Spectrum ft. Cryaotic & Minx

For everyone who has to hide their nature for their own safety.
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Directed By Mike Buonaiuto
Lyrics:
She loved her // like that
but telling her family? they might snap
So confined she couldn’t confide
She was playing girl games, offline
She had an answer, but she didn’t ask for this
Every little chit chat was a massive risk
If she discussed it they’d be disgusted
disown her and that’d be disastrous
She knew that it wasn’t their fault, They were brainwashed
They believed some crazy things
It’d cause her a smorgasbord of disorders
If she listened to what they would think
They thought that she was smiling, but they misidentified
because the clenching of her teeth was just her biting on the lie
And her logic said...
It’s gonna be ok, it’s gonna be ok
this issue is temporary so attempt to wait for one - more - day
There’s nothing wrong with you, it’s them - they’re just backwards
You’re in the future, they’re in the past
and they would abuse you if they knew the facts about it
It’s gonna be ok, it’s gonna be ok
this issue is temporary so attempt to wait until - you’re - safe
You love her, don’t ever feel you should apologise
can’t control your feelings or compromise,
i know it’s difficult to find a guiding a light now but you’ll come out alive
So
HOLD ON
Until you find the friends who’ll support you
Until you find a place you feel secure, you need to
HOLD ON
Until you’re independent
Wherever in the spectrum you are
It’s gonna be ok
It’s gonna be ok
They didn’t ask, he didn’t tell
If they found out, they’d give him hell
if they knew the lowdown that he fell for people
regardless of pronouns
he was already tormented every day
but it’d escalate if he couldn’t keep a straight
face // So what’ll crack first
the eggshells he treads on or himself
Online he was everything he wanted
But real life wouldn’t let him be as honest
it’d just bring violence his way like
“How do you like this attention you special snowflake?”
They had problems at home and had to vent their feelings
or an underdeveloped sense of empathy
but knowing that didn’t make it any easier
All he could do was breathe
til his logic said...
It’s gonna be ok, it’s gonna be ok
this issue is temporary so attempt to wait for one - more - day
step back from the situation // the world’s not a movie, it’s not fiction
you can’t think “say it, they’ll accept it”
Some people kick you down just because you’re different
It’s gonna be ok, it’s gonna be ok
this issue is temporary so attempt to wait until - you’re - safe
Be rational
Unless you think they won’t attack at all
You gotta keep it in man, be practical
And I know you feel trapped and small right now but you’ll come out alive
I CAN choose my friends
and I CAN choose my family
If they won’t accept me
then others will have me
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[@boyinaband]

I had to make this because it infuriated me how there are absolutely loads of people in this position - where coming out can actually be dangerous.

[@lucasharvie7051]

Thank you for this dave. I really mean that.

[@GeneralMrDeath]

Boyinaband who were the people in the music video?

[@theavaregewarlock5258]

Daam, no one is even cutting onions here. This was so beutifull

[@EmperorNero]

Boyinaband The thing is there are people of all types who sexuality is repressed by people in general. For instance in my area this guy actually killed his parents due to sexual repression and as far as I know he was straight. It is sad that we still can't express our sexuality in general when they just think it is unclean. I think we should honestly teach in general what sexual repression does to people. How it can literally drive people insane.

[@averyjessell9210]

True. I have nothing against homosexuals or homosexuality, but if you asked anyone else I knew, they would say they are weird or some bull like that.

[@Joak11037]

"I can choose my friends and I can choose my family, if they won't accept me then others will have me" This is a lyric that honestly really helped me. A lot.

[@moistymosas2900]

K

[@amurderofdrunkcrows2587]

Same

[@Imaloserbabysowhydontyoukillme]

Those lyrics were made for me (for a different reason) every time I hear that part I start tearing up and I listen to this song almost everyday.. I'm not gay but the lyrics to most his songs hit me hard..

[@elli1080]

Ikr

[@YM-vo6qi]

For a long time I thought it said I can’t choose because I thought my family wouldn’t accept me and when I told my sister and she accepted me i started to hear the actual lyrics even thought my mom didn’t accept

[@sophx9634]

“Online he was everything he wanted, but real life wouldn’t let him be as honest” That line hits home

[@ravenedwards6320]

Especially w everything going on right now

[@Racecar564]

So true...

[@alexhowes8778]

Agreed

[@cobalt757]

I HATE COPYCATS... create your own comment or at least don't copy word by word dumb npc

[@sophx9634]

Bulletproofvelociraptor not a copy cat 🥰 and you’re calling me dumb but clearly don’t know “npc” stands for “non player character” ☺️

[@Anna-ij2yj]

Geez, with all the recent info about cry, this video is hitting different... but I still really enjoy this song and his part in it

[@somewhatcoconut3970]

What did Cry do?

[@sophisticatedPJs]

I also wanna know what happened with cry, I haven't heard anything till now

[@Anna-ij2yj]

@@somewhatcoconut3970 ah well... it's a lot to go over but basically he admitted to cheating on his former gf, and admitted that some of the girls he cheated on her with (emotionally cheated, not physically) were minors, but he wasn't aware they were minors at the time. And several girls came forward and said when he found out their ages, he backed off immediately, but he also cheated with Russ's gf and went after another person russ was interested in, honestly it's a lot, but there are videos on youtube that go over it in more detail. He tried to make an "apology" video, but it felt more like self victimizing and was really poorly done and we're a honestly just waiting for a proper response. I still really like this song tho

[@somewhatcoconut3970]

@Anna oh wow, well thanks for telling me

[@sh4dowveil749]

I don’t watch him but do understand the situation but I think people should at least let him redeem himself instead of just trying to boycott everything he’s ever done, if society didn’t allow redemption then why aren’t all prison sentence life/death sentences Also I’ve seen claims to pedophilia which is just preposterous given that he didn’t even know they were underage

[@mistuhjoestar]

"Online he was everything he wanted but real life wouldn't let him be as honest" hit very close to home

[@somethingcraft3148]

Mista Joestar yep

[@aretmis1000]

Yup

[@blue_lily7568]

yup...

[@baumxy1597]

@@blue_lily7568 yeet

[@goatmadej]

Same for me.

[@HowToBasic]

2:10 - Me too Dave, me too.

[@dompercy]

HowToBasic Could you teach us how to play world of warcraft at some point please? ;)

[@NeinTayles2434]

Eggshells

[@residentsleeper5678]

HowToBasic I love you

[@HireDeLune]

You always find anything with eggs, don't you?

[@phirdeline]

your channel is eggsellent

[@alexanderhamilton9285]

This song really hits different after cry confessed. Goddamn, this song probably saved my life and then this has to happen.

[@chocopeach7517]

Same here...

[@1800basil]

thanks alexander hamilton

[@dustyrose192]

What did he do?

[@alieninahumanbody]

@@dustyrose192 stuff along the lines of pedophilia, I forget what happened exactly. He made a whole video talking about it with half an apology, but a bunch of people thought he glossed over the major issues. Look for the vid "We stopped being genuine a long time ago"

[@spooks2599]

Groomed fans, cheated on his girlfriend with said fans once they turned legal age, etc

[@pridecat]

i never knew cryaotic nor watched his videos but i was introduced to him through this video 2-3 years ago when i first listened to it and many many times since. i love this song to death, it's a piece of art. i won't let one of the artists being a piece of shit stop me from enjoying it. but i'm sorry that this is where we ended up now. love the art, not the artist

[@press8704]

huh? did crysotic do something? i dont watch him either so I have no idea

[@press8704]

@@emstink oh god ok [gags]

[@ezekielshorizon6]

@@press8704 Wow your comment is directly below this comment you replied to.

[@jainasolo50]

press wait what did he do?

[@press8704]

@@jainasolo50 he preyed on underage fans of his

[@ironkook101]

i love how this song tells you actual facts instead of "it's okay, tell them, they're going to understand hah :)"

[@axie9797]

same, I know so many people who are disrespected (in the best case scenario) by their parents for being LGBTQ+. All said they were happy they were out but also wish they had waited.

