“Marriage is a fine institution, but I'm not ready for an institution.” ― Mae West
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
PSA: Rude, argumentative and mean people will be blocked.Have a great day!
@jycfrnkl7 жыл бұрын
Thanks for blocking obnoxious, nasty people-I know it's extra work for you but it makes the feed much more positive.... and all of us can't stand those weirdos either!
@sunnyspaces77 жыл бұрын
Carolyn's RV Life yes block them. These mean people are part of the problem with the world in general. Don't let them break you down....enjoy & protect your peace.
@jamalwoodley44567 жыл бұрын
Carolyn's RV Life so he is a friend with benefits
@ttym52997 жыл бұрын
Enjoy and have fun!
@dstraume87957 жыл бұрын
You got me! You are the first person to put my way of being into words!!! I'm happy for you! You're an example of REAL!😘
@MurrayMelander7 жыл бұрын
I think you like me have learned being alone doesn't mean you're lonely. There is something to be said for a life without all the drama. ")
@nocturnal73127 жыл бұрын
My wife and I will be married 40 years in 2 weeks, We found out that it takes Laughter and fun to make a marriage to work. She is stunning and people tell me I'm one lucky guy, My wife and I laugh every day/night. Call me the "court jester', If she's feeling down I make her laugh, Don't take life so seriously, It's nice to grow old together.
@nocturnal73127 жыл бұрын
I've seen quite a few people that depart this earth all alone, It's sad. I would rather pass away alone than pass away being miserable married to the wrong person for 50 years, You have a point there Lori.
@SilverSunPublishing7 жыл бұрын
It sounds like you are both Givers. That's a very happy combination, and I'm very glad for you and your wife.
@nocturnal73127 жыл бұрын
Thank You Silver Sun. :)
@rayrothermel48617 жыл бұрын
What works for you is not a pattern for others. I think we all learned that somewhere in life. And please don't tell us how "stunning" you think your wife is. That sounds a little defensive.
@rayrothermel48617 жыл бұрын
We all depart alone. Do you expect to depart as a "couple"?
@BusyBeeCompany7 жыл бұрын
I live my life by a moral compass I have inside, no religious books, no society rules, I'm also 49, have had no kids, have had no close friends since I was 19 and it's not soul destroying, it's liberating to be the king of your own land, no walls but no rules that make no sense....keep it up, your measure is by your own ruler, not inch by inch or metre by meter.
@missingremote43887 жыл бұрын
BusyBeeCompany . I'm 49 too; born Sept '67. did the solo RV life in a Chinook 2001-2003 & Still have it but put it in non-op with the DMV.
@BusyBeeCompany7 жыл бұрын
I do have have requirements in a relationship but not such shallow things as height, eye color, hair color, age, etc, my past has been people of five to over 6 feet tall, 5 years younger and my wife whi is ten years older, I prefer intelligent (because you can never hold down a long term relationship with someone not on your conversational level), and they have to be a moral person, not religious, not politically moral but a (deist) cKinf of moral person, common good over color, religion, age, etc.
@BusyBeeCompany7 жыл бұрын
Cal 20 Sailor I do also invent for fun, write poems and stories, have an over 140 iq and love to know a bit of everything over a master of one thing.
@BusyBeeCompany7 жыл бұрын
There is nothing wrong with living alone, I'm married but haven't had friends of a close nature, you don't need them and it requires close proximity for long periods which some people don't get, not having friends doesn't mean you don't have friendly aquaintancies, I go to parties but prefer not to, mix with people but don't miss them when they are not there, I can go weeks without contact even when people are close by but I don't shy from conversation or discussions....just prefer my own company to being one of the hive.
@joejones80267 жыл бұрын
"I live my life by a moral compass I have inside", my friend no offense, but that moral compass will fail you.
@nopretribrapture23187 жыл бұрын
I'VE BEEN DIVORCED TWICE FROM VIOLENT AND UNFAITHFULL HUSBANDS,, WHO ALMOST TOOK MY LIFE,, PARTIALLY DISABLED NOW AND HEALTH PROBLEMS BUT THANK GOD I'M SINGLE NOW AND COPING WITH LIFE! LOVE TO YOU,, LOVE YOUR VIDS 🐕🌄🌈
@sherylgreen27507 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love you and your freedom and your willingness to share with us. I'm a mother of four daughters and a grandmother of 10 grandchildren and freedom is one thing I'm always looking for. I love riding my Harley even as a grandmother it's freedom to me and I really appreciate you sharing your videos and your life with us. 💕 thank you!
