How to Always Be in Control of Your Anger - Jocko Willink

From JOCKO PODCAST 61.
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[@reason1925]

"Losing your temper," is the weakness. Not becoming angry. I have to remind myself of that. It's what I decide to do with the anger that counts. It's my responsibility to make the right choices.

[@sigendymion]

THIS. I watched this vid, then read through these comments, and while most here claim anger is a weakness, it's the uncontrolled aimless temper that causes problems, not just socially but shaking, hurting friends physically, immune system collapse, fatigue, memory blank, muscular atrophy over repeat use of adrenaline, sleep loss, and more. Controlled, focused, regulated anger is any animal/human superpower, even if temporary. It must be practiced, trained, harnessed in only the most dire circumstances, and ultimately... Learn to meditate to undo the effects of cortisol surge.

[@andrereloaded1425]

I dig this comment.

[@NMbones98]

I totally agree with this

[@Koldatt]

Precisely

[@NMbones98]

@Goku Black yes channel that anger into something constructive that's what I do

[@EddieLeal]

"Temper's the one thing you cant get rid of, by losing it. " - Dr. Buddy Rydell (Anger Management.) ;)

[@ProHater1]

Tell that to my ex

[@gchan1137]

Thankyou for this. I hope to make something useful too. so I tried my best to make this www.redbubble.com/shop/ap/66035129?asc=u I will be happy if you give me suggestions so that I can do better. thanks. hehe ^^

[@forza-kr4bx]

Great riddle

[@markjohnson4643]

Ask Dr. buddy rydell, why anyone would want to get rid of their temper in the first place?

[@olibarahosasa1137]

Great line out of a crap movie

[@sweetazn208]

"Anger is a sign of weakness" i like that

[@MIbra96]

Anger itself isn't. Losing control over it, just as with other emotions, is weakness.

[@dafunkmonster]

*Losing your temper is a sign of weakness

[@theexplorer7139]

@@dafunkmonster yep. I've seen young and old guys freak out and get in people's face. I see it as weakness now.

[@ark1349]

@Darren Jackson good for you bro

[@ark1349]

One option is trying to channel that anger.

[@michaellapierre1244]

When people raise their voice to me I have learned to think: The louder they yell, the more afraid they are. People raise their voice because they feel like they are losing their power. True courage is being able to stand there, eye to eye, and honestly say what needs to be said. Jocko has a great perspective.

[@thestrengthreport7517]

Or they just don't respect you and think they can say anything they want to you. This type of shit happens in the workplace alot, what you say is true but there are certain situations that need to be checked right away.

[@JonathanVachon777]

yah no always, sometimes you raise your voice because you keep inside and try to keep cool for WAY too long and you explodes

[@satvindersihra9038]

@@thestrengthreport7517 how do you check situations without lashing out? Because those are the aggravating situations.

[@saltminer4463]

Yeah someone who yells at you doesn’t respect you they aren’t afraid of you lmao

[@infinityking5869]

I hate blowing up especially when I’m in the wrong thank you for helping us men wanting to better ourselves

[@christinajay8696]

Men gezzzz I’m a female and listening to this.

[@susiesa8295]

i literally live everyday angry and it is tiring and exhausting. my problem is not being able to control myself against people who want to push my buttons

[@bassinblue]

I’m literally going through what you’re going through. People push my buttons too, I legit feel disrespected by everyone when I’ve done literally nothing. Here’s what I’ve learnt. Humans are by no means civilised. You still have to fight and stand your ground for people, yes, even your own family to respect you. It’s fucked, but that’s honestly the way it is. I personally have joined a Muay Thai gym, changing my outlook on life and trying to stay calm, but release my anger when I want to, not when they say it so. End of the day, fuck them, fuck them all. You are a good person who’s a victim of this sick sadistic world. Please be strong and stay strong, change your environment, because peace of mind is worth it, no matter how much you have to spend or lose.

[@harryl9yearsago788]

@@bassinblue thank you brother, This is my life

[@faithschlesinger3839]

That’s why most of us are here watching this video I’m so tired of others having more control over my emotions than I do

[@Nezfitness777]

​@@bassinblue i agree except for the victim part, never be a victim to your circumstances.. you will develop an entitled victim mentality trust me I would know..

[@kevinschindele4829]

It's even harder when that person is your spouse.

[@spencerhall7157]

I pray to God I never see Jocko nodding his head.

[@ZandMb]

Spencer Hall praise God for Jocko period!

[@timeisonmyside3136]

Was this meant to be a naughty joke?

[@low-budgefudge2164]

@@timeisonmyside3136 What? No. Jocko in the video said "When I get angry I start nodding my head" the joke is: they don't want to see Jocko nodding his head cause that means he's mad. And they don't want to make someone as tough and cool as Jocko mad.

