Boarding School Syndrome - A Personal Account, Learning and Healing

[@nathanb2882]

Having the courage to post this video was an unthinkably generous gift. You need to know that your kindness and humility will change other people’s lives. Mine for one. I finally feel understood. You are a truly strong and wonderful human being.

[@pierscross]

Thank you @Nathan B I really appreciate you taking the time to write your words. I am really heartened that you found this video to be useful. I put off uploading or even recording this video for a long time worried all the back lash I would recieve. In fact, over the years I have only received support like yours. I appreciate your support, take care, Piers

[@amandajohnson-williams7718]

I'm amazed how different you look without your beard! So much younger!! It's great you are acknowledging your trauma by the way ... I admire that journey so much, much love to you xxx ❤❤❤

[@drelorenzo8101]

Ive been watching you for years, since i was like fourteen and i just want you to know that all your videos helped me while i was going through my drug addiction and emotional problems. Your my hero, piers!

[@pierscross]

dre lorenzo Hi Dre, Thank you for your message - it really touched me. I love that there are people in the world like you, people who are willing to face their challenges with an open heart and amazing courage. Thank you. Thank you for being you. Thank you for your shining. The challenges that you have gone through and the person you have become are an example to us all. The birth of the new humanity is arriving - I see it all around me. Our job is just to keep going and then keep going some more. Thank you, With great metta, Piers

[@edwardadams7525]

I had often talked about the abuse that I suffered at boarding school, but never actually confronted it until now. I am very grateful to you for your honesty and openness in sharing your story with me. I particularly liked the idea of being creative to allow the child to express themselves again. I feel that my 8 year old self has been stuck inside me all the while I've been living I'm now 47. I know that there is a potential for inner peace now after all these years.

[@pierscross]

Good afternoon Edward, thank you for your comment and your honesty. I am glad that the idea of creativity struck a chord with you - I have found creativity through writing stories, painting, drawing, song and music to have been and still is very healing. Really good to hear that you have begun the journey to inner peace. Take care, Piers

[@edwardadams7525]

@@pierscross Thank you Piers for your very swift response. I feel that I am only truly free when I am with those who don't judge me. I will endeavour to keep going with my path, and I am very interested in the Buddhist path for freedom from suffering. I believe that it is really only accessible once you've cleared the demons inside.

[@aldred76]

I went to school with Ziggy Cross. I just want to say i looked up to you. I always thought you were not like the other guys on your year. You were relatable and genuinely really a lovely guy. we shared a love of athletics and i remember our athletics away days. Having processed my time at the school we shared I totally get how to a degree we were all lambs to the wolves and for no reason at all some of us got out unscathed. This troubles me to today. I just want to say for me you were one of the good guys/ seniors and i commend your brutality honest video. Hope life is better now for you Piers❤

[@pierscross]

Good afternoon Mark, how lovely to hear from you. I remember you as a kind and strong boy at CH. And yes, I remember those away days. In particular I remember chatting with you and TD at Broadbridge Heath on your LE - I was on my GE I think - Mid Sussex Championships, maybe... Thanks for your kind words. It is interesting to hear your reflections of me. My own thoughts were of self-hatred and of not being good enough. I really struggled at CH but learned to hide it. The sport was a really good release for me - one of my safe places. In my work I see that some seemed to get out unscathed but that it usually comes at a cost - severing of emotions, workaholism, addiction. Many thought that I survived unscathed until I tried to take my own life. You might be interested in this interview with Will Verling who is a paediatrician now kzbin.info/www/bejne/d5KblpyZg5J6ZqM or Amelia White from Col B kzbin.info/www/bejne/Zmm6k4GtmtOSiaM Life is good now. I have been married for 16 years, have volunteered with Scout for 14 years and love the work I do around boarding school trauma. It would be great to speak. Feel free to reach out via my website: www.piers-cross.com/contact Thanks Mark, take care, Piers

[@medwayhospitalprotest]

