Bridezilla Wants Me To Plan & Fund Her Wedding But Not Invite Me! r/Relationships

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1:Some people want revenge and others want peace. The only thing that I dont agree with OP is if Rachel has something that could end her job and if its a real problem where people are at risk or something bad (must be for her to 100% certain to end her job) then she needs to do that. If the bridezilla has committed HIPAA violations and Rachel has proof, bridezilla's career is over. Medical admins do not fool around with that.

[@terramarini6880]

She is telling people in the friend group about SA/abuse he endured when young that he confided to her with expectations of privacy (why he was in the group therapy where he met OP) That is absolutely a HIPPA violation if she is a nurse. And Rachel already has that in text form, she already has the ammo she needs, the choke point is "does Ryan want to revisit the trauma in court to nail her to the wall?" It is he that will have to press charges, not Rachel, she is just a witness.

[@juliearmfield2634]

​@@terramarini6880people like this in nursing or any line of healthcare give me a dangerous combination. You do not want a healthcare worker that is a bully dealing with vulnerable patients

[@impishrebel5969]

@@terramarini6880 He doesn't have to, they just need to provide proof of the violation to the nursing board of what exactly she did, and THEY will take care of Bridezilla and file charges. His part comes in a civil suit if he wants her to pay for damage done to his reputation and mental anguish.

[@ElleD308]

​@@terramarini6880they need to be her patient or disclose the medical things she's gossiping about at her workplace or else this has nothing to do with HIPAA. She's just an entitled monster and sadly that's not a work violation.

[@ailinfergan]

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[@StephFish1004]

Story 2: Gotta love how people will be condescending about your talents until they think they can benefit from them, then get pissed when you wont fold. Hello entitlement

[@m0n0chr0maticRainb0w]

Imagine thinking a baby shower and a wedding cost even remotely the same lmao.

[@robertx8020]

They CAN..It depends what you want ..a backyard wedding can be cheap

[@7ShadowMaiden7]

@@robertx8020and I would do it all over again! Been married 4 years in our backyard and never looked back!

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

Look, if you don’t want to invite someone, that’s fine. But don’t expect gifts and effort from them.

[@onepieceisking5493]

Exactly 💯, that's entitlement at it's finest. Specially with a bridezilla.

[@BruceReed23]

I disagree with what you said, but only in your choice of the word "gift". Bridezilla want asking for a just gift (think $20-$200), she was asking for funding (think $2000-$20000)! But yes, I agree with you.

[@kateworkman921]

While OP has every right not to be involved and to tell Rachel, "I don't want to know anything about this if you choose to do something," if Rachel knows/has proof of Bridezilla doing something that could be career ending, she should ABSOLUTELY report it. The woman wants to be a nurse, and she's treating the people around her this way? Hell, no. Cost that psycho her "career"!

[@Bonaduece]

THIS! It's so hard to actually end a nursing career, anything that's bad enough to do it, should be reported. My ex stole medications from dementia patients who wouldn't be believed when they complained they weren't getting their pills. She was caught. She still works in nursing.

[@mbyerly9680]

Like OP in the wedding story, so many people are trained in their childhoods by toxic parents to accept certain behaviors. Even if the parents are out of their lives, they haven't got out of the mindset that this bad treatment isn't normal.

[@Russman67]

If I'm going into a fight, I want Rachel with me. She's the definition of ride or die. OP doesn't want a battle but Rachel is about that life! And if you have dirt in your past, you'd better stay on Rachel's good side because she will come for you. 🤣

[@truthseeker9249]

And I'm exactly the same way. I have ways of knowing things about people and hell hath no fury like a ME scorned. If someone is just that much of a monster I will stop at nothing to ruin their whole life. Especially if that person ruins someone else's life first. I'm the best ally you can have and I'm the thing that haunts your nightmares if you hurt my loved ones.

[@hollyberry0602]

Rachel seems like the kind of person you want on your side lol, gotta love it

[@terramarini6880]

She will raise a storm and ride it into battle for you. I want her on my side too.

[@affsteak3530]

Rachel knows where the bodies are buried and keeps a shovel close at hand. 😂

[@AlexRising_]

I’ve straight up refused to help a relative with something he needed tailored, citing that he’s been “a straight bitch, no chaser” my entire life about everything I do. Sucks to suck, treat your friends and family better 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Kayenne54]

Exactly so.

