My Journey as an INFP

[@annavk7672]

It's so weird growing up feeling like I was completely alone and now seeing how so many people were/are so much like me.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

Yes that was me growing up. I'm so glad I stuck in there n did not take my life at 13 n 15. Even tho I tried in my 20s many times. Who knew there were so many more out there like me. Though I've lost folk like me along the way the other day I was awakened again to not give up as more like me is to come.

[@yayotwo]

Recommendation for all the INFPs out there: check out the GTD (Getting things done) system by David Allen. Read the book. The philosophy is very Si and Te, exactly what we need in our lives

[@Lallateapourer]

Thank you 😊

[@leii2x]

i’m also an infp and i relate so much to relationship with food, friends, and clothing. omg i literally used to pick my outfits by asking if it made me feel happy which equals some eccentric choices 😅 and omg the group picture thing is so true!! i always took all the pictures and i have almost no pictures of me in junior high.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

I picked clothes that make others happy such as I bought winnie the poo to make my disabled brother happy :-) I had been through a lot of childhood and adulthood truamas and abuses. I did not want to fit in. I just loved everyone n knew everyone hated me.

[@fearenheit7423]

I find your wisdom refreshingly spoken And insightful, and it’s extremely easy to listen and observe you display your individual unique personality growing experience. I like your real people experiencing real people. I’m an INFJ-A 😊

[@stalkerwoman99iserrom20]

I can really resonate with your experience! I never saw INFPs online talking about their struggle with the idea of being popular so i thought i was a strange case, thanks for sharing :)

[@bbjudyfit]

This was therapeutic for me as an INFP... I don't know if I actually felt awkward or noticed i had trouble making friends. I didn't want to be popular in highschool. I became kinda popular in college after i lost 60lbs and started partying... but then I didn't like so many jealous people and the drama that came with that. But anywho... i relate to a lot of your story. Eating disorder all of that. Thanks. I think I'm settling down into my Si stage too rn.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

Never liked partying or drinking etc... but attracting drama and jealous people YES I got a lot of that. Teachers guidance teachers nurses sister mother n I'm not sure if kids at school who made my life there hell weren't secretly envious too. A few of the list I mentioned have confessed envy hatred of me that is when I woke up and realised it was even a thing. People can be envious of me and hate me for that. I was very much in my heart and soul and head and feelings. I thought everyone else was too. But they were all focussed on outside world.

[@bbjudyfit]

@@healingandgrowth-infp4677 ahhh i just had a light bulb moment! Lol.. those last few sentences resonate so well!

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

@@bbjudyfit 🌷🌷🌷🌷

[@annebourgonje]

Your videos are so helpful to me! I'm an INTJ raising an INFP teen stepdaughter and I can really struggle with that. She is so different from me, so I can't really relate to her and her experience in school and with friends etc. are so different from my experiences! Sometimes I worry about her because she is really insecure and sensitive. I think I learn to be a better person because of her. But anyway, hearing your story and seeing that you found a way to live a happy life gives me more faith that she will find her way too.

[@carolinarey598]

That's so nice

[@jobellywelly7025]

How cute. Wish you lots of hope and luck!

[@anjel5521]

Im also an infp and I LOVE this whole extensive life history of Calypso, bless you

[@Kaori57]

Thanks for sharing your story. :) I tried writing out mine a few months ago and had to stop because of all the emotions that came with it, so kudos to you! Lol. Young INFP life is so cringey, ahhhhhhh. Especially as an anime lover.

[@SethNoorzad]

I relate to being super awkward in high school and college as well... after college I was in such a place with myself and some of the hurt I had from life up until then so I left my family and moved away and went low-contact for like 3 years. I also really relate to wanting to erase the past. Still working on it, although things keep changing and I continue to grow! Thanks for the video, it was really nice to hear your story.

[@spaceycape4442]

I'm sorry for the crash diet part. This made me very emotional for you. Im sorry for that experience.

[@bunnybook6590]

Those multiple Ne identities and looking up information to be an ideal self was so relatable.

