Can you turn a 'friend with benefits' into a partner?

Veronica writes, “Hi Susan, could you discuss the best way to make an exclusive, 10-month friend with benefits into a boyfriend? He has been hurt badly so I think he is very scared to commit. But when we are together, everything feels right, and he seeks me out when he needs closeness, but I think it scares him; so I can feel him try to distance himself. Thanks so much, you are one of the best out there!”
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[@kirsten1007]

I would say" men make excuses to just get their physical needs meet" but you are not the one. They are still looking. Protect yourself

[@Bethms123]

The distinction between an actual "friend" and someone who "evaporates" when they leave your bed was incredibly impactful. Thank you. 😁💖

[@Sowley8]

I had the same situation. The only difference is he was not ready to stop seeing other women. Eventually I had to let him go.

[@AnnieeBubble]

It's a good point for all of us ladies to *realise* that our 'situationships' were actually real relationships and we're not going crazy and are unlovable! But I disagree that she should stay. Just for the woman's own self-respect, she has to go. She is pampering to all his needs and 'fears' but he clearly doesn't care about her, or he could give her the smallest scrap of care and assurance by labelling the relationship by this point. If he wants to have a physical and emotional connection with a woman then he needs to grow up and get over these 'fears', otherwise he'll just have to 'play' by himself. It's not like she's asking him to marry her! I just worry about all of the damage this sort of thing does to women's self-esteem, so think that if someone hasn't decided by about 2 months, then they should always walk. I know there can be exceptions but it's just not worth the emotional turmoil.

[@Bethms123]

Well said. I love your point about "pampering" while not asking for the moon and stars. Sometimes, we don't even realize we are doing it. I pass no judgment on anyone who is being kind and loving. But these dynamics reach a point where they become so lopsided that the loving person burns out and then they have to recover from burnout *on top* of heartbreak. Speaking from experience, I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

[@WanderingExistence]

"Us ladies"... As if there aren't men in such a position.

[@Scheherazad100]

Two months is too soon. The number of months may be different for different people. Men, just like women, are complex humans with many of the same experiences and fears as women. A man may not be able to open up to you emotionally in two months. For a lasting relationship he has to feel safe enough to open up to you emotionally.

[@teadororudy]

Amen

[@LRaine73]

I’m going to say no. The excuse is just that. He just wants what’s given freely. Been there, never again. If they can’t invest and acknowledge, kick them to the curb, even if it’s painful. I wasted 2.5 years (1.5 in the situationship ) on this bs. Guy is just non committed and playing the field. Low vibrations connection. Susan is correct 💯

[@linnaewillis619]

Nika was just too cute, she appeared in the video to give her input. She was like "Veronica I've got two words for you dump him " 😂😂

[@BeautifulDzyre]

Imo it's not our job fix a broken person. People really have to get real with themselves and heal before getting into connections.

[@sylviab.791]

Right! I let a guy go and my coworker was like your mean. She would have rather him hurt me? Lol Who knows if a man can get over insecurities who has the time?

[@gregorkrajcovic]

There is no need to make moral judgements of him. She entered the relationship to be "friends with benefits" and she was satisfied. Eventually she developed feelings for him but maybe he hasn't. If that's the situation the best would be to finish it because the original contract is no longer there. There is nobody to blame. We can only learn from it that it is not good for our selves to connect too deep (sexually, emotionally) with somebody just for fun, boredom, lust or loneliness.

[@kiringuyen]

Agreed!

[@How.Dare.You.]

What if he never specified that he only wants fwb? He is putting no effort, says its more than fwb but not relationship, agreed on not seeing others and got upset when I broke up. Its a mess

[@staci9794]

​@@How.Dare.You. Whats the current situation between u and him?

[@alexandertheamerican9663]

My ex wanted this, and I wanted marriage, I felt I respected her too much to use her body so I unfriended her. There are men out there who want a wife to love not a woman to lust

[@ItsNotAllRainbows_and_Unicorns]

People who play around are not authentically living their true calling, and one thing I have noticed in my years of life is either person is making a choice not to grow up. We're good at fooling ourselves. Love is deep, and it goes beyond just a dick in a vagina.

