Can you let yourself have it all?

[@leahmanderson298]

It’s easier to break my own heart than to have it be broken by someone else or to fail in a public way.

[@BubblyViolin11]

Exactly. I hate that feeling that heartbreak by someone else reinforces my own internal narrative that I don’t deserve to be happy. Wasn’t prepared to be called out today 😬

[@milomazli]

Omg... giiirl I so feel you. I am THIS. Self-sabotage seems to be my second name... sending you healing energies! ❤

[@diabeatit5189]

You absolutely can overcome this need to self sabotage!🥰🥰🥰

[@layfitcoach]

Is it worth it??? If you don’t live love to stay safe… what are you living for?

[@Josephinetehrani]

I used to feel this way as well until you realize you are breaking your own heart every day by denying yourself love ❤️you’re worthy of love and you will find someone who won’t break your heart

[@HealthHappyLife]

Happiness is not a reward for suffering, but something we can allow ourselves to experience at any time. We don't have to wait for hardship to pass before we are allowed to enjoy joy.

[@Isabelle.g6]

The concept of success in " The Art of Seductive Power" book completely explains this. I wish I read it sooner.

[@amberklein6893]

🏵Imagination can break an emotional habit. -Imagine a perfect moment. -FEEL the moment. Smile. -The more you do it, the more the new emotions will become habits. -Our brains can’t tell the difference between real and imagined. -Which is AWESOME when you want to program something. 🏵Great video. Thank you 🙏

[@secretprettyuser]

Thanks for sharing this. I do notice that I sometimes imagine things that make me feel low vibe emotions, so I will definitely try this out.

[@JourneywithGigi]

To anyone who sees this: you truly deserve to put yourself first! Self-care is actually the *opposite* of selfish - it benefits *everyone* ❤️ thanks Jillz for another wonderful video 🙏✨💖

[@hnnhml]

💛💛

[@annoar9776]

Thank you!

[@barbsvangilder8141]

I finally have the life I've always dreamed of, but I think I don't deserve it since other people I know are struggling, and I used to struggle too. I can't relax and enjoy it, so I have been working too hard to make it so that I somehow deserve the things I have. I sometimes work so hard that I make myself sick. Because I know other good people who work harder and have it harder than I do. I'm trying to let go of the invisible struggle that I am creating myself, but I can't seem to relax and break the cycle. I know that I will regret not savoring these happy times when I've had it all, but I don't know how to do that. Putting myself first seems so selfish. It hurts.

[@alinfeline9701]

Don’t identify with your thoughts, emotional states and problems, don’t make them become you. Great video! So much wisdom shared so casually :)) You summed up everyones problems in 13 minutes. ❤

[@JillzGuerin]

Glad you liked it 🥰

[@oriental-penguin]

I didn't expect this video to change how I think so drastically. I just wrote on my whiteboard "Something is going to go right." Thank you sunshine 😊❤

[@michaelstrangis1982]

This is the coziest YT video I have ever seen.😊

[@sararothstein]

I did notice that. On a very deep layer, I discovered sort of being acustomed to fear in whatever shape or form. Struggle free life is almost stripping down of a self identity for our nervous system at first- it has to be eased step by step by raising self awareness. It is all about rewiring brain and getting body familiar with new, good chemitry, at the same time keeping it at rehab from bad chemistry like cortisol, adrenaline. It is a process. And yes, you can and you will succeed in it. Good luck, I believe in you. Believe in yourself!❤ Blessings xx

[@BrookeMoore-qs3rs]

I looooove this fireside chat series! I also really needed this video. I get stuck in my own thoughts of what could happen to take my happiness away. It's draining and keeps me from enjoying the present but it's also my strange way of protecting myself. If I think about the horrible things that could happen, I won't be shocked when they do. It's so wild to write that because it seems so irrational. I've been trying to do more of the letting go and just experience life without the what-ifs. This video gives me more to think about and new perspectives on my struggles. Thanks so much for all you do!

[@alexlavi3699]

Absolutely amazing! Thank you! And thank you for the book recommendation. Your last one ( The Courage to be Disliked) changed my life significantly!

[@JillzGuerin]

Oh so glad you liked that one!! You’ll LOVE The Mountain Is You ❤️

[@alexlavi3699]

@@JillzGuerin i've started reading already! it's pretty good!! Thank you so much!!!

[@wonderberries]

I'm constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. I've been through some hard things in life and it's hard to relax when things are going well and there's peace. I'm always paranoid something bad is going to happen.

[@Saltheartfreak]

I had a realisation a few years ago after observing my life and family members. And since then I have tried to live by my mantra: Don't become comfortable with your suffering. (Bli inte bekväm med ditt lidande.) Needed a reminder again of this and your video found me at the right time. Thank you for the reminder.