When you say you had 7 years of counselling.... I have also seen several counsellors about my own childhood and narcissistic family. BUT, none of it really helped. Especially as some of the counsellors were awful. Their opinions varying from "you're too sensitive" to "why aren't you crying". It was a waste of time. So now I practice radical acceptance. I have a dim view of humanity. But it is what it is. Anyway the point of the comment is that although counselling and working on it is presented as the solution, people often end up very disappointed when it doesn't work. I think you never really get over these things you just have to learn to accept it. I developed extensive autoimmune disease because of my traumatic childhood and also experience very debilitating fatigue. x

[@pierscross]

Thank you for sharing some of your journey. I am sorry to hear what you have been through. I love that you are practicing radical acceptance. I personally now teach and use lots of tools and techniques especially for those with complex trauma. It does take a long time and in my work with others we can start to make huge steps. Yes, for me counselling didn't really work - it was the deep unconscious work that really helped me, like dreamwork and Matrix Reimprinting. Take care, Piers

[@lemsip207]

I agree. I get more from watching videos like these, the ones on attachment theory and on the Patrick Teahan channel than from counsellors who have no idea what is going on in the real world even when qualified and experienced. So when I talked about the misogynist men's rights activists online that had influenced people they had no idea what I was talking about a few years ago until Andrew Tate was hitting the headlines but Tate is only the tip of the iceberg. The latest thing now is social prescribing but if I can knit and master the basics I can do that at home while watching the TV or listening to the radio or podcasts rather than join a knit and natter group with people I have nothing in common with but who all vote for the same political party, listen to the same music and watch the same TV programmes just to fit in with each other. The film Single White Female comes to mind. Once I mastered the basics it was easy to learn more from books and videos. Before then I would need someone to teach me the basics in a class or one to one. That's just one example. There are also coffee mornings, lunch clubs and support courses. I found that malevolent and toxic people attend these groups to prey on vulnerable people there. There are also emotionally needy people looking to other emotionally needy people for validation. They will drain you emotionally. They are like energy vampire. Often I need a lot of self care after being around these people, such as taking a solitary walk in the woods but often there is bad weather making that difficult. One good thing about the pandemic with lockdowns, firebreaks and restrictions on meeting up through restrictions on numbers was that I was able to detox from toxic people though there were meetings over zoom and social or fundraising events in outdoor spaces in the summer instead of inside cafes, pubs or community centres. It's no coincidence that the Labour Party drew up its Code of Conduct for meetings in 2022 after some members had the space to think about how they felt invisible or invalidated in meetings so they came together to air these and come up with solutions such as a ban in repetitions and waffling and timing how long people can speak for uninterrupted in discussions, when presenting a report or asking questions so people don't talk over each other abd more people get a chance to contribute. In the past I walked out of many a discussion, break out group at a conference or a meeting because it was badly facilitated or chaired and therefore dominated by a few individuals who talked the meeting out, talked over others who tried to speak, repeated what others said to steal their ideas, waffled on and on and/or went off on a tangent. We need that same Code of Conduct for other organisations. I have seen it in the FAN group network that started in Cardiff to ease loneliness and help people practice English if it isn't their native language. Everyone there speaks in turn on an agreed topic for no longer than three minutes. After the person on your right speaks so you then speak or say you will pass. That means the most dominating people have to wait their turn the same as other people.

[@firepots]

Hello Piers, I just watched this with my wife. It's been a long journey. I'm 60 and was deeply touched by your story as it echoed many parallelled experiences to mine. At the very end I finally felt completely understood...for the very first time in my life. Being misunderstood and not understanding myself at boarding school was a very deep wound. It was very cleansing to witness your tears. Completely cathartic. Even though we don't know each other, we actually do by parallel experience. We are brothers touched by what has now become a sacred wound. I thank God for your tears, your suffering, your courage, and in time, I hope to thank God for my boarding school experience. May it come soon.

