After Love - Newlyweds - S1 E2 - The Black Love Doc After Show

In this episode of #AfterLove, the official aftershow of Black Love on OWN, the series co-creator and director Codie Elaine Oliver finds out what Ian & Jemele and Brandi & Kareem think of episode two! These "Newlyweds" share what they've learned about marriage and themselves, how they've adjusted during quarantine, and how they support one another while dealing with social injustices. Watch Black Love on OWN through September and October, Saturdays 9/8c.
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[@elmyra.jackson]

I absolutely agree with Kareem that the black community needs to see black couples married and in love!!

[@elmyra.jackson]

@StarZoom You've missed the point!!!

[@Yna-u3g]

@StarZoom 🤦🏾‍♀️....But this is about BLACK love...

[@Jessica-pi5wh]

Amen!

[@tlalythabo7021]

Absolutely

[@theoracle56]

StarZoom You are missing the entire point. Black people need to see positive images of black couples because this country REFUSES to show it to imply that it does not exist. We see more interracial marriages in the media when they only account for 10% of all married couples for black people.

[@joannapilgrim]

"That's the one reason why we're gonna last, because God has a hand in our marriage"....Godly goals!! Amen!

[@reikomyles1495]

God can do all things but fail.👍

[@JM-qg9bo]

When you're equally yoked you'll definitely know that God has his hand in it. He approves versus the relationship you're trying to force an image of perfection from.

[@mininananana]

Yes. We must make sure that we seek God first. Make sure you actually listen to God's guidance and not just go with your carnal feelings and emotions.

[@dread3443]

Best statement in the entire convo. 🙌

[@miraclestyle16]

Yassss!

[@GoogleAccount00]

As a single black woman, I’m so grateful to see a show like this! This is outstanding! Lovely and honest couples! We are blessed!

[@ayeeshahm9078]

Totally. I wasn't sure that I wanted to be married ( due to cynicism) but every time I watch this show I m reminded of the beauty in marriage, and having a partner in life to love, fight for and do great things. So grateful for it and the hope it inspires ❤️

[@sonia.latrell]

@@ayeeshahm9078 Sameeee for me!

[@reikomyles1495]

It's encouraging, it gives us hope. That a good solid Godly foundation marriage can happen and does exist.

[@mjohnson1741]

This show is great but I still feel BW should expand their dating options because the numbers don't workout for BW.

[@fatimamanneh9432]

m Johnson agree there are men from other races & cultures who will love a bw we don’t have to wait for something that isn’t going to happen or didn’t happen for most of us I moved on I also encourage other bw to do the same waiting for B.A.M to act right was a waste of time for me

[@mimia4808]

i mean this with the utmost respect, jemele got herself a FINE ass man! it makes my heart so happy seeing BW being loved up on

[@glo5463]

Girl yes, I'm over here like Lawd Jesus 😩🙌🏾😂

[@Jodha1]

Ain't this the truth. He looks even better here than he did in the actual episode.

[@jaxcoss5790]

@L G I didn't realise admiring another persons attributes was wrong (especially as there is a 99% chance that you will never meet them)?

[@alb5801]

They are a cute couple

[@faithtvonline]

I never understood the attraction to the lighter skin, curly hair dudes. Give me chocolate and a bald head or close cut any day. 😆 Just goes to show . . . "To each their own."

[@shonb989]

I love the way Ian looks at Jemele when she speaks!😊 I've always loved her!

[@teejaybee9]

I said the same thing

[@nicoleh.6352]

He seem perfect for her😊

[@yolandawilliams236]

Me three! You can see the love in his eyes

[@nickalton]

Yeah you can tell he’s really into her

[@Comegetyourdose131]

It’s called the meal ticket gaze.

[@TMYPiscesSunandMoonRising5548]

When your older but newlyweds its a different mindset. I didn't get married until I was 41 and my husband 51. Its definitely a different stage because you have lived through some things. I'm loving Black Love 💛 in that is shows marriage in all variables 👍🏾👍🏾

[@aura5944]

💓

[@kaynone1726]

Love this!!

