SITUATIONSHIPS (WHY WOMEN ALWAYS LOSE)

[@BreenyLee]

WARNING! ⚠️ Highly Offensive Content for Grown Girls ONLY! Let’s Continue To Level Up this year!!!

[@lisazambuto6854]

How do you know when God is saying NO to someone you're dating and when God is saying YES? What are the different ways you're able to tell?

[@feleciapowell5792]

Breeny Lee is the Jamaica background sold separately ?! (Asking for a friend 🤭😊😆) you are so brilliant ✨✨ keep shining .. ooh deets on the lashes too 🥰

[@D.j.2580]

Lisa Zambuto when God says yes about something you have prayed about (because you have to ask Him in prayer first), you have absolutely NO doubt about it in your heart, it’s like an evidence, SO evident that you can’t do otherwise than to believe that it’s like a supernatural conviction, and that peace you have when you don’t worry about anything because you know God has your back . But when it’s not for you, when he says NO, even after the prayer, your heart will still be shaking somewhat, you will have no assurance, No peace regardless of how hard you try to convince yourself

[@karisanchez8383]

Thank you so much I needed to hear this Keep doing what you do 👏👏

[@zannasutherland144]

@@karisanchez8383 saaame

[@RealTalkRelationshipTherapy]

Situationships are only serving to the man because he gets to have everything without putting in the work

[@symone2179]

Exactly 😩

[@katieflaxbeard1019]

Concisely said

[@tmoneypoleductions9764]

But what if I want some dick too ?

[@lindokhumalo1285]

@@tmoneypoleductions9764 😂😂good question

[@sherron1860]

@@tmoneypoleductions9764 it’s not worth your self respect

[@MahareyS]

Two signs of not knowing your worth: You settle and tolerate.

[@markwhittaker6866]

De Andria McPherson PREACH!

[@vaniathomas8859]

Tolerate is a big one for me. 😖

[@ndeyebinetasylla2857]

De Andria McPherson Preach 🙏🏽

[@Odieodius]

Guys aren’t settling either

[@moisesbeyond]

But men has to settle down and tolerate right? settle down with a woman who has the DNA of another man called children, and no money and fat...

[@F0reverblessed]

Women often think they can CHANGE a man. Settling will not increase your value in his eyes. The right man will be ready the moment he meets you! Don’t put yourself in these situationships, when you know deep down inside you want more. From a self content creator to another, I loveeee this video Breeny and the way you broke it down. ❤️

[@cherrytung]

Nah, why change a man if you can just drop this and find you another one?

[@F0reverblessed]

Cherry Tung - The Frugal Designer Handbag Lover Absolutely my point! The right one will be ready for you! 💕

[@haveaniceday1692]

Well said

[@F0reverblessed]

have a nice day Thank you! I have a great rest of your week! 💕

[@mstcherie13]

But haven't you noticed the man might then change with another girl after saying he cannot/won't change??I don't see it as win or lose i see it as timing. Everyone has the ability to change but its all about timing. I find that some men can be very prideful in not allowing others to influence them, themselves and some women can be very passive aggressive projecting what they want onto others.

[@privateaccount8004]

I gave u the like when you said "the heart dont care about situationships, cant tell the difference between just fun. It's made to feel:

[@phoenixrising8007]

The heart wants what it wants

[@lalarose__]

The heart really doesn't know. I thought my heart could be protected in a situationship and now I have feelings as if I'm in a committed relationship. I have to let this go. It's so damaging.

[@TauBlac]

A man knows every early on if he wants to be with you or not. Don’t waste your time

[@rohmanadeem5504]

You're really pretty!😍😍

[@TauBlac]

@@rohmanadeem5504 thank you

[@cuixinshi]

THIS. Within a week.

[@Lyfe164]

Why do women think they know what a MAN thinks??? Lmfaooo its baffling maybe thats the issues you face in your own relationships cus your busy thinking instead of acting he knows not what u think and vice versa thats y we have communication if he wants to be with u early on he will let it be known but real Men do not rush shit for both parties to learn and validate if its worth it thats what dating is for

[@bigdumby7019]

Yeah I asked one “where is this going” and he gave me the run around. I left so fast lmao. (8 months btw)

[@tigerjuji]

"situationships will make you go crazy" thank you...

[@MsChantae]

oh gawdd situationships are the worst.

[@sheryllynrivera6391]

Yes girl! The moment he tells you, "but I'm single". This happened to me last month. Heartbroken and doing everything to stay busy. Keep him off my mind and life for good.

[@gabriellahardy6636]

legit

[@rosemarymazebo5168]

😂😂😂

[@sarahbarabe8470]

"I am too pretty for a man to be unsure of me and tell me to prove myself" Needed to hear that. Sick and tired of these men downplaying our value and making us feel inadequate and as if there's something we need to prove to them. NO. Thanks, Breeny.

[@ptisamn6482]

Yeah your are too pretty but also too intelligent because you know your valur

[@temomoemedi6026]

why do women thing they need not prove themselves? their worth? how far have we fallen in society that people don't know that value of earning something? actually being deserving of something from practical merit.. not just because I say so.. its like everyone is talking magic tricks and no one wants to do the work.. just imagine just for one second a guy said to a woman I don't need to prove my worth.. the whole world would be in an uproar... but then its okay for a woman to do that.. are you people serious right now? Breeny, I am blaming you... quit brain washing people away from responsibility.. or I am telling you that if this is what you genuinely believe? then even your relationship with your Mr right wont last, and I am not cursing you, just don't say I didn't warn you..

[@Greenrivers14]

Right? they're freaking bumbs!

[@Stephanie.101]

If a man doesn't see your value (girlfriend or wife) it's not your job to convince him. I think I learned that from you Breeny

[@gladyswairimu3443]

Yaaass!! Hash tag:Quote of the year

[@MmmMulholland]

Even girlfriend isn’t enough. Being girlfriend is easy. They try to make you act wifey without the ring. NEVER cook for a man and never wash his clothes unless you have that ring.