[@pierscross]

+Nick Fenn Dear Nick, Thank you for taking the time to leave your wonderful words - they brought tears to my eyes so thank you. I found your words very powerful. I feel that our wounds are our greatest gifts and yet because they are so painful, we are ( I am resistant) to going there. This is the world we live in, I see that it is changing every day, but for many people, what they feel is suppressed, repressed and shut down. We drink, we facebook, we take drugs in order not to feel. And yet for me this is one of the true gifts boarding school has offered me. The pain. When I truly embrace the pain then I can wish no harm on another being - it can't be done. May no being feel the pain that I feel. May no harm come to them. And yet while I suppress and deny my pain and also my joy to be alive I struggle to relate to others. I struggle to have compassion. Boarding school is a powerful thing. And as we awaken during these times, we will be the leading edge of change, for we can relate to all human beings because we know what it feels to feel pain. And through that the love flows as it has started to awaken within myself. Thank you for doing the amazing work you are doing, May you be well, Love, Piers

[@florestan1078]

Hi Piers. Thank you so much for this. It is incredibly courageous and moving and inspiring too. I had only relatively recently come across Boarding School Syndrome when I read about Joy Schaverien's book a year ago. I bought the book and it was a revelation to me. I began to understand why I felt like I did. For years I just thought there was something fundamentally wrong with me - I felt that my life was blighted. I went to boarding school when I was 10 years old in the late sixties and for most of the six years I was there I experienced bullying. The outcome was that I experienced bouts of depression and anxiety that have continued into my adult life. The positive aspect was that it made me search for a philosophy that would help me find an answer to the meaning of life. It also helped me open my life to the suffering of others which has helped me in my healing work. However I still struggled with suicidal feelings. Another book I read earlier this year "Bullying Scars - the impact on adult life and relationships" by Ellen deLara was also very helpful. I have now started therapy with someone who has experience of treating boarding school "survivors" and which I am feeling hopeful about. You are right - we just have to keep moving forward on our life's journey. I love your quote from Einstein about "the most important question you can ever ask is if the Universe is a friendly place". I'm not sure I feel this currently but I feel it is indeed a very important question and contains great wisdom if I can look deeply enough! Blessings to you and thank you again.

[@pierscross]

Dear Florestan, Thank you so much for your wonderful and courageous words. It touches me that people like yourself have the courage to share your experiences here online - I know that I put off putting the above film online for months and months. It is frightening to stand and say what I feel for fear of what others will think of me. Ajahn Chah, my teacher's teacher, once said that for those of us who have had a lot of suffering we are like big old houses. Once we clear one room out, we then realise that we have more work to do. It can be challenging. But what Ajahn Chah pointed out was that when you start to clear rooms you then have the space to accomodate others in your life. You can relate to and have compassion for more and more people because you know what they feel... So I feel that I personally will always be tidying out rooms, but this will help me to feel compassion and love for others. I find nowadays that I often cry when I hear people's struggles and traumas. And it feels really healing. I therefore feel, Florestan, that we as boarding school survivors have the potential to be very wise, loving and courageous humans. One step at a time, one room at a time and we will get there... Many blessings and love, Piers

[@florestan1078]

Thank you Piers for your words of wisdom. I like the analogy of us being big old houses and that clearing rooms gives us space to accomodate others in our life. I can see that the process of clearing allows energy to flow rather than stagnate which is why it is important to "do the work" even though it can be difficult and sometimes painful. Many thanks and blessings to you.

[@richardrickford3028]

Piers you have done something incredibly good in sharing this. Its raw honesty is a great great healer,

[@pierscross]

Thank you Richard - this was the first video that I posted about my boarding school journey and was absolutely terrified about putting it out there. I am now about to publish a book about my story and am feeling the same amount of fear... Glad that you found it to be healing 🙏

[@rogerd6508]

Thanks Piers felt a great affinity with you, and loads of identification. I found a way to turn suffering into joy through 12 step recovery, spirituality and art. Peace and Love

[@pierscross]

Eric von Braun Hi Eric, thanks for sharing. It is so good to hear that people are healing their wounds. Art was a tremendous help for me in my own healing. With blessings, Piers x

