Bossing up as a solo mom + GRWM

[@PandaPeroxide]

Abbey I’m not a mother but I really look up to you as like a second mom and I appreciate you for that❤️ thanks for being a 2nd mom to a lot of us💓

[@delaneyexpressionalart]

felt this 100%!! my mother choose to disappear from my siblings & i’s live & we lost our dad in 2021 to an overdose it sucks so yes i relate to this comment a lot ❤️

[@abbeyfickley]

I love hearing this. My content is not just for the Moms, or the sober. It’s for everyone. My life and my struggles are so diverse… I like to believe I have some thing for everyone within my experiences!

[@queenjojo8799]

Yes 100% you’re a internet mom for so many I don’t have kids don’t want any because of the relationship I have with my own mom but I look up to you and know I can always count on you to make me smile

[@sophiasalg198]

@@abbeyfickley l’m neither sober nor a mom but you’re such an inspiration ❤

[@malindavenegas7752]

Omg same

[@taylorrichmond9709]

This is the content I’ve been craving. Realistic, growth-minded, and a showcase of your authentic self. Thank you!

[@lucysmith6194]

40 comments within an hour of uploading? Bravo girlfriend you are KILLING THIS - I LOVE how you gave tangible steps - So many people clickbait and underdeliver - You did the opposite, this video surprise & delighted me with how actionable it is

[@abbeyfickley]

Wow, what a freaking compliment. Thank you for your insight. I really really appreciate that!

[@miajo564]

This was such a comforting pep talk. You can feel that it came from a sincere and authentic place.

[@myrandapistokache6653]

As a single mama with no support facing homelessness, I appreciate this so freaking much. Newly sober and the emotions (mostly anxiety and fear) are terrifying No idea how I’m gonna pay the car this week and that’s the only thing I’ve got that we can atleast sleep in if we need to. I just want to give my daughter so much more she deserves that. I feel so trapped without support for childcare from family. Thank you for always being a positive face for me, and helping me hold onto the tiny piece of hope I have left

[@dream_dealer]

You can do it. I believe in you ❤

[@m31sprincesa62]

💜

[@Lyssa0095]

Go straight to your social office (where you get ebt etc) tell them you need to sign up for emergency financial benefits and you should leave there with $. I had to do this years ago when I was struggling. I hope this helps you. You can do this mama ❤

[@joangelaparker2845]

Depend on God ,we do nothing on our own , we will fall , every step walk with our Lord he will keep us ,than you are sound minded and stable in all ways , give God the glory not man and watch God turn your life around . He sets us free from every hold there is , he is our provider 🙏

[@stylee_icon463]

Your testimony is so powerful. It’s changing my perspective

[@kristhaaan]

I’m a Mom of 4 little ones and I have 16 years… all of the advice and tips that you gave are spot on! You can definitely tell that you have put in the hard work. I’m so proud of you. Lord knows it isn’t easy! ❤ PS: I’ve used Lightscapade every single day for YEARS now! Best product ever!

[@hoseokiies_210]

I love to see you getting these sponsorship Abbey! such a big step for your platform, excited to see your channel grow!!

[@abbeyfickley]

That means a lot. Thank you. 🙏🏼 so grateful to have such incredible friends on here!

[@stasiababy1023]

18:40..... really, truly, thank you... its easy to be in a rut and forget they can be your strength. They can keep you planned up week after week, helping stay on track and sober and MOST IMPORTANTLY!! SHOWING THEM how to be successful.... your words made me cry❤ I thank you so much for being you...

[@abbeyfickley]

Aww I am so glad this video was helpful for you! You are amazing, keep going! ❤️‍🔥

[@superdupersnowflake]

Thank god for you thank you for your help. I’ve been clean from heroin 6 months . Thank you I am proud of you

[@xojacquie7356]

This was incredibly helpful with getting me more motivated! I have always been a “To Do” list maker, but I pulled out my planner and wrote down my simple tasks for the day! It truly helped! Thank you for getting me inspired. You’re beautiful on the inside and out. Much love mama 💕.

