BTT #14 - Red Flags With Single Mothers

[@drjohnsonhungwell5115]

Dating single moms RED FLAG Dating single moms with multiple children by different father's DEFCON 5

[@VoiceOfThe]

DEFCON 5 🤣

[@primalway1]

This was my primary error.....this chick was so bad, and I was sooo stupid.....I missed the 3 red flags that I was given BEFORE I met her...yea, that bad. 1000% agree with you

[@trailtrs1]

Single dad, widower of 4 very young sons. Refused to marry ANY single moms that tried to latch on me. I was solid and clear minded on my direction in life. Every single mom I ran into was very much less well of than I was concerning being a solid person. Most single moms are where they are because of choices that they made. Period

[@trailtrs1]

Clavius Magnus thanks

[@lawrencehammersley4945]

@@trailtrs1 sorry to hear about your loss , I will say one your ready to date eharmony may be your best choice. The process takes a while but it's well worth it

[@trailtrs1]

Muhammad Umer exactly why I never remarried

[@trailtrs1]

ranch3w the churches produce as much corrupt women as the society at large. There’s no end to the acceptance of that corruption

[@trailtrs1]

Muhammad Umer that is true. We are at the final throes of western civilization. It will happen just like the garden. Women eating this fruit from hell and simp men following the woman

[@nicos1097]

The fact she’s a single mother *is* a red flag

[@macioluko9484]

The size of Texas

[@yucatansuckaman5726]

NOT ALWAYS! but usually, typically, yes it is unfortunately true.

[@christopherloper7269]

@@macioluko9484 ]

[@AceSpade-h8o]

I speak the truth. Being a step dad is just a way of saying you got your life in order but in reality you don’t. I was so dumb and fucked one for 5 years. Mine was cool and all but that bitch always asked for money. Now she’s with a new dude who’s so obsessed with her. She has 4 kids and fuck that is soooo shot because they’re still 4 and 6 and the other 2 are 16 and 18. They still ask for money and when I’m not even with her they insist to ask me for money. Fuck it’s so annoying because I know that I can tell right now those kids have no future because they’re setup for failure. No jobs, and the 2 older ones are literally repeating grade 10 and 11. I just miss the sex but nothing else. Do you guys think the new man is gonna last or jump ship?

[@thebrowithnoname1703]

I once dated a single mother whose baby daddy had THREE other kids from THREE different women (making her baby momma #4). She dated this guy for over a year before she was knocked up. She knew about his reputation, even having little get-togethers with the other baby mommas and their children from time to time. So the evidence was presented before her. And yet, she still dated him and allowed herself to become pregnant. In the end, she refused to take ownership for her own actions and found it easier to blame him for being a master manipulator with a silver tongue. This when I started to become red pilled.

[@thebrowithnoname1703]

Exactly: It’s scary to think about. Luckily, I was only with her for 6 months. What gets me is that a lot of these women have a backwards way of thinking. Instead of viewing this dirtbag with multiple kids as a major red flag, it’s like they think, “Oh. He must know what he’s doing” kind of mentality.

[@thebrowithnoname1703]

brnt034 Actually, she’s white.

[@JostenJ]

This is gold 😭

[@thebrowithnoname1703]

Jay Foreign - True story, brah. And it’s more common than I thought

[@CEWIII9873]

Why on earth did you even get involved with her in the first place?

[@edenbreckhouse]

If you are a man of a certain age who is dating it's very hard to find a woman who isn't a single mother.

[@alanpepper7250]

Very true. We should be working to educate women on the mens side of the equation.

[@TheConscienceOne]

If take care of temple you can be 40 dating a 23 yr old thats how desperate these females are

[@alanpepper7250]

@@TheConscienceOne Thats so not true. At 23, an attractive woman has her pick of all men. Most women that age would that age would consider 40 as old.

[@trailtrs1]

Alan Pepper waste of time they don’t care

[@alphapimp0073]

I'm in my 30s and I will never date a single mother again.

[@hauntedhouse7827]

As someone who actually made that mistake i say, treat single mothers like they are radioactive!

