Can You Love Your Body - and Still Want To Change It? | Gabriella Lascano | TED

[@Kiluei]

It was BECAUSE for the love of my body and my health that I decided to lose weight. One of the best things I've done. I couldn't stand being fat. It was a horrible way of living. I just felt horrible all the time. For fear of diabetes and other health concerns I decided it was time to do something about it. I started eating healthy and actually moved around a bit. After that I started working out.

[@longshank59]

Good 4 u.

[@TerrorTerros]

Poor people get 'body positivity', rich people get ozempic

[@remyllebeau77]

Based people get Carnivore. 💪

[@Moove_along_please]

South Park fan?

[@TerrorTerros]

@Moove_along_please obviously

[@rafaeldegiacomoaraujo8778]

So funny that most people didn't even listen to the video before commenting. So much rush to rate.

[@latrestadaddison2155]

I enjoyed her lecture. She addressed how not to turn a blind eye to the health risks that come with being obese. Love yourself at any size and through your weight loss journey. That’s needed to be emphasized because some people are obese due to depression and other mental health conditions. She said a lot of other positive things to keep in mind while obese people better themselves. ❤

[@GabriellaLascano]

Thank you!!

[@winzyl9546]

You cant just love yourself at morbidly obese size, thats not loving yourself thats torturing yourself.

[@kindnessreminder]

@@winzyl9546 I think what they're saying is that you can do both. You can love yourself and still work on your health. It's not either/or.

[@CaptainChristianZ1818]

What do you mean? It's because you love your body that's why you want to change it.

[@GabriellaLascano]

❤❤❤❤

[@chocomalk]

It's about time science and common sense return, thank you Gabriella.

[@GabriellaLascano]

Thanks for watching!!

[@l01230123]

Good points and a reasonable perspective about physical and mental health. We need more of that! 💖

[@mccashland]

Heres how you balance it: Love yourself enough to realize if you are overweight you are not loving yourself. Your body is most happy and most capable when you exercise and put it through tough challenges. Using "body positivity" as an excuse to stay overweight is ruining society and creating a complacent victim mindset. Be positive about your body and understand you are capable of anything, but being positive that everything is fins as it is would be just a flat out lie. Otherwise, we wouldn't be having this comparison as a Ted talk today.

[@gerardoa9179]

Eat healty, stop eating ultra processed food, do yoga, cardio, etc. You will feel great. Stop this "just be yourself" bs. Be the BEST version of yourself.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

As someone with a thyroid issue, the only way to keep my weight down is to starve and hurt myself. Its like it only uses the energy in desperate times. I eat one meal a day and I still have too much weight.

[@SeriousKarol]

@@HikaruYamamoto then start treatment of your thyroid, instead of feeling pity for yourself.

[@AshleyFromTX]

Not everyone who’s overweight eats garbage food and doesn’t work out hon. Idk why you people get so triggered over TED talks like this. 😅

[@shivasidpao1]

Stop telling someone Else who s*he should be or what s*he should do

[@tom_crytek]

@@HikaruYamamoto I advise you, in this case, to file a patent because you’re better than God at creating matter out of nothing. It’s physically impossible to eat to the point of starvation and still gain weight. Nothing is lost, nothing is created, everything transforms. - Lavoisier. You need to eat healthily, in accordance with your caloric expenditure and physical activity. Cut out added sugars and saturated fats… Drink only water. I do have a friend, by the way, who weighs 180kg and only eats one meal a day. He’s vegan and mostly eats salads, but he spends his days snacking, so he gains weight. Also, water retention: you need to drink between 2 and 3 liters a day. No more. Avoid salt. Eating healthy and maintaining a healthy body is complex and time-consuming. And even with that, you can’t avoid diseases and cancers.

