Cars to Fill a Void in my Life

[@dragon2knight]

Life is a void Brian. You fill it up as much as you can with friends, hobbies, lovers, life....but it never fills up completely. I'm 60, gay, and have been through 2 very long relationships and have quite a few relations but very few real friends. The older you get, the less the world wants anything to do with you, truth. I'm always messing around with "stuff": cars/music/art/analog(turntables, tape decks)....whatever I could do to keep from thinking about any of that. Distractions are the key to filling the void with just the right amount of noise to drown out any issues. You have Nick, furries, cars and more to fill yours. Do whatever it takes to not be idle, it's the only way to do it. Big bear hugs!

[@blakeriley6690]

aint this the truth man, hard life lessons we learn. This is sadly how it is, but there is beauty in it to. its all amatter of perspective.

[@griffins750]

Consider yourself lucky… I once met a man who after years of hard work had achieved everything he wanted. He had a house, a wife and kids, and all the cars he felt he truly desired… But he was completely distraught. Having achieved everything he had wanted had left him with nothing to strive for, no reason to get out of bed (save for his family of course but that’s a different matter)… So he set his eyes on a another goal that would be impossible in all but the wildest of his dreams… In order to find happiness he had to artificially create a void in his life for himself.

[@tabryis]

What a pathetic mindset

[@griffins750]

@@tabryis Go tell it to someone who gives a shit pal. Nobody is biting your bait.

[@aluisious]

@@griffins750 If you can't sit down with a coffee on a Sunday morning, look out the window and be happy, there's nothing you can achieve to fix that.

[@shaalis]

This video was...incredible. As a long time follower of your work, I can say without rservation that THE reason why I stuck about was your personal insight, and intertextual/contextual narratives. I learn a lot. I am repeatedly shown your human side. It gives me so much respect for your sufferings, your achievements [which man, sometimes must feel like the other from time to time].

[@RegularandRoman]

Thanks! Makes me feel happy that you respect me

[@Sam-go3mb]

@@RegularandRoman We all do - why else would we all have spent 40 minutes watching a guy rambling and driving an EV Kia through rainy Pennsylvania

[@dogdoggodog]

@@RegularandRoman we love the shit out of you guys

[@BrilliantBenGaming]

Without a Honda Today there is no Honda tomorrow

[@vadim6385]

With Honda today, there might be no Honda tomorrow. There might be some company named Honda, they might even make cars, but it won't be the same Honda we know and love. Think about what happened with Mitsubishi - same fate awaits Honda.

[@NotTehJon]

now I'm thinking of a Honda Yesterday

[@PlatinumNath]

There is a Honda however that's... Well, That's. Honda That's.

[@VincentLander]

A car can't reject you, but it will still find infinite ways to break your heart. My 2013 Volvo C30 and I are coming to the end of our relationship and it hurts like hell. As a gay guy who is about a dozen years older than you, I get the fear of rejection - it's been a constant companion ever since I "came out" in the early '90s.

[@jblyon2]

Brian, there are guys out there that would be over the moon if you asked them out. They're probably even more terrified at the thought of you rejecting them than you are of getting rejected. You're intelligent, funny, and handsome and any guy would be lucky to have you.

[@adorablecenturion8436]

thiss brian is a handsome dude, as a quite fruity 22 year old 👁

[@Wvlfmane]

Agreed, he’s hilarious, incredibly witty and thoughtful and an all very interesting guy. I think he’d any guy would be lucky to have him.

[@christophers.4007]

Multiple truths can exist at the same time. With that being said, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. I am married and have a house but i still have a "void" inside. I think as humans that is natural to always want "more" and to always think "but what if". From what i have "figured out" in life...do what makes you happy. If you can afford something you want, go for it, even if it puts a slight strain on your finances. you WILL make more money, so enjoy it. as corny as it sounds, tomorrow is not guaranteed, so live for today. I have health issues which in the future may prevent me from driving, so i try to live for today. I hope to be making a dumb financial decision in the next year, just so i can enjoy it before it's too late.

[@evanrhildreth]

Agree. I'm married with a house and kids - those three things filled three voids in my life. But I don't have infinite resources, so to fill those voids I had to borrow time or money from other buckets - fandom and hobbies. It's possible to fill all voids, just not all at the same time! Plus, most people have plenty of time for cars and hobbies once they are retired, so I really don't mind putting those things on the back-burner to focus on other things, because I'll likely be able to return to them later in life.

