Boyfriend Buys Fiancé New Car, Now She's Furious With Him AITA

[@Bitume5]

Hi Marc ❤️ How are you? Obligatory "I'm annoying" moment, but it's fiancée for a woman and fiancé for a man :) Have a nice day 👌❤️

[@MarkNarrations]

I knew I should have googled it, sod it, I shall face the wrath of everyone.:)

[@tweetymonkey]

@@MarkNarrations how very dare you Mark 🏹

[@MarkNarrations]

@@tweetymonkey Hey Timi, hope you're well you legend!

[@Bitume5]

@@MarkNarrations I mean it's okay, we learn things every day ^^ it was just my annoying know-it-all french nationality that needed to come out 😂

[@Cheycartoongirl8]

@@MarkNarrations Mark! I made a life-hack about this! I have failed you! You didn't remember. *anime self pity scene* I have failed you.....

[@ItsCamille735]

Story one reminds me of when my parents bought my sibling a car when they learned to drive. They wanted to get a small car. Our dad complained that the car didn’t have enough storage and wouldn’t fit his golf clubs. He straight up admitted he planned to use his child’s car for himself.

[@lina9535]

(Late reply, apologies) That was my thought as well. Granted I don't own, nor will ever get a car (my country has very good public transportation). But his point about the storage capacity really made me think "did you buy this for her or yourself?" My grandpa used to have a Volvo 245 GLT (model from 1993), and my sister almost got that car from him, but she HATED it. It was so long and hard for her to park, so she asked grandpa to just sell it (she did already have a car).

[@nerdy_evy]

Story 4: they're giving her sister 6000$ a year in rent so apparently she can't afford her own rent. They also bought her all her furniture and multiple cars! So to the people saying "she got nothing when you got something", they forgot that their parents have been giving her sister more money the last few years then OP.

[@crkinjiraretaai]

Yea I feel like a bunch of commenters didn't key in to the fact that she's literally getting thousands of dollars a year in help from the parents. Cars really aren't cheap either. By the time the parents pass she will likely have gotten equal value in "monetary" gifts.

[@nerdy_evy]

@@crkinjiraretaai yeah I saw someone in the comments did some math and if the parents have been paying the sister rent since she was 18 she would have received over 48000$ from her parents. Not including the multiple cars cause you don't know how much they cost. So she's been given enough to buy a house where they live. People can be so ungrateful

[@valdr2286]

Even if she didn't get anything. The parents gave the son the house cause he can AFFORD IT. Which is something the sister cannot. So what should they have done. Give the daughter the house and let it foreclose.

[@kudoro1357]

I don't think any of the reddit comments shown were after the edit as all that info was in the stories edit. Still though nothing in the story said OP's sister got nothing at all and was cut out completely, kinda tired of people just assuming things like that on reddit, happens in too many stories where people try to fill in the blanks themselves then go off of their assumptions rather than the only thing they should go off of. The story itself.

[@willj24]

I agree, I was wondering about that as well, but as someone else pointed out, the comments my have predated the update. Still, given all of the information we have (and as always making the sometimes unfounded assumption that the OP isn't giving us slanted or selective information), it appears as though the sister has gotten LOTS of stuff that the OP has not (by their own choice), so taking their parents up on this one thing is more "evening the scales" than it is "blatant favoritism".

[@cebbi1313]

"You chose to go into my room, Jeremy, you filmed yourself" "I didn't know that your room was *bristling* with surveillance equipment!"

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

Dude, you know darned well that you didn't buy your fiance a car. You bought YOU a car you could use when you needed it.

[@philwill0123]

Story 3. The car reveal was mean to be a surprise for his sister, not OP. Jack deliberately kept it hush hush because he hoped OP wouldnt/couldnt raise a fuss.

[@matthewfoley1875]

100% this. He didn't want to let her know beforehand because he knew it wasn't okay. Pretty manipulative and shows what kind of person he is.

[@trinaschnell4422]

#3 NTA. Husband made a POINT that the gifts were being given separately, yet he's uses THEIR money, without discussing it. Hmmmm

[@elysiasfield9828]

On the last story for anyone who says the sister hasn't been givin' enough lets do some math she's 26 that's 8yrs. of getting $500 a month=$6,000.00 a year x 8yrs=$48,000.00 Not to mention the multiple cars and new furniture. Let's say she got 3 cars -1 cause her sister also received one making it 2 cars guessing $5-10 Grand a piece =$10-20,000.00 Lastly lets say another 5,000.00 for the furniture making this a running total"Cause she is STILL receiving $500 a month"$63,000.00-78,000.00. I think the sister ALREADY received her inheritance!!!

[@TheNormExperience]

THANK YOU!!! Lol, my immediate reaction to the sister being so bratty was pulling up my calculator and going, “Um, she got that money the past 10 years...less from the MULTIPLE cars.” Why would you give a house to the child who can’t even afford to pay the mortgage instead of the one who actually can? I’m so frustrated by this - everyone is focusing on this ONE thing, not the MANY handouts the sister has gotten over the years.

[@kemonono]

This is what I was thinking about! Did everyone just neglect that or what?!

[@crkinjiraretaai]

Thank you! I was tearing my hair out listening to people harp on about OP being given the house and the sister getting "nothing" like she hasn't gotten literally tens of thousands of dollars of help from the parents over the years.