[@uninvited5417]

Excellent video, and finally somebody who is overweight, but understands the problems and doesn't try to promote that it is ok - let alone preferable. While overweight people have been treated awfully by society (and, I'm afraid, still are), swinging the pendulum to the other extreme and actually promoting being overweight is equally awful. If an overweight person is fine with their body, as long as they are aware of the dozens of health problems that come with that, it's their business. But an overweight person who wants to get healthier should be encouraged by everyone. And, yes, you are absolutely right, you can love yourself and still want to be better. Loving oneself doesn't mean stagnation

[@btj7ndr33]

Yes! Preach it, girl! Self-love means doing things that are healthy for you, AND loving the body you currently inhabit because it has gotten you this far. I can appreciate the reasons for my obesity & accept that there are barriers to losing weight, AND I can eat healthy meals and exercise to the extent that my body allows me to on a daily basis. And yes, absolutely, seemingly opposite things can be true at the same time. That's actually the crux of the therapy I'm in: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. (And why I say "and" instead of "but" most of the time.)

[@GabriellaLascano]

Thank you so much!❤❤

[@simsim4910]

Well, there is a differance between fat shaming and being concious of health. Same is true about body positivity and and disregard for negative impact of obisity or leanness on health. There ar too sides to that discussion. One is about how the image of the body is concieved in society and the other is a bout pure medical analysis. Leanness and obesity are not good for the body and are associates with heart, stamina or mobility issues. No matter how society is thinking about that this fact stays. (In fact it is easier to die of obisity nowadays than of starvation) So everything that is said here about health issues has nothing to do with the discussion at all. Body positivity is a sociatal thing and not a mediacal thing. So why are we still mixing this?

[@maibritton2882]

I used to hate it when fat idols would lose weight. I felt betrayed and that I wasted my time and money on idols that were no longer "one of us". I had spent decades as a child and adult not seeing plus size people in the mainstream. I mean the false symbol of a fat singer dying from a sandwich didn't help. Our media plays a BIG part in how we perceive ourselves, its TOXIC. I realized that as Mrs. Lascano points out you can love your body and be body positive. I have beautiful memories of traveling and walking on the beach and knowing that it wasn't my size that attracted my partners but who I am as a person. it has always been my choice to be positive about myself no matter what my size, and those idols . . . I know they are loving themselves too.

[@Stevieboy130664]

Keep going, keep doing what you're doing and do what you think is best for you and your body. Only YOU own your body. Ignore the ignoramuses. Haters will hate. There's obviously something missing in THEIR lives.

[@trinleywangmo]

Thousands of years people have been on this earth and all different shapes and sizes (we we're even hairy primates once!) so STOP the shaming. If all you focus on is your love and how to express that, who cares what size or shape you are. Love doesn't care... but it starts with you yourself.

[@ciarra4849]

Go Gaby girl!!! She was one of my first plus size boutique models online. Dolld Kouture! You are the love you receive! Love you! ✨

[@GabriellaLascano]

❤❤❤❤

[@ciarra4849]

@@GabriellaLascano I enjoyed this so much!

[@TheUltimateHacker007]

Al these comments haven't watched the video. She addresses all the bs going on with fat acceptance and so on

[@ThizzMarley]

halfway she did say she's till fighting for "fat exceptance":

[@Jay41]

@@ThizzMarley yes…you have to accept something in order to change it. That’s what she’s saying. You’re not gonna do what you need to do to lose weight if you’re too busy hating your body.

[@shadowthehedgehog181]

@ThizzMarley She’s fighting for them not be bullied, not for them to overeat. Even if they're unhealthy, they shouldn't be shat on because of it. And no; bullying doesn't work. It'll make them seem food for comfort, making it worse

[@kindnessreminder]

@@Jay41 Exactly. It's like the concept of radical acceptance which means getting real with yourself about things as they are. It doesn't mean that you give up or don't want to change. You have to accept before you can change.

[@ritarios7872]

Beautifully done Gabi. I’m very proud of you! Love you ❤

[@Billabonggg2011]

Body neutrality has been WAY more beneficial to my emotional and physical health than body positivity ever was. I am worthy of love and respect which is why my body deserves to be treated well and be its healthiest -- NOT the other way around. You will never shame or hate anyone into long lasting, positive change.

[@MelikaQasemi-ge8rb]

Her lecture was wonderful. I did like her personality and her appearance. Definitely she has so many positive points and this point about her body can't stop her not to be perfect❤

[@karenreddy]

It's because you love it that you need to change it for the better.