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Sheryl Imagining you on your Harley just made my day!!! thank you for being here and sharing your version of freedom! congrats. you rock!! - C
@moonlitedaze56887 жыл бұрын
Respect is what it is all about. When I sense any disrepect of my personality............I say goodbye to them, no explaination is needed. I spent way too many years explaining! :-)
@thomas1949077 жыл бұрын
i have been married twice...one the mother of my children who left us after 20 years and the other after several unfaithful encounters...now single and retired for 10 years and finally happy with my outcome in life, i have lots of friends both men and women and that's how i will finish my life...i live by these rules : Who is happy? One who is satisfied with what they have. " Look well of today, for it is the Life of Life...for yesterday is but a dream and tomorrow a vision. But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope..." Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those that hear them. Quitters Never Win and Winners Never Quit. The problem with doing nothing is not knowing when you're finished. Merry Christmas to you, your vids have great points to be taken within ourselves. thankyou
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Blly - Yes!!! you make some excelent ponts. thank you for sharing your comment and I wish you happiness and peace! - Carolyn
@sassyladyx27 жыл бұрын
Hiya Carolyn!! OMG ... if I had a dime for every time a man said "I love a strong independent woman!" ... I'd be a rich woman! LOL ... and BTW ... I told my son of my plan of becoming a full time RV'er ... He totally supports me! Yay! He even said he'd help me with starting my own KZbin channel :-) So I'm shopping around for the rig I'll need ... looking for the best deal ... this part is a bit scary!! Keep these video's coming! Love them!
@sassyladyx27 жыл бұрын
Lori Smith That's awesome Lori! My goal is to be on the road by June 2017 ;)
@sassyladyx27 жыл бұрын
I was thinking the same. Currently looking into alternatives. I'm in the Pacific Northwest, WA, where are you?
@beachbum2000097 жыл бұрын
Carolyn, Wendy, Lori and all like minded women..... I hope I have the good fortune to cross your path. I'm in the processes of building a Mercedes Sprinter camper-van. Hope to start traveling this continent by 2019. It's inspiring to know you'll be out there too. Jan Cleveland OH
@sassyladyx27 жыл бұрын
Lori Smith I'd love to share and talk more, are you on Facebook?
@sassyladyx27 жыл бұрын
lol you must have your account on lock down, can't send a friend request, but I did send you a message
@SilverSunPublishing7 жыл бұрын
btw, I read something by Leonardo da Vinci that relates. In his notes, he said that he had discovered that whenever he was with other people, he felt diminished by half. So, he chose not to be in close relationships. He made it a conscious choice, and put his energies into his creative work instead.
@LiveInspired24.77 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing Carolyn! . Relationships are so personal and unique to the two individuals involved. I'm glad you've found a way to make it work with your friend.To me the more love and happiness there is in the world, the better it is for all of us.Peace
@68landcruiser7 жыл бұрын
Living the RV lifestyle for me is doing what I want when I want and not having to ask another what they want or think. Been living this way for over two years now and with that I am completely happy in my decision. Yes I do get lonely sometimes but it passes and off to my next adventure I go.
@cadykyst12347 жыл бұрын
Amen, Sister! Wish I could open my locked door, 'cause I adore good men.
@gypsyhobo30167 жыл бұрын
Omg, so many nay sayers, lol. I am over sixty, and have loved my independent solo life! I built a tiny house on the back of a 61 Chevy pick up, while I was pregnant with my son in 1989 and lived in it with my 2 dogs, I cherish my memories of that, I love being alone, partnerless, friendless and I love my own company. I look back at all that I did alone as a child (like skipping school and riding up into the mountains alone on my horse in the snow )and wonder how I survived sometimes, my poor parents and their worry for me, the only part I regret. You have spoken for "our" community of "single roamers" of the world. You can have "physical" connections with others along the way, without giving up your spirit. Stay free and true to yourself, you don't "owe" your physical being to anyone but yourself. We are not selfish, but "selfless" and connected to something higher, spiritually,and only "grounded" physically to the earth and somewhere in the middle is the appreciation of nature, and the "living" consciousness we call planet earth. "Coupling" is manmade. I never feel alone, I hunger for nothing, all that I need, I'm provided with, at the moment I need it. Can you tell, I really LOVE this video! You sure have a speaking talent! Stay free, no matter where you are, or who you are with, at that particular, special moment! May you have many more fulfilling travels!
@ShannaTrenholm7 жыл бұрын
Word, girlfriend! Everything you said, here. F*ck labels; up with freedom! I have never wanted kids--and was told the same thing--just wait until I meet the right man. Umm, yeah, no. I love my own company--and the company of a select few. I recharge by being alone--a true introvert (but a friendly one)! Life is way too rich and varied to confine it to just a few prescribed ways of being. Yes, we need people--yes we need love--but the romantic imperative, what I like the call *The Cult of the Dyad* is not the kind of love that ultimately fills us (it's more often just a recipe for heartache). I have embraced the concept of love (it's always been there, it just took me a while to catch up) as that of a universal one. Love and friendship can be expansive, but instead, so many people use it to get smaller. They use relationships as a band-aid for a deep wound that no other person can heal. It never works. Anyway, kudos to you--stay the course, you're on the right track!
