Couples Therapist Answers Frequently Googled Relationship Questions

Relationships are complicated. We had a therapist come in and give some dating advice!
Special thanks to: Omar Torres
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[@elio1199]

He be looking like brendon urie's long lost brother

[@aq0m]

oh

[@mariepierre_sfx2680]

Yes I was thinking the same thing!! 😂😂

[@mariepierre_sfx2680]

@Vivian Marsh don't forget the forehead! 😉😂

[@danielleferguson8712]

....better looking?

[@Val-cq6ff]

It’s the forehead, the eyebrows and the hair ahahahaha

[@stephtz92]

Cheating for me, personally would feel like the biggest betrayal my boyfriend could do to me, so I don't know if I could forgive him.

[@prod.arcsyne2990]

stephtz92 and you shouldnt

[@two-face1041]

stephtz92 and that’s ok...everyone is different

[@amorky8391]

I'm with you. If a person is physically cheating on me it's done. I'm not interested in going on from there.

[@ChaosmanOne]

It's not black and white. Nothing is.

[@ayacruz8685]

@@amorky8391 I agree it's the person holding up a billboard saying "I'm not interested anymore". And it's serious betrayal.

[@hectortorres4738]

The people who googled “how do you know when a relationship is over?” If you asking that question then it is over.

[@johanvajse8410]

I've googled that question dozens of times during my 17 yr relationship. It isn't over yet. Sometimes it just feels better knowing that others are going thru the same thing. Also, google brings up lots of articles that have given me a different perspective. Don't be afraid to ask that question, and don't assume it means the end.

[@moiramaxwell5186]

I just kept watching his eyebrows move throughout the video

[@ashleypellerin8987]

Moira Maxwell omg me too! I can’t even remember what be said 😂

[@jessicag8219]

I loveeeee his eyebrows

[@cyanidesunny2302]

Wasnt... Now I am!

[@aggressively_average5180]

Omg s a m e

[@ladygrace7585]

I really like his voice and he seems so personable!!! (well, he's social worker, duh)

[@SiSi-xg1hk]

Social Workers FTW 😎👌

[@IshanAli]

Where are my single people at

[@danyielsays4621]

Single here😏✋

[@aq0m]

ok

[@BritishRulez]

yo we here brother

[@annablue2036]

Ishan Ali I see your comments everywhere

[@marinadominicanaperez3655]

single squad

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

Therapist are very helpful for people :)

[@aq0m]

yes mr. ma’am

[@amya.3174]

Cheating is the opposite of mutual respect so yes, cheating is definitely the end of the relationship.

[@SauceKingg]

Thanks for your educated opinion

[@alyssarock3060]

Cheating is obviously really bad but have you ever done something mean and disrespectful to someone when in a fight and then made things up again? Like a friend or a family?? Why could you forgive your best friend or family member for doing something disrespectful but couldn’t forgive your s/o for cheating? I think forgiveness is very important and relationships can be painful at times .. but there is a limit though

[@stephanieduncan9023]

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[@YuffieHani]

I love what he says about what makes a healthy relationship. It really is just that simple. 💕

[@rustyshackleford4076]

Please don’t enter an open relationship if you’re insecure about your partner, or know that one partner will have more flings than the other. I’ve seen open relationships turn super toxic when one partner sleeps with 5 people a month, while the other hasn’t had any. Really fast way to set power imbalances.

[@sj8814]

Open relationship literally sucks..my opinion

[@SiSi-xg1hk]

I agree with what you're saying. My husband & I have thought of being open & he said that he's afraid of, you know, me not getting any while he has a good amount of sexual partners. I don't think of it as a contest or anything, I don't see myself getting jealous, but that's because I know I am not as interested in just hooking up with anyone one-night-stand style. I'm more comfortable with having sex with people who I know & who I actually like being around. But we've shifted our ideals from just having an open relationship/free-for-all to now looking at couple swapping with a few friends who we know & trust. It's an interesting topic to talk about with your partner, that's for sure, & discussing boundaries is key.