[@AshleyFromTX]

Real positive change will never come hating your body. Only love can do that. Also, there’s so much stupidity and negativity in this comment section. It never shocks me anymore, since the comments under TED videos are always a cesspool, but this message is for TED: y’all need comment moderation. Your community sucks, and it’s what keeps me away from interacting with your videos on a daily basis. Fix it!

[@opti6019]

I mean, KZbin comments in general are literally the single worst mainstream public forum I’ve ever seen online. I don’t know why I keep reading them 😂

[@trinleywangmo]

@@opti6019 We're all looking for gold nuggets!

[@aris6651]

thank you so much for this talk. it really hit me as it's something i'm going through rn

[@TomasPetkevicius94]

If you are fat and you love your body and value your health you will want to change it. End of story.

[@jaquii77]

I believe you should love yourself yes but that means you take care of your health and body. Being obese or even overweight brings so many health problems especially with age. So it’s much more than looks and we should all be aware of that.

[@tomsawyer2923]

Because it’s a cult, not a movement, the cult doesn’t care about your condition. It’s cleverly named “body positivity,” too. Who could be against that?

[@xren0123456789]

I think it's easier to lose weight and maintain your shape than to convince yourself and the world that obesity is beautiful.

[@elmeromero6052]

Our skeletons are not built to sustain the amount of weight obese people have. It’s not healthy and not naturally normal. I don’t necessarily blame her 💯 for being big or anyone who is. Our society has promoted an unhealthy diet. Especially in the west. But you have to recognize your own responsibility when it comes to what you put in it. Especially as an adult. I’m glad she recognizes the harm it puts on the body. Good luck in your endeavors. Respectively I hope she can get to her best self mentally and physically. 🙏

[@btj7ndr33]

This is true, AND it's important to avoid shaming people for their obesity. There are so many factors that go into it beyond diet & exercise (like thyroid issues, chronic pain, a history of childhood trauma, etc.). Also, even once you are doing all the right things, our bodies are designed to maintain whatever weight we carry, and losing weight (and keeping it off) has been scientifically shown to be extremely difficult. The point of this video is to balance acceptance of people (including ourselves) for who & how they/we are, while also encouraging healthy behaviors. BOTH are important.

[@longshank59]

Here's my experience. I'm not one of those that has had a weight issue my whole life. At my heaviest I weighed 245. I stand 6'4" so could carry that much. But the Call Center I worked for every 6 months they had a Nurse come in. She told me that I was at Pre-Diabetic levels and said "You need to change. Told me what to do I cut out fried foods, ate more veggies, walked my dog 4 or 5 times a day cut out all processed sugars. What happened in 7 months went from 245 to 198 and no more Pre Diabetic diagnosis. I was fortunate most people aren't. Don't shame people if you do things may turn against you. Thanks for listening to my Ted Talk

[@JonDoee2343]

Tell your heart that you're healthy at any size. Objective reality and an echo chamber will not win over subjective reality and a heart attack when you're 35yo.

[@MrBelles104]

0:36 get her a big mac so we can see her talents 1:26 that's not the only thing she grew... 2:06 I'd be surprised if someone could uplift her. 3:22 she admits that the *positivity* community causes some people to not improve themselves? Who would have thought. 4:18 right, the self-proclaimed community accepting of all body types, that turns its back on people who actually want to improve themselves. 5:14 gotta tread carefully, as you know, fear of cancelation defines a "positivity community of acceptance". She's right about some things though, all people should be treated with respect if they take meaningful strides to improve themselves, the cult of body positivity is destructive, and that being skinny does not equal being happy, but that's a straw man argument. People are healthy for the simple fact that it's a beneficial trait to have, therefore it only aids the happiness that people can have in general.

[@theniceneighbor]

Diet is the biggest part of this for me I was diagnosed with prediabetes and diet alone does so much. I went from 270 to 212. For reference, back in the day when i was younger i was 230 but had very low body fat (single digit). I started eating poorly as i got older. Its so hard to out exercise a bad diet. Look at what you put into your body. Stop eating in the meal sooner. Dont wait until you are stuffed or when the plate is clean. I hope this helps someone else. Everybody is different but somebody might need to hear that its not always about just sweating on a treadmill. In my experience diet is harder than exercise. It tastes good and even the good stuff has bad things in it that make you fat. Hang in there yall

[@antifornicator]

Oh man, the tone and framing of the comments here are more unhealthy than eating a dozen sticks of butter. Just because you're factual doesn't mean you're correct.