[@TMYPiscesSunandMoonRising5548]

@@rondas7772 Nope, it felt right. I was never the woman who felt the need to be married. I truly enjoyed being single and never felt pressure from my family or friends. Once I got engaged, then pressure came for the actually date from his and my friends. It was another 3 years before we got married because of me. I had to do some work on myself before becoming a wife. I was not getting married for the sake of just being a Mrs. Its been 6 years and we're going strong.

[@blessingsbest6838]

I am sure it’s all maturity and sensible!!!

[@nomadictravelerfromTx]

I didn't get married until I was 63 and my wife was 52.When I met her online in 2016 she was 4,567 miles away.We have been married for 1 year.

[@carmenmclean7933]

I love how they are not scared to talk about bringing God in the relationship! 🙏🏽🙌🏽

[@akyiaaantwi5504]

True, and He is The most important part of any relationship. Most often these days the reason pple don't last is because we keep excluding God

[@carmenmclean7933]

@@akyiaaantwi5504 preach

[@yeye3295]

I SOOOO FEEL Her statement..."Marriage has help me become the BEST Version of myself....The whole goal is to be committed to something bigger than you"

[@1LocWonder]

Yassss to “our honeymoon was a month” 😍😍😍

[@coachhbosoccer]

look at how that guy looks at Jemele.....thats it right there

[@AwkMind]

I have always thought that without love, nothing matters. God please, send me my soul mate right about now, I waited my whole life. 35 years 😔

[@Chocolate.barbie444]

" I give myself permission to experience what I am feeling " a word

[@honeys.9579]

#thatpart

[@sizzlinghotnhere]

I love when black men are intuned to their woman. When your man can see you had a rough day or hear something in your voice, and say you ok babe? And be there willing to listen means so much in a relationship. It helps you connect emotionally to one another in a caring way that says your partner values you. Good show.

[@kwynkaq]

The host of this show is amazing! She comes prepared! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿✊🏿

[@msvonne6044]

Absolutely she’s the creator!

[@Klgray7373]

Did she mention where her husband the other co-host is?

[@mercwindow]

Kakkisimban well it would be dumb if she showed up on her own tv show with no prep but I get what you are saying she's great

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

Kakkisimban and she makes it look effortless

[@LaRhondaTurner]

That emergency contact thing is a real thing. My momma is STILL my emergency contact and I'm 41. 🤪😂

[@nefertariroyston2832]

Mine too! I'm also 41.

[@LaRhondaTurner]

@@nefertariroyston2832 I'm in search of a new emergency contact. LOL

[@ericabelcher8760]

😂😂

[@jr9941]

Attention anyone single or married, in particularly my Black brothers and sisters who are overloaded mentally through this pandemic. Please talk to someone, get massages or find an outlet to relieve your stress that has been put on us during this pandemic. Relieving stress is a must and makes a difference! ♥️

[@reikomyles1495]

Truth...Pray as well.

[@jr9941]

@@reikomyles1495 Amen to that as well.

[@brandigilmore607]

This show gives me hope. Yes black love.

[@samonecharisma3043]

Right me too!

[@lydiaheelu2681]

Girl, you can say that again. It’s so wonderful to see relationships that are not perfect but man, you can see these people are really down for each other. Like they really care about each other and are intentional about growing together. These shows are changing lives, black lives especially.