[@ZephariusBe]

That is false. It depends entirely on the person, which is why communicate is so important in an open relationship. I'm not really too interested in having sex with other people, but when my partner sleeps with someone else I"m always like 'yeeeeah get sooome babe'. The only thing 'toxic' about those relationships was the inability to communicate that maybe the open relationship wasn't right for them, or maybe there should be conditions on how many people they sleep with. Some couples even have vetting processes. Like they'll show each other potential sexual partners and discuss whether or not they both feel comfortable with the one person sleeping with them. That way, the other partner can also keep track of when their partner has slept with someone new and needs to be tested again.

[@SiSi-xg1hk]

@@ZephariusBe That vetting process is a good idea. We established boundaries like only having sex with people who test negative for diseases & always using condoms (because we also don't want babies with any of these partners). I stood up for the boundary of not bringing sex partners who are strangers to our home for safety concerns because it only takes one possessive & crazy person to wreck your home life with stalking, vandalism, harassment, etc. Finding a common structure of values & anticipating what could happen in different scenarios is a big part of our conversation.

[@cyndiramos3186]

I have an open relationship and I dont think theres anything toxic about it. We communicate about EVERYTHING and CONSTANTLY. I think the biggest thing to make ANY relationship work is open communication

[@kawaiichef96]

An extremely helpful video! He was extremely professional. I can tell he is probably really good at his job!😊

[@sofiav2584]

wow brendon urie looks so good here

[@aq0m]

you copied someone’s comment Nooby

[@stefannico]

the things he said about the open relationship definitely resonate with me. He captured beautifully what makes my OR work.

[@roaringwater6519]

I’ve never been in a relationship like if you can relate 😂

[@aq0m]

thats just sad

[@subcriticalduh1919]

alexis santiago prob cause you’re like 10

[@felixthefox100]

Not in a RELATIONSHIP relationship no, just mini-relationships andmeme relationships.

[@vol.9543]

It’s better than being in one and wanting out and planning an escape. Or starting over and over in life. Do it right the first time cause that’s special.

[@MrMJmusicLover]

That's the very definition of relationship. The ability to relate to your significant other.

[@helloharlow]

This guy is great! Such helpful insight

[@AusieGamer834]

I am in a successful long-term relationship. Key to success is communication and open-mindedness.

[@BobMcCoy]

*_Build a Ship and name it Relation_* _Relationship_

[@aq0m]

_Bob McCoy wait I just realized that makes no sense... cause think of it like the titanic, it’s not called the titanicship now is it?!?!?!

[@rayisverypan1206]

@@aq0m r/WOOOSH

[@aq0m]

Ray Is Very Pan r/facepalm it was a joke lolol

[@jamielynn815]

_Bob McCoy this is so bad 😂

[@aq0m]

iRaspBerry Pi nooooo nooooooby I mean I thought of it off the top of my banana so

[@victoriagouv9932]

Amazing talk

[@Mo-km3tu]

That last thing he said, that there’s nothing a relationship can’t get through if both people are willing to try, Im always the only one wanting to try, i always suggest therapy to fix things or to even just attempt it and if it doesn’t work then we can part ways but my partner never even tries, and that’s what hurts the most about breakups to me.

[@norjmoobattulga7343]

I would see their actions as representative of how much they valued the relationship. Everyone deserves someone that wants to try everyday, including you. Wait for yours! In the meantime, just make yourself happy and enjoy being single and love yourself. And every relationship has its own value. Maybe thinking about what you learned about life/yourself/inner desires will be a good way to see the benefit...

[@keilavaldes3758]

His lashes though...

[@Wigconic.]

Haha i never asked any relationship questions cause.. i know i will never have one

[@aq0m]

my life be like OOOOOO AHHHHH

[@ZephariusBe]

The most important relationship is with yourself!

[@recoil53]

An open relationship isn't merely non-monogamus. Otherwise one person cheating would make it an open relationship. Both partners knowing and agreeing that they get to see other people is what makes it open.