[@LoneImpala]

This is not looking good. If the guy is afraid and does not want a relationship from the beginning, it is what it is. He will say he is not ready for a serious relationship, then will make another excuse (can't move on from an ex, can't make future plans, let this "situationship" not a boundary for meeting other people, etc.) You will just have to make a decision if you want to stay in the "maybe" box or find someone who is not afraid of commitment (because you know you deserve better)

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Short answer: No, don't waste your time with such things if you want someone serious. If he is scared and hurt, it is not your responsibility to fix it. Let his mom do her job which she didn't do so well to begin with

[@teripersson1308]

Just over a week ago, I told my now Ex that I love him. I say 'Ex' although it never felt like I could call him my boyfriend. He didn't like labels, was scared to commit etc etc. For the last 18 months, give or take a few, I have been so patient with him but for whatever reason, he didn't reciprocate (despite telling me in a drunken moment that he did love me). For one who normally has no issue with communication, I was struggling to keep my feelings under wraps for his sake! I don't regret telling him in fact, it was quite a relief. Thank you so much Susan for your insight and your clarity. I wish I'd found you before but I'm glad to say that your advice mirrored my action xx

[@jenniferheath816]

Love you Susan! But I so disagree. She said that he seeks her out when he needs closeness. Sounds like he's using her for sex and validation. Being scared is a lie shes telling herself. She says it feels so right but he's not saying that. I wonder what would happen if she backed off, stopped sleeping with him and got busy with her own life and made herself unavailable.

[@saludosalsol]

Well you don’t know for sure, because I’m in the situation too and I’ve backed away and become unavailable many times and moved on with my life. He keeps chasing and coming back when I do that. I’m not going for him but he’ll always try anyways. I think he’s afraid to lose the connection too. Which is weird because you could really be hooking up with anyone. He said it’s special with me because we’re so “sexually compatible”.

[@saludosalsol]

@M M Yeah I think that's true. It's not as cold hearted as just a bootycall, like Susan said,, a friend with benefits is friends outside of the benefits. And we do have that. But that doesn't make it okay, because whether he's afraid of love or the responsibility of commitment (I do think that's a real fear), he would try to make it official if he thought I was the one. Either way it's a waste of time to put that energy into someone who's only gonna ever return it to you on a physical level & not deeper emotionally.

[@ladennayoung2939]

@@saludosalsol He is only chasing to get access to sleeping with you again, or to get the benefit of what he was getting out of you. Pull and walk away completely without giving him the benefit, and see what will happen. Don't just pull away for a moment, and then when he chase you again so to speak. Give him access to you in every area. Pull away altogether for your benefit. You could be wasting a lot of time and energy on the wrong person.

[@ladennayoung2939]

@@saludosalsol Girl a friends with benefits situation is very coldhearted. You don't have anything outside of that. It is not a easy pill to swallow. But accept it for what it is. If he find someone with standards/boundaries that he want to be with. He will drop you like a hot potato in a heart beat. Leaving you very hurt and confused. It is not worth it. Move on. Love and save yourself in Jesus name.

[@ladennayoung2939]

@@saludosalsol Girl. Lord help. Sexually compatible? Girl.

[@miriamschiro1773]

That “with benefits” is so masochistic. Well because was a male that came up with that. A lot of guys do have a fear of a real relationship but want someone preferably a friend that would not turn it into a relationship but is willing to have sex with them when the sexual desire arises. So fear of a real relationship IS why that came up for many reasons fear of negative baggage a woman might have, fear of being played on, fear of getting deep into a relationship just to find out she’s the wrong one or she decided to cheat on him. And so whatever the fear reason behind it alot of guys do that because well many reasons for THEIR benefit hence the term “with benefits” aka they like the woman and want to hav sex but they 1) want it to be an open relationship to be free in case they find the right one they really want to be with 2) they do not want to settle down with anyone but wants to have sex with someone when the sexual urge arises until they ready to settle down. 3) they like the idea of not being hooked up but being able to have sex with their friend if they want and she allows it of course. In my opinion for me it’s not a good idea. There are many women that would like that too BUT in those cases ALWAYS ALWAYS one or the other get attached and one of them ends up getting hurt in the long run if they both in the long run don’t commit to having a real relationship

[@pam164]

Its worse when you have been seeing a man for 3 years he finishes it for another woman he met but wanted me as a Fwb that really hurt me and i said no.