[@freedomcat]

For those wondering the Baker act allows commitment to a mental institution without the person's consent. Story one was set in Florida

[@AndyyWithAY]

Imagine the embarrassment of losing him to you?? OP needs to get some self esteem. This person has not been your friend for a long time. Her wanting you to pay and plan is the least concerning thing in this post. Block her on everything. Never see her again

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

2nd story: SIL doesn't like OP for making a dress... wants OP to make a dress... what a hypocrite!

[@trinaschnell4422]

I agree, I think she just wants a free dress. If OP made her pay up front, you can get her wouldn't get paid, and if he held onto the dress after making it, until he got paid, he's be houndedto make it a wedding gift. Best not make the dress at all!

[@traceygreet6436]

Story 1,The entitlement of this now not bride is amazing, good on her for making Ryan see sense.

[@lynnw7155]

My goodness, the drama in that friends group! Are they all like 16 years old? Lots of talk of middle/high school.

[@nadirimyers6643]

I’m confused why ppl think op wants Ryan? I see no indication of that. They’ve known each other since hs. If they wanted eachother they would…. Be together….

[@madambutterfly1997]

She expects you to do all these things and you’re not even invited to the wedding

[@kheventplanner]

"The best form of revenge,is a life well lived." That's what you're looking for Mark!❤❤

[@cb9825]

"She is not that bad" - what a wonderful definition of your partner 👀 it says all you need to know about their relationship.

[@annamcnarin]

Mark, I can def say my day always starts a little brighter hearing you chuckle. Story 1: Rachel should report her. We've got enough crap nurses/folk that slip through, we don't need more. And speaking of chuckling, that's what I'd do in story 2: laugh, cause Zilla's requests are that out of it.

[@tgbedini]

One part got me; bridezilla saying Op got upset over a joke. I'd say, "you asked me to plan and fund your wedding, but you weren't inviting me because you're jealous. Explain to me how that's funny. What's the punchline?"

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 NTA. Tell her it'll be a 3x the price as a wedding tax. If she agrees, do it. The nerve of her to disrespect you that way then expect a favor.

[@thatjeff7550]

That and include in the contract that she has no say in how it turns out after she gives OP an idea of what she wants.

[@hiro4344]

How about a 3x tax for being a jerk.

[@thedeck-buildingdemon8293]

If I had a nickel for every time I listened to a Reddit story on KZbin this week which tangentially mentioned the Baker Act, I’d have two nickels, which isn’t a lot but it’s weird it happened twice

[@loiracitr]

What's that?

[@utha5034]

“… and let her pick my outfit???” Lmao! Wow. Just wow.

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

Story 1: I kind of love Rachel lol, she was so ready for this 😂

[@ellorasg4525]

Story 2 reminds me of another story where a woman wanted her nephew to make a dress for her but refused to invite him.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: The audacity of talking down to someone, basically calling them gay and then asking them to make you a dress for your wedding. OP Is fairly kind by just saying no. He could have jacked up the price. He could have done shoddy work. Instead he just let her go find someone else to do her dress. Not the asshole.

[@jackchop1576]

A lot of those "I love my gays" types don't even actually like gay people. They think they exist for fashion advice, hair/make up tips, decorating etc.

[@akl2k7]

​@@jackchop1576I can only imagine them trying that nonsense with some gay bear who isn't into fashion or make up.

[@Azulakayes]

She is just an unpleasant idiot. I hope the groom dumps her.

[@OnewBiased]

If he jacked up the price it will make her become more entitled since she "paid good money for it". Unless it's upwards of hundreds of thousands of dollars, the hassle of dealing with this bridezilla-to-be is not worth the money 😂

[@Resilient_Sage88]

Dress story NTA sil is quite literally the meme 'Fellas is it gay to make your wife's dress?" But so funny how people who mock others for a skill they lack want to afford themselves of said skill when convenient.

[@l.g.2888]

Why is this like the 3rd or 4th story I've seen where someone expected OP to imvest time and money in a wedding they weren't even invited to? People are wild.

[@fibienn250]

I once agreed to make the bridesmaids for a friend/colleague. I’m a skilled hobbyist not a professional but it was a simple design that I’d made a couple of times already. I knew I was taking on a huge job but her mum (who would have made the dresses) had recently died and they didn’t have a lot of money. It was an absolute nightmare. She bought the wrong fabric so I had to change the design. Then she kept coming up with new ideas like hand sewing fabric roses on the hems. I admit that I tolerated way more than I should have but I didn’t like to let her down. In the end, the dresses were the worst things I’d ever made. One of them didn’t even fit properly because the bridesmaid lost a load of weight at the last minute and I didn’t have enough time to properly alter the dress. Never again! The only dress I will ever make for another wedding is my own daughter’s.

