What to Wear on FIRST DATE (Divorced, Over 40, Style Tips and Outfits)

[@conniebuchner4715]

I have been disabled since I was 50, wearing basically sweatpants for 10 years. I have been slowly building a wardrobe. I actually had something nice to wear out to a hockey game. Married 33 years. Thank you!🥰

[@ekeshafrancois]

I love this date night look video so much! As someone who believes “Mama’s still got it” and is ready to get back out there, I need a little help with making sure I don’t look like I am trying too hard, but being classy & intentional with my wiser, sexier self! 😉 I’ll second a previous commenter with requesting this be a series. Thank you Erin!!!

[@Sashas-mom]

This was so fun! You could continue this as a series! Haha various date outfits 😃 or date with two besties, first time you meet the family, Etc 🤷🏼‍♀️☺️

[@BusbeeStyle]

Oh, that’s fun!!

[@beautifulme261]

Love this! Even for those of us who have been married awhile... we need ideas!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Yes!! Like me!!

[@Hunnie_B]

Love this video Erin.....I have been married for 37 years, and it is still lovely to dress up for date night, thank you so much for sharing these looks with us, you have excellent taste in clothing, take care girl 💖

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! I love to dress up for my husband as well! xo

[@56RCD]

Love the suggested date-night outfits. I think men love when women wear red or pink and I like the idea of wearing red or pink near the face (instead of black) since they are softer/brighter colors for your complexion.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Chris! I wear a lot of black because that is how I feel most confident. Red and pink are great if those are the colors that make you shine! xo

[@cherylcarl4344]

Thank you! Now just need the date!

[@karensantiago1621]

Cheryl Carl my exact thought!🥴

[@vmontgomery80]

That's what I'm talking about 🥰 Those were great outfits. Just because we're over 40, doesn't mean we start wearing moomoos.👵🏾👵🏿👵🏽

[@BusbeeStyle]

Exactly! xo

[@cordon172]

😂 no moomoos

[@pollydrew]

Excellent tip: you smile is the BEST accessory.

[@annainaspen]

For anyone interested WHBM is having a sale. The black coated skinny jeans were sold out but I ordered some very dark blue ones for $39.99. Loved the video Erin! I’ll be getting back in the dating world soon after having a very long term relationship. I loved all the looks and they are fantastic suggestions.

[@manwellagrero]

Enjoyed it so much seriously 😘 can you continue the series please and do what to wear when meeting the parents and family ❤️

[@shirlynssleeve4661]

I was a single Mom for 30 yrs before I decided to date again at 55. I remember the outfit I wore to meet my now Mr for 2.5 yrs now. Skinny jeans, sandals great top that had some cut outs without being to sexy. I will say the best item one can sport that beats everything hands down is CONFIDENCE!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Confidence is everything! xo

[@catherineo1332]

Love your channel even more..faux leather.compassion for animals. You revamped my style..went from frumpy to compliments! Thank you!!.

[@dmround7793]

Thank you for this great content! I’ll be 43 and re-entering the dating scene this summer! 💞💓💕

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm so glad that you found this helpful! xo

[@LittlePoet]

Oh this is perfect! I am dating again and that first look is perfection! It's sexy but it's also smart...it just screams strength! Look #2 shows just how beautiful you are. OMG. Your figure is perfection and this outfit is so rock-n-roll....and even without the boots, it would be a knockout. The high-rise jeans with that belt just scream high fashion...you have it together. That is my favorite and what I want to wear. Look number #3 is the only one that missed the mark for me.The cut of the top for me in your sleeved arm was undefined and ruined the look for me. I think date night can have color also. I love your talent to create crisp lines and curves. Thank you so much for this Busbee xxoo Susan

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! I love the top in the third look, but I understand that it's not for everyone. xo

[@janalieskovska7333]

I am married, but still found the video very inspirational. I will surely get an inspiration from your video when I next go for our date with my husband thank you🙏🌹♥️

[@daniathompson6042]

I LOVE this video idea! Such good options that we can all use - whether we’re dating or just going out with Hubby.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Dania! xo

[@franceshowe6332]

It would be helpful if you would show looks with alternate shoes...high heels vs booties, etc.

