Can you have a Relationship in RV Life?

[@rayrothermel4861]

“Marriage is a fine institution, but I'm not ready for an institution.” ― Mae West

[@CarolynsRVLife]

PSA: Rude, argumentative and mean people will be blocked.Have a great day!

[@jycfrnkl]

Thanks for blocking obnoxious, nasty people-I know it's extra work for you but it makes the feed much more positive.... and all of us can't stand those weirdos either!

[@sunnyspaces7]

Carolyn's RV Life yes block them. These mean people are part of the problem with the world in general. Don't let them break you down....enjoy & protect your peace.

[@jamalwoodley4456]

Carolyn's RV Life so he is a friend with benefits

[@ttym5299]

Enjoy and have fun!

[@dstraume8795]

You got me! You are the first person to put my way of being into words!!! I'm happy for you! You're an example of REAL!😘

[@MurrayMelander]

I think you like me have learned being alone doesn't mean you're lonely. There is something to be said for a life without all the drama. ")

[@nocturnal7312]

My wife and I will be married 40 years in 2 weeks, We found out that it takes Laughter and fun to make a marriage to work. She is stunning and people tell me I'm one lucky guy, My wife and I laugh every day/night. Call me the "court jester', If she's feeling down I make her laugh, Don't take life so seriously, It's nice to grow old together.

[@nocturnal7312]

I've seen quite a few people that depart this earth all alone, It's sad. I would rather pass away alone than pass away being miserable married to the wrong person for 50 years, You have a point there Lori.

[@SilverSunPublishing]

It sounds like you are both Givers. That's a very happy combination, and I'm very glad for you and your wife.

[@nocturnal7312]

Thank You Silver Sun. :)

[@rayrothermel4861]

What works for you is not a pattern for others. I think we all learned that somewhere in life. And please don't tell us how "stunning" you think your wife is. That sounds a little defensive.

[@rayrothermel4861]

We all depart alone. Do you expect to depart as a "couple"?

[@BusyBeeCompany]

I live my life by a moral compass I have inside, no religious books, no society rules, I'm also 49, have had no kids, have had no close friends since I was 19 and it's not soul destroying, it's liberating to be the king of your own land, no walls but no rules that make no sense....keep it up, your measure is by your own ruler, not inch by inch or metre by meter.

[@missingremote4388]

BusyBeeCompany . I'm 49 too; born Sept '67. did the solo RV life in a Chinook 2001-2003 & Still have it but put it in non-op with the DMV.

[@BusyBeeCompany]

I do have have requirements in a relationship but not such shallow things as height, eye color, hair color, age, etc, my past has been people of five to over 6 feet tall, 5 years younger and my wife whi is ten years older, I prefer intelligent (because you can never hold down a long term relationship with someone not on your conversational level), and they have to be a moral person, not religious, not politically moral but a (deist) cKinf of moral person, common good over color, religion, age, etc.

[@BusyBeeCompany]

Cal 20 Sailor I do also invent for fun, write poems and stories, have an over 140 iq and love to know a bit of everything over a master of one thing.

[@BusyBeeCompany]

There is nothing wrong with living alone, I'm married but haven't had friends of a close nature, you don't need them and it requires close proximity for long periods which some people don't get, not having friends doesn't mean you don't have friendly aquaintancies, I go to parties but prefer not to, mix with people but don't miss them when they are not there, I can go weeks without contact even when people are close by but I don't shy from conversation or discussions....just prefer my own company to being one of the hive.

[@joejones8026]

"I live my life by a moral compass I have inside", my friend no offense, but that moral compass will fail you.

[@nopretribrapture2318]

I'VE BEEN DIVORCED TWICE FROM VIOLENT AND UNFAITHFULL HUSBANDS,, WHO ALMOST TOOK MY LIFE,, PARTIALLY DISABLED NOW AND HEALTH PROBLEMS BUT THANK GOD I'M SINGLE NOW AND COPING WITH LIFE! LOVE TO YOU,, LOVE YOUR VIDS 🐕🌄🌈

[@sherylgreen2750]

I absolutely love you and your freedom and your willingness to share with us. I'm a mother of four daughters and a grandmother of 10 grandchildren and freedom is one thing I'm always looking for. I love riding my Harley even as a grandmother it's freedom to me and I really appreciate you sharing your videos and your life with us. 💕 thank you!