[@gorkemaykut5230]

@@crkinjiraretaai it's probably because op explained how her sister get monthly allowance in her edit and not in the original post so those people might not have seen those when they post their answer

[@Mewse1203]

That second lady is DELUSIONAL and trying to shift the blame to him.

[@maheenahmed6653]

Story 3: Oof. I’m assuming he spent OPs money too. He had no right to go that, and considering what op said about the little sister, I’m sure she’d be horrified to learn that op didn’t know and it was also her money used without her permission

[@nel409]

Yes, she said it was "our" money, I imagine they were sharing an account

[@zerobolt9506]

But are they both working though? I might not of heard right, but I don't remember her saying that she works, so it might be their money, but if he's the only one working then it's their money that only he makes. If I'm wrong can someone tell me.

[@nel409]

@@zerobolt9506 She maybe took some vacations, 7 month pregnant is not a joke, some mothers prefer to stop working on the 7th month because they are high risk

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

@@zerobolt9506 either way a purchase like that needs to be discussed by both parties, they're married with a kid on the way, you don't just make purchases like that without telling your spouse or even asking them first. She also said they're not rich, so he just pulled that money out of a hat and I can tell you right now as someone who has had a child it cost about that much to have a child, they needed to talk about that before purchase like that was made, I talk to my husband about groceries before buying them, definitely need to talk about a car before buying it.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@GabrielleHayes1921 ah! I didn't hear about the kid part.

[@catte.]

I'm having a hard time with story 1. I generally agree that it's not smart to just buy a car for someone buuuuut his intent was good. What I really have a problem with, is her bratty reaction. That's not how you treat your significant other, she could have calmy told him her issues and they could have worked something out together. Now it's just a whole cluster of problems, the car dropped in value and they won't be able to return it for the full price.

[@darkshadow5581]

It just feels way too close to all those teens upset they got non-perfect cars. Sure, OP probably should of went with her to buy it, but I get at least why they didnt. Id say 1/5 AH scale, while wife gets a 3/5. Its a gift that they needed, and were looking to buy a new one.that reaction just screams entitled IMO.

[@Steampunkkids]

I’m sorry, but if someone bought me a car I’d be grateful! Unless it’s a company I find morally bankrupt, I’d jump for joy. The fiancée must live in a very different financial reality than I live in.

[@deedeeschway9566]

@@darkshadow5581 But Fiancé is not a teen girl who didn’t get what she wanted for free. Fiancé is an adult woman who was going to buy herself a car according to her wants and needs. OP didn’t seem to know anything about what she was looking and then dismissed all of her choices. I’m suspicious of how he described her yelling. Did she just start yelling immediately? Or did this “discussion” turn into an argument? On Reddit a lot of people are saying this may be a case of Homer’s Bowling Ball = he bought her exactly what he wanted.

[@MrJpaynebb]

ESH. The fiancee had a bad reaction/overreaction to this gift. Yelling at your partner in the driveway and then blowing up their phone is not the proper way to communicate one's grievances about a gift. OP had great intentions with the gift but this seems more of a vehicle he wants to drive than she does. A Jeep Wrangler is an SUV not a car. Not all car people want an SUV and there's a difference. She's the one who has to live with/drive this vehicle for the next several years. OP should have done more research by talking to her beforehand about types of cars she was looking at to buy before the summer so he could at least be in the ball park of vehicles she likes. Depending on where he got the used Jeep from he may be able to return it with only a minor rental fee penalty. iPhones are great and cool but you don't get an Android user an iPhone without them having a bad reaction or vice versa

[@darkshadow5581]

@@deedeeschway9566 I'm unsure as the the Homer's bowling ball thing, tried Google, still above my head (worrying for a bowling ball). Also, I didnt say she was, just that its sounds to close to. As in, I can't help but remember those videos when I hear this story. Also, I didnt see it as dismissing her choices, other than the mpg. She paid less then she would alone, got a car that was probably worth alot more even now than anything she could of bought alone. Sure, again, he should of gone with her to buy it, as thats just a really big buy, and used for years, but compare that to someone flipping out because the item they were gifted wasnt the specific one they wanted. Personally I say ESH, or even NAH if you stretch it. TL:DR both did wrong, but one had good intentions, another was upset at good intentions. I'd look more kindly on the former then the latter.

[@susanlayton2143]

In story 2: NTA for having a security camera that happened to record something the roommate did not want seen in YOUR room. Her argument might have some weight if you had put a camera in HER room to catch her having sex but she should not have been in YOUR room to begin with. She shares the house with roommates and not all rooms are HERS to use as she wants.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I wouldn't have deleted the footage, I would've used it to press charges or something. Who the hell breaks into somebody's room for sex? Imagine if her or her bf stole money too, freaking unbelievable. He needs a lock, also needs to tell the other roommates to get locks too and why

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

Personally, I think OP should have replied with "Oh? It's not a big deal? Give me a few minutes, I think I need to 'spice up' my masturbatory/sex life'! Mind vacating your room for a bit?"

[@lillithherondale1972]

That's just really creepy having sex in a roommates bedroom. Like I would evict someone over that.

[@roowyrm9576]

I never stop wondering whether some people commenting actually listen to the stories, and edits. So many of them miss at least half the important points.