[@marjoriechisholm-larouche6680]

Great advice Erin! I once had a date with a guy I met through an online dating site who actually printed off my profile, brought it with him and proceeded to “interview” me. Needless to say we never got past look #1 🤣🤣

[@adrianademarco7076]

Good Lord!!!

[@chicalertng]

Oh dear!! 😅😅

[@BusbeeStyle]

OMG! That is a bit crazy. xo

[@kiannad418]

Marjorie Chisholm-Larouche omg are you serious wow 🤣🤣

[@paint_freckles]

Yes its really creepy what you hear about online dating

[@shawnperez6880]

Love the 3 day approach. Also love the balance of the leather sheen and solid.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Shawn! xo

[@hizzchek]

Great video. I’d love to see a video where you introduce us to your team. I know you refer to “we” often, and I think it would be cool to know who’s who. Thanks! ❤️

[@BusbeeStyle]

Great suggestion! Thank you! xo

[@glgardener4972]

What fun. I will be celebrating my 59th anniversary this summer...ideas??? I cannot wear a shoe or boot higher than 2"......suggestions? Please make this a series by the season or occasion. Enjoyed.

[@michelleclark8099]

FABULOUS TOPIC!!! Please do more of this topic!!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Okay! Thanks...

[@jackiebluebeautytipsandjam20]

Hi Erin !! Great looks !! You can never go wrong with black for date night !!! Love the number 3 too !! Wish it would go on sale !! I will keep my eye on it hugs and TFS ❤️xoxo

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! That is a great top...one of my favorites! xo

[@CryptoProphet]

No dresses?I kinda think that guys like to see a woman in a dress, especially a red dress.

[@galaxygalatics3255]

Actually am a tomboy and am trying to find a video that actually fits my style this video is the one for me

[@nancyharris9909]

Erin...thanks! I'm "back in the game" after many years and this is perfect timing. It's interesting how times have changed. I remember getting advice years ago to never wear a blazer (to corporate) and stick with dresses. What I realize now, it's about confidence and feeling amazing in whatever you're wearing. I can't wait to try out some of these outfits!

[@BusbeeStyle]

That's great! I'm so glad that you found this helpful! Go out there with confidence! xo

[@robindusch6033]

Outfit #2 makes me happy! I would definitely wear that. Absolutely LOVE the top!!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Robin! xo

[@titina206]

I love those looks! And what I love the most is that even though they are tailored towards those who might be starting dating again, all the looks are full of tips that we all can use! ♥️

[@BusbeeStyle]

Yes! Tailored for those back in the game after a long break, but they work for anyone who goes on dates!

[@patkern185]

I'm not back in the game but I'm always looking to impress the man I've loved for over 30 years. We've been making more of an effort to break away from the hum drum everyday routine and have special date nights so I appreciate the inspiration!! Thanks Erin...this is great for us old established couples too. XO

[@BusbeeStyle]

You are so right! It is important for us to dress to impress our life partners as well. xo

[@kiannad418]

I love all the looks with some moderate changes in shoe wear I would wear them everyday and look amazing 💋

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Kianna! xo

[@KatTheScribe]

Very cute outfits! I’m not ready to get back in the game just yet, but you never know. Would you do us flats-only peeps a favor & do a video on flats and lower heels?

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! I did this video featuring all flats: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKq7o2VtmZt7q5I

[@hildatorres2777]

I just love all your videos. What advice can you offer to a 66year young woman back in the dating scene?

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you...Just be yourself...At 66, you know what you want from life and what kind of person you want to spend that time with. Just have fun meeting new people. xo

[@lynnf.6649]

I really like all of the looks but must admit that I would not have worn any on a date unless it was the first date at a coffee house, a casual bar or restaurant during the day. The second or third date was usually dinner at a nice restaurant (jacket required for the man) and I do not think that any of the looks would be appropriate for that kind of date. I am wondering if very nice restaurants in some cities are just more casual today??