@deedeew40407 жыл бұрын
I became widowed at 57 years old after being with the same man for 38 years. Almost five years later, I remain single and I enjoy my solitude and independence.
@DixieDiveGirl7 жыл бұрын
Carolyn you are a breath of fresh air. I've been divorced for 12 years and get asked all the time "don't you get lonely"? No! I was lonely in my marriage but now I'm quite content. I'm not a man hater either, I just don't need one to complete me. I have great friends (male and female) and 2 wonderful kids. I plan on retiring asap and hitting the road myself - solo!
@tomjones62967 жыл бұрын
From The Teachings of Don Juan, by Carlos Castenada: "For me there is only the traveling on paths that have heart, on any path that may have heart, and the only worthwhile challenge is to traverse its full length--and there I travel looking, looking breathlessly.”
@LovingAtlanta7 жыл бұрын
+ Tom Jones 👍 Yes! I love Castaneda, his teachings & writings.
@jeanettewaverly25907 жыл бұрын
When you are in Nagual's time, be a perfect Nagual. When you are in Tonal's time, be a perfect Tonal.
@DeepintheRockies7 жыл бұрын
The most important part of being a "healthy" individual, physically and mentally, is to be comfortable spending time alone. Not being dependent on another for approval is what everyone wants, whether they are conscious of it or not. You my dear are very healthy in all the ways that are necessary for living a fulfilled life. After 12 years of being married to the wrong person, where I changed every aspect of myself to become the perfect person for him, I struggled for a few years to find myself again, who I truly am and want out of my life. It's a wonderful feeling to just be me again. Having gone through these changes, I know and understand the strength that you have. I absolutely love your stories, adventures and little hiccups. Don't ever let any nay sayers dull your sparkle!!!
@SpectreOZ7 жыл бұрын
Introverts find human interaction exhaustive, I can relate
@msfullroller7 жыл бұрын
I'm 50 years old never had, or wanted children and agree with you 100% on what you've said in this video!
@LovingAtlanta7 жыл бұрын
👍 As you were talking "TOWANDA" and the Fried Green Tomatoes movie, one of my favorites, immediately came to mind. 😃🤗
@susanlavoie11414 жыл бұрын
Hi Carolyn, Just want to say a heartfelt thanks. Recently widowed - your comments in your videos not only prevail to RVers, ..., but to one’s life in general, and they hit exactly where it should for me in reference to living alone, owning one’s life, and making the best of any obstacles or successes whatever they may be in one’s path. Kindest regards, Susan
@tawandabraswell81987 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for being so open! I truly look forward to your videos - you rock too!
@geoffdearth85757 жыл бұрын
The woman I'm sharing with is someone who has her own capabilities. She recently replaced the kitchen faucet. She was proud of that and I was proud of her for doing that. I could have done it but she wanted to do it. I want her to do such things.
@geoffdearth85757 жыл бұрын
She knows that if she does something like that I will help her and be proud of her and that it won't diminish me.
@timrover7 жыл бұрын
Hey Carolyn, something caught my attention in this segment "I think" would be an excellent marketing trademark for stickers, t-shirts you name it. I love it.....you stated at 6:09 "I've found my freedom" simple and yet powerful. You are on to something.....I wish you the best. Tim of TIMROVER "RV"
@beachbum2000097 жыл бұрын
Tim..... like it!!!!!!!
@timrover7 жыл бұрын
BeachBum Thanks...actually I was reading a Christmas card while listening to Carolyn's vlog. I stopped in my tracks when I heard that clip of the video. Then watched this video five times again to make sure I was hearing this powerful statement. Fantastic!.
@robertkrueckeberg19697 жыл бұрын
Tim Rover i
@muzerhythm22427 жыл бұрын
Also good one on T-shirt.... Don't put me in a box... boxes are for corpses👍
@muzerhythm22427 жыл бұрын
Also good one on T-shirt.... Don't put me in a box... boxes are for corpses👍
@oneseeker27 жыл бұрын
I am a tad older, and at some point, decided no more significant other. And I meant it, was ok, fine w\ it. I am not angry or defensive, it's all good, no significant other. I have always been a free thinker, a free spirit, even during my years in the US Navy. I have enjoyed solitude, and company. We all have stories, moments of enlightenment, Carolyn is sharing her stories, I believe in her and like her. I enjoy her stories and learn something. Her vlogs influence and challenge me. Thought provoking. No, I won't buy an RV and chase her dream. I chase my own dreams. I am glad she is on planet earth, and I enjoy her.
@KJAdventures7 жыл бұрын
If you're lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company." - Jean Paul Sartre 👍 Cheers to living life "free."