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Sheryl Imagining you on your Harley just made my day!!! thank you for being here and sharing your version of freedom! congrats. you rock!! - C

[@moonlitedaze5688]

Respect is what it is all about. When I sense any disrepect of my personality............I say goodbye to them, no explaination is needed. I spent way too many years explaining! :-)

[@thomas194907]

i have been married twice...one the mother of my children who left us after 20 years and the other after several unfaithful encounters...now single and retired for 10 years and finally happy with my outcome in life, i have lots of friends both men and women and that's how i will finish my life...i live by these rules : Who is happy? One who is satisfied with what they have. " Look well of today, for it is the Life of Life...for yesterday is but a dream and tomorrow a vision. But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope..." Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those that hear them. Quitters Never Win and Winners Never Quit. The problem with doing nothing is not knowing when you're finished. Merry Christmas to you, your vids have great points to be taken within ourselves. thankyou

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Blly - Yes!!! you make some excelent ponts. thank you for sharing your comment and I wish you happiness and peace! - Carolyn

[@sassyladyx2]

Hiya Carolyn!! OMG ... if I had a dime for every time a man said "I love a strong independent woman!" ... I'd be a rich woman! LOL ... and BTW ... I told my son of my plan of becoming a full time RV'er ... He totally supports me! Yay! He even said he'd help me with starting my own KZbin channel :-) So I'm shopping around for the rig I'll need ... looking for the best deal ... this part is a bit scary!! Keep these video's coming! Love them!

[@sassyladyx2]

Lori Smith That's awesome Lori! My goal is to be on the road by June 2017 ;)

[@sassyladyx2]

I was thinking the same. Currently looking into alternatives. I'm in the Pacific Northwest, WA, where are you?

[@beachbum200009]

Carolyn, Wendy, Lori and all like minded women..... I hope I have the good fortune to cross your path. I'm in the processes of building a Mercedes Sprinter camper-van. Hope to start traveling this continent by 2019. It's inspiring to know you'll be out there too. Jan Cleveland OH

[@sassyladyx2]

Lori Smith I'd love to share and talk more, are you on Facebook?

[@sassyladyx2]

lol you must have your account on lock down, can't send a friend request, but I did send you a message

[@SilverSunPublishing]

btw, I read something by Leonardo da Vinci that relates. In his notes, he said that he had discovered that whenever he was with other people, he felt diminished by half. So, he chose not to be in close relationships. He made it a conscious choice, and put his energies into his creative work instead.

[@LiveInspired24.7]

Thanks for sharing Carolyn! . Relationships are so personal and unique to the two individuals involved. I'm glad you've found a way to make it work with your friend.To me the more love and happiness there is in the world, the better it is for all of us.Peace

[@68landcruiser]

Living the RV lifestyle for me is doing what I want when I want and not having to ask another what they want or think. Been living this way for over two years now and with that I am completely happy in my decision. Yes I do get lonely sometimes but it passes and off to my next adventure I go.

[@cadykyst1234]

Amen, Sister! Wish I could open my locked door, 'cause I adore good men.

[@gypsyhobo3016]

Omg, so many nay sayers, lol. I am over sixty, and have loved my independent solo life! I built a tiny house on the back of a 61 Chevy pick up, while I was pregnant with my son in 1989 and lived in it with my 2 dogs, I cherish my memories of that, I love being alone, partnerless, friendless and I love my own company. I look back at all that I did alone as a child (like skipping school and riding up into the mountains alone on my horse in the snow )and wonder how I survived sometimes, my poor parents and their worry for me, the only part I regret. You have spoken for "our" community of "single roamers" of the world. You can have "physical" connections with others along the way, without giving up your spirit. Stay free and true to yourself, you don't "owe" your physical being to anyone but yourself. We are not selfish, but "selfless" and connected to something higher, spiritually,and only "grounded" physically to the earth and somewhere in the middle is the appreciation of nature, and the "living" consciousness we call planet earth. "Coupling" is manmade. I never feel alone, I hunger for nothing, all that I need, I'm provided with, at the moment I need it. Can you tell, I really LOVE this video! You sure have a speaking talent! Stay free, no matter where you are, or who you are with, at that particular, special moment! May you have many more fulfilling travels!

[@ShannaTrenholm]

Word, girlfriend! Everything you said, here. F*ck labels; up with freedom! I have never wanted kids--and was told the same thing--just wait until I meet the right man. Umm, yeah, no. I love my own company--and the company of a select few. I recharge by being alone--a true introvert (but a friendly one)! Life is way too rich and varied to confine it to just a few prescribed ways of being. Yes, we need people--yes we need love--but the romantic imperative, what I like the call *The Cult of the Dyad* is not the kind of love that ultimately fills us (it's more often just a recipe for heartache). I have embraced the concept of love (it's always been there, it just took me a while to catch up) as that of a universal one. Love and friendship can be expansive, but instead, so many people use it to get smaller. They use relationships as a band-aid for a deep wound that no other person can heal. It never works. Anyway, kudos to you--stay the course, you're on the right track!