[@jupiter8037]

Teen INFP here! I bumped into your channel a few days ago and I really love your channel since I've been really into MBTI for the past few months. I can relate to many of the things you said, such as your relationships with food, clothing, and other individuals. I think learning about my personality type has somewhat helped me gain a sense of identity and become more acceptant of my quirks and even sometimes embrace them, as well as learn about other people who struggle through similar issues. I'm in homeschool right now and in therapy due to anxiety and depression issues back in 8th grade, although I am doing better now :)

[@Nozomiko]

I discovered I'm an INFP-T a little while ago, and I'm 41. lol It's interesting hearing about your story and how some of the ways you think match up with my life thinking back on it. haha Thank you for sharing this with the KZbins! haha

[@valzugg]

The main takeaway that you condensed at the end, I think I can relate to that. Personally I've been really unhappy for a while now, and it's led me to question basically everything about myself to the point where I wish to just change everything. I mean to be fair I kind of went to study a field which never really interested me, so not that that wouldn't affect the situation, but really when it comes to how I feel day to day, it's really exactly like you say, the small things of loneliness and not really taking care of basic needs. I notice myself sometimes even as I have neglected to eat for like 24 hours in a row I can't really accept that the feeling could be caused by something as trivial as that, but I take it to mean that there is something wrong with me or what I do or something the like, its a struggle for sure. It's really brave of you to share there things so openly, even though for me it may be hard to relate to the specifics, it's still quite enlightening and made me feel less weird, thank you!

[@arlyntobady]

Esfp I can relate to this a little. When I was 10 and younger I loved my life I hade lots of friends. I was a little shy at first, but when I got to know someone I opened up quickly. Then when I went to middle school everything changed, I become really shy and socially anxious. I was very insecure and didn’t have many friends. Things got so bad I wasn’t eating and becoming anorexic. It was a very dark time in my life. In 7th grade I took the mbti personality test for the first time. I didn’t answer the questions truthful how I feel. I answered based on my past experiences in 6th grade. I got infp, I read about it and it was nothing like me but I made myself believe it was me. In 8th grade I told myself I wasn’t going to have the same mindset i hade in 6th and 7th grade. I am a lot more confident now, not shy and worry less about the judgement of others. My teacher made us take the Myers Briggs test for an assignment and this time I answered from my heart and got esfp. I truly relate to esfp characteristics and I’m glad I found who I really am. I am not afraid to be my true self anymore.

[@sharpiesarecool814]

aw I'm so glad to hear you got out of that dark time in your life. now you are being who you are

[@PickNicole]

It is inspiring to see your vulnerability in sharing your story so openly! I wanted to share as well. Mainly because I thought it was interesting that I have some similarities in my life and I am an INFP. ~Difficult childhood: high emotions I did not know what to do with, mostly from living in an alcoholic, dysfunctional family. Made to take care of a younger sibling and had to grow up very quickly. There was some moments of happiness, of course. ~Dark teenage years (I too had a slight, undiagnosed food problem but recovered on my own): could not fit in at school, felt like a ghost walking the halls. I was so clueless about other people my age. I was the quiet girl; not "note worthy". I struggled with handling the energy of other teenagers and of my own teenage emotions/ hormones. Home life was not a peaceful place with an abusive mom. ~Forcing myself to be social after high school, wanting to erase the old me to become a completely new person; Ended long-term relationships, used alcohol/cannabis to be more social and more comfortable being around people. Traveled as well ~Growth into wanting more Si in daily life: graduated for college, was able to be more myself, most grounded I have ever felt. ~Te is still not developed, but is in progress: My boyfriend is INTJ; he too did help me to be more grounded. He is now helping me with Te.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

Sounds similar to my life

[@thepetervonde]

I really enjoyed this, always great to hear your stories, they’re so entertaining and honest.

[@SoldierOfFaith]

This is awesome, thank you very much for sharing! I firmly believe that sharing ourselves is one of the greatest things we could do, it shows vulnerability and strenghtens our own selves and others.

[@pandagiri]