[@spinnetti]

its not about "more" its just distractions from introspection and dealing with the difficulty which is self-awareness of your own mortality. "stuff" is just more distractions. Feels to me that by a certain age, this looming mortality internal emptiness seems inevitable. I bought a couple project cars and they kept me distracted a bit, but now they are done and I'm selling them but still feel hollow. The hard self-work is still the hard work and will not be denied lol.

[@aluisious]

It's not natural for people to want more and think what if. You're a product of your environment. Get your mind out of it. When a guy was throwing a spear at an animal 50k years ago, do you think he "wanted more?" More what? He wanted to eat, be warm, and enjoy the company of his family and friends. Capitalism is a sickness.

[@rgpark69]

Automobiles are an addiction you can only be cured of by bankruptcy, chronic illness, or unalivedness. The paid subscription is a double edged sword for your self-esteem. A romantic relationship requires all of your attention and everything else comes second. From the outside you look like you have got it going on. A quote came to me and it is possibly out of context. "Boy, misery is wasted on the miserable." Good luck with your future endeavors. We will be looking out for your product.

[@williamknauer4356]

I love you man. Self aware, almost to a fault. Keep articulating your feelings out here- you’re helping people to understand themselves while you figure yourself out.

[@hungrymoose7627]

Cars can absolutely reject you. Most of the cars me and my friends buy are ones that have been sitting for years in fields/barns/garages and they will let you know if they want you in your life. My '74 GMC pickup sat for 18 years in a farmers field, and every new part I put on it the better it runs to the point where I can now daily it. It loves me and I love it. Whereas my friends '80 Turbo Trans Am, it sat in a body shop back lot for 30 years and it wants to be dead. Its on its 4th set of head gaskets, the engine has been out twice for seals that still leak, despite being on its 3rd engine block. It is an ungrateful fucker.

[@ThatCaff]

I woke up depressed this morning and I too fill my void with possessions. I have to get my shit together

[@_RiseAgainst]

"That would fit in the back of my pickup!" It's better to be the old man with 1 complete project then 100 unfinished ones. A wise man once said, "a tug and a snooze, you can't lose".

[@martinbalmforth2665]

Sending you a big hug Brian, from a straight guy in the UK. When you move, who L knows what the future has in store. You may find that special someone there. I hope you and Nick do a part 2 UK tour in the future

[@RayoAtra]

I never understood people issue with the giveaways, the little reviews of the giveaways cars was just more content.

[@Turbanator44568]

Most likely just a reaction to the over saturation of content that exists for the sake of consumerism. Even though Mr. regulars giveaways were for desireable but ultimately normal vehicles, most others are predatory by nature, offering aspirational objects to push really really scammy and cheap product. Ultimately those poisoned the well.

[@BokBarber]

My problem with the giveaways was that I live in New York, which was the one state that couldn't participate in the giveaways :D. Never complained about them though. I understood that the guy has to pay bills. If I wasn't in the mood to watch a giveaway video I'd just... not watch it.

[@bradfordsmith3203]

​@@BokBarberyup I entered a couple times before I found out I couldn't win and wasn't happy about throwing money away. But then I figured I was just donating to a creator I love and got over it. Still stung at first lol

[@notablediscomfort]

Bruh, you're a gay furry with a nice voice and interesting cars. Ain't no way it's that hard to find a guy. Like yeah I get it. Not ideal location and probably too complex of a person to settle for whatever you can get that looks good. But that's definitely just anxiety talking. We've all heard you don't know what you got til it's gone but I firmly stand by the idea that you don't know what you need til you get it. Risk grief. Be vulnerable for once and don't be afraid things won't go well. That's out of your control and worrying about things out of your control is silly. Also you're doing Romanian Deadlifts, right? Also also when was the last time you did public worlds in vrc? It's annoying but it's good for you.

[@projectz975]

lol yeah not to be a creep but i was thinking the same thing, handsome smart guy with decent job and his own house, the only thing keeping him from a decent relationship is just a mental block

[@pinoytrash]

i just came across this video randomly and oh my god, you have axel's taxi cab in real life. what the hell, that's sick.

[@RegularCars]

Yeah! I like the game so much I wanted to play it in real life

[@Wvlfmane]

I feel it. I’m lonely and my Veloster N feels like my only cope to fill the void sometimes. It won’t reject me like people did. I also just keep myself busy with hobbies and I play multiple instruments and draw and I have a lot but it feels like a cope for no intimacy.

