BTT #71 - 6 Risks To Dating Single Moms EVERY Man Must Understand

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[@Jerry-yb7po]

Rich..you and I think alike..we are both very alpha....I'm 6'2" like you....and a bad ass with women...we take no sh1t....we might feel a little guilty....but we hold frame....

[@oriamir8994]

Mouth clapping don't do that near the mic or half the younger people will be disgusted to listen to more than 2 minutes of it.

[@bufnyfan1]

On my 18th birthday, my parents threw a party for me and invited our next-door neighbors. "Jim," one of our neighbors who had married a single mother asked me if he could talk to me privately for a few minutes. I figured he just wanted to encourage me to finish my education/save for the future etc. Instead, he said in no uncertain terms NOT to date or get involved with any woman who already has a kid. I said to him that he seemed to be doing okay with it but then he told me that it was all a "facade" and his life was miserable. His 8-year-old step-daughter had made his life a complete nightmare and he couldn't discipline her as his wife made it clear that he wasn't her "real" father and had no role in doing that. He was on the "hook" financially for the kid's braces/school costs etc etc. This step-child had this delusional idea that her real father didn't come back because "Jim" had shown up and she would take out her anger on him over it. Best advice I ever got

[@SKBottom]

No one can take advantage of you without your permission. He should have just bailed.

[@jacquescousteau6810]

If you had ever witnessed what happens to men in divorce court you wouldn't be so gung-ho with your comments so maybe take a breath and use that melon on top of your neck for something other than a decoration!!​@@SKBottom

[@dutchcinephile1362]

What a terrible story He should not make the choice to stay with her

[@KnigelD]

Been there done that....😢

[@rm6857]

I can confirm this, my father was mothers 2nd out of 3...just used as sperm donors and money givers. Treated like dormat, problems everywhere.

[@daydentheonly]

Imagine me finding Rich and the red pill at 19. Life Saver.

[@lilo2469]

Absolutely👍

[@dougn8102]

Hey 19! I have a son your age and have red pilled him. Don’t get this information twisted. This is not about hating women. Don’t love women for what they could never be. Keep your eyes wide open. Follow the nine iron rules of Rolo Tomassi and you will be fine. Peace!

[@OnsideHaddock72]

I found him at 18

[@Joshliftsandfitness]

Imagine 16, I'm 18 now and I've been able to learn from others mistakes. Very Greatful 🙏

[@benderrodriquez]

Count your blessings mate!

[@Hevanz07]

I'm in a marriage with a mom who was single and I'm experiencing all of these issues. 100% of them. You know your stuff man.

[@danieldorn2927]

Thank you for being truthful

[@Hevanz07]

@Aisha Noor 🤣🤣

[@jchuy31145]

Get out if you don’t have kids yet bro

[@joshk2181]

Hows it going a year later

[@Hevanz07]

@@joshk2181 a lot has changed but a lot is the same. It is still a work in progress. I do not take the BS from her and she knows it. We are still married but we have had some crazy fights. 99% are about the kids. I'm consistent in my actions though. Every now and again she tries to show me feminist bs. I'm like that's your problem. You look at stuff that demonizes men. Come to me with your issues and we solve the problems ourselves. I stand my ground. I do not break my values and principles.

[@MrHabs66]

Since my divorce 4 years ago, I've had plenty of single mothers come after me. Shot all of them down quite easily. I've saved a ton of money and now I'm retired at the age of 53. Stay single, men.

[@SergioGurrola]

How many kids you raised?

[@MrHabs66]

@@SergioGurrola No kids. That was probably the main reason that I'm now retired.

[@misssincere5762]

@@MrHabs66 May I ask if your 53 years old are you dating younger women or expecting women your own age to not have children ? Or do you just not date ?

[@MrHabs66]

@@misssincere5762 I realize that women my age usually come with children, but I’ve decided not to date at all, no matter what a woman’s age is.

[@danpost18]

I totally agree bro my ex girlfriend took me to the cleaners I paid all her bills and them one day I told her I needed her help in paying bills. She dumped me so fast made my head spin. But now I have money I bought a jeep and living a happier life. Oh and she found another guy really fast.

[@dariuswalls1192]

Im so glad I found you. I just ended 5 yr marriage of a single mom of 2 boys. Every thing youre saying is 100000% correct about how men are looked upon as step father's

[@itzajdmting]

Thanks for your honesty. I nearly walked into a similar situation.

[@Tabktopless-z9b]

It would be hard too because I can imagine you would of bonded with the sons.

[@thehawk1138]

You still around, going through similar thing

[@SilveryFoxster]

Rich, you’re so accurate with your observations. I dated a hot single mother 10 years younger than me but had a 5 year old son with behavioural issues. The sex with the single mum was mind blowing but she was desperate for a man to financially take care of her and her child. The price of being with her would be far too high so I ended the relationship. I feel I had a lucky escape, I didn’t let my balls control my brain.

[@drakedrones]

So strange that she could not take care of herself and her son! It’s this lack of independence that drives away good men. You did what was right for you and her.

[@captrodgers4273]

THE BEST MATING IS WITH THE CRAZIEST WOMEN OR WOMEN YOU SHOULDNT BE MESSING WITH

[@DawoudKringle]

@@captrodgers4273 Many years ago, I had a girlfriend named Michelle. Michelle was crazy. Certifiably insane. Talking to her was like attending an exorcism. But it was some of the best sex I ever had. There was absolutely nothing she would say no to.

[@hansgruber9685]

@@DawoudKringle So was she actually good at it or did she just not have any standards or self respect?

[@DawoudKringle]

@@hansgruber9685 Both.

[@peterstoughton2872]

If you have a step daughter wait till she accuses you of seexual misconduct, nothing is worth risking that.

