Breakups: When do you give them a second chance?

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[@LRF49]

If someone leaves you without talking to you about problems in the relationship and don't give you a chance to work on it. Don't take them back. Your ex quit on you. That person will quit on you again.

[@RimiruTemPest433]

🖤

[@tamaradauz7971]

Word.

[@theuglybeing4673]

No it's not your ex it's you for ruining it to began with

[@LRF49]

@@theuglybeing4673 So, a lack of communication on the ex's part is my fault? With that mentality it's no wonder why divorce is so high.

[@fotogal54]

Good advice

[@Veagence100]

I don't understand why schools dont teach this valuable information that helps us prosper. Thank your for sharing you expertise on this issue for us, I hope you achieve the best things in life!

[@bystandersarah]

For me, regaining romantic innocence with someone is not possible if they’ve betrayed me. I will never feel safe around them again.

[@emilye.8779]

This is exactly my situation. We have both changed. I am in a much better place. He says he wants to show me he's changed. Im not throwing myself at him, just taking it day by day, very slowly. Thank you for this, it gives me another side and a clearer picture.

[@Rangelong]

Update?

[@HasanAtoui]

Update ?

[@tetehl4731]

I wish I've watched this few months ago. It would have save me so much heartache . He hasn't/didn't changed and I had a gut feeling it wouldn't work the second time around but I still gave him a second chance. I'm moving on now. I love your videos. Thanks for sharing your knowledge. 😊

[@hannahstanden9670]

This is brilliant thank you. A lot of relationship advice out there teaches a black and white, ridgid formula, but life is more complicated. You hit the nail on head here, I needed to hear this X

[@LSF7]

Beautifully explained. The human instinct, the turn which you mentioned I felt that recently when my ex came back to me. I just couldn't feel the love, even though I was waiting for her to come back. It made me wonder if something was wrong with me, because my response wasn't fitting the bill.

[@richardgonzalez6583]

Let me sum this up before anybody goes back to an ex if you have done work on yourself gone to therapy red discovered yourself whatever self development and your ex has not do not go back trust me I made that mistake and I literally wasted 3 months of my life and there was a struggle the whole 3 months if the other person has stayed the same they will look at you as the problem even though you have more Tools in your belt they will never see that especially if they left the relationship just keep this in mind if someone left you there's a reason why they left you they looked at you as the problem so if you go back to this person and they have not done work they will always look at you as the piece that don't fit even though it really is them

[@diggarcia5190]

If you have taken the time to care for yourself, it is not 3 mo wasted!

[@gerryvandepol7630]

Right on Richard...!

[@daltonross5654]

Totally agree

[@boongkeequiteles8978]

Thank you for this comment. I am also struggled for three months,after i fixed myself with God's grace still my ex when i try to reconcile coz i given my ex the space she needs and i set aside my pride and took all the harsh words. We begun talking again but yet the exchanging convo makes me feel she is really cold but yet i ignores it. When it came to a point i need to clarify our situation ,she said If i was the someone who loves her and yet i am also the one who gives her stress it is much better not to commit herself. It was painful for me coz i didn't have someone else ,i never cheated. What she is talking is about ,she always wanted to have a freedom of to do everything like anytime like a single woman with no limitation as a commited person. Even i supported her in everything like career path. I was ready to show that i can change what she dislikes on me but it was hard for me to make her understand. I think she always embracing the past and not aware that we can start all over again. I didn't cheat or anything but yet it was hard for her to forgive.

[@boongkeequiteles8978]

If someone who could tell any help i will be thankful.

[@MA7-6585]

I like that concept that I need to see a "deeper and better version of the other"..... both ways actually.

[@diggarcia5190]

This is what I needed to hear.

[@lexislibrary923]

Thank you I broke up with my boyfriend and it's very fresh but I'm still going through my emotions. But I just need to take time for myself and if he wants me back and if I want him back, he has to show me hes changed.