[@grthorn3461]

Why? What happened since?

[@camelianagy1789]

Ashton Day Hi army, are you ok? Idk what to say...You already made the decision..now you have to wait until you will be on your on

[@user-vf8uc1cr5l]

yall 420 ikr

[@i8chocolatecake995]

@@ash.1353 Im sorry... I hope its better now.

[@johnwick9065]

"I Can Choose My Friends And Family" TRUE IF SOMEONE DONT ACCEPT YOU FIND ANOTHER ONE

[@leonlastname8070]

this helped thanks

[@starlightsystem4065]

Hell yeah. If they can’t accept us for who we are, BOI BYEEEE! :D

[@willgrahamirl]

Yeah I've tried to get friends but no one likes me

[@Alsyya]

but it hurts so much when you'd like that your blood related family understood and respected you for who you are, i mean sure i can get new people who like me but i want my family to be here too..

[@houwlingwoolf]

My reddit user is meme_flag same picture. No one has become offended yet

[@mahelaniarektbb]

I remember being so excited that Cry was on this song. Now hearing his voice makes me want to break things.

[@eugenewaterslide7328]

What, because some random people (who never actually put forward the evidence they said they had) accused him of abuse? The only thing ever proven, was that when he was around 20, he dated a 17, maybe 16 yearold.

[@spookyboyo9530]

2017: "I love the lgbt comunity but I'm just an ally" 2020: W A I T

[@samich9010]

Gay

[@NebulousCreature]

Honestly

[@AspectRx]

Lmao literally me

[@blaise6553]

@@AspectRx same lmao

[@stako-5thetakencorruptedhu679]

"I'm an ally" Past me wasn't the brightest

[@avhelverum539]

I hope Congratulations gets this man the audience he deserves

[@userintent1475]

Agreed. I think we'll be waiting when he's ready.

[@nefeli_8025]

I think don’t stay in school took care of that for him, my school played it and almost my whole year subbed to him which is around 1000 people

[@PeachPlastic]

We can hope so, but I'm unsure. Appreciating his lyrics requires brains, which is practically the only barrier between Dave and mainstream success, I think. Also not sure if the additional pressure would further corrupt his health. But that's not to say I don't wish him success! He deserves way more recognition than he's getting.

[@amurderofdrunkcrows2587]

Yes!!!

[@vikassingh1717]

Really man after congratulations I know him and he is really awesome

[@squidinkNoodles]

Funny story: I accidentally let it slip to my cousin that I'm not straight and a-sexual (she was one if the people I was most scared to come out to as she's very religious) and then she came out to me and that was that. It was good. Her brother heard our conversation, hugged me and joined our conversation. It was the best thing in the world

[@lynx2019]

So proud of you :)

[@atlaswashere9110]

Lucky 😂

[@c.mat0]

GhostlyEcho I’m asexual too.

[@lennyluvr]

I don’t know what I am.

[@angelinaa676]

awwwwww

[@LY-xg3gn]

It’s somehow ironic listening to this song five years later.....after all the things that have happened on Cryaotic...I dunno how to say and I don’t want to comment on this but I just kinda feel...disappointed or confused?

[@st.beatles7283]

What happened? I don’t know who he is besides from this song

[@Honning2023]

@@st.beatles7283 same

[@Marcuss99]

He was a twitch streamer and a youtuber for a long ass time with a loyal fan base. A month ago a bunch of his fans came forward saying he was very sexually inappropriate with them online over the years, some of them were underage at the time

[@Honning2023]

@@Marcuss99 oh shit...

[@addictofsasuke2897]

@@Honning2023 He made an apology where he was really vague, didn't bring up the allegations at all and instead focused on how people ain't real and how sad his life was... Pretty safe to assume he's a predator, especially in his unlisted vid which showed his stream and how sudden his changes in behavior are from mental breakdown to happy twitch persona

[@arsonmybeloved7432]

I used to listen to this song when I was in a bad place and I'd tell myself that there will be a time that I can look back at this song and know I'm okay. I cant do that; while I am in a better place, hearing Cry's part and knowing what he's done is just disgusting and ruins the beauty of the song. I hope the victims are safe and okay.

[@meganmeyer8525]

I was about to type pretty much the same thing. It sucks that something that helped me survive the darkest point in my life ended up having a connection so something so disgusting.

[@GhostyBoi6308]

@@meganmeyer8525 what did cry do?

[@crimsonrose2417]

@@GhostyBoi6308 He sent sexual messages to underage fans

[@TheBlancet]

Wait what? Victims? What did he do?

[@konumbra]

ugh, literally!! this song used to comfort me but now all it does is make me uncomfortable :(

[@emzkinz]

This is oddly one of the most comforting things I've ever heard.

[@AlexB-lr2qp]

Yeah, even though there's screaming and rapping from someone we don't know personally, it's rather comforting.

[@venti7492]

Same, and I’m straight. Also I hate rap. And screaming. But I love this.

[@dianenox6755]

same... I'm not even LGBT.

[@kittenemmaplayz8814]

peepz straight hi..bi. I'm

[@prideofmanny2981]

@@venti7492 i was not a fan of rapping but then i found dave and his raps make sense and thet aint realy fast so ya can rap along

[@TheRPGMinx]

Pleasure to be part of this! A lot of people ask me for advice on coming out to homophobic parents, and my advice is not to do it in the first place. Not when your dependant on them.

[@jchob1235]

Was that you in the video

[@LeviCunt]

Love you minx

[@JiaS.]

Don't hate me for saying this but is that you Minx in the video?

[@BH-rh2bh]

Jchob123​ no if you would know cry or minx they don't show their real face in any video

[@TheScartoonstar]

TheRPGMinx It's sad that that even has to be your advice.... =\

[@hollycow234]

6 years later... Just coming to say I HELD ON.... IT WAS SO WORTH IT

[@turtlesarefantastic9620]

I'm glad it was worth it : )

[@eliijahjames]

so did I I'm glad we both did 🤍

[@nbae1106]

good for you, that's awesome

[@totallynotzokix11_mc21]

This did not age well with the Cry situation.

[@TR33J]

Wait what happened?

[@totallynotzokix11_mc21]

@@TR33J Cryaotic recently admitted that he was cheating on his partner and flirting with underage people.

[@TR33J]

@@totallynotzokix11_mc21 oh...that's fucked up

[@chanellebuyo213]

Bruh i missed Cry but man when i came back to his channel...this is just sad

[@xWinterstarex7]

@@chanellebuyo213 Same..like I didn't know about this mess until I went to his channel and saw that lame ass " apology" vid...I used to watch him when I was younger with my brothers so to hear all this shit...it feels like losing a piece of your childhood tbh. I think that's why i've been just wandering through vids like this one just remembering a simpler time i guess

[@cypher4021]

I need to touch his hair before I die.

[@Milan-tp4wc]

Complete Trash I am going to pretend I never saw your comment

[@vagabondish6330]

Don't we all?

[@hayz691]

Complete Trash I want to have tons of separate streaks that are braided, he go to sleep with the braids in, wake up, untie the braids, and live as a curly-haired god of screamo-rap.

[@ireallyneedtosneezebutican3199]

same lmao (based from ur username and profile pic, i see that ur probably a phangirl?)

[@abigailhurst2768]

samesamesamesame

[@remusdawley7173]

I like this A lot of LGBT people think you need to come out, no matter the consequences. But you need to keep your safety first

[@anitaremenarova6662]

Exactly. This is not a hollywood movie, it's real life. If you are born in the wrong country and you come out, you can easily be stoned to death. Sometimes I just hate this world...

[@XedofM]

@@anitaremenarova6662 Yes, humanity has fallen... they are just not how they were supposed to be... They have failed, and I... well We tried to save them but... no... they always choose the wrong path...