[@garymiller4141]

Words of wisdom from an elderly man for young men Don't try to fix a heart you didn't Break Don't pay debt you Didn't Take Don't rasise a kid you Didn't Make Say NO to the women with children that wants to be your Wife Change this avenue if you want a happy Life

[@molotulo8808]

Great words.

[@pablohu6935]

True. I had a good father. He always told me . Not rised children of other men

[@DanMorgan-bh5fv]

@@garymiller4141 I love how men are so generous to the younger generations even though you don't even know us. Thanks sir.

[@johnbopp4813]

My life is precisely what Richard tells you young guys NOT TO DO!! Twenty-five years ago, I got involved with a single mom, and it was nothing but a disaster. This woman had more red flags than a Communist parade. I'm thinking about writing a book about all the mistakes I made, and the penalties I paid. It is quite the horror story. Listen to Richard and avoid the mistakes I made.

[@elcoracer]

I feel the same way.. want to call the book what not to do..

[@oswaldofigueroa529]

Lmao 🤣

[@profound369]

Thank you for sharing

[@CEWIII9873]

An erotic book?

[@allenchuckling6844]

Classic 😂

[@j.deleos1412]

These days a lot of women in their twenties are single moms. It is pathetic.

[@Stephen86850]

Yea I got a friend who had child at 16/17 well at 34 her daughter is 17 kids

[@barrbudo]

@@j.deleos1412 it's the current fashion nowadays.

[@carolinacyganiuk9342]

IF YOU HAVE NO KIDS , NO MATTER IF YOU ARE MALE OR FEMALE, DO NOT DATE SOMEONE WITH KIDS. PERIOD !!

[@rayfabraham]

Good point but not really. its not the same. She is more than likely looking for someone for resources and money to take care of her as an "independent modern women". Avoid single moms like the plague. I am a single dad 39 , dating a 25 year old published model that has no kids and loves my daughter. Dating a single mom is simply the lack of abundance and exemplifies "low value"

[@arianalushtaku4329]

@@rayfabraham if you're a single dad you have no room to talk lol single dads are nothing better than single moms and actually they're worse , if a woman dates a single dad she would turn into a baby sitter

[@itzajdmting]

Thanks. Needed that drumming into me.

[@horlinlacombe9658]

why Carolina

[@Jerry-yb7po]

​@@horlinlacombe9658because....you'll have no authority but all the responsibility

[@boneharvester_eth4021]

Thank you 🙏 I was about to marry single mom with 2 kids from two different guys. Saved myself embarrassment and $30k on a coastal wedding. Thank you. Thank you. One kid is 5years and the other 18years.

[@CEWIII9873]

Really, you should be asking yourself why you were in that situation in the first place, when really, they are only good for a smash and dash...

[@boneharvester_eth4021]

@@CEWIII9873 she had that good pussy and throat. And I wasn’t fully red pilled at the time

[@user_abcxyzz]

I'm not against dating a single mom BUT there are so many red flags in what you just described. I don't think it's the fact that she's a single mom, but the fact that this woman does not make good choices in her life. Those are the red flags.

[@jacquescousteau6810]

You didn't dodge a bullet my friend you dodged a ICBM nuclear missile , if I were you I would be eternally grateful to this man for making sure that you didn't ruin your life!!

[@fffff2521]

A lady with more kids from different guys? Bro, that is a no go, even for a "casual" relationship.

[@Inquisitive-Minds126]

My father married my mom as a single mom & if it wasn't for that I wouldnt be alive. Yet I will never mary/be in an RTL with a single mom. Different generation, different times.

[@eliotness107]

Back then women became a single mother when their husband died in war as a soldier. Which is respectable. These days, women are single mothers for stupid reasons.

[@benmollitor3776]

My dads stepfather beat him and my uncle. Treated them like dirt.. My grandmother let him. I'll never have anything to do with a single mother..

[@hansgruber9685]

@@benmollitor3776 That’s the real indictment of single mothers. I have heard countless stories of women letting these random guys do unspeakable things to their children simply because they can’t handle being alone. Unfathomable weakness.

[@donaldoehl7690]

I've met people that have high praise for their step-dads and kudos to those men but I wouldn't recommend marrying a solo maam these days.

[@WayneARobertson]

Facts!!!!

[@adamlapinski7590]

The older the kid(s) grow, the more you watch her fidelity slip away. You become demoted with each passing year. It all ends up working against you until it all eventually disintegrates.

[@danieldorn2927]

First rule of dating single moms: Do not date single moms.

[@alisonb5921]

I realise this is more for men. However, here's my view, as a middle aged, single, childfree woman. I don't date single dads. I've been there, done that, years ago. Never again ! Too much drama, too many hassles. I don't date at all now, because there's only single dads left now. I never had my own kids, I won't be a step mum to any mans' kids. When I did date, the first question I asked the guy was "do you have any kids?" If they say "yes", that's the end of the date & I walk out !

[@MrYtubenewsanchorman]

Facts been there done that. Waste of money energy attention and precious time. If anything smash and dash but never nothing serious.

[@MrYtubenewsanchorman]

@@m.k.3197 at the point now not even wasting my semen on these broads. I passported out 4:years ago best decision ever

[@comparecards5688]

@@alisonb5921 but you would expect otherwise if you were a single mum

[@alisonb5921]

@@comparecards5688 If I was a single mom, yes, I would date a single dad, with 1 or 2 kids.

