Buddha - Drop Your Pride, Overcome Anger

[@gdibble]

“Fear is the path to the dark side … fear leads to _anger_ … _anger_ leads to hate … hate leads to suffering.” --Yoda 😉

[@chasing3suns]

"life is suffering" Discuss?

[@ricofrfr]

Literally thinking the same thing when he was discussing the tree of anger 😂

[@darthvader9121]

Hear hear.

[@shubha2308]

Thank you for sharing.

[@fenrir-art4742]

and hate leads to sucking it i use to watch xplay X)

[@thechancellor-]

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

[@theresaklunkert2572]

I wish you all the same

[@DonnaSnyder]

Why should anyone live up to [my] expectations? This flaw had destroyed my equanimity, productivity, and dignity in the past several years. I am trying to release this weakness.

[@samuelcaballero4828]

Thanks for this. I plan on pushing forward, but any thoughts or advice for when confusion creeps nearby?

[@fire7261]

🙏🏽💖

[@godwindaniel5921]

​​@@DonnaSnydertrue, i just be learning to let it all go, I wish us all good luck

[@RGE_Music]

As someone who struggled heavily with Anger in the past its okay to get mad. Its what you do when you are mad that defines everything

[@scowlfarm3061]

This is what I tell all my sponsees in the twelve step program I am a part of.

[@alysononoahu8702]

I have been less than able to stop or rid myself of my anger.

[@choonguanquek4180]

I strongly agree with you. Sometimes life become so stressful that you become mad or insane. However, I will restraint my act by for example going for a walk outside and talk to someone or alternatively I will listen to soothing music in the internet to contain my anger. Hope this advice will help somebody else to be a better person. 🕊️🕷️🤤🐻

[@True38]

The best way to deal with anger is to take it out in the gym and lift some heavy-ass weights! Which I'm about to do right now. Also, weight lifting is great for relieving stress, controlling your emotions, staying focused, and in control. It's the best kind of therapy for us men.

[@True38]

As long as you control your anger and don't let it go overboard where you get so caught up you are focusing more on yourself rather than the individual who made you mad, it's perfectly fine. You shouldn't let people push you around in life, you need to stand up to them and show them that you have some damn teeth and that you won't put up with BS. Because if you do, they're just going to continue to walk all over you and take advantage of you. Never let that be you.

[@cheyennealvis8284]

Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hatred. Hatred leads to wrath. And wrath leads to suffering.

[@THIRDeye1989]

I literally was discussing this today with my husband about my own anger in expectations. This is super synchronized for me lol. Thanks 😊

[@Pixy_Peach]

I feel the same way... Ive been pretty angry and this hit me right in my core situation. I can do things differently

[@jonatastentadnv]

I'm constantly angry lol now I finally can understand it better and try to make things different too, I wanna live in peace, not taking everything so seriously and understanding the world as it is 🌎

[@chicohel6540]

That's how it starts, the next is polygamy, congratulations, that's the true freedom in marriage

[@CaptainPhilosophical]

I want to free myself from anger in my marriage as well. As I listened to these words a thought I had was "what if my expectations are our wedding vows?" Thoughts?

[@darkrezen8477]

@@CaptainPhilosophical if it's about being faithful to eachother well you're staying faithful hoping in return that they do the same for you, so if they don't I believe that that is not justice so like the tree if Ur watering the plant hoping in return u get the fruit from it without hurting eachother in the process u should keep watering it but if it's a plant that doesn't grow fruits n Ur hoping for it to grow a fruit it's hopeless there's no point in watering it

[@TheDhammaHub]

Anger is surely one of the biggest hindrances to any form of success out there. First, get rid of the worst hindrances, and then the good things will almost happen automatically!

[@True38]

True but you can also channel your anger and impulses in a positive manner, mainly through work and projects. We all have aggressive impulses and we all have to deal with them some way or another. Working out is one of the best ways imo. It keeps you in check/balance when things get hard and you are under a lot of stress/pressure.

[@mohammdbie6970]

@@True38 i have a question what would you if someone caus pain to you...and you start to hate anything about him including his words and the way he talks..then you will be fear to use these words or hear it..but you have to because its a general words and live with this bad sitution every minute !!