[@Jakesinmotion]

I turn 30 next week, I came from a broken home, and got where I am today of sheer will and busting my ass. I think the void you're describing is the very mechanism in which humans exist upon. Guarantees are infinitely more boring than the chance of failure and finding success in spite of it. You find more peace with the more you've conquered, but you also find peace in the fact that you're never going to truly be "Done" until you're laid to rest. Finding joy in the work, risk, struggle and strife is, in my opinion the true meaning of life. "Don't spend so much time worrying about where you aren't, that you forget to enjoy where you are" It's going to be alright man, maybe not in the way you think "alright" is right now, but you'll find that for yourself as you continue the journey you're on.

[@brianfranchuk543]

Dating is really hard, even moreso as a gay man. And being unique and offbeat feels like a punishment at times. But, there are people who make it worth it in the end. I'm at the same place as you, except without the financial freedom to distract from that knawing hole with cars, new hobbies, or big trips. I too fear rejection because it has happened too many times, too acutely aware that time keeps moving and soon I'll be older and still lonely. But, people like us bring a lot to the table, and it can be intimidating for others. Life is way too short and unpredictable to not put yourself out there, you may find people who were also afraid of rejection and didn't think they had a shot with you. I know it can be a lot of mental energy, I'd say do ut in waves, maybe every 3rd month put yourself out there romantically/emotionally, and the rest of the time surround yourself with hobbies, interests, and friends. (Easier to give advice than to follow it, I know.)

[@stoneylonesome4062]

Bi guy here. I’m in a unique perspective because I understand gay dating and straight dating. I’ve found that dating guys is much easier than dating women. But I’m Gen Z. I’m not old.

[@JohnSmith-wx9wj]

I'm 35 and straight but have still managed to notice when guys are into me. This isn't in social environments, just being friendly and joking with random people I encounter when eating out or doing errands. Maybe he's one of those people that have a hard time reading others or breaking the ice.

[@hyenahallstrom7034]

Get a motorcycle, my man. That shit helped me fill that void personally.

[@brycekelly8611]

Speaking honestly Brian, you are a really good human who is not giving himself enough credit. You built this channel AND your main channel with whit, intellect, and insight. And after building these channels, you opened up to us, told us who you are, took us to events we would have possibly never seen. You gave us hints, but, you came to a point of going all in with this thing you built and saying "here it is, this is me". I think that same boldness will find you a someone. Sorry for the word vomit, your someone I have truly enjoyed following, someone who has brought me a laugh at times I truly needed it. Hopefully today is a slightly brighter day for you!

[@ishouldbestudyingrightnow]

I feel like I just had an aha moment where I realized that the KZbinrs that I keep being subscribed to year over year are very authentic. Videos like this speak to me because I know who you are. I know who the Roman is. You guys are real, and I appreciate it. It really does mean something in an era where bullshit is becoming more commonplace.

[@adamogden5212]

i miss the giveaway i like the mugs and i was waiting on some 80s grandma car

[@RegularandRoman]

See if I get to pick the giveaway car, I'd do it again but only if it's some piece of BULLSHIT

[@brianfranchuk543]

​@RegularandRoman I vote for Buick Park Avenue

[@dontarguewithidiots7459]

I get it. And I feel this. HARD. Stay strong brother

[@kylesoler4139]

Something else will come around. For example last year I was looking at buying a 1988 Mitsubishi V3000 Super Saloon to eventually build it into a replica of my dads one (which was a 1 of 1 combination), but found my current 1990 V3000 SEi and I can never be happier. Pretty much something else will come around and fill the gap of that Honda Today and might be a better fit for you too.

[@toddr3093]

This guy is great. It takes a special person to allow the world to see his weird, vulnerable side. We all have one, but so many people try to hide it. The car hobby is about so much more than cars, and this guy is a perfect example of that. I’m a fairly new viewer, but I’m proud to say I’m a fan

[@Juliet_Whiskey]

I know your mentioned you’re moving to Montgomery county. Have you considered moving into a city proper? I moved from rural Indiana to DC and the sense of community is so much stronger

[@russglantz6481]

I'm a longtime resident of the county to which he is moving. Let me tell you, it's much more progressive and accepting here than where he is now.

[@injustifiiable]

He did show us some houses he was interested in. What he needs is either not readily available or expensive af.

[@shawnp8672]

Brian, your content, your passion, and your creativity, has filled so many voids in others. I think that longing is an inborn trait in all people, it’s what makes us strive for more and for better. We all have a void in us and that’s not necessarily a not a bad thing, it’s only bad if we fill it in unhealthy ways. There are certainly worse things than buying cute little Japanese cars and sharing them with the community online.