[@s.bradley6089]

Absolute truth: "Her job (welfare), her kid, her cat, washing machine, then you" Spot on!

[@henryvargas2915]

Washing machine😂😂😂😂 oh man

[@chicomalo991]

Also, my buddy just got divorced by a single mom with 2 kids. He raised her kids for 10+ yrs. She left him for her rich boss. He is devastated and misses the kids he raised for 10+ years.

[@danbruno5945]

That's so sad she wouldn't consider him having them every other weekend despite the fact he has no rights 10 years man

[@joec1212]

Sounds about right. Most women nowadays are VISCIOUS! If you dont find a virgin Christian chick, or a widow once you're in your 30s you better settle into the idea that you cannot find real love.

[@TriforceOfTheGods80]

Both are idiots, the beta simp & the boss that can get better.

[@you_a_noob8295]

Joe c the Christian smistian!!! You are not truly red pill or awake if you follow religion it is a form of control they want you dumbed down about this shit

[@scotabot7826]

@@you_a_noob8295 You are totally wrong my friend. I agree about the "religion" man made part, because man made "religion". Now, God is very real, and having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ is something that is as real as the air you breath each day. You want the best life, don't follow mans rules, follow the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

[@lestat9012]

Few observations. They will never see their single motherhood as a negative like if you date them it shouldn’t be a big deal. As well her “ex” has womb imprinted her, in a sense she’s always linked to him. If you dare complain about anything related to her kids you get “you knew what you were getting into”

[@jaylee6769]

Dated a single mother for a few years. She was TOTALLY emotionally unavailable. used our relationship like an escape from her stressful life as a broke single mother. when things got more serious she pulled the old "I'm looking for love" break up line even though we were starting to cuddle at night. tried to get her back but she became an ice queen. I did develop a heart for her son too, but she didn't want me around him too much probably because she had future plans to find a provider and I wasn't it. more hypergamous than regular women because they have a child to feed. like blatantly so. totally focused on finding a man with a good job to provide

[@you_a_noob8295]

Jay Lee on the hypergamy note. there are single moms doing fine providing without child support or being handed gov support in the 2nd most expensive province in Canada but I’m not average statistic lol sorry you had a shitty experience though it’s always sad when the kiddos get thrown I. The middle of shit storms that their mothers stir up and these women are cold....they must not want companionship which from what I’ve been raised to believe is the utmost importance in a relationship growing old together and travelling together whatever a couple likes. That was what I thought was the end goal

[@jaylee6769]

@@you_a_noob8295 she does want to travel. that was one of the reasons she chose the other guy. he could afford it, I couldn't

[@you_a_noob8295]

Jay Lee I hope that you get to travel and have a good life as well You will find someone good 👍

[@jaylee6769]

@@you_a_noob8295 thank you for your kind words 😊

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

@@jaylee6769it’s because he doesn’t have nothing going for himself meaning goals or purpose

[@jorgecadette1127]

This show is getting better and better.

[@plugchapman]

I had a single mom introduce me to her son our FIRST date. I hit it that night and changed my number

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

Good job red pill all the way

[@momof4708]

From experience, Dating/ Marrying a single mother, you are playing ‘Russian Roulette !! It’s that simple!! I was once a single mother and what I know from life seasons of being a mother for 24 yrs, I wouldn’t have what I have now. I have a very different life story, but I choose to become a better me. Yes, there are good single mothers out there, but you are not only marrying the mother. You are inheriting her family. She (mother) might not be crazy, but her family is a whole other story. My son (15yrs) will be encouraged to NEVER date a woman with a child. I have full support from his dad/my husband of 19yrs.

[@TheProphetJoshua]

Every problem every caller has on every BTT podcast is rooted in not having options.

[@you_a_noob8295]

Joshua Dausch and you have many?

[@TheProphetJoshua]

@@you_a_noob8295 I do but even if I didn't, options would fix any frustration, my short attention span means I need a different date every weekend

[@victorashul]

for randy : "YOU LOVE WHAT YOU INVEST IN!" you invested a lot and that's why you love her! CUT YOU LOSSES!