@janettechapman96817 жыл бұрын
We are ALL unique people and the definition of happiness is yours to define. Life is short my favorite movie quote " get busy living or get busy dying". Thanks Carolyn for opening a discussion everyone should have with themselves.
@nottfar7 жыл бұрын
Recently lost my wife of forty-seven years. You and Bob Wells have given me the courage to buy an RV, leave an empty house and at seventy years old, start a new life. Thank you.
@7heartrock7 жыл бұрын
David Bosard Good Luck to ya.
@2legit2Kwit7 жыл бұрын
Aweeee! Wish we could follow your journey. Good luck
@Rleetuber7 жыл бұрын
Being vulnerable is a great measure of your courage, and so rare to see. As far as comments that hurt - what people say about you is their reality, not yours.....if they don't know you personally, you aren't obliged to take it personally. Just put it in a dark box. Where it belongs. Love your videos. tfs
@NoProGoPronto7 жыл бұрын
I absolutely LOVE how quickly your channel is growing. That means there was something missing in the RV/Van life/ Motorhome community and you gracefully swooped in to fill the void. Way to go !!!
@marm94347 жыл бұрын
Carolyn, thank you! I have not heard more powerful or truer words from another strong and independent woman, I dare say, in my entire life! Your sincerity, your healthy confidence in knowing exactly who you are and where you stand is such an immense inspiration. It is very clear that you are one completely liberated woman who just doesn't give a sh't! You are entirely untouchable by most, if not all, social pressures and expectations. While you might still be struggling with some aspects of completely letting go as more people project their disagreement/misunderstanding of your view point with negativity as a natural response to the threat that someone like you poses to the status quo, I assure you you are way ahead than most of us. I urge you to keep drawing strength from within and open us up to more of your unconventional thoughts and way of life as you are helping many of us to find the strength, in turn, in ourselves to live freely and ultimately happily. You are a leader towards crashing unconventionality especially for us women and resistence is only natural. Disclaimer: While there's nothing wrong with conventionality and those who choose to follow it, I vehemenely disagree that it should be shoved down the throat of everyone. The status quo doesn't work for everyone!
@johnkosterimages7 жыл бұрын
very, very interesting. I think you speak for a lot of people, men and women, who are looking for a balance between independence and the need for some sort of a relationship. Thanks for the clarity. Certainly helped me.
@sunnybee67106 жыл бұрын
Excellent!! 6:56 "Resist the urge to define / label everything: Just BE!"
@JimBobJJonesJr7 жыл бұрын
Too bad I can't like this more than once.
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Jim.. Aw!!!! TY!!!!!
@elationvision87937 жыл бұрын
I admire you because you do what you want and you are not a crowd pleaser. I totally understand you. You make a lot of sense. Thumbs up to you girl.
@shellyscott48227 жыл бұрын
I'm my own best company!!...we agree on everything lol!! Society has put that on us, I'm very independent and proud of it!!
@hermitld7 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the kind thoughts and positive attitude. As a fellow 'loner' I am confronted with the constant notion that living 'alone' is not normal. We are branded with all kinds of not so nice labels and hope we aren't on a list of (insert most scarey people here). You said it best and I know you have finally grown up and can live happily with your choice of lifestyle. If the 'normal' people object well, so be it, it's a free world.
@tsav69527 жыл бұрын
It's a struggle when you don't know what you want out of life and feel stuck.
@debbycustis82307 жыл бұрын
Exactly! I grew up watching the so called perfect leave it beaver family thing. Never did they show a single woman making it on her own. We can do it, and you, me, and others are living proof of total independence.👍Great Video!
@thedesertmisfit7 жыл бұрын
We are not "told" to bond, we do that naturally. Not quite understanding why on earth you would think that it's a lie or a trick to make us feel bad if we haven't pair bonded. Anyway, I do enjoy your videos but this one left me somewhat confused...NOT hatin', just throwing in my two cents!
@pimientajuanp7 жыл бұрын
being alone doesn't mean you are lonely many free spirits are with each other's. I keep this in my favorite videos
@thatmarionchickonyoutube75457 жыл бұрын
Bucking the proverbial system, I love it!! Enjoy your life!! Since I've gotten older, I love my own company too!! Love your up front attitude!! Keep the videos coming!!
@chrisr.18033 жыл бұрын
Just because I’m alone doesn’t mean there’s an empty space. I’m quite enough on my own! I love being single...my life is complete!
@jerrydensmore28877 жыл бұрын
It's amazing what the company of a good dog will do for the feelings of being alone. When you reach the age where sex isn't an issue any more all a person needs is the love of their pet. I cherish that box of being alone with my best friend.
@pitbullmom41367 жыл бұрын
Jerry Densmore OMG! YOUR WORDS ARE STRAIGHT FROM ME AS WELL. My husband of 25 years walked out on us. Said he didn't want to "act old" anymore. We are both in our forties! But I have my dog. He is my best friend. If I meet someone or if I don't is irrelevant. I already have all that I need in my spirit and walking on four legs beside me. FYI My fur baby is a charming pitbull terrier.