[@ItsProbablyFine]

The Roadside America shout out made me very happy.

[@huntercallan1458]

Thank you. I feel exactly the same. It’s a placebo for my depression, void etc.

[@Oni_Teeth]

Monologuing about your impulsiveness hits me really hard today and feels validating for the work I'm doing on myself as well. Keep going!

[@quuxummephitida1219]

I hope you find someone when you escape Schuykill Cahhny. You deserve someone wonderful. Also, that big radio antenna off I-78 around Bethel is a shortwave transmitter of some bizarre religious group.

[@mostlyinept]

Yeah once he moves closer to Philly, it should be way easier to find a guy as awesome as he is. He needs to check out the "Gayborhood" in Philly on a Friday or Saturday night. Tons of fun shit to do and cool people to meet.

[@needforwil]

i had no idea this channel existed. i listened to this at work today thanks for getting me through

[@crjlife_9082]

Same, but with motorcycles. I’m on number 9 in like 3 years.

[@yadidimeanmaine]

That's not that bad really.

[@phdep1]

I’m at an even 10. They follow me home.

[@shanec5957]

love can be tricky, but rowing gears has never let me down.

[@91_C4_FL]

I’m going through a similar automotive struggle. I was trying to get my grandparents 87 Sable back on the road after it sat for many years. Due to some unforeseen life events plus the fact that I’m getting married later this year, it’s been sitting outside at a small town garage since February. Id really hate to see it get damaged by the elements, especially with winter coming. And I already have two other cars to worry about (3 if you count my fiancées).

[@GXKid06]

I think you’re feelings are valid. I to lust after a relationship sometimes, but then i remember the problems my friends have with their significant other and it makes me feel better about being single. But then i remember they date women and i wonder if dating a man would be easier haha.

[@elementalb3m957]

I hope this is an appropriate and relevant thought for me to share. I live in the UK and I'm 22 and I want to import a 1966 Cadillac DeVille convertible. I've wanted to do this for 5 years and haven't done it. I'd either use it as my only car (I'll state the reason further on) or have, in addition, a British classic to use aswell sometimes like a Jaguar Mk2 or Sunbeam Alpine. That being said the most car maintenance I've done is change an air filter and a Cadillac would be 1 inch longer than my driveway and 1.5x as wide as my garage so I'd have to put rust prevention on it and wax it all the time and keep it under a sheet. I also have no idea how long I'd be able to afford to keep just a Cadillac let alone a Cadillac and a Jaguar. I see it as a reasonable thing to spend money on because it would fill the void left by my ineptitude to socially interact with others and inability to enjoy my time in public and social spaces as much as normal people can. If I was driving a modern Mercedes or BMW which most men my age would do and have them on finance which I wouldn't have to do because I can afford one, with ambient lighting and sports trim and seats it would seem and feel like I'm trying to impress people and convince them to accept me as one of them which will never work and probably isn't even worth doing. If I drive around in an "appliance car" then I accept the reality of the mundane, the reality of compromises, the reality of budgeting and unfullfillment, the reality of people working to make monthly payments and not actually owning much. I'd have the same type of car as young parents living in mortgaged new build houses with Disney+ subscriptions and I want nothing to do with that. It makes me sad and bored. If I drive around in a polished steel and leather 1960s time capsule and listen to archived radio recordings I can exist in my own world and not accept the reality that I exist in a place where I don't belong. Even though I wouldn't have belonged in the era the car was built in either. I'd probably have been sent to an institution. But maybe I just want to feel special like one of the points in this video. I'm not sure.

[@raymanbb8274]

Had a void filled and just got ripped out of me this week as my ls430 got bashed in by another ls430 . It’s parked outside and I can’t bring myself to look at it. 2003 ls430 UL so it’s the highest trim with alllllll features.

[@Lazuriteplays]

I have a Miata 10th Anniversary that saved my life in a head-on collision. I say I want to rebuild it, but I really don't want to let it go. That car made me happy during the worst times of my life.

[@ejtabano2760]

I'm going through the same sort of phase right now but for different reasons. The older I get the more I have to consider my future goals and priorities over buying the cars I want. You were real with yourself and that's an ability people either lost or could never do in the first place. Thank you.

[@Metalcastr]

It's the hedonistic treadmill. But, you help fill the void in our lives, thank you!

[@Aurora-lb2vy]

I regret forgetting to enter the giveaways. The laughs and enjoyment RCR has brought me over the years deserves everything.