[@PossumLover1111]

You showed real strength and dignity for yourself by saying 'no'. I admire you.

[@pam164]

@@PossumLover1111 Thank you very much that means a lot.

[@OlderWomenRock]

Oh my I have such a different take on relationship mentioned . I would be interested to know does he go out with her ? Has she met any friends or family on either side ? Or is it all behind closed doors and private . If so that’s so terribly unhealthy if you want more . I have seen friends with benefits become more but rarely . One partner usually wants more , to take it to the next level . I think if at any point you realise you want to be a legitimate couple and the other does not , you have to leave or there will be tears . I don’t think we should ever wait for anybody to commit to us ( not meaning actual marriage ) or try to force anybody . Friends with Benefits would only make me want love more , it would make me feel more empty . That’s just me of course .

[@gailsmith7399]

Empty and bad on self esteem. FWB shows no respect for a womans desires.

[@OlderWomenRock]

Gail Smith Gail I’ve known a few woman who have chosen it . If they are in the drivers seat and emotionally unattached it works for some . When I was much younger it worked for me but ! The guys most likely wanted more . I wasn’t attached in any way . I didn’t want a future with them , it was only in the mean time . I don’t want this arrangement these days but it was ok at the time .

[@83npat]

This was very bad advice from Susan. This is an adult woman and she needs to take life as it is. This man is using her until something better comes along. The "no title" allows him to date and pursue other women without getting in trouble while still having sex with her. At this moment he is probably looking for better. The viewer should accept that she has disappointed herself and should do some self care. Would you want someone if you have to force a relationship?

[@kirsten1007]

I agree

[@ParisTNT]

I disagree with you. Based on how the question was formulated I feel Susan’s reply was spot on.

[@83npat]

@M M. Exactly.

[@FarzanItis]

I bet who ever consults you as a friend as a doctor or as a mentor they are truly blessed to be in your presence you are indeed Exquisite and Insightful you are the best Thank you.

[@SusanWinter]

Wow, thank you!

[@boredAF244]

I guess I have to leave, because I stopped the physical relationship long ago and he keeps trying to be around but as soon as I bring out the word relationship, he says he doesn't want it

[@SSL_SSL]

Hello Susan, aka The Love Goddess!! You are such a breath of fresh air. That's something I need right now. I have friends without benefits.

[@janiebutterfly5251]

Veronica I'm with I'm going through same thing thank you Susan for doing this I really needed this today going through this now 😢😢😢 loved him for years but fwb that's all he wants😢😢

[@SusanWinter]

Oh my goodness, Janie. I'm thrilled this is the video today!

[@adamard7660]

I'm Single ladies, and I've experienced this from the male side. If you are the opposite sex version of me, then connect. Two people who are tired of the game playing and time wasting and being other people's convenience when they're are priority our highly, highly, highly compatible!!! :)))

[@LizyGonzalez94]

I was just looking for all different points of view but you gave the answer right away. Thanks!

[@frogazonbuttonup950]

Hi Susan! Fyi... me and my young beau are still going strong. Thank you for your advice early on. Would you attend our wedding someday? Lol... since I credit you with our longevity😉

[@SusanWinter]

Lani!!! This is FANTASTIC!! I'd absolutely love an invitation. I'm thrilled for you both. Thank you for sharing this with me!!

[@frogazonbuttonup950]

@@SusanWinter you rock!

[@ParisTNT]

Very good video. So informative, clear and non-judgemental. Thank you, Susan 🥰

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for watching!