@Clickchic7 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom on being alone, your words and videos have helped me a great deal. You are breaking a path for us to follow. I am so glad I found you.
@rccrashburn7 жыл бұрын
This is one of Carolyn's best Vlogs. Her advise represents an excellent countermeasure to unlearn how "respectable women are supposed to properly behave" in order to fit them into their very superficial social machine model. Keep up your very good KZbin work, Carolyn!
@vjames13104 жыл бұрын
Just watching this. It took me most of my life to learn to be okay with myself. Many relationships through my life and now I am so okay with just me! Horrible to believe we must be in a relationship with a man to be “ normal”. Boy what a book I could write! I have two wonderful grown married children and four grandchildren. So grateful for the memories with them. Now they have their own lives, so now I need to do whatever makes me happy. Soon I’ll be RVing full time, hope I can meet a lot of others, but I need my own space.
@stevek72717 жыл бұрын
Good Morning, CRVL :-) Great Vid (as always) keep enjoying your freedom!!!
@jennyhackenberg20787 жыл бұрын
thank you. I needed this today because I almost lost my mom twice and this last time It hit right before Christmas. I realized this last year I have been living for everyone but me. I have some medical issue that I need to tend to and I need to do it for me. I am glad you found someone to spend a little time with and are able to be who you need to be. you go girl. thank you again and please be safe and have fun. give Capone a scratch for me
@marilynnarnold8117 жыл бұрын
Hey Carolyn. Haters gonna hate. Just "do you" and delete their comments if they are being rude. There's no cosmic law that says the world is going to end if everyone doesn't rush out and pair up whether they want to or not. The world would be a much better place if people didn't pair up for all the wrong reasons and/or due to societal pressure. Keep finding your freedom.
@marmac449027 жыл бұрын
Hi Carolyn, we trust your holidays were great. We love your channel and we personally see a need for your unique content a views. Margaret and I have seen, "The fear of change" is the number 1 reason many people they don't consider RV life. No one wants to be viewed as crazy. Our friends and family thought we were Cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs when we gave away 3 fourths of our possessions to minimalize our life. Some folks just say... It must be drugs. They keep asking "Why do you want to live like that" ? We know it's a choice and we're not going to allow fear (which really doesn't exist) shape our minds on something as important as life itself. We hope you will continue creating content which address personal fulfillment and social envolement in RV'ing. Thank You and ... Much Peace !!!
@jimthehermit81137 жыл бұрын
Don't listen to other people. If other people knew what they were doing, the world would be a nice place to live on. And especially don't listen to trolls on the internet. A lot of them think they can become happy be making other people more miserable then they are.
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
+Lori Smith - have I told you lately that you ROCK??? because you do..
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Jim - you rock too!!! Thank you.. It's people like you who are helping to make the sounds of the trolls less than a whisper these days. I appreciate you! - C
@lisamcguire77787 жыл бұрын
Carolyn's RV Life Perhaps soon the "troll whispers" will beome completely inchoate. Lol! My Fingers Are Crossed! :)
@dadgad687 жыл бұрын
I've been separated for a number of yrs. I think being alone teaches you to be a better person. It can be lonely at times but solitude can also be very fulfilling. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Independence is a good thing.
@Aethelwulf_Freawine7 жыл бұрын
Great commentary, nice to hear a woman's point of view. Never married, no kids, just try to do my best in life with the cards I was dealt.
@jaysuper82557 жыл бұрын
All different types of people in this great country of ours. That is what we defend and cherish living here. You have to take care of #1 first and that is yourself...
@hikewithme597 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh, you're ME, but you are just younger!! Although I have been married, have a daughter and have helped raise my grandchildren, I have been alone most of my life....I love being free!! I am 68 and will be starting my RV life in the spring!! I hope to see you and Bob along the way in my hiking and kayaking adventures.
@keloreilly70177 жыл бұрын
Fantastic video, Carolyn. Your Spirit is bright and strong and we need people like YOUrself more than ever now. Speaking your truth encourages the rest of Us to speak ours. Thanks so much and take good care of you and Capone.
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Kel - yes, that is my hope.. I have been shut down and told to shut up all my life.. wearing a badge of shame that wasn't mine - like so many of us. ANd now, if I can share and help others (esp. women) find their voice then I feel I've accomplished a great feat!! thank you so much for your encouragement and empathy!! Yay! -c
@keirtaylor46697 жыл бұрын
what a fantastic video I can so relate to what you say. Thank you for making this video from one independent woman to another :)
@Mel_5147 жыл бұрын
AMEN for this subject! Single gal here and having a hard time explaining to people why I am NOT actively looking for someone. Plus, I am in the process of putting my condo up for sale so I can start a nomadic life (probably a van life) but I don't talk to people about that because I am not ready for all the "why?" and the "😲". Keep up the good work!