[@TokyoBlue587]

@@MmmMulholland even as a wife, it's not my job to cook and clean. This is 2020. He can wash his his own clothes, he's an adult.

[@SavvyUnLtd]

"you can't convince a man that you're a good woman.. if he can't see that, he's never gonna see that" .. YES girl just discovered you! LUV ur truth bombs!!!!

[@katrinabarrus7557]

I was in a situation ship and it was severely hurting my confidence. I finally asked the guy his what intentions were and he said " ooooh one day at a time" I still kept talking? But I was crying because I didn't know what was up. I asked again and he said he's not ready. I decided to love my self and break it off. It really hurt because we talked everyday! But I'm so proud I did it because I deserve someone who loves me for me!

[@Elizabeth-mf3dn]

I know how you feel 🥺

[@aeolusargyros9112]

You are so STRONG keep it up beautiful

[@theinsanegirl4372]

Did he ever contacted yu?

[@lepetitchat123]

I am sorry men are such jerks

[@AdverbsAndNouns]

Update?

[@misskemo]

Been in situationships and the truth is, if the guy wants you he won't let you be a "situation" in his life . Men will use any excuse under the sun to avoid being commited to the woman he doesn't want. Ps. just cause he flatters you with compliments doesn't mean he wants you. In short, actions speak louder than words.

[@chiomaanyanwu5322]

What's the remedy then?

[@michellemichaell]

@@chiomaanyanwu5322 Leave. Or that's what I did anyway. You do you! :)

[@gdubbz78]

"fun is for girls, fulfillment is for women!" 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽thanks Breeny ❤

[@CosmicAxolotlQueen]

Amen you can say that once again!!! 🤙🏾💯🙏🔥❤ yesh!!!!!!!!!

[@ellemarie406]

👏👏

[@la12ok]

Love that ✨💚

[@msarielwilliams123]

I got married at 21 years old, and I don’t recommend it. I ended up getting divorced at 32 because it was a toxic marriage. I was young and blind to the warning signs early on. I wish I had waited until I was at least 25. Anyhoo, I’m 34 years old now and engaged to a wonderful man whom I’m better yoked with. I asked God for what I wanted and he delivered. 🙌🏼

[@biancasaidi9375]

in the same situation wish I had waited I'm 29 now 2 kids divorced ....hopefully one day God will lead me to the man He chose for me.... happy for you love!

[@orubek355]

💕

[@markitagibson1394]

I definitely agree I don't recommend marriage at a young age either I married at a young age myself live your life, travel, establish your career, find yourself and keep your options open its not a time frame on relationships/marriage

[@moisesbeyond]

But you were perfect at 21 and you told everybody that he was the perfect man.....so it is your fault you choose him and pùsh him to marry you....maybe you were the toxic one not him.

[@moisesbeyond]

@Natural Beauty26 It is funny to hear women blaming men when you are the onw who decided who is going to penetrate them....and later on claim the one who penetrated her is a filthy man...lol

[@Mrs.T305]

Just move on if he doesn't want a relationship. When a guy says this, it doesn't mean that it's the woman. I'd never say if a man doesn't want a relationship, it means he doesn't want one with you, some women can personalise this, fall into a depression and think that they're the problem. Sometimes these men just don't want a relationship period, they just want to date a bunch of females. Move on. It's not you, that statement is more about him. Many of these men are doing the very same thing (playing games) With multiple women, its not just that one girl. They just want to date multiple women and be bachelors.

[@basicinfo2022]

I agree. We are not here to impress and chase them. What one man won't do, another man will. Most of the time the guy wants to be with a man... not you.

[@khollow24]

Honestly. Reality literally mike Tyson sucker punched me on Valentine’s Day. I was in a situationship for over a year and I held my feelings in for that length of time because i knew he didn’t feel the same way about me. So I jumped the cliff n told him I loved him... on Valentine’s Day. And he looked at me like I was crazy. He didn’t say it back. And I went above and beyond for him n he literally said were just friends. One day I’ll look back at this n really talk about this. N save someone else from this bullshit.

[@whatsupwithtorii]

I love this

[@phoenixrising8007]

IKR, They should just man up and own it instead of pretending to be something their not

[@toriyt2714]

It’s the truth tho. They don’t want a relationship with you. It doesn’t mean it’s something wrong with you though. It most definitely could be him. HE just doesn’t see it. Someone else will see it all with you.

[@danamuller5016]

I did this at 20. It made me suicidal. I've never felt so disgusted with myself and used. Now I am almost 24, and I completely stopped having sex.

[@kailadabomb]

Dana Müller ❤️

[@shutit4024]

Dana Müller girl same with me I’m 19 now and I haven’t had sex in almost a year I feel used and abused smh

[@shutit4024]

Dana Müller I did this during my teen years

[@lolab3147]

Dana Müller so relatable I think for me sex became something we can be a part of and move on from it like nothing like men do but it’s a highly spiritual act that can make us feel so unworthy and used.

[@sammmiii13]

Dana Müller I also struggled with this and haven’t been intimate with someone for almost three years now. Better without tbh... I feel much more calm as a person, less stressed. Hope you’re okay 💖

[@eugeniyah8078]

A good woman or man will not settle, even if it means being single for a long time.

[@MsKofi1]

That's not true...It's not a matter of being a GOOD woman or man. We all are capable of making wrong choices, or believing in a person who is manipulative. Honestly, most times it is definitely the GOOD woman or man that gets caught up in what seems like settling, when actually it's more accurate to call it trusting. Too bad the disappointment has to follow!!

[@eugeniyah8078]

LiveLife16 If you take the time to step away from the dating scene to work on yourself and figure out why you keep falling for the wrong ones, you will start being good to yourself and you will finally make peace with the mistakes that you’ve made, then you will become a better person. You will attract a good person as you have transformed into a good/better individual. That’s what I meant.