It broke my heart to hear how your mom pressured you into getting eyelid surgery. (╥﹏╥) Chinese moms can be so horrifying, especially to their daughters. I'm also ethnically Chinese (but dad spoke Canto & mom Fuzhou) but my parents were born/raised in Vietnam (grandparents ironically left China due to communism) & also INFP (possibly), so a lot of your story was relatable! I was debating in my head since I first found your channel whether or not you were Chinese too, hehe. I was thinking that or perhaps Japanese. Anyway, thank you for sharing your story! The only significant difference as far as the eyelid portion of your story was that my mom always reminded me how "lucky" I should feel to be born with the double eyelid & how it's "treasured" back home. I never understood the significance & still don't even care about it now. It sincerely horrified me to hear the pain you were forced to endure for cosmetic surgery that you never wanted. You looked beautiful before & still beautiful now! I'm not sure if it's an INFP thing or what, but is it normal to want to do something to make somebody else happy at your expense? Like how you did the eyelid surgery to please your mother even though you didn't desire to have it done? I did so much of that (just not to that extreme; getting my ears pierced is nothing compared to eyelid surgery!) such as try to lose weight even though I had no motivation to do it myself. And yeah, I was a very awkward child/teen, too. I was (and still am) always the oddball loner. My sister, I think, was my direct MBTI opposite (ESTJ?) because she was constantly belittling me & pushing me around despite being younger. Good thing we only overlapped 1 year during our school years. During elementary school I was always bullied. I grew up in a very conservative part of the US where just about everyone was blonde hair & blue eyed. I was always told to go back to where I came from and pushed around by my peers. I think I read that INFPs tend to be pushovers? Well if so, I was the very definition of it. I never had any friends because they would always threaten that if somebody became my friend, they'd be ostracized too. Even to this day I cannot maintain friendships because I have very poor people skills. Also very sad trust issues. My sister was the only other Asian in our school when she started Kindergarten but instead of being pushed around, she would push back & kick them so eventually they grew to respect(fear?) her. When she saw me during recess cowering & getting beat up, I guess I embarrassed her so instead of helping her big sister, she joined in on the "fun" & beat me up too. When my mother found out from teachers, she put on a fake "nice" act & went home chastising me for embarrassing her at school (literally beat me til I bled) & then commended my sister for beating me up! She ENCOURAGED my sister to continue beating me up because I "deserve it" if I'm going to let other students do it. On top of that but my sister "forgot" to invite me to her wedding & then went around telling everyone that I'm such a horrible sister to where I didn't want to go to her wedding. Needless to say, I am not in speaking terms with either her or my mom. Haven't been for about 15+ years. They're both sociopaths & extremely manipulative. I found your channel because I'm still trying to figure out what will work for me and I am almost 41. Also because lately I've been really interested in cognitive behaviors/personality differences. I just recently moved to a bigger city & struggle with so much anxiety... yet I couldn't stay where I was. The bit where you said how you wanted to change & reinvent(?) your identity is sooooo relatable! I want to do that yet at the same time I'm so scared to try. I really admire how you seem so confident with your life now & wish I could only have half of that. I can't even hold a job due to my anxiety & worrying about what other people think about me. I grew up with so much racism that any little tiny bit will trigger me & make me wanna run away and hide. I'd love to find my niche and stream videos or something like you but I'm too scared to show my face on camera. I finally gave in and joined my husband in one of his game pulling videos but had to hide most of my face & tuck myself in my chair (it's my latest video uploaded if you are bored enough to see ｡ﾟ(｡ﾉωヽ｡)ﾟ｡). Ugh, I sooo want to change my name like you have! You're so brave! All of you who're able to own up to your desires & act on them are super awesome! I absolutely hate the English name they gave me & I have too much of an American accent to properly say my Chinese name... so yeah, I wish I could simply change my name like you. I think I'm too old to do that now. Too much history with this dumb name. Sorry for rambling! Also sorry for all of edits I've made to my post, hah. Always editing stuff. Dx Also if I had a job/income right now, I'd totally sign up for your cognitive assessment (as well as donate). I'm lucky my husband makes enough for us to live off of, but I'm tired of feeling so useless & empty. I always thought I was just weird or odd since my family always told me that... thank you for letting me know that I'm just an atypical INFP-ish person possibly maybe... or something. You. Are. Amazing! Thank you~ ❤

[@heatherbryant4197]

My mom is an INFP and she got both a nose-job and a boob-job at the behest of my dad, all before I was born. My dad was even trying to tell the plastic surgeon how _he_ wanted her nose to look, and my mom let him pressure her into it. I think it's normal to feel insecure through adolescence and high school, all the way up to young adulthood when we finally become comfortable in our own skin (though some people don't seem to grow out of it). I think that's normal for every teenager, no matter their type, though some hide it better than others. I just think people under the age of 21 should not be getting cosmetic surgery. They haven't even finished developing yet and haven't had a chance to grow into themselves and find self-acceptance. But in my experience, yes, it's true that INFPs often struggle with their self-esteem, and struggle to stand up for themselves and enforce boundaries. My mom also had an ESTJ mother who had virtually zero respect for boundaries and denigrated her own children frequently, making comments like, "I was prettier than both of you when I was your age," to my mom and her sister. That definitely didn't help. I think Ne coupled with Fi makes identity crises particularly tough for the INFP. As long as I've been alive, my mom could never seem to decide what she wanted to do with her life. She was a real estate agent for a few years but got tired of it or decided it didn't feel right for her. She started a program for respiratory therapy but quit half-way through. She became a notary at one point but just kind of stopped doing it. She even tried to join the police academy at one point but failed the fireman pull and twisted her ankle running the mile. Even when she kept a steady career as a legal secretary and then paralegal, it seemed she never stayed at one law firm long because there was always someone at every job she had who she just couldn't get along with and she couldn't take the conflict. I'm not even sure if she ever found anything that resonated with her fully. Anyway, I mostly just wanted to let you know there are other people out there who can relate. I'm not sure what advice to give you, other than don't let yourself become too comfortable in your little bubble and shut out the whole world. My mom barely ever leaves the house. She's always had social anxiety and bought things online or through catalogues whenever possible, but now it's reached a point where she drives her car so infrequently that she doesn't even feel confident driving anymore. I think alone-time is a necessity for all introverts, but it's a slippery slope to isolation, which can exacerbate depression and make you feel so out of practice at interacting with the world that you forget how to altogether, and then become afraid to even go outside and force a phony conversation with your neighbors or a store clerk. I think it's good to have someone drag you out of the house and (gently) push you outside of your comfort zone every now and then. I would suggest volunteer work, perhaps. It's a more manageable commitment that will make you feel good about yourself for having purpose and helping others, in addition to giving you some more meaningful interaction with other humans.