[@michaeltrawick1251]

So I seen it has been 2 years since than have y'all got back together? And when y'all broke up did you go see someone else while waiting for him the change? Reason I'm asking is cause this past week my gf my love of my life of 3 and half years just left me for someone else cause of stuff I done and didn't do I didnt show enough love and affection, I stopped doing alot of stuff that I used to do and to get to the point is she said she is willing to give me another try but she wants to see if she and thus guy has a connection first and she said if it doesn't work out she would give me another chance. She also said that she doesn't believe I'll change so do you think that if she does see that I am changed she'll come back to me? She said she loves me still and wants to be friends and still hangout and it would just be us two but do you think she would once she sees that I am and even if she with the new dude?

[@lexislibrary923]

@@michaeltrawick1251 Since the 2 yrs we've broken up and gotten back together. Currently we're not together. I've only been with him for the past 4 yrs and I haven't seen anyone else and I don't plan too. My advice would be to have a honest conversation with her just to get clerification that if you show her that your serious this time and do all the things you say you will do, will she choose you because you don't want to waste you time and do all the things you plan on doing and she gets back with the other dude.

[@lexislibrary923]

@@michaeltrawick1251 The thing i can tell you about women is that were not going to keep going back and forth with break up and make ups, were not going to keep repeating ourselves. Eventually we will find out that there is someone out there who will do things that we ask for and want out of a relationship and not take you back. So if you truly want her back then show up and show out as much as possible. On the other hand take some time to reflect and figure out what you want as well in a relationship. Is a relationship something you can deal with right now? Do you want a relationship for the right reasons? Or do you need to take some time and get things in order for yourself first before you jump back into anything? Because relationships take two people and if both ppl are not there then, there's nothing you can really do about it but just live your life.

[@davidfelso1932]

I don't understand how you can exactly pinpoint what i'm thinking and feeling, but this reassurance and advice is coming to me at such a good time. I think I'll give them a second chance, just because It's my first serious relationship, but it will never be the same as before. Also I like to experiment with certain radical situations, such as being in a toxic relationship, just so I can learn what to avoid. It might have a bad ending but i'm really hoping that they will somehow change their behavior, because in retrospect they were just using me for their own happiness and not for ours. I might regret this...

[@lissie3669]

update me?

[@davidfelso1932]

@@lissie3669 Well, since then she broke up with me through text and haven't talked since. But after the "second chance" thing it felt like our relationship was better than before, maybe that's just my own subjective observation but it felt like it. The point is, even though it was super toxic at the end, I think it was worth trying it out and seeing how we would change. Unfortunately she didn't change, neither did I, during the relationship, only after.

[@CanadianAndre]

This is my favorite video. You give powerful, concise guidance that speaks experience. Your perspective on what to stay aware of, in them and in one’s self is very refreshing and sound advice. Thank you for these videos Susan. I saw, I subscribed, and I’m thumbs upping too. 😊

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you Andre!! And I appreciate the thumbs-up!

[@hushpuppies872]

Susan, i really wish i could talk to you. You are so amazing and absolutely right every time. Its like i have a friend i can count on. In my opinion when you offered your naive innocent humble self they played with your feelings and now you cannot associate with them with the same verve. If you trust again they will hit you hard again. This has happened to me. And you need to start your recovery all over again from scratch and this time feeling even more stupid. Please people save yourself. Its hard as hell to let go. It's even harder second time. If you give time atleast you will heal.

[@SusanWinter]

Please book a session. I'd love to chat with you as well. Link is in the description

[@jimstevens1726]

Susan .I have watched every video of yours that I have found over a few months. This one is truly a message that will help many. It is 100 % perfect advice.

[@francesca1687]

Honestly this is the best advice I think I’ve found after listening to a lot. I worried that the hesitancy would be it and thus all was ruined, but seeing that hesitancy as more of a positive, a safety mechanism that I should have had the first time around, is an interesting way of thinking about it

[@anthonymacon01]

thiers so much i learned about myself in my breakup when she left me . Thiers alot ive learned and try to keep them to stsy consistant in the change . The only thing i hope is my ex would take me back so i can prove to her ive changed with my actions and not words. A silent reminder for me from keeping me not to slide is REMEMBER HOW IT FELT WITHOUT HER SO DONT SLIP AGAIN . we fought alot but both remained faithful for 1 year . If u ever got a second chance it would be the happyist day of my life

[@cosmopolitanbay9508]

Just gave it a second look. This is very wise and insightful! As tempting as it may be to rectify the past "Enter at your own risk!" LOL Still, you may quickly realise you're no longer that much into that person. Am having doubts about them changing though. They may or may not have changed as much. But, if there is a different, a new YOU, people will respond differently.

