"#1 Red Flag He DOESN'T Value You!" - How To Find Genuine Men & REAL LOVE | Matthew Hussey

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If 1 in 3 men cheat, there are a HOLEEEEEE lot of women out there dealing with heartbreak losing their confidence.
On today’s episode of Women of Impact, I’m joined again by my super close homie Matthew Hussey. You may know him as a world-leading dating and confidence coach who shares authentic, insightful, and practical advice to help women not only find love, but also feel confident and in control of their own happiness!
This time, we’re talking about eeeeevery woman’s WORST nightmare - the crushing event of being cheated on.
We dig into…
- The signs in your relationship that they may betray you, and why you might be ignoring them
- How to tell the difference between a bad choice vs. a character flaw
- Dealing with the SHAME and BLAME of being betrayed
- Why avoiders are worse than liars, and how YOU might be HELPING them
- How to escape the “victim” mentality and protect your self-esteem and self-worth if they ARE unfaithful
- The REAL reason you’re NOT asking the TOUGH questions
- 5 reasons WHY you say YES to people that are bad for you
- How the EMPOWERING idea of being “happy enough” can help you take your MAGIC back
- Why toxic guys are WORSE than a drug addiction
- The HARSH reasons why you’re NOT holding him to your standards
LISTEN CLOSE and get ready to have your mind blown! Because I’m telling you homie, this interview had EVEN ME seeing cheating in a completely different way, and that says A LOTTTT coming from me!!
Chapter Markers:
😞 [00:00] Beware of Shame, Avoiders & Liars
🫡 [17:42] Self-Respect After Cheating
❤️ [30:31] Self-forgiveness for Letting Go
✅ [37:37] 7 Reasons Why We Say Yes
👀 [47:26] Look In a New Direction
🪄 [1:14:32] FU Confidence & Taking Back Your Magic
🔧 [1:30:06] Tools for Finding Happiness
👉 [1:37:10] Bonus Episode: Lewis Howes
***Bonus Episode: Uncomfortable Truths about Relationships with Lewis Howes***
Keep watching for a BONUS conversation with the incredible Lewis Howes where we discuss WHY people still cheat and lie in a relationship, and how the suffering and fear going on in people’s lives from their past can influence their future.
🔥 MATTHEW HUSSEY’S FIRE QUOTES:
“If every mistake we made was a life sentence, we would all be in trouble.”
"One of the lenses through which I think of cheating is through a lapse of personal standards that someone has. People who don't cheat in relationships, it's not just because they're never attracted to somebody. People who don't cheat in relationships because they have a standard for themselves and they have a standard for how they treat not just you, but people that they wouldn't make that kind of a promise to someone and then break that promise."
"Actually, what a lot of people feel when they cheat is that they lost their power. They felt that they've let them, not just you, down, they've let themselves down. And that there's a deep, deep sense of shame and guilt that comes with that."
"Not everyone who experiences infidelity finds themselves in a doomed relationship, or even in a kind of trust that can never be repaired, or a beautiful story that's now been ruined for good."
"We have to, for our own forgiveness and to be able to move on from certain things, we have to, at a certain point, be able to say, that's not who I am, it's something I did, because otherwise, self forgiveness isn't possible. If every mistake was a life sentence, we'd all be in trouble."
"If you find that someone has deep regret and shame and guilt over this thing, then what you have is a person who deviated from their moral compass in the moment that they did that."
"It feels like shoots and ladders, where you get all this progress and you climb a ladder and you feel like you're in a relationship and then someone breaks up with you or leaves you or betrays you or cheats, and you just go all the way back down to the beginning again, or what feels like even further back."
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Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement

[@LisaBilyeu]

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[@zairaram9302]

😅

[@jessiejohnson1208]

I used to be scared of being alone, but now I'm scared of spending the rest of my life with the wrong person.

[@NatavanQuliyeva]

❤

[@RachelSings21]

THIS!!!! So much this!