[@kisanchouhan6011]

Mo mo tu bu bi bi bi hi Dr yo mo bhi

[@ValarieCole]

UGGGGGGHHHH........... 😩😩😩😩 Ian and Jemele 🥰🥰🥰 ...... the way he looks at her is mind blowing beautiful- soo beautifully organic.... Just felt God’s love radiating throughout BOTH couples .... However- Jemele and Ian shines the light of HOPE “ for me”...... 🎯👌 “whew”..... He looks at her like “Thank you God”.....- she looks at him like “God, he was worth the wait”.... The other couple BOTH agreeing not to shack up before marriage 💪👍✝️💜 and they are a breath of fresh air as well The couple that’s been together for 3 years are very SPIRITUALLY CONNECTED- ........ 💕🙏👌 Jemele’s natural personality NEEDED her husband’s personality to soften her and show her how to breathe.. let go.. trust and realize she no longer has to be so strong 💪..... Okay... let me move on and continue to appreciate this episode....

[@niknatpattywack4293]

Good point about trusting... basically before living together...#Goals

[@io8841]

Good job I found it hard to put into words💕

[@knl5330]

@Valarie Cole...Well Said

[@ericabelcher8760]

Valerie Cole Very well said! I agree 1000%

[@LoveHair283]

This show is a another piece our Culture and RACE Need. JUST the layers of who and what we are. HOW MARRIAGE is NOT a T.V. show it is for Mature people to embark on together. Expectations , EXPLORATION, and Daily Effort to work on yourself so you can show up better in the marriage. 🥰🥰😁👍🏽👍🏽

[@mercwindow]

Phyllis Parris-Borum well said I LOVE that working on yourself so you can show up better in the marriage. You cannot pour abundance from an empty cup

[@shaunhlatshwayo9832]

"Love is a religion but black love is Revolution." I endorse black love.❤👊🏽🙏🏽✊🏾

[@mercwindow]

Just realised this is rarely what we see in the media but this is common amongst our people. Black shades all shades in love

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

Exactly

[@eb4478]

I LOVE IT !!!!! WHEN GOD IS IN IT , THERE IS NO FAILING !!!!

[@davidmalik9821]

People who ask God to send them a "soulmate" should also ask God to send each other the tools to make it so. It takes work, U know. I am not as experienced as others in the comment section or the couples here but just looking at what some of these couples have gone through and are working through I see men and women both with tool belts, just saying.

[@phyllisruff7115]

Beautiful! Love is work but it’s also worth all the work. Married 31+ and going

[@charliehinds700]

This was BEAUTIFUL! Continue to keeep God as the center of your marriage and lives.

[@Jiron127]

Amen!

[@elmyra.jackson]

The only way!💙💙

[@reikomyles1495]

Amen

[@mercwindow]

Charlie Hinds each to their own whatever works for the two people

[@MuniEve]

Jemele and Ian are my new favorite couple. I love the way they look at each other. I love the way the talk about each other. I just love them ❤️

[@Yolzee91]

Oh Kareem man. I love a man that expresses himself and expresses his emotions. What a love. ❤️

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

We all deserve this type of love and connectedness.

[@Memkoh]

This was so beautiful! I’m in love with each couple’s perspective. The way Jemele’s hubby looks at her... good Lord! ❤️❤️

[@janiceburton7119]

I love this show! I’m divorced but still believe in the sanctity of marriage and the beauty of love with all its many facets, great good bad ugly! Kudos to the Oliver’s...please keep this show going!

[@KaylyaP]

Honey moon was a month!!!!Yesssss GOD🤗 that is goals for me

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

I did 3 weeks abroad, Africa and Europe and we were not rich. You can absolutely have that

[@KaylyaP]

@@FreedomofSpeech865 I am soooooooo glad you made this comment!!I hate the assumption that only the rich can travel. I have a few stamps in my passport and I am nowhere near rich!!And the few places I've been it seems like the celebrities and socialites are just not getting hip.Like I been went to Paris I been went to Dubai.But ok🤷🏾‍♀️ Is it easier if you're rich of course but it just takes a little more planning but it is definitely doable

[@samonecharisma3043]

Right, I was like dammmmm a month is nice

[@shishi_eats]

Kareem low key sounds like Jay Z, like an extended family member and I’m soooo here for how Ian looks at Jameel. He just looks soooo into her❤️

[@KCNwokoye]

Great to see healthy couples working on themselves

[@Unapologeticallyme89]

This is absolutely beautiful! I love watching shows that represent black love as I’m getting married to my king very soon 😊.