[@user-vc5rp7nf8f]

that'll probably be the last thing you ever see

[@southerngentleman2516]

Yeah right I can tell he has probably lost his temp alot before he figured it out. But people probaly scared of him anyway. Real intimidating guy lol

[@damianrosa5334]

THANK YOU Jocko! I am a Marine grunt and was driving to work this morning with my wife, I listen to your podcast Evey day as I drive. Me and my wife found this podcast very help and interesting as I am an intense individual (or so I've been told) The video had just ended and a wild young punk driver engaged in some rather intense road rage with me. I did my best not to get into it with him especially while driving. He then pulled up next to me and threw a coffee mug at my car, hitting my car. Instead of following him and caving in his face, as I very much wanted to, I took a picture of his lisnce plate and called it in to San Diego's PD. Thank you again for the wise words and guidance on when to battle and when not to. Helps alot with life as a warrior.

[@damianrosa5334]

Please excuse my awful spelling.

[@Max-nu1bd]

Damian Rosa Damn, that takes a lot of Discipline and self control to avoid that kind of confrontation, but it definitely saved both parties from a very dark day. I'll remember both video and your comment next time I hit the road

[@Nobody-vz9ni]

Damian Rosa don't lie you were to scared to chase him

[@zang9147]

Were you watching a video while driving?

[@dannyboi162]

People are so afraid of confrontation. I get the point not to be stupid but if you rely on others too much you lose that edge to will to action. I've seen it so many times. 'punk acts hard, mouths off, wants to fight until he is hit' then I'm calling the police.

[@midnightaustin9287]

my childhood is rough i got beat alot, my parent have their thinking that they r god that i can never be right im always wrong, im 22 now i still have anger issues till today, after watching this videos, i kinda get the idea that acuatlly anger is my weakness, exploding to everyhting is wrong! thx

[@bdb2329]

Colin Weir I read your reply to this young guy, which was great advice, The nugget of wisdom at the end of your reply is the reason for my reply, I wrote that down and am about to expound on it in my journal Thanks

[@PaulO-we1lt]

I had the same with my parents. I was beaten, receiving black and blue asses. Hair ripped out of my head, slapped across the face with blood flying to the basement ceiling. Called names, my mom said many times, I hate you and I wish I never had you. I HAD anger issues. I am 58 years old. I did a lot of counseling. I read a book, titled Anger men and the women who love them, written by Paul Hedgestrom. A life story was done about him. Very powerful movie. He started a counseling program that I attended. It was his book and counseling program that changed my life. I started the program when I was 40. I am still counseling today with self improvement books videos like Jocko's. Order of man, and George Bruno. I divorced, fixed myself and continue. I remarried and blessed with an OMG, an outstanding wife now of 13 years. My parents are still living 93 and 81 years old. I love them dearly and have always. But, when I was 40 I told them that I had enough bullshit from them. My father was going to do something to my young son that I very much hated, this act that he was trying to do, he thought it would be funny. I stood up and told my father that if he would do that to my son I would beat the fuck out of him and I said to my mother that I had enough of her shit. I said to both that if their actions continue, they would never see me or their grandchildren again. Since then, I have a outstanding relationship with both. I love them dearly. I feel your hurt, it is not easy. I have always had faith, I had to figure out me and take charge of myself, set boundaries and protect them. You can fix yourself for you and nobody else. I found out that "I" am the most important thing. Then I can put my wife and then kids. Power up, you can fix yourself and when you do you will like "You". A Blessing to you, my heartfelt friend! Paul

[@LitoGeorge]

@@PaulO-we1lt beautifully written

[@danielbianchi2246]

Midnight Austin My Dad beat me with such rage on a regular basis that I snapped on him! I was 17yrs old, he was about to take his belt off & had me cornered in the upstairs berm! My Mom used to sick him on me over the most tribal things! So I told him, point blank if he took 1 step forward I was going to beat him to death& through him out the window & next I was going to do the same to my Mother! I was 200lbs& I new that I had been in so many fights that it would of been over in a blink of an eye!He put his belt back on & they both went down stairs! When came home that night all my clothes were in a box, I used to carry so much Rage I new if I didn’t seek professional help that I would definitely end up in prison 4 life! I’m proud to say that I put all my effort into changing my entire personality, read every book on self help etc! My PT S D will never leave me, but I encourage u to get some serious professional help my friend! All my counselors were amazed that luckily I didn’t take the other road that would have been life in prison! PS, The beating were so severe that on occasions they thought I was dead! Only sharing this to try & help u make the right choice & get help before it’s to late! Blessings

[@abdulmuizarifin9611]

Been there brother..its a lifetime practise to stay out of anger..

[@LRock-um8xo]

As the saying goes " He who gets mad first, loses."

[@gchan1137]

Thankyou for this. I hope to make something useful too. so I tried my best to make this www.redbubble.com/shop/ap/66035129?asc=u I will be happy if you give me suggestions so that I can do better. thanks. hehe ^^

[@TheFracturedfuture]

Not if they knock you the fuck out.

[@jacksquatt6082]

"He who draws his gun first, wins."

[@SKBottom]

I always feel like an ass after I blow my top. Like I have failed, even if it was justified.

[@richardhammer187]

Likewise, I immediately regret doing it.

[@peterwalsh5068]

Totally man, I know that feeling!

[@tonyromano6220]

Yes sir, it gets worse with age.

[@westofeden23]

Always. It's been a lifelong battle for me.

