The Reason We Fear Our POWER

[@michaelhellerslien]

"Emotion is not who I am. It is what I feel." Well said!

[@CandacevanDell]

Michael Hellerslien Thank you 🙏🏻

[@ririzamel285]

very well said.

[@fabriceabraham6404]

But sometimes they overwhelm you and you don’t even know how to deal with that

[@suzsiz]

I often get waves of grief/ emotions from solar plexus that I know stem from my childhood. Im a sponge and Ive absorbed everything from my toxic family system.

[@emmaslyons]

Also addiction in the form of avoidance... which I think is something people often overlook. Anorexics are just overeaters 'in control' and it's the same for all other forms of avoidance. We can get addicted to negative emotions - sadness, anger and recreate situations and these feelings over and again in our lives.

[@11thsm]

I’m literally listening to this at the gym. Still working on maintaining perfection. The most valuable attention (validation) I have gotten in my life is from my body. I judge myself. I won’t love me if I’m out of shape. I only love myself when I feel in control of myself and my external world. My kids love me but I can’t even be real with them because I’m afraid of being real. Nobody likes the real me. Nobody even knows the real me. Not even me. I have so much work to do. What am I afraid of? Not being worthy of my own love? I love myself when I’m perfect and everything is perfect. I’m so hard on myself when it isn’t.

[@ludwingrivera1828]

Same girl same but I don’t have kids

[@alexandranunez7542]

Yes your not alone same here.

[@Kliciouslykool]

Sameeee

[@UnknownWizz]

I’m the same way I always force myself to workout, and I always try to discipline myself way too much but what I learned from that is to learn to enjoy myself even when I’m not doing any of those things. It’s perfectly fine to work on your body but the days where you just feel like having free time enjoy what you’re doing in that moment and don’t let that inner voice talk to you badly. It might say “I’m not being productive today” or “I need to do something”. Know that the work you already did for yourself is still paying off and your not going to completely stop taking care of yourself. You deserve free time for your efforts. If it’s hard to be yourself around people and with yourself go with what feels the most natural to you. If you are with people and you don’t know how to truly express yourself say what feels the most true and grounded in yourself. If your alone and you want to spend time to yourself but unsure how, do what feels the best to you. Once you start to become right within you will naturally start to become your true self. Some might not like who you are but that doesn’t matter because as long as you go what feels right within in every area in your life you will become your true self. It will take some time because you will have to understand how you would react in a certain situation, how you truly express yourself, your personality traits and character. But as long as you do and say what feels right and the most truthful then you will become your true self. I hope this helps you on your journey❤️‍🔥

[@criseldapita401]

"When you're safe you're not authentic." WOW

[@jessiew4103]

What I have given too much power to: My job Romantic relationships Other people/authority

[@tommathew2354]

I loved that you got carried away enough to drop a F-bomb.

[@CandacevanDell]

Tom Mathew ha ha it happens 😜

[@ttbsdkmx]

😂😂 love it too

[@kardoyle]

Oh my ____!!!!! How in the world !?!? You are SO GiFTED at explaining this monkey on my back !!! Taken my power back 🤲🏻☝🏻✨🙏🏻🌷❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌺🎨

[@emmabhictoriadroll3390]

SISTER..I’m freaked! I’ve been doing self love affirmations & would feel good, then all these self critical thoughts came up & unworthiness & I ended up having a panic attack. I asked the universe to please help give me a solution.. & then this appears a day later. Thank you so much beautiful!

[@kardoyle]

I’m starting to get a feeling she’s an angel on earth because I feel like you do …like she saved me from drowning in my own misery

[@ririzamel285]

@@kardoyle yes, an EARTH ANGEL. i think all the spiritual teachers are. arent they?

[@zzulm]

Something I recently learned is to give compassion and love to our emotions. Like when we're setting boundaries with others and feel guilty at the beginning, treat that guilt with love.

[@cosmicqueen7985]

Exactly what I needed to hear today, thank you so much beautiful.

[@CandacevanDell]

Cosmic Queen That makes me happy 😁

[@TulaFae]

Gonna relisten to this a few times. There are so many ways to go deeper into this subject. I have been quite aware how I give my power away, even to those that aren't even asking for it.

[@OpticNerv11]

I gave and gave and let people take my power and became so hurt from always being forgiving and being the bigger person . Now l feel like a bitter monster . I always knew my soul mission but l feel as though l’ve failed now . It hurts so bad .

