Bravery & Authenticity in a Digital World /w Brené Brown | Chase Jarvis LIVE | ChaseJarvis

Chase Jarvis welcomes author, scholar, and public speaker Brené Brown to the studio to discuss how failure, heartbreak, or loss can unlock creativity and your biggest successes in life.
Timestamps:
0:00 Chase Jarvis Live Intro
0:32 Introduction
0:59 Contest Winners
1:37 Welcoming Brené Brown
2:42 Brené's Trilogy: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, & Rising Strong
6:16 Daringly Greatly Quote by Theodore Roosevelt
9:28 The Tenacity of Creatives
13:03 Neurobiological Process of Making Up a Story
20:48 Chris' Example Response to a Difficult Situation
25:18 Step 1. Reckon With Emotion
26:25 The Process of Rising Strong
27:25 How do you know you're in emotion?
29:00 Step 1. Reckon With Emotion (cont.)
30:01 Step 2. Confront Your Own Ideas
35:45 Step 3. Rising Stronger Every Time
37:25 Ignoring the Voice in Your Head
40:06 Do you have advice for your 25-year-old self?
42:45 Chris' Advice: Find a Picture That Only You Can Take
44:34 Authentically Confronting Others & Combating Fear
52:51 Advice on Fear of Failing
55:35 How do you start saying kind things to yourself?
57:41 Brené's Funny "Bless Your Heart" Comment & Relation to Sympathy
1:01:01 Tips on Idea Expansion
1:03:15 Trust Through the Lens of Rising Strong
1:07:42 Living Big: Integrity, Boundaries, & Generosity
1:15:22 What happens when people we love can't adapt to our change?
1:18:29 Thank You to Brené
1:20:47 List of Receivers for Signed Book Copies
1:21:50 Outro
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[@johnsalas8717]

Brene Brown , I am a fan and Love your work. Still I Rise 90 days clean and sober February 15

[@dji2101]

Brene Brown is saving lives. God Bless her.

[@JamesScottGuitar]

I love this woman. Can you imagine how different going to school would be if everyone was taught this..? Good lord, middle school and high school would be completely transformed.

[@creativeraven2222]

JamesScottGuitar Look at Waldorf Schooling.

[@breakfestwithtif]

Ovk

[@SitaGaia]

"Recognize you've been snagged by emotion and get curious about it". YES!!!

[@chefjoemar6115]

I love this.

[@Beauty_bydeborah]

"You can never live the life that you wanna live and not disappoint other people. You're gonna piss some people off. You're gonna let down some people, if you are yourself."

[@dk1828]

SO powerful 🎯

[@444Kiki444]

Thank you, Chase...for being such an amazing host, for hearing her the first time she was with you and being the BRAVE creative man you are. You were so generous and kind and I appreciated you both. Thank you for talking about these valuable "tools" and traits and helping instill in all of us more courage and permission to be ourselves. I appreciate your heart, your vulnerability and your enthusiasm for this fellow Texan. Big gorgeous thanks to both of you. Kiki PS...I want a T-Shirt!!

[@erictaylor5191]

This woman is a saint I read her book while I was Incarcerated and it has totally changed my life

[@marias7599]

I’m glad you’re out now. I’m glad your mind is reacher in experience and endurance. You can guide other people from with your lessons.

[@lizlalove6171]

"You've got something that only you can bring. If you try to make everyone happy, you will not bring it. And not utilizing your gifts is dangerous." Man, it takes a lifetime to hear and understand these words. Thank you for them, Brené!

[@ourson66]

Brené Brown just blows my mind every time I hear her speak ... her insights into the human condition are constantly insightful, but the most important part is that she understands both the good and the bad, she's never preachy, and a lot of her own power (at least to me) comes with her making herself vulnerable by letting us see that she has a lot of the same inner conversations with herself that we all have.

[@WhiteElvenDragon]

46:48 Never share your struggle with someone until your healing doesn't depend upon their reaction.

[@angelabest4468]

I come back to this interview every once in awhile.

[@ChaseJarvis]

❤️🙏

[@debrajones4840]

I love Chase and Brene together! I watch this over and over

[@jeshvinvisualgraphic]

Watching this for the 10th time. This is phenomenal. The whole world needs to read her books. Make this go viral. Reading her books flipped me upside down. Everything I had doubts and questions about regarding shame, vulnerability and authenticity hit me in the face. Brilliant.