[@MW-vw7ng]

💯💯

[@onlyrick]

Man, I was in my thirties before I started to realize that losing my temper was weakness rather than strength. I really think I would have learned sooner if I'd had it explained in this way. You're doing a good thing, JW. Keep it up and Be Cool.

[@danielbianchi2246]

Truth

[@Jayhawk_Nation]

@Emmanuel Goldstein Your so right dood.

[@graspra2323]

@@emmanuelgoldstein8534Just because you can't control yourself doesn't mean others can't. Ask God for help with your anger while truly wanting to change and he'll help you.

[@CedenoJose]

Psychedelic's definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here.

[@jabulanismith5772]

I have researched and found out that shrooms are very helpful , it has really helps to reduce anxiety and depression . I would love to try magic mushrooms but I can't easily get some , Is there any realiable source I can purchase one

[@AlirioArteaga]

The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well

[@QuekCheung]

Came across the comments about Sporeville and I must say he is a genius.

[@ElianaBravo-hr3qk]

Does Sporeville ship?

[@StoneLogan-dq5hr]

Tripping is not really bad but find a good mycologist Who will teach you the right things you need to know

[@Senor0Droolcup]

Thank you, Jocko. I'm going to watch this with my 11yr old son. This is great.

[@cyndirymer7068]

Yes, going to watch it with my 14-year-old nephew.

[@ReyShady05]

Brian L. I need to watch this with my 59 year old dad

[@ajaxSAF]

Check out Way of the Warrior Kid and its sequel!

[@DysmasTheGoodThief]

Good fathers errywhere

[@daveboi634]

These small videos are a reminder to always humble yourself. I love it.

[@jpd782]

I wasn't able to to control my anger until I was in my late 30's and became a parent for the first time. Before that, I'd fly off the handle over anything. I never hurt anyone physically. But I'd throw stuff across the room. Etc. Having kids made me have that patience.

[@theoneanton]

jpd782 it reversed for me!

[@gchan1137]

Thankyou for this. I hope to make something useful too. so I tried my best to make this www.redbubble.com/shop/ap/66035129?asc=u I will be happy if you give me suggestions so that I can do better. thanks. hehe ^^

[@georgezazueta61]

How were you able to do it?????

[@EasyBreezie]

Thank you.

[@XdgamehackerXd]

Right

[@aw-g]

You're welcome

[@Trd777jg]

Man, the consistence of the value of each video is crazyy

[@rebeccacaraska4112]

He's a man of integrity.

[@metalrocks999]

Your podcast has honestly changed my life. thank you for everything you do.

[@davidplyler8173]

He's a hell of a teacher.

[@BrumeNoire]

I had a very unstable childhood which led me to have this constant anger inside me and I just can't control my nerves like whenever I get really angry for whatever reason it comes to a point my whole body is shaking like crazy. Your advice is simple yet it did just happen to calm me down because I was angry just now and I'm getting sick of this anger. Thank you.

[@caseyjones5145]

Dude same. I feel like a food processor somebody left on inside me, Bill burr said "its easy to get to 100 when youre idle at 75" & thats me. Tiny things piss me off & then the farris wheel starts. Next thing I know 3 hours have passed. Its exausting to just feel like this. Sometimes I get scared of what I might do on impulse.

[@mel...s]

My head is currently pounding from all the anger I feel. My childhood too shaped me into a very scared/angry human. I'm always scared. And the anger just boils over at the slightest trigger This video did not help me much. I already know my anger is a big sign of weakness. I'm considering electric shock therapy to treat my major depression, PTSD and anger

[@xObscureMars]

12 sessions of Anger Management right there

[@gchan1137]

Thankyou for this. I hope to make something useful too. so I tried my best to make this www.redbubble.com/shop/ap/66035129?asc=u I will be happy if you give me suggestions so that I can do better. thanks. hehe ^^

[@josh474]

Theres nothing more dangerous than a man that can control his emotions

[@Dman9fp]

Depends how you define dangerous. Dangerous good, yes

[@TheWelchProductions]

No, actually, the opposite is true.

[@blackpilledchad1927]

You're too deep in these superman bullshiii. A dude that can control his emotion is not a threat, he just lives a more pacific life that's it

[@jessetrueba9578]

you mean can't right?

[@manual1796]

Dangerous in a bad way you mean, where he hurts good people and becomes a piece of shit. Being able to control your emotions makes you dangerous. When you truely have a reason to be angry you are like a weapon

[@KeithDvorak]

Who knew a nod could be so terrifying!

[@MicahBuzanANIMATION]

Listening to this as I'm in an argument with my girlfriend.

[@AverageBrethren]

Refuse to have arguments, only calm rational fair discussions.

[@tywonbowe2810]

funny

[@johnconway82]

I bet she says you don't pay attention.

[@Alpha-move]

I lay down exactly what i think...if my girl tries to argue it...i just tell her to ether get her mind together and talk to me with respect and a calm tone...or pack your shit. Alpha up and usually it goes well.