[@rinas7057]

Congratulations!

[@Unapologeticallyme89]

Rina S thank you so much 😊!

[@Unapologeticallyme89]

@Jack Ripper thanks 😊

[@stephaniemensah1858]

Awww congratulations sis!! May God bless, fortify and seal your union for eternity!!

[@hawkeye_zr1carver.207]

I'm a Single Black Man and I love to see these Black couples. It gives me hope that their are great! Woman out here and someone for me and I for her..... I'm in the DMV area ?

[@karinbaptiste7799]

👀

[@tellwel3767]

Karin Baptiste 😁Action>>>>reaction 😂

[@wm8673]

Try PG County and Anne Arundel.. Columbia, Silver Spring, and Upper Marlboro MD

[@karinbaptiste7799]

Whereabouts in the DMV?

[@ericabelcher8760]

This whole comment thread! Lol😂❤

[@TheDstinfrared34]

OMG...I loved this! I was smiling while listening intensely the entire time. Being a single black woman and a nurse during this pandemic has been such a struggle. Especially since my love language is quality time and physical touch...it's really been hard at times. But seeing Black Love is always so inspiring. Thank you for so much for "After Love". 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

[@zoraidacastro5403]

Isolation is tough when single. TOUGH. I am looking forward to 2021!!!!

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

It is a little worse in a relationship that is not working.

[@zoraidacastro5403]

@@FreedomofSpeech865 yes. Its like you are alone but not alone. Something has got to give.....

[@patriceh8444]

2021 is here how is isolation for you

[@carolynewanjohi8759]

Black love is amazing.I know my soulmate is out there and will locate me when time is right

[@oneof7billion627]

Me t🤲🙏

[@msve3730]

Why 🤦‍♀️ am I looking around at the house. I'm getting into property buying as well as renovations, I'm taking notes from there design 🤣

[@jaynejoi]

LMAOOOOO, i just love good and beautiful homes, and I couldn't stop looking 🤣🤣🤣

[@nefertariroyston2832]

I was looking too! 🤣

[@LaTreseSheffield]

You should watch shows on HGTV like flip or flop. Home Town, Property Brothers, Fixer Upper, Hidden Potential, etc

[@tamarawanjiku]

The amount of knowledge n how things were shed to light🙌🙌🙌🙌😭😭😭😭im like in happy tears at how black people are in love. Thank you @BlackLove for all that you do Kenya 🇰🇪 with love

[@chriske6795]

1) thank you for the positive images, expressions and intelligence of our community. This is the best of Black love! 2) keeping it realistic, so needed right now.

[@ashleighwillis5040]

The host, the couples and the content is just amazing!!! I’m so happy to see Black Love in a positive light. So much wisdom to gain ❤️❤️❤️

[@iamceceanderson]

Soooooo glad there is an After Show because I really can’t get enough of this programme! ✌🏾♥️🇬🇧

[@jeanine945]

I LOVE this show. I'm single but when I watch this show it gives me great hope 🙏🙏❤❤❤

[@dznutz217]

This format is incredible. Loved this episode.

[@dd470_]

The brothas made a great point about being single men vs. married men and the importance of having a wife to go home to. If we could shout this from the mountain tops and show us younger folks that marriage really is the answer to many of our societies issues.

[@keepitsimpleydb6151]

Those days of writing to each other was so beautiful. Nice to see young marriages too. I am enjoying theses episode.

[@arlenetatum9511]

Beautiful Couples. 💝💖💝💖

[@patricebrown777]

I loved this. Wonderful energies and good subject matters and issues covered. Loved the openness and seeing the love and respect between these Kings and Queens. This is good for our people to see and keep seeing. Bless them LORD Jesus and keep them in your love and care.🙏👑👑❤️

[@mizkelo7348]

Amen

[@charliehinds700]

That was a WORD Kareem, about your marriage making it! I love it, straight to the point & PRECISE!