[@CryptoJosh]

Don’t be fat you’ll be happier

[@tripwire76]

@CryptoJosh "don't be fat" is as useful as an advice as "don't be poor" or "don't have cancer" - it is not always 100% in your control, it might be a long and hard journey and it might even be impossible.

[@tripwire76]

@@ZNLBailey I guess the source for your numbers is "trust me bro"? Even if there is only 0.01 percent without control over the issue that's still about 33000 americans or more than 800000 people world wide - just to put it into perspective. "People are just adverse to pain" - yeah - some people have so much pain that a workout is just out of the question. And there are loads of other conditions except thyroid issues. Also - having time for a workout schedule is a luxury many people cannot afford. Same goes for healthy food.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

@@ZNLBailey I have a thyroid issue, I've gone to nearly starving, people will still judge you. Sadly it doesn't come off if you body does not use it unless you make yourself suffer. Thats when it starts to come off.

[@JoeyP946]

@@HikaruYamamoto yea.. without pain there is no gain

[@shadowthehedgehog181]

​@tripwire76 His source is the 1 success story of someone who lost 100 pounds. That's not obtainable to everyone

[@tchachef]

this is sponsored by NovoNordisk : so it is biased. She is here to sell Ozempic

[@GabriellaLascano]

Nope not everyone so easily gives up their morals. Clearly you would as you assume so

[@libidese]

Beautiful!!! loved that! ❤

[@justafan3051]

Can you be fat and healthy? *No.*

[@מיכלמור-ק3ט]

Very important. Thank you ❤

[@KanhuChavhan]

hello Dear, I love your comments on this channel, complement of the season 🎄 🎁 How are you doing today?

[@durragas4671]

Just notice how all these plus size positive people are well below 50 years of age. Think about that for a minute

[@darrend5741]

Being healthy in 5 steps: 1) Stop making excuses. Being overweight is nobody’s fault but your own if you are an adult. DECIDE you WILL own your health. DECIDE you WILL do what it takes to get healthy. 2) Exercise for flexibility, strength and endurance. 30-120 minutes a day, 6-7 days a week. You should be sweaty, tired, and out of breath. Maybe a very little bit sore the next day. 3) Drink lots of water and eat non-processed foods that total less calories than you burn. Can’t control your cravings? Go on a walk/run/bike/swim for a couple hours. 4) Go to bed on time. Wake up on time. Get plenty of great rest. 7-9 hours a day, every day. 5) have and track daily calorie intake and exercise goals. Have and track daily weight loss goals. Weigh yourself at the exact same time every day. Celebrate every pound you lose. Be proud of yourself for working so hard and taking ownership of your health. I’m rooting for you!!! You can do this!!!

[@RinkuAli-v8o]

Magnetic Aura book by Takeshi Mizuki ain’t for everyone, it’s for people who actually want to get ahead.

[@eduardocantarero4495]

There’s a big difference between being fat and obese and not moving, as oppose to someone that is carry some fat, yet, strong and athletic.

[@夜風同學-w6z]

Are DEI haters backlashing this video? 950 dislikes right now, I feel sorry to the talker.

[@Euphoryaaa]

I love tortas ❤❤ I love tortas that love themselves

[@DeviantDespot]

Man i remember when i was overweight and breathed that heavy while just talking. Poor woman

[@FranBunnyFFXII]

I stopped believing that the body positivity movement was actually about body positivity when the community around it harassed and abused and excluded anyone who struggled with underweight issues. No one seems to care if you're underweight and struggle with keeping it up. No one threatens to take away your freedom and force you into a hospital if you gain 5lbs here or there. But if you're underweight and accidentally lose 5lbs, you get threats and shamed left and right by everyone because they all think you're unfit to take care of yourself. They threaten to force feed you, involuntarily commit you to psych wards and criticize you for making everyone else feel bad and being a toxic body image. When all you needed was some encouragement and be offered a favorite meal. The exclusion of people like myself who have struggled with low weight their entire life is why I cant believe the body positivity movement was anything more than just excuses to demoralize others.

