Marriage and Money | S5 E1 | Couch Conversations

CC501 - MARRIAGE & MONEY
In the premiere episode of Couch Conversations season 5, Ace & Shelah discuss the ins and outs of how money management changes when two become one. When did you first discuss combining finances? Was there hesitancy? What was each person’s individual relationship to money and how has that evolved over time? From the cost of bundles to knowing when to step out on faith, the couples describe some of the uncomfortable - but necessary - conversations they had to have with their partner about money.
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[@tomiwa1a]

Wow. I can't believe this is Ace Hood from "i woke up in a new bugatti". I can see the growth and that he's doing well for himself. He reminds me of Haile from WSTRN.

[@leniquereid1031]

Ughhh I love Ace and Shelah so much 😩 their emotional intelligence and the way they communicate is top tier❤️

[@Jasmyne444]

FACTS ❤

[@veec4153]

Yeah gorgeous couple

[@HIWWPI_2024]

Three beautiful black couples in a safe circle conversing amongst one another. No one is over talking the other. Grown healthy conversations. I love to see it.

[@khalilreddick4359]

Seeing black love. And black marriages with healthy conversations is incredible. Gives me hope for my future. As young man. And I appreciate these mens bravery, integrity, and honor!

[@texasgoddess323]

I grew up in a middle class, two parent household who had professional jobs, but we were not to be materialistic. We had nice, decent clothes, but the focus was not name brand, but to look nice. We live in a highly consumeristic society, where Americans of African descent are aggressively marketed to. We are just 12% of the population but are featured on almost every commercial! Think about how this affects our mentality about having “things”, not to mention our debt. My sister and I are both single, in our early 50’s with no kids, both mortgage free and debt free. We purchase what we can afford, do not live above our means, and don’t have a problem shopping at Goodwill. We both enjoy nice things, too, but our values lie in who we are, not what we own. May our community awake from the spells being cast upon us. Love and light!♥️♥️♥️

[@chichikekeocha5264]

You mentioned blacks being featured in ads, however when blacks are not featured it would be seen as not being inclusive of other race. How do we as a community strike a balance?

[@marj6238]

Every time I hear black men being vulnerable, I feel like I’m in on precious secrets because it’s so rare. Great conversation! So many relatable struggles. So many jewels were dropped. I appreciate this so much.

[@Regina.Clarke]

Beautiful couples! This is what should be viral…healthy real dialogue around relationships.

[@ChanelStar1]

*LAWD! I pray a covering over these marriages* 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@yemi5193]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@deannalawson268]

This was truly black love conversation. We as black people need to have more conversations about finances and sex. Most of us growing up didn't have these conversations with our parents (single or two family house holds. God Bless You All! Continue sharing Black Love.

[@Msladyrae92]

11:17 I was always the kid that would hustle . I never asked my parents for anything because I think I assumed that they couldn’t afford it. When I was 13 I wanted a puppy. I saved up $300 from walking kindergartners home from school. I organized a lemonade and snack stand with my friends in order to raise money to fund our club. I mowed relatives lawns to make my own cash. Kids shouldn’t just be given everything. Work ethic has gotta be taught.

[@malston81]

Thank you! I ❤ to see black husband and wives talk about the positives, negatives, highs and lows of marriage life!!

[@dumamay283]

As an asian man, i love this conversation. I am learning a lot. Unfortunately, in the asian community, we don't have open dialogues like this about relationship or money and so it can lead to pitfalla. My last relationship failed cause we disagreed with when it came to money. Money is the most important thing when it comes to any relationship. I feel less stressed now that i am single

[@JosettaEvonne]

Loved the House Manager comment; I think it is a position many take for granted & undervalue! Loved the perspective!

[@khensk]

Love that birthday trip idea where they have to manage their money!!!

[@Youtilizebys]

Seeing this is so healing. Black couples having healthy conversations. The love you see in how the men sits besides their women and them being able to open up. Thankyou for this🙏🏾🤍

[@love-si1kx]

WOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! The lack of respect, value and consideration for Domestic Labor!!! So Grateful for that being aired.

[@sthembisomkhungo5566]

Ace and Shelah are such a sweet medicine!

[@uswe3712]

“Commit to communicating,” EFFECTIVELY‼️

[@lisapowell2333]

Excellent conversation as a 43-year-old divorced woman with a 15 year old daughter finances are something that is important and spoken about in my home but I need to teach my daughter better habits on finances so, thank you for this conversation ✨

[@BlackLove]

Absolutely!

[@aritalkstech]

So refreshing to have a peek into how marriage really works. Very helpful for knowing what questions to ask/conversations to have when dating. I love black love!