[@JD-fx1np]

Sunk cost theory

[@donyoung3332]

Richard Cooper takes beta blockers every day.

[@se7ensiinz]

Don Young lmao beta blockers

[@WOODY-REBEL]

Omg Rich. Thank you. I listen to your book every day on the way to and from work. I've also listened to The Tactical Guide To Women multiple times. These 2 books have changed my life. I had oneitis for 5 years! Finally coming out of it now. I don't know what I would have done if I didn't find your channel. Respect Rich

[@RANDassociatesinc]

Funny you should mention: I dated a single mom years ago. I discovered over time that she was the Queen of drama and poor choices; given a smart choice or the destructive choice, she would choose the destructive and thus LEAST effective choice EVERY time. Once I saw the pattern, I had to go and when I broke up with her, to your point, I actually told her that “while I cannot tell you what to do or criticize your choices, I cannot support the choices you are making and I have to go.” One crocodile tear fell and that was that.

[@basemanawakens6089]

😅🤣😂

[@DeyvsonMoutinhoCaliman]

Red flags with single mothers? They are the very embodiment of a red flag. It's a red flag so big you can see it from space.

[@mikeheaton8424]

100%

[@robbrown39]

My step dad, who I call dad, definitely changed my life for the better. I can't even imagine where I'd be if he didn't raise me and my other siblings. And being red-pilled, I respect him that much more but taking on a responsibility irrespective of the fact that doing so was not in his best interest.

[@thecommentator9148]

He had the best interest for you and you and your sibs. He obviously loves you , cuz I dont know many men who would do this.

[@ishouldbemoreanomymous4949]

I’m getting the feeling that even when women have it all there’s always something to complain about. I guess they don’t understand that life is not about making them happy or comfortable it’s about making yourself fulfilled.

[@kattefelt8819]

That's people in general. Everyone's obsessed with 'keeping up with the Jones'.

[@you_a_noob8295]

There’s a very very small few of us with confidence and fulfilled lives most I’d say a good 99.5% of women are truly unhappy with themselves it’s mostly the way they were raised to seek validation instead of thinking “ hey! I’m good enough in my abilities to be my best version” lol I had an odd upbringing and it’s served me well 👍...maybe I should coach them......🤔$$$

[@basemanawakens6089]

@@you_a_noob8295 naah, it ainy worth the money lol

[@lifewithbenniethewonderret5941]

The guy at 55 minutes cant see his blind spots. His going to call in again in about 2 years telling Rich how he should have listened. She won’t ever make herself and let alone him first in her priority list.

[@joee1213]

When you just said to that Australian guy that you would love for him to put the effort energy and resources that you are investing into that woman and take care of yourself to get to that level of a 6 figure income. That hit home big time man. Big time. Wow

[@you_a_noob8295]

Joe E I loved that bit of advice it can work for both sexes...er a select few women and most men lol

[@RJboyz20]

Very true about the take ownership! One of the things that irked me with the single mother I was dating for 2 years was she would constantly change her jobs, because "her bosses were not nice and treated me horribly". And I would tell her not to burn bridges and try and leave on good terms...nope she blew up each of her exits from the jobs so there would be no chance of going back to it. In the 2 years I was with her she went thru 4 jobs and the reason being she wasn't treated well!! So that should have been a red flag!

[@Axess-sv8nq]

I was never allowed to say anything concerning her kids and her not being able to say NO to them. The oldest was out of the house but a big time female narcissist monster. She was vicious to her mother and I wasn't allowed to say anything about it or I would become the bad guy. No thanks. I walked.

[@joee1213]

One thing I’d like to point out about taking on her kids, her ex, her issues, is you have entered her frame. It’s not possible for her to enter yours entirely. Just something that I’ve learned from you Captain Cooper.

[@victorashul]

for jesse : SHE IS JUST TRYING TO VIRTUE SIGNAL!!! SHE IS NOT AN UNICORN!