[@R_Thomp]

1. 4:46 - Cuckholdery 2. 12:05 - Responsiblity without authority 3. 16:05 - The victim mindset 4. 23:32 - Financial matters 5. 29:06 - Reprioritization 6. 34:55 - Big risk

[@kritz3454]

You the real G💪🏼

[@R_Thomp]

@@kritz3454 😂TY!💪🏻

[@117Riviera]

You should sell two t-shirts: “Steve from accounting” “Kevin from sales”

[@forafewdollarsmore]

Rich, I just want to say thank you so much for the truth you are putting out there to make people lives better. I came out of a relationship with a single mom last year, she showed all the signs of NPD, love bombing me when we first got together. We moved in together after 9 months and that mask of hers slipped so fast, before long she was constantly criticising me and it was all about her. Although she put the blame on me and didn't take responsibility for anything, often having wild mood swings and never accepting criticism. She was always the victim. Not to mention I spend more time with her kid than my own which didn't sit well with me. I started watching your videos and it helped me get perspective. I ended the relationship and guess what, she went back to that love bombing phase again!! Pleased to say I've moved on now and am seeing someone 5 years younger than me, she doesn't have kids, keeps herself fit and is a great cook. I don't regret anytbing and am in a much better place now!

[@andresdiaz7112]

Love the after story, that perspective of finding someone better, younger, fit, no kids, and a great cook sounds like a great deal!

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

i have blocked mines for not taking accountablity i am done with her nor do i want to be around her, sadly enough she doesn't have no goals no purpose

[@SKBottom]

I was engaged to one for 2 years, but fortunately we were not cohabitating. I was already at least that red pill, at the time. I caught her cheating and kicked her to the curb. By the way, she wasn't some kind of loser She had a PhD and a very successful, professional job. Women are women.

[@sgtzulu2507]

Great video man I am 51 in good shape and have been single since I divorced 17 yrs ago. While that may seem terrible for some it’s worked out great for me and you have no idea how I thank the Lord w every day that dodged bullets left and right and now I am settled have a nest egg and will retire in about 3 yrs I can pay off my mortgage and I am good. (Smiling everyday)

[@itzajdmting]

How's it going now man? Still happy?

[@MrBmic]

Any man who's raising another man's kids, is out of his mind.

[@guacaquio]

It's disgusting, only two generates would put children through such a living hell

[@Madmok128]

Unless the ex bf/husband died lol

[@Jerry-yb7po]

Only if the dad died...and the children are little enough to see him as the only father they know

[@wendwllhickey6426]

Woman can't manage there money no matter how much they make ,they seam to spend on anything that they want , instead of what they need ,and can't hold on to anything,I have tried to teach her to save at least 300 a month even when making 17.00 a hr if you can't woman use money to make them feel better about them shesß at

[@joeypaesano]

Never dated a single mom. Have had fun with single moms though. There was one hot single mom I wanted to pursue, luckily I found Rich. So grateful for your guidance and never fell into the trap. Thanks 🙏

[@KonEl-BlackZero]

Do you mean you found a Hot single mom in the area?

[@joeypaesano]

Zero Black Yes. I only hang out with girls close to my area. The single mom I was interested in went to the same gym as I did. But she had a lot of the Red Flags 🚩 Rich speaks about. So I decided to swerve away.

[@TinyDancer250]

@@joeypaesano Rich also says to compartmentalize women from your life, so you can make a clean break later. Don't date women at your gym unless you want to change gyms. Don't shit where you eat....

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

@@joeypaesano you need to leave her alone she not playing your bills

[@glevando]

Rich briefly touched on the fact that women rarely take responsibility for their poor choices. Rather than take responsibility, society applauds female behavior (you're so brave and courageous) and shames men that don't "save" these women. I wish more content providers would spend time calling out women for never taking responsibility for their poor choices. As a man, we never win. It's always our fault for women being miserable or experiencing bad outcomes. So tired of it.

[@CEWIII9873]

It will not happen because there is profit in telling them what they want to hear...

[@molotulo8808]

Think with your big head.

[@MrHav1k]

Hell naw, to the naw naw naw.... Don't do it gentlemen!! Just don't.

[@smilli6415]

suicidal experiece , ignore them like plague .. been there and never going back ..just came out

[@thefox47545]

Dated a single mom for 2 yrs but then left me for and married a rich guy (I was in school at the time). I should've seen the red flag that she wanted rescuing. So I dodged a bullet cuz check out this equation of what this guy has to pay for: him + her (she doesn't work) + 3 kids + mortgage - her alimony. I'm graduated now, make a boatload of money, and none of it going to her cause, all to me!!!!!

[@WayneARobertson]

Nice!!!!

[@kiriyareview9823]

Being a stepmom sucks just as bad honestly. It’s such unnecessary stress

[@BreadFred3]

Yeah, but step-moms don't have to deal with the economic stress that comes with being a step-dad which is expected. I got a question for you since you're a woman who seem to been with a single father. Do you get that awkward feeling when you meet the baby mama?

[@kiriyareview9823]

@@BreadFred3 Yes because I do about 95% of raising the children since they live with us and she sees them whenever she feels like being a mom. I have literally most of the responsibility and barely any say so which means I cannot protect them like I should be able to. So yes, it’s very awkward.

[@kiriyareview9823]

@@BreadFred3 And I definitely deal with economic stress because when children live with you, the bills go up all around. I have 5 stepdaughters and their brother, lived with us at one point and time so women feel the strain too on their finances. Children need things constantly. I also do not have children of my own so my resources go to my step kids. My time, my energy and so much more. It’s the same for both sides. And we both work full time.

[@jacquescousteau6810]

It's not even close to being the same thing so nice try but save it for someone who's going to believe that lie!!

[@jacquescousteau6810]

​@@kiriyareview9823if what you are saying is true you are the exception and not the rule so you shouldn't use blanket terms like women feel the strain too because most women do not and they contribute little or nothing to any children that are not blood related to them because they are simply far too self-absorbed and selfish for it to even enter their minds!!

[@oneronin6186]

The man speaks facts. Been there more than once fun in the early stages but the death by 1000 concessions comes, sometimes sooner than later. Bailed in each situation, now I don't even entertain it. If they have one grown and out or almost out of the house maybe but far and few between. Now I only get hurt when I trip over my bags of money.

[@anthony605]

Rich hit the nail on the head. I don’t care how Alpha you are, you will not be able to keep your Frame with a single mother. I know, I tried, I left. Never Again.