[@pandagiri]

@@heatherbryant4197 Hello! Thanks for reading & responding to my lengthy comment! Also thanks for sharing the bit about your mother. That was sad to read. Sorry she had to endure all of that. I'm not quite sure what my mother was MBTI-wise, but I've heard similar comments from her (always putting me down, saying I was too skinny pre-puberty, then I got too fat so now I'm forever too fat because I got bigger boobs than she had as a teen). I was raped when I was 19 & got pregnant and she disowned me so for the most part, our lack of communication isn't one-sided. She told me that I was a disgrace & tarnished her name. So much of your story about your mom & grandmother(I'm going to assume?) was painful to read. I've tried volunteering but due to how people seem to innately be racist, I've had awful experiences with that. I thought that hey, I don't mind organizing & filing stuff so I'll try to volunteer with that. They literally locked me in a windowless room with low ceilings and bad lighting and told me to refile the entire room. I'm slightly claustrophobic since my mom used to lock me in a closet after beating me, then drag me out and beat me some more since I wouldn't stop crying. After that stint, I was too traumatized to sign up to volunteer again. During one of the bathroom breaks they gave me, I was so shook that I asked if I could leave and they got mad. They told me that I was the one that signed up to do this and to back out will only reflect poorly on my credibility. I ran out of there crying. I want to help people, but I don't think that's how it's done. Anyway, thanks for the suggestions though. I do appreciate anyone that tries to help out. I just wish everything was as easy as it sounds.

[@heatherbryant4197]

