How to Stop A Bully

BrooksGibbs.com
Author/Speaker Brooks Gibbs explains bullying in the most simplistic terms: Dominance behavior.
He provides a simple solution to bullying as well: Don't get upset.
This interactive game as well as the theory of aggression is built on the foundation of my mentor Izzy Kalman’s work on bullying. For more info on him, check out www.IzzyKalman.com

[@anyaforger5469]

i actually tried the "You have a face of an angel, sweet cheeks" On my bully and he was confused and never picked on me again i didnt think one phrase can stop a bully

[@loverain7362]

Haha love it good job!

[@bluejay6904]

he probably thought you were trying to pick up on him.

[@bunnycakez0326]

I feel like flirting/complimenting works better, because most bullies pick on people due to there own insecurities. But other than that, I also flirt because the reactions are funny

[@cutenessoverload719]

I think if i would do that too, ppl would think I'm in love with them

[@uvulaeater9092]

I don't want to do that cause he is a narcisisst idiot and he will think I like him and fuck no i don't want that

[@corallinehalli8845]

I have watched this 13 times in my life, with 9 different teachers showing me yet I still love it

[@blupqstcl2446]

Aww it’s cute your teachers showed you this >

[@meteo5582]

My teacher ignores me

[@infiniteharm7778]

S u

[@marymertz1]

Did it help you?

[@BudgetRifle]

who is this girl she is pretty confident

[@smileyhehehe]

please note that bullying nowadays is very indirect and using subtle words and symbolic meaning. Bully are usually a narcissist and they never do direct things to you as they need to keep their images as the good people.

[@f.abbasli]

exactly. I encountered the same at my 26. I was shocked just did not normal action on that situation. but 5 months later I revenged and then again they did... )) stupidy things. already I give up..

[@crustbg3295]

U r absolutely correct bro @6anonymous9. Bullies just bully in such a way that if someone is to complain against them to the elders, the one who complained gets hated by others and the bully gains sympathy from others.

[@ir4700]

@@crustbg3295 I agree - this video was not good advice and would ring more of the same or a kicking. Power dynamics should be the main focus.

[@sendaljepit9815]

Exactly

[@alocsx]

I need advice on how to deal with the indirect type that you mentioned

[@sopwithpuppy]

Think of bullies as sandpaper. They might scratch you at first, but in the end, you're POLISHED, and they end up USELESS.

[@pauldank3453]

Pretty much they stopped me from caring about so much

[@sun5705]

more like toiletpaper

[@7minutesago4yearsago29]

No they don’t end up useless. They just go and polish someone else

[@yasuounforgiven551]

Sh.t men this comment is GOOD!

[@angelinarobert622]

well said.

[@drowning8868]

I have been depressed from bullying and started to think I should just end it all. This video helped me so much. You are an angel sent by god. Thank you.

[@Kaan_is_myname97]

Dont do it. This video clearly explains what those animals do is try to have dominance over People. They say things that is not True and do things that is not their business. You are not what they say, it is an attack not a fact.

[@TheSm1thers]

Start lifting and beat the shit out of the bully

[@Сте-е4ь]

If yure under 18, train in boxing, then kick their a**, if older, than its tougher and more dangerous, since beating them will get yu in trouble with gov

[@lancehumphries1153]

Keep your grades up and go to college or find a trade your good at and you will be the winner in the long run. All the bully has is his k-12 years and his life is crap after that. Keeping that high school mentality and living in the glory years the rest of their miserable life. Probably only get jobs making 20-30k a year and divorced while your living the good life with a family and good job. You’ll have the last laugh if you keep this in mind.

[@trentlee8260]

You sent yourself here bro. Its because somewhere inside you, you know your worth far more than other peoples words. This goes also out to anyone else who reads this. Im here to understand what and why someone wishes to dominate (bully) someoneelse..i found a pattern..👌

[@ViktorKlemming]

Best thing I’ve ever seen and I have seen fightclub.

[@beanman77777]

vad fan gör du här hahahah

[@ViktorKlemming]

@@beanman77777 bra skit här

[@camsterscool]

Rule one of fight club don’t talk about fight club!!!!!!! You broke it

[@foodbaggaming1812]

Det undrar jag också

[@Thishandleisavailabl.e]

WHAT’S THE FIRST RULE

[@tharasian3785]

I tried it It worked The guy was like “okay I’m bored with you bye” 😂😂😂😂

[@dnddrawings550]

Really?

[@fbackupaltslol4188]

The thing is its not just anyone bullying its my brother...like wth he thinks of himself a king... I bet he bullies people at school too..

[@youdroppedsomething4334]

unicorn wings Tell your parents because they’re pretty much the only people that can help, how old r u and him?

[@fbackupaltslol4188]

@@youdroppedsomething4334 i tried that...hes just one year older than me..they always think that im overreacting but im not 😥😥

[@alfader8657]

@@fbackupaltslol4188 beat the shit out him then

[@butterflymagicwithhottea9291]

I want anti-bullying, social skills, dynamics in conversation and differences in social power to be taught at every level in schools EVERYWHERE. That would be such life skills. This demo is wonderful. More pls!

[@rachityadav5866]

@@Simooooonneeee your words are marvelous Only angels can say this things you are an angel

[@meghansouth581]

Amen

[@Photat]

Clearly, this guy has never been in a call of duty lobby.