[@missjenny2907]

I have been looking for that understanding all my life (41 years). "MY EMOTIONS ARE NOT WHO I AM". You have changed my life in one sentence.

[@betocampainha]

I'm sure you don't know how your powerful words have saved me today, after watching a few of your videos. God bless the internet, I'm brwzilian, live in the middle of the Amazon Rainforest and live in a century where it was possible to reach your words so far away from here. Keep up the good work. The content is so accurate to what we need to hear. Congrats and namasté! ❤

[@d3a1990]

Oh my gosh. The clarity from these videos. Wow.

[@alexandranunez7542]

I'm afraid of my own light and i don't know why? It's disabling 😞 wow okay I've never admitted it im afraid I don't feel safe...

[@danielr3522]

The timing of your videos is usually so good, it's almost eerie. We're so lucky to have access to teachings such as these, I know I for one find them so helpful at a time when I'm processing a lot of mental, emotional, and energetic stuff. Thanks Candace, you're the best :-)

[@CandacevanDell]

Daniel R Amazing thank you, I Love this 😇💫

[@silentgrove7670]

I spoke to a "potential" new friend today and already that moment came when I shared just a simple sadness and it was dismissed. I called them on it right away. Society in general is not good at validating even small emotions. I am thankful to have you to listen to as you get it. I cried towards the end of the video today. It feels so good to release sadness and loneliness.

[@robynwhittaker8299]

I listen to you every night. I’m a Christian. I add your thoughts to my Bible readings and it’s a perfect combination.

[@Sarah-gj3op]

I just have nothing but absolute LOVE for you. Thank you beautiful soul from the depths of my heart! reeeallnesss

[@madonnahooper9641]

Love this ❤️ Feeling safe with ourselves, having my own back, bottom line. I am so much more aware of this thanks to you. I have learnt from you if I validate my negative emotions for my inner child it helps me accept myself no matter what and that makes me feel SAFE! ❤️

[@carolinacerqueira847]

I wish I had addiction to improviment, It would work better than addiction to procrastination because I can't find what to do with my life, feeling of lack of purpose. Every time I think I found it, it was a mistake. I feel like seeking for something that doesn't exist.

[@zorkacastrillon]

Thank you beautiful for working from your soul 💜 you inspire us ✨

[@CandacevanDell]

Zorka Castrillon Thank you sweetheart 🦋

[@TheChiBomb]

Thank you Candace. Everytime I need a dose of some hard hitting advice and guidance...poof!...your videos appear and they're exactly on the thing I'm struggling with at the moment. I feel more empowered and like I'm on the right track Thank you for the work you do :)

[@CandacevanDell]

Awwww Love this!! I'm so happy my work is in alignment with you ;-)

[@eceerdem317]

Candace. Again. The exact right time for me to watch this video. Right now. I am speechless.

[@eceerdem317]

This shit makes me crazy each time is it a collective consciousness kind of a thing? 😂

[@hannahmiller7347]

Same here also! Maybe its Aries season....about embracing our innate power and fire of I AM; loving that we just Are, and celebrating what Being allows us to do...enjoying ourselves with our passion/talent/practicing a skill

[@eceerdem317]

@@hannahmiller7347 I don't know about seasons and astrology but it sounds very interesting. Any suggestions for me to learn further?

[@CandacevanDell]

Ece Erdem Amazing! It is what I would call a “soul tribe” thing! Those of us who are connected spiritually usually go through similar things at a similar time. I call it the collective consciousness ✨🦋

[@hannahmiller7347]

@@eceerdem317 honestly the most helpful thing for me has been listening to tarot/astrology youtube videos often and picking up on what symbols & imagery are connected with each sign, and then comparing this info with what I pick up on in daily life...some channels that have helped me learn a lot are the quietest revolution, the trap witch, Ojc astrology, Joanna the medium, Sarah vrba and Chris witecki/soulgardentv's weekly "namaste today" videos. Learning about this stuff has helped me to understand all the signs as facets within my own soul, which are like different approaches/energies I can use to help me problem solve and see myself more clearly! Much love :)

[@MultidimensionalProductions]

I love you so much! thank you for sharing this I'm feeling this exact thing right now, I'm seeing through all my bullshit and pain but holding space for myself now. Reparenting this part of myself and merging my feminine side back in. This energy has been crazy healing