[@moejr14]

Same

[@bentonja668]

I had a horrific temper in my teens into my 30's and eventually I couldn't even really physically withstand the anger (it made me physically ill as I got older). I would go from a 0 to a 10 in 1 second with nothing in between. Incredible Hulk seeing red tunnel vision type of anger. Thankfully I am not violent or I would probably be in prison. Eventually I could control my anger to the point that I didn't get past a 5 or a 6, which was still pretty bad overall compared to other people. I have been practicing meditation for about 10 years and Wim Hof breathing for 3+ years and what I have noticed is that every single time I am about to act out in anger, I stop breathing. Every time. Because of my experiences with meditation and breathing exercises I am aware of my breath most of the time and as soon as I realize that I have stopped breathing this is my sign to stop whatever I am doing and focus on breathing and also focus on my thoughts moreso than emotions (in normal life I am more disposed to thoughts than to emotions). What I have found is that I still feel angry, but I am able to avoid acting or speaking out of the anger and I don't get the adrenaline dump and I am able to carefully choose my words and actions. And the anger passes in short order.

[@Forgivemankind]

Thank you for sharing im currently going through the same thing you went through the exact words you used Incredible Hulk im shamed of my actions that I display to my family and my partner and the outside world , i scream like the hulk I smash things and start banging doors .

[@DelEast740]

I feel you. When I wake up in the morning I am on edge. I've been dealing with an explosive temper since I was a little child. When I was five I punched out a couple window panes in my kitchen. I would fight anybody at the drop of a hat. My dad had a bad temper, my grandfather had a wicked temper, my great-grandfather's temper was biblical. Mine is worse than my father's and probably worse than my grandfather's according to my uncle.

[@123lxxx6]

​@@DelEast740get yo brain checked out

[@anthonyreed480]

​@DelEast740 You're a loser, so was your dad, and his dad lol.

[@DanceswithCoreans]

​@Forgivemankind I relate. My partner basically told me if I ever yell again, it's over. I gotta get my head right.

[@bernieb5214]

Currently in a mess and pushed people away because of my anger. I’ve never thought of it as a weakness and honestly thinking of it like that has put a lot of things into perspective. I will not lose control again and make things better. Time to turn things around.

[@JWill216]

Same as the gym, your strength is greatest when you are in control of yourself & the weight you're lifting.

[@lanceawatt]

Jocko losing his cool would be a "GET TO DA CHOPPA!!!" situation for anyone within a 600 mile radius.

[@XxSnipeNationxX]

This one hit me deep 😢. Ever since I was a baby my doctors always told me that I had the “red headed anger” in me. For obvious reasons. I don’t know why I lose it or what EXACTLY are my triggers but it’s bad when it’s bad. Then I think about it for weeks and weeks sometimes months, just depressed about the situation and how I handled it, on top of whatever I’m currently mad about currently. Wish I had the answer and wish I had more strength to get after and attack my emotions. I know I’m not alone and I wish everyone finds that strength in them. 💪 Thanks for letting me vent

[@apexartist9618]

Not controlling anger is a sign of weakness. But anger is your greatest emotion. It’s just as good and important as love.

[@apexartist9618]

Just like not controlling how you love and who you love can be dangerous and self destructive

[@Abyss.Walker]

I think the main problem I have that really gets under my skin where I cannot control my temper is whenever somebody doesn’t understand me, there would be often times where I would say something and the person on the opposite side, their perception they would observe that message and almost replace the words out of my mouth and that’s when I begin to get enraged and attempt to make them understand that whatever I said or did was not an intentional act to alter their emotions. I’ve tried keeping my cool but it’s just so difficult however this video really helped me realise anger isn’t to show strength, it’s not showing resilience, it’s exploiting weakness however controlling that emotion is empowering, and it’s just better to let it go.

[@Jarbones]

Anger is just human. You got it right at the end though; losing control is a weakness. You can’t become strong enough to not have anger, but you can keep control. I’m sure that’s what you meant. Thank you, sir.

[@jetnick3576]

I’m a former Air Force pilot and present day airline pilot. ....and I cannot believe how helpful I find your videos in dealing with the everyday issues associated with my job. Thank you.

[@Anthony-jp2zm]

I watched a bunch of vids on how to conquer anger, from Jordan Peterson to Sadhguru to Rogan and more, but none did it for me, except this one. “Anger is a sign of weakness.” Those are the exact words I needed to hear. Like a revelation. Thank you, Jocko 🙏🏻

[@malicmarrow4726]

I’m 18 with a dad that has temper… I’m glad I discovered this idea when I was 16-17 and I’m just here to say thank you for solidifying this statement and actually to some degree helping be see my anger in my self and controlling the frustration build up

[@Jessica-fr4im]

I have had anger issues my entire life. So yesterday I watched a video to help me take control of my emotions because I had a realization that I was the cause of everything that triggered me. So I did a personal mental exercise and immediately saw changes all around me. Then I was faced with some things that triggered it again at the end of my day. Everything that has ever bothered me all popped up at once and there I was defenseless which brought about more anger and resentment. I guess I am trying to find the connection of why, when I am trying to work on myself. It's hard to get back to that place mentally where things are positive. But I will keep trying

[@mikewhatley9783]

Great words of wisdom - thanks Jocko keep up the great work!