[@ricdavid7476]

My father went to a very posh public boarding school. he hated every minute of it. So what did he do? He sent me to a boarding school when I was 10 and when I was 12 tried to get me to go to his old boarding school. I told him I did not want to go there so he sent me to a "progressive" boarding school in about 1965. Most of the teachers were pedophiles so in pretty quick order I had been raped by one of the teachers and this carried on for the next 3 years. strangers came to the school to abuse me and also my god father. It was a really confusing time. The year I left I started taking class a drugs and rapidly became a full on drug addict and ended up shooting heroin for years with the normal results gaols mental hospitals death separation. I have lost count of how many therapists and shrinks I have seen. When I had a terrible breakdown at the age of 54 it started my quest for a spiritual answer. I too went through the various new age practices including Buddhism which I really thought was the answer. However I eventually came to the truth which is Jesus Christ and at that point my life began to heal. All my addcitions and I really had them all have subsequently gone and I am completely clean and have been for many years. I have found John chapter 3 verse 16 " for God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosever believes in Him will not perish but shall have eternal life" to be true.

[@pierscross]

Good afternoon Ric, Wow what an amazing story. Stories like yours are very inspiring for me. The amount of wisdom that we gain from going through the challenges like you have done can be profound. Thank you for sharing your journey. Many blessings, Piers

[@UltimateUna]

@ricdavid: Look into the Eastern Orthodox Church, brother.

[@ricdavid7476]

@@scinformation7229 Hello I have seen his stuff on You tube. I often go there when i am having a bad day which can be quite often, Thanks for your encouragement

[@ricdavid7476]

Whatever anyone does dont go to any religion for help whether it be islam, roman catholicism , buddhism, church of england or any other organised religion they are all terrible dead ends and they are main stream and like all water age going down the drain. Jesus Christs crucifixion death burial and resurrection for the forgiveness of YOUR sins was the greatest even in human history and is the greatest event that will ever happen going into the future. Believe this simple truth and the gift of eternal life will be given you. This brief time we spend here on earth is full of trouble for everyone born of women. dont be fooled by man made religions like islam or any of the others they are all of the devil.

[@ricdavid7476]

@Lara Gravenor Hello Lara as I was the only one of my sister and I to go to boarding school I can only answer how I would have liked to have been asked about it. I was ten when i went to my first boarding school and the one where the real damage was done was the one i went to between the age of 13-15. May I ask how old your nephew was and what type of school it was?

[@liztait1752]

Thank you so much Piers. I have just watched your video all thru and felt that finally someone was there holding my hand through the nameless experience I call boarding school. Thank you for showing me my despair and my survival strategies. Thank you for not going away but calling it for what it was for an hour and letting me stand in it with you. Thank you.

[@pierscross]

Dear Liz, Thank you very much for leaving your comment. I feel that it takes a lot of courage to face what we feel about boarding school so I felt very touched by your words. Many blessings and healing on your journey, May you be well, Piers x

[@lemsip207]

The second generation of boarders often get to escape the abuse and neglect at home when they go to boarding school because the cycle repeats as their parents don't know how to parent them properly and there are attachment issues. Most of them are anxious ambivalent or anxious avoidant. The former find it more difficult in boarding school as they are emotionally needy but soon learn to be avoidant like the others to survive. Fifi Geldof escaped the fallout from the breakdown of her parents' marriage and Paula's drug addictions at boarding school. Peaches bore the brunt of that as she tried to protect Pixie.

[@pridden76]

Thank you for sharing your story and being brave! I´m glad you didn´t take your life. You seem to be a lovely person and you are very much needed here. I´m very sorry you had to go through all this. Not liking boarding school seems to be a very normal and healthy reaction. I´m from Sweden, we don´t have boarding schools here, except there is one or two for the extreme upper class. But it turned out they hade horrible bullying problems there and it became a huge scandal and the school had to shut down. I grew up with a dad who was an alcoholic, so I do know the pain of that myself. I wish you well! Take care :)

[@pierscross]

Hi PRidden 76, Thank you for your support and honesty. Many countries around the world are surprised that the British have boarding schools - for most of the world it doesn't really make sense - why have children if you then send them away... I now see my boarding school as a gift although it took many years to realise that... Many blessings, Piers

[@richardrickford3028]

Thank you Piers and thank you again.