[@deedeew4040]

I became widowed at 57 years old after being with the same man for 38 years. Almost five years later, I remain single and I enjoy my solitude and independence.

[@DixieDiveGirl]

Carolyn you are a breath of fresh air. I've been divorced for 12 years and get asked all the time "don't you get lonely"? No! I was lonely in my marriage but now I'm quite content. I'm not a man hater either, I just don't need one to complete me. I have great friends (male and female) and 2 wonderful kids. I plan on retiring asap and hitting the road myself - solo!

[@tomjones6296]

From The Teachings of Don Juan, by Carlos Castenada: "For me there is only the traveling on paths that have heart, on any path that may have heart, and the only worthwhile challenge is to traverse its full length--and there I travel looking, looking breathlessly.”

[@LovingAtlanta]

+ Tom Jones 👍 Yes! I love Castaneda, his teachings & writings.

[@jeanettewaverly2590]

When you are in Nagual's time, be a perfect Nagual. When you are in Tonal's time, be a perfect Tonal.

[@DeepintheRockies]

The most important part of being a "healthy" individual, physically and mentally, is to be comfortable spending time alone. Not being dependent on another for approval is what everyone wants, whether they are conscious of it or not. You my dear are very healthy in all the ways that are necessary for living a fulfilled life. After 12 years of being married to the wrong person, where I changed every aspect of myself to become the perfect person for him, I struggled for a few years to find myself again, who I truly am and want out of my life. It's a wonderful feeling to just be me again. Having gone through these changes, I know and understand the strength that you have. I absolutely love your stories, adventures and little hiccups. Don't ever let any nay sayers dull your sparkle!!!

[@SpectreOZ]

Introverts find human interaction exhaustive, I can relate

[@msfullroller]

I'm 50 years old never had, or wanted children and agree with you 100% on what you've said in this video!

[@LovingAtlanta]

👍 As you were talking "TOWANDA" and the Fried Green Tomatoes movie, one of my favorites, immediately came to mind. 😃🤗

[@susanlavoie1141]

Hi Carolyn, Just want to say a heartfelt thanks. Recently widowed - your comments in your videos not only prevail to RVers, ..., but to one’s life in general, and they hit exactly where it should for me in reference to living alone, owning one’s life, and making the best of any obstacles or successes whatever they may be in one’s path. Kindest regards, Susan

[@tawandabraswell8198]

Thanks so much for being so open! I truly look forward to your videos - you rock too!

[@geoffdearth8575]

The woman I'm sharing with is someone who has her own capabilities. She recently replaced the kitchen faucet. She was proud of that and I was proud of her for doing that. I could have done it but she wanted to do it. I want her to do such things.

[@geoffdearth8575]

She knows that if she does something like that I will help her and be proud of her and that it won't diminish me.

[@timrover]

Hey Carolyn, something caught my attention in this segment "I think" would be an excellent marketing trademark for stickers, t-shirts you name it. I love it.....you stated at 6:09 "I've found my freedom" simple and yet powerful. You are on to something.....I wish you the best. Tim of TIMROVER "RV"

[@beachbum200009]

Tim..... like it!!!!!!!

[@timrover]

BeachBum Thanks...actually I was reading a Christmas card while listening to Carolyn's vlog. I stopped in my tracks when I heard that clip of the video. Then watched this video five times again to make sure I was hearing this powerful statement. Fantastic!.

[@robertkrueckeberg1969]

Tim Rover i

[@muzerhythm2242]

Also good one on T-shirt.... Don't put me in a box... boxes are for corpses👍

[@muzerhythm2242]

Also good one on T-shirt.... Don't put me in a box... boxes are for corpses👍

[@oneseeker2]

I am a tad older, and at some point, decided no more significant other. And I meant it, was ok, fine w\ it. I am not angry or defensive, it's all good, no significant other. I have always been a free thinker, a free spirit, even during my years in the US Navy. I have enjoyed solitude, and company. We all have stories, moments of enlightenment, Carolyn is sharing her stories, I believe in her and like her. I enjoy her stories and learn something. Her vlogs influence and challenge me. Thought provoking. No, I won't buy an RV and chase her dream. I chase my own dreams. I am glad she is on planet earth, and I enjoy her.

[@KJAdventures]

If you're lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company." - Jean Paul Sartre 👍 Cheers to living life "free."

[@janettechapman9681]

We are ALL unique people and the definition of happiness is yours to define. Life is short my favorite movie quote " get busy living or get busy dying". Thanks Carolyn for opening a discussion everyone should have with themselves.