[@JesusChrist-xk9ee]

Got in contact with two ex-girlfriends yesterday on Facebook after having them blocked for over two decades, both single moms....glad to know I wasn't the problem back in 96 and 97.....

[@charliedallachie3539]

As a single bachelor who has no kids, it’s kind of a turn off dating a woman with a kid...although I know once you’re in your 30s it’s hard to find women without kids. It’s a responsibility far more than having a dog .......and it’s not your own,...so.....while I do want my own kids, I don’t want to take care of someone else’s kids. Give the Aussie a break

[@alphapimp0073]

Just go for young 20 year olds with no kids. Fuck single moms and avoid them like the plague.

[@charliedallachie3539]

RuleOfFree that’s the plan, I just got out of unemployment and the wreck my ex left me in but no kids no marriage no debts. Can only go forward

[@danbruno5945]

Everyone's wrong lol, Correct answer is career driven woman (age 33-38)with no kids -No nonsense -Split costs when going out for dinner -Will sometimes get you dinner -Will sometimes be waiting outside your home in there Mercedes - You can plan investments long term with out any bullshit(2 incomes) -Holidays abroad (She will treat you as well as you treating her)

[@you_a_noob8295]

John Peter don’t want old guys at 20

[@redmaple8875]

Very interesting topic and show. Always look forward to Tuesday mornings when I can listen to BTT on my way to work.

[@abc-bn8qe]

This Aussie guy is exactly where he should be. He's got very poor communication skills, he is struggling with his career, he's got no focus. Woman with 2 kids is full of red flags. They belong to each other.

[@chrissmith4025]

Just broke up with a single mom well technically she broke it off with me cause I called her out. No Sex attitude waste of money and time. She obviously went to the my daughter card looking for a dad for my daughter bla bla sad stuff but just wanting to say everything you teach is 98% on point

[@cosmicblooms]

Thank you so much for all you do. Men, stay strong and don't give up on working on yourself.

[@randyc7631]

Hey guys. I was the first caller. I am aware of the red flags in my situation and definitely suffer from oneitis. I only found the red pill and Richards work 5 months ago and admit I still have a lot of blue pill tendencies. I would love to just be completely red pill overnight but that’s not how it works for me. I still have work to do! Please comment and don’t hold back. It’s the cold hard truths that I need to hear to grow.

[@vikingsoftpaw]

Pull the ejection handle. Pop smoke and ghost.

[@UnPussified]

1,000,000 times harder to fix your situation, than to just let go. Your hope & desire is much stronger than your self-worth. Check out No More Mr Nice Guy (Robert Glover) & Dr Shawn T's book.

[@einhornisaman2973]

We understand the situation you are in. You don’t want to start over especially going cold turkey from sex. Just don’t get her pregnant man, that would be life changing for the worse. Have fun with her in a safe manner but you have to move on eventually.

[@sunshine6271]

Randy C If your relationship has deteriorated to the point that you are throwing away 8 hours of your life in a relationship workshop when you’re only in the dating phase, you need to pull the plug and move on.

[@calbaking]

5 months ago? It sounds like you are bitterly holding on to the blue pill mentality by saying "thats not how it works for me". Let go. Things will become very clear very fast.

[@HFTYKCK]

And I was raised by a single mother that taught me the only reason a relationship would end is because men cannot stay loyal... so I have invested everything into my first girlfriend and asked her if she wanted to marry me and have kids because I wasn't about to ruin that relationship.. She was hypergamous

[@HFTYKCK]

I worked full-time I paid for the bills all I wanted from her was to take care of our child while she stayed home but while she stayed home she got bored and needed attention.. Like 6 new potential mates kind of attention.. I used to beat myself up thinking I did something wrong or it was something I wasn't doing right that made her seek out other attention but she went and got into another relationship with a guy and ended up having kids with him but ended that relationship the same way she's working on her third kid from a third dad. Every relationship she has been in has been advertised on Facebook as "he's the one she's always been looking for", "Hes perfect" but a few months down the road they're breaking up.