[@gaysatan4565]

Story 2: “I didn’t record you having sex, I recorded you breaking into my room” shows why you shouldn’t tell people you have a camera so you can record them in the act of being an asshole (unless a “security” salesman comes to your door. ALWAYS SO YOU HAVE A SECURITY SYSTEM. THEY WILL ROB YOUR HOUSE)

[@shanittathompson2039]

The House story...The sister states the harpy sister gets 500.00 bucks a month from parents. Plus she wanted the house all to herself anyways and is mad because she ain't getting it, but other sister never complained once about it!!! NTA

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

"Your parents are playing favorites" as all the commenters on Reddit are saying is just complete bullshit too. The sister has received several cars and a shitton of money from the parents, definitely NTA

[@oracleinfamous4163]

Doing a rough estimate on if the sister was receiving the money since she was 18 that would add up to 48,000, not including the cars, it's like some of the redditors forgot to do basic math

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

@@oracleinfamous4163 Redditors don't do math

[@kemonono]

@@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813 unless it benefits them ofc

[@Llama_Whisperer]

@@oracleinfamous4163 Are you doing basic math? If the parents house is 90,000, and OPP expects to sell hers for 16,000, that’s a difference of 74,000. Considerably more than the 48,000 your math came up with. I’d be ticked too (edit: if I were the sister)

[@lucymarie8611]

The car one he could have taken her to buy a car and the car she would have chosen would have probably been way cheaper than the Jeep he bought.

[@deleted_215]

Yeah, I’d probably say this is the safest way to do it.

[@janikavalkkila2156]

The way she was acting a bet she would have demanded a really expensive and brand new car. Spoiled prat is a spoild prat.

[@lucymarie8611]

@@janikavalkkila2156 The most expensive version of a brand new Honda Fit is less than the used 2017 Jeep Wrangler. Btw I just say the MPG on that thing and that it’s a V-6 I’d be pissed too. The cost of owning that car are higher than the cost of owning a Honda Fit. 19 mpg and it’s a huge car. I just compared both the cars.

[@janikavalkkila2156]

@@lucymarie8611 Yes but the way she was acting i bet she would have change her mind as soon as they went looking for cars. As i said spoild Princess is a spoild Princess no matter how hard you try to turn it. I would LOVE if someone bought me a car.

[@AndreNDP]

@@lucymarie8611 And he's paying for the car, so she no longer has a car payment. Insurance isn't that much more, nor is gas. She's a diva.

[@KarinaCappucci]

Story 1: ESH. The boyfriend for not paying attention to his girlfriend's needs, and the girlfriend for being rude about it.

[@bobbyjay205]

he did pay attention. she had commented on how she liked the way Jeeps looked in the past

[@bethanntay]

Story 1 If someone gives you a gift, be happy. I got a car I didn't really like from my husband but guess what, I drive and everyday I am grateful. That he got me a car that works. Better to have a working car instead of a piece of junk that may break down. Yeah, more insurance and gas but it works so much better. Nta

[@azadalamiq]

she can't afford a jeep. owning a jeep ids expensive. -_-

[@puli_dreadhead]

You don’t have to be grateful for something that doesn’t or can’t benefit your personal needs. You know those public figures who get custom made jewelry or homes. Let say Will Smith’s house is up for sell. What about Drake’s. It’s better than a car board box but can YOU afford it? Can you afford a replacement when something breaks inside?

[@julnjus]

BF should return the car and put the money back into his account. Let her keep driving the clunker until she can figure out how to get her own. I get she doesn’t want that particular car but her reaction was disrespectful and ungrateful.

[@platinumaether8198]

@@julnjus agreed but if she can’t afford to even fix her current car, she can’t afford a new one. She can’t afford a jeep I get that. But she can’t act like that. I can see why she’s upset on a monetarily perspective but she shouldn’t have acted that way.

[@tiffanymaeuy5869]

@Bethann Taylor-Akhtar I agree with you on that one.

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 3) Go see a lawyer asap. Your husband stole from you. Definitely separate your accounts asap.

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 1) If my husband bought me a vehicle, I would be so excited and GRATEFUL. Even if it's not exactly what I want.

[@dorianleakey]

What if you had a husband who perhaps had tried to make you indebted to him, that you may not really want to live with, proved he doesnt listen to you or care about what you tell him by buying you the exact opposite car to what you previously discussed? Prehaps, it even seemed like he got himself his dream vehicle and said you could use it, and also, you know he would fib about the circumstances to reddit?

[@andreachristensen5383]

NTA, the parents are giving her money every single month for who knows how long, this sister needs the room, it never said whether the sister has a family that needs room

[@t.matthies3049]

Yeah, if you look at the value of what both sisters are getting, it's probably not significantly different. Also, the parents know OP can afford house upkeep, and they probably want it to stay in the family. Plus OP's expecting twins and probably needs it more than the sister does. If the sister was the one expecting twins, the parents likely would have handled things differently.

[@afrogwitch]

First story: Gasp! Edward Cullen, is that you?

[@charondusk5608]

Story 4 - Some of the comments make me wonder if they read the post. £500 a month comes to £6000 a year, plus the cars and furniture which we don't know the value of, nor do we know how long the sister has been getting that monthly payment, but I think's safe to assume that it has been a few years at least.... I'd hardly say the sister is getting cut out.

[@emm_uhh]

Story 1: OP mentioned how she never said she didn't like jeeps but he also never mentioned what she did like in a car. Personally, I don't really think jeep wranglers are really practical.

[@azadalamiq]

they aren't my dad owned 1. they great for summer and going to the beach/camping but for everyday use they are too much of a gas guzzler.

[@jlyo1991]

Hey Mark. The other day, I asked for your soothing voice to heal my flu. Turns out it’s Covid, so... HEAL ME HARDER, DADDY. 🧇

[@imweakfordeaky]

I hope you recover quickly !