[@BusbeeStyle]

I live in a very casual town where most restaurants, even the nicest ones are more casual. This has also been my experience in most cities where I have spent time. If you live in a place where the restaurants are more formal you will have to adjust accordingly.

[@fatihi2615]

Thank you erin....every Wednesday and Sunday i look forward to your videos

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Fatima! You are so kind! xo

[@lm2646]

Hi Erin all these looks are gorgeous!!! Not in the game, but still definitely trying these looks. Also, can you link the plaid blouse you’re wearing, the one linked is different (love the slight puff sleeve on the one you have on) ❤️

[@BusbeeStyle]

Here you go! rstyle.me/cz-n/d2z9um58an

[@jennyborter7416]

While I do like all of these options and they look great on you.....I think men generally prefer woman in skirts and dresses with a more feminine feel initially. All of these looks have a much more intense vibe that I think can turn a lot of men off. But I do like the looks ( don't get me wrong) I just don't think they are the best choices for the first dates. Thanks for sharing.

[@ihath]

love the coated denim look

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! xo

[@Avoid_Low_Frequency]

here I am back in the dating scene... thank you I am going for the look

[@BusbeeStyle]

You got this, Sharon! Hope the tips were helpful! xo

[@abradley8008]

Refreshing, love this video, it must be nerve wrecking dating over 45 and up 🤦🏻‍♀️you all are brave. You can also choose to have fun with it!

[@JanmarieHaggar]

Nice video. The looks are beautiful on YOU. I can still wear skinny jeans and cool tops without those back breaking stiletto heels. Some of us have to wear flats or Chelsea boots or even orthotics and can still look amazing. “Getting out there” is possible with cute flats, great stylish loafers , or mid heel pumps. Thanks for your great videos 👍🏽

[@einbisschenchaotis]

Great ideas, Erin. I'm dating someone after years and the examples you have to us are very useful! What about a video for day dates like a picnic, going to a museum or just a nice Sunday breakfast?

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Miri! That's great! Great idea! xo

[@chelebug1]

Love this! Can you do one with color and not neutrals?

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! xo

[@grnddesign]

Need more of this, but for hot weather climates. Thank you!!

[@mariannricci1211]

Great video Erin, loved each look, you are so beautiful!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Mariann! xo

[@diannedballard2372]

Great ideas! Loved all these looks.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Dianne! xo

[@dianem7771]

I love look #1. Pretty much my standard outfit (minus the dickie. I don't have a blazer with a dickie). You have changed my life with the high rise jeans recommendation. I can't believe the difference it makes. Thank you. xo

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Diane! xo

[@lynsherer4592]

Hi Erin: I ordered the Bailey 44 jacket off your link and I just love it! Very cozy and soft and the fit is fabulous! Thanks for the suggestion!

[@BusbeeStyle]

That's fabulous! Thank you so much for sharing! xo

[@birthdaybash4721]

Requesting how to dress with the long sleeveless open vests. I still see them in stores and hope they are fashionable. Also I am in my 50’s and hiding the extra weight in my mid section but live in a warm climate.

[@BusbeeStyle]

If you are using a long vest as a third layer make sure that the layer underneath is not too big. You want to show your shape a bit and use the vest to conceal any problem areas. xo

[@aleshaarreguin9522]

Great outfits! You look beautiful 💐 your glowing. 👌😊

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much, Alesha! xo

[@wendyp8488]

Thank you for these helpful and well thought out tips ⭐️ I can use these for party outfits.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Wendy! You sure can! xo

[@wrinklesandsprinkles]

I love your style Erin. I also appreciate your videos. Just subscribed to your newsletter!👍🏼

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much! I hope you enjoy my newsletter. Thank you for subscribing! xo

[@tamaragayle3993]

I asked for this months ago . Yay ! It's hard not to look like trying to hard ! And especially for first date when first meeting someone from online

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! I'm so glad that you found this helpful! xo

[@KristaHarrisSB]

What handbag was that? I think it was the same for all three. Also, these looks are great for dates with spouses, too!