[@donnajeffreys8252]

🎯💯

[@Steph26Tej]

I dont need red flags. In my past relationships I could just feel they were cheating and I was right every time. Its like a withdrawal of energy, as a woman you know what’s up. Trust your gut feeling

[@FiatVoluntasTua888]

100%… everytime.

[@amandathemystic1828]

A withdrawal of energy, you nailed it 👍

[@walidmariam9333]

How did u find out? Did they tell u after a while?

[@sameus11maximus]

Yup. They just lose interest in you. Old news. They are eternally bored with their “toys”.

[@emilyhurst4829]

Yep! Mine is cheating on me right now, as we speak!

[@alwaysstraitup]

There is no accidental cheating.

[@mzblu-cj9fd]

When I discovered my ex-husband cheating, my brother said I should consider it an act of war and proceed accordingly. I fought that a long time, I rationalized it, empathized, tried to "save" the marriage, until I was nearly completely crushed. So, take it from someone who needlessly suffered and barely survived it -- cheating is like Pearl Harbor or 9/11. You didn't expect the attack, but you damn well better get off your sad a$$, face it for what it is, and fight. The sooner you do that, the better you'll fare. Defending yourself, defeating the enemy, raizing the rubble, and rebuilding on new ground are your only chance of having any kind of life again.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@Crystal awww that sucks! 😭 Did you divorce?

[@TP-jt2cm]

Some women are cheated on precisely because they are so perfect. If they are so unfortunate as to date a narcissist , he will want to let her know that he can get any other beautiful woman he wants. Then cheating serves kind of a power demonstration. More often than not, cheating is an ego think and not a love issue.

[@Harsha-D311]

No coz men r polyagamous They want to sleep with all

[@ELvis348]

I clearly know it’s not my fault for not seeing “red flags”…what boggles me is how someone can be so conniving cold and calculated

[@cubicqe]

True............. they are so good it's hard to see through it.

[@Priya_the_princess]

No its not our fault that we trust

[@cubicqe]

@@Priya_the_princess Ultimately it's our fault indeed

[@Superashyblox]

The Devil comes to steal kill and destroy. This behavior is demonic

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@ELvis a narc!

[@karenlindley.9756]

I think we know, most of the time, but choose to ignore the red flags….for whatever reason. But there are really good manipulators or narcissists that just mess your mind up. If you don’t trust them…..I’d tell married or people in relationships to go on Tinder or dating apps to see if their partner is on there. I’d say 99% of guys on there are married or have a partner …..but they all lie. Pretty sad state of affairs.

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. What works for Adam might not work for peter. I However learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago my wife and I were on the brink of a divorce because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

You definitely should. You wont regret it

[@user-zu4rf7ne9m]

Men cheating is most of the time about variety, risk, a different kind of sex, their sexual confidence. They cheat because they decide to do, some men don't.

[@cubicqe]

They simply want to stroke their ego, power, they want what they want & will do anything to achieve it.....even risking their life. That's why you will see the emperor ending up destroying his entire empire for it.

[@nadinetchaho2618]

even though they cheat, they are never happy. Let’s not forget. Happiness is an inside job

[@JaneThatcher89]

Who told you that?

[@Harsha-D311]

Men r polyagamous If only someone told me this at 13 Men want to sleep with all

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@user then why drag a gf or wife through that? Be single and have sex with everyone no? And they say males are logical! 🙄

[@Priya_the_princess]

We need more men like mathew❤

[@nadinetchaho2618]

He is very insightful. He doesn’t excuse behaviours but shine light to what is really wrong. He spend a lot of time meditating on the righteous way for humanity Very profound

[@elizabethfarley8678]

Losing yourself and having them not care. I totally get that

[@4everJung]

I call a nice guy a good guy instead. Good guys are kind and respectful, but they also know their worth and practice assertiveness.

[@angelahenderson6129]

2 years on from him being exposed on social media as an adulterer, finally beginning to heal. Ive been through every part of what Matthew describes. Almost mirrored my own experience of everything infidelity trauma caused. Sadly, ive realised that after 35 years together, he cant offer me the level of safety needed to continue in our marriage. Its been a journey i wouldn't wish on anyone else.