[@nottfar]

Recently lost my wife of forty-seven years. You and Bob Wells have given me the courage to buy an RV, leave an empty house and at seventy years old, start a new life. Thank you.

[@7heartrock]

David Bosard Good Luck to ya.

[@2legit2Kwit]

Aweeee! Wish we could follow your journey. Good luck

[@Rleetuber]

Being vulnerable is a great measure of your courage, and so rare to see. As far as comments that hurt - what people say about you is their reality, not yours.....if they don't know you personally, you aren't obliged to take it personally. Just put it in a dark box. Where it belongs. Love your videos. tfs

[@NoProGoPronto]

I absolutely LOVE how quickly your channel is growing. That means there was something missing in the RV/Van life/ Motorhome community and you gracefully swooped in to fill the void. Way to go !!!

[@marm9434]

Carolyn, thank you! I have not heard more powerful or truer words from another strong and independent woman, I dare say, in my entire life! Your sincerity, your healthy confidence in knowing exactly who you are and where you stand is such an immense inspiration. It is very clear that you are one completely liberated woman who just doesn't give a sh't! You are entirely untouchable by most, if not all, social pressures and expectations. While you might still be struggling with some aspects of completely letting go as more people project their disagreement/misunderstanding of your view point with negativity as a natural response to the threat that someone like you poses to the status quo, I assure you you are way ahead than most of us. I urge you to keep drawing strength from within and open us up to more of your unconventional thoughts and way of life as you are helping many of us to find the strength, in turn, in ourselves to live freely and ultimately happily. You are a leader towards crashing unconventionality especially for us women and resistence is only natural. Disclaimer: While there's nothing wrong with conventionality and those who choose to follow it, I vehemenely disagree that it should be shoved down the throat of everyone. The status quo doesn't work for everyone!

[@johnkosterimages]

very, very interesting. I think you speak for a lot of people, men and women, who are looking for a balance between independence and the need for some sort of a relationship. Thanks for the clarity. Certainly helped me.

[@sunnybee6710]

Excellent!! 6:56 "Resist the urge to define / label everything: Just BE!"

[@JimBobJJonesJr]

Too bad I can't like this more than once.

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Jim.. Aw!!!! TY!!!!!

[@elationvision8793]

I admire you because you do what you want and you are not a crowd pleaser. I totally understand you. You make a lot of sense. Thumbs up to you girl.

[@shellyscott4822]

I'm my own best company!!...we agree on everything lol!! Society has put that on us, I'm very independent and proud of it!!

[@hermitld]

Thanks for the kind thoughts and positive attitude. As a fellow 'loner' I am confronted with the constant notion that living 'alone' is not normal. We are branded with all kinds of not so nice labels and hope we aren't on a list of (insert most scarey people here). You said it best and I know you have finally grown up and can live happily with your choice of lifestyle. If the 'normal' people object well, so be it, it's a free world.

[@tsav6952]

It's a struggle when you don't know what you want out of life and feel stuck.

[@debbycustis8230]

Exactly! I grew up watching the so called perfect leave it beaver family thing. Never did they show a single woman making it on her own. We can do it, and you, me, and others are living proof of total independence.👍Great Video!

[@thedesertmisfit]

We are not "told" to bond, we do that naturally. Not quite understanding why on earth you would think that it's a lie or a trick to make us feel bad if we haven't pair bonded. Anyway, I do enjoy your videos but this one left me somewhat confused...NOT hatin', just throwing in my two cents!

[@pimientajuanp]

being alone doesn't mean you are lonely many free spirits are with each other's. I keep this in my favorite videos

[@thatmarionchickonyoutube7545]

Bucking the proverbial system, I love it!! Enjoy your life!! Since I've gotten older, I love my own company too!! Love your up front attitude!! Keep the videos coming!!

[@chrisr.1803]

Just because I’m alone doesn’t mean there’s an empty space. I’m quite enough on my own! I love being single...my life is complete!

[@jerrydensmore2887]

It's amazing what the company of a good dog will do for the feelings of being alone. When you reach the age where sex isn't an issue any more all a person needs is the love of their pet. I cherish that box of being alone with my best friend.

[@pitbullmom4136]

Jerry Densmore OMG! YOUR WORDS ARE STRAIGHT FROM ME AS WELL. My husband of 25 years walked out on us. Said he didn't want to "act old" anymore. We are both in our forties! But I have my dog. He is my best friend. If I meet someone or if I don't is irrelevant. I already have all that I need in my spirit and walking on four legs beside me. FYI My fur baby is a charming pitbull terrier.