[@surajshaw9703]

The most scariest thing about Jocko is that he comes off so calm, cool and non threatening... But he can rip your arm off and beat you with it in a moment's notice.

[@mortisdolus3356]

@John Smith the people that realise that their idols are just people, exactly like their own selves, with the same flaws and fears to overcome, are probably the ones most prone to following their advice.

[@manush60]

@Matthew Kyle i get what your saying. But jockos not" just a guy". Mans tough as a nail, hes been in literal warzons and seen people get killed and also kill a few. The man knows the fundamentals of violence bloodshed and pain, and much impressive is his self control as he talks in the video. Which average just another guy, would step into a warzone and kill or be killed? Im no fan of jocko, but hes someone i look upto as a man.

[@blackpilledchad1927]

Not if you shoot him in his head first

[@taboovsknowledge1603]

In construction, I quickly learned to not get angry because it serves no purpose, and is counterproductive. Solve the problem by achnoliging if you are looking at the symptom, or the problem itself. Then, make a change that makes the problem never happen again. If someone screwed up and thinks they are in trouble because I had to solve the problem. I tell them "thank you"! You exposed a problem and now it is a thing of the past. You just made my company better! Then repeat on all issues. Smooth construction includes smooth relations!

[@josemadriz4602]

It's good to learn so much from you, Jocko. You always have great advice, and it's amazing that it comes from experience and study. You have much wisdom, sir.

[@christophdollis1955]

Thanks, Jocko. Timely video. I've scheduled this to watch periodically.

[@RedNovaMedia]

Man, where have you been when I needed this advice years ago. Thank you Jocko

[@keithprice7119]

I've always been able to keep my cool under stress but it's only outwardly. Inside I'm worked up but am able not to show it on my face. The trade off is that I'm left with a shit load of adrenalin afterwards. If I can't immediately go for a run or work out it's hard to deal with. So I guess (after reading my comment back) I'm not actually keeping my cool, I'm just putting a mask on.

[@connorduffy3726]

Who THE FUCK disliked this? ...shit...I lost my temper.

[@davecote8388]

Dude it seems you forgot to count to 10 and nod positively.

[@doctordilanka]

Goose Fraba my brother. Goose Fraba.

[@pauld4355]

an angry person

[@dasultan6299]

Someone weak! Lol

[@sophied23.]

0:27-0:50 is exactly how my dad thinks. Anger and threats make him feel like he has power. It’s awful. I really needed this for myself too. Anger is weakness!!!!!

[@denyspoyner8815]

I had the same inner RAGE going on when I was younger, nowadays I get real calm, even when someone is raging and spewing hate in my face. I'm just ice cold and calm as a clam, until its go time. I'm 53 now, never a good idea to mess with an old guy. We're survivors. 🤔

[@silascochran9705]

Thank you for tuning me in again brother I just came through a situation where this information may have worked to my benefit

[@michael2974]

This is only the second video of yours I've watched and I'm impressed with your take on things. Thank you and my best wishes.

[@frozemoments7873]

Amazing lesson for everyone...I grew up in a aggressive home and have struggled not losing my temper all my 41 years while raising a family

[@sbring00able]

A co-worker of mine could benefit greatly from this advice

[@salvadorvidrio6031]

Kick his ass!

[@iammaximus614]

And take names

[@aegis1616]

Better be careful how you tell him that.

[@cLcs]

Thank you Mr. Willink! I take all you say to heart. I really needed to hear this. 🙏🙏🙏

[@henrylin3527]

Thank you so much for sharing! “Anger is a sign of weakness” that is so true!! I’m starting to realize I must change! Being weak it ain’t cool. Thank you once again “nod nod” peace ✌️

[@tomnerva1586]

Great words. Lashing out in anger is never a wise choice. We often end up apologizing for our actions afterward, feeling ashamed for what we've said or done in our bout of rage, especially if our anger has been directed toward a loved one. It can even lead to murder. Subsequently spending the rest of our lives in prison, paying with the remaining years of our life for a momentary emotion that we will likely not even remember years from now. Uncontrolled anger (and really a lack of control of our emotions in general) is an unskillful quality to have, and is detrimental to your health and well being.

[@erikg007]

Thank you Jocko. I've been searching for anger management tips for a long time. You solved my problem in the first 7 seconds of the video.

[@snakewhisperer2010]

I watched this episode for this and its still one of my favorites.

[@one1mind]

Thank you for this Jocko. It's a reminder for me everytime

[@elplateado0018]

Hey Jocko Hey Echo You guys are awesome !

[@BigButler08]

The real question is what do you do when the person is in your face and won't leave you alone and desperately wants to make you upset or angry because they have proven over time that they have some desperate need to insult and disrespect you in front of other people and you alone out of your group of "friends? " asking because I recently had to cut a person loose for this.

[@mariekoh5232]

Love your podcast, I listen in all the time.

[@pkelvin91]

Thanks for these video man..never had a father figure growing up so these videos y’all make is helpful! Keep up with more videos

[@jag3217]

Lol my dad always told me to count to ten before opening the trap,@ 57 still learning!!!

[@Guts-zd2lw]

I always think of what Ragnar said, “Use your anger intelligently.” Its letting anger take control of you is the sign of weakness. Appreciate the message nonetheless.