[@hey_lilz]

There is no excuse for cheating … you did it it’s done! Your moral and loyalty is not there. Exit stage left .

[@gc2137]

For me, I sense that he may be cheating. I've questioned it but he stonewalls - doesn't confirm or deny. I'm leaving gradually because there's a friendship component I don't want to lose. I also don't want to return to promiscuity, which can happen because I have high sexual energy. I'm immersing in self development and my spirituality and not see our relationship as the most important part of my life.

[@cubicqe]

LEAVE HIM !! STOP SLEEPING WITH HIM PLEASE !!! Stay clean, stay away from STDs. Go for a spiritual journey, do yoga, do meditation, find someone calm indoor type person who also love meditation & a good soul. Find someone who is calm, articulated, knowledgeable who never waste time on worthless things & people.

[@SV-je8mg]

Some friend lol.... My friends wouldn't lie and put my health and sanity in danger. You are rationalizing

[@gc2137]

So agree and appreciate the candor. Matt's #5 reason I stsy is spot on. When it's good it feels great - a great that I've never experienced and that I feel I need right now because other aspects of my life aren't great. Detoxing is critical and thankfully I'm on that path.

[@KiKi-te9yd]

How much of a friend is he, if he is cheating?

[@sasha20232]

For me his cheating was like shackles were unlocked but then I threw up because he was inside my body when he was also in hers...just gross...

[@nosceteipsum6742]

Because you werent able to make an informed decision and truly consent since your partner with held the information so you were actually s3xually assaulted...on some level people know they were.. but they cant explain it because they werent r@ped...but s3x was taken from you without you being able to truly consent since you wouldnt have consented to s3x had you known about the cheating....

[@KarenPalmer-py7qn]

So sad and so relatable

[@sasha20232]

@@KarenPalmer-py7qn I am so sorry you also had to experience that feeling... it is absolutely gross they can't communicate and just say hey I want to go have sex with xyz ...I would be like: Thank you have a wonderful life... because then I would be safe and would of never got HPV and then cervical cancer with stage 3 diagnosis...

[@agentkproductions08]

It's 2.5 hrs... Could someone just tell us The Signs Men Give Before Cheating? 🙏

[@bumblebee_mrs]

Growing up as a dolphin doing backflips for love was not love, it was abuse. Love you both.

[@t.square]

I’m rhe type of person who keeps being torn with holding on to hope for the other person or leaving because there never going to reciprocate the love they are receiving from me. I’m torn between if I’m being too needy or am I disrespecting my own boundaries by trying to be so understanding towards my partner. And I’m scared cause once I’m completely done with you in my head and heart. There is no return and that’s a hard grief to accept

[@mary-ann2294]

I also played that exact scenario in my head for 25 yrs. Sadly to find my husband cheated and now at 65 I'm alone. Move on while you still can as it's so much harder when you're older. Trust yourself and what they make you feel.

[@friedaclaxton9346]

I found myself crying like a baby 😊 because Matt touched on so many things I've struggled with for 8 years. I just tell people I'm soul tired. They don't get it anyway. I love this show. Thank you for creating this set and guest.

[@LittleBlueFeather-bq8fl]

Soul Tired. You said it perfectly. I wish you the best.

[@crystalclarity4318]

THANK YOU. This is validating. when you catch the one you love cheating on you and you suffer the betrayal and the crushing of self esteem only for them to deny, play it off, dismiss the severity of their betrayal etc and defiling the sacred bond I held to be just that. Sacred. I have stood in my standards even in past relationships when the temptation to cheat on someone who wasn’t good to me at all. I am proud of my moral compass and feel strong in my steadfast loyalty. I know it’s rare.

[@jessicam3707]

I love the way that you handled this, Matt. So many decent guys aren’t aware of just how good other guys can be at lying. And the fact that the responsibility was put on the cheater, and the immediate response wasn’t about how any guy can cheat if the relationship isn’t good enough, etc. Thank you for this.