@gypsyhobo30167 жыл бұрын
Just read more comments. This video sure caused a lot of controversy, lol. She is a single lady, enjoying RVing, period, it's an adventure, a lifestyle, a personal choice for her own happiness, period. Another chapter in her personal book, and we are all included in a small part of her daily journey, by her sharing part of her privacy with us.Being so transparent and sharing so much of her life with us, is selfless, not selfish. She is NOT robbing some man out there in the universe of having a woman, lol. Just my small,insignificant opinion,lol.
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Judy -- I am guessing by your wonderfully kind and articulate post that I should skip reading any more. *sigh. Thank you for understanding. I appreciate you and I'm glad you're here! - Carolyn
@QCDoggies7 жыл бұрын
I loved this video Carolyn, you are my soul sister! Thank you for being powerful, ignore the haters, they can't handle your strength, wisdom and beauty. Share on!
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Liz, I LOVE to hear that ("soul sister"). This is why I share myself.. women like you who connect with my story.. I am so glad you're here!!! thank you!
@karencantsay12577 жыл бұрын
You're not alone. I am with you along with a bunch of other folks living vicariously through you and Capone. Scratch his belly for us. My husband has been dead going on three years and I can't tell you how often I am told "You just need to find someone else and move on ". I fully agree I need to move past this. I just don't want a replacement relationship. I don't understand why the concept of being ok by myself has to be so shocking. I've even been asked if I'm going gay! Really? We need to start letting girls know it's ok to be what, who, and where she wants to be. Love, peace, and freedom in the new year.
@jewell77687 жыл бұрын
Love yah! The norms of individuals and families have changed drastically in the last three decades. You are talking on a personal level about what sociologists, counsellors, teachers and those working with the general population are well aware of. Thank you for your openness and ability to communicate with humor the changing cultural norms. I look at myself and friends both married and single and how we all enjoy life, alone time and community much differently than how we were raised. Freedom is a good thing 😉😍😊 Keep one being you and know you are speaking for a large silent group of individuals that mirror your feelings. Awesome job!
@garygoldsmith98447 жыл бұрын
So true! Like I tell my friends, I'm the funniest person I know! Sure, alone is good, especially if you have the right dog. ha
@2fewdaysafield7 жыл бұрын
Good for you. Took me until I was 57 to learn I could live alone and be truly happy. As you said....society makes that a difficult lesson to learn. All that crap aside, the only thing we truly owe ourselves is to be happy.
@thomasredfeather2777 жыл бұрын
Well said Carolyn. Keep doing what your doing.
@tinabeane7 жыл бұрын
Amen, agree with you completely and love the jello and box quotes! I've heard the same thing, when will you have a baby, when will you move in together. It is MY life and that is NOT what I want. I'm glad to also have found someone that will give me my space. Love this, keep them coming. ;) Tina
@samanthaq27737 жыл бұрын
I completely agree with you! After a life of being meek and abused, I found myself, my own life, and am working toward spending several months a year on the road and living Rocky Mountain High living by the song in my heart. I too have learned to really treasure my alone time, as well as time with other people and enjoying a healthy balance. My freedom and time alone is far to precious and vital to me to ever give up again. Thank you for being an inspiration! You and Bob Wells are rapidly changing what my life looks like and where I'm going to go!
@markracer32817 жыл бұрын
You are a true FREE BIRD!!! Stay safe & be well & ROCK ON!!!
@dalestaska18077 жыл бұрын
I just stopped explaining. People who "get it", get it. Those who don't, well..... that's ok too. We are all on life's limited journey. Why spend our time with anyone or on anything other than what we deem as quality?
@zzbottom49047 жыл бұрын
No kids, ever? I've only ever known one other woman in my 66 years who did not let her womb be used by the" management". That my dear is worthy of a crown. Nice video.
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
zz lol ... interesting perspective "used by the management" lol.. Hadn't thought of it quite that way, but I like it!! :-) thank you for your kind and understanding comment! - C
@2oceanscb7 жыл бұрын
in order to find out who you are ...you have to find out who you are not..I been single 17 years loving it ..
@lifer61327 жыл бұрын
Carolyn, we live in a new uncharted society concerning the internet and we may not know all the do's and dont's of online community as this medium happened so fast and we all are still learning. However, I believe that just because a person opens the book to their life journey to us should not somehow signal permission to be psychoanalyzed publicly. I would not do this if I was sitting in front of you with a cup coffee alone without your permission so, why would it be acceptable as a counselor or friend to do it publicly? They didn't ask your permission to analyze you like a case study so just get in your RV and move on to the next destination! lol All healthy humans should be in the process of change and your journey reflects that change and I'm thankful for your candid reflection and admire your fortitude. Who you were yesterday is not who you are today or will be tomorrow. You're a seeker and unless you're a seeker you will never be a finder! Travel on my friend!