[@hansgruber9685]

Raising another mans lineage is the ultimate act of submission. I don’t know why people even consider it an option.

[@rokpeter8012]

​@@hansgruber9685 to not be sexless..we hope..they try harder..

[@unappealingundesirable2826]

I was born in Seattle in 1973, where I grew up. Japanese-American. Male. A typical nice guy, good guy, and a nerd. So, when I'm 25, all of these desirable women pass over good guys like me, and they get pregnant by, and sometimes even marry Chad and Tyrone. "Chad and Tyrone are SO much more manly, studly, fun, and exciting," they say. Then, Chad and Tyrone abuse them (which I DON'T condone). Chad and Tyrone leave them and the kids, and leave them hanging out to dry. THEN these single mothers want her and her kids to be "rescued." Who do they FINALLY go to, to rescue them? The Ichiros, the Changs, the In-Chuls, the Tuans, and the Khamphengs! (I am Japanese-American, so I can say these things). To my fellow Ichiros and Changs: If they won't take us in their prime, we should not take them in their decline!!

[@molotulo8808]

Great post. Young men have to resist their sexual desires. Get successful, then, date younger women but be careful who you date and interact with.

[@molotulo8808]

A whore is a whore, not a spouse!

[@anastasiabrown6879]

I am a single mother and I have learned to appreciate constructive and respectful criticism and just accepting people being honest with me and truly seeking to help me by telling me the truth; I personally don't prefer to be with a single dad because I haven't had good experiences with them and many times there are unresolved romantic feelings between single dads and their exes.

[@josevelez7539]

I dated a single mom for seven years. It was very tough in many levels. Ultimately, the relationship had to be dissolved (for a good reason).

[@adamlapinski7590]

I dated one for 6. Nice guys finish last. Had the same exact experience and she broke it off with me after all the chemistry, unconditional love, time, effort, and money I put into her and her kids. She grew increasingly dependent on her ex, went to dentists and doctors, and eventually he began coming over. Ultimately my presence was blocking them from each other... Power to you. Now get back on your feet and work on your health and job.

[@markjones2453]

No time alone did she suck every resource out of you that she could ?? Been there myself

[@jacob_gang]

You just have to find the right one. There are plenty of single mothers with careers, wealth, investments, etc. Men just overlook the gems.

[@SD-pi9co]

@@jacob_gang Lol nope

[@jacob_gang]

@@SD-pi9co You are just looking in the wrong areas.

[@tjstreak7970]

Hooking up with a single mother or a 30+ year old woman is like buying a car with 100,000 miles on it.

and never seen an ounce of maintenance.

[@nengthao5618]

At least the vehicle won't run away on you.

[@4lugan]

@@nengthao5618and the car won’t cheat on you

[@truthspeaks623]

Im 43, and the odds of me dating a parent are zero... let alone; fat, bald, short, broke or dentist free human males are precicely zero. It's astonishing how many human males check all of those boxes, let alone one. Human males number 3.5 billion and counting, while men are almost extinct.

[@natsum1978]

I am a divorced 45 year old man. I am currently dating a single mother. Like you said they all have kids in my age range. So far I am not experiencing any of these bad traits. Her having kids is her only red flag. She is very logical. She is a widow, wealthy and very attractive. She actually encourages me to work together with her with disciplining her kids. She corrects them and demands they respect me. So far so good. I'm hoping she is the exception to the rule.

[@Cariciasification]

everything may change if you will marry her... It can just be a demo version (trap if you may) so you will fall in love with her. Stay strong, bro...

[@WayneARobertson]

I'm hoping for you sake as well.

[@zuhairreza]

@@CariciasificationYou know, I’m glad you passed him the warning which may save him from future disaster! You rock!

[@fffff2521]

A widow with kids is a different story than divorced woman with kids or single mum. The difference is the baby dady is not present at all and noone is guilty of that situation. Of course, other disadvantages are still present. But a widow is generally much better option.

[@turdfurgeson2032]

Does she have a penis?

[@tonymarinelli7304]

I lived this, however my step sons NEVER said youre not my dad. I would never do it again but as soon as both boys went on their own, they both told me that in their eyes I’m their father. We have a very good relationship. My wife was the issue the ENTIRE time

[@Jerry-yb7po]

You were one of the small number of lucky ones.....

[@peterssss5396]

You done well with these boys, and thank God they respected you, and no doubt they will forever be grateful to you, wherever they go in life. You were a good step-father. She didn't see the gold in the ore. God bless you, bro.

[@tonymarinelli7304]

@@peterssss5396 thank you very much, that’s very kind of you!!

[@gavins6627]

With a single mum of 3. Kids are 29, 27 and 23 all not living with her. She lives alone as i do. Not too bad when the kids have moved on and are out of her household. Im 57 she is 55 and alone as kids have their own familes now. We earn same income amount and is financial stable. All good. Compliment to my life. Not a feminist at all. Shows vasts amount of respect in everyway.

[@mikeheaton8424]

I’m happy for you .

[@peterssss5396]

That is a good deal. No strings attached. Inter- depending relationship with no baggage. Maturity and complementary with age compatibility. You done right bro. ✅️

[@peterssss5396]

That is a good deal. No strings attached. Inter- depending relationship with no baggage. Maturity and complementary with age compatibility. You done right bro. ✅️

[@peterssss5396]

That is a good deal. No strings attached. Inter- depending relationship with no baggage. Maturity and complementary with age compatibility. You done right bro. ✅️

[@seinfan9]

The welfare state and judicial system is largely to blame for the epidemic of single moms. The lack of direct consequences doesn't encourage women to think twice about spreading their legs. Add in the lack of social shaming as well. It used to be frowned upon to be a single parent unless the wife/husband died.

[@JD-fx1np]

OK and where are the consequences for the guy who got her pregnant? Is he paying any support? I presume many do not. Yes both parties are at fault. You seem to place all the blame on the women. Bc she's the gatekeeper? It isn't more complicated than that?