[@True38]

@@mohammdbie6970 Easy, I don't take anything personally and suffer fools gladly :-) If you spend time holding a grudge and hating on someone else, that person has in fact power over you and is your Master. There's nothing you can do to me that hasn't already been done to me throughout life. But I'm not a victim, I'm a truthful honest soldier and strategic warrior. The only thing that can really stand in my way is myself.

[@spajas8092]

@@True38 what about narcissistic manipulative family members trying to hold you to familial obligations because they’ve done stuff for you in the past?

[@True38]

@@spajas8092 Just ignore them and move on with YOUR life and stop trying to please anybody else's life. In general, you should never let anybody do you a favor in such a way that you feel obligated. They are playing mind tricks on you, playing on your guilt, shame, and consciousness to make you feel bad. You must inwardly laugh at such petty matters and never be influenced by such silly tactics. They are just trying to use and control you. In life, you must learn to rely on your own arms, independence, and self-reliance by any means necessary. If you don't have any of that, you are already doomed and a victim to everybody else around you. It is much better to be hated and feared than loved if it means you rely completely on yourself. You can't please everyone anyway and you should never try to. Life is a game, there are winners and there are losers, and no one is inbetween. Do what it takes to win.

[@brendyn9901]

What about social expectations? There are certain things that majority of people agree on. You can't help yourself from feeling angry, it's how you recognize and react to the anger that's important.

[@brendanvanbiljon3861]

@Abika Ramdin Here's an example: Not following traffic regulations. I expect somebody to stop at the red light. I expect somebody to not cut me off. The list goes on. That's why you see so much anger on the roads.

[@ag09fernandezryannedenisse2]

Social expectations are created by common personal expectations (either formed from information or influence). For me, having expectations has no point at all, it is completely unnecessary compare to having motivation, inspiration, etc. As a teenager, I think I've spent the past years trying to know how to correctly respond to anger. Personally, I could say it's tough. But knowing the reason and the key to be free from anger, I believe was the best thing.

[@joshhoobler5769]

@@brendanvanbiljon3861 I was thinking something similar. Are we to imagine one won't be angry if someone blows through a stop sign and kills their child?

[@deepalijoshi4631]

I also wanted to comment what you have commented. I have been tormenting myself for over a year now over a stupid fight between me and my relatives and I keep coming back to, "they JUST SHOULDN'T have behaved in the manner that they behaved in." Decency is a reasonable expectation that one can have, I believe. I have carried so much anger in me since then. I do not even know how to ease it

[@deepalijoshi4631]

@Insomniacs you are so right! Diplomacy is so important when it comes to conflict resolution. And anger cuts the limbs of diplomacy and then the conflict is never settled

[@ieyeshiabates3556]

I met so many people who had a severe issue with pride.

[@Chef_Seph]

3:23 i get this point the most. I expect people to be descent human beings but then you realize that the majority of people are dog water and could care less about you or anyone else. Thats when i get mad, when people dont hold up their end and make ot harder for everyone else

[@Slothmymango]

I've been really trying to regain my mindset prior to my mom's death last year and catching up on these videos is a great help thank you

[@jimsmith9853]

I am sorry for your loss. Peace be with you.

[@God-T]

i work in a toxic company, being angry is the only way out

[@True38]

To live a better life, just be indifferent. All the pain and sorrow in the world will never affect you, not even if your own mom dies, no matter how close you were. Because you see the simple truth of life is this: YOU are the only one on this planet who truly matters, not your mom, not your father, not your brother, and not anyone else. It's only you. And your goal in life should always be doing what is best for YOU. If you have a good mom, then that's what she would have wanted for you also. Life's a bitch but it's all about perspective and how you deal with it. Because the harsh reality is that few people in this world really care if you die. You would have to be some kind of Superstar who has influenced millions of people for people to really "care". But that's ok, most of us are not Superstars.

[@SaturdayAir]

im so sorry for your loss and wish you the best

[@ArvinRosales03]

my anger is about to take over me, so i decided to listen to something. luckily, i stumbled upon your video. thank you for sharing words of wisdom from buddah

[@ajithtelugupodcast598]

Positive emotions and negative emotions both have equal importance to live life

[@hugiism7301]

I feel like theres a heavy difference between expectations of what you have for others and how your feel others should treat you. I can’t get mad because someone does something I wouldn’t do, I know we have different ways of navigating life. When it comes to who I keep around, talk to, etc, I have every damn right to have expectations especially when I put boundaries, and express how I feel calmly when they do something that hurts me or is disrespectful. I have no issue isolating from people who do no good for me as I do for them. There’s no anger, just protecting my peace of mind.