[@strangersound]

Her sense of humor is gold. Currently watching everything with her name in it on KZbin and definitely needing to read her books. Thanks for sharing the great interview. :)

[@The_yoga_girl_]

Chase bring back Brene !! We need her in this pandemic! 😷

[@wilwong23]

why am I only finding this interview now..I needed this everyday. well guess I can only be thankful that I found it. big thanks to Chase and Dr

[@ChaseJarvis]

+Nickie Chan glad you did!

[@jeshvinvisualgraphic]

It's incredible how I keep coming back to this to listen. Again and again and again. This is fucking phenomenal. Brene is a gift to this world.

[@lisavillasenor-volosing1277]

Wow wow wow. Found this through Growthday on Brendan’s list of videos to watch and I will definitely be reading Brene Brown and listening more. Please keep teaching this wisdom to young, old and us “troubled” with judgment of ourselves and others alike. God bless you Brene and this platform!

[@ellenturcio7181]

I just found this through GrowthDay too and it’s amazing right!

[@ChaseJarvis]

Amazing! Will have to check it out.

[@cmenendez13]

Brene thank you. Watching this reminds me that the things you are talking about are fundamentally simple but really difficult work on the daily and in that work is how you change and grow. It has to be hard and uncomfortable in order to change.

[@davidf5501]

who the hell thumbed down this? Life changing. thank you.

[@karlanavarro1014]

Someone NOT in the arena getting their ass kicked.

[@halehdaneshmand6494]

i have depression & love art, i love how she spoken of creatives, her words help, and the more i see my own light the more i see she speaks truth

[@julias7687]

I hear you!

[@brookeritzman1986]

This was one of my favorite interviews of her.

[@gotigerlily]

I wish I could either give this 100 LIKEs or a LOVE! She is transforming my life. Love you Brene!!

[@karynsmiththecantine1255]

YOU are transforming your life!! :))) but I totally know what you mean - so so so inspiring

[@Gypsygirl770]

[@Hollins23]

46:38 I had to pause there for a moment. "We never share these struggles with people until our healing is not dependent on their reaction."

[@tanyacasoojee8512]

I am so grateful for you Brene, just AMAZING!!!

[@ppaulinka]

This has not got old! If anything is much more valid. She was so authentic, one of the first videos I saw here in. Massive respect.

[@KatBurke]

“Why are we not being given these tools early in life” yeeessssss!! I’m with Ya! That’s why we all must be some kind of radical or voice for this change!!

[@drmedwuast]

I saw her TED talk and found it really moving. But THIS... just spilling out one sentence after another I wanna write all over my walls... she's lit!

[@ChaseJarvis]

Brené always bring the FIRE 🔥🔥🔥 Have you checked out this one? kzbin.info/www/bejne/oXLOZZatn9t9ZqM

[@drmedwuast]

***** I have! love it.

[@GinaMadrigranoPhD]

Awesome talk. Always something to learn with Brené Brown... I listen to all her talks... yet there is always something new to take away!

[@danielkcheung]

Two of my favourite people sharing. Love it. Thank you SOOOO much. FYI, I've striped the audio from the video to make it easier to consumer for the audience. I hope that this is ok (as I want to share the message to as many people as possible!).

[@katmasella3579]

LaUGHED,, CRIED AND NODDED YES - THANK U FOR THIS !

[@ChaseJarvis]

♥️♥️ That's Brene for you :)

[@fadzlonabakar6909]

Love this interview. Thank you for sharing Chase Jarvis. Brene is excellent and real. Hope she'll come to Asia soon.

[@ChaseJarvis]

+Fadzlon A Bakar yes!!! thanks tuning in!

[@StephenVosloo]

so profoundly good! The best interview with Brene I've come across. Awesome things happen when the two of them get together!

[@Jacksonandwilson]

Enjoyed the interview and chat and picking up Ms. Brown's book(s)!

[@jhutch9931]

She is a wealth of knowledge! Just good stuff...

[@Siendo]

The combination of the both of you together is fantastic! Thank youuuu Chase & Brené for sharing this with us - love this so much!

[@norinealam]

I wish I had discovered this channel earlier! Great lineup of speakers and interviews!

[@Corvussimo]

Thanks so much for conducting (and posting) this truly excellent interview, Chase! I hope everyone watches it more than once, and please take notes. It's such an encouragement to know others are in the arena of creativity and getting their asses kicked for it. Stay true!

[@808SHIRTS]

Like a breath of FRESH air!!...Aaaaahhhhh

[@ChaseJarvis]

+808SHIRTS Breath deep!

[@MiguelMoleiro]

So good to have people like you and Brene Brown sharing your thoughts, teories and experiences with us. We should have more of this on our education growing up.

