Proceed with Caution: Understanding the Grift of Trad Wife INFLUENCERS

[@ZoraDelaney]

WHOSE tradition? Black women in America (as a collective) have NEVER been traditional wives, because we've been working outside the home -- whether by force, by necessity, or by choice -- since our people (permanently) got off the boat in 1619! This dynamic has NEVER been the norm for us, because black men (as a collective) have NEVER made enough money for it to even be an option. And no, the rare exceptions to the rule don't count.....

[@YemmieInc]

Thr ones that do are beating their yt wives

[@Lynndra80]

Right, the amount of people who don’t understand this is scary.

[@LoveK1]

We’ve worked since we stepped off those cursed ships!

[@dfya3294]

All of this!👏🏾👏🏾

[@Drageisha]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Exactly! My mom was a housewife because (and I say this with love) my father was a sucker. My mom worked a grand total of 3 days in her life at a chicken shack & walked off the job & walked home during training (we found out she had schizophrenia after I was an adult). I was an only child & my father made just enough to scrape us by with credit cards. A modern man would have left my mom & me in the dust for her inability to bring anything to the table. Unfortunately, watching my mom stay home & be taken care of ruined me for life because it's all I've ever wanted. I'm 41, worked full time since 19 & I'm exhausted.

[@IFSpecialist]

The article about the trad wife focused on how “she’s just a housewife” when actually Tiffany is an entrepreneur working from home. Not a trad wife at all.

[@BurbNBougie]

That's why I want to make sure that regular women consuming this stuff understand that these are influencers who are making money

[@joylastname3035]

Thank you!!

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

​@@BurbNBougie Thank you for looking out for all of us as usual Burb. 💝😊

[@rnbsteenstar]

I'm not a trad wife either.

[@konye618]

I hope she's bringing in a lot of money from that because her husband is jobless

[@extra_small]

You should only be a housewife in a house with your name on it

[@MC-gl8ob]

💯

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

THIS. 👏🏾 ALL. 👏🏾 DAY! 👏🏾

[@inabina2925]

💯

[@theresehlee]

Curious how being in your “feminine energy” always seems to include domestic labor…

[@jayogee913]

To me, in my own opinion, it sounds like they are making thinly veiled suggestions to trade s3x for room and board. Maybe I have it wrong, but they keep telling women to give in to your husband whenever he wants in order to have a roof over your head and food to eat. That must be there kink, to be s3x sl@ves?

[@TigereyeJedi]

That’s a great question

[@missxmarvel]

Yeah and masculine energy is men who do nothing but increase your labor, act like bigger babies than your own children, lazy, broke but you need to accept his crumbs or you're a gold digger.

[@bloomingale7868]

Exactly. It depends on your class. Feminine energy for those in the noble class did NOT entail lifting a finger.

[@Edikanokonmusic]

🤣🤣🤣 Girl Please...great observation

[@jadewalker1355]

When you center a man as your life, you put all your eggs in his basket. Now Tiffany is out here looking a fool because she hitched her wagon to a predator. Have better discernment next time Tiffany instead of selling courses on how to be a housewife.

[@savoir777faire]

Her fertile eggs at that 😢

[@beepbopboop7727]

Is it bad that I want to tell her “she should have chose better”?

[@jadewalker1355]

@@beepbopboop7727 no it’s not bad, it’s true. More concerned with the image than the truth.

[@boo3152]

Well said

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

@@beepbopboop7727 It’s the truth. She really chose to get with a man who appealed to a fantasy instead of looking at the reality. All tradwives need to understand that a fantasy is just that, a fantasy, and it’s why sooner or later they and their kids are going to get screwed over, and have to face reality.

[@sammijo125]

I became a housewife in my mid forties. I planned for it,had a huge savings, owned my house and car. I didn’t mind doing all the chores and whatnot. What I didn’t anticipate was dealing with my spouse’s jealousy. Being a housewife is a minefield.

[@MC-gl8ob]

Wow 😮 I would love to hear more details

[@annjohnson4061]

he was mad you could leave and not be down and out without him. That's just evil.

[@sammijo125]

@@MC-gl8ob The short version is he complained about every task, nothing was good enough . My all time favorite was the grocery bill was too high. I did everything I could think of to lower it. More complaints. Finally I asked him what he wanted me to do. He said lower the bill but continue to buy everything he liked (expensive cuts of meat and snacks), and the exact same brands (no off brands or store brands). So lower the bill but don’t change anything. If I got him a gift, every time something he talked about repeatedly, he became angry because it cost too much. He never gave the gift back but was always outraged that I got it for him. It came out in marriage counseling that he was jealous that I got to do what I wanted to do (be there for my kid) and try to make a nice life for all of us. He didn’t think about the 12 years of planning and saving it took to execute that move. We had separate finances so I saved as much of my money as possible over the years to make it happen. I had a high paying job but travelled constantly and told myself that I would be home with our child before she became a teenager and that’s what I did.

[@nicolem2877]

That’s what most women don’t realize - the whole point of pushing you into it is suffering. It’s a power dynamic to make them feel like you hv to work really hard and be stressed out for him but he can have it better and be pampered by you. If you’re managing all your responsibilities and very relaxed, a lot of them are not happy about it. You’re somehow entitled. But I thought marriage was abt partnership. Can’t we BOTH be ok? 😮

[@poohcanplay123]

@BurbNBougie !!!