[@dunzy1825]

That advice to the Aussie was very brutal but much needed. He seems like he didn't take it well but that's the point of asking for advice. Sadly, he is still in the honeymoon phase.

[@ReventonSpeed]

It's like he is paralyzed by a scarcity mentality, I mean damn he's 6ft tall, that's such a great start for him and he doesn't realize it!

[@JD-fx1np]

@@ReventonSpeed and he knows and teaches karate! And only 36. And no kids. He's totally limiting himself with that woman. Big mistake

[@TatiSaysSo]

Did I just hear that guy say he bought a house with someone he wasn’t even married to?

[@opticracer3927]

Why what could happen?

[@chrissmith4025]

My step dad changed my life for the best no doubt he had 2 sons so I got 2 brothers no girls but from 10 to id say 25 we did not mix props to that man for doing what he did he put up with years of stepson abuse

[@KeepinItOneHunnnid]

...and he's talking about middle-class single mothers here, multiply all of this by 100,000 if you're talking about blue-collar single mothers.

[@mirlosr7124]

I was thinking that...at least they completed the highschool

[@adamsimmonds9326]

Really like this show. It works well between the two of you.

[@jamiehruby5118]

My favorite story, I know it first hand. Dude dating a single mom, kids in tow. Three cats in the house, two of which belong to the daughter. He is left his home to live in her back yard in his camper because he is allergic to cats...you will never be a high genuine priority in almost all situations.

[@rmjmoviereviews6876]

1:01:23 " The general of the Save a Hoe Army" Comedy gold!!!! I'm taking that qoute! Priceless!

[@Asdfbedffhdsxe345]

I dated a single mum with two kids, I am a full time single dad after a divorce. I thought this could work.... who totally foolish was I. She was an amazing actress and I fell for it and got her pregnant, she was so bat$hit crazy that I ended it. We have a daughter who is four and she hasn’t let me see her for a year... Stay away guys... I’m so grateful for this channel

[@redleaderone8429]

been there done that

[@Happy-Me.]

I love this stuff. So much great content that is so Educational. Thanks boys!

[@sctalk691]

Yea I date single mothers and the ones that put you first are ok with me. When they start speaking and nausea about there kid I get missing, and that eventually sends the message. If they don't respect your time and treat you like a King, replace and keep it pushing.

[@Inquisitive-Minds126]

"The kid hates me" I felt that; the kids loved me bro and yet when I broke up with her she accused me of eating her kid's food. Leave that relationshit Bro.

[@verumbellator6899]

Those who criticize and become angry at individuals and their opinions have a lot of wounds to heal. No way should we allow others to make us feel bad about ourselves. Don’t let the negativity or abuse into your being. I have had two extremely abusive relationships, starting when I was 16 through to my late 40’s and a number of failed attempts elsewhere. I finally figured out that it was me and only me that kept me feeling sad and hurt about theses situations. Never have I, when going through this transformation, have I ever hated men as there are many wonderful men in my life that are not romantic. Dad, brother, uncles, coworkers and friends. As far as the negative comments regarding you Richard and your attractiveness, they are way off base because as far as I’m concerned you are a very sexy man.

[@KelAda44]

So should get I get out of the relationship? YES GET OUT OF IT. I know that she's a mother of two, what should I do? GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! Even though she does a few things that make me unhappy but I like her. GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! But she makes me happy what do you think? GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP!!! What are you trying to say to me? GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP!!!!

[@chrishatcher9239]

At 20:09 plus, dr. Sean explains why he's not reflexively opposed to dating single moms and then proceeds to give every reason why a man should be reflexively opposed to dating single moms LOL

[@BookGolem]

to quote TFM "Just get a doll!" "She's got good morals and values." No she doesn't. If she did she wouldn't be a single mother. The Japaneses have a term for women over 25 Christmas cake. No one wants them there after that age like no one wants holiday food after the holiday. Would you rather eat a soft moist cake or a dry crusty one. Would you buy an off brand 30+ year old rusty beater car for $500,000 or more? Men are like wine they get better with age. Women are like cheese they get stinkier and moldier. Love is just a chemical addictions that fades over time. The older a woman gets the crazier they get.