[@gomeara2703]

You are such a natural speaker with very good practical advice. I’ve never dealt with addiction personally but have watched many family members suffer from it. You are giving people simple tools to rebuild. To displace the negative habits with positive habits. I’m proud of you for helping others 🫶🏼

[@your_girl_101]

I am so excited to see this video. I am so proud of how far you've came in your journey. You are an amazing mom to your daughter and you can tell she loves you so much in every video. Your so gorgeous and congrats on everything you've accomplished. Love you abbey💗💗

[@abbeyfickley]

I love you guys so much. I am so glad that you are here. And the ones that commented before even watching 🥹🥹😭😭😭 i’ve had such a rough day. You guys have no idea how much you do for me. Thank you. 🙏🏼

[@your_girl_101]

@@abbeyfickley ofc, you should be supported and I know that you are loved by many. I know it takes time to respond to people's comments and I appreciate that you do. I love you Abbey and I am so happy that I was able to make ur dayyyy❤❤

[@jfit24]

Love the story that you share with everyone, really helps people connect with your story and let’s them know that they’re not alone ❤️❤️❤️

[@Anniekelseyty]

Thank you so much for this 🙏❤ I'm in another country , no fam and healing from the death of my dad while staying sober. Thank you so much.

[@halliemundt]

Yes!! My planner & any type of thing to keep me organized has to be fun & interesting to me & give me some sort of Dopamine to my brain simply because of my ADHD, otherwise I’ll have no interest in it & feel totally overwhelmed by it! Literally live by my planner & my reminders app & a brain dump notebook for random thoughts/ideas that pop in. I’ve found that digital combined with having something to write in is the best method for me, otherwise I end up with a pile of random papers and tear outs to sort through that overwhelms me and I carry everywhere.

[@kalinawalker2656]

This is exactly what people need to hear. You are such a beautiful person with such a good message. Thanks mama.

[@RinnyNekoKawaii26]

I'm 25 and Ive been feeling very lost. I felt like despite knowing what I should do, I couldn't find simple steps on how to start. This. Thank you for this. I really needed this ❤

[@karencristobal4999]

I always say: the life I have in recovery is what I was trying to achieve with drugs and alcohol. I’m happy; content; inspired; creative. Who knew it was always there waiting for me.

[@sophiakinghorn8632]

Please make more videos like these! I currently am going through a lot and sometimes the life that I want feels so far away, but people like you sharing your story makes me feel so much better!

[@charityrubba]

Abbey this new video vibe has seriously helped more than you will ever know...keep 'em coming! I swear makeup & mental health=GENIUS!

[@meaganevoy]

Thank you for not only being real and honest, but giving advice on how to get your shit together. This was a great video!

[@TheWorriedCat]

Thank you so much for the valuable, practical, and compassionate advice, Abbey!

[@FemaleNico]

I love your videos. I would really appreciate a video on the first year of sobriety and how the first month was and what you did you change your ways.

[@amandaadkins3524]

Loved this! I'm a paper planner gal. I MUST physically write it down...it just seems to help me remember ANYTHING from the act of putting pen to paper. I still use my digital calendar, but I require physical lists for my brain. I was also a single mom to my daughter, then married when she was 8yo and am now back to single mom status w/my son (12yo) since Nov. 2019 (daughter is 22yo now!). Your tips are exactly similar to what I follow (then and now!). I love and appreciate your story, and cannot tell you how proud I am of you momma! Much love ❤️

[@sobermomma544]

As a person in the recovery community id like to say well done. You have gained the trust of 1000s of people, I pray that you continue to build trust by continuing these videos and keeping your real life drama far from social media. Please do not be the next Jeskent. ❤

[@emmahodge1113]