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

As someone mentioned. These women are all young. No 40+ year old women are promoting this ...

[@shamekawillis7151]

Lets not forget to talk about when the women of yesterday could no longer survive without wine and opium they were thrown into asylums for reaching a breaking point

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

The Rolling Stones sang about it 'Mothers little helpers'. It took me a while into adulthood to comprehend this song. As they are in my parents age and I am a kid of the 70/80's. 😄

[@Test-of9sd]

What people aren't understanding about being a trad wife is that men lack integrity, are not noble enough, honest enough, kind enough, loyal enough, responsible enough, considerate enough to be trusted in a stay-at-home wife scenario. More likely than not it turns into an abusive enslavement where the wife is taken for granted and taken advantage of.

[@reneedennis2011]

Yup.

[@beepbopboop7727]

Exactly. I would trust being a tradwife to a woman over a man any day.

[@alaketu1012]

This 😢

[@carrieduvall4579]

Yep, when he stayed at home I did so much for him, I so good to him but when it was me he was a cruel, abusive , stingy,c greedy miser. That’s why I say women need a way to make their own money and have a rainy day fund no one knows about. If you give them power to feed you you’re giving them the same power to starve you. It traumatized me deeply. I didn’t deserve it.

[@teresahiggs4896]

This is not true about all men! Speak for your own self !

[@len452000]

She’s a proud housewife with a business.

[@nki5ikni5i45]

Exactly... She's not a housewife she is working "outside" the house.

[@cartercarter2837]

The grift is real

[@chelscara]

Every time

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

Well she ain nobody's wife rn with that jive *** sitting in the jailhouse.

[@lisabagdonjones1950]

She's selling a lie

[@mizzmolly7649]

I don't understand how Willis' wife was a stay-at-home wife on a teacher's salary. She couldn't. That's why she came up with her stay-at-home shtick.

[@Southern.Nappiness]

Yep!! I remember his criminal case. He looked like a weirdo. Southfield is right outside Detroit, housing is a little cheaper.

[@reneedennis2011]

That's what I was thinking 🤔.

[@hi-xf7cj]

He taught at 3 schools including a very prestigous private school in an extremely affluent suburb. He was also the minister of music at a very large church in Detroit. Plus he gave piano lessons in his home.

[@FireSilver25]

I’m Navajo and trad wife for us is she’s head of the household, the kids and husband take on her clan name, they live by her family, and she makes weavings to support the family. He hunts, protects (although she likely has a warrior name and can kick butt when she needs to), farms, and takes her weavings out to trade/sell. So glad I’m Native😂!

[@---Dana----]

Over 35% of Navajo families live below the poverty level. I hope Navajo women have more options today than weaving. Literally thousands and thousands of cultural practices around the world have thankfully found their way into the dustbin of history. This is a good thing for women especially.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

I am all for matriarchy, too. It is the natural order and I am going back to partly traditional things from the time before christianity hit Europe, too.

[@kellharris2491]

@@---Dana---- yeah just ignore the centuries of oppression and colonization. 😮‍💨

[@---Dana----]

@@kellharris2491 I'm fully aware of the horrors visited on native people by colonizers and the ongoing racism and mistreatment by ruling powers. Absolutely true and you are correct to point it out as a huge, significant factor in poverty rates. I believe that we now know how to cure poverty - provide girls/women with education and birth control. It works every time. If you have Navajo traditions that can help get women and children out of poverty then more power to you.

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

Maybe for your clan, but others, including Navajo women, have said that the man is the head of the household, and they face abuse and disrespect. Let’s not act like your beliefs are true for everyone.

[@kyrabarr2846]

The traditional wife and the stay-at-home mother trend that is happening now is solely based on aesthetics and popularity for money. I was a stay-at-home mother in the early nineties and I didn't have the thought to even put my life online like this. Privacy and what you do personally should be kept discreet. A husband is not the guarantee that you will continue to be a stay-at-home mother or not have difficulties. My husband passed in 2019 and my whole life changed. I have had to learn new skills and start my life over. This trend is a dangerous one because it keeps women in a position where they don't prepare. Ladies please prepare, and don't allow influencers to have you do something that you truly don't understand. This young woman has just started out in life and her life experience still is before her. It is unfortunate that some women are weaponizing womanhood, femininity and our ability to take care of children and raise children against other women who choose to live a different life path. Femininity, hypergamy, and trad wife, soft living does not stop death. When you lose a husband to death none of those things matter. 🙏🏾

[@islandgirl8067]

Sorry for your loss. 🙏🙏 What you said is so true, glamorizing being a stay-at-home wife and mother is seriously misleading. I knew quite a few housewives who found themselves struggling financially because their husband passed away or became disabled.

[@DeMarkeba]

So she is a work from home mom...

[@AngelicaAngel888_]

Sorry about your husband 😢, I pray continued healing for you. You brought up a good point about being prepared. If you choose to be a stay at home mom/wife, still be prepared for the worst-case scenario. My mom always taught me to have my own, idk why that would be any different for a marriage.