[@42BETWO]

I think this dialogue could benefit from integrating more of the language and concepts of the professional counseling community and psychology. To identity childhood traumas that shape “anxious” / “avoidant” / stable attachment styles, and how they interact.

[@steffiec5323]

Yes. The throwing in the kids, I've never even understood it. And I've always actually judged and pointed this out to others. It is a way of manipulation and mystifies the getting to really know each other.

[@Happy-Me.]

If I find a woman with Anxiety issues and she self medicates especially with Alcohol it screams Cluster B (BPD) to me. The guy at 1:08:00 glad you got away.

[@macioluko9484]

@5:50 It's analogous to talking about money printing and only focusing on the positive nominal side, while completely ignoring the inflationary side...

[@0my]

I'm always fighting with my ex about custody and money. Against my will. I hope I'm not a red flag. She doesn't win, but she keeps doing it. I finally got sick of it and got a lawyer.

[@CEWIII9873]

Why didn't you get an attorney in the first place?

[@0my]

@@CEWIII9873 would have. Was bankrupt, literally

[@CEWIII9873]

@@0my okay, what has your internet research yielded?

[@rob4643]

This show saves lives.

[@technicaltrucking8704]

I dated a single mom with 2 kids. The relationship was a roller coaster, she had legal battles and wanted me to testify on her behalf. She cheated on me with her ex husband, was a compulsive liar about everything. She was a alcoholic who told me she would quit for me. She didn't, just got better at hiding it. I don't have any kids. I left her because of her lying. She couldn't even remember what story she told me. And when she would tell a story they were so off the wall it wasn't even believable. She blocked me on social media before we split for almost a year. We would take trips together with the kids and post about her trips with her kids like i wasnt ever there. When I walked away from that train wreck, She had a new boyfriend within a week in a half. Then unblocked me so i could see how happy she was. I found out about her lies of stopping drinking through social media. Probably a rebound. He's got 2 kids and divorced. I dodged a bullet, but recovering has been difficult because I lost 2 kids I loved and a dog. Heartbreak 400 %

[@rareairal]

First time listener great material great treatment but for some of those callers it is like Free Counseling Central and take way too long instead of basic, condensed questions which are going to benefit broader sectors of the audience.

[@Artmesa]

My dad was dating a women who was a terrible person and I couldn't figure out how well her kids turned out. Their dad seemed cool but I think it was their stepmom that really helped raise them to be good people. Just my two cents on positive stepmoms.

[@bliglum]

I like that, the only time the women admitted they made a mistake.... Was in mistakenly picking such a 'dirtbag' guy... LOLOL!

[@InvincibleExtremes]

Food for thought... it's not your place to discipline or have any authority over anyones kids. That's a surefire way to land in hot water. The children already have a father, and unless she's willing to give him sole custody to pursue a relationship with you, steer clear. I'm a single dad with 50/50 custody and wouldn't tolerate anyone having the audacity to think they have the slightest authority over my kids. No way in hell.

[@stevenlightfoot6479]

This is a great and valuable show. I liked Shawn pointing out here that some women do in fact take ownership of their problems, and agreed there is some self-selection going on - anyone who winds in theory usually is there because they acknowledge at least to some degree that they need to do something different. I also agree with Rich that many women with problems who have not yet gone to therapy do not in fact own their problems, which IS the problem - denial isn't just a river in Egypt. Same story applies equally to men.

[@mrvalvet9856]

Hey Richard! Can you do an BTT episode on insecure women?

[@kattefelt8819]

ooooh I second that!

[@you_a_noob8295]

Yes that would be interesting Other women I know think they are fooling everyone I can see those insecurities like a radar and I would love to hear Rich’s take on them The fake lips butts and boobs are a huge beacon for insecurity

[@steffiec5323]

Learning so much on this. As a single mother. My fucking up has been centuries ago, since I've been challenging myself and my biases. Doing pretty good. Thank you for this. Be well. Ciao

[@gardencity3558]

37:55 to the brother in Edmonton it's clear you have major doubts about your relationship otherwise why did you call in? Listen to intuition and dump this chick. Get clear while you can.