[@stelliumX5]

Wow! Around 7:03 is when it clicked! I’m on this journey. Now I see it. I’ve done a lot of inner work. I’m closing out the cycle of that and now it’s time to embrace the next. But, the new cycle’s excitement has me nervous. It’s the the old is pushing me out but my resistance towards the new is causing me to stay stuck. This was awesome. I talk to myself alll the time. I’m going to ask myself that question. This was awesome! 💞💞💚

[@haleymakenna9293]

Wow. This couldn’t have been timed more perfect for me in what I’m going through. Thank you, Candance. 🙏🏼

[@TwoFuzzies]

I really enjoyed this video. You are such a Goddess and I love that your work is inspired by your own journey and healing process. It's rare to find someone as genuine as you. I'm honestly not able to watch as many videos for this reason haha. My girlfriend has PTSD and it had bled into my life to the point where I feel I can't do my own inner healing because i'm always on edge for something thats about to explode. Much of her anxiety gets centered on me so its hard to focus on myself for any length of time. I dont like this cycle and i'm trying to break it or change what/who is not working for me... Thank you Candace ❤

[@CandacevanDell]

Jazmyn Rachel Love Wow this is amazing! It’s so great that you are so aware! That is the first key to shifting it. Sending you light 🌟on your journey!!

[@TwoFuzzies]

@@CandacevanDell Thank you so much you're awesome 😊

[@amoses585]

This video encapsulates my self discovery journey perfectly. Just learning to live in this current reality with a better understanding of self independent of external influence.

[@boogaria554]

My favorite part was the F Bomb. So authentic. I loved it. If anybody would be offended ( which I doubt), it would be their fucking problem. Peace be with you. Namaste.💗💗💗💗Love your talks. They help me alot!!

[@Ellael98]

Your videos are incredibly helpful. It’s so amazing how you break down the whole trauma experience and explain how we can handle our emotions. Thank you so much. 🌸💜

[@Laura-we6xi]

Wow what you said it's amazing.I started to heal when I became really depressed and I cried a lot.

[@ErikaWolf93]

@7:38 "whatever the fuck it is LOL whoops". lol i loved that part. thank you for another great video. what im currently going through. afraid of getting out of my own way and embracing my power.

[@jenla6852]

Been watching your content for over three years snd always always come back to them. This is exactly what I’m going through at the moment. Thank you for existing 💗

[@tdsefude2496]

Thank you so much once more Candace :) all I needed to hear ..much love & light always ..

[@keithmccaslyn2527]

Candace I Love ya,yer outta site!! Every time I watch your video's, Im commenting to you telepathically in response,to what all you're saying,so deep,connected,clear and grounded. thank you deeply for coming to this planet and giving it a go,for your higher purpose-'mission',dedication and heart. Indeed emotional intelligence is truly where its at. peace,love,goodwill without the online bullshit ,to you ,your beloved one and to your connections world wide. authentically. Keith.

[@Laura-we6xi]

I need to rewatch this a lot of times.Thanks ♥️

[@Nature_soul1]

I resonate with you so much. I honour your journey and your being 🌞you're a sunshine 🔆 thank you for sharing this 💗🙏

[@heathermaurer5999]

I loved the F-bomb too! She’s feeling what she says! And btw.....she’s sooooo pretty

[@Thirdeyepirate]

Such cool stuff!! LOOOOVE Candace! 🙏🏻✨😘😘😘😘

[@CandacevanDell]

Carli Howell-Crespi Yay, Thank you 🎉😁💫

[@Nawsteezy]

Candace your videos are great!! i just had an "ohhh, now I get it" moment...aha

[@florinegrange850]

My god , thank you so much for this bounch of light ! That's resonate strongly !

[@akuola1182]

:-D Your eyes are ocean blue... beautifulll.... and your advices are very good. Thank you for your words. I don't feel alone thx to your words.

[@levar25yrs]

You are super accurate. Blessings to you.

[@CandacevanDell]

George Yelverton Awww Thanks so much!!

[@florinegrange850]

Thank you SO MUCH , that's clearing my mind so much and resonate a lot inside ! Gratefulness

[@benkpostel2956]

This helped me a lot, going to work on it ! Thank you !!