[@kyrabarr2846]

Thank you ladies for your kind words. There was a comment that was asked if I was a stay-at-home work mom. I am a mother of a child who is special needs. Life has not been easy for me, but I am resilient. I went to college, graduated and I have a degree. I attained my degree before I got married. During the time my husband was alive I also worked outside of the home to help supplement. I am doing my best to forge a new chapter in my life. I do have skill sets that will help me in the future 🙏🏾🌅✍🏿

[@kyrabarr2846]

@@AngelicaAngel888_ Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness. Yes it is important that everyone prepares for the rainy day you never know what can happen 🙏🏾

[@chaoticodin09411]

Trad wife and red pill go hand and hand. It’s no wonder this “movement” is getting so much attention as red pill men are growing in numbers. Being a “traditional” wife is nothing new lol…but I feel like the reason it’s getting so much attention is because a lot of men want women to go back to relying on them having, not having their own independence or financial freedom, and not having a choice.

[@chaoticodin09411]

Historically men have been able to trap women as having a man was the only way you had a “stable” future. Women used to be sold off. Women were told they were a burden to the family if they stayed at home. (Because they took away resources from everyone else). Women weren’t able to have a job, or one that paid enough. So women had to resort to finding a man that could provide them with basic human necessities (housing, food, etc…). Now that women can do this for themselves men realize women don’t NEED them. So they want women to go back to feeling inferior and dependent so they have no choice but to deal with them.

[@Indyawillis85]

There was no better time to be a man than the last few millennia lol. Having someone to cook, clean, give nookie, raise children and cheerlead for them made every man feel like a king. Even the ones with a peasant's salary 😂

[@kathyk2777]

The "June Cleaver images...". I once saw an episode from this show where they were standing in front of the house. The name on the mailbox was " W.Cleaver. " So I guess Ward got all the mail and June was invisible and didn't count.

[@AngelicaAngel888_]

​@@Indyawillis85yup, that's why they're losing their dang minds lol

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

Yep and these red-pillers want that because they want women to have no choices. But they don't want to do all the things that the GOOD 1950's husbands did and were happy to do. I don't mean household repair type things, I meant the ones that wanted their wives and kids to have nice houses to live in and have some nice things. Sure, it's not a good thing to focus too much on material things but good husbands and fathers wanted to provide at least SOME nice things for their families. Back in the 90's, I once heard an older man talking about raising his kids in the 60's and how his daughter LOVED Barbie, like a lot of girls do. He was happy to be sure she had what he called a beautiful Barbie collection and he enjoyed watching her play with it. Can these red pillers provide all the things to make their wives and kids feel secure and happy?

[@Carameldamour]

Even my mother who was a trad wife told me to never be one without an income... Get your money ladies, these men are like corporate America: you seem valuable until you are not, then layoffs come about and you are left to cry about a one sided loyalty. Don't be foolish, that tradwife shit is just fluff. There should be schools to teach men to be better husbands and fathers, we have learned enough already, we are tired, get somebody else to do it.

[@reneedennis2011]

Thank you!

[@racqueldillon3560]

Most men can’t afford a stay at home wife and kids. They need the wife to help pay bills. So there’s that.

[@bibianaguadalupeislasherre9880]

Unless they're either wealthy or billionaires.

[@tasha7726]

Trad wife influencers are the new Girl Bosses. Running a household on social media has replaced running a company and they're still chasing that bag.

[@misspriss2482]

This. These women have a full-time job - making content and gaining followers. They are not dependent on a man for their livelihood, which is good for them, but the young women looking to emulate them don't realize that.

[@lovelydeath04]

Ah yes, another "homemaker" to homeless story in the making.

[@shawnlove4502]

Literally 😂😂😂

[@tfkdandsvkc]

The pipeline is crazy they know they will be abandoned yet they choose to enslave themselves

[@---Dana----]

What is Tiffany going to do now? What can she say on her channel besides don't do it?

[@lovelydeath04]

@@---Dana---- She's too deep now. Even if she does say not to do it, it won't come off as genuine...

[@lovelydeath04]

@@tfkdandsvkc That's what is so weird to me. It's so weird that even when you know there is a chance that this man can dump you for someone younger, these women will STILL sacrifice themselves on this bloody altar. It really speaks on their mentality.

[@CuratedVibes]

I dont cringe at the idea of being an housewife...but more so the idea that its being promoted as feminine and sexy. When these husbands get sick of them, they will end up with nothing 99% of the time. Which is truly sad.

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

The thing about this Trad wife thing is that I don’t hear Tiffany saying Lamar appreciates all she does for him. I didn’t hear him chiming in during her interview saying anything he appreciates her. His name sounds dusty and I’m not surprised about his charges. Nothing women do for men will stop their degenerate behavior. He needs to be locked away for life period. He is an entire monster predator. The housewife that was feminine, fit and friendly wasn’t enough for him. Luckily she has no children with him and has her own income.

[@rachelesmith3342]

Yeah once I heard the name Lamar, I knew it was a wrap. Many black men with traditional black names are unfortunately a mess

[@islandgirl8067]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@AngelicaAngel888_]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who avoids men based on names. I have a whole list, with "David" being at the top 😅.

[@readinggeorgeeliot1489]

The way I cackled reading these comments. 😂 please, continue. I can do this all day

[@AlignedandActivated]

@@AngelicaAngel888_ or Tom, Bryce, Bill, etc.😂

[@MoonBunny69]

If I EVER decide to be a housewife and let my husband make the money... he would need to give me a 1099 and hire me as an employee and still pay me at market value for all those roles (housekeeper, nanny, executive assistant, bed nurse, smex worker, personal chef,etc.)😂😂😂

[@dfya3294]

I bet if you present that option to the guys that ask her to stay home, they would change their mind so fast 😂. If women do decides to do it get something out of it like your name on some assets or something.