[@erikahyman8611]

This episode was amazing! The wisdom, the wording, the explaining. I wish everyone could watch it.❤️

[@Eskit749]

I'm a woman, one of many from what I can tell online, who only has a therapist to talk to about that stuff 1x every other week. Abuse isolates & many were forcibly silenced. I have empathy for the men & I also think it's a humanity issue. I'm so glad these two are talking about it & teaching solutions. Having the conversations is how the revolution begins❤️

[@yarabia]

I got to say that I was afraid of everything that you say. Only to find out, that finally, how I am now - is happy. No regrets of leaving the cheating partner. And the bond I thought we had, was only my own. I don't feel that I lack something, and in return I got peace.

[@sonjag.8686]

Fear of success: I believe it depends on how somebody’s is broad up!! If you have been told be humble, than too much success even more success than your parents, narcissist or not, can lead to the fear of success! It(the argument or statement) gets even stronger when your mentor’s don’t believe in them selfs…✌🏻

[@jayl1712]

Protect this man at all costs. I needed to hear his wisdom today. ❤ thanks you Lisa.

[@kromide3d]

1:25:00 - I have been in that place for more than a decade. Thank you for saying this issue so beautifully. Not even my closest friends can understand the pain I am feeling.

[@kirstenkreativ3078]

WOW! What an incredibly profound, deeply touching conversation. I teared up, when Matthew became very, very woulnerable talking of his difficult life in awful pain and deep depression. I know deep levels of this myself from a long life with Polio paralasys, several dead, newborn children, divorces and much more, but I have a good life never the less, and I seem to be a magnet for people in very difficult life circumstances. Thankyou both of you for your honesty, compassion and woulnerability. You are both wonderfull hosts for your own shows and almost magical together ❤❤

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

It hurts to have the connection broken. But the connection was never trust-based. It was lust-based, passion-based, love-bomb-based.... If it was trust-based, there would never be any passion from the start . . .

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@1:30:00-1:33:00 gotta see past your pain and tube into your magic, your power!

[@HavenHair-ks9yk]

This is the best episode Ive watched .. I’ve figured this out before I watched this “ be happy enough” .. then you create your own magic and can take risks “50% of what you missed is you “” brilliant ! We do bring the magic .. ❤😂

[@joannedavies-tz5kc]

I just new he changed he would start a argument like that gave him the right 😢

[@vcorvach]

“How to kill the desire…” that brought me to tears 😢

[@nadinetchaho2618]

Wow Happy enough is A Super-Power. A foundational life balance of your personal management. A real equilibrium in trust of self and sustainability. You can do alone or with others. But happy enough to know that you cannot be shaken from the Self-esteem and confidence in navigating life enough to know in faith that you will be alright That’s Power 💯

[@lynnlee4079]

Thank you, Lisa, for the support and love you give the world. A message to Matt .... you made me cry to a wound, I thought only I had in silence (by myself). However, with those tears, I cried today, has helped me so heal that deep wound. Matt, thank you for your kindness you give the world. May God bless you all.

[@gabjson8809]

I absolutely love Matt, he's so inspiring.

[@krazimitzi]

BOOK ORDERED!!!! 🙌🏼 Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing what you went through, Matt. You are an incredible man.

[@falconandthemoon]

Thank you, Matt! I just can’t thank you enough. ❤ You’ve put an end to the gaslighting and the derisive dismissal of that sense of being in a rush that so many women feel! And how validating it was to hear your profound empathy for women who have not been able to find someone! Mind blown!

[@adaalexia7]

I cried with you guys...This is so powerful! We're such amazing creatures. Thank you🙌

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

57:37 well lots are Not finding that at all!

[@michellesnow6859]

When I started watching your videos on you tube. I'm working my way through There's A Hole in My Love Cup now. Thank you.

[@CasualViewer768]

I felt this episode deep inside my heart and soul… From the bottom of my bruised, battered and broken heart: THANK YOU SO MUCH, to both Lisa and Matthew for bringing this conversation to us!! Serendipitously timed for my healing journey ❤

[@KarenPalmer-py7qn]

Lisa your interviews are life changing, eye opening, empowering I hope you know that. You are doing Gods work with women.