[@PhoenixsWorldVideos]

This is a real af video format. I like it. I did this recently just talking to my phone recording while driving. No conclusion, never even watched it back - but i feel I could get something out of vlog journalling while driving .

[@jackleonard2088]

Really good video. Asking tough questions and digging into things most don’t want to ask themselves. Thanks for that. I’ve owned some fun cars and motorcycles but found myself worrying that it wasn’t as good as others instead of enjoying what I had. I’ve stopped doing that. I recently bought a Honda acty kei truck. It spoke to me and, it’s speaks to a lot of people in a positive way. Oddly, in a time fraught with reasons to dislike each other I’ve found this car makes me interact with people when I had stopped doing that. Cars can’t fix all of our problems but they do offer their own life rewards.

[@Broski_Nation]

Awesome vid brutha! I too went through this. I grew up as an only child, so loneliness is a friend of mine. A couple of songs come to mine, 1. Winger- Easy Come, easy go 2. Warrant- Heaven Isnt too far away 3. Pioson- Every Rose Has it's Thorns. The things we love and enjoy dont last long it seems. They can bring on pain and suffering. So its best to not get too attach to things.

[@bricegraham8256]

Brian first want to say I love how transparent you are with us. Im pretty sure ive said that numerous time in previous videos and poscast and stuff but I just love that you show your human side to us. You show us the good and the bad about yourself. Now honestly id say if you truly eant the car, if youll enjoy having it, then get it. You've said it yourself, if you want it for enotional purposes to truely enjoy it for what it is and what itll do for you and if it financially makes sense. Id say get it. However i feel like possessions can sometimes still not make us happy. And example of this (this is an apples to oranges example) but theres another KZbinr (i forget his name ill probably add it later) but he owns 3 cars. An Acura RSX Type S, a 99 Honda Civic SI, and an Evo 7 or 8 or 9. Anyways the guy had ended uo getting injured somehow and he couldnt really walk for awhile. Often time he was bed ridden and crawling or hobbling himself around the house. He sometimes come to the garage to try and do small jobs in his cars and he got no joy out of it because of the fact that he couldnt fully do what he wanted to do amd he was in pain when he would try. Eventually he got better but he stopped going to the garage cause that made him sad. But anyways possessions cant always make you happy but its a greay feeling when you own stuff that you really like such as cars and tech and whatnot. I think you should do it though. If you can afford it and youll enjoy it, go for it.

[@TheTroofdotcom]

32mins: "calm down Brian before I get the spray bottle"

[@DyslexicDogGirl]

JUST MAKE A PATREON AHHHHHHHH But seriously, you'll get a few hundred subs in a matter of months just plugging it at the end of regular videos. So many of us love your stuff and are already used to using Patreon.

[@TheGamingAce231]

He has one, he just doesnt do anything on it

[@projectz975]

CJ the X has some really excellent Patreon content, they'd be a very good source of ideas to borrow

[@GuntanksInSpace]

Quite the conundrum, but also very self-aware that you had to hold back just a bit. Regardless, still rooting for you whichever choice you go with. I do get the appeal of a Honda Today though, very understandable lol And also, honestly yeah I'm also echoing another comment in that maybe you can dust off that Patreon you got! Edit: yeah, why the hell not twitch stream?

[@ghostofrei7412]

I don't know if you will ever see this or read it for that fact but I wanted to say thank you for the 7 years of content (even though you have been doing your channel longer than that). Because of you I don't think I ever would of bought my 2000 Toyota echo coup 109000 miles. Ive been driving it since 2021 drove about an hour to Youngstown to get it. And I put a fair amount of time and money into it to keep it on the road. I bought this car as a distraction originally because I had a rough break up from a relationship of almost 6 years out of high school. That hit me very hard I didn't think I would of gotten back up from that but I did. New job new friends started school things happen and that Toyota echo has gotten me to places I needed to be reliable and most of the time cheaply. It has roughly 130500 miles now and 3 large rust holes the elements are not kind to this car but at least it has new front and rear struts. So thank you again Brian We all have our rainy days you just have to wait patiently for the clouds to part and for the sun to come out.

[@checkers4806]

For what its worth, I really cherish these kind of introspective rants on youtube, especially from someone with the background and vocabulary to articulate their thoughts so well. I very rarely hear what other people are thinking in this way, or even to have a few undistracted moments to think about my own life.