[@Masacarious]

Thanks for sharing. I enjoyed watching your talk.

[@stevekostakis2983]

Mr Willink...my utmost respect to you Sir. Your wisdom and guidance is something I really have been looking for. 🙏

[@gil658]

"I can't believe this!" hahaha. But only podcast I listen to. Thank you.

[@cmdctrl4292]

Sometimes it's a strength.

[@ibrahimismail8670]

yeah i agree you can't be all logic and no emotion

[@NatralSelection]

Cmd Ctrl I concur. You wouldn't have any emotions without me.

[@russell32579]

Cmd Ctrl losing control is not strength its weakness...losing your temper is still losing...channeling the energy to perform and tapping into your strength to get the job done is the messege here

[@cmdctrl4292]

I understood his message but my message was, nothing is absolute and sometimes losing your temper can be the icing on the cake, the little extra fuel or a burst of fire that you may have needed to overcome that obstacle. You could have somebody 100 lbs on top of you smashing your face and if you're able to release the dark side, let go of control and allow your primitive instincts to channel, then you could turn the tables. If your manager at work, your dad, or whatever is a hardcore piece of shit to you and they constantly ride you thus pushing you into becoming a forever beta-mindset; then releasing that anger that you've worked so hard and been taught all your life to suppress could be just the right formula into letting them know, "Not. This. Time! Mother Fucker!", and it could earn you respect from them or it could reassure yourself that you're not compatible with being a beta, you're capable and should be an alpha and in lieu of that, should change lifestyles and embrace the beast that is the most successful predator on this planet = A Human Man. Furthermore, intolerance is a strength, suppressing it has it's time and place but to never unleash the beast has it's consequences. If European Men, Specifically German, Swedish, and French men would allow themselves to lose control, then their countries wouldn't stand by whilst a god damn army of invaders rape their women and steal their lands and live off of their taxes. Control is a push pull, anger has it's applications, and the true strength lies in knowing how to and when to suppress or unleash the humanity upon your foe whether politically or physically. Jocko is military and I imagine that a lot of his messages are from his experiences with other military people and that most of his advice is aimed towards supporting his brothers in arms whom are well known by society to have short and uncontrolled tempers and if you're that fucking guy, then yes, fix your shit, loose cannons are predictable, detrimental to those around them, and self-cannibalistic in many ways. But*, in the civilian world, a world of which is my jungle, the opposite occurs. An entire race of Men, White Men especially whom have become absolutely pussified and are losing their predatorial hierarchy to lesser men, to lessor cultures, to lazier and less capable constructs of biology Because* they live a life of not only being controlled but through self-controlling and thus suppressing their manhood, thus surrendering their position as the Apex Alpha Predator and on a large scale it's killing society, destroying thousands of years of hard earned ground, ground earned by real men, ground that was evolved by true warriors, broken fingered builders, cutthroat merchants, hardened fathers, whipped sons, and self sustaining bastards whom did not have an ounce of self control because in that world, the world of which we were so fortunate to inherit, and the world that we are so foolish give away, in that world - REAL men raised to the top! Real men like Cornelius Vanderbilt and like John Rockefeller whom not only were renounced for losing their temper, they were feared and respected in the faces of lessor; in that world, weak men were made stronger, strong men competed for the first bite, and while the majority survived, the strong strived. We are a nation built on intolerance, built on unleashing anger, and revolted from oppressive control in it's entirety and within the last 60 years, from being over controlled, we are very quickly becoming that of which our ancestors gave their lives to obtain; a nation without suppression and even worse, a nation that allows and imports it's enemies whom prey to the god of control to enter our lands unchallenged and thus bringing me back to my original statement that sometimes it's a fucking strength. If anybody who reads this comment is interested in further knowledge on the topic then I highly recommend this book: www.amazon.com/Path-Destruction-Star-Wars-Darth/dp/0345477375

[@Shaddicus]

Jocko would agree with you. There was a story when he was a corner-man in MMA deliberately pissing off his fighter.There Leif told a story of losing it on his guys and Jocko said "I dunno, that sounds like a time that showing some anger was appropriate."Dichotomy and Balance are big themes of leadership.

[@bearjew51]

Jocko. This spoke to my soul. Thank you for saving me from a bad path that I’ve been on my whole life caused by mine own irrational weak anger. No one can influence you but you and your emotions so take control!

[@optimusprime699]

I 100% agree and have battled with this idea that it is weak, immature and a waste of time getting raged and angry. I work on it so much. The issue is when the deep burning starts to happen with in, and I start to tense up and my breathing changes, inside i feel like a nuclear reactor and i can't stop that feeling, even if i keep it with in. I have terrible neck pain and other pains from the tension and I just want it to stop but no matter how many yares i have been working on this it just doesn't go and is getting worse. I try to change my mind set in how i react, so when people are rude, stupid or horrible i try to disassociate so i don't get triggered but doesn't last and i quickly loose control. Its a real problem that then gets me down because of all these emotions. My father and his father terrible tampers, always fighting, with and with out weapons, and all their family same the story. After all these years working and trying to shift my mind set and behaviours and triggers, I think it is hereditary or something and and characteristic that maybe can't be removed, just like we can not remove the colour of our eyes by mind set or the amount of chemicals in our blood. Just suffer in silence and hope for the best.