[@NarutoDivorceArcReal]

Xedof Morningstar what u mean. like did u mean to be dis vauge?

[@psychoseagull3104]

You should not come out until you are absolutely sure you are safe. If that's waiting until you're 18, like I did, or immigrating, be careful.

[@elizabethcabbage9817]

Hahahahahahaha yeah how stupid of them I'm glad I wasn't an idiot like that to come out before I was sure I'd be safe haha. :,) Granted I was lucky enough to not be arrested or hanged.

[@KNEEsocksandsandals]

ah, cry. what a shame.

[@orbiter6976]

R.I.P Cry

[@KNEEsocksandsandals]

Orbiter no peace for the wretched

[@aurare1127]

after listening to this song countless time. I just realized the "hold on" could mean both "hold on and endure until you can be free" and "hold on and think, don't do anything rash (such as self harm). The lyrics of this song is absolutely powerful and impactful, it is how human should be like, thinking and caring for each other despite the difference between every single one of us. It is a huge step, but together, we can make that huge step a reality.

[@jonathanhouseholder1514]

Is it just just me or does cry have the sexiest voice ever

[@BlueFlameBird]

he has the sexiest voice ever, only Markiplier can compete

[@user-xv1cs9mm9d]

+NaruHinaLuver13 nah, cry sounds way better

[@kyaugustyn2803]

+NaruHinaLuver13 agreed

[@ellepenne6397]

His voice is so nice

[@funnygaming2672]

I think Cry sound more mysterious and Markiplier more manly ;3

[@custardkitten]

"If he couldn't keep a straight face" omg i thought i was the pun master

[@jacoblangedijk3577]

holy shit

[@BorisBingle]

Fall Far fuckin hell thats funny

[@emeraldgreen4964]

Fall Far 0o0

[@katrina_SJD]

Fall Far Have you seen his Facebook, every year he posts a picture of him holding burnt toast with the year left unburnt and says "a toast to_" and it is every year

[@custardkitten]

Katrina Jackson OMG

[@vkth3663]

man hearing cry's voice again after the drama... that voice i used to adore so much..

[@ObsidianDragon99]

I know exactly how you feel, that voice that i adored and the person it came from too.. it just hits different now..

[@ArcadiasPlanet]

@@ObsidianDragon99 what’s the tea

[@Ryleigh_XY]

@@ArcadiasPlanet Cry (and Dave as well recently) are in mad hot water over them having extremely inappropriate and abusive relationships with multiple women and underage girls.

[@starfiresreign]

@@Ryleigh_XY ik now it's cry and Dave:/ damn

[@alicetheaxolotl]

I've listened to this song a lot in the past 5 years. It's gotten me through a lot of rough times. As a trans lesbian living in the Bible Belt, I've had to hide who I am from anyone that isn't LGBTQ+. It used to give me hope that things would be okay one day. But it's not the same after learning about Cry. I was groomed for 4 years, and was eventually r*ped by the man grooming me. I just can't listen to this song anymore, knowing Cry is in it, after everything he's done. EDIT: Welp, this comment aged like milk. Fuck Dave.

[@nocturnecz3965]

@@ezra2749 Check out the Cryaotic Accusations megathread on Reddit, all the necessary links and summaries are there. There's a lot of them, this whole clusterfuck went on for a month and a half straight.

[@Gggrrrg]

Yep understand it really helped me deal with being bi but with cry not as good anymore

[@kendeeks]

I hope you feel okay and safe

[@qatwithaq4275]

I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. I hope you've gotten out of your situation and that you're feeling better

[@LucyBoob]

Goddamn, I hope ur ok

[@Enzar17]

I thought my father wouldn't accept me, but that my mother would. For years, I grew up confiding in her while my dad was away at work, never connecting with me, and I spent a great percentage of my teen years in a escalating feud with my father over a great deal of things. Eventually they split, and I could finally relax at home for a while. I thought it was finally over. He was finally out of my life. When in college I discovered that I was bisexual. I told my closest friends almost immediately, and the outpouring of love and support was the kindest thing I had ever experienced. It took 6 months to come out to my parents. I decided it was best to make a global announcement on social media, so I could include as many people as possible in the announcement. When I finally did it, it was the opposite of my expectation. My dad didn't understand... but he wanted to. We talked about it over beers when I visited for Christmas, had Thai takeout on Christmas day because the rest of the family had the flu and we were too lazy to cook, and to this day he still asks about it. Wanting to understand where I am, what I'm feeling, who I like. To give me advice on relationships and to be there for me when I need it. We still get Thai takeout on Christmas now, because that night was so good and we wanted to start a tradition. We've spent the last 4 years building the foundation for a real, trusting relationship out of the ashes of my teenage years, because he has been there to support me since. My mother had the opposite reaction. She told me I was wrong. She told me she didn't believe me. That when I was growing up I had never shown signs of that, that I was confused or just exploring, she felt betrayed that I hadn't pulled her aside to have a discussion about it beforehand. As if she was in charge of my sexuality. As if she could choose who I was. To this day, I have no idea if she has come to believe me or not. I couldn't be assed to ask, frankly. When I was 17, I thought my mom left my dad because he was a terrible person. Now at 23, I know for a fact that he left her. I can choose my family.

[@dominic8528]

I only realized my identity a year or two ago. I found out about sexualities and identities through Pinterest (probably not the most reliable source, but whatever) and then kept researching it until I knew about almost everything. I came out to my mom when we were in the car. I trapped myself and brought up how she had told me she had a crush on a girl in the fourth grade. She then asked me if I thought I liked girls or boys or both or neither and I said I’d be okay with any gender. Her not using any labels helped a lot. At that same moment, she told me she was also pansexual/bisexual (he didn’t fully see the difference even though she knew about nonbinary because she thought of bisexual as two or more, but now she does and identifies as pansexual). I got a therapist because I developed depression and anxiety. My dad was kind of not for it, but he dealt with it. So my therapist specialized in LGBTQ+. He found out, got mad at my mom for not telling him I was LGBTQ+ and I told him it wasn’t her choice to make and that it was mine and he had to deal with it. He was still mad, but not as mad. He got over it and didn’t care that I was pansexual. Then I realized that I did not conform with my gender identity. For a while I thought I was genderflux, then agender, and I kept telling my mom, but not my dad. Finally, when I realized I was genderfluid, I talked to him. And he was just kind of an asshole. He kept talking about transitioning and how it wasn’t a good idea for medical reasons no matter how many times I said I didn’t want to. He then said he thought it was not ok that having to respect people’s gender pronouns was a law in Canada and that he should have freedom of speech and I cried. He said the other day when I wore my pronoun pin that had male pronouns on it, he got kind of mad because what did I know about growing up as a boy. I told him people hurt and kill themselves over pronouns. He told me everyone hurts. He told me he would respect my pronouns in my house begrudgingly, but outside of the home, pronouns for other people were a case by case thing. I wanted to tell him what an asshole he was for saying that. But I know he loves and supports me and is trying. He’s just making this way more of a big deal than it has to be. And right when I was thinking about how much I hated him, he said he was scared to share his feelings because he thought I would hate him and that when I was 13 I could choose which home I lived at (my parents are divorced) and that he didn’t want to lose me and now I feel bad because I can’t decide if I hate him but don’t want to or if I don’t hate him but I want to. I’m just so spun into a web. At school, I have an LGBTQ+ club I’m a part of. All of my friends respect my pronouns and still love me. And online, it’s the same thing. Everyone accepts and loves me. Plot twist? I’m 12. I just feel lost...

[@jigsawcom28]

I know nothing of this because I'm not like this but I have gay friends and their attitude towards people like this is Fucking deal with it I am who I am and if you're not happy oh fucking well. Don't lay down taking their fucking crap if they don't like it oh well. Friends are family just the family you create yourself find ones who you can absolutely trust. You two are not alone on this journey I promise hundreds of thousands of people feel exactly the same way you do. But I will tell you this the best people to surround yourself with are ones who stand out already. Make friends with Goths, metal heads, and Juggalos they never judge. I'm a juggalo metalhead MWCL. I accept you for who you are.