[@musicproductioncentral4540]

i'm fine with my anger. I enjoy being alone. I don't need anything outside of myself to be happy and content.

[@True38]

I'm the same way, although I strongly believe that you should always try to reach your full potential and go all out in life. It's much better than sitting around doing nothing, although that too I love at times, just being completely alone and listening to calm and beautiful music.

[@deshaunjackson8188]

This video makes me feel a lot of anger.

[@asikdesigns3812]

Every friday morning after getting my bus to my office... My first thing to do this watching the weekly videos of your channel. It give us the way for solve every problems we facing day by day. Thank you mentor ♥️☺️💪🏾

[@Yellowsnow1080]

It takes courage to drop expectations and pride. This empowers us and makes life more feasible. Courage is the next level of consciousness in David Hawkins Power Vs. Force. Thank you for these videos. You do great work!

[@dearmistyann3710]

I use Anger to fuel my motivation. If you cannot turn anger into actionable change.. as one cannot overcome generational anger while children are still being murdered and abused in even the most first-world words of countries.

[@david.s.5336]

"Justice is when you water the tree and the tree gives you fruit" ❤

[@dubsy4U]

After adding self worth in this equation, this teaching could really fit in today's world. However we should not get confused between our self worth and pride. Someone without self worth and pride will be ill treated repeatedly and only a person with self worth will know when to walk away.

[@gracebyChrist2022]

i cant.. finish watching.. i can't let go of this Anger rooted in UNFAIR treatment i need justice, i need fairness but.. i can't do anything about it now 😔 i feel stepped on

[@aishaabdullahigital]

Anger is something we need to work on because it prevents alot of things we might later regret from happening.

[@uldiskevers3790]

I have come to situation in my life where “I can water the tree but the tree will not give me fruits because it is already dead” at first it made me angry, because I invested so much effort, but received nothing… During this video I realized that I’m attached to my investment, and therefore I thought that I deserve the “fruit” by default. I know that any kind of attachment will lead to suffering. Even if not directly but thanks for reminding to me that.

[@puhrints]

idk what these videos are doing to me but i’m not complaining about finding this channel

[@greenandgold2185]

Anger is a secondary emotion. The word "should" is irrational.

[@m.b7542]

There are times when expectations are clearly laid out as part of a pre-arranged agreement or placed for the sake of collaboration/closeness. These expectations still qualify as 'should' statements, but do not seem like they are infringing on others rights or are the 'lie' that this video seems to posit. In a friendship, it is reasonable to have expectations for your friends. As an employee, it is reasonable to have expectations of your boss. Etc. etc. etc. The video frames expectations as if they always happen in isolation. But, in a lot of ways, expectations are the ways that we form any sort of closeness or collaboration with others. The relationship between parent and child is different than the relationship between friends in part because of those expectations. Failure to uphold those expectations in relationships of course leads to anger. Rather than dismissing anger as an ultimate 'bad', I've always preferred to look at it as a neutral source of information. If I am angry at a friend about something, that means that I need to talk to them about our miscommunication of expectations. If we cannot agree on these expectations, we might need to stop being friends. All of this is better than having no expectations, because then we would lack any definition to our friendship and any ability to understand when its toxic/when it isn't. Ultimately, I think this video was talking about resentment a lot more than anger. Especially in the judge examples.

[@mehtabsidhu8898]

I'm usually not angry at other people. Most of the times I just don't care. I feel anger because I don't live upto my expectations. I ask myself "why are you so bad at this. You have spent so hours on the same thing and still you repeating same mistakes"( I'm a gamer and a science student). When I'm filled with rage I usually avoid people because I know I will shout at them or say something I don't mean. If I drop expectations for myself then how I'm going to get better at what I do? Please share your thoughts on this

[@seeissee]

Hi there, having expectations and getting better is different thing. Having expectations meaning you set on something and you don't want to get any less than that. Getting better, just simply improve anything you want. For example, you feel this part of you lacking, then you make it better without expecting anything else. Having expectations is just standard, in which you can choose to use or not. But getting better is improving, innovating, and letting go of something unimportant and totally unrelated. Have a great day, and think about this wisely. I hope you'll get some answer you need.