[@hawdarkshooter]

@@JD-fx1np child support and sigma of being a "dead beat dad".

[@hansgruber9685]

@@JD-fx1np Back in those same days he’s talking about men that didn’t support their children were seen as cowards and untrustworthy. Chastised more harshly than the women if they left for no reason.

[@jangolub8240]

Sam Fisher?

[@robchurch881]

@@JD-fx1np just to let you know, I have made six figures since I was 28, not abusive, always a great provider and father. Ex wife got bored, cheated then divorced. My ex wife identified as a single mother, strong and independent telling everyone about her plight and at times, right in front of me as I was picking up and dropping off my child. This same strong and independent woman was receiving 4000.00 per month in spousal and child support for one child. So she was rewarded for cheating and breaking our family up. I know of at least ten guys who went through the same thing for the same reasons. The really great thing and I should have been smart enough to stay away from her because she did the exact same thing to her first husband. So I took on a single mother. Her ex husband dodged child support and so this was my gratitude for supporting a child that was not mine. During our divorce she tried to nail me for child support on my step daughter and the only thing that saved me was that I had audio recordings of both her and her daughter saying that I had no right to tell the child what to do because I wasn't her parent. This is exactly why I tell every young man to stay away from marriage, single mothers and keep things wrapped at all times. Never trust any woman. Even women will tell you this when it comes to being accountable for pregnancy.

[@lobsterbisque7567]

I dodged a bullet recently, I was acquainted with a woman whom I discovered to have a lifetime of horrible decision making: jumped on the carousel at 15, started weed at 16, then ciggies at 19, coke at 21, became homeless(drugs) at 25/26, got off the streets at 27/28, met the loser who would introduce her to meth at 29, became homeless again at 31, got pregnant by the same loser at 36, diagnosed with uterine cancer(std's from the carousel)at 40, survived cancer, lost custody of the kid and finally quit coke & meth at 41, and the kid was 5y/o!!! split from baby daddy at 42, diagnosed with stage 4 Lung Cancer(Chain Smoking) at 43, And she STILL SMOKES ciggies & weed to this day!! Now she's 45, broke with no career prospects, Graying hair, Scars & track marks all over her body, and legs that are lumpier than cottoage cheese, 5'4" and 215lbs. And she still believes that she can get any guy that she wants😆😆😆😆 How delusional can she be!?!?!? Even though She's broke, she's forced to work full time despite her lung cancer. She also owes $30k in lawyer fees, And She's been fighting baby daddy to regain custody of her kid since she quit coke & meth 2yrs. ago. Talk about an absolute trainwreck beyond salvage! a few months ago, Her oncologist(doesn't know that she's stjll smoking) told her that her cancer was growing, and she had a yr. left to live if she didn't start chemo immediately. She decided to go the natural homeopathic route instead, but she hasn't been following the strict dietary & exercise regimen she needs to survive. And She lives alone with 2 cats. She has gotten better: attending recovory meetings, and seeing a therapist, staying away from the drugs(except the weed) But everyone knows that It was her own decisions that put her there. Just insane!! When I found out the facts about her past, I ghosted her immediately, and never looked back!! Lesson learned, don't even be friends with a single Mom!! Just stay away!! Thank God I found out about all this drama early on, and got away unscathed!! Never again, not even friends! Single Mom=Absolutely NO CONTACT!!!

[@craig7715]

Homeopathic route for lung cancer includes ciggies and weed???. Geez, steer clear of that.

[@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939]

One more potential danger you didn’t mention Rich; if the woman has a daughter that starts to resent you for taking her dad’s place. In order to get rid of you, the girl could accuse you of inappropriate touching! In such cases, the guy will have his life ruined and even do time in prison, even though he in completely innocent!!

[@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939]

Diarrhea Dave when you leave such a woman, often they seek revenge and concoct a story between her and her daughter in order to put you in jail and destroy your life!!

[@TinyDancer250]

@Diarrhea Dave Happens all the time in divorce cases.

[@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939]

Laughing Lark I heard!!!

[@whatssogoodaboutindy6696]

True af

[@hansgruber9685]

@@TinyDancer250 Just tell the judge that she came onto you first. Works every time.

[@jezjames5301]

Went through a Divorce a few years ago l got completely screwed over lost a big part of my pension my home my pride and joy car l had for 20 years 🙁 Went with a girl a few years younger she told me she can’t have kids and you guessed it we had one and l love him dearly but the relationship broke down and again l was completely screwed over again how I’m still here is just a miracle. If only l could turn the clock back 🤷‍♂️

[@otfinoskiotfinoski8856]

ive been involved twice with single moms with one child, a teenage son. In both cases I found out mom trained the son to be a surrogate husband to her. I talked to a detective who told me its more common in our modern age than people think.

[@jeffjacobs6703]

I will never date a single mom again. My ex for 9 months had 4 kids living with her and 2 of them were 21 and over. The other 2 were 18 and 20 wow. What a train wreck. From overall from communication the financial thing of me expecting to pay for everything on dates & the kids do nothing but work during the week smoke weed and drink on the weekends. A flop house. They want these nice things in life but $6K behind in rent. OMG what a mess. I should of known better.

[@1ride1life]

I get single moms chasing me. I act broke and show bad hygiene to repel them

[@FranciscoHernandez-tc5bz]

I feel extremely fortunate and blessed that I never had kids with any of the women I was with. Thank God.

[@SR-hu6ht]

Its not bad as long as the woman and you end on good terms, I love my kids to death I couldnt imagine life without em. I didnt get raped in child support and maintain a good co-parenting situation with my ex.

[@paulcroker3282]

Same here, dodged a few life sentences

[@VoiceOfThe]

Likewise. I’ve always known I’ve never wanted kids.

[@VoiceOfThe]

Blank Why is it a lottery?