[@charles6724]

Bravo to the brother who wrote poems to his woman as a teenager! A couple years ago, I taught a Sunday School class to a group of adults; and I was the youngest person in the room. I can't remember the subject matter, possibly Song of Solomon, but I asked the men in the class had they ever wrote poetry for a woman ever in their life. Not one man raised their hand.....I was blown away! Clearly it is not the only way to communicate substantively in a relationship, but I believe that the art of putting pen to paper to express one's feelings toward the other is becoming lost! Brothers, I don't know a woman who wouldn't appreciate it, and ladies if you want it, put it out there and do you to compel us. I would never get into a relationship with a woman who doesn't compel me to want to write to her about her, what she does to me, how she makes me feel etc....

[@mizkelo7348]

That's beautiful brother.

[@reikomyles1495]

Poetry is beautiful and it certainly has it's place in building a good relationship. But as the old cliche goes, action speaks louder than words. Not only WE should tell each other what's on our minds, but SHOW the love, appreciation, respect, trust, kindness etc...Be a hearer, a doer, and a teller of God's word.

[@charles6724]

@@reikomyles1495 saying something off the top of your head is telling....taking the time to craft a poem requires real effort and is unequivocally doing. Never has there been an instance that I took the time to structure my thoughts and write them down with rhythm has the receiver interpreted my actions otherwise.

[@reikomyles1495]

@@charles6724 God has given you an artistic ability of poetry, that's beautiful. Poetry of love is like a song and the voice of the poet is the instrument. Yes, I agree with you, it takes time, effort to express, process your thoughts, create and make words that flow harmoniously and emotionally. I feel you. Like you mentioned, about the book of Song of Solomon, it is indeed one of the best love poetry ever composed. Yet, King Solomon was a married man of 700 wives and 300 concubines. When we know God commands that we should be married to ONE spouse. We also know, there are men and women in this world that can spew charming words of flattery, and play all kinds of games. However, they don't have a ounce of sincere Godly love in their hearts. That's what I trying to communicate. And if I came of as offensive, please accept my humble apologies. May God continue to bless you and yours.

[@charles6724]

@@reikomyles1495 No apology needed, I wasn't offended. Have you actually read Song of Solomon??? Much of it is written in the female voice, and I don't see how the part about how many wives he had is relevant. At the end of the day, you can sit here and say that men don't need to write words to express themselves because its better to do actions. Actually SHE determines what is best. I'm not a John Gray worshiper, but in his book Men are from Mars Women Are from Venus, the concept of love languages is real. For some women, words of affirmation is their love language and if you can express yourself and affirm her, you are not communicating properly that you love her. And even those for whom words of affirmation is not number one, most can appreciate a man who will express his love for her pen to paper. We live in a world where men are socialized not to be too vulnerable with expressing their feelings in this way, and its a shame. I would go out on a limb and say if men asked their woman would they appreciate it, an overwhelming majority would say yes regardless of (his artistic skill set) her love language and notwithstanding the need to meet her number one love language whatever it is. Brothers, give the lady what she wants....and ladies do what it do to compel him to put pen to paper. Blessings.

[@mcmic1212]

Such a healthy conversation in this piece - thank you!

[@essekimberly]

Brandi & Kareem ❤️

[@junicewells1085]

Wonderful episode 2, loved it!

[@Blckbrry500]

Thank you!! Needed this❤️❤️

[@angelaalston971]

That was Awesome can't wait to see more🖤

[@jayp.1812]

Loving these episodes!

[@qdacevedo]

Another great episode!

[@tobiadeyinka5901]

I love this channel so much! This video was amazing

[@maryanhaji-mohamed4531]

I love this so much. I need more of this. Love fills me up.