[@climbon321]

Loved the giveaway videos as much as all the others. Hearing how financially beneficial they were, I hope you are able to bring them back!

[@wyattr7982]

Growing up used to hike the AT and volunteer at Hawk Mountain. It’s nice seeing home on the internet

[@powershift1365]

As much as cars are a means to fill a void, motorcycles can be as well. While I was in my hiatus between relationships, I decided to finally get my M2 classification and try out riding. I’ve absolutely enjoyed it, especially those rides with no destination in mind, it felt like the motorcycle was my muse, I’ve even named a few of them while I owned them. The sounds, the sensations, the *feel* of being so connected to this machine, vulnerable and open to the surroundings, can’t be beat except for only a certain amount of cars. I can understand the feeling of your daily being just an appliance, a mode of transportation. My daily is a Fiesta, with the automatic and I still wish I had gotten a manual transmission. Even though an automatic just makes sense for ease of use, it can make driving such a dull experience and the urge to want something that makes driving enjoyable. Since I’ve gotten in a relationship with my SO, I’ve lost the desire to ride. Sure, part of the damper on the desire is that they don’t enjoy riding but also me wanting to get this car paid off means I need to make compromises and tighten down, on top of my SO filling that void. Will I want to ride again? Of course, that desire will always be there but it can’t replace the feeling a warm embrace gives. I normally don’t comment on videos since I don’t know what to say (gotta love being on the spectrum) but I did enjoy this video and knowing that kind of emotional struggle you’re fighting, taking the long way home and just externally venting, talking about nothing and everything at the same time. Hope things get better for you Brian.

[@Arin-xe1pm]

I realize this is much easier said than done, but try not to be so hard on yourself. Your needs are valid, and you are worthy having those needs met. Also, coming to the video out of context, it took me several minutes to realize you meant the car "Honda Today". I thought it was a weird turn of phrase for a very impulsive Honda purchase, which already lined up with the video...

[@GuyYoshie]

I just like to stay inside when it rains and play classic games like Burnout and Rush 2049

[@BalooUriza]

That's one thing about cars. It's lonely. This gets observed regularly inside both the car community and the urbanist community, but it always seems to come as a surprise to car guys.

[@selkieblood4030]

You need a Grindr, not another car. Keep fighting the good fight, chief.

[@benmauro1022]

Hey, I'm glad that you resisted the temptation! Hobbies are great, but when you realize that you're only doing something to replace something else instead of for the sake of it, that's when you gotta think. I have that problem too, I recently traveled to Europe and coerced myself into buying an expensive chess set- only to notice that I'm not interested in playing with it because I don't play chess, Go figure 🎉. But realizing that you're only buying something for the rush of new and not because you want the long term commitment in an important realization, and I hope you're doing well man.😊

[@minoassal]

Missed a local rally hillclimb event today so im at home sketching cars like always but with pleasant Brian yap to keep the creative juices flowing

[@minoassal]

oh no the reels and videos of the hillclimb are showing up on my feed and i feel worse about missing that

[@Sonic6293]

Your therapist sounds like mine, lol. I took his advice and then my ex ghosted me after 9 months. It's been two years come October. Inertia is a bitch, and I haven't the desire to overcome that threshold. I do try to keep up with my friends and family, engross myself in work and hobbies, and it's 90% sufficient. There's no guarantee that a romantic relationship would fill that last 10%. What if it's 9%, am I to chase that last percent? For what? 9 out of 10 is pretty damn good. Instead of making a concerted effort to explicitly seek a relationship, I'm going to instead live more life and create more opportunities for it to happen. Peace and love.

[@russglantz6481]

Thanks for sharing these kinds of more personal thoughts, it helps others to know that someone like you is going through some things which many of them are as well....and reminds us of how authentic you are in comparison to some other content creators.

[@heyitsfranklynn168]

As much as I love rcr I LOVE these videos WAAAYYYYYY more

[@1leggeddog]

Damn Someone find a man for this man. he needs it bad

[@KittRembo]

Fuck man. Saturday the 28th Sept and it’s 12:30pm here and I’m watching this and going through a lot of the same feelings on loneliness and relationships and shit. It sucks hard and I don’t even have the cars you do! I guess all I’m saying is Solidarity with you Brian ❤

[@thisguy8100]

Mr. Regular. You are awesome! But I'm a straight guy at the age of 27 and I feel lost when it comes to love. I have my s2k, 2008 fz1, and 1986 xt350. And i always imagine that they would either fix my life or make it so good that it wouldn't need fixing. But I'm still alone. You are not alone. What you described here is what so many people feel. It is just hard to talk about. But you are an awesome and might I say very attractive man. You are a wordsmith and literally scholar, you are great to talk to I'm guessing and a funny person. It's easier to say than do ok but you deserve someone and SOMEONE DESERVES YOU!!! Someone will feel incredibly lucky to be seen holding your hand even though we both feel like we are always the ones reaching towards those who are above us. They aren't and we aren't above them. We are all lost people just some a bit more and that's okay.