[@boshiko3587]

Have you got threaten by a player with your house picture ?

[@boshiko3587]

You play GTA online ?

[@sun5705]

why even play a game full of hackers

[@emperordonaldtrump1st614]

@@boshiko3587 yeah i told him to pullup id have a 12 gauge round with his name on it :) he fucked off and never contacted me again lmao

[@crypt11]

hahahaha

[@rosethornil]

I wish I'd known this in high school. This is "dominance behavior" and understanding that one true fact really "reframes" the whole issue. VERY helpful.

[@Kaan_is_myname97]

Yeah me too every boy should be teached with this before highschool. İ Got permanent hearing loss and tinnitus because of some criminal hitting/slapping my ears i sometimes think of killing that son of a bitch even after almost 6 years of highschool.

[@pizzariotin]

@@Kaan_is_myname97 girls are bullies too

[@nikax6612]

@@pizzariotin girls are more annoyng then boys

[@spicybook]

kid in my school, nobody talks shit bout him because he will break yo arm. super narcissistic piece of shit that won't stop talking about how good he is at boxing. Ugh.

[@wesremy]

It sounds simple, but it is actually good. It doesn't however deal with being isolated by the group, which is a big part of bullying which can't be fixed by ignoring it.

[@sandgun3993]

@Bread m8 just beat them they will stop

[@xgas.hurried9894]

@@sandgun3993 thats a crime you cant just go around beating people up. and if you still beat them up they will think you are angry and then they will irritate you more cause they like it when someone's angry. do you get my point?

[@sandgun3993]

@@xgas.hurried9894 mate in my case i always fight idk lol

[@xgas.hurried9894]

@@sandgun3993 lol 😂

[@lalala9436]

I made your likes to 69 so do u feel better? 🤠

[@lorinnemyatt7366]

I taught a similar concept to my son when he was 4 years old, and the the neighbor kids were 5 & 6 and all brats. They invited him to play basketball with them, then only played keep away. He came in so sad and hurt. That night I talked to him about taking responsibility in any situation -- meaning, taking ownership of your own actions. That "responsibility" gives you "response-ability". You're not powerless. We talked about what they were seeking (to make him upset) and if he blew it off and didn't get upset, then they wouldn't get their pay off. I suggested that when the first started keeping the ball from him, he casually say "Look, are we gonna play ball? I'm here to play ball". He asked "what if they still do it?". I replied with "I thought we were going to play ball. Are we going to play or not? Because if not, I have other things to do". He asked but what if they STILL do it. My reply: "I've got other things to do. I'll catch ya guys later", and calmly walk back in the house. Call them on their BS. Stay calm. Don't stick around for the abuse. He's now 17 and so calm, strong & self-confident, and a great help to his friends when they are needing advice of any kind.

[@truthseeker5796]

bravo, you raised him to become a good responsible man

[@MenOn13]

I wish i had a mother like u,

[@janabarkowsky9488]

Hearing this makes me so happy, how wonderful that he has a mom like you!

[@damayra37]

Yes! That’s the way. I have a 32 years old son and he is so polite, great husband and wonderful father❤❤❤

[@onoono8632]

The girl's reaction when he starts singing "isn't she lovely"

[@goldenhours9279]

Ikr😂😂

[@haithamalmahri3401]

No she’s not. She’s trying to be.

[@noname9041]

@@haithamalmahri3401 ehh she kinda is lol

[@hinaringo17]

people in my school use me for racial abuse. this video really helps me to stand up for myself. thanks!

[@funnyvalentine5407]

Hidude 12 Sorry to hear that friend. Stand strong!

[@Liverpoolboy01]

Toxic Demon good luck to you.😊

[@stevedoetsch]

Are you white or Asian?

[@Siduduziwe]

((((((((hugs))))))))

[@carolinediamond13]

@@funnyvalentine5407 You gotta try to stand up for yourself. Don't be scared!! DEFEND YOUR RACE

[@ninjapirate123]

In Singapore, bullies were forced to sent out of the school if teacher's see them bully other people. Then when the bullies got sent out of the school, the principal sends their parents an email saying that your child can't come to this school anymore because he/she bullies other people. This is why not even a single student in Singapore would bully other people because they're scared of getting sent out of the school and get grounded by their parents because of bullying other students at school.

[@TeresaDupuis]

My 10 yr old tried this approach today and so far it worked! She's jazzed. :)

[@whydoesjiminhavenojamsifji2870]

@Xavier Smith 😡

[@frednil8304]

Is that like 'jazz hands'? That's the visual that I have in my head.

[@rebbeshort]

@Soccer Loco True, but he's a funny fucking idiot.

[@what2saynow]

@Xavier Smith triggered!!

[@raesmith2164]

@@frednil8304 no it's like 'happy' or 'elated' or 'really glad this actually fucking worked.' Jesus, I'm 16... Does anybody actually take the time to analyze the sentence structure to infer the meaning of the statement?

[@lulubarr1518]

This works on narcissistic abusers too. I’ve used it on my mom plenty of times (who’s literally ripped me and my sisters apart). It’s something that everyone need to see.

[@oglatnik]

YES

[@GordonMancuso]

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[@chadbudzik]

She literally ripped you apart? Damn.