[@ksuman1763]

My heart was feeling so heavy and I just intuitively clicked on this video. It still is heavy somehow but the moment you mentioned this it felt lighter to some extent. Bcuz I think yes, I’m kinda going with this…it’s just so true! I can’t just stop my heart to grow and fall in love with myself. Thank you sweetie! ♥️

[@milomazli]

Omg, Jillz... HAAAANDS DOWN this is the MOST HELPFUL VIDEO I HAVE HEARD IN THE LAST YEEEEAAAAAR!!! THANK you thank you thank you!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@normabarker8958]

Yes! Acknowledging that there was a payoff for me, staying in a toxic relationship… the pay off was that I got to be the victim, I got to tell my story and have people side with me…… once I could see that that’s what I was doing with my own behavior. Everything changed and I was able to let it all go.

[@kerynp]

Loving the cozy vibes ❤

[@michaelstrangis1982]

SPOT ON BEAUTIFUL 😍, THANKS 🎉

[@Piecesoftheshadow]

I absolutely do NOT like the struggle or suffering, but I do feel this way about dark and toxic parts of me because I became comfortable with them and they in return fed into the struggle and suffering I absolutely do not want and holds me back from everything I want. What you said about being at a certain baseline really connected to me. I actually just wrote about how we become stuck with certain parts that hurt us because we become comfortable or they become our natural go to after so long, so it’s crazy you made this video.

[@kajula9079]

this color and the eye make up girl... wow just wow

[@Reemnycfl]

Love this message so much Jillz ❤ we always feel happiness should be earned 😢

[@SunshineBloom777]

So much of what you say resonates with me as a Christian - trust, joy, peace, etc! Letting go, forgiving, knowing it’s all going to work out for good, choosing joy and gratitude, hope, etc!

[@suzypeace7777]

Beautiful wisdom. Thank you!

[@KokiF-es4fd]

I've been in a transformative phase of my life ... And lately I have some opportunities ahead but there's a voice in my head that's saying oh no you're not getting that.. that's too good for us.. it's still early.. you didn't struggle enough for it..... So thank you for this vid you gave me some perspective and some questions to ask myself and contemplate

[@cemily105]

Hi Jillz 💕 I just wanted to say thank you. Growing up with brothers, I’ve always been independent and relied on myself, but after a tough time recently, your videos have felt like having the older sister I never had (sorry if that sounds weird!). You’ve really helped me reconnect with my feminine energy and offered such meaningful advice as a woman, which has made a huge impact on me.❤️‍🩹🤍🫶🏻 Thank you so much for all you do, and I’m wishing you all the best!💫

[@JillzGuerin]

Aw I'm so glad!! I grew up only with brothers too so I get it lol.

[@sophiaparsons7774]

I have severe stenosis of the spine. I can stand up barely but cannot walk. I have really been struggling with the mental side of this, I know from watching this that I can choose to accept and feel moments of joy, I just haven't been allowing myself to. I desperately want to accept that I won't walk again. I really have been so preoccupied with that thought that I couldn't see past it or allow myself to let it go and yes it has become familiar, as has constantly running through my life, wishing I'd done this or that! I feel now that yes there will be a challenge in acceptance and letting go but you've made me realise I am capable of doing this, thank you, it means so much 🥲

[@kellyotterness]

You are capable! Thanks for sharing your story ❤ I love the idea of allowing for joy even before full acceptance or letting go. We deserve it now, not when.

[@esc822]

You’re gold Girl 🤍🌺🍵 take care You & Everyone 🌌

[@ShyamkrishnanNair]

Powerful epiphany! Habit10x's principles align with this message: I don't need struggle to feel worthy. I choose abundance.

[@Ivy.yt17]

Love the fireside series🥺

[@JillzGuerin]

So glad! I love them too, so cozy ❤️

[@Ivy.yt17]

@@JillzGuerin xoxo

[@LonelyGirl13-q3g]

You have a very advanced level of self-awareness, Jill. Thanks for sharing your insights

[@samanthawright6266]

I adore you and your videos have changed my life.. life is truly magical for maybe the first time

[@JillzGuerin]

🥹❤️

[@ishouldfindarealjob]

Those videos make me so calm

[@hajarlaabidi9646]

Thank you Jillz that was sth I was thinking so much about recently 🙏🙏🙏

[@sllunatko]

Exactly what I needed to hear ☺️ thank you ❤️

[@missrd395]

Hi Jillz, thank you for this video. I know how loss feels but I am still going to make the most of my life🎉✨

[@Rhjnkiitewsxbmlp]

“And we're self-sabotaging and denying ourselves the reality we dream of but what if you gave yourself permission to be happy what if you gave yourself permission to feel at peace can you let yourself drop the struggle can you let yourself have it all, something to think about”. So so good 🤍 I give myself permisson to be happy, to succeed, to have it all.