[@LadyQuotes]

last story: I sew for fun. I do my own sewing only, but we have a group of friends who make or have made costumes and outfits in the past, and let's be real, it can be stressful. I spent months making an outfit, only to accidentally burn it with an iron resulting in a meltdown. I can not imagine the pressure that making a wedding gown would be, and you could not pay me enough to do it, especially for someone who doesn't even like me

[@kazzuo32]

I can't believe the balls of this woman that expect gifts from people they are not inviting to their wedding.

[@marychoppins8140]

Listening to Mark hee hee and giggle makes my sucky day much better. You are a delight Mark. ❤️

[@bunnyslippers191]

I love Mark's giggle! It's such fun!

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Story 2: I hope that we get a further update. OP sounds amazing!

[@johnleggett.8129]

I also had a vision pop into my head when I read that about all the stuff OP had dabbled in, but my vision was more of a suit of armour than a wedding dress. LMAO

[@hiro4344]

Saber of "Fate Stay Night" anybody?

[@Kayenne54]

Add in a chain link chastity belt. That no one has the key to. That way, she gets to go to ER and get cut out of a metal "lower body part" underwear item. Actually, some wedding outfits are almost like that already.

[@spibow]

today i was borderline forced to go to school by my parents even though i think i might have covid.. I tested negative a few days ago but I've never felt so breathless exhausted and nauseous from a cold. I just got home, perfect timing for distracting myself from the awful day i had

[@D123-f9k]

I too enjoy making things, always have. Cooking, drawing, machining, welding, building small projects for theater and home renovations, 3D modeling and digital scenes, 3D printing. Recently became interested in sewing too but I don’t expect to do more then research and occasionally browse a Joann’s or Hobby Lobby to satisfy curiosity any time soon.

[@kristinecollier9155]

MARK, your cackle in the first story was the BEST THING in this video!! I laughed and smiled so big, it caught me off guard! Loved it! Love it when you "break" and show a hidden piece of yourself LOL

[@debbieroberts5866]

No contact that insecure bridezilla friend! On a side note, there are way to many expensive pre wedding events these days. Its ridiculous!

[@debbymccormack6525]

Hell no I wouldn't make her a wedding dress. I too am a crafter of many different mediums and sewing is one. No one wants to pay you what your time is worth and handmade items take time. Having said that, if you disrespect me in any way, don't come back asking for a favor whether you're paying me or not. It's not about money, it's about morals, integrity and self worth.

[@monkiesngoosies56]

"has a fit and sends her flying monkeys" killed me 😂😂 I love it lol

[@bunnyslippers191]

"Living well is the best revenge." ~George Herbert, a 16th Century poet.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S2: "She says I'm being a dick for holding something that happened years ago over her." That's a common excuse for people who do poorly and don't want to apologize (let alone change the behavior): "You're still mad about THAT?! That was in the past!" But 1) it's NOT "years ago," is it? Because she has been treating you poorly ever since she found out you made the dress for your wife. 2) Of course you're "still" upset about it: She never apologized, made reparations, OR stopped the behavior. NTA. Very similar to "Don't bite the hand that feeds you," Don't treat someone poorly and still expect favors from them.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

This is no friend of OP's. This is a very selfish, toxic woman-child who clearly expects OP to be a doormat. 🙄 OP needs to cut ties with this brat and Ryan might want to think twice before he marries her. After Update: I'm so glad OP cut ties with Bridezilla. Good riddance to bad entitled rubbish. I'm also very happy Ryan dumped Bridezilla. And good for Rachel for wanting to purge the group of toxic friends. Toxicity shouldn't be welcomed into a group of friends. And it's clear that OP's mom have grossly failed her in terms of being a parent and having a loving and healthy relationship with others, considering what OP said. 😒 In any case, I'm glad OP and her true friends are all getting away from the toxic trash. ❤ And OP was kinda like me. I prefer taking the high road too. And I've always believed that living well is the best revenge. 😊

[@JoshuaEdward12]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@JoshuaEdward12]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

[@JoshuaEdward12]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@Aziza_Nyxie_Jynx_Ashling]

I feel for op I had to drop a bunch of “friends” and “family” off before and it horrible and hard, and heartbreaking and so so lonely when you realize they were never my friends (or family) in the first place.