[@brookesanders1621]

Thank you once again Susan. You have a brilliant way of putting thoughts into words intelligently. You make so much sense. I'm glad I came across you. You are awesome 😊⚘🌼🌺🌸🌹

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you Brooke.

[@silvanaarellano2839]

Wow, this was a ton a actual advice. Not the same cookie cutter common sense stuff I’ve been reading and hearing from everyone else. Subscribed!

[@anveshashandilya9873]

Thank you for this. It gave me a little hope that the power lies within me. You're an angel

[@ivkamamojkova9463]

This is very interesting perspective Susan, I totally love it! Funny how I have always thought that if someone doesn't come back soon, there is no point in giving it a shot. This is a standpoint presented in many relationship books and the bottom line is simple - within first few months there is still attachment between you and it's the only time they can realize that they miss you and perhaps regret it. As time passes everyone cools down and moves on. What do you think on that? This mindset also caused me multiple heartbreak for one person. I desperately waited for a moment when the pain will be at its peak (month or two after breakup) and expected a text or call every minute 🤗 Silly I know. Almost always it ended up horribly. Even if they showed up soon as I wanted them to, they only came back for a moment + only to make it even worse. While I was interacting with them, I was aware that my love is covered by my resentment. I was tense. Expecting them to hurt me again. And they did not live up to my expectations, so my resentment was growing. This was not the time to start over, my mind was not fresh, I was heavy and still broken. So you might be totally right! It's just that first few months there is nothing we want more than our ex running back to us. We are not thinking straight 😇 thank you so much for this advice.❤

[@SusanWinter]

ivka mamojkova hi Ivka. I’m really sorry for your experience with this partner. They sound whimsical. That can really hurt. Given their track record, they wouldn’t deserve a second chance. // About the time factor. I like the 3 month mark. (Anything from 2-4). It gives enough time for both partners to change, yet doesn’t erase the remembrance of connection.

[@ivkamamojkova9463]

Well I personally am not over after a few months. When I fall deeply it takes me like a year or more to get a solid ground under my feet again. Do you think it's too long for a connection to last?

[@SusanWinter]

A year's a long time to recover. I suggest doing a mental 'rewiring' around breakups. Take a look at my audio booklet: Breakup Triage: The Cure for Heartache. www.amazon.com/Breakup-Triage-Cure-Heartache/dp/B01KOTN5AI

[@ivkamamojkova9463]

Susan Winter thank you 4 your tip susan. I've done all of that but every break up is different. My healing depends on many factors. Sometimes I'm recovered by a couple of months and sometimes I can't be fully ok even after a year. It comes and goes like on a rollercoaster. However, I don't like to judge myself in scenarios when I'm not healed even after year, it's just all natural process that can't be forced too much. I believe nothing ever goes away until it teaches you what you need to know.

[@SusanWinter]

Discovering the benefit is the alchemy required. That's the ultimate key to freedom. Please write me privately via my website. Send me your email. I have something I'd like to give you.

[@whatrtheodds]

It's been three weeks for me since we were last together and his reaching out here and there even though I specifically said I don't want a friendship after he broke my 🥀♥️ heart. I feel the pain so badly although it's eased a little in the last couple of days, I feel far too much😥 to approach clearly, my friend says I should take his offer to reconnect, but im such a wreck right now my communication would come off too clingy and desperate. I want to be valued and that means being in my power. I think your totally right about waiting, we both need to do some work. It's hard I really really want love and a family, but I need to accept the process. Who knows in three months only time will tell. I guess I gotta accept that as a reasonable time frame, and give myself love in the meantime❤️

[@lukethompson7292]

You have become a very good voice of wisdom.Thank You Susan

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks Luke. Comments like that are heartwarming. Thanks for sharing this with me.