@@pandagiri No problem. I admire your courage in vulnerability. Your story is horrific. I know it's not much consolation to tell people things can get better in the moment when they're suffering or reliving trauma, but it is true. I don't know if you have kids or even want kids, but I know that for myself, at one point in my life when I was hopelessly depressed as a teenager, it was the thought that one day I would make up for all my parents' mistakes by doing what they failed to do as parents, and that thought alone that imparted the will to persevere in me. I think that kind of personal commitment to a greater purpose can do wonders. I've struggled with PTSD at times in my life. I would honestly be quite surprised if you didn't, given what you've been through (and I also think this may be more common for Si-users). You're a bit older than I am, so it's very possible you've realized this already, but I found that the longer I stayed away from the source of trauma and triggers that reminded me of it (which can admittedly be hard to avoid because sometimes they are seemingly random and unexpected), the longer I stayed away from toxic people, and the longer I was in a committed relationship where I felt safe, valued, and free to communicate honestly, the better I felt, until after about 7 years in that relationship, it was almost as if it didn't exist anymore. I no longer had that flinch reaction when people tried to touch me unexpectedly and barely ever broke down in tears. Of course, romantic relationships can also be exacerbating for PTSD, even if they are not abusive and only moderately dysfunctional -- if the triggers are there. So I sincerely hope your husband is supportive in this regard, respects your boundaries, and you feel comfortable talking with him openly about your trauma and what you need to feel safe, because that can make a world of difference. _Once_ a person reaches that point where the feeling of immediacy of danger has passed and they've stabilized after several years or however long the healing process takes, I believe some form of immersion-therapy can be helpful for turning negative associations into positive or neutral associations (particularly for the Fi-Si user), but that needs to be approached delicately because it can easily go awry, so I'd suggest an experienced licensed psychologist (and not a psychiatrist) for that, if that day ever comes. Your mother does sound a lot like my grandmother. You're either too skinny or too fat; too dressed up or too "homely;" too young to go out by yourself or too old to go out by yourself. Damned if you do; damned if you don't. Nothing is ever good enough for her and she's almost never happy. I think part of the issue with my grandmother is that she felt controlled by her own mother, and so she compensated by exerting the control she felt she didn't have over her own life on everyone around her. Not that that's any excuse. I suspect that some cultural influences account for some of your mother's behavior as well. In some cases, that collectivist attitude that the individual's struggles brings shame upon the whole family can be incredibly detrimental to the mental health of stigmatized individuals. I actually wrote a 20-page ethnography on cross-cultural analysis of how differences in societal attitudes affect stigmatization and prognosis for mentally-ill individuals for a cultural anthropology class years ago, so it's an issue near and dear to me. In places like India and China where family members are hidden due to the "shame" they are thought to bring, some anthropologists have ironically termed it "the zone of abandonment" because even in cases where people are not physically abandoned, they are often socially and emotionally abandoned. I don't know where you live now, but I think that can make an enormous difference in how you experience racism. I live in a part of California where maybe as many as half of my peers from the time I was in kindergarten were Asian, and the percentage of other ethnic groups were also quite high, so Asians are not some outside "other" group to me, and I think most people in parts of the Bay Area my age or younger feel that way. When I was in high school, I actually hung out with a group that was exclusively Asian (except for me) and I felt accepted by them. My best friend who I shared a locker with at the time was half Chinese, half Vietnamese. I'd say I generally have rather positive associations. There will always be a few racist jerks no matter where you go, but you have to shrug them off and internally laugh at them for their own stupidity (I know, easier said than done). So if discrimination/prejudice/racism is one of your primary concerns in life, I'd take a hard look at where you're living. Culture has an often silent but salient impact on our lives. Have you ever read the book "Toxic Parents?" Also, I understand if you're turned off from volunteering at all after your experience, but I think something like giving food to the homeless or fostering a cat or dog from a shelter might be more rewarding. Also, most INFPs I've known have a soft spot for animals. I do as well. I've reached the conclusion I'm most likely INTP, though I've thought about whether I might actually be INFP many times, and given the similarities there's quite a bit I can relate to from INFPs like Calypso. I definitely don't mean to make anything sound easy. I know life has felt far from easy for me in many regards. There is no panacea. But what I do know is that all your pain and turmoil and a lifetime of suffering can make you a stronger person in the end -- a bit worse for wear, or "rough around the edges," as I've been told, but wise and resilient, because you know that any trouble around the corner pales in comparison to what you've already been through. You just have to get through it. And I know that's not easy. I don't want to minimize it. But sometimes you just have to focus on taking babysteps, one at a time, and those can be a little less overwhelming.

[@pandagiri]