[@McBruce999]

S1: The gall of some people who think they can do, demand, and say whatever they please, just because they are getting married, is beyond belief and something to comprehend. They think them getting married is somehow doing a favor for the rest of the world. Such people's marriages don't last long, their marriages are made to be destroyed in one way or another.

[@beatapogorzelska1241]

Ex bridezilla lives in her own delusional bubble and I suspect some mental problems.She may seem functional but be insane at the same time.Her expectations about OP's commitment into the wedding and special treatment for her future child are nutty enough but the bulling which followed fully qualifies for a serious psychiatric assessment.

[@jodilynnt9418]

Last story, Please don’t make SIL wedding dress, please. When one of my sisters married she didn’t ask me to be a bridesmaid, but to sew ALL the 6 bridesmaid dresses. I declined. They hired a professional seamstress, which I am not. However, at their scorching outdoor summer wedding all 6 pink stretch VELVET bridesmaids dresses, had their satin lining hanging down below the hem. 😲 it looked awful. Soooo glad I declined to make those dresses since I heard she was a bridezilla with the seamstress. Fortunately, I didn’t have to deal with that portion of her wedding.

[@Standinthegap4ever]

If you do it, have an attorney write up a contract & make her sign it. & get it notarized. She’s wanting an almost free dress. She thinks she’ll get a $2,000 -$3,000 + dress for $1,000 or less. NOPE! You’re a designer/taylor & will charge accordingly. $4,500 at least. The goal is to make it more convenient & cost effective for her to just buy one. There will be no copying of designer’s dresses. There will be no beading, no sequins, no fringe etc… She purchases all materials. (She’ll get any leftovers) She must pay 75% up front in cash. She gets ONE design change which must be done xx number weeks before wedding. There are xx number of fittings. You, the taylor, are not responsible for any fluctuations in weight of the bride. You will only do measurements, fittings etc with two witnesses aka assistants present. Of your choosing. All transactions, fittings etc are final Last 25% is due at final try on or no dress. There will be a bridezilla surcharge of 25%. In the event of a three strikes bridezilla event ALL work ceases. The dress will be handed over AS IS irregardless of progress & 25% of stated fee will be kept in addition to the bridezilla fee. I’m sure you, your wife & your maliciously compliant attorney will be able to come up with more. One of your assistants will accompany the bride when she tried on or removes the dress. She’ll never be left alone. This will ensure she doesn’t steal anything or sabotage the dress. Your daughter’s will love having a daddy that can make their dresses/clothing & outfits for their baby dolls. Both your sons & your daughters will enjoy having cool outfits for their bears & other stuffies

[@Azulakayes]

What! Wow! I love analytical and detailed oriented responses like this. Wish OP happens to see this one day.

[@Standinthegap4ever]

@@Azulakayes Lol, I try to rein it in. But every so often…. …… the petty escapes escapes. & it’s better than the alternate “penalty” where one wouldn’t like the roommate that would assigned you. Lol

[@theweirdones7544]

Why is this becoming more common???

[@AppleStrawberryLove]

So, Mark, I am listening while making myself celebratory hot chocolate because I applied and got accepted for a one on one portfolio review with an art director from a major animation studio. I'm an animation major in college (second to last year~!) so this is an amazing opportunity.

[@hilaryone2213]

🔥🔥🔥🔥 Go get it! Happy for you!

[@hiro4344]

Awesome! Best wishes in your career!

[@angerydestroyer]

Congrats hope you have a amazing time 🎉

[@ShinTriAce]

Congratulations 🎉

[@Psibound]

Second story: I would explain to my in laws I did this to people in my life that has made me feel loved and welcomed. Then explain on our wedding day she made x comment and kept me at a great distance. So how could I make something for someone like that. Because I put a piece of the love I feel towards those people in to making there dress.

[@darnelltucker9163]

Story 2: OP is definitely NTA. He showed he's multi-talented. Sara failed to realize respect goes along way. She thought little of him in his skill like he was some DL guy. Now, she thinks she's entitled to have a dress made by OP just because he did it for others? And to top it off, rather than take accountability for her words and apologize, she acted like an entitled b&^%%. Good for OP for sticking to his guns. It's not about the money, it's about respect and the principle.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I went to the gym after work, just got back. It's been a while bc I've had these short Fridays and have been going late morning. The first thing I found were these print leggings. They're very cute, but nothing really goes with them. Or so I thought. My Melody crop top is like a perfect match. I was so pumped. I'm going to do some writing tonight. Excited for the weekend.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Nice

[@missNekolover91]

story 2, OP's dad saying he should take the money and he is an idiot, but if someone disrespects him, there would be hell? since it's okay for a man to be disrespected

[@eldeano9964]

Ignoring/ghosting someone that feeds on drama and attention is the best thing to do to them. And narcissists hate it when someone sees through their BS. So much so as ro turn everyone against you out of fear that you expose their fake reputation. gee, another mean girl/bully going on to become a nurse.