[@Kris-tz7rl]

I’m sorry but I’m glad your fighting back

[@CultofTimmy]

I've tried and he still found ways to manipulate me. That's where I physically just walked away and never returned back to the abuser

[@nevermindmyname9153]

There is the ONE Problem dealing with Bullies that Video's like this don't show. In the 90's in secondary school I was bullied by this one boy and his friends. One day, he backed me to a wall... And the insults started. Everyone laughed WITH him; he'd gathered a crowd watching him destroy me, calling me names... To which I responded: "It so good you're expanding your Vocabulary and working on your People skills". Everyone laughed AT HIM and not with him. With that one line it was like I'd ripped his Soul out of his Body. And so he resorted to violence. I gotta give him this, that was one quick punch. That I sidestepped. And he hit the very wall he'd backed me into breaking some bones in his hand. Making everyone Laugh at him even more. It's be nice if that was where it ended. Bullies are Pack hunters... Unfortunately, one night he and his friends caught me outside of School. I had been studying Martial Arts for many years and held my own for the first 10 seconds... But with overwhelming Numbers they beat me so badly I was in Hospital for TWO Months. This predated Camera Phones and CCTV everywhere. And they said I had started on them. If it wasn't for HIS girlfriend backing me up on what happened I cannot imagine how the rest of it would have gone.

[@Mrocznyy666]

WTF man

[@molostone8946]

A good story. I wish it were true though...

[@dazzleddame1727]

We watched this in class today

[@Jake-dq5pm]

Lucia I same

[@olivertew4642]

Lucia I My grandma showed me this

[@dazzleddame1727]

Chloe Tew 😂😂 that's sounds interesting

[@olivertew4642]

Lucia I Lol yeah.

[@teoogucci3062]

Lucia I me to

[@DreamerstoDoers]

This is the most important video ever. The entire time i was just thinking "why didn't I learn this sooner???" throughout my entire teen years I was figuring out how to "not care what people think" and THIS was exactly what I needed at that time. Thank you. I am keeping this video forever.

[@sunkey6093]

This guy came to our school today and it was insane. He ended up wrestling a student during his game it was funny but learned such a great lesson. I appreciate you coming to our school today. It was also insane how one kid came up and wasn’t able to continue with the insults, just amazing! Such a great speech, well done! 🎉

[@angry8232]

instructions unclear: bully got stuck in toaster

[@No-ep6lc]

That's not bullying that is called assault and battery.

[@asalt1872]

(Batery)

[@napalmstickstobabies7794]

What

[@itzkarafolken2423]

Help them out of there

[@debbie3453]

angry Lol

[@christinebeers8767]

My 11 year old used this and he said it was amazing! It’s changed his entire attitude about going to school. When his teacher talked about “bullying” he told her he likes the term “dominance behavior” more.

[@babyguurlll]

I have been bullied almost all my life, by a narcissistic mum, and also, co workers, I was to afraid to admit it till now that I the courage to say that I am in a better place mentally and spiritually. I’m still working on standing uo for my self, cause, All my life I felt like I didn’t had a voice till now. You can speak up, your voice has power.

[@sunshinepurple1043]

She was good. Don't think he quite expected that.

[@Exiria]

She could be a real life bully

[@LaMagicalUnicorn1]

She should be a actress

[@QQuantum]

Yes, her responses were fast and pointy. She is used to bullying. Or she is not, and was just good. Bye

[@melissahesselman1729]

Tracy Sault she was a really good bully-

[@nickonite]

She was definitely a bully herself. She seemed too natural.

[@emileeheili6170]

‘You have a face of an angle, sweet cheeks...’😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ariannasamson6374]

angel*

[@axelcardiff6167]

@Cha Ham me too 😰

[@discmare347]

Lol

[@jlo13800]

There are many ways, one is a homemade flamethrower that burn over 3000 def f and launch over a 12 foot flame with kerosene, skin and lungs severely burned, another is with with an F -250 truck and aim at him on foot, bumper takes him down and you are free to run over that tree rats scull with a 5700 lbs truck, death it instant be sure to back up and crunch the rib cage as that will end the asshole's life, next sprinkle kerosene and set it on fire. hehe, you are now rid of your bully, be sure to kick it in the head after you ignite it though, next burry the carcass.

[@teeveeh3ad169]

lol angle 📐 lol

[@Madeintheusa211]

Nothing feels better than sticking up for a bullied victim. ❤

[@MommaBear-q1q]

Been there

[@cutenessoverload719]

Her: i hate blonde people Someone from the distance: WHAT DID YOU- ( 5:37 )

[@nasimsaberi]

*_N i k i_* lol i heard it

[@xgas.hurried9894]

@_*N i k i*_ lol

[@aruxuv]

*_N i k i_* lol

[@eliviqs]

*what you-*

[@FruityHachi]

yeah the atmosphere got dense

[@echoequani8326]

I was bullied in school and someone said to me that I stunk. My remark back to them was have you smelled yourself lately? I also said to them. I could smell you a mile away, and there was other people around, and they laughed. After that they left me alone, because I embarrsed them in front of a whole bunch of people

[@jadegreen1554]

You had the capacity. Victims of Billy don’t have that quick retort. They are quieter and not able to fight back. They are the ones bullies latch on to.