[@lemsip207]

I came here from the interview Sonia Poulton had with Joanna Brittan on boarding schools. A few years ago I read Richard Beard's book but he glossed over girls' and coeducational boarding schools and the girls' experience they had with them. Then I searched for Joanna Brittan on KZbin and came across this channel. We are all adversely affected by boarding school trauma even if we never attended them. There are attachment issues with ex boarders who have children so they repeat the cycle by either sending them to boarding school or hiring nannies if they can afford them or emotionally neglecting them anyway leaving them to raise themselves. Many ex boarders go into politics and most Prime Ministers attended them with the exceptions of Harold Wilson, Margaret Thatcher, Gordon Brown, Theresa May, and a few others. Or they go into law, the military, the City and the arts. Peter Gabriel, the ex Genesis singer, has spoken out about the effect being at Charterhouse had on him. Phil Collins and Steve Hackett joined Genesis at the same time but had been to state schools and noticed the inability to show emotions among the three others in the band. There was a lot of bottled up anger that would surface in rows, and that went back to what happened in school. Mike Rutherford, being in the year below the two others at Charterhouse, was a but distanced from it, so he acted as the peacemaker in those rows. Some ex boarders go into state school teaching, so inflict the values they were taught on state school pupils. Or they work in education authorities in councils or the Department of Education in Whitehall and do the same there.

[@pierscross]

Thanks for your comment. And thanks for sharing about Peter Gabriel, I didn't realise that he was an ex-boarder. I have been collating a database of all the ex-boarders in the public eye and Peter is not yet on my list. Thank you. And I so agree that we are all impacted by boarding school trauma. Thank you, take care, Piers

[@lemsip207]

@pierscross Mike Rutherford and Tony Banks, as well as they were in Charterhouse with him.

[@suehinder6399]

Thank you for your courage in putting this up. I have learned a lot. x

[@pierscross]

Hi Sue, Thank you for your comment. I am glad that people are finding this video useful even if I had a lot of resistance to putting it up... With blessings, Piers

[@CarlsVlogs]

Hi sir, I have had painful experience at boarding school. Its always at the back of my mind.

[@pierscross]

prospect4186 Hi Prospect 4186, Thank you for your message and your own courage in posting your experiences. I feel this is the first step for us in our eventual healing - admitting how it was - painful in our experiences. By doing this we can then start to let it go and use this to keep opening our hearts.Thank you and much love and healing to you,May you be well,Piers

[@animalcrackersong]

The police are finally listening to my complaints of abuse at my old school .... They,re going to come and film my statement !!! ..

[@comeclarityinsanity]

Thank you Piers.

[@pierscross]

Mome Momo Hi Mome, Thank you for taking the time to share, With blessings, Piers

[@bonfyre4711]

@@pierscross you've saved many future children by making this known to future parents You are a savoir and a litterally hero of happiness and future people

[@pierscross]

@Bon Fyre thank you for your words - I really appreciate your support.

[@johngraham5563]

Very interesting and illuminating, particularly on the hidden repressive effects of boarding school. One practical point- the volume is too low. Just out of curiosity,Piers, but which boarding school did you attend? My experiences of boarding were horrendous.

[@pierscross]

Thank you John for your message. Glad that you found it useful. I am not yet ready to publicly say which school I went to. Thank you for asking - shows me I still have some work to do to stop caring what others at my school think of me... Please feel free to message me on KZbin or Facebook and I can share with you. Take care, Piers

[@pierscross]

@@johngraham5563 Good evening John, thank you for your honesty. Well, I did used to play school against one of those schools... Take care, Piers

[@simonsmatthew]

I wouldn't say the first stage was denial for me. It was basically "thank goodness I am out of prison". I don't think I was denying, I think I was just ignorant. I never forgot that boarding school was hell: I just channelled my anger into other things - basically work and career - and I was unaware of how it was determining my behaviour. So that's it really; unaware rather than denial. I am sure at 18 if I saw your video (I wished I could have done), I would have accepted it on the spot.