@billralban90557 жыл бұрын
You have an upbeat personality, a nice smile, an honest story. we all just want to share in your journey. Thank you for sharing Robert
@daisey01ful7 жыл бұрын
WOW. Twenty thousand already. You are doing something right. Keep up the great videos.Enjoying them all.
@beardigger37797 жыл бұрын
Carolyn, Well said. No man has the right to control or partner has any right to control anyone. You are RIGHT on the Button. Please do not change. 👍👍👍👍👍👍. Have a Fantastic New Year.......
@mkennedy25507 жыл бұрын
I love listening to you. I have been through alot of what you have and feel independent. Alone but not lonely. Great video.
@48thavenue7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this! You have wonderful clarity and articulate your important realizations beautifully! Hearing these truths makes me feel great!
@bob11177 жыл бұрын
This may sound weird, but on Christmas day I was sitting with the family and thinking to myself, " I don't really want to be here, I'd rather be on the road on my own adventures and on this Christmas day possibly sitting around a camp fire with Carolyn and friends for the day just enjoying each others company, exchanging stories and simply enjoying the moment as friends." ( maybe we all share a bottle of wine and make a toast to freedom and good friends) lol. I'm very seriously thinking about escaping this coo-coo's nest (rat race) I've already started looking into class-c RV's. Thank you for sharing this video, please give Capone an extra dog treat for x-mas :-)
@melissan.2087 жыл бұрын
I love this video and can totally relate! I have chosen a different path in life and sometimes people who go the cookie cutter route don't understand. You are so right, we have to love and take care of #1 first. I am glad you are in a good place for yourself! Congrats on 20+ subs! :)
@galardmills53067 жыл бұрын
Yes, Carolyn, some people resonate with you. Those who don't... who cares? I wish you luck. Some introverts are able to hold onto relationships, and some don't do well. Often it's a matter of needing someone versus wanting someone. It's not good or bad, it's just the way we are. Keep enjoying rocks and bits of glass. And keep laughing!
@Rebeccamyst7 жыл бұрын
Hi, Carolyn. Sweet, kind, and positive. I want you to know that you virtually have stated a lot about how I have always felt. And one of the best Christmas days I spent was alone and very peaceful and reverent. I think you are original and I really enjoy your videos. Keep up the good work.
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much Rebecca! I'm glad to read that you enjoy peaceful holidays alone!!! nice.. :-)
@donedennison92377 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad I get to see you and how you live independently. I learned a term that I embrace, selfish is taking all the cake, a healthy sense of self interest is taking your piece of cake. (unless you made the cake for yourself then it's great to eat it all) Cake is a big part of my life! ;) Though I"m happily married to my best friend, I maintain my sense of independence by keeping my own set of friends on and offline. I made a mistake with my first husband, but when I knew better, I picked better. My clock never went off either. You do you! I am glad to watch.
@pamelaprizant78007 жыл бұрын
I totally can relate - took me a few hubbs BUT now I am married to a wonderful man who finally GETS IT!!!! I love my solitude too, but can do it together with him as a partner! We also shucked the labels ALL LABELS!! God bless you Carolyn! I love and respect your attitude and what you have to impart. Thank you!!
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Pamela - and I love hearing from women like you who have found your way to happiness and freedom! Thank you for sharing with me and being here for my journey! you rock lady!!! - C
@HulaShack17 жыл бұрын
That, my friend,was a very powerful video. So refreshing to hear/see someone who actually gets it....Society makes boxes and expects us to live in them. If we do not, we are judged, attacked, ridiculed. Does it bother us? Sure it does but it is acutally our ego's that it bothers....our Spirit could actually give a shit. So once we get our ego's in check, then we have finally have freedom. Because then we live with no ego and just a carefree Spirit that lives for us and no one, or nothing else. BTW.....Capone kept photo bombing you! LOL Enjoy your friend......and enjoy YOU!
@soulsisterssurvivorssister84637 жыл бұрын
OMG! Every teenage girl needs to hear this video! I too was made to feel like I was less than perfect all through my 20's and early 30's because I chose a career over marriage. So, I married and had kids. I ended up in what started as an emotionally abusive marriage. I was forced to give up my career, my family and friendships. As this relationship progressed, I became more trapped and abused. Finally as with all narcissistic relationships, my husband left me stealing everything. I now have my freedom and it's a beautiful thing! I am finally me again. I hope others will hear you and realize you don't have to be attached at the hip to someone to be whole.