[@CandacevanDell]

benk postel I’m so glad 😇🌟

[@stoogey1]

This video speaks to me. I had a VERY traumatic childhood. When I was 8 I learned that I was adopted, after I learned I was I asked my adopted family if I could see my bio parents. Everyone said no and I got real mad and screamed out that I wished they all would die. 15 days after my 9th birthday my mom died, and a week after that my grandad died. A year after that my brother died, and 1 year after that my dad died. 2 years after that my uncle died, I buried my entire family before I left elementary school. I was angry at god and the universe (I still am.) When my mom died my family told me not to cry or ask dad about mom dying, he was not coping with mom's death real well. I got my rear busted for trying to jump in mom casket before they closed it. I've kept those emotions in me for 31 years and I know this isn't me. I binge eat, play video games, and smoke to numb the feeling that I think it's my fault they died. I keep having dreams of flying people to airports to get treatments and I know that this thought I have about myself isn't helping me get to where I need to be.

[@levar25yrs]

Word!

[@CandacevanDell]

Wow, you are so strong and have been through a LOT! I am here to help you process some of those emotions when you are ready!! I’m happy you are recognizing all of this and being real about your pain! You are not alone 🙏🏻✨

[@patbanta342]

I’m speechless. You, Miss Candace, are in your flow. What you’re doing is your purpose. Blessings....

[@fumanelusenga951]

Am definately puting this video in my healing toolbox, much needed and appreciated, Thank you

[@tripfall224]

What a wonderful video. As always 😀

[@munaabdel-raziq5977]

Wow, Your insights inspire me💫✨ I’m more aware of the power I’ve always given external things over me. Lately, every time i’m triggered, I’m aware of this and i choose my own power :)

[@wiseonewizardry178]

Love your videos definitely an inspiration and learning experience.... Especially when we most need of education and uplifting.

[@CandacevanDell]

ALIEN GAMER INVASION Wonderful, thank you!!

[@wiseonewizardry178]

@@CandacevanDell ♥️

[@chapplepeach29]

You did it again Candace! Thank you. I love it

[@markholcombe9364]

This makes sense to me. Thanks again Candance, thanks for the wisdom.

[@levar25yrs]

Instant fan. I mean I am a fan of your page on IG but I am now an official fan.

[@CandacevanDell]

George Yelverton Awwww YAY!!!😁

[@bodymindsoul60]

This is DYNAMITE, ty, Candace! Wonderful reminder in these challenging times!

[@Nature_soul1]

Liz, you're always in your head. Haha where else am I supposed to be? I always am. It's just about how clear I am? You're the best I love your work x

[@davepelvin130]

Amazing… love your walk through and validation!

[@winniewinkles]

Love your work soo much Candace, thank you >3

[@sagestarfield3894]

Incredibly powerful and intelligent. Thank you so much.

[@zzulm]

Your videos are gold. Thanks

[@anaramirez4488]

Omg 😳 what an eye opener 🤯

[@Nanis2007]

Thank you! 💖💖

[@CandacevanDell]

Anna Flores Very Welcome!

[@johnbehneman1546]

Thank you so much!!!! You met me where I am at. Now I got to feel it to heal it. I learned so much!!! I have some work to do.

[@czitopou1]

Amazing! Thank you from Greece!!

[@mariazamora4595]

When a was a little girl i dont undertand nothing, the Roller coaster of feelings, emotions, energies. The only thing i know was my devotion to angels. Now days we have a lot of information about highly sensitive people, but i have to discover by my self, the why make search answers. Live put me through so Manu test and lessons to show me the answers that i need and to show me who i am , and what i am capable. I have been working in my spirituality for more than 15 years, i work in my balance everyday. When you have a gift it comes with a lot of skills, i denied it, i reject it, i dont wanted to haved because When i was young i dientes know how to handdle it, and was destroying myself. I dont drink it is like anesthecia, i dont do anything that doesnt allows me to use my brain, i love to think and use all my senses. My fear was when you know the meaning of destruction, self destruction, my angels, my guides, my inner guide shows me first responsabilities and the damage it can cause if i dont used properly. They show me how to heal my self and help others. The core of my life is uncondional love . I dont wanted money, i dont wanted to be famous, my focus is my spiritual path and increase my gift and help others. I dont know if i am afraid, my focus is spiritual growth.

[@fashionhome7912]

I will send you email . Just wanna say I was in such state of fear and red so many books from New Age and finnaly I pray to God and I received such a piece that is above every fear and emotion . I love your work 💎🌹

[@Ms007ok]

Really helpful video, thank you. I also want to learn how to accept people as they are

[@flyprincess69]

I just started listening to your videos this morning and I instantly felt better....wow!