[@lovequeen6088]

Yahuah Is My Everything I completely agree. Self love first at all times no settlement at all. I refuse to put Myself on sale when I’m Quality full price.

[@eugeniyah8078]

Dominique Smith Exactly 💯 Notice how some products in stores never go on sale. Not that we are like merchandise - but when you know your worth/value and what you bring to the table, self love will come naturally. Eventually you will attract true love because you have given that to yourself ❤️

[@markwhittaker6866]

Yahuah Is My Everything DAMN RIGHT. I REFUSE TO SETTLE FOR CRAP. PREACH!

[@TheStilinski24]

im not in a situationship right now, but great reminder to NEVER be in one again!

[@TheStilinski24]

@Love 23Amazed thank you! but sometimes you get caught up in thinking that's the best you can do. I know better now :)

[@bhavanasv]

Heard it too many times.. 'You're too good for me.' Dear Women.. That's a red signal.. Back off from such people. Simple!

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

Your too good for me. In other words. I'm dumping you...but I don't want to feel guilty.

[@kuzivaj.z]

Also code for I would like to keep you close while I play around. (Not a guarantee he’ll end up with you when he’s done tho)

[@etoilenouveau]

My last said it alllll the time. UGH how did I fall for it every time.

[@sunshineinamirror]

"Young choices became adult problems." so true on so many levels.

[@jo355]

Wanting attention but not wanting to be in a relationship= issa trap and you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. For example: entertaining guys you know do not meet your standards. So you decide to entertain them for the attention you get ("just for a short term"). Trust me your mind knows very well that this is temporary and will not go anywhere. But your heart will still respond in the normal way and you will get attached. So you're stuck and confused because you don't even like this person like that but you're feeling some type of way. What was meant to be a short term thing has now rolled into months. You then have 2 options. 1. Lower your standards and try and accept this person. 2 . Walk away, block, delete and mend your self-inflicted wounds. Guess what? The guy isn't complaining because he's getting companionship without responsibilities that come from a relationship. Time isn't an issue for most men. Don't waste your time even if you have it!

[@adabekeethefirst8705]

❤️ this comment. The heart always does what the heart does. You start spending time with someone and before you know it you are 'in love' with someone who you shouldn't be with

[@perfectoeventssocials8678]

true

[@dainty_sley1101]

J O dammnn this spoke volumes

[@hannahlunsford1429]

This literally just happened to me I got attached because of the attention I got and when it stopped I got so sad but I didn’t even really like the dude 😫

[@jennasaisquoi5174]

Hannah Lunsford Same 😂😭😂😭

[@ChrisOath]

As a man i agree with this video, sadly :(. A lot of women do lose out in situationships. Nice one breeny 👍🏽

[@clubgel]

simp

[@shutit4024]

Brandon Reynolds really?

[@StaceyMonroe]

So True!!

[@sarahbarabe8470]

True on the other hand a lotta men struggle with commitment imo a relationship ain't difficult if it's so hard for you to only fuck with one girl you got a problem talk to a psychologist about it

[@ninawestlake5005]

Refreshing to have honest mature men like you. Because at the end of it all...it is not about sex, race or whatever. We should all be treated well. None above the other. Happy weekend!

[@Lolobekeh]

Two major key factors I learnt today: "Always remember that young choices become adult problems" Loud it sis👏 "You have the power to create your future with the choices that you make today"

[@gailhopkins5767]

ChYnasa , well said. In fact all that needs to be saud. I hope everyone listen to that comment & rethink a lot of stuff. Grace to all. gh

[@m.b.6974]

"The reason you are insecure is because you don't feel safe." This is a great statement. A friend said something similar to me during my last relationship. I hadn't ever really be insecure before, but this particular guy gave me lots of reasons to doubt him and doubt his commitment to me. I don't regret that relationship breaking down, even though I was heart broken at the time. I am so much better off, and I deserve so much better! We all deserve better ladies :) Don't settle! Thanks Breeny

[@kathyalcalde3025]

Got out of a 4-months situationship yersterday, after watching your video. Thanks so much for all this precious common sense

[@Ayoangelgirl]

I need to get out of my suituationship

[@leeshsays8508]

Hope you made it out!..

[@librateen632]

God is speaking to me through you. I'm a 26 year old virgin and entered a situationship due to sexual frustration. We didn't have sex but didn't just about everything else. I know I am a wife and deserve so much more. This dude didn't even want to buy popcorn on our "date" 😣. As lonely as I am I will push through and know my worth. I'm moving across the country next month to pursue my dreams, and I will focus on that. Thank you again, your timing is divine.

[@shutit4024]

Grace girl the dude I was seeing last year didn’t even buy me nothing for Christmas but yet wanted me to buy him something worth 60 dollars lol ( I just brought him a 5 dollar soap but ended up using it on myself cause I didn’t get my gift from him) and when Valentine’s Day came he didn’t even buy me nothing I showed him a bare that was only 88 cents and he said “I ain’t buying that shit” let’s just say I dumped his ass soon afterwards never again ugh and he claim to be “religious”

[@librateen632]

@@shutit4024 leave his sorry ass! These men are trained to give you the least and then expect the most. This dude offered to buy a popcorn as a kind gesture, but when I actually said yes it was clear he didn't want to lmao. So I just said forget it. We have to do better! These men are trying to play us for our goods, and do the least for it!

[@shutit4024]

Grace oh trust me I dumped his ass he wanted me to hang out with him on his birthday and thought I would “give it up” just cause it’s his birthday nope! I didn’t hang out with him I said I was busy lol but yeah and he tried to get me pregnant before ( tried to trap me) but my dumb ass couldn’t see it back then..but I’m like if you don’t want to be with me then what was the point of trying to get me pregnant ?