[@Efficiencyts]

I wish I was qualified to ask these questions😂

[@aq0m]

hey stop it

[@ninreck5121]

"Open relationship is any non monogamus relationship" isn't correct as far as I know because there are polyamorous triads that are exclusive within that triad

[@watcherwlc53]

yes and other forms of poly or just secondary relationships... that are not just open

[@angelvazquez3323]

*guy with the smirk* *whisper* its free therapy.

[@stephanieleia]

Uuu

[@tiffanypersaud3518]

Thanks for the vid! “The affair is usually an indication of deeper issues.” Them’s dangerous words that can be misconstrued. Like fault-finding with the partner who was cheated on. Deeper issues would perhaps be... with the partner who cheated, perhaps has serious commitment issues, or wanted to end the relationship, didn’t have the guts to do it, so sabotaged it. Yup. Those are deep issues.

[@samacevedo9005]

thank you for this usefull video

[@hamidmohammad1833]

What a mood

[@userBBB]

this is helpful

[@LailiBirdy]

I like him.

[@sydneypalomaki5990]

He’s so cute I love him and vids with him

[@Dhaddy_Juke]

I dated my best friend of 7 years for 3 months and we both broke up because of a disagreement that would get worse in the future (we both know what we want will not change). I skipped the greif stage. I emotionally disconnected long before it happened so I wouldn't feel pain. But the next day he accused me of something horrible and now we are not talking. It is so weird to me to think that I've just let him go so fast and easily as a friend AND lover. It feels like I have but I feel worried that I did that and that I'm not in major pain over it.

[@christopherarias6943]

Why does he look like a Hispanic Brendon Urie?

[@LifeWithKasey]

Me and my boyfriend we long distance for almost 2 years and we now live together and have been together for 3 years. :)

[@nastiahares2057]

Hearing this makes me so happy! Me and my boyfriend have been in a LDR for 2 years and hopefully we could live together soon as well!! it's very hard but worth it :)

[@madalynfaith1822]

Kasey Smith that gives me hope. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 11 months with 3 of those being long distance. I’m supposed to see him for Christmas. :)

[@nastiahares2057]

@@madalynfaith1822 lucky! My boyfriend usually comes during Christmas but probably wont be able to now :( gonna have to wait till summer which really bums me out

[@LifeWithKasey]

Nastia Hares that’s amazing! Sorry to hear that you guys probably won’t be able to see each other for awhile. Maybe put some time aside and surprise him? Talk to his family to help you do that! I did that with my bf and his family helped me and I got him good (with a prank involved too) 😂 hahaha. But honestly it’s all about having that open communication. Lucky he and I both were very open and honest. When things were rough and I felt like leaving for something petty he said no we’re going to he through this and talk it out. He spent a whole month with me and then I quit my job to spend 4 1/2 months with him and at the end of that year he moved in with me. And it’s now been a year living together. Communication is key girl! And the time away from each other on holidays I totally understand, it does bum you and it hurts. I totally know that feeling.

[@LifeWithKasey]

Songbird21 that’s awesome girl, but it’s not hope! It’s knowing what you want and what have and how your going to get there. And it seems like you might have plans on getting there! I’m glad to hear you get to see him for Christmas! You guys are going to have a great time together!

[@prodraspy]

he protecc he attacc but most importantly his hair go way back

[@youdidthistomeyoutoldcoach268]

i thought this was mark salling (puck from glee)

[@shirasagiES]

I don’t care about the act of cheating by itself, what hurts the most for me is the hiding the truth that usually is involved.

[@watcherwlc53]

if you were really okay about the "act of cheating itself" then maybe you need to introduce the idea of non-monogamy as then there'd be less reason to hide the truth.

[@teadrinkingturret2088]

[Asking for advice] I'm going into my first polyamorous relationship, i'd been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for 10 years, and I thought I was purely monogamous because i'd never loved anyone else while being in a relationship, it was always my partner only, I never had eyes for anyone else, but within the last year I noticed I started to have feelings for another guy at the same time as my partner, I still love him completely, and I have spoken with my partner in regards to this as these feelings developed asking him how he feels about it and what he would like me to do, because frankly I was terrified I was going to lose him for having these feelings, even though i'd not acted upon them, and he came up with the idea of the relationship going poly, seen as the guy likes me back, he knows the person, trusts them and also understands that I still love him. Does anyone in a polyamorous relationship have any tips about this because I have never experienced this, and i'm kind of going through a lot of fear about hurting either of them.