[@KZ.71]

Krista Harris 👋🏼 it’s the Chanel Boy bag. She did a video recently talking about it. Hope you have a nice day 🤗. From, Kristina

[@BusbeeStyle]

Chanel boy bag: rstyle.me/+Y-eKzAPFuxdIB0Fj8wEGpQ

[@gracef3693]

HI Erin - such a fun video - found myself giggling with you! While not on the market, definitely like dressing for date nights with my hubs. Great ideas. Look two - aka hot mama - is my favourite.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! You could definitely wear any of these looks for a date night with your husband. I do! xo

[@christopherarmistead2550]

Hi Erin nice date night outfits my favorite is the first look and the entire outfit looks so gorgeous like the camisole as well it gives it that feminine look and the black pumps always a winner with any outfits. Love the video like the setting as well and fabulous love xo

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you!!!

[@angienichols1248]

Love outfit 2 ..awesome look

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Angie! xo

[@victoriac.attorneyatlaw]

I am no longer a busy mom but a busy lawyer! I do have the cheetah skirt but not in satin..any ideas for the top?

[@summersevening]

Good idea for a video but it feels super specific to your body shape/look. I’d suggest you do something broader, looking at women with different body shapes with suggestions of what would work for them

[@BusbeeStyle]

Glad you enjoyed this one! I do have a body shape playlist that you might like: kzbin.info/aero/PL6xMaBj8Zyg_HmEOvouHi4LZAqczgb5aL

[@heididikekingston]

This is so helpful! In one of your previous videos I saw the coated jeans in petite- I ended getting the same ones on Postmark- new with tags- for $25!! It was meant to be ❤️ love them- thanks for the recommendation! Hope you feel better soon!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Great find! Thank you! xo

[@beccagiessing3890]

Always love your videos. Thx Erin

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Becca! xo

[@carinrichardson]

These are lovely outfits, but even the cost less items are pricey. But good examples of what you could wear, thank you!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Don't feel like you need these exact pieces...try and recreate the looks with clothes that you already have! I bet you can do it! xo

[@shelraysam4705]

I love all three outfits. specially three

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! xo

[@milliondollarlady]

4:08 That black top is gorgeous! Love it

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Karina! xo

[@jackiemarsh2470]

Loved This Video Erin!! Your Style is Soooo Classy!! Love Your Channel!! Thank You Soo Much For a Fantastic Video!! xox

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Jackie! xo

[@andreayanochko4758]

Thanks for the helpful hints!

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm so glad! xo

[@jacquiyoung8703]

You look gorgeous and those mountain views!!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Jacqui! xo

[@thyraviking9523]

Very good! You have excellent taste. ❤️ Don`t forget the red lip on date night.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! xo

[@newmercies1]

Hey Erin why don't you do a date look based on occasion, I don't know museum, cinema, sports, day lunches, going partying with other couples, etc. Also I would love a lady to look like a lady, wear a flirty dress or two. :) Cheers!

[@livinglifeontrack]

Love your channel! Im 51 and have a weight loss channel on youtube. I have lost 40 lbs so Im always looking for updated looks apprpriate to my age category! I feel like your ideas are always on trend! Thanks for what you do!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Barrett! xo

[@OSW339]

Date 2's boots brings me great joy! 😊💖 . . . Do any of the items come in plus size or are there dupes?

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! You can substitute any skinny jean that works for your body. The Dickey Blazer does come in sizes up to 24. Here is a link: rstyle.me/+ox2_T64YE6rAmSWRk-shOQ

[@hollis1440]

Love these looks! I’m going to try some of them, thanks!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Please do! Glad you liked these looks! xo

[@debbielucas2245]

That extra highrise looks so good on you.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Debbie! xo

[@suzihazlove4979]

Only on Short people...