[@212TL]

I like your thought out responses and factor in the grey areas. Everyone is not the same and everyone explanation for why someone is the way they are isn't the same. I prefer your responses-not a typical one size fits all responses. Listening to your girlfriends is the worst thing to do! lol, its always bitter and typical, provides no real wisdom.

[@Katrica670]

@4:37-4:59 I told my best friend that if all communications ends after sex, then that is just a hook up, just a fling. But then I have another female in my life where her "guy" still calls her a lot, he calls more than he texts, but if he can't talk or is too tired to talk, he will have full text conversations with her. This one also does monetary stuff for her sometimes, she just hasn't met anyone for him, neither his kids, nor aunt's and uncles, nor parents overseas! What do you think? 🤔 I am trying to advise them. Do you think the 1st one is just a meaningless drawn out fling/hook up situation, and the other a more meaningful thing so a situationship? 👀🧐🤔

[@lolabola3599]

What to do when a guy you dating have toxic friends, like psychopath, he call him and check on him all the time and talk lot of shit about me ??

[@cbullard100]

What if he’s an old flame that has the-surfaced. He has also been in a long relationship. I would like more but….

[@DSNCB919]

Dont do it

[@abdurrahmanmose4111]

I love you so much my friend

[@margaretguaragna6504]

Wonderful wonderful advice . Love it thank you !!

[@carolinaflaxman6740]

Love this explanation it does totally make sense I will do it 👏

[@scorpiochic2]

Hi Susan or any followers that may know, any videos on your thoughts on when we think the person we meet is our Twinflame

[@TheeMislolsmileyface]

Perfect timing ❤️

[@Devonairereacts]

I think I’m kinda like him but imma ask her out soon.

[@lenibethnolasco4960]

I’m in that same situation

[@leeorsay2571]

I been here for so long but I'm single man, looking for a good relationship in life

[@victoriafontana3520]

Problem is many men are not like you.and I think the more women that men sleep with the more difficult it becomes to stick with just one.Its not only how you feel with them, in bed . IT'S how you feel with them as a whole person outside of bed. Sex is only the , frosting on the cake when you have a good relationship. And any man who says he wants to date but nothing serious. Means he wants to go to bed with you, and when he's tired of you, he's still looking for something better. Some women are not stupid. Intimacy in bed lasts only a short while. But a true loving relationship keeps building day by day.

[@leeorsay2571]

@@victoriafontana3520 ,so true

[@leeorsay2571]

@@victoriafontana3520 ,I'm a broker hearts man

[@leeorsay2571]

Right now, I need a good relationship in my life

[@victoriafontana3520]

@@leeorsay2571 it takes two people to build a good foundation, for a loving relationship. Doesn't work if it's one-sided. It's not so much finding the right person it is being the right person.. Unfortunately a lot of people are not honest. Love is a decision not necessarily A feeling. To be with one person, and making their happiness come before yours. It's a dance a give and receive. I wish I knew then what I know now. I gave and gave and never received much. But once you have children it's not about you anymore. So people stay in lousy marriages, for the sake of the children. Once two people stop caring about each other. Being thoughtful, and doing loving things for each other. And there's a lack of respect. It starts going down the drain.

[@annly666]

"this "entanglement" that we share". hahhaha :p

[@datingdiaries1681]

All is possible but only if you just walk away and don't return until you get what you want .....usually if they get the milk for free past 90 days it just doesn't happen from my observation

[@lindsay5348]

Thank you 🙏

[@MonaHernandez-vk5mr]

I'm in a friend with benefits with an ex who is married to a Indian girl for years he has been married, I told him I didn't care that he is married, I really like him but I'm hoping that someday we are exclusive and that things don't work out with his wife, I'm hoping to God they get divorce, what can I do, he lives in another state and I live in another state

[@ikras9248]

❤️

[@emilymann4056]

HI Susan. can someone who ghosted you from a casual relationship Unghost you?