[@MilesStJohn]

i love you omar

[@wav3rid3r]

I dated someone some years ago. NEVER AGAIN.

[@Ahsan-RN]

*not until I clicked on this video I realized how unrelatable it was*

[@lauram6160]

Yeees love him

[@kay.510]

"essentially"

[@smilelivelifeblovely]

What is that song at the star that goes L O V E?

[@hatenayousei]

*_brendon urie is that you??_*

[@elangelang9742]

1:35 body once told me the world was going to rule me I ate the sharpest tool in the shed

[@KnightSlasher]

Google *the answer to everything*

[@aq0m]

i thought you loved me

[@cyanidesunny2302]

42

[@brianakloepfer5341]

Omg it would be life if devin from buzzfeed replied to this comment

[@madisongillespie5990]

he looks like brendon urie-

[@cynthiachen7721]

I wanna knowknowknowknow WHAT IS LOVE

[@aq0m]

no it only worked with the other comment

[@notyourgrammascrafts]

But how long am I going to be sad? ........ I've been separated from my husband of 16 years for almost 4 years now and I still cry I still hurt when will the pain stop

[@amya.3174]

Probably because you're still holding onto the memories you have with him and hence you can't move on. Maybe you should stop thinking about these memories and try to find a new boyfriend/husband.

[@Stanlos]

16 years is a significant stretch of time. It's a-okay to mourn it. I wouldn't worry about the time. It will be easier as time goes on but only if you acknowledge the passing of the relationship and experience the feelings. Your feelings are okay to have

[@Hessed3712]

Crystal Case I’m so sorry. You will find someone that loves and supports you.

[@watcherwlc53]

there's no timeline really for grief but 4 years of such a high level of distress is a long time. Perhaps you do not accept it is over and still hold hope? That holds you in place. Do you mostly focus on that lost relationship. Important to make sure your life is larger than just the relationship or the loss of it.

[@RichardStefanits]

Therapy saves relationships ? :D Mmmkay...

[@watcherwlc53]

it can. not all relationships can or should be saved

[@noahs.cactus4620]

he looks like Brendan urie

[@aq0m]

nO dUH

[@chanminie8598]

I'm single af, why i'm here ?! Ps: i watch the entire video. Thank you sir for your informations !

[@francomoises7347]

This guy's face reminds me of Daredevil being cancelled

[@lizzypelosof9689]

Darevil isn't cancelled though?

[@Hessed3712]

Franco Moises Why? 🤣

[@francomoises7347]

@@Hessed3712 He kinda looks like Charlie Cox

[@francomoises7347]

@@lizzypelosof9689 It is

[@graciewiley6963]

Lawd...

[@greekfire7980]

Couples'*

[@textingconversations-roadt6378]

U play with fire u ger burn. Its simple really

[@Mel-qr5ob]

Cheating = lying, a lack of trust, no respect, not caring about your real partners physical or mental wellbeing. Cheating = it's over Sure maybe it's a "symptom" of a larger issue they have, maybe they have trust issues or had a bad relationship rolemodel as a child. Maybe they just wanted multiple partners. Regardless of what it was they should have talked to their partner first, maybe they would have agreed to a open/poly relationship if they knew how their partner felt. Cheating just shows they don't actually care about your feelings at all. If you don't care about me... what reason do I have to stay? None. Micro cheating i dont care, we can talk about you flirting with other women and work that out. Actual cheating, where you risk my own health by potentially spreading diseases to me. Actual cheating where you tell me you love me, and then lie to my face every day. Actual cheating where you don't give me the mutual trust and respect that I deserve. Is unforgivable in a relationship.