[@justamisunderstoodkidnamed9928]

I choose my friends as my family, we all don't have a good relationship with our families, so we made our own. I'll choose them every time, over my family, my family is very old valued. Ps. My girlfriend, she's bi and I am pan ftm, broke up with me 'cause she was scared of our old fashioned families finding out about us, our friendship now is getting back to how it was before, and now we can be ourselves around each other; we may get back together later on in high school. You never know...

[@scpgames5986]

i may not be gay or bi or anything like that, but i have many friends that are bi, pan, and lesbian. no matter who you are, be yourself and the right people will love you for who you are. there is no reason to hide, and i am glad you were able to come out to your parents, and if you are ever feeling sad or depressed, just remember that you have friends and family that care about you and want to help you. congrats to all the non-straight people out there, because you are special in your own ways and i hope you are able to confess like many others have.

[@hobissnakeu3487]

I'm still very young and in my young teenage years. Lately, I've been starting to question my sexuality, and I now identify as pansexual. My mom is extremely supportive of me no matter what, but unfortunately, my dad and I have never had a good relationship, and my grandparents are super homophobic. For now I'm not really telling anyone except my mom, but I really don't care what people think.

[@ashenrose2262]

"I can choose my friends and i can choose my family if they wont accept me then others will have me" this gives me hope like you wouldn't beleive.

[@pridecat]

Ashen Rose Same. I’ve never suffered from homophobes or disapproval for my sexuality (thankfully), but honestly same. It fives me hope for those that do.

[@canolaoil3780]

Ashen Rose when I heard that line I started crying Bc it hit so close to home

[@dinofeino1811]

Ashen Rose That lyric alone makes me feel better

[@hmalark3822]

Ashen Rose same

[@YourCupofChii]

as soon as i scroll down and read this, this exact part played, well done

[@drflannelxd904]

This song got me through a lot. Cry's parts helped me ground myself and what I was feeling, helped me realize I was pansexual and nonbinary. Now I feel that it's been tainted. It's been about 2 weeks, since what he did surfaced, and, it's honestly hard to come back to this song for me. As an abuse survivor, it makes me feel so.. confused and sick to come back to a song that used to make me feel so safe. I mainly wanted to say this to get some thoughts out, and help anyone else coming back to this song know that they aren't alone. It's normal to feel this way. "It'll be okay."

[@BleachedBlackSocks]

Wait what did he do

[@splats9671]

@@BleachedBlackSocks I didn't properly watch his video but the gist of it is he saying "I dated underage girls online to cheat on my irl GF BUT I didn't know they were underage and its in the past and I've changed!" I think To be honest? You should go watch it yourself

[@Sonics-ee5fl]

@@splats9671 holy fuck thats messed up

[@anaionescu8913]

Try looking at it as Dave's song. He did most of the work and, as someone else put it in this comment section, it's not fair to let Cry's disgusting actions taint such a beautiful song

[@Laiser]

@@anaionescu8913 Lol. Now you can't look at it as Dave's song

[@itzbeelzebuddy]

.. *2020 gang knowing what cry has done anyone?*

[@DiceSky]

Who cares tho? Yes I hate what cry did but does it change how I feel about this song? No. I don't see why we need to talk about cryaotic in this video about what he did. Can we all just enjoy the song or at least stand it without having to bring the drama into it

[@morganmaynard8600]

Cry's voice when he says 'It's gonna be okay' was really calming for me. Anyone else?

[@Tiwwyb]

FLUFFY UNICORN it's sex

[@abb_undance]

FLUFFY UNICORN Literally Anything he says really

[@candyeyedprincess2456]

FLUFFY UNICORN I almost had a heart attack

[@vaguelyhumanshaped7972]

FLUFFY UNICORN yup

[@themusicalgeek4549]

I think youtube is broken, I can't seem to like this more than once.

[@Emma-fs7sz]

The Musical Geek I gave it another like for you :)

[@heli_hel]

I know... it is annoying

[@quixoticat7658]

I know. I wish the rating system was brought back. It would give a lot more depth than just a simple like or dislike.

[@kadienolan8826]

The Musical Geek me to

[@robertdowell6066]

your not ment to be able to

[@saintwolfman9221]

After what happened with Cry and knowing what I know, it makes this song a bit hard to listen to.

[@emmy-ci5cl]

It used to be my safety line.

[@DiceSky]

What cry did shouldn't make you feel different about the song just think about what the song represents not the person singing it. You can't idolize people nowadays. There's no such thing as good or bad people just people. What cry has done shouldn't make you change how you feel about other things that cry has been into as long as you like the things and how it represents. Cryaotic isn't a good person or a bad person and I believe he needs to change and truly apologize to the victims and grow up. You don't have to respect or idolize cry. Doesn't mean you have to hate something that he was in because of what he's done. It's like when someone watch someone's content they may not like the person but they like the content. So you can do the same thing with cry you don't have to like him it doesn't have to stop you for listening to this song that he was a part of. Or in any video he was in

[@DiceSky]

I will tell this to anyone who feels this way. Because you don't need to stop listening to things that make you happy just because someone did something

[@roshanfey]

dave's presence is so comforting for me.

[@evieaddy9580]

this should be played on the pride festivals its very true and well written!

[@evieaddy9580]

If 2pac were alive and he saw this he'd be major proud

[@chrissabry7529]

+Evie Addy no the fuck he would not. shut the fuck up

[@evieaddy9580]

Geometry Dash Intrix [ES] why not he used to rap about this type of shit all the time difference is it had more to do with racism than homophobia

[@urbanaminoa]

"You never know how strong you can be until being strong is the only choice you have left." - Tupac Shakur

[@fusiondew]

Because you personally knew him didn't you? i bet he was a great friend, mind sharing what you know about who and what he himself would be proud of?

[@dangreen3868]

I've come back to this song completely out as trans, having my hair cut, getting a binder, seeing a psychiatrist, and having my name and pronouns all figured out. Feels good. I've been feeling really euphoric recently. My friends have switched to calling me Dan, my sister is really interested in learning about it, and my parents are doing their best to help me, in their own ways. My dad started picking up on my dysphoria more, and has been doing really well with my name and using the masculine in Hebrew. Overall, I'm doing good. Being me. I feel like I'm getting somewhere. Happy pride!

[@yourboijason9576]

I'm half-out to a few close friends. I go to an all girl school so its kind of annoying when the teachers always saying things like, "Okay, girls/ladies/women." I can't do anything about it because I'm not sure I'll be supported and people will say I'm "too young." A few people who I thought I could trust have stopped talking to me because of it. I told my mum but I can't get my hair cut or wear trousers to school yet. She supports me but I'm not sure all of my family will so I can't come out. I accidentally let it slip to a girl in my class who stayed quiet about it but she let me know she supports me and my gender won't matter to her. I'm so lucky to know her. I want to tell my dad but I can't just go do it and don't understand why its so difficult or what I can do. This is so hard to figure out and I'm sorry for saying this all here. I just needed to get it out.

[@kuninkaanmurhaaj888]

Dan Green I’m also completely out and have gotten a hair cut, binder and figured my name and pronouns out and it really does feel amazing and my parents support me but they haven’t really started using the name and pronouns I want yet and it’s fine because I understand how hard it is to them but my mom has started getting used to it a bit so things are looking up

[@rockercaterrorencountered4924]

Congrats, Dan! I hope everything has been going well for you over the past few months.

[@boogiebong420]

I'm really happy for you! I hope things continue going well for you

[@AlfaLightBearer]

you were really lucky. my parents still misgender me and refuse to acknowledge my gender ID. my dad even admitted he will still deadname me once i change my name.