[@joesandstrom4111]

They certainly can if they care, are still attracted, want some action, and you haven’t screwed it up by being needy, desperate, or begging. The best course of action is to just disappear immediately, for an extended time, and let them wonder why you haven’t reached out. Let them come to you, maybe ping them after 30+ days or longer, if you must. They may only come back once for nostalgia and to feed their ego / desires. Likely if they’ve done it once, they’ll do it again. Therefore, at the very least, you are owed a sincere apology, and boundaries must be set before agreeing to anything.

[@SusanWinter]

Great question! Thursday's Live will be on this very topic! I hope to see you there, Emily.

[@joesandstrom4111]

newinhaven Not all men need any of that. It’s a two way streak, though. Many women do the same. Can’t just blame men. It seems that most women take the lead from men, however. Many men act poorly. In turn, women start treating men the way they’ve been treated and sometimes have pre-judgement, and see bad behavior as normalized. The bad behavior is on both sides.

[@emilymann4056]

Susan Winter ive been new to your videos will be there

[@emilymann4056]

Susan Winter what time is Thursday’s Live Susan ?

[@victoriaperkovic4938]

No

[@whiterobin01]

This is me too... Just like Veronica, but two years. I finally said I need more. No answer. Sooo painful.

[@pam164]

Means he doesn't want to give more after 2 years.

[@ItsNotAllRainbows_and_Unicorns]

@ Miss Satenik Well, you did get an answer. Silence can be very loud. Sorry that you shared all that time with him (not just several months, but two years, Ouch) to be given the cold shoulder at the end. I feel for you. Hopefully you'll be able to heal and move one. I know listening Susan is of help ;)

[@woahsaski6663]

How do people submit these questions so she responds? I personally want to send an email to Susan but I don’t know how to get in contact....

[@joesandstrom4111]

I believe these questions come from her paying clients. I too wanted to email Susan at one point, but only see a ‘Media’ contact email address on the website.

[@SusanWinter]

Hi Tayvahn, I host a weekly Live every Thursday, where we chat a different topic weekly. Sometimes, I'll draw questions from there!

[@SusanWinter]

Hello Joe, Join our weekly Live conversations!

[@joesandstrom4111]

Susan Winter See you there! I’ve been participating during the weekly Thursday Live video chats here on KZbin. Or is there another Live conversation that you’re referring to?

[@woahsaski6663]

What time do you go live on Thursdays?

[@ayoungmannamedfrank6174]

the comments lol

[@DennisNowland]

As a man, I can tell you that he will use you for however long it suits him. Time will tell.

[@Spaceshipbox]

LOL, Girls can be equally the same way. I should know...

[@83npat]

Tough advice but fair advice.

[@pam164]

Yes i think men do this more women can not switch off their emotions and after sex feel close to them. Men can have sex zip up and leave and not give it much thought!

[@daenerysmax6267]

@@pam164 women to that too. I definitely do.

[@ItsNotAllRainbows_and_Unicorns]

@@pam164 And women don't?

[@whatrtheodds]

💖

[@k.w.1459]

Men can compartmentalize like nobody’s business! That’s why he can be great with you and then you don’t hear from him otherwise until he wants to get something

[@Bethms123]

I ended a situationship 8 months ago. He recently came back around and propositioned me. I did not agree or disagree-- instead my response was "I would like a clear understanding of what this means to you." He got uncomfortable and left! 🤣 Message received, lol. I miss him, but I won't be intimate at the expense of myself. I pass no judgment on others who would make a different decision, though.

[@radlyn7234]

Am I the only one who think that friends with benefits or people dating (sleeping) with different other people isn’t OK, why some women accept this humiliation, don’t fool yourself by calling it being independent women or looking for excuses for a man like he isn’t ready, he is afraid ... if a man wants you, he wants only you, period. Just wake up.

[@daenerysmax6267]

Why is it humiliating? Women want to have multiple men as well.

[@adj5767]

@@daenerysmax6267 why? She only makes her self emotionally cheapened and losing her precious female energy on these men. She is the loser in the end🙄

[@daenerysmax6267]

@@adj5767 what? That doesn't make any sense. At all. How is she cheapened in any way? She has a harem of men serving her. She the queeeen!