[@izumin2896]

It takes a strong mindset and self confidence to answer just like that but thanks it will help so many people and also kids!

[@lorinnemyatt7366]

no, it just takes coaching and practice.

[@golfguy25]

You don't even need to say anything. The few times people try to mess with me, I just say "OK" than stand there like a brick, not saying anything, not moving, nothing. After saying a few things, they will get bored, realize I'm not going to react, and then they never mess with me again. Works every time.

[@toddr.hepworth8098]

Another teacher here. I'll add to Sergio Clemente's excellent response to this video. Brooks Gibbs only presents one very limited way of understanding bullying. He summarizes a sociological perspective about dominance. Behavioral scientists have also studied bullying for decades. Their conclusions are this: A person receives a psychological reward when they engage in bullying behavior. They will only stop that behavior when the negative consequences outweigh the positive rewards. Dominance is not the only reward. As Sergio said, social approval is a much more powerful motivator. When one person grows "thick skin," the bully merely moves on to the next victim to torment for the approval of an audience. Don't give them the audience. Having taught children from Kindergarten through fifth grade in public schools, here's what I found works for most (not all--no approach is universal) bullies. Zero tolerance on a social level. Stand with the victim. Publicly shame the bullies. Shun them. Humiliate them. Ostracize them. Make the social consequences so unbearable that the bullying behavior becomes too painful to continue. Then, and only then, do you attempt to invite the bully back into the social group and help change behavior with "nice words." Bullies won't stop until it hurts too much to continue.

[@nankono]

Todd R. Hepworth bullys can help in life if stand up to them like me I learned you gotta be confident don't let people run all over you

[@toddr.hepworth8098]

Eventually, that's what everyone needs to learn--to be confident and stand up for themselves. However, there are a lot of people who haven't learned how to do that, yet. They don't deserve to be victimized by bullies just because they can't just "shake it off," yet. In fact, those are the people bullies seek out--those whom they consider easy targets. So we stand up for them and with them. Zero tolerance for those who prey on others.

[@Sither04]

And what happens when they push back more? Will we push back harder? Then will they push back more? When do they reach their breaking point and become unstable and damaged? The reality here is that bullying comes from internal pain, and if you encourage that pain to grow, you’ll end up with ugly results. Also just wanted to say you seem more modest and realistic than the other teacher, so props for that.

[@thefrozenflames1658]

This is a good tldr of Sergio’s with a good point

[@raesmith2164]

If everyone or at least majority of the people use this method instead of being told to yell "STOP!!" and to tell a grown-up, very few people would get bullied. Why not teach more kids this? This has helped a lot of people with their bullying situations (evidence present in the comments section). I have used this tactic for years and not one bully had relentlessly targeted me. I have a lot of bully material too.

[@betsyoman7173]

My son was about 14 or 15 when he was bullied in a situation, then he was away from that situation for about 6 months. When he came back to that group for one evening, BOOM, it started again, only worse than before, and I'm not even sure it was the same person. What he said afterward was very significant. He said, "I could ACT like it didn't bother me, because it DIDN'T bother me, because I'd been a way from it and I knew that I was more than what they thought of me." This is significant. Kids can't just act like it doesn't bother them if they don't know that they are something different than what the other kids are saying about them. (And by the way, he went back to that group twice and simply found that there was nothing there for him, either from the teacher or the kids.)

[@angelapoch]

I learnt this from my youth group and Bible studies and it saved me from bullying in High School. In fact, one girl was actually violent and had punched others many times. Treating her with respect and warmth worked on her too! She never hit me and started calling me a friend. In fact, as far as I remember (this was over 30 years ago) she actually stopped bullying others too!!! The reality is EVERYONE is hurting, especially bullies!!

[@Davy.J.Y]

We will never get rid of bullying, but video's like this can ease the situation to some extent. Thumbs up.

[@Unknown-sg4tv]

A part of dealing with bullies is to be with friend's that love you for who you are because that way it's easyer to clear the hate/negatively out of your mind and to focus on happiness that you deserve.

[@Unknown-sg4tv]

That way it's easyer to igrone the hate from the bully making it easyer to deal with the situation.

[@babyguurlll]

yesss

[@enzedmed9700]

This has always been my method for dealing with bullies and I don't recall being bullied except maybe once when I was 9 for my hair from some older kid. I don't agree with letting bullies run a muck, but if you can let go of that stupid need to be perfect, is releases a massive weight off your shoulders. It will give you so much free energy to play with. You just have to get comfortable calling yourself silly, stupid, goofy, clumsy, make it cute if you want, just dont take yourself too seriously. Let others take the pressure of being perfect, watch them burn out, set yourself up to be underestimated, know in yourself you can jump in whenever you feel like it, but you choose not too because its just a waste of energy. Save your strength for the real fights in life. Like stopping a bully for bullying someone else.

[@BeYounique...Maryanne]

This is great if you have that kind of personality. When I was a kid being bullied, what worked was fighting back (verbally, though sometimes I had to physically fight back). It's a shame, over 30 years later we're still having these issues. Why haven't we evolved? Bullying is so primitive.