[@flashylights]

11:58 that's a good point about the money. I had a friend that had 2 kids made less but had more disposable income than me for a few months and then struggle for the rest of year. I have one child but no govt assistance and try to avoid these pitfalls by watching videos like mentioned. It helps to know mens perspective the raw truth.

[@jackieruso6493]

That John Alba guy kinda upset me. I'm not a single mother but I've dated single dads before and some of them also got some massive entitlement issues. That's not just a single mom issue but a lot of these issues spoken of in the video can apply to single fathers as well (with a few differences here and there). This kind of advice helps me as a single child free woman navigate the dating pool now that I'm in my 30s and there's more bachelors who are single dads.

[@timb7298]

So many friends of mine get pisssseeeddd when i share videos like these etc. They are all dating crazy single moms with multiple kids out of wedlock. My friend is 29, environmental engineering grad 4.0, but he is getting played by a 23 year old with 3 kids to different men. He calls me asking for advice saying," i hate to say it but you are right usually". She sends him snapchats where you can see bum looking black men in the background of the snaps. Arms etc.

[@freshd6492]

u say that about blk guys cuz one stole your girl. or 2 ur lame and have no game and clearly see brothas have the girl u want or 3 all of the above

[@pmcdmac7278]

This guy speaks the truth👍

[@CC-wt9vi]

Great show guys, keep up the good work and information. 👍

[@dannylin5980]

The fact that she is a single mom, with a kid from another MAN. That in itself, is enough for me to never engage with one. Needless to say date one

[@robzombie5928]

As for the Aussie guy if you dont want out of the relationship you will have to face up to the reality that you will never be 1st priority to a parent. Single Mother or single Father a good one should have their kids as the main priority.

[@liberalhippie9902]

HEY RICHARD and SHAWN have you heard Dr. Helen Smith?! Get her on the show NOW!

[@stefanoicepick]

Shawn mentions her in his book

[@starryeyedbrea]

This is the first time I’ve ever heard of you/your channel. I am impressed by both of your apparent insights (is that grammatically correct?) *My stepmom is and was the best “thing” that ever happened to me and gave me the tools I used later with my own step daughter that created a good, lifelong relationship with her.

[@yucatansuckaman5726]

Oberlin college......hmmm im having a big think right now fellas....

[@jimmieparker8093]

I dated a single mom..my friends clowned me...i had my own everything....she had horrible bad ass kids...they were nasty..house was disguting cat poop every where...she would not kitty litter 3 months old in bathroom she never bought more so they use it all in house...the house was full of gnats and flies.... It was freaking disgustingher...her 20 yo son did nothing but layup in bed all day while i worked...paid bills..took care of her kids...he would play game all day and yhem lay up with his girlfriend..they were both freeloaders..thet showed no rrapect her daughter constantly stole from me she stole my daughter chriatmas gifts and she did not get punished she would scream at her mom and her youngest would cry and curse all day i get off from work and had to feed her kids because she was lazy..her 5 yo son pee on floors and walls he never got in trouble....her mom begged me to get my credit good to get a house...then my credit got to 700 and then her mon said we should wait til her daughter credit build up...my mom told me to get my dumb ass out the relationship....her mom would never tell her to do anything around the house but she wanted me to work 6 days a week so i can get us a house....i said hell no packed my ish and left...i bought a house with like 2 acres and a nice car thats paid off....she still in nasty trailor park getting eviction notice because her kids terrorize the park and her son wont cut grass pick up poop or take out trash....leaving was the best desicion i ever made.....it was 2 years of my life. Wsted but now im back on track....all my friends kept telling dont be capn save a hoe....her husband left her for a reason....lol....and they were correct...😂

[@georgemulligan8958]

Congrats Richard. Great Job

[@LatimusChadimus]

Context matters and $1,000 more in disposable income is a lot different than $1,000 more of income because they may not have the same set of expenses in their budget

[@kevinhallett1112]

Thank you Richard, you saving mens lives.