[@VoiceOfThe]

Blank Your comment makes sense now when I’ve read through all the replies. I thought you were answering the original poster.

[@videotampa]

You are doing God's work Rich.. Keep helping the next generation of young men stay awake.

[@lilo2469]

Remember this , Single women with Kids ......U R the 1st 2 GO!

[@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939]

Edward VP absolutely true, I was involved with a single mom for 7 years. One day an argument ensued after a police matter involving her son, she flat out told me “ men come and go, but he is my son, and he takes first place in this relationship!! At that point I packed my bags and left. Left the mom a note with an explanation and a phone number to call me. I never heard from her again!!!!!

[@adamlapinski7590]

@@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939 Very similar experience. Our last days together I treated her to a nice small vacation, everything went well, and our last phone conversation she asked, "do my kids bother you?" and I said "yes" (I didn't mean yes in that sense but more like a situational hindrance). She hung up, wrote me she'd notify the police for stalking, never heard from her ever again.

[@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939]

Adam Lapinski The worse is if you’ve invested years into the relationship and suddenly, puff she gone! You’ll never see those kids EVER AGAIN!!

[@retrogamer82]

Robert M.-Certified Day Trader nicely done but you made a mistake, never explain anything to a woman just walk away and go silent

[@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939]

retrogamer82 I guess I wanted to see if she would make accommodations for her son, this would hint she still cared for me!

[@hawdarkshooter]

There are going to be dudes who watch this video......that do the complete opposite and date a single mother. Then do the walk of shame and email Cooper talking about " i dated a single mother and she doesn't let me see my child. What should I do? 😫 " Don't be that guy

[@Robert-iy8pb]

I’m 52 you went over a lot of accurate information 👍 thanks for sharing.

[@VoiceOfThe]

Thing is, most women over 30 have a kid in tow. It’s crazy. Options are so limited.

[@marcelarbeiter1612]

Its just impossible to create solid boundaries with a single mother. You just dont have the circumstances to grow as a couple

[@elohim77]

True, been there

[@PistonShack]

Thanks Rich. I like to listen your podcasts while I go for a walks.

[@patrioticbill89]

Thanks man... you're saving guys from this hell.

[@susandavis903]

My hubs biological father died very young. He was raised by a step father. They have an excellent relationship. He is still a tremendous father.

[@stevenmacintyre5912]

Anyone else have the song Captain Save A Ho playing in their head during this video? Appreciate these videos Rich. There are very few places men can go for support for these very real and all too common issues and get sound advice for them.

[@thedevilsadvocate4223]

Keep up the work rich, discovered you around the age of 23 saved a lot of potential trouble in the future. Peace from Luton UK

[@cameronmallory5807]

There are tons of single moms under 30 nowadays. It's very pathetic.

[@henryvargas2915]

@@cameronmallory5807 tell me about it

[@swingset1969]

The ONLY single mom I'd consider dating is a 45+ year old woman whose children are either grown or out of the house. No exceptions, EVER. I'm of that age, so it's do-able, but I still am hesitant. At the first whiff of the push/pull with a kid, I'm so fucking gone.

[@jm2501]

If the ex is still around it makes things worse especially if he hasnt started a new relationship with another person. He will cause problems especially jealousy over the kids liking you. She will always remind you that she has to see him because.he is their father. Its hard to handle. You become jealous, and if you say something about her ex or.her kids you come out looking like the bad one or a controlling, jealous douche. If youre a single man...run before its too late. Yes there are exceptions but you will probably not be one.

[@benderrodriquez]

The alpha dad is not the one she married, it's just the guy who knocked her up.

[@kauffrau6764]

I can believe these stories...I love listening to your channel and have learned a lot about men and women dating, etc. But these single mom stories are making me feel so anxious! I just can't imagine living a life with so many problems and difficulties that seem unnecessary. My story? I'm a female. My parents separated and divorced during my freshman year in college; she moved out. My dad was destroyed. I'm an only child. I have never married and I didn't want to take the chance of going through that again. I'm fortunate that I found a career in the health field that allows me to help people and support myself. I'm not a boss type, I'm more of a subject matter expert, so I do my job and don't manage anybody. I've basically spent my life avoiding difficult entanglements, dating off and on every several years. Sure, I get lonely sometimes, but I'm lucky I'm an introvert and have a few satisfying hobbies. What some of these men go through with single moms with kids from different dads, I couldn't handle it.

[@comparecards5688]

Mostly bc of single mums selfishness, as her happiness always comes first

[@marcusmay5461]

The sex and food will be amazing. Other than that it ain’t worth it! *Speaking from experience.

[@markjones2453]

So true

[@romeo-zw4zw]

So true the sex and the food is so good . But is not worth it at the end of the day with all the stress and kids

[@luckyg8971]

Couldn't agree more with this. The best sex I've had was with a single mom. That's one thing they do very well

[@tonyduran4293]

Ain't that the truth. Two months and I was out.

[@glevando]

Thank you for the summary of why to avoid single mothers. The constant reinforcement is necessary and you never know who is hearing the reasons for the first time. Rich often talks about chasing excellence. Learning how to avoid bad women and learning their nature is a form of chasing excellence in my opinion. Maybe you don't make a lot of $$ but you can be "rich" if you avoid making stupid mistakes with women. Today's topic provided a lesson on how to do that. Lastly, I miss Shawn Smith on these podcasts. He was very interesting and added value to the show.

[@TinyDancer250]

I miss him too, but apparently he just got busy with other stuff. There's no bad blood.

[@irssux]

I married and divorced a single mom as well. They are single for a reason and very few dads actually want the original divorce with the mother of their children.