[@MarkNarrations]

Argh! Wishing you a speedy recovery my friend, keep us updated!

[@jlyo1991]

@@MarkNarrations Will do. The current situation is I have an extra special relationship with my bed and I have to take around 20 pills a day for the next week or so. 🙃

[@sofiahadyk5946]

Hope you got the milder form of this retched bug. And don't forget to do a check up in a few months to weed out any possible long term problem, better safe than sorry. Get well and healthy fast, all the best with lots of hugs

[@karendaniel620]

Story 1: Car people say don't buy Jeeps. They break down a lot, so there's another cost.

[@madelinebogle7475]

Really? My Jeep has been going good for over a decade

[@bobbyjay205]

American car with interchangeable parts with other models, not very expensive.

[@carolbelvin5278]

If my husband spent 11 thousand dollars of my money on a car for his sister, I would give him 2 options: return the car/get my money back or I divorce him/he never gets to see his baby again.

[@cheskydivision]

A car is a big decision and the person driving it needs to be involved in the decision. Especially if it effects her insurance payments and gas cost. A lot of ppl are not comfortable driving certain kinds of cars.

[@lovedrreid1]

Fking thank you. It really seems like you're the only one with common sense here. Everyone keeps saying they'd still be grateful but I'd like to see THEIR reaction if someone saddled them with a gas guzzler they couldn't even afford the insurance for...... I don't think they truly understand how damn expensive and impractical for commute wranglers are. They're not everyday commute vehicles. They're toys.

[@Kyubinooni]

The car story makes it seem like he bought it for himself rather than her. My dad bought me my first truck which was an old beater to learn to drive in and at first I didn't like it, but I grew to love that old beater. That guy though is a total ahole, but the woman is a bit of an ahole too

[@carg0_b00m]

not a hole for the guy, you simp

[@AngelaVEdwards]

@@carg0_b00m I completely agree. Sure, he may not have realized that when buying a car for her he probably should have been more aware of what she would have liked, but *he bought her a car*. And she freaked out on him. How ungrateful is that? If she really hated it, she could have smiled and thanked him and then perhaps spoken to him (nicely) about trading it in for something different. But to scream at him in the driveway because he bought her a car? You've got to be kidding me.

[@carg0_b00m]

@@AngelaVEdwards yeah thats just spoiled behavior, maybe he doesnt know her childhood, if she was getting spoiled from her parents.

[@liviasamplease7862]

@@AngelaVEdwards I’d be pissed if anyone bought me a car without actually asking me about what cars I like. Cars are commitments, and can last for years, unless you know exactly what make, model, and color someone wants then don’t buy them a fucking car. Now the fiancé shouldn’t have been so combative sure but the op is worse tbh

[@gorkemaykut5230]

@@liviasamplease7862 it's also not just about not liking the but on top of that being forced to pay monthly expenses of the "not liked" car I would be angry if someone were to buy a car behind my back Cars are not a good gifts

[@MrMrSockhead]

Day: 60 of telling Mark that he is wonderful and deserves the world

[@skippiefritz]

Day: 1 of telling this guy that he's awesome

[@TheTiggerpoo1]

Knock it off please. This is NOT cute and is getting VERY old!!!! 😡

[@MrMrSockhead]

@@TheTiggerpoo1 no ❤️

[@kitcat8308]

Keep going you legend ☺️

[@leegraves8878]

@@TheTiggerpoo1 I am waiting for them too turn it to day 1 of telling mark I want to live in his skin.

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Mark's reaction to the cost of the 5 bedroom home is the same as mine when I found out how much my brother's house in Wisconsin cost lol House's where I live start at 1 million lol

[@gabemortimer8552]

Seriously? If I bought someone a car (and I have), and they acted like that, I would just take it back! Instead of a car, here's some flowers, happy birthday. Buying a car may feel like a personal matter but in reality, when it is a need they shouldn't act entitled! The entitled behavior says the vehicle is NOT a need. My advice, let her buy her own car, house and whatever. It's obvious that she's not ready for marriage. She's willing to be 30% of financial support but seems that she demands 100% of decision-making. NTA. Just be more careful who you invest in.

[@Oatmealism]

I'm going to say, as someone who has lost their car in an accident in the past week, if my boyfriend bought me a car, regardless of the car, I'd be grateful that he was so thoughtful and cared enough to get it for me. Make and Model do not matter, the fact it is a functioning reliable car does. Maybe he did buy it a little more for himself then her, but he still bought her a car, gave it to her, said its hers, that he's got the payments and what not. Maybe a soft ESH, but the lady in Story 1 is definitely an entitled spoiled brat, throwing her beamer in the river because she wanted a merc.

[@tamsel814]

I would be pretty upset. The gf now has a new financial responsibility for something she does not want. Sounds like she wanted a compact car that has good (cheap) millage. Instead he has an jeep that will cost her more.

[@terramarini6880]

Just say thank you hun and NEVER let him borrow it.

[@josephtucker7181]

She came off as a teen have a fit over it's the wrong color. If someone bought me a car with a working heater I wouldn't complain it could be the ugliest car as long as it worked and run then I'm not gonna complain.

[@fobija1378]

@@tamsel814 Jeeps better tho. Especially at winters.

