Bullying Husbands Aren't Stopped by Therapy | Stop the Bullying First, Then Get Therapy

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How do you stop bullying at home? Getting bullying husbands or bullying spouses (wives can be bullies, too!) into therapy is not necessarily the first best step to stop bullying. In this video, Dr. Leichtling discusses abusive, bullying husbands and boyfriends, and how getting them to go to counseling or therapy is not the best way to deal with the situation.
It is a popular misconception in our culture that men who verbally or physically abuse their wives and girlfriends will stop their bad behavior if they can just be talked into going into therapy. Unfortunately, this is rarely the case, especially if the counseling is not the bully's idea and he feels that he is being forced into it.
A bullying spouse will often take advantage of counseling and use it as a way to gain even more control over his situation. He agrees to deals and compromises that make the wife feel like she is gaining something, when in fact he won't honor the agreements and is merely buying more time to force her to give in. The bully is simply delaying the inevitable end result: the wife gives in to his abusive behavior.
Sometimes during counseling the wife finds the inner resolve to end the relationship.
Bullying and abuse will only stop when the bully is forced to stop. Once the abusive behavior ends, then it may be useful to enter a counseling or therapy program to work on long-term solutions to keep the abuse from returning. But, therapy cannot be seen as the first step. Stopping the bullying has to be the first step.
For help devising a personalized plan for dealing with an abusive spouse or boyfriend, call Dr. Ben directly at 1-877-8BULLIEs. Remember that giving in to bullying will result in the slow erosion of your soul.
Here is another video that discusses dealing with narcissistic husbands and abusive relationships:
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