[@Stella-kn1sl]

That was so damn good, thank you so much, now i know, why matthew is that good in reaching out to people. Thank you so much showing the vulnerability of being in a dark place like a lot of other people struggle in live. I wish i could say i am happy enough too. I have no health, i will loosing my whole existence because of loosing my work because of my health. I am so sick, that i cannot even do enough of trauma work, and as you can imagine with trauma comes traumabonds. So NO part in my live, where i can be happy. But being that open shows me there is hope. Thank you so much Lisa for your women perspective to the point of being happy, because as matthew talked about first - as he named the chapter - i thought the same as you, it can be very dangerous! I loved that Episode so much, thank you both :)

[@AGMonz]

Great great episode!!! I needed this ❤

[@Yeodoongiiie]

Wauw Matthew how I relate to your illness story!! ❤😢 every word you said. How I feel. I still haven’t found a solution and poured so much money into it and I can’t find the solution. Never related to you more. The pain in your eyes. I get it. So much. Thank you for sharing.

[@senoral165]

I had always been described by my family and friends as happy. The "happy" wasn't attached to someone, money or any life achievements. All l always wanted was to share my happiness (the way l lived) with someone. I married a foreigner that l brought to this country because I had an abundance of happiness and joy to share. He wasn't a random pick and I didn't marry him without a 2 year relationship in which l have observed him well enough to finally say "l do". After 5 years in this country and 7 years relationship he told me "he wasn't happy" and he wanted out. Soon aftee he went on the shopping spree to buy his house and expensive car and now he bearly makes the end meet. We are divorced but after a heartbreak I am thankful to be back to being a happy enough and l know that he is not, even with his new possessions.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

55:50 thats soooo disturbing! 😭

[@Healingrelationshiptrauma]

Taking notes

[@tonimatrisa7736]

I hold this video close to my heart

[@LG-lr1up]

Just watched "Fatal Attraction" on TV, this is where cheating or sleeping around sometimes leads!

[@Nefarious.Aquarius]

I have plenty of my own flaws and make plenty of my own mistakes that I can’t fathom holding myself responsible for the mistakes my partner (or anyone else) has made as a result of acting on a thought or feeling that they know will hurt me. Willfully causing harm is cruelty. It’s okay and to have the thought. What you choose to do with the thought is what determines whether or not you are guilty of being cruel. Cruelty is a deal breaker for me.

[@lylyanazarela4807]

Please make more vids with Mathew ❤❤

[@Yulyana.m]

Not nice guy, but a Real Man! 🎉

[@arevchick]

Wow 1/3 men cheat! This is going to be a good episode. Thank you for the education.

[@gg_ingy]

Yeah, i do wonder what the age brackets on it are. What would it be like age 35+ 🤔

[@louisa4012]

With odds like that… think I’m happy living my peaceful single life 😂

[@gg_ingy]

@@lisarey3 I was wondering if they cheated when younger + learned from it so did it less at a later age, but i looked it up and men age 60-69 are most likely to cheat :D

[@ssiegreen5292]

About what Matthew said - 30:00 or so abouts - there is a huge difference when your mouth gets away from you during a heated argument, and when you step out and into someone else's bed [let's say it that way]. One is a spur of the moment kind of thing - where the physical reaction [you saying something] takes a heck of a lot less time and less chance to reel it back in, than finding someone willing and then dropping your pants to do the deed. That's not a lack of impulse control - it's a serious case of I don't give AF of the consequences at this particular moment, and your partner be damned.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

1:10:01 heck lots are still Not bliss

[@friedaclaxton9346]

My brother suffers in silence too, breaks my heart. 😔

[@tomasvoldrich]

1:13:54 Pre-ordered , and looking forward to it 🙋‍♂

[@janettetilgner6]

I wish what friends, they don't care.