[@alisagorelick8116]

This was such a deep dive into some peoples' psyche... Mine included. I definitely feel like I have to earn that happiness, and that having the safety net of struggling is more comfortable than experiencing joy, only to have something bad happen. You said it perfectly and I appreciate the perspective, and the insight. Well spoken.

[@cristinamurabito5231]

Jillz thank you so much for your time and words… with all your videos i can say I’m seeing clearer my life. I mean in three weeks i guess, i’m able to say what i want in my life, manifesting for it and working for it every day. I’m bringing joy to myself and to others, and stepping back from certain patterns that don’t depend on me but i have to live for now because it’s my family. But I’m vividly trying to step back really. Have a good day and take care, love you🎀

[@sugisugeetha]

As usual, wonderful to listen to you during my low times. Sunshine lady! ❤

[@yEyA017]

I actually needed this video now. I've been worrying myself for nothing lately. Thank you! 😊

[@samanthacampbell2703]

I livw the vibe of this video...the fire....the cup of tea. Yas queen

[@joanaribeiron]

Thanks for sharing this🫶🏼 I am going to journaling about it :)

[@Nat_Cat]

The question you asked about what one gains from the struggle is really the crucial starting point. I realized that the struggle gives me a sort of freedom that I don't know how else to get. If I feel bad or am having a hard time, people are more likely to accept my boundaries. For instance an attention-seeking friend who would like me to spend my Friday night listening to her humble bragging. That is off the table if I can claim to be unwell and not even be lying about it. But there has to be a better way to set these boundaries.

[@annoar9776]

So important, thank you!

[@MillaBiancorosso]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you Jillz, so grateful💞💞💞

[@MindMovies4All]

Thank you for your channel. Love your videos.

[@НаташаВасић]

I've always thought that happines is a choice and it is.. Just like you it takes a moment to decide and forget all "the bad things" 💖

[@VioletJuarez-z5m]

I needed to hear thiss! Thanks so much for sharing! You rocks Jillz! ❤

[@PA-tu1jg]

What a perfect video to prep for the super moon tomorrow 🙏💕 thank you so much Jillz!💙 🦋💫

[@kushikuyyamudi]

Thank you so much Jill’s✨💜

[@susanparks4119]

This was beautiful as well as cozy! Thank you!

[@AFRIDAIRENA]

the video is literally deep because i feel the baseline emotional level is so true.. Though you are able to experience happiness or growth but if you came from mental struggle or anxiety in the past it really feel unreal to experience the new joy because the joy or growth was not part of your life a long time.. so,,we need to try to make friendship with happiness again i guess 😊🎉

[@AmelieGrange-ml3zj]

I like this cozy format :)

[@Daisy-Maisey]

Struggle is a choice and it’s so hard to admit this… but it is. It’s just a familiar feeling we go back to. We do have the option to choose! Choose YOURSELF for YOURSELF! ❤ thanks Jillz for new video!!

[@_Nelka_]

As a 17yr old I really love your videos.. Just found out your channel few days aback, from the how to quantum leap video. Usually I don't subscribe to yt channels often, but as soon as I finished watching ur video,instantly subscribed. Gosh! your explanations are crystal clear, its just so easy to understand.. Honestly one of the best content creators out there>> Your advices and tips are top tier. Excited for more videos from you in the future! ❤❤

[@JillzGuerin]

Aw welcome! I'm so glad you're here ❤️

[@linanna87]

I wish I would have found this channel at your age

[@konnie_23.4]

Love that you just made us aware of the topic why we might stay in struggle mode, not giving "the" solution right away. I feel so inspired to work it out on my own now :) So much more inspired than if you gave us one or multiple ways to fix this big, complexnand individual problem because now i must find the solutions myself, thanks for that ^^

[@Reiliferei]

This is a concept I contemplate often and work through. I love that book as well.

[@afridajahan2004]

What a beautiful video to watch on Friday! thanks love 💕

[@hungry4funny]

This is very Joe Dispenza and I love the way you explain it! It helped me understand the concept even better :)

[@paulettemusicqueen1282]

I love your content and watch every single week. Please bring back lofi backgrounds. I love it so much. Makes me learn better for some reason.

[@chilleyes]

Thank you for making this videos, you are helping so many people!! Keep going!