[@bubblegum_flavor551]

But this was for a gift purpose. The guy could have communicated with her and actually look this stuff up

[@maheenahmed6653]

Story 4: Had op not bought the house, it would have be bought by strangers and then the sister would never be able to visit the house again. It’s still in the family since OP bought it. And if she a more decent sister, I’m sure op would have had no issues with her visiting.

[@MrJpaynebb]

NTA. OP paid way, way be low market value for that house from her parents but it was the parents that came to OP with this offer and not the other way around. There's some favoritism but since OP already owns a house and knows the expenses of maintaining a home. Sister though is getting $500 a month from the parents plus multiple cars so she needs to pump the brakes of feelings of being screwed over hard core.

[@carmenbarrera80]

For history #2 OP'S husband is expecting a baby and spend 11k for a gift with his and OP'S money 💰 Wow that relationship is not doing well And the aunt shouldn't have no word on this if she wants she can pay the other $5,500

[@志瑜杨]

Story 1- would love a free car. It’s not like it’s a hotdog shaped, beat up car. It’s a free Jeep that is new. If GF doesn’t want it, I’ll take it.

[@randalhill6283]

The dude that bought his fiance a Jeep is definitely not the asshole. He did something nice that came from the heart and he is being lambasted because of it. Her reaction to it is a giant red flag. Leave that crazy behind Quick

[@TrueLiesLost]

According to other comments he has mentioned they can use the Jeep for camping and refuses to switch cars with her and take the jeep. Also if you are gonna surprise someone with something like that lean more practical and have an idea of what they like.

[@dorianleakey]

Or, you are easily led and convinced and he bought himself a car and it definitely wasnt from the heart and his fiancee knew that. With these stories where the response makes no sense, where you can call the person shouting about a gift entitled, when actually, they would have been happier spending their own money it probably means the OP is leaving info out. She is both entitled and the oppsoite and wanted to spend her own money, so something is missing. It may be that she has made it clear she is unhappy and wants more independence, so he buys her a car, thasts just an example, but something was missing from the story.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@abbygoller6145]

As much as I want to be taken care of i will do the tasks you requested

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@abbygoller6145 yay thank you for doing that I hope you have a great month and have a happy valentines day with loved ones

[@HighPhoenix1754]

I uhh.. I'm not sure if that's a threat or a kind gesture. )_);;;

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@HighPhoenix1754 its both, feel both love and cared for yet some fear

[@AKilahVamp]

Shit

[@problematicprincess6270]

What an ungrateful fiance. I'd love to have a free car

[@liviasamplease7862]

She didn’t want a free car, she wanted to buy her own car.

[@Jack-kx5rf]

One of our neighbours sold their house for 140k when their last kid moved out, spent half the money to buy a small apartment. The other 70k? They bought 12... 12 apartments abroad in the Canary Islands and now rent them out ranging from £400-£1,500 per month each.

[@GBunnyG]

I would love for someone to tell me what that roommate told him about invasion of privacy. You'd be able to hear me a few states over. Ew.

[@lina9535]

Story 2: Hit the road Jack, and don't you come back no more, no more, no more, no more

[@atqmra13]

Idk, man. The lady who received a jeep as a present.....if someone was generous enough to buy me that kind of present, I CERTAINLY would not bitch. Even if I really didn’t like it, I would be grateful that someone loves me enough to go out of there way like that.

[@bubblegum_flavor551]

Yeah but he should have talk to her about it

[@AKilahVamp]

That's why u probably will settle for anything in life

[@angryretailbanker5103]

$90,000 for a 5 bedroom house!? My apartment cost $120,000! Though I live in a city with immediate access to restaurants, grocery stores, pharmacies, a large park, onsite laundry room, and access to public transportation. But still, Jesus!

[@Tiriban]

If someone buys you a car, you say THANK YOU! Don't be an entitled brat, and don't defend them, either.

[@janicewilcox8590]

Dude. Did she at least wash your sheets? Nasty.

[@andreawalker8343]

90k and 10k for houses?! What?! I didn’t even know 10k for a house was possible in the US!!!

[@gigga143]

S1: OP is definitely the AH. he didn’t consider what type of vehicle she wanted, he bought something he’d want and then expected her to be grateful. And a Jeep at that, I mean does it even have full doors and a hard top because a lot of them don’t, and the ones that do are usually big and it seems like she wanted more of a compact car. It really screams he bought her a gift for himself.

[@ProtocolDroidHK47]

16:00 Oh, see, the price difference is because the OP is talking in the "American dollar", not "Bri'ish tea bags, hwot hwot".

[@t900HAWK]

Buying a car for someone is the worst kind gesture. Most people drive older cars because they can’t afford the insurance on older cars.

[@videofan1010]

Not only are cars personal - it's the cost that would piss me off. He bought her what he wanted.

[@bobbyjay205]

cars are tools that get replaced often.

[@azadalamiq]

@@bobbyjay205 not really, most cars last 10-20 years. if you keep it up they can last 50+ years.

[@infamous638]

Is it bad that on story 4 the second it was mentioned that the parents were giving them the house I knew exactly what the sister would do? You sorta get the gist of how people act in different types after hearing a lot of these stories.

[@Suilimani]

Dump that fiancé dump her fast. I’m sorry it’s a car if someone bought me a new car I’d be grateful.

[@carmenbarrera80]

Get a $90,000 house for $10,000 Wow that's a big price difference! The parents could at least give the daughter something 🤷‍♀️

[@OminousSoul]

From the sounds of it, they have bought her multiple cars, furniture and give her $500 a Month. In a year alone that is $6,000. Cars aren't cheap, furniture isn't cheap and $6,000 a year isn't cheap, depending on how long that has been going on on the $500 a month alone, she has gotten tens of thousands of dollars from them.