[@FireSilver25]

Brilliant ❤

[@sundown6748]

I am a SAHM- I have a retirement account. My husband puts the same amounts into his account and mine. And after a lot of years it’s growing so I know I’m protected

[@sammijo125]

You joke but you have to do that.

[@MoonBunny69]

@sammijo125 I was dead serious tho. I'm also going to have a prenup with infidelity clauses and other things.

[@GodiZreal]

Oh that's deep. "You shouldn't put all your eggs in somebody else's basket."

[@selkertazumi9660]

Why is being feminine,/ feminity has to be "submisive, Centering men, & catering" Why can't i be feminine, "soft" for me? Im sooo sick and tired of the talk.

[@rinabeauty7614]

Facts, im soft and catering tooo …… MYSELF. 😅

[@rachelesmith3342]

Paying money to learn how to be a housewife is just as stupid of a grift as paying to learn how to be a boss babe or how to manifest 😭😭😂 stop paying people online to learn about life

[@DaughterofMother1]

I'm pretty sure most of these stupid young women signed up for these courses are single,so they're probably paying for it out of their own pocket

[@user-br3ty9rt1m]

Right! Especially with all the free content available on KZbin, it’s mind blowing to me that anyone would pay for these “courses” lol.

[@monikapp3981]

Imagine relying financially on someone and then it turns out they are a monster.

[@gee_emm]

Or just a lier. I remember seeing a trad wife on Oprah whose husband took his own life. He left her with 5 kids, all his debts and she could barely get a retail job. Their whole life had been built on credit and fantasy and she only found out when the debt collectors came for her. I was 15 when I watched this and it scared me straight!

[@jayogee913]

I've witnessed this in my own family and some older generation family friends. These women are at heel for these men, and they ...just look like used up old dishrags by the time they're 50 or 60. They are shells. And so many of them have substance abuse problems. I mean like drunk-before-noon-to-cope problems.

[@Peaches6140]

My mom was a house wife most of her married life but was very gifted and ran a small business from home for years. She raised all 4 daughters to pursue college/trade school and set the standard to never fully depend on a man, she's in her 60s. You're right, older women in the community, work place and family never pushed this to me.

[@career5690]

I never 👎 heard a woman describe herself as a slave to her husband. I don’t really think i could be a trad wife.

[@lovelydeath04]

Omfg, gross!!!🤢 My ancestors suffered too much for me to call myself a "slave" to men.

[@unicorn73212]

I can't either because usually only senior citizens and men receiving monthly disability checks want to work with them because they have more free time then a career women and they can use them as placeholder so it allows them to go out and cheat today's wealthy men arent interested in settling anyways and usually if they really want a domestic slave they will go over seas to find it because modern women don't exactly fit the role of a traditional wife. You might be able to find a man to help build you up though because sometimes career men want their wives to work too because they won't have enough free time to cheat and it keeps them out of trouble as long as you can adjust your schedule so that you can make time for them sometimes they will still work with you if your attractive and you take care of yourself. That's how today's house wives actually work but they won't admit it that way because there testing you to see if your going to be a lazy couch potatoes or rebel against them and have a job at hooters or something like that look for jobs designed for women were men are less likely to take your spot. Healthcare might be a little more competitive but if you have at least one job a man won't take from you then they won't be able to ever leave you bankrupt and sometimes career men see that as a challenge 😊.

[@TheRacqgrl769]

In a live with Themis & Thoth, a woman described herself as a slave to her husband. Of course, she's also Black. This disease has a stranglehold on too many BW.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

They don't because they don't want to verbalize the truth

[@lesliewit]

Grift is exactly what it is! And it's not just these individual women grifting it's the whole of society. As I have grown my feminism I began to realize how dystopic our society truly. It's like watching that John Carpenter movie "They Live". In it the main character is just this guy who travels around and does construction work, but he comes across a pair of glasses that allows him to see the world for what it truly is. And once he sees it, he can't unsee it, and also becomes a target himself. So in order to save himself and by proxy save everyone else, he has to take down the system that clouds everyone's eyes and judgment. It's a really great movie These Trad wife grifters are targeting women who want to go back to sleep, and be lied to. It's pretty despicable

[@Datpart100]

I love that movie! ❤

[@TheRacqgrl769]

I feel glad that I only saw "traditional" women's roles was on television. I am not aware of any women in my family not working. We know that BW haven't had any period of time in this country where we weren't working. There was a time when it was illegal for us to not work so that we could continue to serve in WP's homes.

[@jayogee913]

And television wouldn't lie to us, would it?? No, real life is just like it is for June Cleaver! 🤣🤣🤣

[@bwstopnamingbmedwardforthe2921]

There’s a KZbinr named Tyler Bender who makes parodies of the trad wife grift and many other cringy TikTok trends. She’s hilarious.

[@1108-g1q]

The main audience for tradwife channels is actually men. The men are told by these tradwives that this is how it should be. One such woman was on the redhead Pearl's channel, and she had a video of herself making and packing lunch for her man. No problem until she said that women who don't do this should not be surprised when Becky at work is watching and steals their man by making and bringing him lunch. How is this traditional? How is this appealing to any woman? She also had a man on the show who said that it's nice for the wife to cook meals but that ladies like a dinner made for them too now and again. I saw this as his effort to be a modern man. She was super uncomfortable with this and got smiley quiet. She knew that her audience didn't want to hear all that. I would love to see you do a breakdown on one of her videos.