[@neilmacke4039]

Story 2 : I’d make the dress but put water dissolvable stitching in it lol

[@Tammohawk1]

1. I'd of asked that woman if she had fallen and bumped her head hard because no sane person would ask that of someone else. 3. You don't do nice things for people who treat you poorly. I wouldn't mind a steampunk type of wedding dress. But then, I'm strange like that. lol

[@ScooterBond1970]

When he mentioned welding/wedding dress all I could think of was that music video with Ann Wilson in a welding mask.

[@alejarepinc8866]

So funny you brought up thinking of a steampunk dress! My mind immediately went there too.

[@UnicornOfDepression]

#1: No invitation, no present. #2: "You mocked me, even questioning my sexuality while attending my wedding, for making my wife's wedding dress. Now, you want me to make you a wedding dress? Hard pass."

[@JayeEllis]

"Living well is the best revenge."

[@jenniferhanses]

Story 2: NTA. At this point, there is at least a small level of bad blood between you. So even looked at in the best light, you should refuse, saying that due to the past problems, you worry that any mistakes or flaws in the dress will be perceived as deliberate sabotage and make the relationship much, much worse. SIL deserves a tailor who doesn't have an unpleasant relationship with her. (And you deserve to work with people who are nicer to you.

[@kumikor3392]

Story 1: the fact that OP thought the went to far by clearing their name means they're the epitome of a doormat 🙄 Story 2: absolutely not. I'm not working hard for someone who disrespected me. The family should make the dress, since they care so much

[@jordanquinn4528]

QOTD: “I wouldn’t want to make a dress for an arsehole either.” 🤣

[@sammieg8641]

Umm if she knows something that could end her career then she needs to do it…. That is just scary since she is a nurse…

[@otravis676]

Hey Mark steam punk is awesome and I kinda got the same image in my head about op's wife's dress lmao

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark stay safe please peace.

[@Akiku2]

Citizen Soldier said it best: “I’m moving on, I’m on the mend cause living well’s the BEST revenge!”

[@weezylone]

"Living well is the best revenge." Attributed to seventeenth century poet and COE clergyman George Herbert. His poems are collected in the volume "The Temple: Sacred Poems and Private Ejaculations", which is hilarious, but that word meant something different in the 1600s.

[@Jermbot15]

Rule 1, nobody is entitled to a present. And for that last story, ain't no man can compel another to engage in conmerce against his will.

[@TheMimiSard]

I think the saying is "The best revenge is living well".

[@DFullerLisa]

Why is she even a God mother to her child? Email her text her with clear expectations that you aren't covering their wedding so she doesn't try to sue you. Take those emails and texts and send it to all the bridal party.

[@anthonym6119]

The bride didn’t ask her to pay for everything for no reason she actually believes OP is weak enough to do it,I can kind of see why she would think that way.

[@lisakaz35]

PennyArena nailed the entitled SIL over the wedding dress but I expect to also include this an excuse to not pay OP. SIL gives me weasel vibes.

[@angerydestroyer]

Story Two: Nta don’t Be a jackass and you won’t be treated like a jackass.she needs to apologize and still kick rocks cause your time is more important then hers op

[@hiro4344]

Entitled B: Makes unreasonable demands. Friend: Tells them off and hangs up. Entitled B: *Text* Sooo we're still on for tomorrow right?

[@ataleofcoffee842]

Overall I'm with the comments for story 2, but I think it depends on how OP wants things to go. I think there is room for a conversation with SIL about how her comments made her out to be a deeply unpleasant person and how OP doesn't want to hang out with anyone who could take his skills in a *hobby* that he uses to show his love for others. But based off the description OP gives I'm not super optimistic about it and I'd just say 'nah'. But

[@AngelaNortonTyler]

These high school kids are too young to get married. Ridiculous.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Bridezilla is wrong, but there were parts of OP's post that did sound like she was right about OP and Ryan. But, then she said the thing about them meeting in a grief group and it made more sense. You would be bonded to someone like that The saying is living well is the revenge

[@luna_rain2521]

As someone who does fiber crafts a piece of you goes into every piece never give part of yourself to someone who wouldn't cherish it for being a bit of yourself

[@affsteak3530]

OP #1 Rachel is one of those scary friends that are good to have in your corner.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

1- what! WHAT! This is insane! Ryan needs to run!