[@moimeself1088]

They give her a monthly allowance, and seem to carry most of her big costs. Not saying the parents are being fair, but they're not giving her nothing. Also, i hate people waiting around for relatives to die so they can take some property or other. It's beyond entitled!

[@Early666]

1st Story: OP didn't give his fiancee a gift SHE wanted, he got her a gift HE wanted her to have. OP sounds like the type of guy who buys his wife a washing machine for her birthday.

[@Eueejjddkdk]

story 2: its like being mad because you broke in someones house but they had camera's so you got filmed lol

[@tracygarner5912]

I would be mad. I would be stuck for years with a car I didn't want and have to wait years to by another. She isn't a kid.

[@bobbyjay205]

she can trade it today for a new sub, and have $ left over. her excuses were weak at best

[@annanoble4529]

2nd story not only would I be looking for a new place to stay but would be insisting that roomie buy me a new bed. I sure as hell don’t want someone else to have sex in my bed.

[@bgcorporation]

I live in a city with a population of about 700k. My house when bought was approximately 98k. I'm in Texas, so it's not that crazy to find a cheaper house.

[@candiebarr6745]

If you buy someone something expensive that they have to use all the time, you should get someone's actual opinion. Cars especially. Its best to take the person car shopping

[@candiebarr6745]

And with the colour, a lot of insurance companies charge different prices for certain colours

[@azadalamiq]

@@candiebarr6745 ya cuz some of those colors use weird mixing techniques and require specialized maintenance. My high school was a trade school and 1 shop i had to do for a week was autobody, which was both car maint and paint. be pretty shocked how much goes into car paint. 0_0

[@tracygarner5912]

Never buy someone a car.

[@umaca2]

Day??? Of agreeing Mark is wonderful and deserves the world

[@jaysonyoung9197]

1st story ESH you don’t buy cars as gifts, you just don’t, cars are a big deal and don’t make good gifts because they’re so personal and matter for a long time. There are very few situations where buying someone a car as a gift without talking about it first are ok. She also sucks for being so rude and freaking out that way

[@carmenbarrera80]

Gosh I wish I have someone who wants to buy me a car, it's a gift we don't return gifts, we take it if I we need to sale it to buy what we want. Hahaha 🤷‍♀️ LOL 😂 (At least this is what we do in my family)

[@moimeself1088]

Returning or reselling a car is not the same as returning a shirt. You lose a lot of value, plus all the admin costs. He should have involved her in the purchase

[@Al3x1066]

Story 1: NTA, what the fuck, he tried to help her and did a good deed, and yes, I hate the prius, but if someone went out of their way to buy me one because they knew I was having car trouble, id be over the moon, Id love it and be so thankfull, What a Brat! OP, Can I fucking marry you instead, Id fucking LOVE a Jeep, mate get me an older model and we can mod it together!

[@leegraves8878]

Story 3 divorce and let him find out how much child support is then see how much he can spend on sister then.

[@JP-eh4ee]

Story 4: The sister literally just forgot about the cars and other payments paid to her. It was the parents decision, not OP.

[@kristys7172]

Time for op to get her own bank accounts. 11k on a car for his sister. Omg.

[@fhuber7507]

1... NTA. Dump the entitled princess.

[@rebekahsegun8319]

She reacted poorly, though she had a right to be annoyed. OP bought that care for himself more than he did for her. He didn't take her preferences into consideration at all. And now GF is going to be stuck with it for at least several years. If you're going to buy a car for someone, ASK them what they want first!

[@andreachristensen5383]

In what universe is a gesture such as a car something that makes you the asshole, he's not a mind reader, he simply listened to what kind she seemed to like and got it. And if her old car was really old the gas mileage would be atrocious

[@cryofist]

fuckin thank you, everyone is skipping over that his counters to her concerns make sense. she said she thought jeeps looked kool and shes literally paying less than if she got her own car cause hes paying the insurance on it and the color thing can be changed. everyone is acting like hes a piece of shit for remembering things she said before instead of asking her right before he got it...i just dont get people anymore

[@theindigollama]

What I find so interesting about the first story is the guy acts like his fiance should have no say in what vehicle she gets. It's not like she is his child or someone who was begging for a new vehicle.

[@bobbyjay205]

it was a surprise gift. he didn't think it through. her reaction sucks big time. people drive cars for a year or two and trade. She could trade today for a subcompact NEW, and give her BF the difference.

[@theindigollama]

True. Many dealerships also have a trial driving period, as well. As to insurance, Jeeps aren't the worst when it comes to cost.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

Story one YTA, two things to never buy as a gift. A car, or a pet. It's a lot of long term commitment to force on someone. This is how pets get abandoned and unloved and relationships break. Making giant, inflexible decisions for people is a real big red flag. Being unwilling to communicate is another red flag. It's nothing about the gift and everything about the disrespect of their desires. My toxic family forces 'gifts' and 'favors' on me to manipulative me to stop defending myself. How dare I stand up for myself against this abuse, I should be more grateful. Never ever set someone up to use gratefulness to invalidate their feelings if you want a successful, healthy relationship

[@josephbrown9665]

My wife got me a 2020 corvette for my 50th birthday.. I had no idea even about my birthday. I normally get gift cards and a nice card but it was a special birthday for my old ass . We have been broke for years because we put two daughters though medical school. She had been putting money on the side since they graduated. She had planned to get it since they started school. She knew my favorite colors and what I like. 20 plus years of us being together. She had closed a big lawsuit she was representing someone on. She had the car for a month before she gave it to me because my surprise birthday party. Yeah I was blown away by my car and I love it.