[@user-ek7yc9fh7y]

You can just see the hurt and the damage cheating does. That level of betrayal and grief. I always wonder what happened? Why did they cheat? Either it's their issue or it's a relationship issue. Any repair take time. Never say just get over it. That's very immature and shows a relationship not worth pursuing. I hate to say this and try to positive spin this hurt. In life, someone who's not meant will cheat. Are they worth repairing it. Are they the one making the efforts now. Rejection sometimes is redirection to something better. That doesn't make it ok. But they need to be the one making the efforts to repair. Wherever it takes for however long. If you're not getting that, this is not the partner for you :(

[@TheBulletzgottishow20]

Hey beautiful how are you this is interesting conversation

[@FlatStella1]

Oh Matthew, you keep side of cheaters. IT S A CHOICEThe best advice to move on and wok on yourself , They did not :P.

[@user-du3cr6pl4s]

Maybe taking the loyal partner for granted is the first thought to infedelity.

[@TP-jt2cm]

That percentage doesn’t surprise me at all 😂

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

What's a conscious relationship with yourself?

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

24:00 something bigger can come back?

[@stacyjaye6350]

Sounds like Mr Matt is doing a lot of rationalization for cheating.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

37:35 well why be behind closed doors, in a vehicle, or at a park when you have a woman?! 🙄

[@realtalk675]

Are these new interviews or bits from older interviews ?

[@user-ek7yc9fh7y]

I think either partner can cheat if their needs aren't met...either because they won't voice them or they've tried and met with rejection. I see a lot of men who won't leave the relationship because then you're a bad partner. I never see women compliment their men or tell them they look sexy. I said that to a guy once and he thanked me. Never heard that. You have to voice your needs. So many times we don't. People change too. Do you grow together or apart? It's always complicated.

[@user-ek7yc9fh7y]

The cheating reflects the unmet needs of the cheater. Anyone can be cheated on. If that partner feels unseen, no sex, no connection, no appreciation. They will cheat. Everyone needs to feel loved. That doesn't excuse it. But if a couple has regular connection everyday. They know they matter and can bring up issues safely, why would they cheat. It's not about a more beautiful person, it's feeling loved. Loyalty is not just not cheating. Betrayal is not showing up for your partner until they cheat. That was my experience. But if the partner doesn't come to you and say hey, I feel like we're losing our connection...how can we get it back? They need to voice it. Not just assume you won't hear it and then cheat

[@melbaT2770]

Nope! Cheaters just have no standards. My ex did not appreciate me or support me at all throughout the 15 year marriage. I never cheated b/c I just don’t cheat. I value myself too much just f*ck around.

[@pa2359]

It is not about needs, it is cheater wants and no one can meet except their unleashed wants. What u say about variety of supply.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

1:41:49 how do you parent yourself?

[@carecafetips]

The sad reality is that most people look depressed

[@monalise6079]

Lisa B., who was the second man you interviewed who was talking about exercising peace and harmony in his life?

[@InTheWorldILiveIn]

Lewis Howe

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

54:47 well i guess she's sadly in denial about males who look opposite, and still act the same vile way! 😱🙄

[@Hanna_Hoh]

After the 15th commercial, I quit.

[@roxifinch9997]

Shared love roxi finch ❤ uk

[@Harsha-D311]

Men and women blamed me for bfs treating me the way they have

[@May-kn2st]

That pain in the neck and chest when u r with ur partner. It disappeared when u mended past wounds? It had nothing to do with the person u were with? I also get a headache. Not even in a fight. Just being in an emotional conversation.

[@pa2359]

Same for me, pain the neck area and I thought pillow size or something. But once left the toxic relationship, I got better.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

2:12:23 you'd be surprised! 😱🙄😭

[@angelcandelaria6728]

Ask yourself “is it the cheating, or do you just want to be a pleasure gatekeeper???” Most are not honest with themselves. Most are miserable because their partner actually loves themselves and the other partner doesn’t. That pushes even the best people into the arms of others. Nothing is more heartbreaking then being with someone, believing them, championing and changing yourself , only for them to still be the same. Sometimes you have to do all the work to see that they don’t plan on doing it too. ( none of this is about religion or rules) this experience is shared for raw perspective and experience that is real.

[@SV-je8mg]

The best people don't use other people as an excuse to lower themselves into being a cheater. If you are unhappy, leave!