[@punkinpatch1856]

I’m facing this exact dilemma. Thank you for the advise. I feel more comfortable now about the possibility of giving him a second chance.

[@Serita2006]

Fantastic advice as always! Thank you.

[@jeanmarie7791]

Thank you, Susan! I needed to hear your voice and wisdom today!

[@starrynight6015]

These cheaters do not deserve another chance. If you want it is up to you. I think you should love & respect yourself more as the healthiest choice is to move on and let them go.

[@stormfalcon72]

Ooooh! She always says it like it is. Hard to hear sometimes.

[@magdanovacmissouritigers6405]

Susan, u r so right , everything u say in each videos. I enjoy listening to u, for year now. Simply thank u. :)

[@kwonjiyong73]

Oh Susan.. I watched this video last year because my ex beg for the second chance. I regret it. I end up broken heart again for the same reason like last year. Now, I comeback watching all of your video to tell myself that it is okay to let him go

[@Lana0624]

Thank you for this! Great advice as always!

[@SusanWinter]

You're welcome, Lana.

[@donnamate9238]

This is excellent advice. Very, very true.

[@magdanovacmissouritigers6405]

so nicely explained, love your videos. thank you

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you.

[@inkheart8926]

Thanks Susan, I feel like this helped with my situation rn

[@alaiaadam5767]

You are lovely Susan ♥️

[@imranshaikh-vy9ke]

Thanks so much mam All my confusion gets away from me Now I am very stable And I have accepted her again in my life

[@lohanvanderwesthuizen1799]

This is the best advice I've ever gotten♥️Thank u Susan

[@debbiekjohnson1471]

Need need needed this one. Ty so much😘🍒

[@ritashaba]

I love this so much. Thank you so much for this 💕

[@sharontay7482]

Susan, I love your videos, it has help me to grow in many ways. Thank you & much love!❤️

[@ernestomunoz5623]

Thank you, but I think I made my choice

[@Patricia-2791]

One of a kind video, thank you 🙏!

[@xinel4576]

Wow what a really really good video you helped a lot thank you.

[@ballificgiant4470]

Your videos help me so much, thank you!

[@cheriekrausz3731]

How wonderful you are. Thank you for the great advice.

[@seeya7610]

Awesome advise and perspective as always ❤️

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you!!

[@lovelystarchild]

I dont give second chances at all. Ever. If someone hurts me, or does/says something I feel is disrespectful then I delete them from my life entirely. I block & delete their number, everything & I make it a point to not allow them to know where I am or how to reach me. So I really don't care whether they have changed or not. My love is NOT unconditional & people are disposable. No one is that special that they can't be replaced.

[@Rangelong]

Damn, who hurt you?!? You can’t live life like that. People say disrespectful stuff in heated moments especially couples but if they apologize and truly mean it. Was it right? No, but to act as if everything you say is positive and not hurtful is ridiculous. You may have yourself too high on your own pedestal. However, if someone is physically or emotionally cheating that’s a deal breaker and I can respect your stance on that. Communication is something couples have to work on daily until they get it right. Don’t go leaving every person because they said a bad word to you. You are grown and grown doesn’t mean I’m leaving cause I’m grown. Grown means “at times” sharing your concerns and trying to work through it.

[@lovelystarchild]

@@Rangelong If it's anyone who's "hurt" it's YOU because you took the time to write a book because you don't like the standards I have. Don't project your bs on to me. IDGAF if you don't agree with what I said. You don't get to tell me how to live or what I should tolerate. Being "heated" is not an excuse to disrespect anyone & I don't have to put up with it at all. I have standards & I'm allowed to. IDGAF what you think of me or how I live my life. If I want to boot someone to the curb because they disrespected me then I CAN & WILL. It is NOT your place to tell me what to do, what to put up with or how to live. I personally think you are BITTER & took what I said personally because you are the abusive disrespectful type & you expect someone to tolerate it & you are butthurt that I refuse to stand for it & be someone's punching bag. As I said, think what you want IDGAF but disrespect is not ok under any circumstances..... Be gone.

[@spedhead218]

That’s an irrationally hostile way of thinking. Human behavior is highly unpredictable. Depending on the circumstances of a situation I think a second chance is fair but third/fourth chances is not wise. To each their own.