[@ayeeecaramba]

im so happy cj live is back. i'm always listening to old cjlive interviews while i'm driving. o/ Thanks Chase

[@HenryPearlInc]

Chase! thanks for being on this journey out front and out loud. You and Brené Brown are game changers. Great show. Glad you're back. I actually woke up at 4am (with my meanest voices) and found this episode. Could not be more perfect.

[@ChaseJarvis]

+Romy S Love hearing we made your 4am more pleasant!

[@HenryPearlInc]

***** Your energy and output wakes me up and makes me think about how I can do more. And not just at 4am. #inspired.

[@kaymitchell6144]

So many things to think about. To give it a name..... Thanks Brene and Chase

[@acorell9664]

Wow, I love Brené Brown, and still, I was not prepared for how incredibly strong this talk is. I actually caught myself saying "Brené Brown is God", haha. Absolutely amazing! Thank you so so much Chase, and all your team. And Chase, the space that you create with the people you interview is so precious. I love how relaxed, personal and deep it is. I wish I'll be as good as you one day :)

[@marias7599]

You are God too, you’re your own guru.

[@karynsmiththecantine1255]

I feel like the most vulnerable thing for me in my life, personal and professional - is to REALLY try my hardest, and to give up all of life's little pleasures, thinking - if this doesn't work and I fail - I wasted all this time and showed people I cared and I am now on my face and lost....

[@jamesgreen2571]

A marriage made in HEAVEN!!! Excellent interview - it was listewning to myself...crazy good!!!

[@ProfessorMcGuigan]

Excellent and enjoyable interview - I am a fan of Brene but Chase is new to me - I will watch another of his offerings.

[@densolo]

Charse Jarvis LIVE is BACK :D!!

[@heather9165]

I just found your show today and am hooked! I, too, am born and raised in Seattle (also at Greenlake) and am always looking for ways to grow myself personally. I am a huge Brene Brown fan and am now a huge fan of your show, too. Thank you for adding value to the world. How does one get lucky enough to get to be in your audience??

[@llbailey9946]

Yes, sad no answer

[@drmedwuast]

- What to do when snagged by emotion 1. Reckon with emotion Get curious about what you're feeling 2. SFD Write down what you're making up, a shitty first draft. When you own the story you get to write the ending. Write unfiltered and honest. 3. We never share these struggles with people until our healing is not depended on their reaction. "This happened then and there, and the story I make up is that this and that. And it really hurt my feelings." If there's a real issue, set boundries. Your rise is never dependend on other people. He or she who has the greatest capacity for discomfort rises the fastest. - The most dangerous stories we tell ourselves are about our creativity, lovability, divinity Just because someone didn't understand or put value on something I created doesn't change its worth or my worth. No one is ordaned to take our story of our spirituality and say it's real or not real based on who we are or who we love or what we believe in. Just because someone doesn't have the ability or the capacity to love us doesn't change our lovability. - Dealing with the 4am voice don't engage "You know what, I hear you. I get it, I get how you're trying to protect me. But I'm good, thanks." "I really get how you're trying to protect me, appreciate it. I'm going in anyway, thanks." - Advice for 25 year old self "All the pleasing and proofing and perfecting that you're doing is getting in the way of what you're supposed to be doing. You can never live the life that you want to live and not dissapoint other poeple. You need to choose now. You're gonna piss some people off, you're gonna let down some people, if you're yourself. You have something that only uniquely you can bring to the world. And if you try to keep everybody around you happy while you're bringing it you will not bring it. And not utilizing your gifts is dangerous." - "Talk to yourself like you talk to someone you love" - trust = I'm choosing to make something to me vulnerable to your actions - b.r.a.v.i.n.g. Boundries Reliability Accountability the Vault Integrity (choosing courage over comfort; choosing what's right over what's fun, fast or easy; practicing your values, not just professing them) Non-Judgement Generosity - Think of someone in your life that you have a lot of judgement around. What if a higher being came down and said "That person is absolutely doing the very best he or she can do" "I'm not sure whether or not they are. But if I move through the world assuming they are, it makes my life better." What boundries need to be in place so can stay in your integrity and be generous towards this person?

[@Domestikos88]

Whoever you are. There isn't an ocean big enough to fill the sense of gratitude I have for you stringing all of this together. Right now in my life, reading this today really matters.

[@dk1828]

Thank you for taking the time to write this down!

[@ednadeguzman8554]

Thank you for your notes. So grateful for your sharing spirit.

[@EraVati]

love this interview. I am listening to it second times..