[@redleaderone8429]

i knocked up a single mom her ex came back i convinced him to adopt and i walked

[@trailtrs1]

Hook up with a single mother and five years from now you’ll just be the ex also

[@dirtycee6887]

Less then a year.....

[@gavins6627]

So true man....with me 3 years and because I did not marry her she just groomed me. I dodged a huge bullet.

[@trailtrs1]

@@JBS2018 Boy is that true.

[@turnbucklemagazine7296]

These callers need to learn how to get to the point MUCH quicker.

[@Artmesa]

I don't we are talking about co-parents here. A true co-parent keeps a clear boundary between kids and boyfriends/girlfriends.

[@bmxrgc]

You guys are amazing!! Keep it up!

[@Rational_Driver]

I've been watching a lot of these videos and am wondering if there has ever been an episode about dating single moms coming from the child's perspective and how to get over any ambivalent feelings that come up when a guy starts trying to date your mom. In my case I watched my dad walk out on my family and within a week, one of his buddies came over sniffing around. I would love to hear Rich and Sean's opinion on the matter.

[@athenastarbrite2955]

Before, the man was after the cat. Now, it’s the cat, then, the broken down washer and dryer in the basement, THEN , the man. Rich @ 13:35 in.

[@sergioruiz1936]

Currently dating a single mom. Started out great. But now all the red flags are showing. She lied about how she wasnt looking for a baby daddy. Now its fucking clear that's what she wants. She expects me to move in with her in a period of 2 months or so with virtually no planning. Which is ridiculous. I'm also not for it as I'm transitioning jobs for much higher pay. But if I say anything shell use her kid against me. As I love her kid, but i know it's not my kid. Not my kid, not my responsibility, she keeps trying to shove it on me. But I ain't having it. I honestly wish I stayed just fucking single moms and keeping relationships with women who don't have children. End of rant Cheers

[@CEWIII9873]

Updates?

[@littlecozettescrew6818]

These callers were hard to get through...🤦🏼‍♂️

[@comodestshe]

I’m a single mom I actually enjoyed this discussion .... both ends are very true a lot to think about when I think about dating...thx🤗

[@gillan5]

I am 60 (3 grown up childreen) and will have a date with a 59year old woman who is 2times divorced and has 4 children (one boy 17 living with her and moving out shortly). Jesus, this conversation about single moms gives me the creeps. rgds from Germany

[@bighands96]

That's totally different on your age bro, how the hell will you find a woman who doesn't have a son on your age group? Only those who were infertile

[@abbycyr5557]

how bout if the new guy she is dating treats the kids like his own after just meeting them and her

[@j.mad414]

did it… still did NOT wrk! my ex eventually even got jealous of the relationship that i had/developed with her two kids!

[@homediddy383]

How can I find Paul's channel? I've looked on KZbin and google.

[@noseefood1943]

Mom with kids is not single she is 1+n

[@hallaisvanessa5863]

Your vidéos are great!

[@sarahscalpel561]

oof when that guest guy, not Rich, said no one has said their stepmom really made a difference in their life, that fucking hit as I am a stepmom, or attempting to be lol it's a fucking trip.... though I might be running for the hills, it really shows how stepmoms have it even worse possibly than stepdads, isn't that telling? lol because of how single dads treat stepmoms vs single mommies and the stepdads.

[@johnpuckett1880]

Thank you where were you 8 years ago

[@Ineverwantedahandle]

I don't understand how dudes don't already fucking know this. Do you know how many hot high value men I've talked to who are messing around with single mom's? I just don't get why they don't have any self respect or standards for themselves. One guy told me it was annoying how this chick wanted him to be an insta dad. WTF?! This guy could literally bag any chick he wanted. Absolutely makes no sense to me.

[@Doeexist]

These guys are saying the things they know are red flags yet make excuses for them. Mad.

[@fejukas1]

That karate guy is an absolute morron

[@JohnPyle]

So if I’m a single dad at almost 50 what do I do.