[@Jessica-pi5wh]

Such an important show!!!!! I'm SO HERE FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@pearlljewels7330]

Refreshing so wonderful to see these men act like they love their wives and themselves.

[@lashawnc7216]

This video was a whole vibe, thank you!💕

[@patriciakelly8212]

Love the honesty.

[@ileniepowell]

Thst was absolutely lovely!

[@debrawillwin11]

Wow great show! Great content. Thanking God for Your platform and I love black love🖤🖤🖤💛

[@JBrazill09]

Another beautiful episode ❤

[@MLisa90]

Love the after show format and gems and honesty from both couples 💯 Hope Tommy is back for next After show. we love the full Oliver unit 😊

[@ruthwright6247]

I enjoyed that episode...thanks for sharing...God bless the Newlyweds. .

[@moca1992]

Thank you Codie & Tommy this episode is awesome as the first. If this is how it is, I am here for it. Thank you for bringing this to the world, we appreciate it!

[@immyownboss6819]

I truly enjoy your program and believe in black love.

[@AngelasTravelAdventures]

Loved this!!

[@smilestheclouds9659]

Well said! Black Love is the Best! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@maggicurry-williams8440]

I love this show for the in-depth answers and your on camera involvement. Reminds me of your traveling show! Love it! Love y’all for doing this. I’m experiencing these couples’ love vicariously! 🥰

[@yvettegmf1638]

Black love is (LOVE!!!! ) I love seeing black men with their black queen!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️.

[@takeshiadavis]

I'm so here for this franchise 😍🥰

[@juliablalock4157]

Thank U SO much Codie and Tommy Oliver, I am extremely thankful for you following your heart with Black Love

[@butterfylov344]

This is so beautiful!!

[@janicejackson9228]

Love this‼️

[@user-kx2vw8xe5h]

This was good ! Found it really interesting ... the extra stresses the blk couple carries. Like, how they cope individually and as a couple. Very encouraging!

[@iamaries3287]

Love, love, love the show ❤️❤️❤️

[@CurlsandThings]

I adore this. Makes me emotional 😭

[@carlaborens4004]

Thank you for creating a show showing love between black people!

[@lexmeditates]

This made my heart melt ❤️We all deserve this type of love

[@lakeishar23]

Do the guy with the fro sound like Jay Z

[@johnmpe3358]

God bless you guys for this great show Black Love. I consume it like an addict. Shout out from South Africa

[@refilwezwane8109]

I love this show!

[@emmanuellalangley4471]

Many Positive wished to all the couples. Great conversation. Thank you for sharing

[@GmaEssy]

awwwwww this is beautiful, I pray they al have long/healthy/fun/growing marriages!!!

[@kyllegiovanni6718]

This was beautiful. Particularly watching the men be so vulnerable and listening to them profess their love for their wives.

[@danielleshawnte6372]

So beautiful...love this 😍😍😍

[@jbill7808]

This is beautiful

[@brandywarrior]

So, so good. 🤎🦋🤎

[@nathanielnwachukwu9698]

Brandi and Kareem, having a purpose for marriage, that is great.

[@LeslieDRogers]

I just love this!

[@denisewesley7017]

This is so good, open and honest! Those of us who are single and dating need to hear this more often. We need to see and hear both sides (men and women) & of course new in the marriage and some time into the marriage, as black people. Thank you all for doing this.

[@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect]

Beautiful, mature and very encouraging conversation

[@chabridgettumusiime8994]

Best episode I have seen been so glued to it . Honestly the communication, body language, the joy n laughter , real talk about their fears etc thanks 👍💕💕💕💕🌹💕🙏

[@bigdezol]

So much positivity in the comments. Love it!

[@dr.noaveyarlee]

Nice! Really like this extension. I think this is the most I have heard convos on the show from the perspective of Black love versus Black ppl in love. It was refreshing to hear the discussion of the Black experience and how it impacts them as husband and wife.