[@Jacky.c.v]

I can really empathize with the first gf. My boyfriend has a tendency to buy me things I already have/ don't want/ don't need. I appreciate him but we also realized that for big purchases (above 100€) communication is needed. If my boyfriend bought me a car I would be mad too because i wanr to be consulted, it's a lot of money and obviously he didn't listen to me.

[@pandemoniumglaciers82]

You can be mad but I hope you wouldn't blow up like a spoiled brat you didn't get what she wanted there is this thing called being calm and civil

[@deedeeschway9566]

@@pandemoniumglaciers82 I wonder if she really did explode. He rationalized his decision on the Jeep on Reddit as they need it (for camping) so I wonder if he exaggerated her reaction or if this is just the latest ‘gift for himself’ ala Homer’s Bowling Ball and that was the last straw for her.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@deedeeschway9566 🤔

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

@@deedeeschway9566 this! People tend to exaggerate things to get others on their side. There's a guy who claimed his wife through a full tantrum to make him seem less like an asshole, not cool at all

[@15oClock]

1. Gifting a car without input is something you do for teenagers, not your adult fiancée. OP just wanted a Jeep, didn't he? 2. Of course OP's in the wrong for having proof their roommate invaded their living space and violated! Sarcasm. 3. Jack spent 11k without asking OP, his wife, like that was something they could do. He's the one driving a wedge in his family. 4. You can't expect a renter with who wants it vs upcoming parents of two who need and can get it to be a fair fight. She's just jealous.

[@deedeeschway9566]

1. He did. For camping.

[@Mewse1203]

Morning everyone. May the heat of the Waffle maker shine upon you and warm you in your time of cold.

[@ghuttsmckenzie4269]

Thank you for those waffly words!

[@peteranon8455]

Story 2 is cute. I wonder if that defense will work for other crimes?

[@rama30]

If I bought a car for someone and they had that reaction I'd be tempted to mow them down. And for the spice it up roomate - tell her she's welcome to screw in your room if you can take dumps in hers!

[@BorutoUzumaki-fi2th]

Story 2: NOT THE A@$$[-]○|}

[@oakenshadow6763]

She started screaming at him, berating him, and treating him like junk. She could have been nice about it. Her attitude made her the ass hole. Keep the car. And the thing about "Jeeps not being cars" is bull. Mist people call everying, trucks, compacts, jeeps, all of it, a car. Generalization happens, and most people don't only think of "car" as the small ones.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I live in Ohio, our house cost like $135k, it's a one story with barely two bedrooms. Where the hell does she live because I clearly need to move.

[@tracygarner5912]

I am just 4'10" most cars I can't reach the peddles. In the 90s went to buy the Audi I had been dreaming of. I walk on the lot, pointed to the car, told the salesmen I want that one but have to try it on. He was confused. Turned out with the seat moved all the way forward I couldn't push the clutch in all the way let alone the rest of the peddles. Hahahaa

[@LadyPrincessDiana]

I live in Chiswick and in my street, the houses go for £1M to £4M... I wanna live there...

[@j.p.2636]

A 5 bedroom house thats worth only 90k? I wish i could find something like that....

[@yams3843]

hope you’re day is incredible as you are mark!

[@Hossnow123]

I've never owned a car in my life, so if my partner bought me a 2017 Jeep, I'd be jumping up and down like a kid. She does sound spoiled. And it's a shame people don't seem to realize it. Just shows how privileged these people are. I mean, especially being picky about the color?? Unbelievable. NTA.

[@bobbyjay205]

paint job 300-500. it can be the color she wants. Plus she can trade right now, get a sub compact new, and give her BF the difference.

[@Hossnow123]

@@bobbyjay205 Very true.

[@liviasamplease7862]

Thing is she owns a car and is looking to buy herself a new one. She didn’t need or want him to buy her a car and he had no idea what she wanted even though he knew she was looking for a new car. That’s insane to me. She sounds like she knows what she wants and color can be important to someone. I have a red car and I want my next car to be red as well because it makes me feel closer to my dad who also has a red car and red motorcycle. I don’t see him often so anything that makes me feel closer to him makes me happy. He sounds like he bought himself a new care and just wanted to act like it was for her tbh

[@bobbyjay205]

@@liviasamplease7862 And now she has the means to get what she wants, and teach her BF a lesson

[@isiaadiel3468]

1: A Jeep? Dude, no! Her poor wallet. 2: You wouldn't be recorded if you weren't in the room. The gaslighting from this woman. 3: So he just snatched her money up and hid it from her and expected things to be fine and dandy. 4: Midwest in a small house would be wicked cheap and... Was she expecting them to die tomorrow? That's something that sticks out. She's not the only one that made the decision and made the parents leave the house in the first place, meaning they weren't gonna hand it over anyways. Would she really be fine with them getting nothing for her to have something? My guess is yes because her reaction stinks of entitlement.