[@Clickchic]

Thank you so much for your words of wisdom on being alone, your words and videos have helped me a great deal. You are breaking a path for us to follow. I am so glad I found you.

[@rccrashburn]

This is one of Carolyn's best Vlogs. Her advise represents an excellent countermeasure to unlearn how "respectable women are supposed to properly behave" in order to fit them into their very superficial social machine model. Keep up your very good KZbin work, Carolyn!

[@vjames1310]

Just watching this. It took me most of my life to learn to be okay with myself. Many relationships through my life and now I am so okay with just me! Horrible to believe we must be in a relationship with a man to be “ normal”. Boy what a book I could write! I have two wonderful grown married children and four grandchildren. So grateful for the memories with them. Now they have their own lives, so now I need to do whatever makes me happy. Soon I’ll be RVing full time, hope I can meet a lot of others, but I need my own space.

[@stevek7271]

Good Morning, CRVL :-) Great Vid (as always) keep enjoying your freedom!!!

[@jennyhackenberg2078]

thank you. I needed this today because I almost lost my mom twice and this last time It hit right before Christmas. I realized this last year I have been living for everyone but me. I have some medical issue that I need to tend to and I need to do it for me. I am glad you found someone to spend a little time with and are able to be who you need to be. you go girl. thank you again and please be safe and have fun. give Capone a scratch for me

[@marilynnarnold811]

Hey Carolyn. Haters gonna hate. Just "do you" and delete their comments if they are being rude. There's no cosmic law that says the world is going to end if everyone doesn't rush out and pair up whether they want to or not. The world would be a much better place if people didn't pair up for all the wrong reasons and/or due to societal pressure. Keep finding your freedom.

[@marmac44902]

Hi Carolyn, we trust your holidays were great. We love your channel and we personally see a need for your unique content a views. Margaret and I have seen, "The fear of change" is the number 1 reason many people they don't consider RV life. No one wants to be viewed as crazy. Our friends and family thought we were Cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs when we gave away 3 fourths of our possessions to minimalize our life. Some folks just say... It must be drugs. They keep asking "Why do you want to live like that" ? We know it's a choice and we're not going to allow fear (which really doesn't exist) shape our minds on something as important as life itself. We hope you will continue creating content which address personal fulfillment and social envolement in RV'ing. Thank You and ... Much Peace !!!

[@jimthehermit8113]

Don't listen to other people. If other people knew what they were doing, the world would be a nice place to live on. And especially don't listen to trolls on the internet. A lot of them think they can become happy be making other people more miserable then they are.

[@CarolynsRVLife]

+Lori Smith - have I told you lately that you ROCK??? because you do..

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Jim - you rock too!!! Thank you.. It's people like you who are helping to make the sounds of the trolls less than a whisper these days. I appreciate you! - C

[@lisamcguire7778]

Carolyn's RV Life Perhaps soon the "troll whispers" will beome completely inchoate. Lol! My Fingers Are Crossed! :)

[@dadgad68]

I've been separated for a number of yrs. I think being alone teaches you to be a better person. It can be lonely at times but solitude can also be very fulfilling. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Independence is a good thing.

[@Aethelwulf_Freawine]

Great commentary, nice to hear a woman's point of view. Never married, no kids, just try to do my best in life with the cards I was dealt.

[@jaysuper8255]

All different types of people in this great country of ours. That is what we defend and cherish living here. You have to take care of #1 first and that is yourself...

[@hikewithme59]

Oh my gosh, you're ME, but you are just younger!! Although I have been married, have a daughter and have helped raise my grandchildren, I have been alone most of my life....I love being free!! I am 68 and will be starting my RV life in the spring!! I hope to see you and Bob along the way in my hiking and kayaking adventures.

[@keloreilly7017]

Fantastic video, Carolyn. Your Spirit is bright and strong and we need people like YOUrself more than ever now. Speaking your truth encourages the rest of Us to speak ours. Thanks so much and take good care of you and Capone.

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Kel - yes, that is my hope.. I have been shut down and told to shut up all my life.. wearing a badge of shame that wasn't mine - like so many of us. ANd now, if I can share and help others (esp. women) find their voice then I feel I've accomplished a great feat!! thank you so much for your encouragement and empathy!! Yay! -c

[@keirtaylor4669]

what a fantastic video I can so relate to what you say. Thank you for making this video from one independent woman to another :)

[@Mel_514]

AMEN for this subject! Single gal here and having a hard time explaining to people why I am NOT actively looking for someone. Plus, I am in the process of putting my condo up for sale so I can start a nomadic life (probably a van life) but I don't talk to people about that because I am not ready for all the "why?" and the "😲". Keep up the good work!