[@sandrawong421]

This video is talking about dropping the expectation of others, something you can't control. You are setting some standards or expectations for yourself. I guess you need to understand why you are making the same mistakes without progressing. I suggest you can watch other videos like "How to Get Unstuck" or "The Myth of "Working Hard". You may need to look in different ways and find another path for you to make progress. I hope you will stop your rage when you are trying things differently.

[@mehtabsidhu8898]

@@seeissee I think expectations and getting better goes hand in hand. To expect from yourself is to have a vision, a goal which has to be achieved. And getting better is working on your goals. Think about this - you wake up in the morning. You expect from yourself to work on your project for 7 hours. That's your goal for the day. And you will get better if you work towards your goal each day. I hope this makes sense to you. Thanks for your advice ❤️🙏

[@mehtabsidhu8898]

@@sandrawong421 thanks 👍🏽. I will watch your suggested videos

[@watereddown1s]

It is possible to do what you love and not have expectations. It is possible to learn from your mistakes and not have expectations also. So, do what you love and you'll become less concerned of the outcome and maybe this will broaden your perspective and see the mistakes that you think you are making.

[@victortexpa7264]

Expectation it’s the key word for me I expect people to respect me and when I feel disrespected I get angry and anger turns into hate and hate turns into isolation and bitterness that is so true I can not live with expectations that’s dangerous thank for this video it really helped me out

[@A_Sturm]

Thank you. I've been learning Stoicism and Buddhism for the last 2 years. Anger is one of the weaknesses that I often feel. I still need to learn a lot to control my anger.

[@Italian_Isaac_Clarke]

Anger is like a fire. It can become incredibly hot and can destroy everything if it's not controlled. But anger, after a while, diminishes and goes away. Hatred, instead, does not. Hate is like acid, it eats through everything and does not diminish. Hatred is anger turned disease, it's very difficult to remove and can pass generation to generation. Both anger and hatred can be weaponized as tools for mental focus towards a desired objective, but hatred destroys much more than what it may protects or helps to achieve. In my views anger is to be controlled and used for everyone's best interest, while hatred must not exist in anyone's "heart".

[@stereomixer8030]

Well I’ll try not to be angry at KZbin for jamming two ads into this insightful video.

[@JohnDoe-xp4iy]

They should play this on every channel on TV for the next year. The world, and America, where I live, needs it.

[@dalelemac3394]

Sometimes anger related issues runs deeper than you believe. (the layers of survival we have built around our parents/society. ) For example whenever i got into a fight with my dad, no matter how many times i tried to re-forgive him, it didn’t work with me emotionally so i began hating him. Upon asking myself why I’ve figured that my ego needed a role model to keep myself safe from pain, so i took my dad and his aspects. So admitting to self hate allowed myself to acknowledge those emotions and let that grapple my dad had over me go. Now whenever me and him talk, i don’t even try to convince him anymore as its not important to either me or my survival. I then realised “the safer you are, the less you hate.”

[@Animeexplainer730]

Anger and pride is also a hurdle in the way of learning and exploring new things also.

[@lav7297]

Great video! I would like to add that anger is a natural reaction of the body to irritation not expressed in time. Irritation is an indicator that something is wrong, as is pain. Therefore, it is important to delve into the cause in time and express your emotions "eco-friendly".

[@FistOfHatred]

That adds up to what Jim Carey told about depression. Thing is, Ive been there, and i still hold a lot of pain, even if the anger decreased.

[@alysononoahu8702]

It can be.

[@Truthseekerandteller]

Anger poisons the mind leading to Isolation. This is me ...This video resonates with me

[@PorsheCaina]

Stumbled upon this bc I woke up angry today. And while listening to this, my anger turned into tears. Most of the time I mask sadness with anger so I, can be headstrong and motivated. However it gets tiring sometimes, so I meditate. I don't usually show feelings, so internalizing and hearing these words really helped. Subscribing. Thank you ❤️

[@RemRise]

Can relate to this, I've always been angry at the world for not meeting my expectations calling anyone incompetent if they don't. I have also used anger as a coping mechanism whenever I'm sad, thinking how unjust the situation was and to stop hurting and crying I resorted to anger to stop the pain and to feel motivated. I guess it's really true that everybody shares the same problems you've just never met them.