[@lovelystarchild]

@@spedhead218 It's hostile & irrational according to who?? Who are you to dictate that? You don't get to tell me that how I think is wrong, nor do you get to dictate how I choose to deal with individuals. I could say the same about your way of thinking, I could criticize your line of thinking & say that it's "wrong" but I would have no business doing that would I? You don't have to agree with my thoughts process, but you are in no position to judge it. People can be any way they choose to be, however that doesn't mean that I have to put up with it. I really don't care how "unpredictable" people are, I don't have to put up with it. I am under no obligation to tolerate any bs, nonsense, drama, disrespect, issues, or antics off of anyone. I choose to have a ZERO TOLERANCE policy because I want peace in my life. That is not "wrong" or "irrational" in anyway. People are well aware of the wrong that they do when they are doing it so with that said second chances are really not deserved. You don't get to throw labels on my thought process just cause you don't agree with it. As you said to each his own. 👋🏻

[@spedhead218]

@@lovelystarchild “My love is not unconditional and people are disposable. No one is special enough to not be replaced” Which part of this is not hostile?? Curious what kind of anecdotal evidence you have on this

[@The1981616]

Do you think I should put in boundaries

[@6rvegat]

I was in a relationship for 6 years, she left me 5 times during that period, i did my best to put myself toghether each time. After 2 to3 month each time we get back. Last breake up she ashure me she dont want to lose me ,that her hormones changes of becoming menopausic maybe cause it.I know we love each other. I know i became distant from her from time to time maybe.I know myself and know what did wrong. We make a comitment to move together in 1 1\2 year .but broke with me 6 month after the commitment.Last break up She says she dont see a future in us. She wishes me best and what i worth, still she left me.Then i saw she was

[@whisperingwind7730]

Such GREAT advice and perspective as ALWAYS Susan!! Thank u so much for sharing~ 🙏🏻 I found this extremely clear and helpful!!! All the Best to U~ 💐

[@ParisianStreets]

You are too good.

[@cherbug1197]

Soooooo good! Excellent advice!!

[@user-yv1fh3fc8y]

Susan, you are wise.

[@peternorthrup6274]

I want every man watching this to remember 1 thing. There is no 2nd chance with a woman that cheats on you. To many great girls out there. Ones that want a guy that works hard. And will love her forever. Build a life together. No kids. I found one. It was worth the wait.

[@trinityquick3872]

😂😂😂 yet women ALWAYS take the men back when they do their shit🙄 this mentality is why I don't give 2nd chances, you are a sad excuse of a man.

[@jahleelx9270]

@@trinityquick3872 well that's on them. Anybody that takes somebody back that cheats is an imbecile.

[@MrNikhilgherwar]

I ended up with narcissistic... Hence trying.... To be calm.

[@kamilk.6835]

Thank you Susan, I like the way you have word it.

[@valnicols4016]

If someone has brought a lot of pain just because I wouldn't trust my instinct again...ever! I would always be wandering...what is the catch this time...if that's bitterness ok it will fade away too

[@maryemmanuel4725]

I have downloaded this for future reference 😍

[@Katherine-mo8fl]

Very true. Couldn't be said better.

[@jen4yahwehsal176]

Thank you so much Right after we start a dating, His mother got very sick and then he got very sick. It was very stressful, but he didn't treat me properly. I'm giving him a second chance. He's healthy now and wants to try again. And so on, but I'm doing it the way you said. I do wanna be with him but it's gonna be baby steps I'm taking a step back. My anxiety attachment is completely gone. I'm letting him come to me. There will be no sex until I feel safe And he won't know that right off.

[@MrPessoa79]

Wise words, as always.

[@omarmalik9283]

Thank u ma'am u helped a lot 😊 U have answered all the questions i was searching for

[@mikepaul2372]

NEVER give them a second chance. Think about this. If your best friend said to you, "I know this woman who I think would be great for you - she is a liar, cheater, user, abuser, disrespectful, no job, selfie lover, on meds but she is probably a 8 out of 10. Would you ever even think of taking one second to meet this person? Of course not. Then why the hek would you ever take an EX back. NEVER EVER take them back

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you for sharing your comment with us, Mike!