[@gypsyhobo3016]

Just read more comments. This video sure caused a lot of controversy, lol. She is a single lady, enjoying RVing, period, it's an adventure, a lifestyle, a personal choice for her own happiness, period. Another chapter in her personal book, and we are all included in a small part of her daily journey, by her sharing part of her privacy with us.Being so transparent and sharing so much of her life with us, is selfless, not selfish. She is NOT robbing some man out there in the universe of having a woman, lol. Just my small,insignificant opinion,lol.

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Judy -- I am guessing by your wonderfully kind and articulate post that I should skip reading any more. *sigh. Thank you for understanding. I appreciate you and I'm glad you're here! - Carolyn

[@QCDoggies]

I loved this video Carolyn, you are my soul sister! Thank you for being powerful, ignore the haters, they can't handle your strength, wisdom and beauty. Share on!

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Liz, I LOVE to hear that ("soul sister"). This is why I share myself.. women like you who connect with my story.. I am so glad you're here!!! thank you!

[@karencantsay1257]

You're not alone. I am with you along with a bunch of other folks living vicariously through you and Capone. Scratch his belly for us. My husband has been dead going on three years and I can't tell you how often I am told "You just need to find someone else and move on ". I fully agree I need to move past this. I just don't want a replacement relationship. I don't understand why the concept of being ok by myself has to be so shocking. I've even been asked if I'm going gay! Really? We need to start letting girls know it's ok to be what, who, and where she wants to be. Love, peace, and freedom in the new year.

[@jewell7768]

Love yah! The norms of individuals and families have changed drastically in the last three decades. You are talking on a personal level about what sociologists, counsellors, teachers and those working with the general population are well aware of. Thank you for your openness and ability to communicate with humor the changing cultural norms. I look at myself and friends both married and single and how we all enjoy life, alone time and community much differently than how we were raised. Freedom is a good thing 😉😍😊 Keep one being you and know you are speaking for a large silent group of individuals that mirror your feelings. Awesome job!

[@garygoldsmith9844]

So true! Like I tell my friends, I'm the funniest person I know! Sure, alone is good, especially if you have the right dog. ha

[@2fewdaysafield]

Good for you. Took me until I was 57 to learn I could live alone and be truly happy. As you said....society makes that a difficult lesson to learn. All that crap aside, the only thing we truly owe ourselves is to be happy.

[@thomasredfeather277]

Well said Carolyn. Keep doing what your doing.

[@tinabeane]

Amen, agree with you completely and love the jello and box quotes! I've heard the same thing, when will you have a baby, when will you move in together. It is MY life and that is NOT what I want. I'm glad to also have found someone that will give me my space. Love this, keep them coming. ;) Tina

[@samanthaq2773]

I completely agree with you! After a life of being meek and abused, I found myself, my own life, and am working toward spending several months a year on the road and living Rocky Mountain High living by the song in my heart. I too have learned to really treasure my alone time, as well as time with other people and enjoying a healthy balance. My freedom and time alone is far to precious and vital to me to ever give up again. Thank you for being an inspiration! You and Bob Wells are rapidly changing what my life looks like and where I'm going to go!

[@markracer3281]

You are a true FREE BIRD!!! Stay safe & be well & ROCK ON!!!

[@dalestaska1807]

I just stopped explaining. People who "get it", get it. Those who don't, well..... that's ok too. We are all on life's limited journey. Why spend our time with anyone or on anything other than what we deem as quality?

[@zzbottom4904]

No kids, ever? I've only ever known one other woman in my 66 years who did not let her womb be used by the" management". That my dear is worthy of a crown. Nice video.

[@CarolynsRVLife]

zz lol ... interesting perspective "used by the management" lol.. Hadn't thought of it quite that way, but I like it!! :-) thank you for your kind and understanding comment! - C

[@2oceanscb]

in order to find out who you are ...you have to find out who you are not..I been single 17 years loving it ..

[@lifer6132]

Carolyn, we live in a new uncharted society concerning the internet and we may not know all the do's and dont's of online community as this medium happened so fast and we all are still learning. However, I believe that just because a person opens the book to their life journey to us should not somehow signal permission to be psychoanalyzed publicly. I would not do this if I was sitting in front of you with a cup coffee alone without your permission so, why would it be acceptable as a counselor or friend to do it publicly? They didn't ask your permission to analyze you like a case study so just get in your RV and move on to the next destination! lol All healthy humans should be in the process of change and your journey reflects that change and I'm thankful for your candid reflection and admire your fortitude. Who you were yesterday is not who you are today or will be tomorrow. You're a seeker and unless you're a seeker you will never be a finder! Travel on my friend!