Hi Abbey :) I love when you pop up on my suggested videos. Just seeing your face puts me at ease lol! You’re so kind and inspiring. I really look up to you as an older sister or something. In the last year I graduated college and moved back in with my parents. My boyfriend has been struggling financially for a very long time, and has four kids with his ex. The oldest two live with us now, and see their Mom every weekend at the very least. Although they aren’t my kids and I don’t know what it’s like to have a motherly perspective, I try so hard to make sure they’re loved and comfortable and happy and taken care of. Sometimes it does just feel like babysitting though. I love them, but I do honestly sometimes miss the days where I could just come home and not have to do anything. Especially when I’m depressed, it’s so hard to take care of myself let alone a 7 and 8 year old. My boyfriend does all he can but he doesn’t struggle with mental health very much and it’s hard for him to understand sometimes. I don’t mean to be trauma dumping or anything- I just figured I’d share a little since hearing other people’s stories and current struggles helps me not feel so alone. None of my friends can really relate to this craziness! Abbey, thank you for all you do. Your channel feels like a safe space and oh my god why am I tearing up right now. Ugh. You’re so inspiring and I know I’m not alone when I say you help all of us feel like what we’re going through and feeling is VALID. I’m currently seeing my therapist every week and have been trying to keep up with my to-do list and planner. This video is a great kick in the butt. At least it’s Friday! If you’re reading this, you are going to be okay. Baby steps! ❤

[@Lyssa0095]

As a fellow sober mama, You are my inspiration every morning i watch you, thank you for being my best friend that i dont even know lol 🤍

[@annettemeyers4489]

You are a smart young woman. Inspiring for others . The thought “that we can and we will !”Keep it up girl ❤

[@user-ws7cp3ec4g]

I like to see content including you honestly. And that’s on a period.

[@abbiekitty608]

You are absolutely killing it. You inspire me everyday to be better for myself.

[@corrinaaa]

Love you momma!! Keep working hard it is not going unrecognized💗💗

[@tyara.collins]

Yay for a long form video ❤❤❤ you’re a boss ass mom! I’m not a mom, but I adore the relationship you and Mylah have. You’re doing amazing, super strong, smart, & absolutely a stunner. Keep pushing girl friend!

[@glorious555]

Really uplifted me. You have a very encouraging message and energy Abbey, thanks. I am dusting off my planner that I forgot about!!

[@Ashley91.]

I love ❤ watching your videos , I give you props for being so real with us.

[@alliecr1057]

I love when you share your experiences in sobriety. I’m just under 2 years sober, have an apartment and my son back but still a work in progress. Therapy and behavioural group therapy has had a phenomenal impact on my recovery. I’m finally healing from all the pain I was trying to escape. While there are hard days to come, I can do hard things and after where I’ve been I know I can get through anything.

[@amandabraun5289]

Thank you so much I needed to hear this. You have no idea. I respect your story but love that you included it’s always about addiction.

[@abbeyfickley]

Wouldn’t have this life without sobriety! ❤️‍🔥

[@LouLou_2815]

Abbey I just want you to know that you are such a good momma for myla, i grew up with a single mom and never even met my dad, I am 19 now and still have yet to meet him and I plan on not meeting him. In fact I didn’t even know I had a dad until i was about 9 years old. There were times were it felt like my mom was going to give up on me but there were times that were the best minutes, hours, days, months, years! and i live about 8 hours away from home but i am still the closest with my mom i will ever be!

[@KC-mw3rp]

Love this video. To your point about building a foundation, I’d like to add, when was the last time you’ve been to the OB/GYN? The dentist? These are appointments we easily put to the side, but can make some of the biggest differences in our health and lives. Good luck everybody. God bless.

[@allyd2725]

This is greatly helpful, thank you! Unfortunately, I’m kind of stuck (only temporarily, girlfriend) but I know in a matter of 2-3 months I’ll be back. Pushin. Grindin. You feel me girl? But I’m trying to be patient. But, thank you! I wanted you to know this video was great! I’ve got my “team” and I’m just trying to be patient for the next 2-3 months to come thru and that I couldn’t made a better video. Kudos to you girlfriend. Much love 💕💕

[@abbymorris936]

Abbey you are such an inspiration to me as a child, I love you so much

[@mamateddy_96]

Girl, try nars creamy concealer!!! Holy mess, I have super weird skin and I can’t hardly use anything. Please try it if you haven’t! Such an amazing concealer and not drying. I use it all over!