[@Spungebobonicerocks]

If person was all that really then yes. But other then that its wrong. I once didn't want to give girl a second chance. It seemed right at the moment. I had my pride. But 7 years later I still regret it. I was too quick to judge and too stuborn. I should have said yes to her. It is really not so simple as you say. People are not robots.

[@SaraN-]

Huge thank you

[@dannyarnold4201]

Oh my God....this is what happened to me! I DID fall that madly, deeply in Love with her! And I DID make overtures! I proposed and she said yes! Her Mother and Father both happily said yes to giving their Endorsement and Blessing!........and she was cheating on me with her secret boyfriend behind my back the whole time. I Loved her with my entire Heart and Soul! And now I'm so Heartbroken and Shattered! I can't get over it. I can't get over her. Don't misunderstand what I mean by that. I'm not opposed to getting over her! I WANT to! I want the pain to finally cease. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

[@CorporateQueen]

You deserve so much better.

[@dannyarnold4201]

Thank you, @@CorporateQueen. I really appreciate that a lot! I wish so badly it hadn't gone this way. I wish instead she had stayed faithful and loyal. I wanted her to be my Forever. Now I just want the pain and the heavy sadness to stop....I would settle for that.

[@CorporateQueen]

@@dannyarnold4201 I totally understand. I'm a month split from someone I love. Work on yourself, go get fit, eat well... You are at least 50% of those amazing times you shared. You will start to feel better, I promise you. I'd love to find a man who thought so much of me. That makes you special with so much to give the right person, not the wrong person. Stay true to you. She's not the one you were to have your dream with. There's so much more amazing. Listen to Susan. I also recommend Dating Guy. And Coach Craig Kenneth. Christmas hugs.

[@daquasiawilliams4219]

You Are Amazing Love your work❤️✨

[@Atiqah.Algadeeb]

Thank you so much

[@lrxblackjackx5266]

I don’t love my ex anymore. I can’t even remember what she looks like it’s been so long sense I’ve seen her. She quit on me. She will quit on me again. Even if she wanted a second chance after leaving me for the dumbest shit. Even though I loved her more than anyone in my life. Walking out like she did. She doesn’t deserve a second chance.

[@letizianada2075]

You're amazing, thank you for giving this advice.

[@cheriellesnowden6962]

Thank you xx

[@norswil8763]

A new person, or, that person they fell in love with to begin with?

[@IamMinnie90]

This is incredible. You are incredible. It all makes the world of sense. Thank you! 🤍

[@rettajshaheen]

Let’s see what happens

[@christacollins7282]

I love you Susan! Thank you

[@bellefleur5037]

she's a beauty

[@princesetne6330]

bless u susan, bless u

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[@costaboyy]

Love you Susan ❤️

[@andreasnaturalways9407]

Your videos have helped me tremendously and you are definitely one of the best love coaches I have come across so thank you kindly for all your insight and wisdom. Where do you get all these great tips from if I may ask? If there is a book you would recommend I would be truly grateful and I would definitely read it. I love your videos and watch them on a regular basis sometimes even multiple times since there is so much knowledge. Thanks again Susan and good luck on your journey!

[@SusanWinter]

What a lovely message Andreas. Thank you. As for books, anything in the metaphysical category is helpful. The ability to use our mind correctly puts us at a real advantage in creating the life we want. I have a feeling you know quite a lot already. As always, your best guide is your inner wisdom.

[@andreasnaturalways9407]

thank you for your kind words. I will check some books in that area. It's such a fascinating topic for me to explore and apply in my personal life or share it with my close friends when they need it etc.. :) thanks again!

[@harshrathisings]

This is amazing.

[@angieeg5612]

I just adore you and your advice... where did you get your wisdom? What I'm hearing is that both people need to have done the very hard work of going within to take a very long hard look at themselves, do some serious work on what their part was, their issues from the past that affected the relationship, maybe some childhood issues... and then hope their partner has also done the same so they can come back together as healed persons who are more ready for a mature relationship as more healthily functioning, less damaged adults. At least that's what some of us truly need to do. I so wish more people that I've gone out with would watch your videos. lol

[@DeeeeeKay392]

You’re awesome! Thanks

[@seragesoliman]

Amazing insight

[@gerryvandepol7630]

Does the tigress change her stripes?