[@DerDrBach]

Glad that you fought back, i know it won't erradicate bullying, but i think is more useful than... This

[@BeYounique...Maryanne]

@@DerDrBach Thank you so much for your support. The main problem is, bullying sideswipes you, it happens so fast, out of the blue, and it's not usually a time to be rational. Instincts kick in and you have to show the bully you're not afraid. Being unaffected by harsh words is wise, but a nasty-ass teen will continue bullying you if you don't take some sort of stance for yourself.

[@AtariEric]

"When someone punches your face" was *100%* of the interaction I faced as a child. And this crazy idea that a bully will leave you alone? Never happens. And you have all the elements to figure out why, yet you get the answer wrong. No bully "gives up" precisely because they _need_ to show dominance; it's a Compulsive/Obsessive Disorder. Failing to establish dominance on _any_ triggers narcissist collapse; any failure proves that their core identity beliefs are false. Every bully I grew up with acted like stalkers; they *never* gave up trying to dominate and enslave me - even at the risk of their own lives. I don't know what "amateur hour" bullies you are thinking of, but my bullies were of professional quality. And there was no help for me as a child. Everyone sided with my assailants - including my parents and the school faculty.

[@HesedLove]

hope you found a way to forgive them. By this you cut off their influence on your future.

[@hangryturtle9006]

Hope you found distance from these freaks and peace.

[@AtariEric]

@@hangryturtle9006 There _is no_ "distance" from these monsters - they're everywhere. And you pretend to not know this because you're one of them.

[@hangryturtle9006]

@@AtariEric ????? I’m not even close to being one of them!!!

[@AtariEric]

@@hangryturtle9006 Are you human? If you are, then you're a monster. And you all insist, screaming at the top of your lungs, that I'm _not_ human.

[@jodiehealion5012]

This is truth. I have been on this journey with a neighbour. I stopped contact. She cannot say anything that will bother me. So much healthier and happier for it. I will show this to my son.

[@iimitan]

I just want to say... I get too many bullying in my entire life. Until I watch this video, about 4 years ago. I doing what he said, what we should do with bullies. And this turned out to be very successful according to what he said. This had a very good effect on me afterwards. Thanks KZbin for recommended me back then. Also tyvm for Brooks Gibbs. You're amazing.

[@halenabear1899]

Ok give her a hand clap she did great. Later: give me a big hand clap I did awesome 👏🏻

[@moussafakih]

he was making a point there

[@musicinme023]

it's almost as if context exists!

[@janettegamble5221]

the person being bullied WAS awesome (later)

[@arkdragonninja6784]

Halena Goat 🐐

[@BoblaxXIII]

"Give me a big hand clap! THAT was awesome." Meaning he just asked for hand claps for the scenario lol Not for him

[@carrieramsey4516]

I'm a school counselor and just showed this video to one of my classes.....it really helped them understand how to handle a bully. Thank you!

[@Rina-mp8qb]

You are awesome!!!!!!!! Thanks for sharing this 😭 I was bullied by all my cousins when I was younger. Because I was poor and my parents were divorced. It affects my life until I'm adult. It is a nightmare just to go back remember and feeling the pain and hateful. I love them. But they were so evil to me. When I made my boundaries they don't care. They ignored me. Sometimes I feel so alone.

[@meta-less]

Teachers spend years trying to figure out how to stop bullying and this guy summed it up in minutes. amazing.

[@robinwigdahl2549]

Thank you so much! This video was absolutely key to my son shut down bullying in 2nd grade. He started middle school this year and I found it to show him again.

[@astrabirry]

This is how teachers think bullies are lmao

[@sandgun3993]

True

[@hoppy2829]

They are

[@DajuSar]

Just say nice things to them that will stop them for tying you at a chair or hitting you 100% succes

[@sandgun3993]

@@DajuSar not true

[@sandgun3993]

@Xolty Xretro m8 no shit

[@TheSuperTeacherStudent]

So true. We need to stop lying to the kids by saying, "We have a 0 tolerance bullying policy," because that's impossible. But if we tell the truth and let kids know that somewhere, sometime, people will be nasty to them while giving them these tools, they will be much better prepared to handle it.

[@babyguurlll]

yes.

[@Ghozt.141tf]

I sang "isn't she lovely" to my bully and he beat the shit out of me, thanks Brooks 👍🏼

[@trijetz3562]

are you okay XD

[@rickyplaysyt4322]

I don't believe in this video, because even we are not showing for being affected as we are accepting what they say in a no sense way they may think that we are goofies, and that can make us targets, I think it's better we face them be ourselves.

[@trijetz3562]

@@rickyplaysyt4322 well the idea is to make the bully feel uncomfortable trying to bully us. Unless you have a one liner ready, going with the flow is the better option.

[@rickyplaysyt4322]

@@trijetz3562 exactly, all that we should do is to ignoring them or just make them feel that they are just wasting our time but not offending, but not as on the video because as I said accepting like that make us look non sense, also I don't recommend from running away, because even you don't show affected they can assume it as fear.

[@trijetz3562]

@@rickyplaysyt4322 yeah, I just ignore what they say to me, no one really "bullies" me anymore.

[@me4them860]

Super helpful. I'm trying to teach my kiddos how to become "bully-proof" people 😊 This was a helpful resource for me as I was thinking about how to make a video for them. So thank you very much.

[@ameliaschultz7750]

Do you mean BULLET proof?