[@mariadelpilar6676]

You look so unreal beautiful in your video! You’re just amazing and I love to watch you there. But Erin, this has nothing to do with my my reality. F.e. most the of women in “our age” cannot show their arms, we haven’t slim legs or a slim waist. With your video we don’t feel like these looks are something we can apply in our lives. Erin, you’re not only a beautiful, intelligent, funny and diligent woman (and I’m pretty sure you’re even much more than this). But when you give advices to women that “still have it”, let us an opportunity to feel it too!

[@adrianademarco7076]

I get you!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Pilar. I have subscribers of all shapes, sizes, and ages. All I can do is show you what I would wear for specific occasions. It is up to the individual watching to adjust each look to fit their specific body and needs.

[@trishac9516]

@@BusbeeStyle Yes, I can speak as someone who met their husband at age 60 and managed to dress sexy and classy enough, on our first date, to keep him very interested! That was almost 14 years ago, and the styles were different, but I managed to put together an outfit that was very on trend and one that he always remembers!

[@fasola2022]

You are awesome Erin, you are my Sunday highlight, great looks as always!🥰👍

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much! xo

[@bhawanasehgal8784]

Really cute ! Concept ❤ so needed after 3 babies 😀

[@fernandessylvia4761]

All 3 looks are beautiful. You look so good. How do you deal with grey hair? Could you please share some tips?

[@ekaterinakozlovskaia8082]

Hi Erin. Awesome looks as usual! Wasn't it cold to film? There's snow so I couldn't help thinking how cold it must have been. Or was the street added later on the computer? Just curious!

[@BusbeeStyle]

It was chilly but not too bad. When it’s 40 degrees and sunny here, it feels more like 55

[@BusbeeStyle]

LOL, Yes it was very cold. I shot these photos out on the streets. xo

[@adrianademarco7076]

Thanks Erin, for this perfect- in- every-aspect video! I am curious about the beautiful location... Good sunday vibes for you!🌻🌻

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! The photos were taken in my home town of Telluride. xo

[@robdayful]

What is the shoulder bag you have here and also in some of your other videos? It is so chic and versatile.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! It's the Chanel Boy Bag. Here is a link: rstyle.me/+0WlvMInVDd3NkiHz1Ip9Iw

[@catherinegardner8407]

Nicely done! Personally, with all of that snow in the background, I would have been wrapped up in a faux fur coat and warm scarf!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Catherine! xo

[@pamravenscroft4829]

I love all these looks!! That faux-leather top is calling my name! Here’s an off-topic question: do you feel self-conscious modelling the looks in the winter in public? Your confidence is so inspiring! Please share your secrets ❤️

[@BusbeeStyle]

Nope... remember I used to be a journalist and we often went live in front of crowds. I also have been doing this for more then five years so any of these reservations I might have had at one time, I don’t care about anymore.

[@pamravenscroft4829]

Busbee Style Does anyone ever comment while walking by? I’m sure you attract a ton of attention!

[@MrsSunGreen]

Ohhh this video is just in time! Thank you 🤗🌻

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm so glad! xo

[@zabindhanji]

Just wondering why you didn't show a dress or skirt outfit?

[@BusbeeStyle]

These are the outfits/looks that I would wear on a date. A dress would be lovely if that is your preference. xo

[@deeadeb5763]

Loved this! Can u pleeeeaseeeeee do a video on looks for 30+ women going back to university?