[@two-face1041]

What a book name lol

[@aq0m]

If this video gets popular I just wanted to say hello

[@alex-tm3kl]

hi hru

[@aq0m]

omg am fina tell my parents I have friends yes thank you 🙏

[@alex-tm3kl]

my pleasure :)) and gr8 ! lmao how was ur day ?

[@aq0m]

oh my day was just great! I went swimming today for a field trip and it was fun! How was your day?

[@alex-tm3kl]

aaah it was pretty neat , i ate a strawberry ice cream so that kinda made my day . and swimming ? that's so nice ! My swimming classes in P.E are gonna start in like 2 days , what a coincidence!

[@alextea3222]

Damn...

[@SupremeLeaderKimJong-un]

Dating doesn't exist in my family. I pick a woman off the streets, make her marry me, and then we live a happy life

[@aq0m]

I SAW YOUr comment BEFORE T WAS EDITED IT SAID “...” arent I just so freakin special

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

Until she pisses you off & have her killed. Then you repeat.

[@butternutyeeetsbanana.-.5389]

Tazhie Nunurbusinezz it’s like washing your clothes and wanting new clothing lol

[@victorpeterson3502]

Thought the title said Google therapist......

[@mhaliza8594]

i want him

[@maayyytte]

O_my_.......................God!.😳

[@korukai_gaming4861]

Buzzfeed needs to comit deathpacito

[@aq0m]

hey shush flamingo fan

[@hardtimes9972]

Mk that the f

[@whereismytiarra1345]

His explanation of poly relationships isn't quite accurate. They do not always involve 3 people who are in a relationship with each other. I'm polyamorous and I have a husband and a boyfriend. They are both romantically entangled with me. However, they are not involved with each other. Polyamory is a subdivision of ethical non-monogamy that also includes having multiple romantic relationships simultaneously not just having sex with people other than their otherwise monogamous partner.

[@TurtleNut]

He has a massive head

[@2ndpartycrasher954]

Accepting an affair is a weak move, sorry but it can't be that hard to be loyal

[@l3ahplays]

I’m first wow!

[@aq0m]

no u nob

[@briannad3425]

First in my time zone

[@aq0m]

k

[@shabbygirl8362]

Is anyone just an old fart and married...legally and spiritually bound? Maybe sex, maybe not..choose not to fight..?

[@aq0m]

damn Girl

[@emiljaa8217]

Hi i love you

[@aq0m]

ok

[@suchanawfulfck7801]

He looks like a dollar store Brendon urie

[@jnahahha1853]

pale yellow with a hint of rage well that’s rude

[@SiSi-xg1hk]

Why do you say that? Is it because he's Latino?

[@alexx036]

@@SiSi-xg1hk Why make it a race thing?

[@magdalenahnatow7899]

Hi

[@aq0m]

no

[@lilyfausett2372]

I personally don’t understand open and/or poly relationships. Why not just be single?

[@Hessed3712]

Leakyfausett _ Exactly

[@elocinaqui24]

I think people still want the emotional security of a partner, but with the option to be fulfilled elsewhere. Being single would likely fulfill nothing if you're only having meaningless flings.

[@monkeygirl243]

You want someone to always always have your back though everything emotionally and mentally they are your everything but many they can’t fulfill you sexually and that’s it.

[@DeFaulty101]

I'm having problems and I don't feel like this helped me. Like if you can relate.

[@Channel-zl4qt]

My father’s been cheating on my mom for 6 years and she forgave him. But at the age of 6 I was her therapist

[@userBBB]

I don't understand why people have the bad habit of moving their eyebrows

[@watcherwlc53]

expression

[@dababy9442]

If you're reading this have a good day/night! fRom A SMALl YouTuBEr (jk)

[@aq0m]

Be Be oh

[@Hessed3712]

Be Be Thank you. You too 😊.

[@Epyon2007]

Open relationships are an oxymoron! The very thing that leads to an open relationship is lack of communication so how on earth can you actually suggest that communication is key save a open relationship. 90% of open relationship fail

[@jonguyen100]

[@Mini_meshow]

FIRST DISLIKEEE

[@Mini_meshow]

I really like this tho cuz this actually really helped me. I just wanted to be first