[@maxboya]

I can speak on behalf of us no children young dudes. We who come across this channel and read the comments. I mean it is so great to hear and follow proper influence. I am 26 and have some personal things I am dealing with. Helping my broken family taking time away from myself. I have been hurt in the past with relationships but the one good thing I learned young was. Do not have kids unless you are certain and ready. There is no rulebook on it but still. I see too many dudes knock up girls and have kids. All get married and either divorced (yes 50% of them have divorced) the other 50 are still together. But almost every single one of them reach out to me and always ask how I have nice things. Even though they do not see the personal struggles. I am glad to have not brought a child into this world with a partner whom I hardly can fully trust. Girls are just exactly what Rich says. Generally. Some rare cases that are not what he says but still he is more than 90% spot on. Great stuff. Thanks everyone.

[@Sk8theBurgh]

So, I agree and disagree with this. My stepdad is an amazing dude who is perfect for my mom and he was great with my sister and me, I consider him my dad and am extremely grateful for him. On the other side I just got out of a LTR with a woman with 2 kids and there were so many red flags, victim mindset, never wrong, can't handle criticism, neediness, moving in way to fast (I'm to blame for this as well) gaslighting, thinking I was hiding her because I didn't use FB or Insta and false accusations. I think it all depends on the woman and this womans issues stems from a bad childhood and I will never say never, but I am going to tread lightly if I find someone with a kid that's for sure.

[@IsambardKingdom]

How about you get this step dad 1/2 drunk and ask him a his take on being a stepdad - be prepared for disappointment

[@mdhazeldine]

I'm a 41 year old Dad of 2 kids (7 and 9). My wife left me a year ago and moved back to her home country with my kids and is now in a new relationship with a divorced man who's kids are 16 and 18. To be honest, I feel a bit sorry for him, because now he's done parenting round 1, he's about to have to do it again with my kids. My kids are great, but I couldn't do what he's signing up for. I don't want any more kids myself (2 is enough!). I've been thinking about who I might want to date once I'm divorced. I came to the conclusion that I'd either need to find a woman who definitely doesn't want kids, or find someone who's kids are getting close to leaving home or have already left, or stay single. I don't think I would enjoy having to parent someone else's kids and get the whole "you're not my REAL Dad" talkback from her kids. Not a very tempting proposition.

[@bobbysfacts1981]

Rich you are 100% correct. Everything you said about the majority of single moms are 100% true. It's rare to find a good single mom that make good decisions for both the kid or kids involved and the next guy that comes along. They really do want a babysitting atm machine. Not all. But I'd say from my experience from being in bad relationships with single moms. That 95% of the single moms. All they want is a babysitting atm machine. A sucker.

[@comparecards5688]

True

[@TimPhoenixTV]

The system needs to be reset, rules and laws should be set to be equally valid no matter if you are a dad or mom. Remove the money out of the equation (remove the rewards) and things would change for the better really fast.

[@IsambardKingdom]

Need to repeal the 19th first

[@ianbubble1378]

I will say, the one GREAT thing my mother did, was marry my stepfather. That man taught me everything and how to be successful. She also let him run the house in the discipline field. Ex army, Vietnam vet, meanest man I knew as a kid. It's what I and my brother needed. They are still married today. They still work together on everything. My brother and I are 38 and 35 respectively. We owe everything to that man. I agree that there are risks to dating or marrying single moms. But my mom scored huge with my stepfather. My real father was never worth the used toilet paper in the bowl. 💯

[@BNM0826]

Thank you Rich...I agree, raising another man's kids is a setup for failure for many reasons...However, if those kids have been raised already (adults), and are either out of the house or headed out, then I believe ur chances for success with her increase, since she's most likely not wanting to be alone....The downside to that is IF she still wants to be constantly with her kids (more than you're willing to accept)...Or, have them come over to your house all the time. This usually happens with single mothers who have raised their kids since very early in their lives and like dogs, have separation anxiety, or just feel that they need to be in those kids lives all the time......So, what you'll have is those kids come over to your house un-announced, like it's a hotel (and may even have the key), not respecting you or your privacy. This definitely will suck, cause suppose you're in ur boxers, or having sex with ur lady, and the kids are knocking and you're left behind and ignored...Then, yeah, Hellllll na, that's not going to work and it's a conversation that needs to happen BEFORE u live together....starting with RESPECT.

[@POVwithJP]

@EntrepreneursInCars that furniture looks like you had a good day shopping at what was Homes of Elegance in Abergavenny…you said you had British roots and it’s often a small world… THANK YOU for the content! KEEP IT COMING. Keep on doing the work! Diolch

[@bbo40]

Talking to a young guy ( mid 20's) at work a couple of months ago. His father had passed away about 6 month prior . A few years earlier this father had married himself a younger "honey bunny" with young children in tow from a previous relationship. As this young man is grieving over the loss of his father, the step-mom informs him that ; even though there was a will that included the young man and his sister, she was keeping everything ! She needed all of it to raise her kids . I think there was a classic car involved that was promised to the son and some other items to both siblings ? The step-mom told the them they could buy the items if they wanted (at a fair value) to but that if not she was putting everything she was not using herself up for sale and keeping the money for herself !

[@unclemel8276]

Wow! You can't make this up

[@mikesmith4687]

Was married for 16 years. Always tried to change me into a sucker and never could.. She loved me until she got a new high paying job and she divorced me with 3 children together to jump on the CC @ 41.. She just keeps jumping from C to C and I love it😁

[@Kashban]

Very true points. I was with two single moms (one affair, one. LTR) and if I was ever lucky then for the fact they were both financially independent (even without child support). Needless to say the one I had an LTR with cheated on me like she did with me on her ex. I was not the only one she hooked up with while still with the father of her kids, though.

[@jangolub8240]

Shoooocking

[@ukr009]

@@jangolub8240 Nothing shoking at all. Pretty standard behavior for primate female. Look at the wild.

[@cameronakil6572]

Everything I am dealing with in my marriage you touched on. Spot on!

[@packinwood2009]

I'm married and just got recommended this video. Why youtube? What do you know? TELL ME!!! Is this what its like being divorced? What a goddamn shitshow.