[@pierscross]

Good afternoon @simonsmatthew , thank you for taking the time to comment. And thank you for sharing your insights. Interesting, I recorded this 5 or 6 years ago and have expanded this model a lot over the past few years. I too now call it more dissociation or disconnection which is similar to Joy Schaverien or Bessel Van der Kolk. Interestingly I was reading Judith Herman's book today about Trauma and Recovery and she says often with complex trauma we can use denial to cope. Such a fascinating area. Take care, Piers

[@songbirdforjesus2381]

William and Harry are survivors, but Harry suffered the most, shoving down his emotions and acting out afterwards And William and Kate, two survivors are sending their own children to boarding school I feel so sad for George especially because he is a sensitive child

[@pierscross]

Good afternoon SFJ, Thank you for taking the time to comment. I didn't realise that Kate had also gone to boarding school but that makes sense. Feels sad that they are sending their own child to boarding school... Many blessings, Piers

[@trueblueimpersonations8949]

Diana’s bulimia would have started at boarding school 🏫

[@JohnDoe-gn4xj]

Thank you.

[@pierscross]

Glad that you found it useful John...

[@annekedebruyn7797]

Learning about boarding schools is very odd as an outsider. People are either 100% pro boarding school and wish that every kid could go or 100% against to the point where we have survivor groups. I hope everyone who didn't had a good experience may seek help if needed and hopefully find a healthy way to closure.

[@pierscross]

Good afternoon Anneke, thank you for taking the time to comment. Yes, I have often heard that those in Europe do not understand why the British have children only to send them away aged 6 or 7. It is odd... I have sometimes had people tell me how lucky I am to have boarded (from those who went to a day school) and have been quite angry at me. I too make that wish that may all people who have been hurt by this experience to find healing. Take care, Piers

[@ricdavid7476]

They suck big time never let a kid go to one why would any parent entrust their children at the most important developmental part of their life to complete strangers ? It's crazy . My teachers were really evil pedophiles and all moral imbeciles almost to a man

[@pierscross]

@@ricdavid7476 Thank you Ric, for sharing so honestly. Wishing that you find healing from the traumas that you have been through. I certainly see that some of my teachers were as you described them but am learning to forgive them, only because I have seen how the hatred has been poisoning me. I don't condone what they did - but I am learning to let it go so that I can move on, which I am managing to do day by day. Take care Ric, Piers

[@ricdavid7476]

@@pierscross I had one of my rapists arrested 40 years later that was healing that took back some ownership

[@pierscross]

@@ricdavid7476 Hi Ric, thank you for sharing your courage. It is good to hear that you are finding healing. Take care of yourself.

[@atstar8136]

Only got to 18:43 Sorry unable to follow to the end. I'm sure it will be informative to others....

[@lucylocket546]

“The endurance of darkness is preparation for great light”. - Joan of the Cross Are boarding schools better now days or still as bad?

[@ricdavid7476]

They may be slightly better but not much I suspect

[@pierscross]

Hi Lucy, it is difficult to say. I feel that BS is better externally - more privacy, and less abuse but I feel that the underlying emotional trauma of separation and shutting down is still occurring...