[@princessreesepieces]

Love it....Safety net: Mindset of upbringing & growing up in abundance VS scarcity. Don't allow the money matters to mess up you marriage or your motivation to live better 😍🤑💞💯

[@TierraSanea87]

That Ace & Shelah...Man oh man. That's an ON POINT couple. You can tell they have done (and are still doing) the work in & for their marriage/ relationship/ friendship. It's beautiful.💯✨😌🩷💜

[@lagloria1644]

I loved this! Conversations around finances especially in marriage. Your perspective on finances as an individual playing out in your marriage! Pressure!! We need to learn that money/finances is a tool in which we can use to make us more. Changing our perspective on money will change the way it comes in your life and what you can accomplish with it. Hearing these wives come through on how they have their man's back knowing that they trust their decisions even if they're successful or not was everything. Thank you husbands for speaking from your truth on your low times and your failures. That vulnerability with your partner and the world is what makes you extraordinary and resilient! For this too shall pass!

[@carolynlong8701]

Nothing is promised for tomorrow but God keep growing as a couple

[@z.njomba2226]

This conversation was really an eye opener to some questions i had when it comes to finances in marriage.

[@claudiathomas3560]

I love Ace and Shelah! Beautiful couple. I love how they care for one another and talk to one another, rather than at one another. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

[@GodIsXTC]

SOOOOOO HEALING! THANKH YOU ALL! BLESSINGS, PEACE, UNITY, LOVE KINGS & QUEENS

[@Kldemorcy]

fantastic and informative conversation. Wonderful co-hosts - Ace and Shelah - love the vibes.

[@laurenrichardson446]

Shelah and Ace are some of my favs ❤❤❤❤❤

[@YoutubeNameHere]

I think there is a healthy balance of showing your children working hard to get the things they want and give them want they need and a little of what they want. I see so many kids that don’t see the struggle of life and they develop entitlement and aren’t as grateful for what it took for their parent to provide them,

[@realestatemrs7121]

This conversation came in my feed on time....❤

[@verb0ze]

I'm so grateful for the internet and KZbin and the ability to peek into other people lives and learn from. In this world where everything feels so disconnected and relationships are deteriorating faster and faster, it's good to see that there are still role models e can aspire to, and that the negative press is but one side of the coin. Thanks to all the panelists for sharing such intimate parts of your lives with us!

[@nikeyface7114]

Really loved and enjoyed this- let me go let my man know I got his back! 😅❤

[@Jasmyne444]

I so love the conversation! We as a community definitely need to be more open and authentic about how we’re experiencing life. We are usually going through the same thing and knowing our brothers/sisters are going through the same struggles can be empowering ❤

[@Sheherhis]

This was really great and helpful dialog and advice I felt hopeful that it is possible to get to peace on the money issues couples face.

[@chabridgettumusiime8994]

❤❤❤ thank you Ace and Shela , God Almighty bless your marriage 💕 and bless these marriages and Union. Am downloading this episode and will keep listening in . I learnt several important commitment issues ! Communication is very very important 🎉🎉🎉 expectations, spending, saving, joint account and the unpaid roles of house manager done by the wife. Business failure and how it's not the end of the World. Being Supportive

[@keepingupwithkayla7829]

This was an awesome episode, thank you all !

[@levavarts2889]

Love these conversations, think they're so beautiful and evolutionary. Also like that a blend of generations are represented, that's super important!

[@iamnykira]

You all make me look forward to marriage, it sounds so heart opening & self reflective ❤

[@dioncarter8513]

I sense Genuine love from them all...Respect✊✌⚘

[@opeyemiagboola6529]

I love this conversation

[@ElizabethMagicalGarden]

This was so thought provoking Thank you 🙏🏽

[@kinder7513]

This is so awesome! One of my new favorite podcast!!! I’m sure this helping so many couples.

[@love-si1kx]

That was Excellent. Purely and Completely!

[@christinebryant8354]

Great discussion I think everyone put all their cards on the table. Growing up in a two family household doesn’t mean total security because even though my Mother & Father were married with five children he didn’t allow our mother to work & he worked & controlled the finances. As we got older she started working than I felt like we were in a better situation. She always told us keep your credit right & don’t co-sign for no one ☝️ get what you need not what you want all the time. I still live by those words. For the other couple about not having birthday parties 🥳 after five 🤔 we always had cake & ice cream for our birthdays our Mother baked our cake 🎂 & our Dad would make the ice cream 🍨 & it was just us & we’re in our fifty’s now & to this day we still have that cake & ice cream don’t ever stop because it’s the small things that matter the most! The trips are great as well 😊 really enjoyed the conversation.