[@Mimiroo]

The car story definitely feels like the car was more for him than for her. If you’re buying a car for your partner then there should have been a conversation beforehand to sort out all the details, it’s not the best purchase as a surprise. My lease came to an end last year and my partner and I decided to get a car together even though my name is the primary on the insurance and I’m the main driver. We chose everything together and spent a few months looking for the perfect car together. Also on the house story WHERE DO I FIND A HOUSE FOR 90K???? Buying an apartment in my city starts at 250K and a home wouldn’t be less than 700K.

[@azadalamiq]

for the house... middle of nowhere in dying towns.

[@jellyriq]

To me, it kind of just sounds like he really wanted a Jeep and tried to grasp at straws to explain why he thought it was a good choice for her. Yes it was a nice gesture, but let me put it like this: Say she had seen a Great Dane online or being walked and she said she thought the dog was cute. Now he goes out and buys her a Great Dane without actually discussing if it would be a good fit for her. If it were me, I'd be PISSED because for most people, owning that kind of dog isn't feasible and it's more work than owning something smaller and takes less fodder (any Jeep vs a Honda Fit). I wouldn't be "screaming" about it, for sure, but who's to say she was actually "screaming" in this story??

[@deedeeschway9566]

He wanted a Jeep for camping so it made “sense” for him to buy her one especially since his own little car has sentimental value. He also doesn’t want to trade vehicles with her. He said so in the comments on Reddit.

[@jellyriq]

@@deedeeschway9566 OMFG. Why could I just feel the narcissism in the OP??😭😭

[@azadalamiq]

@@jellyriq cuz it is. ppl defending the guy so hard must have never owned a jeep. My dad had one for years. (from when i was 14 till 24) and had to sell it cuz cost was getting too much for him. it was getting impractical too cuz new england winters are getting worst and he lived in the middle of new hampshire. her reaction is 100% justified. like ppl are allowed to dislike things, and get angry. if my bf did this to me, id pack him a suitcase and he can go enjoy that car himself at his moms. jeeps are crazy expensive, and the gf doesn't sound like she can afford the jeep. i hate the idea of forcing ppl to be happy with a gift they do not like.

[@puli_dreadhead]

@@azadalamiq I have a neighbor who currently owns a Jeep that could be mistaken for a bulky police cruiser at night. I’m assuming they have money because they redesigned their lawn and driveway twice since moving in 3 years ago. I barely see them move the car unless they have company over and need their 3 car driveway. The lifestyle that accompanies that car is out of reach for most and they complained that they can’t park on the curb. The people who live in apartments only have one space without paying an extra $50 to get another one.

[@nightcorelucario2218]

Story 2: NTA. WTF. It your room and your bed. You should report her to the landlord or whoever owns your home and get her out Story 3: NTA. 11k is a lot of money to throw at a car when you don't have much money. He needed to have consulted you over the expenditure. It's very concerning how nonchalant he is about spending that much Story 4: NTA. Sounds like your sister tried getting your parents out of their house so she could take it and they decided to give it to you instead because they got sick off her constant insistency

[@jonathanreid2237]

So many car ones, my parents got me a old truck that cost them 1500, and another 4000 to get fixed, and some other stuff so it could be used as a work truck for their business and I am happy with it

[@ravertaking6343]

Howdy Mark. I bought my house for $39000. But my town has so many different areas of cost-of-living. There are some house going for up to 2 million. It's crazy here in this town.

[@casket.case99959]

Story 1. I understand how all these people are calling him an a******because he bought her a new car that's not exactly the one she wanted. At least she has a f****** car that's worth a s***.

[@everdreamcosplay]

I live in a small Midwestern town. My small-ish 2 bedroom house is worth $50K US. My parents' house is in a suburb of a larger town an hour away, a little larger, 3 bedroom, and worth $120-140K. So location matters a lot!

[@lina9535]

Hey, don't hate on the Beetle. Or Herbie will come get you 😂

[@rebecca4480]

Haha get a WARNING area under surveillance for ur door

[@natski137]

As a driver of a bright yellow Beetle, I feel attacked 😂😂 Nah I completely get what you're saying, cars are a very personal thing

[@giselleyfish3612]

I feel like there was just a story about a teen getting a car and they were the ahole for not being grateful for what they got. At least she got one! If I gifted someone something and got that hostile reaction, I’d feel SOOO discouraged an probably heart broken. Seriously what a B. If she doesn’t like it THAT MUCH, she can use her big girl words to express as much. Calling op the ahole for buying her a car, my god.

[@deedeeschway9566]

She’s not a teen though. She’s a grown woman who researched and shopped around for a car she wanted. OP bought the car HE wanted for camping. He admitted it on Reddit. I don’t think this is the first time he’s bought her something for himself.

[@giselleyfish3612]

When my mom bought me a ‘93 mustang, did I like it? F no. Did I think it was hideous and lame in so many ways? F yea. Did I scream and be rude to my mom? Good god no. I SAID THANK YOU. It’s a car! Not some sort of plastic surgery!!!

[@deedeeschway9566]

@@giselleyfish3612 he’s not her mom. She was going to buy herself what she wanted. He bought what HE wanted. Like I said...I don’t think it’s the first time he’s done that.

[@shecoda4402]

Story #4 Did everyone miss that the parents give sis $500 a month and have given her several cars? That is $6,000 a year. Over 10 years that would be $60.000 they would have given her. If the parents continue at that rate for 20 years that would be $120,000 which is more than their house is worth. And who knows how much they have already given to sis. How much more would they have to give sis for upkeep on the house when they already give her $500 a month? I don't think the parents are playing favorites. They are just parceling out the inheritance to each child differently. NTA