[@librateen632]

@@shutit4024 Oh my he sounds like a terrible person. Glad you left him!

[@shutit4024]

Grace he was and thanks!

[@robertae9303]

Hi Breeny! I'm 55, which is well above the age of most of your followers, but even at my age, I can't waste time on situationships 😌 I've blocked two guys in the past year for trying to waste my time. I'm afraid to be alone as I head toward retirement...so even us older gals have a lot to lose with uncommitted men 😌 I really love your videos!!! Keep up the awesome work! 😚

[@shutit4024]

Roberta E I wasted my teen years on fucboys I’m still kinda mad about that because I should have been enjoying my teen years and maybe having one relationship but nope I was never taught anything about guys so I found myself into 2 situations but now I’m 19 and learning but I just wish my mother or father would of told me about guys and it didn’t help having a couple of friends being pregnant and still getting into relationships. I want to get married in my 20s but as a teen I wanted to settle down still

[@robertae9303]

@@shutit4024 ...you have plenty of time to meet Mr. Right. I didn't marry my beloved husband until I was 30. He was a real man...worth the wait. But cancer took him from me 2 years ago, and that painful lesson has taught me more about love than any other thing in this crazy life. Be patient and the right man will come to you...and never take him for granted 🙏😌

[@shutit4024]

Roberta E I’m sorry for your lost

[@shutit4024]

Roberta E thanks for the advice 👍🏼

[@mansi1715]

U ain't alone . We are always with you !

[@NubineQueen]

Wow sis u be reading my MIND every time!! I was JUST in a situationship... and it was hell. And confusing as hell had me hurt in the end .

[@shutit4024]

NubineQueen ! Same from when I was 15-18 😔 I’m 19 now I only been in 2 and the last person I was in an situationship he tried to get me pregnant (trapping me) I soon dump her afterwards but the crazy thing was he didn’t to be together with me so I didn’t understand that at all

[@lolab3147]

It is extremely hurtful it’s all fun and games but it’s literally playing with fire and the pain that comes after isn’t even worth the “temporary fun”

[@vernetta111]

Same I hated myself because it was going against my grain and I knew I wasn't being treated right

[@whoisshida]

I feel like my 1 year relationship was basically a situationship despite the title... such a waste of my time for a guy who did not value or respect me, lesson learnt

[@DamiAshley]

Naaaa “YOU’RE NOT MY GIRL” burns sooo much omg I wanted to die one time when my old ting said that🤦🏽‍♀️

[@lebaneseforever2007]

What I didn't understand I have to concentrate my English 😂😂😂

[@Ms.Tamara_]

So many comments with women saying they r in situationships and have been for months,years! This is exactly why men don’t feel the need to “act right “, going on actual dates is foreign to them ,n they expect sex with no commitment. Stop moving this way ladies pls. We can’t even blame men for expecting so much for so little. All this bs about the guys ending it n girls are left depressed n heartbroken is so unnecessary! When u set te boundaries n demand respect, it feels so much better when the ball is in ur court. Call the shots and end things before u become sum guys pay thing or just STD- something to do. Take back ur power! Situationships are a No for me. The woman doesn’t win in the end when the guy uses u for fun n then puts u bk when he’s done. Be hard to get!

[@92Kandee]

Was in a situationship for a whole YEAR!! At least with friends with benefits, you know there is no hope for a relationship - that you are just friends, experiencing the benefits. BUT with a situationship, there is NO direction or title, whatsoever! Like, you don't know whether you are coming or going. I kept asking if what we were & his answer stayed the same - "Keke, I'm not looking for a relationship rn. But we are exclusive" 😩 that was his word "exclusive" 😂 he treated me well, we'd talk & he was a great emotional support but the fact that he wasn't my bf & i wasn't his gf, frustrated me. I eventually, ended that October & even though it hurt, i realized i deserved better; i want more. Decided to take a break from dating so that i can do it the right way, now I'm working more on myself, on Christ & being intentional. Not entertaining a man who is not clear about his intentions, no sir! Great advice Breeny, thanks! Young girls need to learn this, we've got this dating thing completely messed up!

[@melissasanchez4066]

Keke_SA same situation. He “loves me but is too busy for a relationship” after 8 months finally admitted to myself it wasn’t enough. 😭

[@jboy98ful]

This is good I'm in this same situation right now

[@92Kandee]

@@jboy98ful You can leave. You have the power to & although it'll hurt, you'll surely move on. If a man has not made his intentions clear, that simply means he's not interested in you - you ain't the one he loves. It's painful to hear but lady, that's the plain truth. You're more than a situation-ship, you're a Queen. 👸

[@tirayoobileye3878]

omg i love this i went through the EXACT same thing

[@deanna6742]

Really? Because I felt like my friends with benefits was a situationship

[@anjyazoh-mbi5185]

Dangerous thing about situationships is they always feel harmless at the start but man oh man the end is a whole different story, they hurt. By the time i got out of one I was writing some of the most beautiful but melancholic poetry i ever wrote LOL. I really wish and pray fewer people get into those and more get out. Not a nice space to be in.

[@aaliyahsashabrookes7952]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️

[@anysaleandra]

I wrote sooo many poems its very sad :(

[@akalo23]

😭🤣*the poetry bit. 😩🙋🏾‍♀️

[@IamThee1111]

😭😭

[@kimoyaa101]

You should definitely start a podcast 💯❤️

[@CosmicAxolotlQueen]

Votes for Breeny for starting a podcast thumbs up If you think she should! ❤❤❤

[@marajamin9220]

Yes plssss

[@tabitha.mwihaki4964]

I knowww

[@suitemeek]

“You can not convince a man that you’re a good woman” girl dang omg.

[@Melly16yr10]

Then why bother？

[@bigdumby7019]

@@Melly16yr10 I think that may be what she’s trying to say here. It’s true though. Why bother? You know who you are, if you spend time telling someone who you are instead of walking the walk what really is the point?