[@darkfoxa]

The lyrics "Online he was everything he wanted. But real life wouldn’t let him be as honest" hit pretty well. Being a transgender woman in a home where I can't express or reveal my true self due to fear of abuse

[@BethanyMisty]

:(( I hope you get to move out soon!

[@darkfoxa]

@@BethanyMisty Thank you. At the moment I'm about to finish my apprenticeship and I've got to find some steady work somwhere so that I can move closer to that

[@BethanyMisty]

Oh nice!! Congratulations on finishing your apprenticeship! Coincidentally I’ve just finished a level of an apprenticeship I’m doing and am moving on to the next level soon o:,, good luck finding somewhere to move out to!! I’ve wanted to move out for ages but I’m too scared to do it alone lol

[@thisisauniquename]

Good luck getting out of there!! I believe in you!!

[@darkfoxa]

@@BethanyMisty Totally get it. I'm pretty scared myself on a lot of levels. As things have it I'm working on my apprentice exam now and hopefully I'll be offered at least some work after in the same place, or so I've been told!

[@--6487]

I truly wish there were a version of this song with only Dave and Minx... it's so conflicting to listen to this song that helped me so much as a teenager now, knowing what Cry was actually like then

[@Emocheems]

Oh no……

[@abbycardus6018]

" he couldn't keep a straight face " " they had to bend the feelings " I feel like a pun genius. Luv the song tho :3

[@lanekxng247]

Abby Cardus :3 I get it

[@thijshaakma1789]

he said "they had to *vent* the feelings"

[@etherium8017]

While this song is about the LGBT community and yknow, coming out and that I know everyones said this, the line about "choosing your friends and your family, if they wont accept me, others will have me," This line has helped me so much I fucking love you dave.

[@anitaremenarova6662]

Well it's universal, it can apply to religion, views etc. I think Dave doesn't really care who it helps as long as it helps someone :)

[@houwlingwoolf]

Sort I’m late but I have a running joke- Are you *davesexual*

[@etherium8017]

@@houwlingwoolf Yes

[@z3rocool]

i read this comment at the same time they said the line

[@darlalathan6143]

It's so true!

[@nyxion786]

I'm safe. I left my homophobic and transphobic family. It wasn't terrible but it wasn't healthy and didn't allow me to be me. But I've had a taste of not feeling free. I consider myself lucky but I know people who can't come out or people who did who really shouldn't have. If you feel trapped, my heart breaks for you. The moment you get to breath freedom is worth the wait. I know it's tough but you are strong and can get through this. And to everyone who put their effort into making this amazing song, it's on my playlist and I listen to it every week. Almost every day. I love it! Especially the line, "I can choose my friends and I can choose my family, if they won't accept me then others will have me!" I yell it out every damn time. Thank you so much for making this. This idea that "you should come out" can be dangerous and I'm so glad this song tackles that because sometimes it is dangerous to come out. Some people just don't understand us and will hurt us. That is reality. But it's not forever. The wait is tough. It's so tough but as someone who is surrounded by people trying to get my pronouns right, respecting me and now a wonderful bf who I cherish so much, it's so fucking worth it. Don't come out to people who will harm you. Stay safe this holiday season and thank you to everyone who made this video.

[@kaylastar9314]

minx being the only survivor is why she was always the best ❤

[@pukemaid54]

How do you know minx isn't uh y'know

[@kaylastar9314]

@@pukemaid54 i guess i dont know definitively but shes remained unproblematic for this long so fingers crossed 🤞

[@Mithras-jp4jp]

Minx is the best.

[@ChaoticMonki]

HAH! Gay.

[@Spiperiscool]

HAH! Cry.

[@Lolabuns]

You're a bootybutt.

[@MarioThaMonkey]

Dude that's disrespectful. You should listen to the lyrics...... lmao

[@soda_gt.]

MarioThaMonkey he wasnt being serious

[@Lolabuns]

MarioThaMonkey​ I really hope you're joking because he's literally in the song.

[@salierisneighbor9736]

"She was playing girl games offline" smmmmooooothh 👌

[@camscendants3096]

@smith shady actually 👉👌 does make sense in this case just add another finger or two

[@kodywise8152]

@@camscendants3096 👊👌

[@kiwakiwarin]

👅🐱

[@sadsworth4605]

🍌🍑 wait thats illegal

[@resarious6225]

THIS COMMENT SECTION AKFKJSDHLS

[@lowhums2345]

okay well i absolutely adored this song a few years ago. now cry makes me feel sick. i supported him so hard.

[@imNapalm]

The goosebumps are unreal even 5 years later

[@maxmoefoe]

Are you taking over for Zayn? Because this is the right direction. Forward.

[@dottr8253]

xD #DaveForZayn

[@josephperson8168]

I'm dead.

[@bikinipuncake724]

Fuck PewDiePie replacing Zayn, Dave is where it's at.

[@cipaxo2234]

Well he is only going in "one direction" which as you said is forward :o

[@TheDustinDestruction]

BikiniPUNCAKE Dave is awesome! :)

[@foxinefox2625]

Crys low voice... Minx beautifully voice... ehhh. I love them with his.

[@asapp3391]

Yeah, that was cool. :O Absolutely Love Dave's voice too!

[@lxvelycory7226]

I was having horrible Dysphoria today, and I still am, and after listening to this made me rethink my future and how I'm screwed. But amazing song!

[@moonbook12]

That great

[@creature6727]

Same fam same

[@thathistoricalbestie732]

S*** this song helped me a lot when I was still closeted... Minx don't be the third

[@ellab6188]

I accidentally fast forwarded to the end as soon as I started the video so it sounded like She loved h- AAAAAAAAAAAaAAAaaGGGGGGHHHHHH

[@neverxnice3577]

Rebel_ Thorn713 big mood

[@user-dq7fl3xk3t]

Rebel_ Thorn713 incredible xD

[@rayden8405]

Rebel_ Thorn713 most of these comments were uplifting and sad at the same time, then i saw this one and couldn't stop laughing

[@spomshi]

That’s beautiful

[@gabrielf342]

Rebel_ Thorn713 this is my favourite comment on the Internet

[@maxmoefoe]

Beautiful work Dave, very inspiring. This will surely go viral. XOXOXOX

[@Skylirux]

I really hope so this is something the world needs to see

[@Zen_200]

Omg max good yo see you again😀

[@kgh0010]

You two makes cute couple I ship so hard

[@darrenco8289]

Why don’t you and edupz fuck already?

[@loganb7277]

Idubbez X maxmoefoe

[@thediseasedone9492]

The ending made me smile. Can't wait until I get somewhere safer.

[@PolythenePam0451]

MINX NO GET OUT

[@smileyy728]

The lyrics are so fucking sad and I'm indirectly affected just by thinking about what people have to go through to be themselves. For all of you that go through stuff, stay strong, it'll get better!

[@miroslavblagojevic6483]

+nobody knows I know its realy great thing to be just as most of people... from one side you are happy and thankfull that u are like most of people but still u are realy sad because hell that innocent people pass ...

[@Timetaken157]

+Kaneki ken You can choose your friends, and you can choose your family

[@mariejanssen6422]

+Kaneki ken i am so sorry. you shouldn't have to live with that feeling. so so so sorry!

[@that0neguy992]

+nobody knows I am a christian, so this is a very touch subject. However, even though I am straight, my advice to you if you are homophobic, think, If they cannot accept you for what you are, then screw them, and move on.

[@Timetaken157]

+Noah Zinn *homosexual?

[@RoomieOfficial]

Loved this man! Keep doing songs about things that matter to you, I'll support you all the way.

[@alexmezny2554]

Not the real Kirito yes.

[@joe564338]

earned sub

[@sunsooo9360]

RoomieOfficial ya roomie lets supoprt dave! go dave

[@Oaticles]

RoomieOfficial His name is PEWDIEPIE anyone anyone??