[@Jess-wu9dx]

Thank you! This interview brought me out of the darkness of some nasty stories.

[@bespokecaribbean]

Thanks for another brilliant show and for bringing Chase Jarvis Live back!! Get so much from these interviews - Brene Brown is one of my favourites. Both of you rock. :)

[@WhiteElvenDragon]

23:30 how to handle falls. "Recognize your emotion, and star exploring it" yes!! Thats how to handle times you get hurt.

[@steveleeart]

I’ve fallen so far in the last few years 🥺 but working to pick myself up… among all then counselling I’ve had, the work by Brené Brown and Natalie Goldberg, as well as Gary Zukav, Shannon Kaiser and Randy Paterson… these five have been so influential on my life as I try to be a better person.

[@stukenborgpodcast]

The insight provided here is phenomenal!!!! Thank you Brene’ & Chase!!!!!!

[@mando27ny]

Chase, you rock and you roll my friend. I love what you've set up to be.

[@kevinwiddop7604]

Awesome show! Listened to Brené's TED Talk in 2015 and it really hit the spot! I love how she uses visual storytelling to enhance her presentations

[@myshekaross8567]

Thanx for sharing and having this interview. Enjoyed it, Great info.!

[@AnitaGoaWellBeing]

YES! so happy to see you are back, and this one with Brene is another gem. you both rock. thanks so much for sharing. keep rocking!! xo, a :-)

[@GinaMadrigranoPhD]

+Anita Goa Loved it as well! Great minds think alike! hope u r well :-)

[@AnitaGoaWellBeing]

hi Gina Madrigrano !! so fantastic. i agree :-) xoxo

[@brownmasao]

Tomorrow I'm gonna take notes while watching this incredible talk and her books are gonna be the first books, I'm gonna read after learning speed reading.

[@ayeshawali4313]

Wow, you both are incredible beings with great minds.

[@mihirdwivedi8853]

thanks for the amazing interview,

[@tinacolby7416]

Thank you Wikileaks.

[@ChroniclesofAJ]

another great interview by brene brown and i haven't read her books and i need too

[@ChaseJarvis]

+Adad Joseph it's a must!

[@ChroniclesofAJ]

+Chase Jarvis ima keep that in mind

[@stephaniekpatterson8450]

In view of Braving the Wilderness, this is spot on. Connects to All her work!

[@TXFireChick1]

Ugh! Guilty! The exercise at the end at 1:09:00 made me cry!! That was rough! I am so thankful for all the great information, research, and tools!! So much needed!!1

[@808SHIRTS]

"Its not the critic who counts" 8:03 "Crisis of confidence" 15:19

[@ivyp8762]

SO grateful for this. This is going to change my life immediately. A thousand thank yous.

[@joanjettboy]

she is amazing!!!

[@tuileries6]

love this! Brené is awesome and Chase you're a really great host! can feel you truly believe in what you're trying to bring to the world

[@alexandrerodriguesalves1046]

This is pure GOLD! Oh my word

[@geetkhosla]

So happy to see CJ Live back again. :)

[@BekkieFit]

Two incredible influencers

[@Aloha_Vibes808]

I really need to read her books...I love all her talks and you two are great together...Another Great interview ...

[@ppaulinka]

so many amazing quotes! thank you!!

[@ayladozier]

#growaVulva and rise strong!!! #womyn

[@PRNCodingEdu]

Love Brene’ Brown!!

[@celiaanderson3230]

Yes, why are we not teaching kids how to reckon with emotions from day one!!! The world would be an entirely different, healthier, safer, more peaceful place.

[@koedeman5032]

Grateful this conversation happend, feels i could learn alot from this.

[@colinwarn4606]

Really needed to see this video. Thank you for having her on Chase! Also, loved the football jab at Gary the other day, way to rep #206.

[@PhillipCastaneda]

Thanks for publishing this. Love it

[@themomentbefore]

Confess I hadn't heard of Brené before (probably as I am UK based) but this was amazing and I have just watched her Ted talk - holy shit it's great. Thanks Chase (and Brené) - keep up the great work.

[@iwnunn7999]

+Andy Shearer She is an amazing lady. So glad you discovered her.

[@evetaitcreations]

thank you both!

[@kellytillman6489]

I want one of those t-shirts!

[@micheleinacharles-hazellem1968]

This woman is incredible

[@ChaseJarvis]

+Michie Mills true that. ;)

[@micheleinacharles-hazellem1968]

omg you answered! i listen to your pod cast every morning when I run. thanks fir responding

[@Devibaba]

40:00 - Brilliant.