[@pewdiepie7408]

This is really helpful thanks man you helped me I’m going to school tommorow and standing up for myself thanks

[@RmationYT]

Oh my! It’s the real pew die pie, plz give me a shoutout plz 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@Lolo-bk3ul]

This is what I did. I came up with this theory that if I'm not giving what the bullies want then they'll get bored and move on. I also manipulate.. 🙂 for my own safety 👍. I make sure everyone knows when the bullying occurred. And that's how I stop them from targeting me. Note that every bully is different. If the bully likes bullying the weak, I talked back and acted tough. If they enjoyed being provoked, then I don't give them reactions. Also, never isolate yourself. Never leave an opening to the bullying to happen. My most memorable was when I verbally argued with a bully in the middle of the classroom. I kept my distance and didn't use profanity. I simply question her actions towards me to gain classmates' attentions. When the bully was about to lay a hand on me, I shouted that she started physical violence first. That's when the teacher arrived and the bully let it go. Edit: I hope this helps someone after reading.🙏 Always stay positive.

[@sakido_8249]

5:37 „i hate blonde people“ Best friend of her: „WHAT U...“😂😂😂

[@davidoyedepo2993]

Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on [phone]) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@jG48302]

I totally agree with this video since I have tried this technique many times and it has worked for me every time. No primary school teachers have made a difference for me but this technique has

[@bodymindhealth4u]

Fantastic. This concept worked for me 30 years ago in high school. I had trouble fitting in and was bullied in grade school. But once I learnt to just be kind no matter the cost (I didn't know it would work, I fully expected to get punched in the face), in high school after one interaction with one of the biggest bullies in the school, I was never bullied again. And boy did it feel good to stay true to myself and just be me! Now I teach these techniques to my clients.

[@sin3358]

This is what I've been doing for my entire life. I've just went along with the people that bullied me, because I didn't have enough time to deal with them and they were just acting stupid. I do have self confidence for sure.

[@sydneythornton8808]

I went to school with a kid who had to stop going because he was bullied so bad. He just stopped. Everyone loved him. But there was one person who bullied him, so he left.

[@GiorgosPlanar]

If this is our best answer to bullying in schools its pretty clear why we struggle to deal with bullying. I have been both a bully and a victim of bullying in high school in different environments. The advice presented is all too simplistic and even downward dangerous. Bullying can be terrifying and extremely complex to deal with. Trying to reduce it to simple receipts can get those bullied in more trouble. Even the separation of bullying from physical violence is nonsensical. Physical violence is an integral part of bullying. To face bullying you needs both vigilance and a relentless systemic crack down from school authorities as well as a support system that works and truly protects and empowers the victims .

[@marguskiis7711]

Exactly. These advices are naive as hell.

[@veronicnan]

Thai school and lazy teacher give power to the nacrisists who bullying to weaker mind student because Brats bullyer jealous and can't stand if person they hate got reward from teacher so They gonna have bullying by make the prey depressed

[@montygemma]

When I was at school I got bullied, told the teacher, and she told me I can bring him in and cane him but I bet if I do that it will get worse for you. "When he does it again punch him in the face hard" was her advice, "you might take a beating but he will not pick on you again". Anyway he started on me and I knocked two of his teeth out in front of everyone. She was right he never picked on me again, neither did anyone else. We were friends after that and I found throughout school that the people you stood up to or fought often ended up your mates in the long run.

[@humblerationalist]

I can't imagine this working! Even if you are friendly to the bully, he will get his approval through the others laughing at the insults! And if you are friendly to him, you would still have a lower status then the bully, wouldn't you?

[@taskr36]

It's similar to what I would do in high school if someone insulted me. If someone insulted me, I'd just agree with them and laugh. They had nowhere to go at that point. That said, I was never in danger of being bullied in high school. All the bullying happened to me when I was younger and it involved being physically threatened and attacked, so this video would have been useless to me. All I could do back then was to fight back each and every time, which typically resulted in me receiving the same, or worse punishment from school than the actual bullies.

[@1Amiel1]

I would just fight. I don't care if I get in trouble, I have to stand my ground and show them that I m willing to fight.

[@olivertew4642]

Humble Rationalist thats stupid

[@elizabethcolongarcia7572]

I've done it and it and worked

[@taskr36]

In girl world maybe. This wouldn't work on a violent bully.

[@PiaLoveBSNRNCCBTP]

Thank you for sharing this! Dominance behavior....love the term, love the solutions presented more.❤

[@hayouthought3284]

bully : Watching this video at class Also bully : awkward eye contacts with the whole class and silence for 7 minute

[@ariannegracedelrosario1615]

LMAO

[@nitishkumarrana8530]

I find this video very helpful for me to analyse what actually happen and how to react someone bully me.

[@HeartsOfMold]

I took this advice from this video a long time ago when I was going through bullying on a daily basis, I was violently beaten multiple times. Don’t listen to him, don’t be a victim.

[@Kaitlynhay2018]

When you spoke at CAlifornia FFA state conference 2016, you significantly changed my life. Today, I was confronted by someone and I killed them with kindness by doing what you have said. Thank you so much!

[@jacksonsmith1234]

@Katie Hay when u said killed I flipped until i read the next 3 words lol

[@rebbeshort]

Bully for you.