@@heatherbryant4197 Heya, thanks again for the response. I've been trying to think of how to respond without being a typical "I'm older than you & have more life experience than you" because it's not quite what I want to say but it kinda is? Plus I don't think that's necessarily true. Age =/= life experience, imho. Maybe I'm misreading, but I don't think I mentioned that was my *only* volunteering stint. It was just the one that broke me. I've done several that helped the poor with items such as food & clothes. I'm still trying to recover from a car accident I had a couple months ago. A huge F-350 truck rammed into my small hatchback which gave me whiplash & a concussion. I'm still interacting with the public through driving to my acupuncturist & chiropractic appointments or simply grocery shop. I hardly ever buy stuff online from places like Amazon due to the toxic culture they have in that company. They literally kill people from overworking them, having to piss in bottles so they don't mess their quotas and get fired. I know these people need jobs too so it's kind of frustrating cycle. They're not working there because they want to. They are because they NEED to. I drive myself to brick & mortar stores & buy stuff all the time, just not right now due to the insane crowds for the holidays. My therapist did diagnose me with PTSD. I've known for quite some time that I did but sense somehow that I struggled with it. I've quit jobs because of coworkers acting like my mom, for example. They scared me due to certain things they would yell or simply look at me a certain way that reminded me of her. It'd make me so distraught I'd call in sick and then finally I couldn't take it anymore and would give my 2-week notice. Or it's simply the blatant racism. Shortly after the Virginia Tech shooting in 2007 by an Asian guy, the white people I worked with kept saying how it was because America gives out green cards like candy. As somebody that wasn't born here and also had a green card, I corrected them that it wasn't because of his immigration status or his race that made him shoot... and that I had a green card too but have no desire to shoot up people. They just continued to heckle on and on about it, ignoring my argument. After 2 weeks of it, I approached our boss & he told me that if I didn't like them talking about that then I can leave because "that man makes him a lot of money" so he's not going to tell him what to or not to say (despite being the boss). That must be nice to grow up in an Asian community. Having access to any diversity, especially at a young age, I think helps with the growth of knowing that we're all just human despite slightly different appearances. We all bleed the same blood and breathe the same air. It seemed like even Calypso also enjoyed that benefit of growing up among Asian peers based on where she said she grew up & a few of her pics she showed. I think I mentioned that I grew up completely different in a very white area where I was the only person with darker complexion. And they weren't accepting at all. I live on the west coast now but there are still lots of areas along the I-5 that don't share the same diversity as the Bay area. Unfortunately I have to be where my husband holds a job so I can't simply up and move anywhere I want. If I could, I'd leave the US in a heartbeat. I also have the added disadvantage that due to not growing up being immersed in my culture, I don't speak or understand hardly any of my family's tongue. Most Asians who find out I'm Chinese and can't speak look down on me in disapproval, not understanding that not everyone's like them. They blame *ME* for not learning, not my parents for not teaching. Most people I've met on the west coast are like "I was born & raised in America too but I know how to speak!" My parents didn't even finish high-school equivalent schooling let alone college, so they're not your typical Asian parents. They didn't value education like most do. They were also pro-American, saying that we're in America now and don't need to know how to speak Chinese. Just like how most Caucasian people who immigrated here generations ago. They came here from Europe but most don't know their ancestor's tongues. Same story applied to my family & their core beliefs. They'd rather us be more "American" than a multilingual Chinese immigrant. As far as pets go, my parents wouldn't ever let me have more than a hamster or fish. I've had several different breeds of hamsters but my favorite was my teddy bear hamster... that my sister & cousin killed in a fit of anger against me. They snatched him from his cage and threw him against the wall. Unfortunately, he didn't die on impact. He suffered brain damage for several hours, waiting for me to get home from work, then died in my hands. It was horrifying. Still is. My sister & cousin got mad at me because they got in trouble for doing something bad from my parents and I got blamed for it by them. So to get me back, they killed my hamster. I haven't been able to get another hamster since then & I was 16. There's so much guilt that I indirectly killed him. He was the best hamster because anytime I reached my hand in, he'd happily run into it knowing I was going to pet & love him. He was my baby. My husband doesn't like any animals so that's another reason why I haven't gotten another. He doesn't like anything that produces bodily fluids, even other humans, thus the lack of children. Speaking of him, we have an asexual lifestyle so there's really nothing here. Sure we hug but nothing really more than that. We've been together for almost 18 years and it works for us. He hasn't been officially diagnosed but we both feel he has Aspergers so that could be why he's uninterested in any sexual stuff. I have my reasons as you may suspect from what I mentioned earlier. Anyway sorry, I actually don't care to talk too much about myself but I just want to kind of nail down that please be careful before assuming anything about somebody's experiences. Nobody will ever know what somebody has truly endured. I once read this nice quote how we're all the main characters of our life stories, but play supporting roles in others. There are many unturned stones that I'm sure even Calypso didn't show in this video about herself. We're like an onion with many layers covering other layers. We all have our reasons for handling stuff. Advice can be nice & appreciative, but please be aware that not everything is cut a specific way.

[@heatherbryant4197]