[@ss-ds2dn]

I once looked at the comment section of one of Este Williams's videos and it was FULL of men saying "now this is a real woman" and "this is the type of woman I'd go to war for" And all I could think of is this is less about complimenting her than it is about insulting "modern women." And they've been coddled by the whole "men are visual creatures" nonsense to the point where many won't admit that it's her beauty doing most of the heavy lifting to inspire that level of adoration.

[@1108-g1q]

@ss-ds2dn aaaand they get to feel virtuous about fantasizing about a woman who is not their wife while they are often married and professing religious values. They get to feel superior to men who watch risqué stuff. They rationalize to themselves that they are simply nostalgic for traditional values. Meanwhile they so often have a wife who is working a full time job while acting as the primary parent and home cleaner. She may not be able to make dinner every night but she tends to do it more often than he does. He could not bear the life that he thinks he wants. But he will never get the chance to see that the grass is not greener on the other side. And so he will forever see his own wife as inferior. He can never be happy and content.

[@kellharris2491]

@@ss-ds2dn These are also the men that will dodge a draft if they could. That protection is all words.

[@1108-g1q]

@StarryWaters-gq1oj What's worse is that she hasn't uploaded on that channel in months. It seems she gave up on it.

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

@@ss-ds2dn Yes, Estee is prime example. She even got a boob job to look more appealing to her audience, and is playing in these men’s faces but they’re none the wiser 💀. She can get her coin, but she needs to stop doing it at the expense of women.

[@caseyjude5472]

Yeah, if you just got some of those aprons everything would be peaceful, the bread will rise, the wrinkles come out on the first pass, your man won’t cheat, your kids won’t fuss….lolz

[@BurbNBougie]

That was my issue. The missing aprons

[@IAMMYGOD.5858]

She’s doing all of that and he’s STILL aggressive. He STILL wants things outside of her.. including children. She’s doing all of that so he can pick her instead of his deviances, and she’s found a way to make money off of the pain she inflicts on herself by staying with him. She’s tricking others into believing what she’s doing is ideal when all it really is is her not having enough self love to leave him.

[@kellharris2491]

These men always want more.

[@Briana235]

Well that went left. I wonder what she'll say to the women taking her courses. "Ladies, I shoulda chose better."

[@DaughterofMother1]

😂

[@Southern.Nappiness]

😂😂😂😂

[@beatrizl1848]

The trad wife influencers/grifters remind me of Phyllis Schafley. I know someone who actually knew Phyllis in the 60's and 70's when she was telling women to stay home, don't work, follow men, etc. when she was trying to undo the feminist movement. First of all, the other women didn't like her! Second, it wasn't lost on her peer group that she was traveling extensively, working, speaking up and being anything BUT a stay-at-home mother like how she was lecturing other women to do!

[@AlignedandActivated]

And getting paid.

[@reneedennis2011]

​@@AlignedandActivatedYup.

[@reneedennis2011]

She was a lawyer, too.

[@fefelarue2948]

My mom was a trad wife back in the 60's and 70's. Nobody ever wrote a story about her. She has 6 kids and a workaholic husband.

[@BurbNBougie]

Write her story

[@se7v]

I was unemployed for a year. From day one, I had all the household and childcare chores. Money for personal items was given grudgingly. Sex was expected on demand. I started working, and then he became unemployed. Spent his days out of the house hanging with friends. Childcare had to be paid for. He was surprised when i left.

[@AIBot929]

Being a tradwife is a dangerous game, you've put all your eggs into that mans one basket and if anything happens you are screwed. He could 💀, become severly injured, cheat on you, become abu$ive etc. Then your up 💩s creek without a paddle. Also being a trad wife is a relatively new concept, BW were never trad and always worked, WW in the 50's were usually on drugs due to it. Before then, that was only for the truely wealthy and they didn't clean anything and didn't raise no babies. They did other things like philanthropic endeavours, but wealthy victorian women weren't scrubing floors

[@islandgirl8067]

💯💯💯💯👏👏👏👏

[@reneedennis2011]

Yup.

[@HedgeWitch-st3yy]

Absolutely. Poorer women have always worked. Sometimes in the home environment - taking in piecework, food gardening etc and sometimes outside the home. Interestingly, those men looking for traditional 'Asian' women abroad are getting a shock because in a number of communities there the man may work and the woman stay home, but she runs the home, makes the financial decisions and he basically hands over his income and gets an allowance....

[@reneedennis2011]

@@HedgeWitch-st3yy Yup.

[@mariedesignz1659]

That part! A true traditional house wife did zero house work. They had maids, nannies, and a full house staff. All they did was play bridge and drink tea.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I have no issue with the SAHM lifestyle. That's what I want for myself, but with mutual respect. I work inside the home while my husband works outside the home. The lie of this trad wife movement though is that these women are making money from this content making them far less vulnerable than the women consuming the content. And everything is not for everyone, many women are happy as working wives and mothers and that is fine too.

[@Theamandaa]

I really don't understand why some people are so bothered by women wanting careers and more from life other than being a SAHM

[@reneedennis2011]

Thank you!