[@deshaunjackson8188]

​@@RemRise you are both dumb. Sorry "unwise"

[@warrenhare292]

Expectations are not just what you want they are what you feel you deserve from another person

[@warrenhare292]

So should I let go of all expectations of myself?

[@nargisurmi1234]

We are even taught not to get angry in the first place,,let alone letting go of anger

[@AnishJoseph48]

"When you let go expectations, your mind can see the world for what it is, and when you see the world for what it is, your mind gets better at predicting, and when your mind gets better at predicting, you get better at navigating the world, and when you get better at navigating the world, you can find your way to true justice."

[@wiandryadiwasistio2062]

i often think anger shouldn't be let go or suppressed; yes, it is unproductive and psychologically harmful to be angry all the time, but anger may be useful to keep our dominance so people won't take us for granted or even use or manipulate us... ...or at least that's what i thought. i may mistaken discipline and strictness with anger. i mean, i often see charismatic people is seeming less angry or i might overlooked something

[@friendlyrift4716]

Think its time i started investing here. As someone who constantly struggles with themselves and finding the calm in everyday life, constantly conflicted with them self not knowing what to do and how to process alot, something meaningful to latch onto and open the world in a different perspective , i hope will be a slight cure 😴😓

[@vishalkrishan3432]

Been through this road and dug deep on my own for my cause of anger and resentment. It's so fulfilling that my conclusions/observations are corroborated by your explanation. Drop the expectations, thus dropping desire. And as buddha said "Desire is root of all suffering ".

[@22brxr]

My favt philosopher Gautam Buddha ♥️

[@greenlamp9219]

respectfully i can say that anger has helped me sort out my issues from people who i believe have wronged me. however i believe forgiveness is a more powerful tool to use in the end. remember hate and love are two sides of the same coin so i believe both are necessary in the right circumstances as you cannot have one without the other

[@anonymintheworld9781]

This is what I want to show my children

[@jer103]

Anger still comes up in certain citations. It's okay to have that emotion, because we are still human.

[@healthandyou4963]

His voice is soooo serene!

[@LionsInBoots]

Do not completely get rid of anger. You can forget what it is used for and can lose the ability to use it where it needs to be, a semblance of when and where are required to make emotions useful, we were given the ability to have emotion, and all of them have a purpose, getting rid of your anger is not the key, controlling it so it is shown in the proper scenarios is as close to the key as you're able to get. Manage it, because it may be horrible the consequence if you cannot show any at all.

[@chicohel6540]

Would be interesting to see a video called: "The world is how it is, but, how is the world?"

[@Brandon-os3qr]

In the therapy world, we commonly ask, "how's that working out for you?" It is objectively NOT accurate to say that anger never has any function or positive result. It IS helpful to consider those functions and positive results, and to ask if there is a different, better way to fulfill those functions/achieve those positive results WITHOUT the negative outcomes that may also come with them. Very much in the same way that a drug might be a reliable and effective "means to some ends," and just happens to carry a mountain of harm along with it. The impulse may not be the way, is the heart of it.

[@luzhhy]

Personally, I am not sure whether my anger is caused by expectations. I actually believe it is mainly due to the disruption of my peace. I do not expect people to act certain way, just do not want them to bother me nor interfere with my life.

[@shae6101]

But you’re the one allowing them to disturb your peace

[@voidspirit111]

@@shae6101 hard to ignore when the goverment is taking away your freedom or your loved one getting killed and knowing the murderer will not be punished because the law is corrupt or your child raped and the rapist being protected by the law ( diplomats) and so on.. Anger has a purpose.. how we act on it is what defines us...