[@DhanjayYouTube9334]

you probably shouldn’t read the book Magnetic Aura if you’re cool with missing out on how attraction really works.

[@praisethesun5425]

How to Love your body? Get rich 1st

[@KlimovArtem1]

I think the obese people she’s talking about confuse hatred and contempt. No one hates them. People just normally don’t like an unhealthy look, it’s an instinct. Being obese is not healthy, and it’s very visible. That’s all. It’s like, if your neighbor doesn’t take care of his teeth, lost half of them and the other half is dark. And he smiles at you, saying he feels great and happy. Do you hate him? Of course not. You just don’t care, he can do whatever he wants with his body. But it just doesn’t look good…

[@winzyl9546]

Bish, thats not "loving yourself", that is torturing yourself. I guarantee you your body is struggling because of your "acceptance".

[@JoeyP946]

Of course. More absolute bs.

[@raeighnisha428]

Yes, it's all yours.

[@JonDoee2343]

All you have to know is that KZbin still hides the dislike numbers and how TED stopped being about learning and became about the "message". I'm shocked when TED puts out real content like they used to.

[@AshleyFromTX]

Get well soon 🙏

[@JoeyP946]

@AshleyFromTX I will. The right is making a comeback.

[@victorgarciasilva8183]

Hi TED PROJECT, would it be possible to activate the automatic youtube audio transcription to spanish or another language, the whole world will thank you for it.

[@reefertwo]

Ask a Cardiologist if this woman is a GOOD ADVOCATE for Love Your Body - Or a GREAT CANDIDATE for Stroke, Heart Attack, Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, Varicose Veins, Etc Etc Etc !!

[@DY2784]

We’re fat because of consumption much higher than burning up of calories. Consequences…

[@RyaThoughts]

Of course but possibly not by using any medicine or surgery that's more risky.

[@DY2784]

I continue to hope for myself… LOOOVE to eat and HATE to exercise…. Consequences…

[@badtrip801]

You only get what u put in ...

[@newtonspeaks1]

This is really inspiring and emotional though 😢❤👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️. I love you ❤. Obesity is not a crime and not for us to say such people should stop to exist. 🫶❤

[@AmazingOSadh]

Such a profound insight into the art of living with balance and clarity. This video gently reminds us that life’s beauty unfolds when we align with its natural rhythm. May we all embrace this wisdom and create a more joyful and harmonious existence!

[@mantiwa]

How can you love your body if you run out of breath after using the stairs lmao I mean she can't even talk without sudden inhales

[@healthfadsfade]

I watched the whole video. Logic has reached this woman but it’s only a half measure. It depends on the metric being used but saying “fat people can be either healthy or unhealthy” is stupid. If someone is obese or class 1 obese they are by definition unhealthy. TRUTH

[@skitvandarken]

Stop this woke non-sense take care of your self and health, loose weight!

[@PurelyHypnotic]

This isn’t woke its a bastardisation of it

[@Adam-zt4cn]

She actually agrees with you, you would have known that if you watched the second half of the video.

[@l01230123]

That's her point. You're disagreeing with someone you agree with, cuz "woke." (As if that word has a consistent meaning) Hate to tell you, that means you're categorically "woke" and being ignorant. 🤷‍♂

[@ShuffleM2]

just here to dislike, this channel was much better 5+ years ago

[@kullerko]

How makeup can cure regular overeating its wrong approach,mindful consumption is a self love.

[@grimetone]

tiktok main character

[@waanais]

“in our discriminatory society” ie one of the best, most affluent, and free societies in the world and human history. i suggest picking up a history book and learning about gratitude.

[@dardobartoli]

What nonsense

[@Adam-zt4cn]

Did you watch further than 2 minutes? The entire second half of the video is spent deconstructing and criticizing the first part.

[@GabriellaLascano]

🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩

[@Alisher1]

eat less - more excersice

[@theegyptianqueen3021]

Just be yours

[@Utkarsh-wh1kb]

Guys I'm fat because i don't take care of my body eat processed food but i Believe in body positivity so it's all good 🤣

[@hospiceresident70]

Guarantee this woman still wouldn't date a short guy 😂

[@Moove_along_please]

How short is short?