[@Melly16yr10]

@@bigdumby7019 Good point and question 👍😁

[@KidslearnplayNfun]

Red flags "I get busy I can't talk to you all the time" my defense you make time for those you care about.

[@ACupOfKhafi]

Breeny: A lot of you are ignoring your real desires to settle down and get married Me: 🤯🤯🤯

[@beigelover95]

true

[@MissTracyyy223]

Khafi Kareem, i love ya but you still ignored her message and messed up on Bbnaija but i do hope that you rewatch this vid and learn from it for real this time

[@karenm.7678]

Your picture 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@bluejane8032]

It's true

[@Ryan7197]

Plot twist: You are the bag, secure yourself

[@Curitaw]

Ryan Reid Ty

[@ceeceeobh2707]

Ryan Reid thank you 🙏

[@dominiquehippolyte9840]

🤯... I wasn’t ready 🙏🏾😭

[@Mommyoftwooak]

Ryan Reid fuck, yes! 🙌🏾

[@ethioqueen5828]

Ase 🙏🏽

[@regsarp]

BREEEEEEEEEEEEENYYYYYYY IM NOT EVEN DONE WITH THIS VIDEO YET BUT I HAD TO COMMENT BECAUSE YOU’RE TALKING TO ALL US. Let me tell you sum... and let me keep it a buck... all this sexual women’s liberation... ain’t always liberating. Them situationships will take you OWT. The last one I accidentally tumbled in sent me right into the church. YOUNG WOMEN LISTEN PLEASE there’s no man worth your sanity and peace of mind. I promise you. Loving yourself first will be your greatest power and defender against foolishness. Listen to your gut. Women’s intuition DONT LIE. Knowing who you is will change your life. We’re too cute. Too smart. Too gifted. Too phenomenal to believe anything different. Save your heart and time for the deserving and be content with your own company.

[@MsGoldenSmiles]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@Valeria-du1qq]

Love this comment

[@diyafalife4]

Situationships are awful. I ended one in January which didn’t last long (thank God) but taught me a lot. I think me turning another age (22), and knowing that I wanted to get engaged/Married in the next 5 years, made me end it. A lot of what you said in this video was my reasoning so it was nice to hear it.

[@Itsmarylynn]

Same I’m same age going through the same thing

[@nehanandini1224]

Waaaaait. Did everyone just miss she mentioned she met someone amazing? Breeny! I am so fucking happy!!! You have been waiting forever for someone to see your worth. He’s one lucky guy. And yes he better be reading this.

[@Seung25]

Well, i wonder what your opinion would be now...

[@wattsupreese5994]

seriously. some man who i thought was trying to court me. told me we were in a situationship. i told him we were just friends, & the next day told him we weren’t compatible and cut it off. like run away from that mindset. period.

[@eugeniyah8078]

I believe that once you start being honest with yourself, regarding wanting a serious relationship and eventually marriage and kids, you will begin to find it extremely difficult to settle. Compromising will no longer be an option once you start valuing yourself.

[@toyawimley647]

I agree👍

[@clubgel]

then you'll be post 30 as your dream man who doesn't tick 50 boxes fails to materialise then say "where have the good men gone" and be like most bitter careerist women who dated the alphas in their 20s and now cant get commitment from one so their only option is settling for a boring beta male, which they dont want to avoid so keep getting older, bitter and more past their prime.

[@indicaap0ppin662]

Brandon Reynolds Good men come to you when you aren’t looking for them💀😂 A woman who loves herself isn’t searching because at the end of the day we love ourselves enough to not even need a man. But a good one will come anyway because our self love makes us 10x more attractive. If you have to search for a man you prolly already lost🤷🏿‍♀️😂

[@eugeniyah8078]

Indicaap0ppin Agreed 💯

[@toomuchinformation]

@@indicaap0ppin662 Great response.

[@titomi2050]

"Stop wasting your time with bozo the clown" lolol

[@chevonneclay1277]

Titomi 🤣🤣🤣

[@HELENA-vx5hz]

I am in a relationship with someone who I can’t leave right now because I need him. His name is mental health.💪🏾💪🏾🙆🏾‍♀️

[@honeybee6154]

I'm 50... And learning so much from you! ❤

[@jokittygreat1]

Yeah I’m crying real tears right now, I’ve been back and forth thinking whether to end this situationship or not , and this just confirmed it for me , thank you so much Breeny 💕

[@gailhopkins5767]

Jikittgreat, SAVE YOUR SELF. THE MAN THAT IS CREATED FOR U FROM THE BEGINNING OF TIME WILL FIND U. & LOVE U AS THE Lord love's u. U are worthy to be love , & care for & about. Began to cherish your self. Grace to all. gh

[@gailhopkins5767]

Preach, tell the true!. Ms. Breeny, lives will be change for the better!. For life. !! Think about it. Grace to all GH

[@shutit4024]

jokittygreat1 trust me do it it’s better when YOU END IT don’t end up like me all bitter and still hurt do it you don’t want this to be gone too long then if he ends up cutting you off then you’re feel sorry for yourself

[@misskemo]

End it and block him cause he'll definitely come back to confuse you with romantic gestures with no substance. The man for you won't make you question your decisions. ❤️❤️❤️

[@sharinastar5456]

Yeah girl end it. You’ll save yourself the heartbreak

[@rosettemail]

I've always knew that I wanted to get married to a good man and also have kids. So, I have always been (maybe a little bit too) selective with my choice of men. Thus, I have never had a boyfriend by now (I'm 21). This year I met a man which I caught feelings for. However, I had the feeling that he would rather prefer a situationship. I caught myself actually thinking about just going with it and see what happens, since I really wanted him. Your video however made me realize that no man is worth settling down for less than what you've always wanted. Thank you for that! :)

[@DefiningCute]

That’s normal I was once the same way but you have to experience and talk to different guys before you can really know what you what sometimes.