[@shadowwart3113]

You just have to say: What? And then when they repeat Do it again

[@soultaker9184]

I’ve been using this technique from him for the past three or four years and just came back to thank you really helped me and for everyone yes it does work

[@booby6232]

How I sealed with my bully when I was on sixth or seventh grade I scared them off with my extremely dirty humor Or annoy them enough to make them back off

[@cf453]

I work in construction. Having the dirtiest/cleverest sense of humor on the jobsite works.

[@theerasiddharth3173]

Okay but can we just talk about how natural she was with telling mean stuff (almost like she's done it before...) As for me, I even struggle to think petty stuff like that about other people. Idk why but that's how it's been.

[@graciegracie]

Maybe, she's just that smart to copy what bullies do.

[@jadegreen1554]

It’s gentle people like you bullies target. Surround yourself with people who will protect you and maybe learn to fight back in kind ways, like Grey rock and silence.

[@CrimminsECFCU15]

An amazing video should be shown in every school

[@themobbit9061]

Thank you! The current system is backfiring completely.

[@unicorndreamsyt1268]

This is a life lesson two days later:my teacher showed me this

[@Garbearscare]

This is the best seminar I've ever watched

[@42bwawa12]

Thank you very much for giving this speech, it will help so many people come out of a problem they could never get out of. It is easy to understand and the message is very clear, and it's impressive that you divided bullying from crime, and from sth that requires high self esteem to be okay with. By regarding it just as a game, it makes it much easier to not make it a big deal

[@gracel1045]

I love how you explain everything. I love how you get me interested and you make me laugh so hard. You also sing very well, i will admit i HAVE used some of your lines, like "you have the face of an angel sweet cheaks". I am bullied fairly often and i am very sensitive, at least now i know to shake it off and stomp it down!

[@mr_lazycat8889]

School should really teach kids more on how to deal with bullies and depression it’s really important

[@spoudaois]

Just have to learn to stand up for yourself verbally and if necessary physically. Its better to get a black eye than to be humiliated. Bulling is normal and part of the way we evolved. He is right its about dominance .

[@Dobruski]

Brooks Gibbs you're amazing thank you for helping me fight bullyng

[@juliarolens]

I got shown this at my psychological center and it inspired me

[@l.libido8431]

Therapist referred me to this to deal with my own inner critic. Thank you

[@savannahskinner8601]

When you were at my school, I laughed so hard and almost cried when you said that you self harmed because I have too. Keep doing what you are doing, and you inspire me so much. Savannah, 12, Schmitt Elementary Columbus, Indiana

[@zakiromchannel]

who is the girl?

[@xufflex]

Ur an adult now

[@preyonce]

The best way to deal with bullying is to stand up for yourself. Ignoring doesn’t work. Your bully will get worse.

[@aurielhernandez457]

3:30 is my favorite part.

[@paigemaas1376]

This video helped me. A girl likes to lie, hit, threaten, and make fun of me. Thanks to this video, I have to confidence to stand up to her.

[@Cooliealot]

I tried his tips and i can stop internet bullying, it works. Lowering self esteem is truly the way to get out of danger sometimes

[@constantineketskalo5203]

Interesting. Thank you. ) I have an interesting case in my life when I won over a bully in a different way but it still fits the concept. So thanks for the explanation. So the story is that when I was studying in a univercity I was living in a room with 3 more guys and 1 of them was real jerk that was constantly trying to make other people feel bad but at the same time he was trying to make himself look good as if it was not bullying but instead he was doing right thing. It lasted for pretty long time and I couldn't do anything. We even had a fight once, he broke my nose and I was throwing a dumbell into him in a hallway of our campus, then I spent 5 days in a hospital and after that we both had to visit a police department. But it didn't stop him from bullying me. So eventually I've remembered a game that some guys that I know were playing for no reason and without any visible goal. For some time they just stopped talking. It was like one guy is trying not to talk but the other one was trying to make first one say something. Looks a bit funny and pointless. But! I thaught about this: whenever I and that roommate had a conflict it always started from talking even after some bad action that he knew would make me mad, then during talking I would get more and more angry. Usually him too, but not always. So I decided to stop talking to him as well. Because even though he might have done something that would really drive me crazy I was still not that angry as if I would start to talk with him about it. So I would just ignore him and his ugly behaviour. He would do or say something ugly to me - I'm silent and don't even look as if I heard it. After a while he tried to behave normally so that I start talking to him again - I would still ignore him. Less then a week after I started that, he stopped bullying me. I just took away audience from him and his performance became pointless. It was still hard because I really wanted to beat him up, but I didn't really know how to fight back then so I chose that way. And it worked.

[@Ham-vy9bo]

I watched another video that was doing this game, and it was exactly the same, and all I saw was HATE comments.

[@yazzyandzarah3786]

Foxish Gaming what video is it

[@Ham-vy9bo]

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[@leahray260]

Foxish Gaming wow 😱 that's stupid

[@Kanna_art07]

I don’t get it videos like this help kids who r bullied like me😉

[@sydneyjordan1300]

I personally think this is the best explanation and anti bullying video. STOP BULLYING. I watched this on 2020 lol, i luv it.