[@saturdayschild8535]

No one pushes someone into the arms of another. They should breakup, not cheat. People that supposedly love themselves definitely don’t after cheating.

[@alwaysstraitup]

Cheating has nothing to do with the loyal partner. Cheating is a unilateral choice, that is made by just one person, without anyone knowing. The Cheater. Cheating is about power and control. Its a selfish, narcissistic person who wants cake. They want to have the wife at home, with all of its perks, AND they want the secret life that gives them extra attention. Ultimately, it is really childish.

[@SteadyReady-jy2tu]

She lost her heal and smacked against the Acrylic

[@leneGrace-px3dn]

I would never listen to my friends advice find not attractive dude cuz they’re more loyal. To be honest never they’re trying hard cuz too insecure. For me what is done is done never any more

[@Aaashnative8]

I know Tom has issues wondering eyes hopefully he fixed that to be respectful to his wife

[@lucys.4695]

Breathing?😂

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@2:02:00

[@gabjson8809]

I'm sorry but Lisa you got that Sh*t on baby!!! 🤩

[@jamison1280]

I was with you until Kristen Stewart. Kristen Stewart didn't cheat on her boyfriend, she was preyed upon by her boss who was twice her age. I don't think what KS did counts as cheating.

[@hannahberlinpetry450]

As to the whole “hurt people hurt people” comment about male violence and abusers, I’m curious as to why you would say that when women are obviously more oppressed, yet hardly commit violence?

[@aszak8654]

it’s very intimidating decision and only those on it can make it or make it out with God’s plan

[@kimt8162]

In the case of Joe Jonas. His wife goes to London and works/parties with members of the project she's working on. He knew from the get go she was from another country yet just assumed she'd be "americanized" and wanting to hang with HIS family all the time.That's an unrealistic expectation on her. So to hear she's left him and kind of cheated doesn't surprise me. Maybe he should have found someone with more "connection" before jumping into marriage/kids. Someone might think how coudl someone cheat on HIM. He's a celebrity/but as a family celebrity doesn't matter. Well, as you can see it happened.

[@Vocalence]

Joe Jonas was the one who “left”. He was the one who filed for divorce. Sophie and Joe Jonas have both spoken about their separation and Sophie did not cheat.

[@tschinzel]

So many expert liars

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

Is it me or does he seem to be crying deep down when he talks, and also sounds that way?

[@TAJATee]

How can she forget BEYONCE?

[@amandathemystic1828]

And Shakira!

[@joannedavies-tz5kc]

I'm still hurting and truma bonded to my ex husband he cheated so many times I was with him 30 years and away from him 2 years I ended it but he had his supply ready 😢

[@radlyn7234]

Mathew shouldn’t coach women at all, he is misleading women making them more masculine. In one of his conference he said a man should not pay for the date and if he does, the woman should be intimate with him because he is expecting something in return. He is the worst coach, women should listen more to coaches who understand them not the ones who are biased and lean on the male side.

[@Seekyourtruth777]

Wow that’s interesting comment if true .

[@Emimilykity]

No he didn't. I misheard it the first time too but he was speaking from a flawed male perspective, that's not his actual belief.

[@deb.m.7458]

That’s not Matthew. Women would see right through him and Lisa wouldn’t be inviting him as her guest. Lisa vets her guests. She is genuine and caring.

[@nbc940928]

This is so good 🤌🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@Specklezz]

The part where you talk cheating where people are flawed characters vs making mistakes to know if it is worth trying to repair a relationship, : What do you do if the person who cheated on you has a high moral compass and does feel guilt and shame/regret, but keeps repeating the mistake and reconnecting with the affair partner over the past few years? Does that actually mean they don't really have this value and it really is a flaw in character? Do you forgive then?

[@Vocalence]

If it’s repeated behavior, then obviously they have not learned their lessons. Their guilt and remorse doesn’t overcome their selfishness. They can Say sorry all they want. They can make false promises. But behavior is the biggest predictor. The fact that this has been a repeated situation means that they do Not and will Not care enough to stop.