[@VictoriaShilongo]

Thank you so much for always pouring yourself into these teachings, to deeply and brilliantly explain concepts I find hard to put labels on and bring awareness to. Very practical and illuminating. May God continue to increase your knowledge, wisdom and understanding. ❤

[@JenniferKristin888]

I love the fireplace! If you celebrate Christmas your should put up a beautiful tree in the background for the holidays! 🎄❤

[@Sarahhh_Klein]

This is so true 🙌🏼

[@tuma0000]

I really appreciate that thanks for sharing❤

[@PetraKrizan]

😅 I am just laughing... I just had this aha moment, when I realized, I am afraid of being happy, that it is not safe and feeling guilt for that. And then I go to yt and here is your video, talking about that... 🤪 Love it ❤, so I can realy release all of what is not true me ❤🙏🙌

[@Maryam-cy6cv]

Your content is just amazing!! 💕

[@kanthicc]

Love the fireside series ❤❤

[@mansoor3159]

My All Time Comfort KZbinr As Always Jillz💖💖🥹🥹 May God Bless You Always Always and I really really needed this video

[@JillzGuerin]

❤️

[@Jessica_Jean]

Jillz this video came at the right time. I was really struggling last night with my emotions and this really comforted me. ❤

[@Diannako1]

This video resonates so much

[@Daaé-p5f]

I never thought of it before. But this is so true...Back to the drawing board i guess..

[@An-yh2bl]

I needed this so much now. Thank you ❤

[@DestiyawarniDestiyawarni]

I like the way you explaining Jillz

[@jjennayu]

You are such an amazing human being. Thank you for this video ❤️

[@Innerkhushiis]

I really needed this video and This is perfect timing. I am so used to be in pain that am having a hard time letting my heart be happy.

[@c3ka]

Just watched half a dozen videos of yours about manifestation, all so so SO good. I would love to hear about what your husband thinks about manifesting in a future video too:)

[@konnie_23.4]

Reminds me of the movie Matrix. Love this content and your way of telling it :))

[@ladyyaya6782]

I have often contemplated this. Great video! Food for thought for sure ❤

[@Ava-s1k4h]

Thank you so much jillz for this life changing video! 😍💗

[@prettycozylife]

Oh Jillz I just love this!! I finally watched your first one of this a week or so ago. It’s been the perfect timing for me personally. I love this format! Thank you for doing it and I hope you and your family have a great holiday season!

[@JillzGuerin]

Ah thank you! You too!! ❤️

[@nora_700]

I'm going through a similar struggle lately. You're so beautiful, and I love how mature and eloquent you are. Wishing you all the best, and thanks for sharing this video! ♥️

[@Карина-м9у]

I need to think about this right now, God bless you❤❤✝️

[@eretuzagurgel1062]

I love this video! Thank you Jillz 💕

[@SARAH-tonin333]

Love you so much Jillz ❤

[@ashleighnoon]

I love this fireside series and the topics you discuss are so genuinely important. Thank you for all of your help Jillz.

[@N5555b]

I love this series and the topic is very interesting, definitely food for thought.

[@gabisourique]

Thank YOU so much for this vídeo ❤

[@nai_latrice]

So good!

[@Ryan_and_Emily]

Cannot wait to receive my mug

[@k.6160]

This was a spot on video! I have thought that it's admirable to be the underdog and climb out of it. Interesting, but I feel like I've earned it at this point in my life, at 59!! Lol... I think...😅

[@narutosd8178]

Love it so much

[@lilibaro]

dear jillz❣️ i love this so much, the series is so good, do you know i still listen to your meditations are you planning in the future to make a new video, i love to listen in the afternoon... thank you very much🎁 greetings from klausenburg, blessings 💖

[@PortuguesThroughMusic]

Funny coincidence! I'm in my work break with a cup of tea, which is not that usual, and this video popped up❤

[@ronideltoro9613]

Jillz after only seconds i wanna give this input >> i truly and very firmly believe even though yes an easy and pleasant life IS amazing, as it is HEALTHY....our SOULS want DEPTH.......and depth comes to a larger part from also knowing suffering. what i also believe is, if we REALLY all or most of us had this easy peacy dream life.....what if all of a sudden a war breaks out or a huge catastrophy and we are so spoiled to the point we lack our fighting and survival abilities? i think thats the reason we keep struggling alive......bc we instinctively know too much comfort is the door opener for gradual weakness. might be the case i think

[@LadyCamilleE]

Adversity is mandatory. Suffering is optional. Great insight questions for me to ponder. 🤔

[@LadyCamilleE]

That was then, this is now…..Bam 💥💓

[@rachelg6609]

You should do more videos by the fireplace! It feels so cozy :)

[@Kaitopia_]

This video is so deep and so important. I'm someone who tends to not do the things that would make me happy and thinks about the future a lot. It does have a bright side, like I've studied hard and got a good job, also saved a fair amount of money. However, even now that I'm in a good position in life, I can't seem to just let me enjoy it. I'm stuck in this 'work hard and push happiness to the future' mindset. I've been planning my dream vacation for years and never go.

[@tristanhaile]

No more struggle 🪷 Solved all problem 💪 I have not earned my happiness, it was free 😵‍💫 What the heck ☠️ What is point of life if not to suffer 🌸