[@user-xx5cw5de4b]

RoomieOfficial I will support him too

[@joel_the_ai]

Seeing cry in the title after the recent drama just makes me.. Ugh

[@anitaremenarova6662]

What drama?

[@joel_the_ai]

@@anitaremenarova6662 watch his latest video

[@anitaremenarova6662]

@@joel_the_ai I've seen it.. What the fuck.. Why?!

[@joel_the_ai]

@@anitaremenarova6662 I was surprised as well and now even pewds doesn't wanna talk about him. When ever ppl bring up cry in live streams he tries to ignore them. I wish things went back to how they were

[@anitaremenarova6662]

@@joel_the_ai Sadly, things will never go back to how they were. Once you break trust it's pretty much impossible to regain it.

[@devshah2939]

I love how positive all the comments are 💙

[@yoshiyoshi8382]

"I CAN choose my friends and I CAN choose my family, if they won't eccept me then others will have me" that made me cry so hard. living with a dad that could beat me to death because I am queer is the scarriest shit ever. love the song.

[@paradichloronbenzene2234]

Hexce Decimal Don't worry, my dad said to me himself that he'd disown me if I turned out gay. I'm so sorry, and I'm in a similar situation, but I promise to god this will get better. You have people behind you, just know that.

[@zenithcharles4918]

Hexce Decimal I am a lesbian female, I know how you feel about not having parents to come out to, I'm here for you...

[@joewhite0536]

Hexce Decimal I understand I know some of my family are against gay people and I'm scared what they would do to me if I told them I'm gay

[@phanicattwentyonefallingdi2425]

Hexce Decimal it'll get better...if it helps, I know how you feel, my father isn't the best dad too

[@sadhomie6192]

Hexce Decimal you spelled aceept wrong haha but i agree

[@Aidensan11]

My mom: What are you listening to? Me: homosexual death metal Edit: i’m happy this was able to make a few of you smile

[@superspark3257]

I wouldn't call it metal

[@nubiedubie1651]

@@superspark3257 , no this is fucking metalll

[@superspark3257]

@@nubiedubie1651 but not death metal, too mellow for death metal

[@superspark3257]

@@nubiedubie1651 but it is a fucking banger

[@wintershock]

Aidensan it’s more rap.

[@musicalifornia49]

My lifelong friend came out to me last night. His parents haven't been the most supportive and I instantly knew I had to show him this song. He cried, and he NEVER cries, or shows any emotions. Thank you so much Dave!

[@evyonedies]

Ever since I’ve heard the line, “I can choose my friends and I can choose my family. If they don’t accept me, then other will have me!” I’ve been telling this to myself for years, and I will continue telling this to people until the day I die. I luckily don’t have family or friends that hate me for who I am, but too many people do, so when you’re finally able to break free from their wrath... YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS AND YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR FAMILY!!!

[@mtomasini7074]

You can't choose your family though.

[@Sonics-ee5fl]

@@mtomasini7074 You can chose the people you consider family, blood is just a suggestion.

[@totallynotphoenixwright]

I analyzed this song for my English class. I had to choose an activist piece and I did this piece. Amazing.

[@DanielJohnNicholson]

Totally Not Phoenix Wright It's interesting that you analysed a song in an English class.

[@totallynotphoenixwright]

@@DanielJohnNicholson Yeah, well, we analyze anything. Song is just another form of literature. We did Coming of Age by Foster the People and connected it to Catcher in the Rye.

[@Pistolemaster]

Totally Not Phoenix Wright Since when does a Lawyer analyse a song for his English class?

[@totallynotphoenixwright]

@@Pistolemaster Sometimes lawyers have to retake classes, y'know?

[@OBM22]

Ima do dont stay is school for mine lol

[@mandagrammy]

My Granddaughter, who is gay, shared the link to your video with me and I'm super impressed. The message is clear and extremely important for young people to hear. When my Granddaughter came out to us, it was a non-issue. She is still the same child I have loved from day one, and who she is attracted to is not what defines her as a person. That is her business and her right to her feelings. And I will always be proud of her. I just wish more parents, grandparents, family, and friends accepted their children as they are, without judgement or the need to mold them into what they want them to be. Thank you for speaking up for those who need to hear your message.

[@rekishimasemi1214]

mandagrammy I wish more people were more like you

[@HyakuyaFutaba]

You're amazing! Your granddaughter is lucky to have such an accepting and positive grandmother ^^

[@lisafischer5040]

You are truly amazing, i want more people like you in humanity

[@colixnaia6512]

Wow, this brought me to tears hah. This is probably weird to say, but thank you for being such an amazing person.

[@lomouche]

She is really lucky to have an accepting grandma like yourself

[@ermweezer]

Rest in peace to this banger, rest in peace to my childhood. Dave and Minx keep up the good shit. Nothing else about anything else.

[@prideofmanny2981]

Yes man.... fuck him

[@marjanmartinov9607]

what happened

[@Mortal209]

@@marjanmartinov9607 Cry was accused of grooming an underage girl and then later admitted to it. He's now being "cancelled". He deserves it though. I'm learning a lot about the people I used to watch videos of years ago thanks to Reddit as of recent.

[@marjanmartinov9607]

@@Mortal209 damn man okay thanks

[@broflovskiz]

this aged badly

[@techcamisado4058]

this song makes me kinda sad now

[@tsu_den__.tw_g]

If you’re struggling with coming out, remember Dave screaming “Hold on.”

[@breadddie]

This is one of the first thing that made me realize that I wasn't straight. Damn

[@stellath1537]

What do you mean ?

[@breadddie]

She, and I'm not gay, but I'm definitely not straight lmao.(bi, pan,etc.)

[@katrina9877]

To realise I wasn't bi and I'm a lesbian, I'm so confused please help

[@TallMist]

People learn their sexualities in different ways. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to learn what your sexuality is.

[@ordranist.4547]

+Touch My Ice Cream And I'll Cut You It makes ya really think about what you are and how you feel. Take me for example, I never really minded the idea of dating another guy but I didn't really think I was gay until I stoped to think about the label of my sexuality. I wasn't ignoring it I was just not paying much attention to what I "was" until I decided to put some thought into it.

[@stuffiecats]

Come on Minx we believe in you… our last hope

[@davidaugustine399]

Lmao

[@user-fv9er3by5n]

but it was false

[@aafyr3]

In light of Cry's recent video... I just.. dont know what to feel now. Spectrum has always been near and dear to me ever since I first listened to it. Now, I cant help but feel like it's tainted, for lack of a better word. For anyone listening after Cry's video, here's what I decided on personally: You can continue to love the art. You can continue to love this song, in spite of one it's contributors. Love the art, hate (one of) the artists. It's been a long day for me. Hope you guys have a good pride. Whoever you are, know youre loved. EDIT, 2 years after I made this comment: So... here we are again with boyinaband's own allegations. Yeah... I still stand by my words, but istg if Minx turns out to be horrendous as well, I'm throwing this song into the trash.

[@rae8961]

I agree with this. I hate how people make us feel like we can't enjoy things just because they're connected to bad people. I just like the sounds, let me enjoy the music. I don't know even know who the artists are half of the time. 😂

[@aafyr3]

@Official 19yearold I see that you just made this account barely a week ago, and that you've been commenting on other people to forgive Cry. A fan of Pewdiepie too, so I'm assuming you're young. He has not personally done anything to me, so _my_ forgiveness isnt something you/Cry should be asking for. Also, how does my hate affect you or Cry? I, for one, dont go around saying mean things regarding Cry. Ive only made two comments about the news of Cry being a pedo, and neither were on his video. I found more on top of that, like him cheating on his gf, and then stealing someone's gf, and even more proof that he was aware some of his victims were minors when he was interacting with them. Have I made comments on that? No. Because I didnt want to spend more energy on a man I already no longer was a fan of. I will *not* take Cry's own word about himself. Humans are incapable of judging themselves accurately. I do not care if he has changed, even if he did. Would you leave a robber alone in your house, even if he says he has stopped stealing? Stop trying to make people forgive Cry. All you're doing by insulting people and being aggressive, is just going to make people continue to hate him. It also shows how uneducated you are about the situation. Look to other sources that aren't Cry's own videos, like the massive reddit masterlist, before coming to knock on my door again.