[@TheJoeshExperience]

Like papa Dave says "children do what feels good, adults have a plan"

[@Wageslave645]

Why did they never make 2nd shift school? My brain didn't function before noon, but I was in my prime by 5pm.

[@hollybirge4087]

I get this. I’ve all of a sudden decided I want a Miata even though I have two cars. It’s because I’m depressed and trying to make myself feel better.

[@docBZA]

I would definitely pay the patreon for an RCR podcast. Link up with Fidance, Mullen to get the ball rolling and then see where it goes from there. Maybe get comics talking about cars?

[@Threetails]

Sometimes you just gotta take care of what you already have. Both the things you have and yourself.

[@Miata_On_The_Homestead]

I often get into a "wouldnt it be fun to have..." With kei cars and trucks. I already have a miata, frontier, mazda3, my spouses mazda2... AND a company truck. The lineup of cars i have now all work and do everything i could want. But i want a kei truck/car because i wanna be a special little guy and have an ice breaker in my otherwise introverted lifestyle. I also have hoarders fomo when it comes to stuff like that. I already dont have the money and time to do everything i want with my current cars/other hobbies. Also, you often out yourself down when it comes to personal relationships and such. While its parasocial in nature, i think you are a cool dude and ive been a fan since year 1 RCR. Your self accountability and willingness to put yourself outthere are commendable and any dude would be lucky to be with you. Good luck tiger (well bird I guess).

[@NMRH258]

0:41 No Brian. I don't know what that's like because I've got bills and rent to pay, and can't afford having an pseudo-existential crisis.

[@brightfalls6788]

That is one crazy taxi you got there pal.

[@Odd_Redneck]

The engine and gear box in the today is the same-ish as matts acty. The bulbs are wired diff from normal ones here in the states. It just needs a couple of pins swapped on the plug and ur good. Im a honda fanboi and want a ja3 or ja4. Lol the great thing about the today is not alot survied thanks to kei car racing but there is a quality aftermarket for it. Only issue i have is steerin parts but i havent done a cross parts list with a beat yet even tho some todays use the same itb intake

[@Flargenyargen]

Standing in the echoes of your advice to yourself is enough to be honest advice to myself. I've been pretty reclusive this year, not really getting out and not reaching out. I'm really garbage at this stuff. I keep saying I can turn it around and I keep barely even trying. We've gotta do better. I know you can do it. Don't replace people with the comfort of cars. I won't replace people with the comfort of my hobbies, either.

[@mostlyinept]

Ughhhhhhhh, a Honda Today is one of my dream cars! I'm so jealous!

[@gradyluyt6998]

Sure I could work on putting myself out there and talking to guys and trying to land a boyfriend, or I could buy another car and damn does that sound more fun.

[@srosslx1986]

I thought those towers were for a Christian radio station

[@LRF152]

For a patreon, I think maybe a monthly livestream or a patrons only discord server would be cool. Something to allow you to interact with people not from the PA area who are fans of yours. Content wise? Behind the scenes of filming, uncut versions of videos, like the “Driving a [insert car here]” style of video.

[@mromatic17]

8:08 BRIAN I REALLY THINK YOUR FEAR OF COMMITMENT OR APPROACHING PPL IS FROM HOW WOMEN REACT TO WHEN MEN HIT ON THEM. MEN ARE SO USED TO GETTING SHOT DOWN CONSTANTLY WHEN THEY HIT ON WOMEN BACK WHEN YOU WERE DATING WOMEN. LUCKILY FOR YOU ARE GAY AND MEN ARE A LOT NICER TO DEAL WITH THEY WONT MAKE YOU FEEL AWKWARD OR DUMB IF YOU HIT ON THEM. GAY MEN ARE SOME OF THE NICEST PPL I'VE EVER MEN SO GO OUT THERE AND FIND SOMEONE NICE!