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! My suggestion to you would be to wear what you would typically wear on the weekends. Dress casually (jeans), but put together. xo

[@deeadeb5763]

Thank you 😊

[@paulinerogers8058]

Erin.... I love your videos.They are so inspirational.Could you maybe do more say a nigh out with the girls. I find that quite stressful 💖 Thank you 🇬🇧From across the pond Xxxx

[@BusbeeStyle]

Great suggestion, Pauline! I'd wear these looks on a girls night out as well. xo

[@paulinerogers8058]

I’m avidly binge watching for ideas 😂 xxx

[@jayb3931]

Love the looks but just not sure if I have the confidence to wear these :) Working on it through the summer! xo

[@BusbeeStyle]

It is not easy, Jean! xo

[@andreathomas5330]

Hi Erin! Loved this video and your encouragement. Dating now is a whole different world from when I was previously single. Two things: could you also link to the bag you had in each outfit? I love it! And also, so many first dates are a quick meeting with someone from an app or online for coffee during the day or a glass of wine in the evening. Would you suggest outfit #1 for that, or could you suggest something a little more low-key but still date-appropriate? You could also do a video on outfits for dating profiles.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you so much! I was wearing my Chanel boy bag in this video. Here is a link: rstyle.me/+1OcBmY-sMl8iOKoZ3gwuvg . You could definitely wear the first look to a daytime coffee or glass of wine. xo

[@andreathomas5330]

@@BusbeeStyle Thank you so much!

[@andreathomas5330]

@@BusbeeStyle Hmmm, maybe I should have asked for a good dupe for that lovely bag! :)

[@suzettefox8364]

Love the sunglasses in look 2 and 3 but it does not look like the same ones in the link. Please advise. Thanks.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Suzette! Mine are an old pair that are not available. I linked something similar. xo

[@elizabethprzybylski9486]

Loved this video! Would love to see more.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you, Elizabeth! xo

[@debbiegibson3604]

As always, you looked beautiful in all three outfits, but I kept thinking how cold you must be in the wind with snow on the ground.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! Yes, it was pretty cold photographing these looks! xo

[@minecraftbp8892]

Hi Erin 💞 look 2 is my favourite and especially the high rise jeans!!🥀🥀🥀 But the best of all, is that you went out for this video without a warm coat, with the snow on the roads and everywhere!!! Didn't you get cold?? I'm jealous, cause here in Greece, didn't snow at all this winter..... Kisses 💚💙💜💛

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! Yes, it was pretty cold out photographing these looks! xo

[@christinemadrazo6755]

Thanks for sharing this.

[@linnsamnew8534]

🖐🏻Hi Erin, YES ~ WOW ~ YES 👠YOU ARE AMAZING ERIN❗️ YOU HIT THE NAIL 🔨ON THE HEAD WITH THIS VIDEO✅ TERRIFIC SUGGESTIONS ~ 100%. THanks again, 🙋🏼 🇨🇦

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! xo

[@BelindaCastle-hq3wm]

Love this so much thx

[@angienichols1248]

Question. Are the high waisted jeans the best to show curves?

[@BusbeeStyle]

I believe so! xo

[@designorganize2608]

Fun and informative. I'm separating from my husband so this is timely! You must have been freezing.... everyone else was wearing parkas! Thanks for the ideas!

[@BusbeeStyle]

Thank you! I'm sorry for all that you are going through, but glad that you found this video helpful! Yes...I was freezing! Wishing you the best! xo

[@Edith84]

Just in time 🤗😊

[@BusbeeStyle]

I'm so glad, Edith! xo

[@janineamber]

i think erin is my sister from another universe 😍😍😍

[@wendyraye]

I didn’t want to sound nosy but I recently noticed you not wearing a ring. That’s kind of what clues me in, if it’s suddenly gone. I’m sorry to hear this happened, but I went through it too. Who wouldn’t want to date a hottie like you 😄

[@OhhKikka]

Looks like these outfits still apply in 2023. What do you think? How about for pushing 60 but people think I am 35-40, haha! No joke. Seriously though, my confidence is so low; my attire could lift me. I wear 4" chunkier or block heels with platforms, not sure if I can handle stilettos.

[@BusbeeStyle]

Yes these are still great tips to try out in 2023! If you don't feel good in stilettos, skip them... You have to feel comfortable and confident! xo

[@OhhKikka]

@@BusbeeStyle Thank you!