[@rae8961]

@Official 19yearold That's another point. When everyone cancels somebody, they don't take into account the amount of time that passed and how much they could have changed. It could be from 10 years ago and be something that was acceptable back then, but they still hold it to people's throats. God, I hate cancel culture so much, it's so stupid.

[@thatdude2998]

Yes I think separating the art from the artist is important

[@creamley1851]

and now boyinaband is a nonce too

[@allychaos933]

DAMN DAVE I DIDN’T KNOW YOU SCREAMED, I LOVE IT

[@roboticshaft1340]

sign these balls I fucking love your icon

[@deeraredear]

He screams specially for equality :)

[@_x3o_]

Ikr, it's like if Brendon Urie and Tyjo screamed together... It's amazing!

[@brosephlyon]

Its actually Cry doing the screaming

[@charlottebuxton2066]

namjoonietoon armmmyyyy

[@jacobmayer8916]

I’m a straight guy and a Christian. I absolutely love the message in this song, it hurts me that people are casted out of families because they’re differently. And then Christians refuse to accept and love the LGBT community even tho the Bible says to love one another no matter who they are. It’s a shitty world we live in where things like this happen on a consistent basis

[@jacobmayer8916]

Jackson Smith Exactly. It’s also negative when people say God hates gay people when it’s the complete opposite and it’s just a case of extremists using the Bible for their own use.

[@ragingrainbow6151]

@@jacobmayer8916 that's the problem with a book written over the span of many years by many different authors.. they all interpreted the message differently and ended up with contradictions.. so really you could use the bible to justify pretty much anything.. I just wish people could see the love in that book and focus on that rather than the negative parts

[@arby7316]

I'm glad my friends who are christian like me accept my bi sister

[@CarbibourNeil]

pretty much, God loves the people, It's the sin that he hates.

[@flamethatsings-witchcraft5893]

I'm not a Christian, but I believe your God smiling upon you. Blessed be.

[@pastel3022]

I'm so hurt that Cry is in this fucking amazing, beautiful song. He hurt so many people. He didn't deserve this song.

[@Julia33066]

What did he do?

[@mtomasini7074]

@@Julia33066 Cheating with minors

[@standerdacount2945]

And now boyinaband doesn’t aswell

[@annonymous-pr3ky]

"i can choose my friends, and i can choose my family, if they wont accept me then others will have me" never fails to make me tear up.

[@kat-kalamity]

"Stop looking at her like that" "Are you okay? You're spacing out." "You wouldn't look feminine" "You don't love her, your hormones just make you think you do." Yeah I don't know who I look up to who accepts me who I love sure you can choose that based on gender. Little do you know we've secretly been dating for about one and a half years now.

[@jaychen9917]

congrats :D im so glad you two got a happy ending

[@anattempttomakecontent776]

Thats great! Hope ur happy😁

[@leonlastname8070]

Im so glad for you

[@rivviegobrr714]

I'm so happy for you 😁 I'm bi and have a crush on a girl...I'm a girl... They aren't gay or bi... FML. I love her, she just doesn't love me

[@meagan4722]

I was told that I just chose to like her. You just closed your eyes and spun around and chose. I didn't. I still love her.

[@fckingawful]

hey im four years late, I was binging your videos and i found this one and started crying halfway through. even if dave doesn't see this, even if nobody sees it, im still putting this out there. when this video came out i was questioning my gender and sexuality at the same time, when I lived in a small primarily religious town with my very religious parents and every day was some new form of hell for me. even if I was never physically hurt, like many other lgbt people are, it was still there, nagging at the edges of my vision every moment and it just wore me down so badly. I wish I would've seen this video back then. but I know someone else out there saw it when they needed to, and even if this isn't the point when I needed it the most, I'm currently out as a transgender, bisexual man. I can't transition medically speaking until I'm 18, but that's not very far away, and I guess this is just the last push. with this song as the thing I needed to get me through it. so thank you dave from boyinaband, thank you to cry and minx and dwain whose name really is satisfying to say. if you ever see this, just know you made a trans kid somewhere really fucking happy. thanks.

[@emmarb4609]

I hope you’re okay

[@markelley9710]

Hey. I hope you’re happy whenever you are. Wherever you are, please stay strong and know that you are both loved and cherished. I’m so proud of you for staying true to yourself! 🧡🧡

[@ntmyknight9996]

nice comment hope your okay really but ewww bing really

[@randomnameforarandomnerd8400]

I got a couple friends in similar situations and I've seen them hurt so much so reading this comment reminded me of many nights I spent with them trying to sort themselves out. Assuming you went through even just some of what they did, I'm proud that you're holding firm in yourself and coming to terms with who you are. Hopefully your family and peers realise how important and amazing you are because nobody deserves to be hurt for this stuff. Good luck with whatever comes your way, take care.

[@prideofmanny2981]

@@ntmyknight9996 could you be anymore fucking insensitive

[@Tanaka1168]

Listening this for the last time. Knowing what Cry did, I regret that this was the song that helped me come out.

[@jacobmccracken1779]

Wait what did he do?

[@Tanaka1168]

@@jacobmccracken1779 kzbin.info/www/bejne/fmWoZnVmYp2kaKc

[@jacobmccracken1779]

@@Tanaka1168 omg WTF Ugghh Whyyy well thank you for sending the link Idk if I can enjoy the latter half of this song anymore though

[@FlakyMusic]

You couldn't predict what would have happened. Don't beat yourself up for using this song to cope. You can't control the world. Dave has a bunch of great songs without Cry. I'm Not Dead, Don't Stay in School and Empty are pretty good ones - even though they don't deal with this specific topic, it still has that raw emotion that made this song so good.

[@RLBKiva]

The art should come before the artist. Cry gave his voice for a part of the song. So if we presume that the allegations are in fact true - which is likely because he borderline admitted to them in his cry talks video - then the message of the song still stands unchanged. And if we can take this song for strength and positive messages in spite of the actions of one artist then that is a good thing.

[@thefutureisnow6882]

Its so hard to enjoy this after what happened with cry, luckily dave and minx's parts help cover up the pain

[@gjmeggs]

What happened with cry in the video or irl

[@TSHandle6324]

Irl probably

[@Seven-vn6qi]

@@gjmeggs he cheated on his gf with online girls who were minors

[@Megawaps]

@@Seven-vn6qi Except he didn't knew that they're minors.

[@danbull]

Good message. I think. I don't know because my parents are very accepting of my heterosexuality.

[@Flameandfireclan]

Well, at least you wont be killed for it in the middle-east Danny...

[@MrThebradon2001]

Danny boy it's you and not your annoying-ass imposter!

[@IEatSkrubsMyGrub]

Yh same

[@chevyyy6487]

Hi Dan

[@NekoIsGod]

Karadra Peterson het·er·o·sex·u·al ˌhedərəˈsekSH(əw)əl/ adjective adjective: heterosexual 1. (of a person) sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex. synonyms:straight; More

[@teklaolivares9980]

Me with headphones: Boy in a band: HOOOOLD OOOON me: AAA MY EARS

[@DarkClarity]

Triple A sounds

[@MaskTheDwarf]

My ears oddly loved it 😅

[@samlemons8053]

it aint that loud

[@MaskTheDwarf]

@Esther Syvanen I always use earphones or headphones when listening to songs, including this one and I apparently love my ears being torn open XD

[@amurderofdrunkcrows2587]

Same

[@ghostgremlinbaby9056]

I’m having a lot of trouble listening to this since it was revealed they cry grooms underage girls. this song helped me for many years. I think it’s time to say goodbye. I just can’t listen with his voice in it. Thank you for helping for so many years. If you are being groomed or assaulted in any way, please seek help. There will be people out there for you.