[@joesandstrom4111]

I agree with the original commenter, as well as the other comments. Works for some, not for others. Personally, I don’t like the idea because someone is usually more invested and when it ends, they’re blindsided, it hurts, someone feels unworthy of continuation, and leaves them with a void. I wouldn’t want to feel like that, and have too much self respect to put someone else through it. If both parties truly are on the same page, it can work and end easily, I guess... but in my opinion, one person is confident in their head that they do not want a relationship and still have their eyes open while the other is open minded, but hopeful that they can win the other person over and it could become something more. Once it’s over, both parties regret not using that time to go out and meet a real partner, especially the one who was more invested and blind-sided.

[@radlyn7234]

Joe Sandstrom very well explained !

[@nicholablakely2832]

Such great advice, so many people degrade a friends with benefits arrangement but at the end of the day, it’s between you and the other person and it has nothing to do with anybody else. It doesn’t have to be everything all at once, you can have an exclusive arrangement and a beautiful connection that may take time to get to where you really want it. I love the sympathetic grounded and optimistic way Susan handles these complex situations, just brilliant ☺️

[@shannond8029]

I told my FWB I'm done and it was time for him to go find his girl and vice versa, his response after years was (ha ha ) I went into NC Immediately and now its been 4 months without a word from him. I do have to say I've learned the hard way but I did learn. One other big thing that I learned was what a dismissive avoidant is like and I now know all 4 of the Attachment styles. Next! And never again. Learn and turn is what I call this lesson ❤

[@SusanWinter]

Learn and turn, I love it!!

[@datingdiaries1681]

Yes these are definetly relationships they just refuse to acknowledge!

[@janecard2060]

I think it's time to move on.....

[@daviddickenson1243]

Hello Jane

[@daviddickenson1243]

I like to get to know you

[@dulciedirwai9633]

Thank you so much Susan for your expert advice. I'm in the same boat with a guy whom I've been Fwb with for almost a year now. He's pursuing another girl (they're just getting to know each other according to him)but still constantly talks to me as if I'm his girlfriend. It's so confusing and frustrating

[@silencedxdesire]

I think it’s more about narcissism. Discard, degrade.. without a label it’s like they aren’t held accountable for anything. Pathological lying. It’s psychology

[@AdverbsAndNouns]

It all started with friends with benefits.. we both agreed on it.. 3 years later, 2 babies and we are still together lol. I didnt expect that.

[@emabella1000]

Is it a good relationship?

[@AdverbsAndNouns]

It's alright, ups and downs.

[@tanmays6509]

@@AdverbsAndNouns congratulations

[@akatsukigaming18]

Did you go for a relationship after Fwbs

[@bathroomdiaries5393]

how did it transition and how often were u seeing each other during friends with benefits

[@mdmmalou]

Friends with benefits doesn't exisist at all. The name is misleading. Be real: You are NO friends. You'r just using each other for sex in a superficial manner.. its sad! Because you'll NEVER be friends, let alone become lovers! Friends with benefits is just to consume each other for own purpose. No future, no depth, no progress, no nothing! Maybe it sounds smooth...'friends with 'benefits'... Real friends respect you. "Friends with benefits" are Pumpadumps! Of course they don't want to share anything else with you besites that.. Because they are far from a friend. These are just booty calls, wake up! You are no friends at all and not the only on the shelf to pump and dump = benefits...👭👭👭👭👭

[@gailsmith7399]

Very well said. Nevermind bad on your self esteem and moral worth.

[@annly666]

well said

[@yolandakerr7368]

I had to end my friends with befits I told him I was in love with him and can't just be his friend anymore I have too many feelings and I never heard from him again it was painful and I love him but I love ME more

[@rene5600]

I do not believe in benefits ???? what kinda benefits sex paying all their stuff etc its modern form of indeed .prostition in a way but just nicer said ....a friend is a friend nothing else sex is sex nothing else LOVE IS LOVE nothing else .