[@temomoemedi6026]

okay.. yours I can respect.. not some of the other people's comments. please look for my replies in these comments if you want to understand.. but that guy you like is probably someone who got heart broken before by a girl that thinks the world revolved around her with no effort, just because she is in her peak fertility and every guy is in her DMs.. love is work, its a team, no one is a table, you both need to bring worth to the table, and understanding, loyalty, just like you want him to be understanding of your needs you need to understand his. most women like to make it seem like guys get more out of sex than they do and there fore that's all they need to offer.. that's very stupid.. one needs to offer more than just the physical.. but above all, be loyal to each other, and this isn't just about sex, its more on going through life, because life will offer challenges that could break you two apart, and you need to be strong together and that will tighten your bond even further. I am actually very proud of what you've done, how you've lived, your a germ believe it, definitely the top 1%. 99% of this commentary section is full of imposters and I was ready to give up, and stumbled on you.. thank you for being my hope. most of the other women want the power with no responsibilities... as if women don't have a role to play in all this..... and Breeny is being a yes man telling them what they want to hear so she can sell hair pieces, she isn't really helping, but bless you. you don't have to have sex with the guy you like, just be there for him, and when he is ready, he will come, that's if you want him still. just a tip. man react well to support.

[@frimunya]

I’ve never been in a serious relationship and I’m 21 as well

[@mansi1715]

If he can't see that he is never gonna see it...you cannot convince a man to take you seriously...true af ❤

[@orubek355]

All right !

[@dijahxaliyah]

This video couldn’t come at a better time. Just walked away from multiple situationships. Left me confused, upset, and felt disposable. I knew what I wanted by tried to ignore it by saying oh I want to experience and have fun. I have to watch this video multiple times when I get tired of being single and desperate! Love the advice. You definitely need a podcast! Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@Ms.Tamara_]

So many comments with women saying they r in situationships and have been for months,years! This is exactly why men don’t feel the need to “act right “, going on actual dates is foreign to them ,n they expect sex with no commitment. Stop moving this way ladies pls. We can’t even blame men for expecting so much for so little. All this bs about the guys ending it n girls are left depressed n heartbroken is so unnecessary! When u set te boundaries n demand respect, it feels so much better when the ball is in ur court. Call the shots and end things before u become sum guys pay thing or just STD- something to do. Take back ur power! Situationships are a No for me. The woman doesn’t win in the end when the guy uses u for fun n then puts u bk when he’s done. Be hard to get!

[@lumina7152]

Nothing worse than a situationship. Even FWB is better because there has been a CLEAR DEFINITION. Situationship is the worst because there's so much confusion as to the extent of your agreement when in some cases...there wasn't even an agreement on what y'all can claim from each other, whether it be emotional or physical. Sucks too when you get hurt because you have no one to blame but yourself

[@maurissajones3521]

I really needed this 😭 I just got out of a situationship. They really bring out your insecurities smh.

[@vaniathomas8859]

Facts for real. You hit rock bottom. Thinking you can handle that shit. Your heart want what the heart wants.

[@temomoemedi6026]

no no… you already had those, that's why you got into it in the first place, or why you didn't bother to look for a good guy in the first place while you were in you peak fertility and every guy was in your DMs, and you called it wanting to have fun.. why do people like lying to themselves, or blaming something or someone else instead of themselves?

[@queenofthesouth4205]

Breeeny we appreciate you more than you will ever understand!!!! Cheers...….ladies stop letting men waste your time, know your WORTH.

[@parislee254]

Breeny you are have sent God spoke to U cause I definitely needed to hear this. Bless you x

[@rebekkadabolina]

“Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”, couldn’t agree more.

[@sarahb6758]

I needed to hear this right now. I literally just broke it off with someone then saw this video. I'm 28 and it's time to get serious.

[@amethyst.silvera]

Same for me

[@ltgemini1599]

Just turned 45. Just walked away from a situationship. I was in a relationship. He was single.

[@Alyssa-tu2kx]

In your 30s and on men only consider you a pump and dump. that's the truth

[@tchaney3777]

@@Alyssa-tu2kx Stop subscribing to incel ideology. 🤣

[@mymom4724]

💔💔

[@maryamkim1281]

Hmmm. You were having a relationship on your own...

[@matshidisojerminah8513]

Wow it hit me hard "His not ready for a relationship(with you)is silent"😢 am in a situationship with this guy 💪it aint with my time am done with him👱Thank you.. love u so much Sis😙

[@msbabycakes]

Dont waste your precious young years on him, he ain't worth it ❤

[@matshidisojerminah8513]

@@msbabycakes Thanks😊

[@alisebaidekalne8195]

Finally someone I respect admitted loudly that sleeping and messing around because young is NO EXCUSE!!! Taking responsibility and aknowledging your actions is timeless. Thank youu🙏🙏❤️❤️

[@TauBlac]

Just deleted the guy I’ve been inlove with since March. It kinda hurts but I’ll be fine

[@ABB14-11]

How are you now, Hun? I'm about to do the same, and my heart is already breaking.

[@dittrichovaeliska2997]

Hope you two amazng young ladies are ok♥️

[@StephJ0seph]

@@ABB14-11 Omg same am currently in a situationship, not doing this shit ever again.

[@Tarotcooks]

You will Be great ☀️☀️☀️

[@Tarotcooks]

@@ABB14-11 Deep breathing, classical music will do more for than any man 🙏

[@CoriLove22]

I think this is great advice for women who aspire to be married. If you don’t have that desire as the end goal, situationships can still be fulfilling. Sometimes it takes a situationship or two to figure out what you want or don’t want. And learning what you want is never a waste of time.

[@aphroditEE4800]

Men love to use that ‘but you’re not my girlfriend’ line when you’re in a situationship. Lol.