[@allybally0021]

The glugging noises whilst drinking up close to the mike are just great. Real slob type sounds LOL.

[@ADSCoachSimonB2112]

My best friend was dating a few women and doing all the right things, he slipped and admitted he had a few other friends and was meeting and greeting others. Two of the women he was dating made huge efforts to eradicate the competition and he ended up moving in with one. She loved bombshell him big time. He even made comments about how much he loved her and that he has more sex in a week then in the last 3 years, he married her 12 months later. This lasted 8 years but one she was married this changed drastically. He now live in Japan married to an Asian and teaches English at a university

[@timheidel5849]

I wish that I had heard this years ago. Oh, well...live and learn. It can also be tough when a woman is divorced with "adult" children that manipulate her to get help and money. I knew a guy who went through that...he married the woman and she wanted to use "THEIR" money (as usual, she brought nothing but debt to the marriage) to rescue her adult children from many poor choices. And, of course, the father of the kids was nowhere to be found, especially where money was involved.

[@hansgruber9685]

I hope he said NO!

[@absoluteauto4]

I did it for a handful of years. Probably like 3 years. I was in my late twenties and she was 6 or 7 years older than me. She quit her job within the first year. Thank God I got out fairly early.

[@robertgransbury8519]

Seeing a single mom is like being in the on deck circle, and the batter ahead of you just hit a walk off grand slam and has won the glory.

[@damianmcdonagh7908]

29:33 Becky from HR Department 😂 I love your videos, greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪

[@miked7350]

You missed the biggest risk brother, the first baby daddy is a deadbeat. You treat the kids great, she leaves you and tells the State the kids need help and you performed daddy duties, the State wants off the hook and puts you on child support. Don't believe me? Lawyers say it's the new trend.

[@psp4150]

No good reason to get involved with them. Tried it numerous times... and the obvious flags never even dawned on me.

[@peterrfowler16]

"How dare you make me accountable for my choices " Absolutely hilarious

[@benjaminrennicke]

I met a single mother when i was 25. After 7 days i knew this should be the mother of my kids. We got two amazing kids and got seperared after 15 years. I regret nothing.

[@MatthewTopper-hl6jq]

So true. I got full custody of my daughter when she was 14. The fact that single mothers feel "authority and not responsibility " over the man's child or children is well said.

[@senorc4416]

I was once with someone who I thought was the one when I was in my teens. I treated her like gold. She broke up with me because I "was too nice". After years of of not speaking to her, her email appears in my inbox. She reached out, pregnant, in the middle of a breakup, and oh yeah....herpes. Needless to say, she's completely out of my life. I'm currently with my dream partner. Take what you need from that fellas

[@smartypants6198]

Omg. She told you she had herpes, lol

[@andresdiaz7112]

Fuck yeah

[@SuTho]

And did everyone clap? Cool fantasy bro, she aint coming back move on

[@Shawk95]

Rich But most girls love their daddies and look up to them as heroes.

[@capt.butters9296]

If they're around. Which nowadays is rare. Actually the last 20 years dads have been out.

[@EveryDooDarnDiddlyDay]

I'll date a single mother...whose kids are over 18. I also wont cohabitate or intermingle finances or get married. But date, sure.

[@Jerry-yb7po]

Just date and only that until someone worthy rolls your way

[@EveryDooDarnDiddlyDay]

@@Jerry-yb7po There is no one worthy.

[@surplusstock8778]

I subconsciously had a red pill mindset from the age of 20.10 year's later I've lived the life of Reilly.Being ruthlessly efficient in getting the benefits out of women is the key to a fulfilling life.

[@hansgruber9685]

How do you efficiently extract an heir?

[@salmon3345]

I was married for 8 years and had one daughter. I was really depressed for about a year and met a single mother of 2 kids with different dad’s. I ended the relationship because the kids hated each other and my daughter also did not like my fiance so I ended it. The sex was great but she was crazy. Also she was an alcoholic. I don’t know what I was thinking.

[@ethanhitchcock5431]

Yup I grew up in a ' blended family ' ( which was good for a little while ) , also my last gal friend had twin toddlers who I bonded with then she became ' polyamorous ' , so I bounced !..This brings to mind the Zappa song " Broken hearts are for assholes "...Thanks Rich !

[@JohnnyRebKy]

It’s almost impossible not to be involved with a single mother now. These women start having kids at 18 and by 25 they got 3 🤦‍♂️. If they don’t have any kids by 25 it’s usually because they hate men. I decided a long time ago I just wasn’t going to play the game and now I’m 38 and never been married.

[@iamlimitless7543]

Someone once said never play a man's saved game.

[@3Dmaking]

Thanks for creating great content 👍👍👍 You are definitely going to be an inspiration for future dating and other life choices. But I won’t be fix all my fuckups in my lifetime… The best one for me is “If you take away sex from a relationship, you will discover…..” Also I have two boys and I will definitely push them in the right direction 😆

[@stevefournier6375]

Great Podcast, thanks Rich!

[@shilosheena]

Great channel great info altho I way past all this shit every young guy should pay attention

[@charlesdr1981]

Family blending. There is a recent story of MotoGP star Miguel Oliveira who married her step-sister who he's known since they were 13.

[@LA-ym3gt]

REAL TALK: I'm planning on writing a book entitled "The Hole." Basically my premise is that guys need to approach the dating scene from the perspective of going out with a hole, meaning don't have much expectations and if something develops after 2 or 3 years the hole has proven its only a divot, then enjoy it knowing that at any point, the divot can erode back to a hole.

[@manlybaker3098]

As regular as clockwork ... She tells her kid(s) to treat you like cr*p then tells you how much easier life would be if you adopted her kids. IMMEDIATELY after the adoption ceremony, she serves you with DIVORCE PAPERS and you are stuck paying for HER brats!!! 😢😢😢😢