[@JOHNLAURO2012]

FWB is danger, Be safe . Susan I love you . John xox many Blessings and peace. Meet and greet in LA Soon please

[@cristiancortes9]

What the hell is wrong with people? If you are not getting a relationship then you are getting used..and if you started this FWB crap and now changed your mind, haha you were for free and now yoi sell you at a high price? Hard to accept

[@alexandramaria7754]

Dear Susan, I love how you approach these topics! A 10-month friend isn't a boyfriend? The truth is they have a relationship because friendship doesn't involve sexual intercourse, and this is why I don't understand at all this new dynamics in dating. Reminds me of the video you did a long time ago when one called "why playing full out gets the love you want!". Friends with benefits might be "amazing" for casual whatever, but why not share our bodies, souls, and beliefs with someone who wants to be full in like us? Have a lovely week! 💖 Alexandra

[@gabbymontoya2085]

A year & half with no label and get ignored I was done with the BS

[@sweethearts86]

God, Susan, every time I come to your channel, I feel so much delight. You're amazing. I absolutely love you.

[@aishaet4953]

Is it advisable to stop having sex while still seeing them?

[@bobburch2151]

What do you think of a big age difference. I mean about 40 years

[@schmetterling4477]

If you are fifty and she is ten, then you better turn yourself in before the police does it for you. If you are sixty and she is twenty, then both of you need a therapist, but not the same one.

[@coolqh]

Yeah... try 2 years in this.

[@fatemdaraya1007]

Thank you Susan. Hi Nikka :)

[@maryamzizi13]

I love you so much Susan ❤️❤️

[@SusanWinter]

Hey... you're #1!!!

[@landriahm6161]

He said he’s scare the label will ruin what we have but see me in the future and wants a baby now! WTH is wrong with men these days.

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

You are choosing boys.

[@yayyay2194]

May be exclusive for her ..but not him. If it actually was ... you would have a title .... hope you enjoy your number on his list ...

[@jacquinewman8125]

Hi Susan... Thank you so much for this, once again what you say is making so much sense. Our connection seems to be like Veronica's situation. We have spoken before and you have given some advice, but this is so frustrating. It's been about 7 months and the 2nd time we've been here. I actually told him exactly this, that we are actually committed and that him saying he can't doesn't sit well with me. When we see each other it's a happy situation, but he has all sorts on the go including a group of friends who control his life... I seem to be a reprieve from them because I am not part of the click, I am special in my own right. He backed off when he realized we were getting too close, but still seeks me out, like Veronica's situation. I am so on the verge of telling him I'm done, yet I do think we have a chance. You always seem to share items that are so pertinent to me and my life. Once again, thank you for your incredible work.

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you for watching!

[@Sebastian-ff1wr]

It's an indisputable fact that First Impression means everything. At this point, It's very safe to assume that he will never change for you. Start dating, time is never on your side. Don't waste your time.

[@alexflips393]

Thank you for the video Susan.

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for watching!

[@faezahjumahat4196]

Hai Susan Good AfterNoon From Singapore! What If 'A Friends With Benefits' Wants To Removed The Title Growing From Friendship To A BoyFriend/ GirlFriend Commitment To A Whole New Relationship For A Commitment And Communication To Be Together Without Judging Or PreJudiced? Can Real Feeling's Develops Over A Time Apart From Each Other Or Have A Deep Connection With A Man Or A Guy?

[@0.1.feb.]

Eh.

[@milachyc88]

Wow what a great advice ❤️☺️🙌🏽 You are awesome and I just love your content , always on point!

[@brieze1233]

Susan I so needed this advice 4 obvious reasons..thx.

[@iAM-cr8li]

Yes ...I want the unlike veronica part😊

[@lyndamcmullen9410]

♥️

[@joemancini2988]

I’m more interested in getting my partner into being a friend with benefits.

[@missamericausa]

👍🏼👍🏼💫💫💫

[@SandorNemeth-k9g]

Non commitment ' perfect way out between all party's.