[@shae6101]

@@voidspirit111 Yeah it’s hard, my perception may be really warped but in my eyes the world will always have these serious frustrating things we can’t do anything about. I see it as everything happens for a reason and it’s a time to grow or to push ourselves to do best with what is in our control. Animals are dying the world is being destroyed humanity is slowly crumbling no one is opening their eyes. No one knows the secrets of the universe what will happen how these things work out but it’s all made up and none of it actually matters and dwelling on these things doesn’t change anything. All we can do is do our best to be our best. No point in feeling shitty. Nothing makes sense nothing is fair and nothing matters just so what you need to heal and feel better in the moment but inflicting pain and anger on others just throws it all back on you until it’s a built up ball of hate growing and growing being thrown around earth

[@shae6101]

@@voidspirit111 I know baby ❤️ I’ve just been around anger too long, I’m living in a dream world where love is more powerful and above all 🎭

[@alysononoahu8702]

I feel as if you cracked open my mind. Finally I understand anger, and how I can do away with it. Pride, expectations. Thank you.

[@victorious_loozer8661]

The expectations I used to have were the expectations, people I know and society had of me. But most people live the double standard do rules for thy not for I. So I only have one expectation now. I expect for people to let me down in every way. I gotta say, people dont dissapoint.

[@राजपूताना-ब5भ]

Bro please start uploading your work on Spotify, it will really help me. Because I want to reduce my screen time and I also want to listen to you.

[@Logicsandpolitics]

Your words add up to all of what I've learned about anger.

[@phtrivier]

The argument about "I need to have expectation that something I eat is safe" is not addressed at all, yet it is central - some expectations are not purely egoisitical and self-centered, but group-centered. Why is "people should not sell dangerous food" not an expectation ? It's even more than an expectation, it is written into "law", which is kinda the "expectations" that the society as a whole decides to live by. If someone breaks this expectation, maybe anger is not the right answer ; but I fail to see how "letting go of the expectation" leads to anything but apathy, despair and nihilism.

[@lawyerreactsnotthemoon85]

Fr.

[@lawyerreactsnotthemoon85]

There's a fine line between "letting all things be with no expectations, vs being a control freak, getting upset when u can't control everything, or certain things don't go ur way." -You have to know when it's okay to let things be as they are. BUT also when to call things out, or stick up for yourself. It's not healthy to fully have "No expectations" and let everything go, - But also not healthy to 'hold onto everything' and get angry about it.

[@legendaryzodiac574]

He addressed it at about 5 min in, specifically. It's about rethinking and contextualizing the definition of "expectiation"

[@voidspirit111]

@@legendaryzodiac574 that is just so he can continue with his viewpoint, doesn't make it right though. Same as i can say anger is just the feeling not the action. You can be angry for an injustice that will que you that something is not ok. He presents anger in video as always being an action. See i also defined anger as something slightly different without changing anger as it is. It's all in how you present or twist something.

[@mindbuilder9507]

This is one of the top 3 channels worth watching for personal imporvement.

[@LARADEKA]

*_Anger._* *_I was known for that, honestly._* *_Those around me know for my temper outbursts, when I get angry at them. It is a natural emotion when you feel that something is wrong and you could only feel sorrow for the hurt and rage for the perpetrator._* *_But following up my comment about hatred... I feel like it is related. My anger that concentrates on eliminating factors that hold only insignificance pents up resentment. If I can't see the world as it is without someone yelling at me about literally the "inevitable", then no one will._* *_Sometimes I try to focus on me. And try not to lash out at basically the things that I said wouldn't prove anything significant._*

[@moonclayground]

There's such thing as righteous anger.If someone did something wrong to you on purpose,it's a natural reaction. There are circumstances where we needed to release the anger because holding it back it will make more problems.These emotions are what makes us human,what's important is considering reconciliation and forgiveness after having conflict with anyone.

[@middlewayers]

Anger should be external only..not internal

[@aurelie2574]

In Bouddha's philosophy, he said that : imagine if someone gives you a present and you refuse to take it. Who gets back the gift at the end ? The present is gets back to the giver. So if someone insults or judges you, you can be anger against this person or as the present, you can refuse to accept that insult or judgement.

[@voidspirit111]

So.. how would.this go if someone kills a loved one or takes away your house? ( say in a countey where he dosen't get punished due to corruption) You must be numb or not care for any of the things i mentioned to not get angry.

[@RealJamieBarclay]

Life is too short and precious, to live in anger.