[@_shiannegolden]

I already know I’m gonna love this video! Love u Abbey! Also tell Myla she is the cutest thing ever!

[@anamariagarcia6106]

Your videos are such an inspiration!!! Thank you for all the advice! I'm currently going thru tough times and this video helps a lot

[@delaneyexpressionalart]

i lost my dad to an overdose december 2021 & i found him when i got home from work 💔 i am so proud of you & happy for you & your family ❤️

[@abbeyfickley]

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss, and that you had to go through that. I can’t even imagine. I hope you’ve been able to find some healing and peace how long your journey. I’m so glad you’re here. 🫶🏽

[@delaneyexpressionalart]

@@abbeyfickley thank you 🙏🏼 honestly it has made me appreciate life so much more.. i also have found peace in the sense that he is no longer struggling or in pain… i continue on for him, i hope he is living through me. ❤️‍🩹 it sucks though. i’m actually about to leave for my grief group! & this grief group is specifically for people who lost someone to an addiction. i am so happy you are here too! thank you 😊

[@ronnie-lynn]

⁠@@delaneyexpressionalart ​​⁠​⁠​⁠ sorry for your loss. I lost my dad to an over dose December 1999 I was 14, I also found him. I found peace in knowing he also was free from his pain and not struggling too. Sending you love ❤

[@delaneyexpressionalart]

@@ronnie-lynn that somewhat gives me peace too! as sad & traumatic as it all is. i’m sorry you had to go through that & know my pain 💔 sending you internet hugs!!

[@miaparis9287]

you are such an inspiration. please keep sharing your wisdom 🩷

[@lolagray6616]

You have a great voice for narrating audiobooks! Loved this video and the tips are right on xx

[@savannahcoopee5527]

I love your videos my mom also calls me Sissy and I’ve had your life in my life in her life and your daughters life for literally like the same life I don’t get to see my mom that much but I get to see her enough that I love her so much and you inspire me to do great things in life love your videos❤❤

[@WelcomeAllain]

Love these long form videos lately!!! ❤sending all the good vibes!!!

[@Kr12345]

I never comment but had to on this. Thank you for sharing PRACTICAL ACTIONS that you’ve found success with. You’re an inspiration in so many ways. I’m going to write these actions steps down and start building my way back up. Thank you thank you thank you ❤️✨🌙

[@Margaux.]

I liked you before this video. I love you after this video. I also color coded our calendars!! And I am an old school paper calendar and planner type of gal! We have a family calendar on the fridge, my calendar on my phone, my big paper planner…just gotta make sure I keep them all updated! I LOVE lists. My lists have lists! 16:59 Girl! Preach about the doctor appointments and such! As a nurse, I get on people about this often! Go get your Pap smears ladies! Please! To cover yourself, because I know you mean well by sharing the tools you’ve picked up along the way and put in your toolbox, etc…with your journey to sobriety and recovery…since you’re not a mental health professional, I would just state that and make it clear that the things that you state are things that work for you, that you are not giving medical advice, that kind of stuff. In any mental health type videos you may do. Just want ya to cover your butt. That was a long, wordy way to say that! I hope you get my point. 🤪

[@devyn2356]

Abbbbeeyyyy I need your help so badly!!! I’m in a mentally abusive relationship and have a 3yr old son and currently 1 mo pregnant. I’m so scared to leave and coparent that I stay. I know that’s right but I don’t even know how to take the first step. I look up to you so much.

[@trinitymar3s774]

Girl yes im not a mom either but i really admire the vibe the tips im always showing my mom ur video im trying to convince her to start a channel ur story is very inspiring god has big plans for you💅🏻❤️🙌

[@kristycollins371]

Also a big Thankyou for being so Brave

[@heather.warren]

I hate you saying "the problem is me." Like, yes it's MY problem however I find that with setting healthy boundaries and protecting myself it's so critical to have that clarifying moment of " oh, crap, this person actually is treating me like a human garbage can and that's not nice and I don't deserve that." Love the video, needed a self love pick me up ❤ but omfg it's so hard because self love is so person specific 🙃 Keep killin' it.