@catherineandoliver81517 жыл бұрын
Thank you... You have made such a difference in my life already. Yesterday, I spent Xmas with my daughter, her husband (jackass!), and his family. I was miserable the entire time. I felt so out of place and separate from them. The entire time, I wished I was alone. But I went because that is what is expected. You MUST spend Xmas with your family. But do I?? Must I?? If it makes me so miserable, then why am I doing it? So, thank you... For helping me to understand and learn a little bit more about myself. And except myself a little bit more. And perhaps helping me to take a few more steps back from the edge. Merry Xmas.
@SilverSunPublishing7 жыл бұрын
What a great video, Carolyn! I can totally relate to everything you are saying. It took me longer than you to wake up, though. I kept going into relationships with an open heart, only to attract "takers" who expected me to do all the giving (of course they pretended to be otherwise for the first weeks, and then changed). But "loyal" me -- I would just hang in there, trying to make things right again. Finally, I realized that every "relationship" was just a 'trap of misery,' and I haven't dated since. Much happier now.
@WaterSelkie20007 жыл бұрын
Funny, I tend to think that something is wrong with me. I choose to live alone. And I ask myself why don't I want someone here full time? (like they could mow the lawn and stuff, right?) I'd rather pay someone! Recently, I ended a three year long distance relationship that I thought was working well, because I only see him every few months, but I know he wants more and would try to hold me back from my plans although he won't admit that. Before this relationship I was married for 31 years. And, I knew at least twenty of those years I didn't want to be there! That's kind of a waste of life! I don't know what the future will bring, but I know I do not have any plans to repeat the past and have someone I feel accountable for or to ever again. I like what you said... about not having to label or define it. You enjoy spending time with someone, then you do and it can be that simple. If you don't or you find you need time away.. then you go. No strings and hopefully no hurt feelings. thank you for your blog/vlog and look forward to hearing about your adventures. Kathy Jo... (1 year 8 months five days until my great escape)
@grayewolfe63357 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Ms. Carolyn. I need to show my friends this video, so through your words, they can get to understand me better, as a single man who chooses to love people, but remains a bachelor. You are an inspiration.
@tikilee71727 жыл бұрын
👏🏻content with your own company, yep👍🏻And keep your 🔥burning bright. That was a lovely share.
@lauraruane96967 жыл бұрын
I'm with you Carolyn. I've come to the same conclusions as you after 3 marriages. And it's not because I'm the least bit bitter - I'm still friends with my last ex. It's because I love to be by myself. Every once in a while, I experience a moment of complete euphoria, and it's wonderful when it happens, and no, it's not drugs :), but I've never experienced it with a person by my side. I love not having to talk about my money, or what I plan on doing next, or try to justify to someone how I spent my day. I can have a dog now! I could go on and on....
@betobeto79037 жыл бұрын
Who needs a human when we have dogs!! :-)
@bettybech99897 жыл бұрын
Or a cat.
@off2kurebeach7 жыл бұрын
Beto Beto or ferrets!!💓
@vivianevans12286 жыл бұрын
Beto Beto Such a true comment!!!!🐶🐶🐶🐶
@loriadams15886 жыл бұрын
Beto Beto dogs are such sweet and unconditional creatures. ❤️❤️.
@hedynoble77127 жыл бұрын
I am so happy I found your channel. I feel the same way as you. I am a strong independent 57 yo woman who has been living the minimalist lifestyle for the last ten years. I hope to join the rv lifestyle in a year or so. I have enjoyed living alone and can't wait to travel alone! Thank You!
@CarolynsRVLife7 жыл бұрын
Hedy, I'm glad you found it too! Welcome! yay for strong independent women!! hope to see you on the road some day!
@mange27 жыл бұрын
I think its all about culture. The culture we are raised within. Our culture dictates that its 'normal' to be in a relationship. Fortunately I have woken up and freed myself from the bonds of cultural relationship expectations. I have relationships but am not 'in' a relationship. Some people love to be surrounded by many people daily and then opt for some solitude occasionally, by having a quiet vacation etc. I feel the opposite, I crave solitude daily and occasionally wish for some human interaction. Some people ask if I get lonely and my reply is, 'you don't have to be alone to be lonely'. There are many people in relationships who are very lonely. We all have a choice about who we have a relationship with. It should be based on our desires or needs and not societies expectations. Its utterly bizarre that sometimes society will even give people therapy, to identify why they want to be on their own, then try and 'fix them', so that they can enter a relationship like 'normal' people (whoever they are) lol.
@wilee.coyote37827 жыл бұрын
Amen, amen, amen. What's the saying? "Just because I'm alone doesn't mean I'm lonely." I have said that there isn't a single cell in my body that desires to be in a relationship.
@erikkohl7 жыл бұрын
You are like a spiritual Christmas star for me...adding brightness, joy, and guidance to my earthly adventure. I am deeply grateful, Carolyn.
@FREEDOM-sd9my7 жыл бұрын
No you rock!! You tell it like it is Last time I commented YOU DON'T SUGARCOAT YOUR LIFE ! That's why we love you ! As always Happy Trails