[@billralban9055]

You have an upbeat personality, a nice smile, an honest story. we all just want to share in your journey. Thank you for sharing Robert

[@daisey01ful]

WOW. Twenty thousand already. You are doing something right. Keep up the great videos.Enjoying them all.

[@beardigger3779]

Carolyn, Well said. No man has the right to control or partner has any right to control anyone. You are RIGHT on the Button. Please do not change. 👍👍👍👍👍👍. Have a Fantastic New Year.......

[@mkennedy2550]

I love listening to you. I have been through alot of what you have and feel independent. Alone but not lonely. Great video.

[@48thavenue]

Thank you for sharing this! You have wonderful clarity and articulate your important realizations beautifully! Hearing these truths makes me feel great!

[@bob1117]

This may sound weird, but on Christmas day I was sitting with the family and thinking to myself, " I don't really want to be here, I'd rather be on the road on my own adventures and on this Christmas day possibly sitting around a camp fire with Carolyn and friends for the day just enjoying each others company, exchanging stories and simply enjoying the moment as friends." ( maybe we all share a bottle of wine and make a toast to freedom and good friends) lol. I'm very seriously thinking about escaping this coo-coo's nest (rat race) I've already started looking into class-c RV's. Thank you for sharing this video, please give Capone an extra dog treat for x-mas :-)

[@melissan.208]

I love this video and can totally relate! I have chosen a different path in life and sometimes people who go the cookie cutter route don't understand. You are so right, we have to love and take care of #1 first. I am glad you are in a good place for yourself! Congrats on 20+ subs! :)

[@galardmills5306]

Yes, Carolyn, some people resonate with you. Those who don't... who cares? I wish you luck. Some introverts are able to hold onto relationships, and some don't do well. Often it's a matter of needing someone versus wanting someone. It's not good or bad, it's just the way we are. Keep enjoying rocks and bits of glass. And keep laughing!

[@Rebeccamyst]

Hi, Carolyn. Sweet, kind, and positive. I want you to know that you virtually have stated a lot about how I have always felt. And one of the best Christmas days I spent was alone and very peaceful and reverent. I think you are original and I really enjoy your videos. Keep up the good work.

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Thank you very much Rebecca! I'm glad to read that you enjoy peaceful holidays alone!!! nice.. :-)

[@donedennison9237]

I'm so glad I get to see you and how you live independently. I learned a term that I embrace, selfish is taking all the cake, a healthy sense of self interest is taking your piece of cake. (unless you made the cake for yourself then it's great to eat it all) Cake is a big part of my life! ;) Though I"m happily married to my best friend, I maintain my sense of independence by keeping my own set of friends on and offline. I made a mistake with my first husband, but when I knew better, I picked better. My clock never went off either. You do you! I am glad to watch.

[@pamelaprizant7800]

I totally can relate - took me a few hubbs BUT now I am married to a wonderful man who finally GETS IT!!!! I love my solitude too, but can do it together with him as a partner! We also shucked the labels ALL LABELS!! God bless you Carolyn! I love and respect your attitude and what you have to impart. Thank you!!

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Pamela - and I love hearing from women like you who have found your way to happiness and freedom! Thank you for sharing with me and being here for my journey! you rock lady!!! - C

[@HulaShack1]

That, my friend,was a very powerful video. So refreshing to hear/see someone who actually gets it....Society makes boxes and expects us to live in them. If we do not, we are judged, attacked, ridiculed. Does it bother us? Sure it does but it is acutally our ego's that it bothers....our Spirit could actually give a shit. So once we get our ego's in check, then we have finally have freedom. Because then we live with no ego and just a carefree Spirit that lives for us and no one, or nothing else. BTW.....Capone kept photo bombing you! LOL Enjoy your friend......and enjoy YOU!

[@soulsisterssurvivorssister8463]

OMG! Every teenage girl needs to hear this video! I too was made to feel like I was less than perfect all through my 20's and early 30's because I chose a career over marriage. So, I married and had kids. I ended up in what started as an emotionally abusive marriage. I was forced to give up my career, my family and friendships. As this relationship progressed, I became more trapped and abused. Finally as with all narcissistic relationships, my husband left me stealing everything. I now have my freedom and it's a beautiful thing! I am finally me again. I hope others will hear you and realize you don't have to be attached at the hip to someone to be whole.