[@collosia165]

When I'm being called a bitch, I'll say a bitch is a dog, a dog barks, a bark is on a tree, tree is a part of nature and nature is beautiful so thx for calling me beautiful

[@Kasumi.Shinya]

Carson Kong bruh.mp4

[@zeynepbayrakdar8129]

Emmanuel C.Y.S 😂😂😂😭😭

[@convella1619]

That’s cringy

[@henryknox2366]

Thank you... i am a victim of cyber bullying. I turned my phone in for a month bc of it. This has helped me in many ways. I just dont understand why people can be that mean. Again, thank you for making this video👏

[@noah2123]

Something even better, just look at them, poker face, and stay silent. When they are done, you can say anything or nothing. Whatever you say, it will be powerful

[@SolonOz]

What if they said “you’re are a gay” and you remember this video and you would said ‘Yeah sometimes I do gay things’

[@kormach8448]

Reply with dont get ur hopes up

[@elviwombat7080]

Just respond with: You wish

[@vidantasev2815]

You say noooo i think i like girls😀🙂😊

[@rickyplaysyt4322]

lmao

[@rickyplaysyt4322]

and imagine if while you say that, the whole school hear it (because when people start insulting and fighting each other, they create a big attention)

[@2DarkHorizon]

I think everyone can be a bully in many different forms because like he said it is a power struggle to be the alpha or at least improve your position. If you look it at that way then you understand there is many fields of human activity where it is a power struggle not just in teasing. This struggle could be making money, getting physically stronger, looking better, being smarter, better at talking, better education, better history or background, more likes, being taller, being faster, being promoted. I think the truth is there is always someone going to be better than you at something and you are always going to be better than someone else at something. I think the solution to bullying is to create a culture were people help the weaker. So people see that when they are at the top of something or better at something they should use it to lift others instead of making them feel inferior or just ignoring them.

[@vvelvettearss]

ooft that's well said actually !

[@bmeclipse]

This is a great video. I like how you break it down in easy-to-chew chunks. One caveat though: bullies learn not just from their target that the behavior is rewarding, but also from bystanders who seemingly enjoy it too (or fail to ameliorate the behavior). The audience paradigm is probably the most rewarding feature these days for bullies. They receive a positive feedback from bystanders, one or many, regardless of the target’s actions, and the bullying is likely to persist so long as they still see the target as vulnerable somehow and in the presence of an audience. I’ve spoken to other parents who’ve dealt with bullying, read many blog posts on the subject, and have seen a slow change in psychological papers that demonstrate a rise in conspiracy gaslighting and audience feedback that keeps a bully on target. Online bullying is prime example. In this space, bullies have anonymity but are often one-upped or cheered on by other would-be bullies, increasing the likelihood to not only continue the behavior on specific targets, but escalate it. Some of these bullies are doing this in school. So I’m cautious, while teaching my children how to deal with bullying, as you expertly lay out here, but temper that with a realization that this doesn’t necessarily mitigate the motivation of the bully to repeat or escalate the aggression. My fear is that educators and sometimes parents of bullying victims fail to provide a non-judgmental / non-fixit approach that is based on empathy and encouraging self-regulation. Responding to the target by judging the victim’s reaction to the bullying and/or telling the victim that they did not handle it the correct way gives the victim the impression that they brought this on themselves. I bring this up out of personal experience and from conversations with other parents who have had to deal with bullying, too.

[@karenboromeo5752]

This technique doesn't always work. Some bullying is a group. And you're alone and cast out. We need SUPPORT to overcome and stop bullying...not go it alone. All bullies target people when they're alone or without a support system.

[@alightened]

It’s a sense of insecurity. If you’re cast out and alone, that’s a toxic situation and you need to get away from that situation for your own mental health. You don’t battle an army, it’s not possible most of the time, and it’s certainly not worth it. If you’re in a place you can’t leave, reach out to an employee assistance program or councilor.

[@preferstobesomeaverageguy]

Find the group/person/place that you feel you're most comfortable with. Either it's from outside of your work or within your workplace, it's not healthy to interact with those type of people with those unnecessary attitude.

[@rashidatdawodu1138]

​@@alightenedi

[@vunguyen1834]

instruction unclear: bully is crying in the toilet

[@angelinarobert622]

*Gives the bully crying on the toilet tissues to wipe his tears and becomes Best Friends For Life. *

[@Sepear305]

Why were you bullied?

[@vunguyen1834]

@@angelinarobert622 enemies to lovers slow burn wattpad edition

[@WartościoweFilmiki]

THANK YOU VERY MUCH !!! GOD BLESS YOU !!! I was looking for help, because once I was harassed in primary school and hence a strong fear of people, and you helped me a lot to understand that we should overcome evil with good, thank you so much

[@jazz1460]

This was so helpful, I'm preparing myself to confront a bully tomorrow 🥰👍🏻

[@Vishwesh-S680]

how to stop bullying if this doesn't work : Increase your social network , do favors and establish healthy relations with important people ,play chess or strategic games that'll teach you how to tackle any situation by remaining calm and confident. ♥️💯 be safe and sound

[@spunkeyleader2999]

This video has inspired me to make a speech about anti bullying and i presented this speech infront of my classmates, they all loved the speech i presented and they were all proud if me. This video was really something for me

[@Masked_madness09]

Me: "So bulling is just verbal thing" Bullies: "Always has been"

[@davidoyedepo2993]

Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on [phone]) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@TrueSpeak-TS]

@@davidoyedepo2993 what is this