@@pandagiri Oh no, did I make you feel like I was assuming the instances you mentioned were your only life experiences or something? Let me be clear. I don't assume one way or the other. As far as I'm concerned, the story you told could have been the only occasion or one in a thousand. So if I offer a suggestion and it's something you've already tried and determined isn't for you, or something that isn't feasible for you, feel free to just kindly disregard it. I'm not insinuating something like, "This is so simple; why haven't you tried this already?" I don't expect you to explain yourself or prove to me why you shouldn't do something. It's not like I have a vested interest in one outcome or another. All I can try to do is offer any tidbit I can to try to help someone when they're obviously suffering. If it isn't helpful, then oh well, but at least I can say I tried and didn't sit idly by on the sidelines. I know my Fe is clumsy at times, but I really do like to help people whenever possible, and I have a penchant for the underdog, the voiceless, and the stigmatized. So please forgive my ardent attempts if they were unwelcome or came across as preachy, but I really am just trying to connect and help. I do suspect there is something about the way I write that tends to come across as somehow antagonistic, because I sometimes receive unexpected defensiveness in response, and I can accept responsibility for that, even if it doesn't seem entirely logical to me. I do seem to have this problem with INFPs more often though, where they are _so_ good at reading between the lines that sometimes they read between the lines a little _too_ much and, especially if I don't choose my wording very carefully, they read some subtext into the situation that just isn't there, or assume I'm implying some value judgement attached to an objective assessment, matter-of-fact statement, or observation made in passing. Nothing pisses me off more than when people make assumptions. Just trust me on that. I know that for myself, there's probably only 1 person in the world who has any idea of more than 10% of the shit I've been through in my life. With most people, they live in such a bubble that they can't even fathom. And on the rare occasion I've opened to to someone, I can usually only get about 5% of the way into a story before they say something like, "Oh my god. That's so horrible" and assume I'm done when I'm barely getting started. I know how that feels, so I don't do that to other people. At least I try very hard not to. That's fucked up. If I operate under any assumptions in my dealings with people, I think it's safer to assume by default that they likely have skeletons in their closet no one knows about, and past hurts that replay on the inside of their eyelids at night, scars that shape their self-narratives and open wounds most people will never see. I don't assume that all a person has said is all they have to say. I know it's just the tip of the iceberg. I haven't mentioned any specifics about any hardship I've endured personally because I don't want to broadcast that kind of information in a public forum for all the world to see. And also because it's not my prerogative to get into a pissing contest over who's had it the worst, who's the biggest victim, or who has the most life experience. This is not a competition to me. And I think there need be no comparison drawn to establish who has "the right" to give suggestions or share wisdom. Personally, I believe we can all learn from each other, regardless of age or race or whatever facet of identity politics one can think of. You and I have a lot more in common than you may realize. But I'm not going to talk about that here. Obviously, there are things you've experienced I haven't, and things I've experienced you haven't. I will gladly acknowledge that. Suffice it to say I think it would be wise for you to take your own advice and refrain from making assumptions about others as well. You were right when you said life experience is not directly equivalent to chronological age. Besides, there is such a wide variety of experience to be hard-earned in life that comparing the struggles of one man to another can be apples and oranges. We all suffer in different ways. Maybe some do more than others, but we all suffer. That's just the human condition. Hopefully this clears up any misunderstanding. With that out of the way, I'm not going to speak to every experience you shared, but I would like to mention a couple things: I also believe that animals with whom we have a strong bond will hold on to life while they are dying until they have had the opportunity to "say goodbye," in their own way, and get closure before they finally let go of life and die in our hands. I've had similar experiences with cats and a mouse who was very special to me (and I never imagined I'd have a pet mouse, but she came into my life through odd circumstances, which made the bond even stronger). The kind of thing your sister & cousin did to your hamster is one of the few things that makes me feel like murdering people. Sorry if that's offensive, but I'd never forgive them if I were you. Animal abuse really pisses me off and it's one of few instances where I tend to take an "eye for an eye" approach. I don't really believe in Karma, but I think that if they maintained their selfish disrespect for life into adulthood, they will eventually feel the ramifications one way or another because sometimes people reap what they sew. I would find it totally understandable if the heartache of dealing with that loss made you lose all desire to love another animal again, for fear of the inevitable grief that one day comes. I've been there before. But I also think you should be able to establish another bond like that _if_ you ever want to. I get that your husband doesn't want pets, but there may be ways to either work around that or compromise *if* you ever want to. I just think pets can be so therapeutic and enriching to a person's life, it makes me sad to hear about people who want that but can't have it. But mostly I wanted to say it's not your fault. I get that we sometimes have a tendency to beat ourselves up over things we could have done differently and the what-ifs keep up us at night. But there was no way you could have known that's how they would react, and that kind of reaction to being tattled on is completely inappropriate. They were in the wrong. And as a kid, I'm sure there was not much you could have done to protect him and keep your sister and cousin away, even if you had that foresight. I think it's healthy to learn from the past, but I really just wanted to emphasize that I don't believe it was your fault. My partner also has Aspergers, so I mention this because it's a current issue for me too. He doesn't have quite the aversion to bodily fluids your husband does, and isn't asexual, but also doesn't want kids, and he does have an aversion to his own saliva, which is just so strange to me, plus lot of other sensory sensitivities that cause frustration for both of us. I guess my question is how do you cope with the difficulties? The asexual aspect seems to be a non-issue for you; I get that. But I'm guessing that if you suspect he has Aspergers, there are other reasons you haven't mentioned as well. I know no two aspies are the same, but they tend to have some shared personality traits, notably trouble with empathizing and understanding others' perspectives, understanding social dynamics, reading nonverbal emotional cues and interpreting subtext, as well as rigid thinking and a tendency to ramble about their special interests with little-to-no awareness of whether their audience is interested or whether they're going into to much detail and talking too much. I feel like I'm constantly having to explain myself six ways from Sunday just to feel understood and help him interpret less obvious meaning and communicate in less dysfunctional ways. I think of myself as a really patient person and it wears down my patience. And he has so much anxiety over uncertainty that it conflicts with my natural way of being and I can quite easily feel bored and trapped with no opportunity for growth when everything is so routine and stagnant and I'm always the one urging him to try something new or grow as a person but never the other way around. Any tips? Lastly, I'm not sure if you're into the enneagram as well as MBTI, but I'm almost certain you're an enneagram type 4. Probably 4w5. If you haven't already, you might be interested in reading up on that. I find enneagram type complements cognitive functions and fills in some gaps in explaining who we are as people more holistically, and why there are so many subtle variations in the way types can manifest (in addition to nurtural influences that make us all unique).