[@catherineandoliver8151]

Thank you... You have made such a difference in my life already. Yesterday, I spent Xmas with my daughter, her husband (jackass!), and his family. I was miserable the entire time. I felt so out of place and separate from them. The entire time, I wished I was alone. But I went because that is what is expected. You MUST spend Xmas with your family. But do I?? Must I?? If it makes me so miserable, then why am I doing it? So, thank you... For helping me to understand and learn a little bit more about myself. And except myself a little bit more. And perhaps helping me to take a few more steps back from the edge. Merry Xmas.

[@SilverSunPublishing]

What a great video, Carolyn! I can totally relate to everything you are saying. It took me longer than you to wake up, though. I kept going into relationships with an open heart, only to attract "takers" who expected me to do all the giving (of course they pretended to be otherwise for the first weeks, and then changed). But "loyal" me -- I would just hang in there, trying to make things right again. Finally, I realized that every "relationship" was just a 'trap of misery,' and I haven't dated since. Much happier now.

[@WaterSelkie2000]

Funny, I tend to think that something is wrong with me. I choose to live alone. And I ask myself why don't I want someone here full time? (like they could mow the lawn and stuff, right?) I'd rather pay someone! Recently, I ended a three year long distance relationship that I thought was working well, because I only see him every few months, but I know he wants more and would try to hold me back from my plans although he won't admit that. Before this relationship I was married for 31 years. And, I knew at least twenty of those years I didn't want to be there! That's kind of a waste of life! I don't know what the future will bring, but I know I do not have any plans to repeat the past and have someone I feel accountable for or to ever again. I like what you said... about not having to label or define it. You enjoy spending time with someone, then you do and it can be that simple. If you don't or you find you need time away.. then you go. No strings and hopefully no hurt feelings. thank you for your blog/vlog and look forward to hearing about your adventures. Kathy Jo... (1 year 8 months five days until my great escape)

[@grayewolfe6335]

Thanks, Ms. Carolyn. I need to show my friends this video, so through your words, they can get to understand me better, as a single man who chooses to love people, but remains a bachelor. You are an inspiration.

[@tikilee7172]

👏🏻content with your own company, yep👍🏻And keep your 🔥burning bright. That was a lovely share.

[@lauraruane9696]

I'm with you Carolyn. I've come to the same conclusions as you after 3 marriages. And it's not because I'm the least bit bitter - I'm still friends with my last ex. It's because I love to be by myself. Every once in a while, I experience a moment of complete euphoria, and it's wonderful when it happens, and no, it's not drugs :), but I've never experienced it with a person by my side. I love not having to talk about my money, or what I plan on doing next, or try to justify to someone how I spent my day. I can have a dog now! I could go on and on....

[@betobeto7903]

Who needs a human when we have dogs!! :-)

[@bettybech9989]

Or a cat.

[@off2kurebeach]

Beto Beto or ferrets!!💓

[@vivianevans1228]

Beto Beto Such a true comment!!!!🐶🐶🐶🐶

[@loriadams1588]

Beto Beto dogs are such sweet and unconditional creatures. ❤️❤️.

[@hedynoble7712]

I am so happy I found your channel. I feel the same way as you. I am a strong independent 57 yo woman who has been living the minimalist lifestyle for the last ten years. I hope to join the rv lifestyle in a year or so. I have enjoyed living alone and can't wait to travel alone! Thank You!

[@CarolynsRVLife]

Hedy, I'm glad you found it too! Welcome! yay for strong independent women!! hope to see you on the road some day!

[@mange2]

I think its all about culture. The culture we are raised within. Our culture dictates that its 'normal' to be in a relationship. Fortunately I have woken up and freed myself from the bonds of cultural relationship expectations. I have relationships but am not 'in' a relationship. Some people love to be surrounded by many people daily and then opt for some solitude occasionally, by having a quiet vacation etc. I feel the opposite, I crave solitude daily and occasionally wish for some human interaction. Some people ask if I get lonely and my reply is, 'you don't have to be alone to be lonely'. There are many people in relationships who are very lonely. We all have a choice about who we have a relationship with. It should be based on our desires or needs and not societies expectations. Its utterly bizarre that sometimes society will even give people therapy, to identify why they want to be on their own, then try and 'fix them', so that they can enter a relationship like 'normal' people (whoever they are) lol.

[@wilee.coyote3782]

Amen, amen, amen. What's the saying? "Just because I'm alone doesn't mean I'm lonely." I have said that there isn't a single cell in my body that desires to be in a relationship.

[@erikkohl]

You are like a spiritual Christmas star for me...adding brightness, joy, and guidance to my earthly adventure. I am deeply grateful, Carolyn.

[@FREEDOM-sd9my]

No you rock!! You tell it like it is Last time I commented YOU DON'T SUGARCOAT YOUR LIFE ! That's why we love you ! As always Happy Trails