[@DarthOwenZ]

very good video-but i wish it included--expectations and anger--deeply rooted into fear... anger is fear in rage

[@aribashirkhalil3902]

This video saved my life thank you this was like God talking to me through this

[@Machielovic]

Thank you really needed to hear that see I am a DMD duchenne patient so need care every day and things just can go wrong, the body hurts easily but time and time again I get angry even while I don't want to. Anyway good to hear this explained so well although its from Dhamapada. I'll write this down so I don't forget why I'm getting angry…

[@nv6812]

I actually paused in order to absorb it. Thank you I now learn that it s my expectation that leads me to anger. Anger will lead to sorrow. But why did i expect? It is because of my pride. Pride that this expectation is for the best. That i am right and better than you. Maybe, somehow there expectation is also right on their belief. And we must calmly think of which is really the right expectation. With this we can predict what is really the right thing. This predict i am not really sure. Might as well rewatch it lol

[@nv6812]

So i rewatch it. I am not really sure about the prediction vs expectation But i think the prediction is something that the world truly is. If you do something often you can predict it. You predict that this is a safe food. Now you know what it is. Expectation is different from person to person. You expect them to be this and they are just this. Hmmm. And also you cannot possibly know if your expectation is the best for everyone. Or even for you. I love the part where it is said.. are you that special to know whats best for us? Or for everyone? Or even for you? That this direction is the one we should take. It will reallyake you humble :)

[@jlight2672]

My niece says she loves the animation in this video. It is quite helpful. Thank you for helping us overcome anger.

[@stevewhite791]

Man...this was really good. The internal dialog of should we all carry around is powerful and unique to each of us. Many times expectations aren't communicated to the other person and when not met cause anger etc. The "I'm not a mind reader" excuse makes a lot of sense here. Most often a person isn't trying to be malicious, anger is a result of personal expectation. Better communication and asking questions is good medicine here for both sides. And to me expectations and compatibility go hand in hand.

[@purchasingofficerwkpp685]

I think anger is more like this....watering the tree, expecting fruit in return and not getting any fruit in return. And then yes, feeling betrayed because you think the tree SHOULD bear fruit after you did what you felt was correct. Thsts more often hpw ppl get angry, you give in one place or same situation and then you dont receive. So is it wronf to have an expectation that your husband wont cheat when you have been dedicated to him for a decade. Can we say "oh who am i to think my way is best"? I want us to use better examples when we discuss topics like these. Real life example. So that the lesson can sink deeper in.

[@mr.johnson3844]

Yes. As a teacher, I should have no expectations of my students. As a parent, I should have no expectations of my children. I'm sure that all of them will grow and develop just fine. If not, at least I won't be angry at them or myself.

[@dcoded5217]

*No beliefs...beliefs are what cause the expectations and expectations cause the negative feelings ..shift from a self centered point of view ie..things SHOULD be this was or that way..to a love centered point of view ...things ARE this way , time to look for a solution ...

[@ABB14-11]

I think anger makes sense in some cases. It’s a normal emotion that you have to go through but you can’t stay in.

[@finallyanime]

i think theres a big misnomer about anger & its use. but i appreciate the general message of the video. keep your peace dont let people take advantage or your peace. anger is sometimes justified

[@gilbertguzman531]

My anger gets the best of me im so tired and frustrated I dont know what to do along with a constant thinking mind im tired 😪 mentally and physically I wish I was normal

[@heatherrenaud9118]

Thank you very much! Really brought clarity to a problem I’ve been trying to, but unable to solve through contemplation. Much love 💗

[@Digidragon55]

So, to let go of anger. Is to let go of expectations and desire?!

[@BrandonSimmons-do6jq]

I find myself arguing with customers and employees throughout the week. Now, I am a very kind man, buy once disrespected, I become an angry asshole. This might have opened my own mind as to how to avoid that feeling and just keep going forward. This is very deep. .... .

[@True38]

Learn to take nothing personally and suffer fools gladly. They will get angry at you for not getting angry. Thus, you win :-)

[@sondre5174]

@@True38 "They will get angry at you for not getting angry." In my own experience, you not reacting with anger tends to calm things down. If I react angrily it usually makes things worse.