[@timiekamaloney1558]

This is the couch conversations that we needed! I LOVE THIS FOR US 🎉❤

[@1bluegreen2]

Yes!!! Say it AGAIN!!!! DOMESTIC LABOR!!!!

[@RhondaAugustus]

I like it’s just all young marriages you need some seasoned marriages on the panel. I’ve been married for 24 years with a different perspective and experience

[@bkalaza]

I need part 2 of this 🎉🎉🎉🎉this was amazing

[@Jasmyne444]

I agree! ❤

[@BlackLove]

More episodes are coming!

[@Reeses710]

Great episode & a much needed discussion....

[@keelhe893]

I enjoyed this conversation and these three couples

[@Miss.Bri_]

Love these conversations.

[@musingsofenjay]

This episode is pure gold. Thank you 🖤🖤🖤

[@nuance10]

This is EXCELLENT! More like this!!

[@ginab.4605]

My siblings and I were always provided for, however, I got a job at 16 to learn responsibility. I started paying for my nails and hair and whatever else I wanted in high school. My mother always had a work ethic, which past down to us. The worst thing you can do is spoil a child. It’s nothing like marrying a spoiled child. They always need a fall back person because they have never learned to stand on their own. I know of several grown spoiled kids🤦🏽‍♀️

[@jadajadorsett5694]

Love this really helped me address my feelings with money

[@Justritamich]

In a two parent household there must be balance. Many lack teaching balance

[@beechannel27]

This was so good! Great gentle reminders! 😊❤

[@615BlackBarbie]

The 3rd couple. You can tell she was blessed. Lol Her energy says. Me me Meeee😂😂😂 The 2nd couple. The wife wants more. Truthfully. I think... She feels, she married down. Acehood and his wife. They're really there to learn. Im the type to listen to what's NOT being said.

[@jamesbond6501]

This is a great learning experience great job

[@ohhhkaytosha]

I LOVVVVVVVEEEEE THIS MOST DEFINITELY NEEDED

[@tomiwa1a]

LOL I love the couple with the c'est la vie and the blazer (Kendrick I believe?). The part at 23:18 I had to rewind, too funny!

[@carolynlong8701]

Great conversation with the couples

[@dedrickconnell]

beautiful conversation

[@JamesDThomas1981]

I pay my kids $2 per chore. I do not give money except on birthdays and Christmas. So my kids never ask me for an item. The will say "is there any extra jobs i can do to get $xx. We are a two parent will of family. But my kids definitely understand the value of a dollar.

[@queenie5712]

Love this episode 🎉❤

[@kelseybrice8838]

This was a great episode!!

[@333HealthyMe]

Blessings to my future husband to grow with & have communication

[@zackeryjasmine]

This was great!

[@nycebennett4670]

Excellent Content!!! ❤

[@itssricaa96]

I loved this !! New viewer ‼️

[@kuselwa6715]

I enjoyed this 😍

[@derrickjenkins349]

Awesome Podcast!👍🏾

[@keshashaw7282]

Thank you ❤

[@marymyatt3004]

Thank you🖤Enjoy your Channel.

[@tyannaseton7968]

Love this ❤

[@jeromegriffith2859]

First time I've watched this podcast. This shit 🔥

[@unapologeticallyromel7096]

Love this show ❤

[@ellisonclarae]

Wow!!! This. Is. It!!!

[@Antonio-kx5rd]

Love them🖤🖤

[@missrachelrue]

House Manager…. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@eblin-josephbile2273]

Ace hood is shy man

[@djsklb]

Really appreciate these conversations thank you 🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@lwarner2348]

Marriage is beautiful if it's with the right person make sure yall have the same values, on the same page,and that's your equal yoke , look at the red flags dating if too many dont marry them they will not change it can take years for change only God can change a person, ask GOD is that the person you should marry if not let the person be removed from your life. Once you find the right person it's beautiful. I'm married didn't do all the things I stated but you live and learn I married the wrong person but I know better now.

[@user-ee2qq4hp3z]

Shelah is such an intelligent woman. Glad she and Ace host this. Is Khalil muslim? Just asking cause his paradigm on the financial responsibility of a man, seems almost like they stem from Islam. Would just like to know...

[@cherhonda]

🙏🏾Amen👏🏾

[@kimberleymgd]

No grown man will go to her parents for money no matter how generous they are!

[@sheilaisaacs4360]

❤️🙏🏾

[@Karters_Mom]

❤

[@shakirjones5843]

Shout out to the woman furthest to the left for holding her man down during financial hardship

[@helena3631]

Most ADOS financially is negative because of no inheritance , shut out of loans and home ownership etc we want a first world life but we don’t got it

[@candywebb5877]

I Love learning about Love .. Thanks Couch Converstaions for feeding Us! God Bless