[@SunnysLifeIs]

Im so glad your on this earth😘

[@abbeyfickley]

I’m so glad we are here together at the same time 🤩

[@TheLionessLo]

You’re such a beautiful person! Amazing content!!! Thank you❤

[@colleendobsondatum3643]

Thanks for helping in keeping me sober and the only thing on the list I didn't do is the dentist! So I'm getting there. 😊

[@aBLA910]

We love and thank you, miss Abbey!

[@evanvasquez242]

Saving is a giant struggle for me. I’ve tried this and it just creates a habit of overspending so that I have to tap into the saved funds. It makes me feel like a failure.

[@abbeyfickley]

I’ve been there. I totally understand having to tap into the savings. You feel like you’re going in a circle, not getting ahead at all. It’s OK if you have to take money out. As long as you continue to do it every week or month. I’m telling you, it’s the habit! It’s OK if you have to take some of the money out for bills! 🫶🏽 (btw, I still have to pull money out of my savings. I just did it today.) 😆

[@humm23]

The idea of getting in the habit of saving just a little then building up that amount over time is VITAL. I started investing at 18. I worked 5 jobs while going to college, I was saving $100 a month. It was all I could do. I finished college, worked a big girl job, and when we had our kid, we ran numbers and daycare and the cost of working was going to be my entire salary + $3600 a year. But because we were saving that turned into investing, we were able to adjust our life style a bit, and I was able to retire. Our investments were making my salary. It has been the best thing ever. I will say it has been pretty simple, but not easy. Everything is a choice. Understanding money and how it works is such a badass move that will create wealth.

[@abbeyfickley]

yes!! I know it’s so easy for people to think, if it’s not a crap load of money, it’s not worth it. WRONG!

[@humm23]

@@abbeyfickley It is the habit of saving for a freaking long time. The power of compounding is magical. Personal finance is a passion of mine. It is possible to build wealth with $5 bucks at a time.

[@lunag4149]

did my makeup along with you, love this video! keep it up- gonna be a millionaire one day

[@mistystreasurechest5347]

Great video Abby, I’m gonna share this with my sister ❤ 🙏🏻

[@twyjoy6140]

Your so Gorgeous! Thank you for all this info! I’m at that point of blind trust. Nothing is being shown to me, but I’m not doing the work. So I get it more. I’m feeling alone, single mom.

[@JanetPhillips-qy3vq]

Thanks!🙏🏼

[@thisoneladykaty]

Lmao. The needing to actually use the planner that we purchase year after year...resonated like a blank planner at the end of the year. I like this longer video :) And what you said about time.

[@rikkinotrickey]

you're so real. ngl, if im having a bad day or am really anxious, i binge your channel's content- 🫶🫶

[@m31sprincesa62]

*TRAUMA* I love u so much. You are what KZbin was made for! Tell stories and post fun content of your daily struggles. So real queen I am from Ca! Would u ever move?

[@jamih9180]

You are a huge inspiration to me 💖

[@CassieJ4]

I just luhh you, girl. I seriously feel we'd be attached at the hip if we knew each other in real life. Lol. Bestie vibes for sure! 🫶🏼♡♡

[@Anniekelseyty]

can you please link your jewlery ????

[@breetown]

I needed this 😭

[@courtney6290]

I’ll be honest I never really understood why girls wear fake eyelashes, wow they really did make your eyes pop! I can see what all the hype is about now! Great video thanks for sharing your tips!!

[@elizabethfasolakis5200]

I love you girl ❤ love this content, keep doin your thing 🎉❤

[@Kristen10-22]

Keep staying humble. We’re only one bad thought away of using again.