[@shutit4024]

Permanent Outsider right I hate that shit or when he says “oh we not in an relationship you can do w.e” boy it makes me so mad lol

[@kimiatothecagedbirds]

“I am not ready for a relationship WITH YOU” happened to me, it’s really with( the person) next thing you know, he is starting an actual relationship with somebody else ..

[@kimiatothecagedbirds]

Delaney Graziano I am with you girl !

[@AyesheAlwaysLovely]

Exactly what happened to me last year.

[@Spelman2g5]

Same... I was heartbroken

[@brennanthebronzelanguages386]

I am a LGBTQ guy and this touched me. Remind me that I too deserve greatness

[@bismamunawar418]

Of course you do!

[@meryemhammachi1755]

Everyone does ! You deserve to be respected

[@jalenwhite2520]

Amen

[@brabbit5484]

I feel so stupid and used. I was just in a situationship that ended. I'm 23 and a late bloomer, I watched women in my life be treated like shit and never understood how they didn't see the signs. I do now! He was so manipulative now that I look back on it. I had my first date, first kiss, and lost my virginity to him for nothing! For a situationship...that's over 2 weeks before we hit 3 months. I feel so dumb, gross, and regretful. Hoping one day I'll appreciate this lesson.

[@Loveemhee361]

You were everything I needed right now. My first true relationship became a situationship at the age of 19 and it took me months to get over. It completely demolished my proclaimed self-image of being grown and being able to handle it. It has taken me so much energy to let it go and make peace with the decisions I now regret, but it was a lesson incredibly well learned. I'll be turning 20 in four months and I will take your advice without a doubt, even if I have to physically go with a pen and paper and solidify my standards. Here is to the next decade of my life.

[@tlunceford77]

I was just in a situationship. 6 months of my life wasted. I cant thinking one thing, that add value to my life out that. All it taught me was what I dont want in a man, and what i will not put up with anymore

[@ArayahIru]

100% agree with what she is saying. If you are under the age of 30, please take a good look at your past and use that to build a stronger foundation for a better future. Also, be warned if you are out here sexing and try to stop, it will be hard, you will be tested with temptation.. dont give in, pray and find something productive to occupy you until you heal. You can do this. One love Thanks Breeny for discussing the hard facts of life. Our men are weak because we allow them to be. Support our men and make them earn the right.

[@missjonz]

Well said! I’m learning to listen and pay attention. No SITUATIONSHIPS!!!

[@jamie4995]

This is big facts I’m 25 and I feel done out here. I’m getting old 🥴🥴

[@whitneyallman8365]

God has a man for you don't give up hope. :)

[@Deserthawk9487]

Miss JayLeanne your not old, but listening to Breeny you are getting wise😇

[@mylifemyjourneylincy6028]

I'm 23 and I feel the same

[@delusionalbroccoli302]

I am 19 and I am so tired of dating (I barely have participated in it)

[@MFM88832]

Same with the men lol

[@kamencunelly3724]

26:32 " You have the power to create your future with the choices you make today. " This is so deep. Thank you for constantly reminding us of our worth. The future is more important than having fun now.

[@lovesbeauty9564]

This is who I call miss wisdom, knowledge and understanding ❤️

[@ScorpioMoonYT]

Officially in my mid 20s now. All of the trash has been taken to the dump. Let go, and let God. And I can say it feels way better to be at peace single than keeping around corrupt company that’s only “robbing” you in so many ways whether you notice it or not.

[@iza595]

Miss Kenyetta YES👏🏽👏🏽

[@cindydolls]

And Breeny does it again! "You have the power to create your future with the choice you make today." This hit hard as a 17 year old. Cheers

[@zosiab1742]

I'm 30 and honestly, this was the realest shit ever. I wasted my twenties in an abusive relationship. Spent the last 3 years rebuilding. I wanna be married and have kids by 33 and this video honestly gave me hope. )

[@mooremari07]

I'm 19 & currently listening to this while working.... I find myself in a situationship and he has definitely told me I'm too good for him. When you said it, it really hit me. Such a waste of time, I cannot settle for this. Thank you for this wake up call!! I enjoyed your video, love your channel!

[@aleksandragarbos6]

Girl, you cleared up my head. Thank you for this video, I really needed it.

[@sarahben4841]

Good luck love you don't need him/her 💕💕

[@lauriecoudoux7669]

Same for me girl.

[@sydlaw2941]

I loved everything about this video. Almost 30 and my view on life and relationships has changed drastically. I went from trying to secure my education and bag to longing to be a wife and a mom, to wondering if I want children and if there is anyone that I can work out a relationship with well enough to want to spend my life with them. I went from being independent to wanting to be with someone I would let my guard down for and want to learn to be submissive for. Life period is a damn journey and time is definitely not on your side. I don't regret the path I have taken but when I see some of my friends and family that are married with children and just now going back to school to do what I spent most of my 20's doing I get jealous and doubtful of my own future. Now that I have achieved my goals I am on a new journey [career, celibacy, etc.] to see where it will take me.

[@YPM498]

Syd Law Can I just say that it is actually so important to solidify your education/career before getting married and having kids. You may look at your friends who are already married with kids but many of them might tell you that they wished they finished school before having kids. Even my dad told me that he wished he could go back to school but he couldn’t because when you have kids your priorities change and it’s a lot harder. You will meet the right person one day and have a family . All in God’s timing.❤️

[@smcfilms]

“You have the power to create the future with the choices you make today..” yessss.... I loved this video Breeny!!! Thank you!

[@danaluke5147]

I also think that when we mess around when we are young. There are hard consequences that come off of our poor choices for love. We become bitter, broken and untrustworthy of others. Then when your husband does arrive you have so much to work through yourself to be ready fo the person God has allowed you to meet. Protect your hearts girls and remember God loves you and you are enough!

[@rachedslimani446]

YOU ARE UNDERRATED ! I AM 28 AND THIS RESONATES WITH ME SOOOO MUCH. I LOVE YOU YOU NEED AND DESERVE ALL THE BEST! We need more people like you seriously you are my inspiration!