[@RuinTheSlayer]

I get that mindset and this entire convo I've had with myself but on less expensive things as my finances are in a place where I can buy a project car just yet. So it's comforting to know other people have the same talk with their selves. Wish you the best. Unsolicited advice: if you are feeling lonely and have time just go to social places more often to get that battery filled and you might be able to get to fill some holes *insert stupid finger gun movement*

[@JeffKing310]

Get the Honda bud! We hear your sadness and life is about experiences. Experience Today.

[@ExAnimoPortugal]

"express your true feelings and get rejected" - story of my life I also have the urge to buy an extra car even though I can't really afford the time and money, so I understand.

[@user-cn3ff3sf5o]

It was hard to wrestle with the idea that you can only be as lonely as you make yourself. Once you get that and you can embrace your decision

[@basedhalcyon]

Felt that. Most of the decisions I make are guided by the great yawning void that I am constantly trying to fill. I guess you just do what you can.

[@Uncle_Roadkill]

Maybe cars can't reject you, but they can friendzone you

[@nazcaplain]

It's not a "waste" of money. Our Pao has DOUBLED in value since we bought it in 2020 and that Today or *any* quirky JDM import would similarly beat the market on ROI.

[@goatsplitter]

One of the things that is important to remember is; yes, there are (were?) people drowning in Florida. There's child soldiers in Africa. there's rampant starvation in India. People have it far worse off than you; but that doesn't invalidate your feelings. You could have it all and still feel bad and that is still OK and valid. Also, I can't imagine being gay and having to try and casually just ask people out. I can't do it as a straight man - the thoughts of rejection is so anxiety filling. But man, being gay with the stigma society Still has in most of the country against that. Man. I feel for you. I resort to the apps, and it works out well for me. I'm not sure at all what that looks like on your side of the aisle. Good luck homie. Wish you well.

[@matthewwalker3131]

it might be worth reading the velvet rage

[@MuscleCarLover]

It took me 3 minutes to realise it's "Honda Today" and not "Honda on this particular day"

[@ForeverDownByLaw]

The thing is, as I get older, buying stuff to attain fleeting happiness becomes less and less successful. In fact, the juice usually isn't worth the squeeze, and the angst/stress of laying out the money more than offsets any joy I was chasing in the first place. I find more satisfaction in purchasing smaller/cheaper items to scratch that itch and improve my quality of life. Remember, the things you own will eventually own you. Life becomes a filter re: family and friends, separating the wheat from the chaff, and at the end of the day it's just you. So, like and enjoy yourself first, you are the only constant.

[@cba20k]

I heard Tommy Fenstamacher really wanted that Honda too.

[@Jessecwebb]

The hard love: Buying a Kei car is impulsive

[@JustBeginnersLuck]

In a similar situation at the moment. The family fleet has 5 cars, 2 of which needs constant maintenance, 1 of which is one death’s door, and 1 reliable one. But I saw a Taurus SHO and a Pulsar that both need work close to me for a low price, and I’m super super tempted to buy them to just to have fun and fix them up, but I realize that doing so won’t fix any of my underlying issues or fix my mental state after being SA’ed, I’ve got to work on dealing with that before I can be “fulfilled” by a car. Otherwise, you’re just kicking the rock down the road. So my goal is to get my mental in a better state along with getting the fleet into proper working order, before even thinking about what I want to have. One day at a time though, and let’s be real - most of these cars aren’t going anywhere. If you lose this one, you can find another.

[@Erebus-PCFX]

You listen to Cat System Corp. too!! (猫 シ Corp) I feel enlightened! I love Sandrawave too. You should give a try to Vestige Vapor.

[@anusername8350]

The worst starter car in Gran Turismo 4, ive always loved those things

[@MrJake9998]

Tattoos are nice to fill the void with too lol

[@michaeldreher6100]

In the bicyclist community we call this a N+1 problem. Where the bicycles you own is N but it's never enough. You always need a bicycle to fit a certain style of riding to fill that hole in your life.

[@Radi0he4d1]

What helped me big time was giving up on all the car shit and moving to NYC. Only drive my G90 on the weekends upstate

[@justinroebuck1719]

Plus that human acquisitiveness. I took a watch to a local place yesterday to be inspected and probably re-lubricated because it started running slow. While I was there I learned that there is a local watchmaker who makes some really nice pieces. You used the term financially childish in the dishes livestream and financially childish me went to amazon today and bought a larger watch box to make room for this watch I just learned existed yesterday. Financially childish me is sure I'll end up with one of this guy's watches and have to financially stretch in the spring for tickets for a trip I've been thinking about for two years. Acquisitive child says no, get the pretty thing, get it now.