[@Cookiesss18]

Girlllll yiu got a sponsorship get it i feel after watching a ton of your videos you are just making your dreams happen one by one❤❤❤❤❤ and I love that and thank you so much for influencing me to follow my dreams❤❤❤❤

[@Cookiesss18]

@Abbey_Fickley.. hiiiii

[@leahhopping949]

I’m so grateful I found your channel 🤍 You really are such an inspiration to me 🫶

[@crownhearthands]

Gorgeous look and great advice! Thanks for sharing 😊

[@caitlinkim7693]

STRONG ASS WOMAN!!❤️❤️

[@Siimply.Jessica]

I really wish sometimes you would make videos about your maintenance. I'm making pure speculation right now but one of your videos I watched I saw the biggest prescription bottle that is handed out at CVS in Walgreens which is used to keep Suboxone strips in when you don't get a box of 30 from the brand, CVS or Walgreens will put Suboxone strips in the largest orange tube that they use and I seen that behind you in one of your videos and I believe I saw a suboxone film in the packaging resting on your desk it was hard to see because of the glare and Suboxone film packaging is shiny. I don't want to call you out or anything but I'm just making a guess. And if it's true I would love to hear your thoughts on maintenance therapy and stuff because I'm on Subutex and I think I'm a lifer and I'm just curious if you are on a maintenance program, how you see it working in your life how you see it long-term etc

[@kristycollins371]

I love you But not ina weird way You inspire me to be better Do better and most importantly never give up hope for my son and I for a better life ❤

[@lanika1199]

I love ur videos u are so strong ❤🎉

[@lanika1199]

@Abbey_Fickley.. u make my day do u what me to give me my WhatsApp ly I’m so proud of you 👍🏻 🌜🌸

[@emilyklitzka8576]

I'm so early but I want to say you're such an inspiration and keep doing you

[@eveeee6464]

Wait how are you supposed to apply the snail thing

[@katetaylor7959]

Great advice abbey ❤

[@ashleydobson1532]

LOLing at the *TRAUMA* 😂 ❤❤❤❤❤ love your videos Abbey

[@BrianaBudgets]

I wish I could be your friend IRL💓

[@Ainsley212]

I love ur vids ❤

[@makenzyhollis5]

Grabbed my dusty planner, ipad & pen 😂😂 you got my full attention lol 🤓 Super helpful tips and love the relatable explanations

[@abbeyfickley]

Lmao heck yes! Proud of you, stay consistent!!

[@deborahwilliams9387]

Abbey, have you ever used kratom or heard of it?? I started taking it to help me get off pills but now it’s become a problem in and of itself because I’m spending so much money on it 🤦🏼‍♀️ Wondering if you have any advice.

[@AshleyStewart23]

I’m a mom of a soon to be 4 year old that I’m trying get back because where I live in Missouri they take ur kids illegally cause in 2019 the grandma call dfs and I was recovering from c section but u help me be positive and ur amazing at what u do ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@agilitypoodle99]

I have a video idea. What’s your opinion on investments, IRA/401K, high yield savings etc. I am in a similar position as you, and around the same age. Just wondering your opinion. I am to the point (finally) at almost 2 years sober that I finally have that “cushion” and now I’m pinching pennies to add even more. I have to decide what to do with it though. Thanks!love your videos. You inspire me so much on my down days, as I struggle with anxiety and depression ❤

[@amandathompson5971]

Us teachers LOVE those Target planners 😂

[@Emma-tt4ty]

You should start a podcast sometime

[@jasminebranham8692]

Does the link still work 6 months later???

[@darthbooks2005]

Love your channel ❤❤❤

[@abbeyfickley]

I love that you’re here with me on my channel!

[@darthbooks2005]

​@@abbeyfickley love how honest and down to earth you are 💞 x

[@beckyjones6062]

I have a very addictive personality maybe this cuddle be a new good addiction saving money ❤

[@soccerchilly93]

You are such a beautiful bright light in this world. Every time I watch your videos you make my day better. Thank you so much . God bless you and your family ! ❤️

[@julieyoutu]

I love that you didn’t edit out “hash laugh” 🤭🤭🤭🥰❣️

[@sarahissilent]

I seriously want to know why it’s so fun to buy planners and accessories lol I have so many

[@abbeyfickley]

I guess it’s the idea of being organized… or it’s whatever the hell they put it in those vents at target 💀