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

My feminine energy is to be a lioness, a huntress and queen of the woods. Damsel in distress is not in my program and no I don't look manly. We are different, lady. 😄

[@PrincessC03]

Right? People's general understanding of femininity and masculinity has been severely warped. Being a doormat is not feminine whatsoever. We've been lied to several times!

[@EncyclopediaBrittanica]

I respect people who choose to be housewives. I just can't be one. The job never ends. It's not like I can just stop working. When my husband is gone, I'm working to make sure everything is clean and put together. That the meal is cooked so that he can eat, because he has no opportunity to make himself food without spending money. Running errands so we have what we both need in the house. Then, when he gets here, I have to make sure my man my man my man is fed and relaxed, which means after he eats I need to clean it up after, and then inevitably put out bc "wifely duties". Rinse and repeat the next day and twice over on weekends where you may get to have quality time together, but he might want some time out of the house with his friends. So all of the time you spend with him is simultaneously time spent working. Kids are another addition I won't touch on. And no one will consider it a job. If that's what you want, get it. I'm good where I'm at.

[@navina4271]

My bf ask if i would be a housewife,, i said nope,,he asked me why,,i said housewives are always broke 😅

[@Lady_Danbury]

The irony is that these “trad wife” influencers likely make more money than their husbands or they’re trying to supplement the household income. That defeats the purpose of the whole concept. And people eat this stuff up! 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@reneedennis2011]

Exactly.

[@dian277]

now if she has a whole career that pays, she doesn't have all the time to do everything for her husband does she? an academy takes time and work, especially when she has to physically be present to teach her students. she's not a trad wife. she's an entrepreneur who feeds off the "Trad wife" and "Red pill" movement, as all the "trad wife" influencers.

[@SCFLEUR]

Wow not only is this woman’s huzzzband accused of crimes. But he is accused of one of the most egregious of them all- crimes against children. A damn shame.

[@embo_5787]

Omg eww, I am glad they don’t have kids if this is true:(

[@monikapp3981]

I hope her coaching is free cause trad wives are not supposed to make money 😉

[@Southern.Nappiness]

Someone posted that she divorced her predator husband.

[@annjohnson4061]

@@Southern.Nappiness awww. poor baby. I blame the cookies!!! Or the well ironed shirts!!

[@Fungigi]

Shes in the age bracket where she's needs to start stashing away as much money as possible since men like to switch up on women after 35. They almost have a online course,merch store,etc.

[@queenla227]

I don’t think I could be a stay-at-home wife especially for men in my age group. I just got to my mid-thirties, and “men” the same age as me are still catching up maturation wise. Imagine still blaming women for their lack of success in the dating arena, but you have the same issue with all of the women you pick. It could be you, sir. Or imagine thinking you don’t have to be involved because you make X amount of money, but you know what it’s like to have an absentee father. It’d be a mental health death sentence. These dudes are wild.

[@alonebutnotlonely1964]

This is why my grandma talked me into getting a divorce and convinced me that not marrying was the best for smart women almost 30 years ago. I’m GenX and bucked the trend and never looked back. I wish she’d had the same opportunity.

[@deirdremorris9234]

Ladies must look panoramically. One can not sustain this on one income. 95% of Americans are one step away from becoming homeless. There is absolutely nothing glamorous about being a Trad wife. Can it be satisfying for some? Maybe? Must have a Relationship Contract and PreNup.

[@jayogee913]

And I don't even work because I need to. I mean I do need to work to support myself, but I also LOVE working! I love earning my own money that I can save for myself and use to finance my own lifestyle. I've been with financially abusive people, and I noped out of those situations so FAST, lol! Never. Never never never never never!

[@yobafox1jason556]

The woman who said trad wifehood made her a slave, I totally agree with it. I’m not even married just living with the dude and he’s exactly like that woman’s husband. Lost everything by getting with him. He doesn’t care he simply shamed me for not having more things he can destroy or more money he can leech. Plan to gtfoh under way.

[@biblioholic7139]

Why are these new tradwives acting like real SAHMs don't earn $? My mom was a SAHM until my brother was in school, but she was never not earning. She did daycare out of our house until her regular kids aged out then had a couple jobs with hours that let her be home when we got home. And she controlled the money, my dad was the breadwinner, but mom cashed the check, paid the bills and did all the shopping. It's nuts to me that these women are in charge of all the household errands without access to the household funds.

[@Amethyst454]

I wanted to be a SAHM, so I could homeschool my future children. I'm sure there are great men who are able and willing to be providers and be supportive and not abusive. Unfortunately, the men I encountered who could provide had a very unfair and scary need to dominate. I gave up on that goal.

[@kamieyonce]

Why do these alleged housewives not realize their academies and ‘wife seminars’ are JOBS outside of the home😂😂 or maybe they do? And their insidious selves are selling these “lessons” while stacking up their own coin bc they know one day they will have to escape🤔

[@kamieyonce]

Ohhh you basically said all of this!! Okay we are on the same frequency!🤌🏾

[@shantavanee]

Good morning queen! Watching now!🙌🏽💯👏

[@valenciaorange2000]

Sounds like a nightmare! I said this before but this also reminds me of Stepford Wives. 😮

[@reneedennis2011]

Same here!