[@mercedesb9932]

“You have the power to create your future with the choices you make today” *taking it in c’mon* 💯💯💯

[@madclagar]

Breeny, you are a blessing! I was in a situationship for over 3 wasted years of my youth. Always put 100% in and he was always a mess, never tried. Dodging the future, playing with pretty words instead of actions, I even broke up with him and he came crying back saying he would change. I took him back always and I just wanted to be married so bad. He was always acting like a little boy that wasn’t sure what he ever wanted. I moved across the country to be with him and he still kept treating me like trash. I don’t know why it took me so long to finally get the strength but I know by staying I was stealing away my heart from the true MAN that deserves it and wants to make me a wife and mother. I packed up my car as full as I could and drove 17 hours back home. I listened to all of your videos on the way there and it gave my soul the strength to make it. I thank God for you words and know he is speaking through you. Im happily single until a real man actually sees my worth and proves it. Thank you❤️

[@jaceeoriginated1983]

madeline burkemper I am literally in tears reading your story because I literally went through the same thing. I wasted so much time with a man who wouldn’t even bend over backwards for me. That situation left me empty and so sad. I pray no one has to ever deal with something like this ever. I’m happy you walked away as well as myself. It hurts but I know in due time I will be healed.

[@inneruniverse17]

I ended one almost four months ago and I'm still not over it. It really damaged me. He introduced me to his family and friends, told his young niece and nephews that I was their aunt, and I went with him to family events; he told his family and friends that I was, "a friend, but more". I fell into his trap and became really delusional. I bought his niece and nephews gifts (like a fool). I bought him gifts, too. One day he told me how much he likes me so I asked what he likes about me. He said, "I like how you are with me." (RED FLAG). I'd planned a spa day for us to enjoy together (like an idiot), but before it happened I decided to ask him if he only wants to sleep with me, but he didn't respond. He couldn't even be honest about his OWN intentions! I cut him off right there. To make matters worse, he was STILL EXPECTING the spa day (very selfish on his part)! The audacity... I used the spa products on myself; had a great time.

[@sky__591]

GIRL YES! THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS! I just got out of a "Friends with benefits Relationship" thinking it was going to turn into a realtionship. I wish I can go back in time when I Saw the Red Flag ! RUN GIRLS!

[@djanika95]

When I heard God introduced you to someone amazing I literally started dancing in my seat 😂😂 Happy for you girl!

[@LorraineGold]

I'm 19 and I'm looking for my rib girl, I do not have the time nor energy for these games 🤦🏾‍♀️ You just opened my eyes a little more 🙌🏾

[@portiasT123]

Lorraine Gold you his rib you not his. he should be looking for you not you looking for him. If you keep working on you he will find you

[@cindychelsea784]

This video is an indeed a wake up call...even though I’m just 21 and a virgin, the message was truly inspiring. I want to start getting serious with relationships when I turn 23. It’s abt time we women stop giving our time to time wasters and grow up to be the kind of woman you want to be. it’s all up to u babe.. in all, that was a good video❤️😍😍

[@hanitheworId]

it’s soooo weird because a part of me doesn’t want him but a part of me gets soo jealous i don’t get it

[@lilibby1844]

I ended a situationship with someone who before then was a friend and this man hasn’t spoken to me since LOL he threw the situationship and friendship away like it was nothing and it probably was nothing to him. And I know he’s still out messing with women and not committing. I’m so glad I dodged that bullet… and want more for myself.

[@TuBella14]

This needs to go viral. Such vital information in ONE video 😫👏🏾 you are brilliant ‼️ thank you for this message.

[@itsfranky_b]

"You have the power to create situations that'll affect your future" preachhhh sis

[@anastasiatrajcevska1177]

I am convinced you are like my guardian angel sent from God. It’s insane. Speaking to my soul girl!

[@Natashea]

I had good intentions when I met my ex but I wasn’t strong enough yet to say no when he didn’t meet those standards. I got my shit together now

[@derbyjames9550]

I love you breeny. You talk about things that are so relatable. It's been 6 months I got out of a situationship and I'm glad I finally moved on last month. These past months, I've learned to love myself more and have totally abstained from sex.

[@gintarekaveckaite5470]

Oh girllll u are so to the point!!!! I have just told a guy after 3 weeks knowing him 'I have no time for it' either it is dating, ralationship or friendship but I don't wanna be in a place where I am not sure. N he tried to play me with 'you are not ready for relationship, etc.' yeahhhhh right. Don't tell me what I am not ready or ready for. Time is ticking n your emotional space is important!!!! So clear it up with dating or being single before relationship. But no nooooooo situationships :)

[@zinentuli2963]

This touched me on a spiritual level😭🔥💕 Thank you for being the big sister we all want and raising the Standard🔥. Sending love and gratitude all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦 Stay beautiful Queen👑💕 I stan💖 💖

[@natl3118]

I saw this video and the SITUATIONSHIPS title just spoke to my soul

[@rhen64]

I just ended a situationship last night it was so draining and all and now slowly I am trying to get back up again

[@vilindaveronica5703]

You have time. I got married for the first time at 42 and had my first baby at 45. Now I'm 53 andI am getting divorced,(married a narcissist) and soon I will date and PROBABLY get married again. Know your value but don't rush and don't be pressed by what society says. ❤❤❤

[@rahmafiakhatib3328]

I swear shes literally pressuring people out there

[@Itsmarylynn]

@@rahmafiakhatib3328 no she’s not

[@gregoriopassport]

maybe, just maybe...its not the 20 men that you've been thru in life...maybe

[@lovelyluol1924]

You spoke nothing but hard facts that most of us need to hear 👏🏿🙌🏿 I hope you find your man, your boo, your king.... You deserve nothing but the best sis 💯🙏🏿