... you betta not even be THINK'IN bout cheatin

[@laurenjackson2810]

Does Kevin’s wife like him? Lol serious question. She laughs at his jokes but... ehh, idk what’s going on there.. as a viewer the chemistry in every video is like she can’t lean further away from him, or even touch him. Also, the comment from the guy with his foot on the beige couch, about him not giving af about us viewers, he needs his wife’s attention.. that was very telling. Super cringe.

[@naturalfabulosity]

Check out her KZbin Mrs.Kevonstage they do couple videos about relationships

[@duradun4756]

I thought Kev was... Anyway, it looks strange to me period.

[@jocelynd7669]

You should watch their regular videos they are HILARIOUS! She's a serious introvert so doing a show like this is probably out of her comfort zone. They definitely love each other...this was probably just a crazy night. Also the couple in the middle are the creators and hosts of the show Black Love -- they definitely have their issues but they admitted that's why they started this tv show to gain insight and tips for their own marriage. I'm all for it....if you can make money and work on your relationship #winwin

[@VanishaRD]

I wouldn’t be so quick to judge; not everyone is that comfortable speaking about their relationship in front of a live audience, so of course there will be awkwardness... it’s bound to happen lol

[@equalfoundation895]

Hey Lo, she is leaning hard AF away from Kev. My guy curled up on the couch 🛋 is the realest one up there.💯

[@tangeladavis7882]

Money, Tuesday Wednesday I got to have you.

[@tangeladavis7882]

We know who comes first, some men like sex, some love making I can show him something 😉

[@cosmosprincess20]

This makes sense now. Now that I see how the hosts behave, I get it. And now I'm out. This is silly, toxic, and inauthentic. Black love more like black fluff

[@antoinettegoodson7167]

Yes! This sex on command because I'm your husband crap..what kind of messaging is this? Saying you won't be into it at first, but you'll change your mind??? Like what? Are we this toxic as a community?

[@shantemason3889]

🤣😂😂

[@noa360]

Did I spot that chick Angel and Marcus ain't on the gram?

[@brangeeellis3083]

Yep, that's them. They'll be featured on the new season of Black Love

[@noa360]

@@brangeeellis3083 cool thanks for the update!

[@remyhuston5246]

I LOVE kev and MELISSA. The other dude of that couple was dumb Sorry you EXPECT your partner on day 3..... Shes not there for your pleasure

[@cdisturbed]

It works for them 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@wlacroix10]

Remy Huston oh yes she is there for his pleasure and vice versa. It’s not his fault she may not be in the mood but he is there for her pleasure as well period.

[@Wildflowers24]

I think that could potentially be a good rule because sex is still a way of connecting with your partner in for one person to go without sex for too long it leaves the door open for other people to come in

[@florrobertson7923]

Why would you want your wife to do something when she clearly doesn't want to, though? Would that not be a turnoff? Should it be?

[@florrobertson7923]

@@chillie000 still, it just doesn't seem right to me. It doesn't seem like a healthy thing. I wouldn't want someone to "get into it after a while" where I'm concerned. Granted, if it works for them, that is absolutely their business.

[@wavey_b0ne]

Lol they make this shit sound terrible

[@x0xTHLover4Lifex0x]

I don't understand the need to prioritize sex in a relationship. A woman is only fertile 4 days out the month and after ovulation the next two weeks of sore boobs, bloating, hormones, and cramps until you finally get your period kind of kills the mood. Why not prioritize emotional and mental connection instead.

[@ederlinerosenberg6813]

I'm not sure if you're being sarcastic or actually serious

[@lvw7668]

Huh? You do know that emotional and mental connection are a part of sex right? In addition, most PMS symptoms occur about 1-2 weeks prior to ovulation and are often alleviated by the endorphin release associated with sex.

[@x0xTHLover4Lifex0x]

@@ederlinerosenberg6813 oh I'm being serious. Prioritizing sex in a reationship seems idiotic when there are so many other things that need to be focused on. Anybody can be sexually compatible, hell people who have divorced or broken up sometimes still have sex. Work on the important things, prioritize them.

[@x0xTHLover4Lifex0x]

@@lvw7668 sometimes it is but not all the time. Sometimes sex is just about sex, the physicality and the reproducrive nature of it. Depending on some people's experiences with sex it may never be an emotional thing to them. But communication, the ablity to talk to one another, spending quality time, maybe even just cuddling can be far more effective than sex.

[@x0xTHLover4Lifex0x]

@@lvw7668 and no. PMS symptoms occur 1-2 weeks POST ovulation not prior. And again, no its menstrual cramps that are alleviated by sex after the period has already started. The drop and surge in hormones after ovulation makes sex undesirable for most women during PMS because of low estrgen. The vagina doesn't become as wet, most regular erogenous zones are sore or bloated , not to mention the overall mood of the women. Honestly read a damn book if you're a man and if you're a woman...I'm disgusted that you don't know this.