[@chelscara]

The terrifying thing from all this is this is who’s gonna have kids. Those of us with sense at least have reservations considering the state of the world, they wanna have kids specifically to have more voters and voices to push their agenda. It’s getting way too idiocracy up in here.

[@ashmoise3175]

They need to finally bridge the corolation of men who praise traditional wives, and fredofeelia.

[@reneedennis2011]

Yup.

[@AlignedandActivated]

This is so powerful and important!! Marriage is seen as the golden ring and a married coach can position herself as a guru and sell that she knows the secrets to getting your own black love story. And you can charge handsomely for it. Even if knew her husband was a sexual predator, she wasn’t going to let that cat out of the bag.

[@euphemia_Lang]

I recently learned when a man says, "I didn't see it coming." When his wife leaves them, it actually means, "I didn't think she'd leave me."

[@tae3327]

“I’ve never ironed clothes with such glee” 😂😂

[@BurbNBougie]

Ppl are so tickled by that part 😅

[@A.D.I.I.D.A]

What a drag it is getting old "Kids are different today, " I hear every mother say Mother needs something today to calm her down And though she's not really ill, there's a little yellow pill She goes running for the shelter of her mother's little helper And it helps her on her way, gets her through her busy day "Things are different today, " I hear every mother say Cooking fresh food for her husband's just a drag So she buys an instant cake, and she burns a frozen steak And goes running for the shelter of her mother's little helper And two help her on her way, get her through her busy day Doctor, please, some more of these Outside the door, she took four more What a drag it is getting old "Men just aren't the same today, " I hear every mother say They just don't appreciate that you get tired They're so hard to satisfy, you can tranquilize your mind So go running for the shelter of a mother's little helper And four help you through the night, help to minimize your plight Doctor, please, some more of these Outside the door, she took four more What a drag it is getting old "Life's just much too hard today, " I hear every mother say The pursuit of happiness just seems a bore And if you take more of those, you will get an overdose No more running for the shelter of a mother's little helper They just helped you on your way, through your busy dying day Hey Rolling Stones "Mother's Little Helper"

[@amazingfire707]

Isn't her making a business of selling the trad wife life a contradiction?

[@dfya3294]

The thing that annoys me is that ppl are failing to realize that being a SAHM is a choice which alot of women did not had back then & having choices was what women were actually fighting for back then. Another thing, the husband was a teacher...we all know that teachers are not paid enough so did he really made enough to provide for the household or her work as an influencer supplement that & if so she's not presenting an accurate picture? Meanwhile, I hope her & the kids are ok & weren't abused but I was not expecting him going to jail. That's a prime example of why women should have something on the side in case shit don't go as planned.

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

I wanted to be the "Trad" wife since college, or maybe earlier. I wanted to BE that because that was the type of mother and home I wanted and needed as a child. But, it's very difficult to do when you have a husband on the autism spectrum and neither of you know that. It is extremely hard to cook nutritious, balanced meals when the husband has the palate of a toddler who won't "man up" and be adult enough to eat the things he knows he NEEDS to eat. I was able to be the kind of mom my kids needed, especially since they're both on the autism spectrum. I was hands on and I was THERE. I wasn't on the PTA, but I volunteered for lots of school activities and even took some time to come into the classrooms to show the students the kinds of arts and crafts that I do and demonstrated how. Our house was the most popular "hangout house", my kids had a few different therapies after school, most of which encouraged my kids to have their friends join in so they came to almost every after school activity. But, I could not 100% fulfill my own hope... (Fantasy?) because the kids and husband were so exhausting, that I needed a lot of down time when everyone was at work or school. My now ex just doesn't grasp how exhausting he is; he and his delicate state of existence drained me more than anything.

[@beepbopboop7727]

Having investments as a SAHM is a nice idea, but when Timmy needs braces, or when the car breaks down, or when the grocery bills go up, *YOUR* “investment fund” will be the first pot dipped into in terms of need.

[@reneedennis2011]

Yup.

[@ccannon1]

Idk why I gotta do something because another person thinks I should. That’s so weird. If you want to be a stay at home wife that’s fine but why do I have to do it too? Edit: damn this story went left FAST

[@CantHaveMyPeace]

OMG I didn’t see the twist in the story coming😮😮😮 but it’s not surprising!! Have at it TRAD Wives. I feel sorry for yall!!

[@OGfromQueens]

I remember being a SAHW. l couldn't wait to get back to work!! My ex husband was stingy, selfish and abusive and work work was easier than housework

[@TeresatheTruthSeeker]

If she wants to be so traditional,then why does she have social media and why is she making her own money from it. No so traditional is it!!

[@TheGoodLifeStarterPack]

“2024 is ‘find out’ season” 😂 Truly!

[@MelissaThompson432]

Tiffany was 29 when she got married. I think she felt her eggs curdling and got married too fast. I realize that's not the most delicate thing to say, but I'm not judging her for that. I am judging her, but not for that.

[@BurbNBougie]

I had kids at 33 and 36. I wish women wouldn't feel so pressured.

[@annjohnson4061]

@@BurbNBougie I wish more women knew why men over 35 can't give donations at fertility clinics. More men over the age of 40 are fathers to developmentally disabled children then women over 40. if a woman is over 40 she has a better chance than a woman under 40 to have healthy children if she has them with a man under 40. so all these men running around talking about getting a wife with young "healthy" eggs often find the joke is on them because their sperm will most likely be the cause of anything affecting the child. sperm reproduces by duplication. The abuse these men put their bodies through (poor eating, drugs, over indulgence in alcohol, etc) will be replicated in their sperm.