[@richardumfreville6914]

My son was sent to Worth Abbey a few years ago by his mother and her family , over my vociferous objections . It sounded just as bullshitty as the school I was sent to in the seventies . Crap food , stupid arbitrary rules , inane punishments . A bargain at thirty thousand quid a year (not paid by me)

[@pierscross]

Thank you Richard for sharing your story. Sounds like both you and your son had a challenging time while at school. I used to play football against Worth... take care, Piers

[@thomassimpson95]

Do you know anything about doing the fire alarm at night by law? Because that's what my boarding school did? Please can you discuss that in a future video unless there already is one. It was scary as hell. Also did they have plastic mattresses on the beds and did they have the night staff shining lights on you? It was literally like going to prison or young offenders and being in detention for all week and every week. Plus they often made you hang around like lemons for some evenings. That's why I hated boarding school and it has ruined and will provoke me for the rest of my life. Parents and carers need to be responsible for their own children. If they love you and want you safe and alive, then they need to let you sleep at home with them for as long as you need until you find your own place. Plus it makes you homesick and it's silly moving between two places every so often.

[@pierscross]

Good afternoon Thomas, thank you for your message and questions. I am not sure about the law around fire alarms. Certainly I was woken in the night by fire alarms but it was not on purpose - just faulty alarms. The staff didn't shine lights on us although some of the mattresses were plastic (the mattresses we had were horse hair - so rather hard...) Please know that it is possible to heal from this. It has taken me time but through healing work I have started to heal. Please look up any of the work by Joe Dispenza or Bruce Lipton or some of the therapies I have trained in like EFT or Matrix Reimprinting. These really help to heal deep wounds. Good luck with the journey, many blessings, Piers

[@anonb4632]

There's a lot of denial and defensiveness about what boarding school does to people. I know first hand. People aren't even aware of it - but you can see it in some of the comments by (ex)boarders defend their schooling and how they talk to anyone who criticises it.

[@pierscross]

Anon B Hi there, thank you for sharing. What you talk about is the mask I wore for many years - 'I'm fine, and I was very lucky to go to such an amazing school. ' Under that mask was such pain and so many tears. It's true I was lucky but I also had every right to feel the pain I felt. I see that this is changing. With blessings, Piers

[@anonb4632]

Piers Cross At least you understand yourself to some extent Piers. I am not a Buddhist but I have done meditation and on one occasion I experienced a regression to my first boarding school. It's really f'd me up emotionally and moreover it didn't prepare me for life. My careers room at public school was either military stuff or university info. No interview technique, business skills or anything else to help me make an actual living.

[@animalcrackersong]

After 40 years of refusing to act ,,,,Norfolk police are finally taking seriously my complaints over the past 30 years of abuse dished out by THE SADIST HADDEN .... PTSD is the syndrome some boarding schools can incite ,,,, I would have loved boarding school as it was escaping my abusive family ,,,, however it was out of the frying pan into the fire ..

[@bonfyre4711]

Never gonna look at Hogwarts in Harry Potter the same way

[@pierscross]

Thank you Bon for your words. Reading Harry Potter made me cry uncontrollably at times and I found it a very cathartic experience.

[@bonfyre4711]

@@pierscross you're making people aware Mate Take it from a bipolar individual Whatever bad or issues you've experiences use to your advantage as a motivation to do what you have and experience as much as possible I quite an Australian Tjapakai proverb Only in darkness do we truly see the light

[@pierscross]

Thank you @Bon Fyre for your words. I love the proverb. I was watching an Australian film about Aboriginal boarding schools last night called Rabbit Proof Fence. I see that the Aboriginies were subjected to such darkness and yet I see how much light they carry. Many blessings, Piers

[@bonfyre4711]

@@pierscross That rabbit proof fence was bullshit The author had serious complaints about that It was politically driven lies like the 2008 Australia film

[@atstar8136]

What kind of therapy did you have?

[@pierscross]

Hi @salome nyaga, Thank you for your message. I talk about the therapies that I used in this video. Some of them worked and some of them didn't. Many thanks, Piers kzbin.info/www/bejne/boDHY6aYbKabbtk

[@harrystick3705]

Thanks Piers. It was a great gift to watch that. I related to it so much. So many children suffer in so many ways, of course. For myself, this was part of my childhood. By sharing you helped me to understand a little more. Hug

[@pierscross]

Good afternoon @Harry Stick, thank you for takng the time to comment and for your support. I am glad that by me sharing you were able to understand a little more. Take care of yourself, Piers