[@johnpexton3614]

The last story reminds me about the 17 year old male that loves making dresses and his aunt refuses to let him come to the wedding but demanded a dress

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Wow! This sounds like it's going to be a doozy! Good afternoon, Mark, and a shout out to the waffle gang! Love you all! ❤

[@dwilcox7706]

Mark - The best revenge is a life well-spent

[@onepieceisking5493]

Story 1, nta. Update, so typical that after bridezilla blew up her relationship she blames op 🤦. That tells you right there who she really is. Given that she's now wanting to "weed out" to see who her true friends I'm betting she's a narcissist. She's just getting more upset that people are coming to their senses and are siding with op plus now ex fiance. Also, to "play both sides" to blow things up means she's trying to ruin op and make look bad but in reality she's showing her true colors. Update 2, she's only trying to play that angle because she's trying really hard to make op the villain. Op, I would at least, expose bridezilla's lies and expose her again. Or else she's going to keep trying to pin everything on you.

[@pfffetc6149]

Did i miss something? "Weed out" and "Play both sides", that is Rachel, getting more evidence ,wanting to nuke the bridezilla 's life. She is the one standing up for op and Ryan.

[@Splatoon_Kirby]

Dude you got it wrong, Bridezilla isn't the one doing that stuff, its OP's friend Rachel whos doing it TO Bridezilla to ruin Bridezilla.

[@onepieceisking5493]

@@pfffetc6149 oh, I get it now

[@dmurphy82]

The best revenge is a life well lived. - George Herbert

[@HMac411]

For some people...high school never ends

[@jameslyons6655]

When these creatures reveal themselves believe them and treat them accordingly.

[@Leathergirl76]

Evening Mark hope you had an amazing day 😊

[@ashab6806]

everyone in story 1 sounds exhausting

[@aawyfroggy723]

Did op find this friend group in a bin outside a spoons or smth

[@korthnanfortuna9675]

Rachel’s a good friend. I like her.

[@leslieKbp]

I just don’t get this trend of asking other people to do this stuff for nothing. So disrespectful, let alone ridiculous!!!

[@DameNickum]

A steampunk metal dress, with rivets, cogs and gears, with a leather corset top! I sew, make jewelry, quilt, paint, draw, write. That’s sounds like an amazing dress Mark!!!! I may have to attempt something like that, it would be an awesome costume or fancy dress 👗.😂. I would never do it, I’ve made so many baby quilts over the years, and they are rarely appreciated. It takes hundreds of hours to make even a baby quilt, a wedding gown would be hundreds if not thousands of hours. Don’t do it.

[@RRW359]

Story 1 I'd just be petty; fully pay for a venue in your name. How exactly are they supposed to kick out the person who's name is on the reservation? OP could probably threaten to kick them out if they don't allow them.

[@Justaperson354]

The only one is reasonable is a bachelorette party, the friends usually pay. But clearly they aren’t friends to the bride so I have no clue what she was on about

[@lilolmecj]

Seamstress here, no way, no how. I only sew what I want, for whom I want. One solution, aside from saying no, hell no, and don’t bring it up again is to set the price point so high, like 25,000. With 75% down , due before any fabric is purchased, should cool her enthusiasm.

[@Acatandanomad]

Did OP admit she's mostly aro? Yes? Then why the hades are people trying to say Ryan and Op should get together? Im so confused.

[@moonspider55]

Nope. My little seamstress heart doesn't put up with that kinda bs. Money or not, it is time spent thinking of that person while making something special. For an ungrateful bigot? Nah. Not worth any energy.

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 2 - If teh SIL is disrepectful to OP for being a man who likes to sew, this is like people saying "Cooking is for women!". No, no career is just for one gender. Women can go into heavy labour if they have the strength and can put up with the machismo. Cook is not for women only and most of the big chefs are men. My mental image of a fancy tailor is a tall thin man, so even when thinking of stereotyped ideas, sewing is a man's craft. I also hold that men who have the skills that are often called "Women's Work" are men who have a useful life skill. Men who can cook can cook their own food. Men who can sew or knit or crochet can make clothing for themselves. I respect that and say OP is a good guy for working on his craft (and it sounds like he's multi-talented craftwise).

[@uncleogrimacy]

If you don't plan it, what's she gonna do.... uninvite you?