[@Rabbit-zs7sr]

Cryotic in a song about forbidden love? Aged like fine wine

[@ts6984]

3:04 this is the best quote. I can choose my friends and i can choose my family if they won't except me then others will have me!.

[@midnightcosplay7313]

Yep just It's just like the actual saying blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb

[@rylandssandbox557]

I'm bisexual, but I cannot come out to my parents because they will kick me out. This song helps me through so much. I finally know that there are people out there who will accept me no matter who I am, or how I feel.

[@amour644]

Yes..

[@AnimaljamAmyRose]

Analex Draws I'll support u even if u are hated u will know there will be people put there like u and I that support lgbtq!

[@rylandssandbox557]

Amy rose5545 Thank you so much

[@AnimaljamAmyRose]

+Analex Draws yea ur welcome u are loved by others and whatever u family says is a lie bi isn't bad it is cool and awesome

[@AnimaljamAmyRose]

+Analex Draws yea ur welcome u are loved by others and whatever u family says is a lie bi isn't bad it is cool and awesome

[@idunnohaah3674]

When I saw cry was in this. I felt bad that boyinaband had to collab with him

[@anitaremenarova6662]

??? What happened?

[@idunnohaah3674]

Anita Remenárová cry has dated young girls and mentally abused them , cheated on them with other minors and made them show their body’s to him watch creepy show arts video in him she goes more into detail

[@DiceSky]

It doesn't matter at this point. It's a song and a very good one to be exact. BoyInABand,Minx and cryaotic we're really good singing in this. What cryotic did shouldn't blackened what the representing of this song is. There isn't such thing as good or bad people nowadays.... just people... hate it or not the song was made by all three of them and even if you hate cry it shouldn't matter that he's in it or not. I don't know them regret making this song regardless of the people that are in it. Yes it probably hurt them to find out what another person did. But I doubt they regretted it because of what the song represents. Minx cryotic and boyinaband all believed in the lgbtq community. Though cryaotic has done some awful thing. I will not stop loving this song and no one else shouldn't either

[@lizifigueroa5687]

Listened to this song throughout High school, and I hung on. We’re married now and I’ve moved out- thank you so much.

[@drew2dee2]

I WISH I COULD PRESS LIKE MORE THAN ONCE

[@logandaugherty492]

Drewith DON'T IT WILL UNLIKE

[@itsjay1323]

WHAT IF I PRESS LIKE 3 TIMES THEN

[@xd_liz6391]

So annoying

[@freddiejones6253]

If you have an older version on mobile there's a glitch that'll let you-

[@itsallfunky4591]

Ah, homophobia, one of the most pointless things in human history.

[@VoodooGMusic]

+That1Weirdo next to war and religion.

[@moonamoo2]

+Vocoded Glasses (Auro Prime) true......

[@cameron2794]

+Vocoded Glasses (Auro Prime) Religion and war both hold/held important roles in society. Dont act like it is pointless because you dont like it

[@VoodooGMusic]

Cameron Urquhart The point of war: Destruction, Death, Hunger and the eventual instinction of the human race. There is no point to war whatsoever. War is the most pointless thing in human history. No war ever changed anything for the better. it just makes things worse. Don't pull the "but you have to defend" card because when there is no agression you don't need to defend. this is about war not about defense. Just so I convince you fully: www.warhistoryonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/The-Destroyed-Berlin-in-1945-40.jpg look at it and proove me wrong. The point of religion: peace. What people use it for: discrimination and war. Proof: "I believe that I am acting in accordance with the will of the Almighty Creator." ~ Adolf hitler

[@itsallfunky4591]

lari327 Not every "unnatural phenomena" is a disease. I have blue eyes when both my parents have brown ones (however my grampa had blue eyes as well) and the fact that I have blue eyes is an unnatural phenomena. But I'm not sick in any way. The fact that you labeled it as a "disease" makes you a homophobe because you are irrationally discriminating homosexuals in general.

[@EliKun]

minx i trust and love u

[@Thenado47]

Welp, at least there's always Minx

[@uraveragehypochondriac64]

No way ikr both cry and boyinaband turned out to be awful people.

[@ALIEN-DUDE]

Not anymore 😂

[@uraveragehypochondriac64]

@@ALIEN-DUDE why? what'd she do? there's 2 minx's remember

[@cultofdi0nysus]

is cry the other male singing voice other than dave? if he is, his voice is amazing! 😍😍

[@fayeallen-miles2420]

Yup

[@ahenchman8656]

cryotic

[@psychologyingames]

not to be mean ot anything, but its 99% autotune, I mean if you watch his karaoke vids you'll know what i mean xD

[@buttmuffin8152]

Abby Hardy yep... it's cry!

[@fayeallen-miles2420]

DeDammetje He's actually not singing he's just talking

[@fhernachingerzwerg]

Crys voice just gave me goosebumps.

[@fhernachingerzwerg]

***** Probably :D

[@lezdu95370]

Alena H To me, Cry has the best voice on YT, even when he reads a text.

[@wystfulacedia3864]

This was the first time I heard his voice, and it was the exact moment that I broke down.

[@degeneratephoenix8889]

2020 really fuckin hurts. Such a powerful and important song, and it's been fucking trashed by the mistakes of what we all thought was a genuine, caring, and safe person to like. I listen to this... And I still love Cry's part.. I can't not enjoy it... But it feels wrong to enjoy it knowing what he did.

[@jasonlu2150]

this is the past cry ain't it? so feel free to dip in

[@minehermit]

@@jasonlu2150 the problem is that he started doing things and being a creep before his youtube channel even got big, he has been like that since the beginning. cry abused at least 18 people and manipulated everyone who has ever liked his content. I followed him for 8 years and turned to his content in the darkest parts of my life. there will always be a huge wound in my heart for the things he did.

[@jasonlu2150]

@@minehermit at least he only had one verse in this song, main vocal being minx and dave

[@aunt_shoe]

"I can choose my friends and I can choose my family. If they won't accept me, then others will have me." That is such a strong, beautiful message that many people need to hear. It's taken me five years after this has come out to finally hear it, but I needed it. There will be those who won't hear it for another five years, but the message will be here, waiting for them when they do.

[@zeyshadows81]

"If they won't accept me, others will have me"

[@FluffyUnicornEX]

Zey Shadows i use this quote on a daily basis

[@connienoland8400]

it's a good thing to chant to yourself. "I can choose my friends and I can choose my family."

[@whitetrash5821]

X0The Artist0X Literally no one accepts me, so I just told them it was a fucked up dare. They still hate me though

[@alexisemmalynjaydenumlevia1859]

That's really horrible I'm sorry you had to lie about it :(

[@mihajlogaborovic2111]

Easier said than done, especially while in the shackles of not being independent.

[@elaheeley4014]

An underrated LGBT anthem

[@mirandasepic1909]

Ela Heeley it's not underrated, look at those veiws.

[@kyliemcgee2398]

Miranda Sepic have you compared it to other music recently?

[@mirandasepic1909]

Beyond Gaming All that other SHIT that doesn't deserve it's amount of views

[@Emma-fs7sz]

This and girls/girls/boys by p!atd

[@JesusRodriguez-rs8jq]

Blurryfaced crybaby at the black parade holy shit your name. The album crybaby means so much to me because of someone. I love TØP and i love MCR Also the panic! Thing, thank you. I love that song so much

[@M00NBL0SS0M]

this song is what inspired me to come out to my family. I don't know of I ever would have done it without Dave and minx. I looked up to the both of them when I was little, and I'm so proud of them both. I can't believe this song gave me the strength to come out. I don't think I could ever thank Dave enough.

[@Konrad_Kecskes]

Cool guy, hope he doesnt do anything disturbing ^-^