[@voidspirit111]

@@True38 that is not true for all the cases.. but i guess it works for the ppl you encountered. I have seen ppl humiliate employees and evem get physical. The employee remaining calm neither made them more angry or calm. They didn't see the employ as a human. What you say works for cases where the customer is generally a decent persons but just has a bad day.

[@TheZygomaticus1]

Blindness, is what closed doors can make~

[@tomjohnathan159]

Tranquility of mind is not that easy to access... Through dogged perseverance of taming your soul and body you'll achieve the goal.... 😍

[@way4695]

I think getting angry it's ok. In my opinion is the only way to get them know they hurted you. And also a person who's never angry doesn't feel human (I can't relate) to me so I can't feel empathy to him/her. The issue is how you show your anger (You don't have to exaggerate).

[@PetersonBlanc]

great video, it certainly has me more aware of the negatives of expectations, though I still consider expectations to be good in either way; all be it when I walk around being treated badly versus myself to others. My every expectation and belief is to treat others as you would like to be treated if someone chooses not to do this; what it leads to is accountability and education for that person to understand that you can go around being rude to people or even worst hating individual. I can tie this to one example be it racism or discrimination that many people deal with every day, of course, this is an issue that I pray that we as a society will move to pass someday. Thank you

[@aimeevandijk4206]

Thank you, these videos are always so peaceful

[@natushkhan]

1:29, 1:57 “you shouldnt have done that” 2:28 desire of people to fulfill and not violate your expectations of others 3:12 its not about you 4:12 The tree dies without watering it 5:13 prediction isn’t the same as expectation 6:37 root of anger “should be”

[@namitad2433]

beautiful....i was doing shadow work and came across this... i was unable to describe my feelings.... but this video was exactly what i was looking for..gratitude to you...love and light

[@chetankeshari]

Never let pride cloud your judgment.

[@rajashrighosh2829]

*I also sometimes think about anger but this video takes us to a deeper level. Amazing!*

[@isabellapermatasari1957]

expectation is a form of desire, and desire leads to sorrow..

[@True38]

Depends on what you desire but I would argue that having no desire will make you a lot more depressed.

[@MikkiThaiGuy13]

Anger has its purpose. One can never be free of core survival mechanisms. However you cannot give in to it in situations that do not call for it.... sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me. If someone brings a stick im throwing down man!!!

[@dhruvbaria5985]

It's true in many aspects but I think anger and pride is needed in some aspects. For e.g. parents or teacher can be angry on their children or student for wrongdoing or misbehaving. Of course one should not cross the line.

[@FelixSkura]

We are just an advanced breed of monkeys on a minor planet of a very average star. But we can understand the Universe. That makes us something very special.

[@lovelylipbonesouwwwwwwwolv2198]

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." - Proverbs 15:1

[@eltonduarte776]

What about situations that we don't start and don't have control? like, walking on street, expeting nothing, but suddenly a person punch you the face and laughs 'cause you fall and are bleading, how to not have anger on this situation? the expectation of nothing is an expectation itself?

[@barba9791]

Ooh, another piece of perfection

[@jelanihampton2209]

This is just what I needed.

[@alexcerny5881]

"You shouldn't have done that." Never thought about anger that way.

[@mihaiioc.3809]

I love you and people like you, takijg the time to not only develop theyr own mind with wisdom aquired trough study, but also taking the time and putting in the effort to spread it to many people, everyone needs to challange theyr views and understand what these are, and who they themselves are, however very few people have the time and willingness to study, you and others like you are heroes in this day and age, even if sometimes we don't agree on your interpretations and understanding, perhaps disagreeing is a good thing, if it doesn't lead to anger of course. Thank You

[@gra6799]

Wow ! What a game changer 😊Very liberating !!! THANKYOU I'm so glad I found this channel

[@justabouthan]

anger đến vì bạn đã expectation " should" với tất cả mọi thứ. but hãy thử nhìn 3:34, sao ý kiến của bạn lại đc ngta ưu tiên hơn? no way, tại sao họ phải nghe lời bạn? yeah. từ bỏ anger, từ bỏ pride

[@Puru719]

Man I love this place

[@endresac8263]

We all have stories, the one who can tell the story the best way, gets what he/she desires...and you're a great storyteller, can you teach how to? 🙏🏼

[@spreadbetking3238]

I’m going to apply this to my trading psychology.