[@kevinkoch2585]

great Video Candace! great advice

[@AStarryEyedLife]

Candace you are amazing

[@desertangelfish140]

People flipping out, losing their 💩and blaming me for their discomfort and all I basically did was just walk on the room! 🤔🤯

[@gordonj498]

This is a great video with a phenomenally uplifting message. It is thought provoking and yet hugely challenging. Can I be brave enough to let go of my addictions and face up to all my insecurities maybe even leave a job I hate?

[@plutosprincess]

I’m so glad I found you...

[@suzyliller9081]

Candace you’re a blessing!

[@ttbsdkmx]

GeT real about how you feel so you can heal. Beautiful lady this works like magick. Thank you. Love you so much. 🥰 God bless you and your work. 😇🙏

[@leslie-austinpattison7714]

Wow, right on ! Thank you so much. My heart is feeling lighter now .

[@levar25yrs]

Just finished it and it's real af.

[@CandacevanDell]

George Yelverton 🙌🏻🙌🏻🌟

[@pernlllelykke]

Encredible! ❤

[@dseer13]

how do we develop the comfortablity in vulnerability?

[@graziacavasino8884]

By knowing that behind everything there is a benign design supporting us, despite appearances.

[@Violet-zy3ly]

New subscriber, thanks for sharing.

[@aprilsealy357]

Im addicted to alcohol and when i drink i feel like thats when my neglected inner child comes out like its screaming. Im so glad i found your videos. I drank last night and lately i have been questioning who i am and been living in fear and i went looking at my old things from childhood crying and i had a dream i got bit by a poisonous snake on my left hand and in my dream i felt like the venom was spreading paralyzing me and the interpretation of the dream said my inner child is neglected and im living in fear and i feel like i woke up realizing my deep rooted fear in my inner child has been thriving and not going to the root of my problems. Im woke now. I am sensitive and always knew my sensitivity could be used in a good way instead of a bad way, I just didnt know how to accept my self so i turned to alcohol and i hate drinking.

[@willmooney6096]

Some times I gotta stop quick jump back to the light and love and then go back to scary

[@ravencry8357]

Such a great video. Thank you sooooo much. That was, what I needed to hear. So many notes I wrote down. Again, thank you so much. You are doing a great job. Greetings from Germany ;-)

[@mnb2143]

3:18 THIS is exactly what I am going through .

[@ajay8521]

I am currently crazy about a guy that I can’t have… I care about him a lot and he cares about me a lot but he has a girlfriend and therefore that is totally against my moral believes. I cannot let him go even though I know it is wrong… Because of the fear of being alone after being in a 27 year extremely lonely and sexless marriage with a narcissist

[@nooshinghavamiadl2984]

Thanks so much. Your videos are awesome. Thanks again.

[@CHSN-1]

Wow that’s powerful... Thank you 🙏🏼

[@LoverofSunflowernBees]

What your saying is what has happened to me and it’s why we get chronic pain syndrome! It’s an actual diagnosis from doctors from MD doctors though and then they prescribe medications that makes it worse for us physically..

[@lia246]

When is your book coming out? I feel I need these truths in writing!

[@d.jwalles9272]

Thank you so much for your words. Clear! 💗🙏

[@00ddub]

Thank you 🙂

[@Lovelife-f8s]

That was deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep!!!

[@CandacevanDell]

Fahima D Ha Thank you!!!

[@louisegarner8888]

Thanks for this very insightful info and I'll use it. I was thinking this video might be more about fearing our power in terms of limiting ourselves using words, actions and being seen. I think we can be too powerful like a bull in a china shop. I was raised to feel it was bad to be heard, seen, get attention, etc., but I rebelled and found even small gestures, words, being seen, etc., got a massive reaction that scared me into hiding myself alot. I know I impact others more than others seem to for good or bad and try to be as inconspicuous and conservative as possible but it still happens. What's that about?

[@odettaclarke1626]

Wow, you're Amazing I'm glad i subscribed This is my 3rd video and you're Speaking to me. Thank you.

[@soulscribe8932]

Awesome video

[@Jojo-sb1xs]

Absolutely brilliant ❤ love u and ur insight

[@Mansions.]

I understand this so well.i feel so fxxxed. Scared.