[@tabithatalon4490]

From what I heard her share before......they had been trying for a while

[@Davian775]

"There is no chatter of children getting ready for school." Now that's the first red flag

[@shanna2.2.2]

2:00 😂😂 “Now I have ironed clothes before, but I have never ironed them with such glee” lmao

[@redonyx5428]

i barely want to clean up after myself let alone a man. Trad anything is a trap and unrealistic for the actual world we live in.

[@LizNeptune]

Can you PLEASEEEEE do a video About this Kellogg’s boycott? We need to really do this!! Spread awareness.

[@BurbNBougie]

Thanks for this comment. I didn't know about this

[@Franciscaharrison1978]

I am glad i grew up seeing working mothers whoi had their own money. Many of which earned more than the men they married. The good thing was those that stayed in said marriages made sure their names were on houses and other assets. This woman in this video with a predator for a husband should not be giving advice to other women she should be watching her own home!! I like the fact that women are waking up, and chosing themselves and leaving the pickmes and mammies to their false daydreams and fantsies.

[@TheRealBlackPanda]

Some women want more company for their misery at the expense of others. Let them make their money, its up to us to have common sense to see through the bs.

[@tuushietime]

Wont None of the cooking, cleaning, packing lunch stop or prevent cheating, lying or death. But everyone has their cross to bear.

[@DeannaBaileytheRavensFan]

I'm not built for the trad wife bs. I live by the saying, "If you give someone else the power to feed you, you're also giving them the power to starve you." I refuse to let someone else have that power over me, but me.

[@multicrafter639]

Sooo...this woman is talking out both sides of her neck. Did I understand that correctly? 🙄

[@annjohnson4061]

Yes you understood it perfectly. One side of that neck said "let him handle everything, he's the king" and the other side of the neck said "let me prop this king up with some coin".

[@oishikaray2767]

You make me laugh so much at random moments in ur videos I love it - eg how u said u ironed but never ironed with so much glee I’m lolling again as I type this out hahahahaa appreciate u!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@BurbNBougie]

Oh thank you!

[@dangermauz754]

In my opinion, it's simply 2024. We're not in the same economical situation as the wives of the olden days. Unless, the guy has the same salary as the 1 percent. His salary isn't nearly enough for these women to depend on with children. That's why the men these days are abandoning them at a faster rate. The burden is too much. Then, they have to think about how this goes against the constitutionality of female independence. These, stay at home wives have to stop selling books and classes to "train" other women to do what they do. They have to completely abandon making money. If they do. They have to turn over every dime to their trad husband. But, they're not gonna do this of course.

[@daniella8400]

This is why you nerve should have empathy or sympathy for men.

[@valeriaswanne]

I'm only SAH bc childcare costs more than my paycheck when I was working. Daycare is $20/hr. I got paid "$15/hr" (yet somehow it never added up to more than $5/hr, which was a whole separate issue).

[@jesusbeafilter3075]

Not them calling her a tradwife while married to a teacher🤣🤣

[@trashpanda3837]

Thank you for making these videos 🙏🙏

[@BurbNBougie]

My pleasure!

[@HHCF713]

The only basket you put all of your eggs in is on Easter with some pink Peeps, Robins eggs (my favorite), Lindt bunny with caramel, and lotto tickets. If you get some hard boiled eggs, tuna salad for lunch the next day. 😂 Other than that, have your own! 🙌🏽

[@A.D.I.I.D.A]

Delicious 😋 ❤

[@Kinag86]

Don’t forget the Trader Joe’s Sour Jellybeans!

[@BlackandBlessed100]

Children must believed Always

[@k.rebuilding]

She knew better than to have children with him. There were signs

[@BlackandBlessed100]

They need Cameras in the Classrooms

[@EBaker-bz8gx]

She needs to blink (twice?) to let us know if she's being held hostage. Why sell classes? If she loves it so much, she can do classes for free. Labor of love right? Housewife grifting 101.

[@jackiehuff7736]

All the trad wife influencers are not housewives, they are work from home. If they make money from it, and even if they don't, the can leverage those skills when their man leaves. Side note: am I the only one who has noticed you don't see older tradwives?

[@celestecelestial90]

These is an upstanding and good couple. I need to sign up for her classes to be more like her! 😒

[@Reallythough]

Some people can’t help but set themselves up for problems. How many years have to go by before people let go of the fairytale TV/Movies sold you.

[@vseyeviews8377]

Sounds like a mommy for a grown man. To each its own. I cook , clean etc... but he does the same. Each household is different and everyone value themselves in different ways.

[@sfr2107]

"....maybe it's because I don't have that apron." 😂😂😂😂

[@BurbNBougie]

I'm just throwing out theories. 😂

[@ethxo6734]

Sounds like she’s working and making an income so not exactly a kept woman.

[@belle8i]

I don't need permission to advocate for myself in my marriage. If my husband does something to piss me off, he knows about it because I stick up for myself. I'm pretty sure even my neighbours know that too. If a man doesn't think it's feminine for me to get angry, then he can kick rocks, because if he wants to take away my peace then I’ll take away his. He can leave at any time if he thinks he can find another woman who will put up with his BS.