[@n1c98]

I want better control of my impulsive thoughts/ anger sometimes

[@ceckolalovia]

Control is not the thing you need, try meditation tho, just watch your thoughts let em flow try not to cling to it, and also while doing that try not to generate tension :)

[@230mps]

Picture yourself as someone calm you admire analyzing your thoughts as they happen.

[@unkownoflife5959]

The Lord Jesus Christ gives peace friend.

[@rollz4010]

Same here

[@derekstaten5221]

It took me 24 years to figure out by myself wish I did that sooner in my life

[@PandaGamerMo]

You better than me bud. I'm learning it at 26

[@LitoGeorge]

And me at 47.

[@richardhammer187]

@@LitoGeorge Amen buddy, only a little bit younger than you, and I still just managed to keep it on the down-low TWICE today due to moronic entitled drivers.

[@LitoGeorge]

@@richardhammer187 When I was younger, the Falklands war was front and centre. I recall one of the heroes of the story was someone they called Commander Ice or something like that, because he was simply unflappable. In my young state (and with no one to bounce this off), I thought that meant suppressing all feelings. That worked really well and gave me the aura of a sense of calm that really worked well in the Army and beyond. But once the lid came off, it was bad. Truly. Now I realise that its managing those feelings. Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway as they say. Pushing it down is not feeling it. And so we learn.

[@derekstaten5221]

Nope bud three years later still watching this. Day by day

[@sgt.grinch3299]

Amen. I struggle with this everyday. I have always used my rage and fears as motivation. I thrive in chaos but suffer in peace and quiet.

[@brewer3401]

Excellent. I wish I would have had the opportunity to go where you have been. Has taken me a long time to realize a lot of your wisdom.

[@rileynteddygaming9064]

I always have that extra strength I decide not use it it’s not weakness it’s nothing you always had that power but when you harness it and use it to power you’re going to go rip through things you really got some adrenaline

[@firefighter2699]

When I was going through EMT school, which at my college the instructors made it very difficult (understandbly) to the point where some students would cry and quit, the main instructor who had been through a lot shit reccomended Jakko, every morning when i wake up at 430 I throw his podcast on before the gym. Thank you for what you do sir!.

[@nathanielbeardon8818]

My 16 year old self sitting here dealing with an annoying car maintenance problem that I can’t fix myself, found myself throwing tools and even the urge smash my window with a wrench. I stopped, sat in the car, opened KZbin and this was the first thing I saw. Thank you

[@nunyabidnazz2311]

Awesome! For a man to speak on controlling your anger being a strength....actually a big deal! Thank you!! I’m sharing this with my teenage son and think he’ll appreciate it coming from a “tough guy” 😂 Awesome job!!

[@xist3018]

Difficult when everything and everyone makes me angry

[@josephrobertson8660]

That's your fuckin bad and fault bud

[@lauran.9427]

Jocko...I love you and appreciate your service, strength and everything you are!!! I will say this was a tough post to watch...being bullied all my life (yep..chick is 40 and still continues) I find it tough not to "go ballistic" ....I THANK YOU for this post....

[@wonderwomanmomma4112]

Anger is such an easily accessible emotion for me. This was good.

[@scruvvy]

“slowly knod your head in the affirmative”, i’m taking this and running with it! Thank you!

[@donkeyfart7568]

Funniest thing was when I had 3 seargents screaming at me and another guy about a job we took too long on that we did undermanned (5 people required we got 2). I said okay yeah were trying. They kept screaming. I knew there was something off with them and walked away. They were such insufferable miserable weak people they had to have another Seargent come to me and explain to me their feelings. It was so pathetic and I lost all respect for them that night. Now im the fuckin Seargent and I will never scream at someone out of anger. It's only ever to protect someone or to get their attention in an immediate circumstance. I've had so many leaders that love to scream and deamean lower enlisted and laugh about it later like they did something. It's whoreshit. Losing your cool makes you a bitch

[@charliezelenowski2701]

I imagine there must be a good few people like me out there. Without going into too much detail, 90% of my confrontations growing up ended in violence, when my body starts getting those same chemical signals that an argument brings (coincidentally, the same chemical precursors that lead up to a fight) I find it almost impossible to not lose my shit. It's easy to mock someone like me and tell me that I am the problem... I feel like at least I acknowledge and try to address the issue. As soon as my heart rate goes up it's like an avalanche effect. Often taking me an hour or so to really get over it. Now I do have mental problems when it comes to this stuff, If I didn't I wouldn't be leaving this comment. I have had only one fight in the last 10 years, which for me is good going.

[@tlhoward5]

You can do it brother, it takes a lot of practice.

[@lukegribble5752]

Such a huge help. Stopping and taking a breath is the best remedy when it comes to losing your temper.

[@wavesofrelaxation4038]

Thank you for this video, I suffer from Bipolar and I feel so helpless when my anger comes on. I know it is a sign of weakness and I hate weakness. I think this is a great message! Thank you for posting, very good advice, very smart man.