[@GhostGamblingFan]

What happened to TED talks? Promoting unhealthy, woke agendas?

[@TenTenFarms]

Woke had nothing to do with her weight issues

[@l01230123]

She's promoting weight loss for people who can lose weight, and addressing negativity in the body positivity movement. Maybe listen until the end before assuming an agenda? "Woke" is a lazy insult with no consistent definition, that has distracted you from what's true. 🤷‍♂

[@alejandracabrera9193]

Great talk! Thank you

[@chibuezeking1919]

Bro they just be inviting anyone to TED🤦🏽‍♂

[@akxiwoq9006]

paradoxical speech

[@CheekclappaJones]

If it isnt one of the seven deadly chins 😂

[@hotelmamacanino]

One thing is a healthy body and one other thing it is a person that does not take care of the body.... I love u and u need to have a healthy body

[@Unsalted667]

When I hear "in our discriminatory society...." I just can't listen to any more. You just lost yourself a subscriber.

[@l01230123]

Do you sincerely believe discrimination doesn't happen? She uses examples from her own community, and there are ignorant comments if you scroll down. Imagine just getting upset at a few words and shutting your brain off. We won't miss you, but hopefully you can use this time to chill.

[@uaps28]

Too much ultra-processed food in her diet? Stupid Ted talk. Waste of time.

[@Loly-j2l]

والله مافهمت شي بس مكمله معاها

[@brabbit6262]

This gotta be a joke right?

[@Actress_Monica_Biel]

This video really dives deep into the complexities of body image and personal growth! Gabriella's perspective is so refreshing and relatable it's a reminder that loving yourself doesn’t mean you can’t strive for change. What did everyone think about her journey?

[@GabriellaLascano]

❤thank you!!

[@vinitrai2229]

seriously, don’t pick up the book Magnetic Aura unless you’re ready to see things differently, no joke.

[@TenTenFarms]

She should eat her word salad instead of spewing it on ted talk.

[@shawnhawkins6196]

Priorities.

[@spidermiddleagedman]

Personification of Diabeetus.

[@MeditatingAstro]

Personification of ignorance. ^

[@spidermiddleagedman]

@MeditatingAstro that actually hurt my ego. 🥲

[@jayh8457]

Yo she have an onlyfans???!

[@JoeyP946]

no she ate it

[@Joobkl]

OnlyHams

[@tshorty90210]

How about just don’t get fat in the first place 😂

[@reefertwo]

I don't take weight tips from fat people ! There's an old joke - "Why don't you see fat people in retirement homes ?? Because they're dead !"

[@СерыйКот-о7г]

Это не красиво. Точка.

[@newtonspeaks1]

Beautiful lady with such confidence 😅👏❤️🔥. Listening to you attentively ❤❤

[@BillionaireVision__01]

😊

[@chopperchopper7324]

Perfect example of making things more complicated then it is

[@SHiVASodont]

if you’re not ready for real change, skip the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, it’s too much for most people.

[@Silverlined_69]

Cant take anything she said seriously when she says she is being discriminated because of her weight.

[@UnyieldQuest]

I love you and your mind, but I don’t love the body you have… It’s unhealthy (medically proven) But if you promote to love such body, I am sorry you are on a wrong path. Obesity is considered as a decease and should be treated.

[@l01230123]

I feel like those things are generally obvious to most, including the speaker. Some people have health conditions (like thyroid problems or naturally slow metabolisms) that tend to weigh more, but have comparable risk of immediate death as smaller people. Bigger people tend to have shorter lifespans, though, but are we getting equally upset at tall/muscular folks? (Not you apparently) Biology is more complicated than what you see, and oversimplified solutions like yours are dangerous to many.

[@ThizzMarley]

imagine being this indoctrinated ... u litterraly are dying to adhere to woke insanity

[@IvanMalechko]

Nowadays TED is such a joke! Sorry, I meant joy and positivity 😂.

[@ikennaonwunli5072]

This has to be a dumb, dumb line of thought.