[@danaweeks3015]

Love your talks Brene Brown! Just noticing that you don't use the word "angry" but replace it with "pissed off." I've noticed that it's uncomfortable for people to be ok with using the word "angry" and admitting or owning that feeling--and that it's ok to experience. Especially with women who may feel shamed because it's "not nice" or acceptable (hello southern culture!) though men often replace "angry" with the more general and ambiguous "frustrated." just thought this was an interesting observation in semantics!

[@sam12587]

Anger is usually an expression of more basic emotions that a person either doesn't feel safe expressing or is not realizing(focused on the problem). For example, I stumbled on a lot of my anger being linked (from my perception) to decisions that will cause more future suffering or redundant unneeded future work. Sometimes anger can come from desire to have power over that which we have no jurisdiction but that does require internal reflection to identify.

[@danwee9538]

FINALLY THIS SHOW IS BACK... AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH

[@srobins05]

always inspired. Miss the brick studio! lol Loved the raw of the atmosphere!

[@sheralot]

The content in this interview could be expanded into an on-line Leadership course! Thank you so much!~

[@TaniaGail]

Adore this interview!

[@VIKIMM]

...💜 luv n light blessings ✝️💜 ...

[@reSSential]

The hard truth is better than a sweet lie.

[@MariaHalas]

This is awesome! Thank You!

[@yehiarules]

YESS ITS BACK!!!!!!

[@LeezPgh]

I think something is missing in this conversation.. and similar conversations.. it's about the why. I think Brene's information and research and insights are truly invaluable/incredible. And, I would like to hear about her thoughts on motivation in general. I think many people don't have a loving husband/children/family which I'm guessing may be part of her motivation. But, when she speaks of healing before addressing people we're having conflict with, or speaks of not people pleasing, or just accepting that failure will happen, I think she may be missing the fact that many people are motivated to find love and acceptance from others because they don't have it in their lives. So it's not about upset that other people criticize my work or even me, but perhaps a lack of love and connection with people in general. I always find it interesting when professionals with a background in psychology are giving advice on solving the problems in life, and in the advice, gently breeze by the fact that, by the way, you need one person who can be their to empathize with you and always love you and see the good in you, when in reality, not having that may actually be the biggest struggle, or having that would if not help solve most of the problems, it would at least put them in perspective and minimize the impact of them on you and the meaning of your life.

[@huijia5619]

I really agree with this.

[@drmedwuast]

I feel like I'm in a similar place to what you describe. Yet I don't feel there's anything missing in this conversation. As I take it, only when you start to act the way they describe in this talk people can come and stay in your life. To empathize with you and love you. All the best

[@ccburro1]

I find much wisdom (I love this woman) in Brene. I'm also at a similar place to what you describe--but, as my therapist pointed out--without vulnerability--it is hard (impossible?) to experience the deep emotional connections that I (and most humans) need--a core need. Chicken and egg. :)

[@agnieszkawalczuk5835]

Yes, you named something that was nagging at me for some time. I think there is so much pressure to create and produce something and rumble with failure that I started to have a narrative of 'not enough' when I don't pursue self-mastery in every moment of my life and 'don't put myself out there'. I seriously feel like I need to create a space in my life to just sit on the sofa and watch Netflix and not have to save the world. I love what I do and do try to do brave work, but really if everything disappeared tomorrow, all I care about is to have someone I love by my side. I don't know what I would do without them and yet there pressure to be out there is really too huge.

[@marias7599]

I understand your point and, therefor I comprehend what you mean. I might be in a similar situation to what you describe. I’ve lived by myself for the longest that I can remember (since I came out as gay) and for the most part I didn’t have that support your talking about but, at some point you have to remember that even when we’re in company (family, spouse, friends, etc) we’re alone. We all are living a journey of human development. So when you’re by yourself, you’re your own support. You have to train yourself to be your own coach, your own guru and your own counselor. Eventually you’ll attract people who feel comforted in your company.

[@ThereseMabon]

So much inspiration from this talk. Really loved it! And has a huge list of quotes and insights added to my list from Brene :-)

[@ThereseMabon]

Thanks Chase Jarvis!

[@Adcougar]

ACK! I was at my work computer and my comment came across as Anonymous. "This is fantastic information, thank you so much. Reading "Rising Strong" now! I work with Deaf and Hard-of-hearing persons and would love to share this with them. Is there captioning available for this video?" I am a sign language interpreter and this work so hits home with us and what we do. Dr. Brown even signed "VULNERABILITY" during the talk. :D Thank you so very much!

[@silverbroom02]

So good. 💗