[@Rangelong]

No. Luckily people aren’t asking someone to change their skin color to be with them. Changing isn’t on the litter when it comes to relationships it’s the inner.

[@godsgurl8177]

Susan, that was Great! You got wisdom, girı. Thx!

[@rododendroinfernalis]

Never

[@Carl.Johnson919]

So I tested her she failed through text now she begging to give her a second chance

[@Ms.CyranoDebergerac]

I love you and I don't know you. Thank you thank you... listening to you was a blessing. I was giving people too much credit. Cops have this thing of always taking the blame and we are the bad guys. Everyone loves us and everyone hates us. We are the bad guys with the big out of control egos ..oh so wrong. Again thank you. I am a subscriber now.. woot woot.

[@kinspettayella8750]

Thank you I appreciate you 🥰

[@brianarc2]

Thanks!

[@SusanWinter]

THANK YOU!!

[@diamondrose34]

Deep!

[@thuhahoney1910]

Whats i need to know now!

[@The1981616]

Do you think I should give him a second chance and call him and ask him the expiation which is 1:01 I’m not supposed to

[@marxarivera5307]

Thank youu ❤️🙏

[@reetkaur3247]

Beautiful

[@SusanWinter]

Reet Kaur Thanks.

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for your awesome commentary!

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for your awesome commentary!

[@Cinnamum89]

My partner of 8 years has come back to me and told me they are more in love with me more than ever before.problem is I have always loved him and that will never change for me.but I am guttred that he didn't feel that way with me in the relationship where I gave him my all and everything.i feel like i still can't trust him and that I'm scared to give him another chance.i love him and always will.i told him it's all words until I see actions.

[@fatovar6313]

mama#6 cinta I’m living the same situation as you

[@ALLOUT_SOL]

mama#6 cinta if u decide to take him back, keep the relationship on ur terms. U now have the upper hand.

[@vanessad1544]

What if they come back to you in your future as your better self, but can't forgive you for only changing/learning the lessons because you had to lose them rather than doing the work while you were with them?

[@esmeeruis4871]

Hey Susan, Thankyou for your enlightment about this! My (ex) boyfriend treats me really really bad when he is mad or even when he is frustrated. He said he wants to hurt me on purpose and Cause me pain if he is mad. So he will say all of the mean things to hurt me he will threathen to break up with me if I don’t do what he wants. We went with eachother only 1.5 months and I didnt trust it anymore to be forever with him... I looked at him differently, didn’t saw the person I knew anymore. So I broke up and he is so broken. He cries a lot and thinks it’s unfair. He begged for s second change because he said he will change and not be mad at the way he always is... I don’t know what to do

[@iFuriiOG]

Pretty simple, live your life, take some time for yourself, and after a few weeks or even months with no contact, go get a glimpse of how real his changes are.

[@carriea.2467]

No second time my friend is in a grave yard for more then 20 yrs cause she gave her husband a second chance and i and the judge told her not to do it and she is died now. MY EX HUSBAND WANT ME TO GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE AND HE WANTED TO STEAL MONEY FROM ME.Thank god i dont give chance.

[@SusanWinter]

Your situation is a clear 'no.' I've counseled individuals who simply had a rockty start, and are now together with their ex. Each case is unique.

[@carriea.2467]

Susan Winter i understand Susan but thats how everything starts believe me i have experience on this am 54 age.

[@dianeslate4049]

Teslandia A. Me neither

[@carloscabrera5311]

Teslandia A. You have experience on nothing you jack. Every case is different. Jack $$. Not every case has to do with violence and some women have dumped men for some really stupid sh%t you jack. Trust me.

[@rickynunez14]

Thank you :)

[@Lizardman888]

Can it work if both partners were young (18 and 19 years old) and the relationship was casual s*x? The relationship was very disrespectful but they’ve both matured and apologized to each other? And now want commitment and a healthy relationship? And are genuine about it.