[@lilosnitch3247]

That moment when u control your temper but no ome else does

[@darkdreamwalker]

When I get mad I count to 1,000,000. By the time I reach 500k, I've already forgotten why I'm counting.

[@mitfreude]

This is the best counter on anger I've seen on youtube so far.... I understand the indicator and my indicator was being shaky when angry and fast heartbeat...

[@yonblek4542]

Most important piece of advice for me that I must persistently practice!

[@h0rriphic]

I lost my temper this morning. It was really, really bad. Although people that witnessed it tell me I was justified- but frankly it’s embarrassing to have been allowed myself to lose control. I actually had to make myself get in my car and drive away bc I was afraid of what I’d do. I don’t know what to do bc I’ll have to go back there in 72 hours. No idea how to keep my shit together. Help. Im a mess. I don’t want to go to prison.

[@georgezazueta61]

Are u okay?

[@OCECinemas]

I have been battling with my depression and anger. This one little thing saying that it's a weakness. Has really opened my eyes. I know it seems like common sense stuff but like he said it didn't happen over night for him. But I was in a fog and didn't know what to do and now I finally and going to try to something that might work. Thank for the help

[@authorjeffkosiba290]

Big fan of Jocko's. This is 100% the kind of advice that can change lives for the positive. God bless brother

[@FR-ty5vn]

Excellent discussion - I needed that - thanks 🙏, Jocko!

[@gt9188]

When somebody yells at me...... I laugh!

[@RudigerDumiharter]

God and Jesus bless you jocko. much love and respect.

[@thetruthwillsetyoufree44]

I needed to hear this so much, especially today. Thank you

[@y1d2d3a4m5]

Obviously alot more good info could be added to this(stress training) but awareness of the negative impacts of anger is a great start. Some may have to dive into the dark place for more answers. Everyone can thank you for this . 💛

[@zadkya]

What I really hate about this society is that how we have built these conceptions about our emotions so we can function in a rational way all the time. No wonder why we develop all this built up guilt and anger that will just end up hurting us and the ones we love! Because we think that by trying not to feel it we will be "stronger". But is it strength the ability to endure painful and uncomfortable emotions such as these and knowing that it will go away, but not before finding the good moment to question where that anger roots from? Here is the tough truth. Our emotions are irrational which means we can't control them, only understand them and calm them in the suitable moment. It is okay to feel anger trust me I've wanted to harm others and myself but I'm still here trying to be a better human. Go to a therapist and learn about yourself.

[@RaZziaN1]

Emotions are not irrational, unless u have some chemical imbalance in the brain. Most of time it is very rational, based on your environment. Not understanding something doesn't make it irrational. Your body is most rational system build for survival. Second - anger is making you produce "several" substances which needs to be removed from your organism and in huge amounts are toxic. So saying it just calming it up is ok it is not enough, we just good enough to rid of it, but prolonged it is really toxic and degrade quality of life. (i mean calming is not enough in this cases)

[@zadkya]

@@RaZziaN1 what do you mean by irrational here? Does that mean that our feelings are rational so we can control them to a certain extent for our own benefit? There's purposes for every feeling but anger for me personally is a tough one I don't completely understand so yeah there might be things I don't understand yet.

[@TheKevinkauffman06]

Completely disagree. I was abused by my step dad for years and did or said nothing. Until the day he put hands on my sister and I got so ANGRY that I smashed him in the back of the head with a toolbox. At 11yo, my anger was our saving grace. Not my fear of getting beat again. Not the sadness of the my life. My rage at my sister being hit. My rage exposed him and saved us from said situation. Anger is necessary to survival.

[@legendarybreton460]

That sounds like self defense.He’s talking about mental weakness.If I call you a name and you get mad, it’s because you’re mentally weak and I now have power over your emotions.If someone is physically abusing you that’s not mental weakness, it’s assault.it’s like if I grab a sledgehammer and bash your car in, that’s destruction of property but if I call your car ugly, and you are mentally affected by it, and get angry and sad, you’re just weak.if you damage my car, im probably going to get physical but that’s just to preserve my property.

[@RowenWright-rd7di]

I agree with you when you said anger is necessary for survival I definitely agree

[@ritchcarcass8624]

And that’s the problem. That’s how we get triggered because we get angry thinking we need to do it to defend ourselves, when, in most cases, we are just being angry over the top. You and I should both take this advice to have strength over our emotions. And I agree with you 100% because God knows if somebody’s going to try to make a move on me. My anger will be quicker than a Bruce Lee snap and that’s the problem. Are you with me?

[@ritchcarcass8624]

Being abused by your stepdad is nothing compared to being abused by your real father. At least, with the stepdad you can make an excuse for the lack of love, but when it comes from your own dad, also abusing my sister, coupled with extremely angry abusiveness, this is the world that I live in and I’m trying to break it

[@masteringeverythingonceatatime]

Yes, anger is a natural and healthy emotion. Anger isnt meant to be avoided or surpressed, its meant to be harnessed.

[@n1c98]

Thank you for this wisdom Jocko

[@PerfectoM]

I love this! This is information that really helps. Thanks Jocko.