[@geoffizhere1]

Hi there I am an INFP too and can relate to this haha. I'm pretty socially awkward/anxious and can be eccentric/spontaneous as well. I'm also ethnically Chinese my parents are from HK/shenzhen. For me personally I struggle to fit in around my surroundings especially being asian and a bit anxious in my country. I live in a small town in the UK, I was born here but in a different city. Now I'm just getting grips with trying to be an adult and still struggle haha. It's definitely a more difficult life on this world for us and more suited to extroverts in terms of society. Also just want you to know you are beautiful inside and out and us INFP's need to stay together and be strong. Peace and Love! Lol 😊😁✌

[@solstra2]

Thank u so much for this. I related to a lot of what u touched upon. I also akin the journey INFP take is like a lotus flower. It comes from the mud and gently blooms into something breathtaking. I actually look fondly back on my past self, but that's due to my enneagram 2 focus. You should be happy with your growth all along the way. I believe your eyes looked good both then and now.

[@rainIiIy]

that's interesting! really feel assured that we infps can slowly become more non awkward! lol I started being really awkward when middle school started, still feel the same thing but I guess I learned to be more sociable now that I'm about to head into college. Things can still be awkward though, and I still tend to hate myself, it never really goes away!! Were we all just really awkward in our younger years?

[@abderrahmankalout7132]

Yes, you just described me :(

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

I started off open and friendly but teachers bullied me called me names n singled me out and would not let me join in and called me stupid etc. I was badly bullied since primary. And secondary was no different. I moved in primary cities and people hated where I came from so that did not help me much.

[@_osame8645]

@@healingandgrowth-infp4677 literally the same for me😭

[@Softening.into.His.Glory.]

I changed my name at 30. Not to my first choice, because of family stuff, though. Much of this is relatable.

[@LilacMist]

I for one never had intentions to make friends, and I noticed my awkwardness at a very young age. A lot of embarrassing moments that scarred me, I think having Si really sucks because while the Se users can’t remember too much about their past or don’t have the habit (in my mom for example), they don’t have this annoying need to frequently recall negative experiences Like whatever I do I’m haunted by the past, and Si doesn’t let me live in peace. I enjoyed this video because I like hearing about people’s stories, I’m interested in stuff like this, has more quality inside. I’m asian too but not from China, however china has always been a rich haven for my thirst in history and boy that satisfies my Si. I’ve travelled to china once every year for 7 years and every time I go it always amazes me, I only wish they would leave me in the museum longer. I would love to hear you speak in chinese in another video, just curious to know what would you sound like.

[@tesa-2]

INTJ here. I feel like most introverted intuitives can relate to your story, Calypso. Most of us feel like outcasts to some extent. I totally get how you’re struggling with Si. I absolutely HATE dealing with Se things, the Ni part of me just wants to scream whenever I have to use my Se, feels like such a waste of time and energy having to do these super mundane stuff like shopping for groceries and all that. Luckily my Te helps me with that a little as I developed it quite early on. I’ve just started developing Fi now in college, but the whole thing feels soooo foreign to me. Somehow it doesn’t feel right to have all these Fi thoughts. I feel like I’ve changed somehow, and I’m not sure whether I like it or not. I can’t wait to fully develop Se and stop wasting my time on planning the next 50 years of my life every single day 😂

[@caramelunicorn8023]

Wow lovely and insightful autobiographical video.

[@hydrangeandarkknight6218]

I'm an INFP, and throughout high school, I was basically an outsider. I had friends, but they weren't people I would hang out with. I didn't really do the whole "hanging out with people outside of school/work" and I kinda don't now (though I am veeeeeeery slowly coming out of that?) I had friends that were one year below me bc they were ppl who actually shared the same interests as me like video gaming and anime. I didn't really care for makeup. As a matter of fact, I had consciously revolved my identity around not dabbling in normie, girl stuff like makeup and boys and all that. But there were two times in high school where I tried to be more...popular? Popular is not the right word. It was more like looking a smidge more 'fashionable' that how I would normally look. Those two moments were some of the most humiliating moments of my life, and I hated heels even more since. So from then til now, I pretty much stayed myself while trying out certain things I would never get into before like having a boyfriend, if only to give myself more experience about how I feel about certain things and previously solidified desires and beliefs. I'm still not where I want to be, but I feel that I'm inching in the right direction. I also felt and still feel self-conscious about my weight since I am overweight, but that self-consciousness would affect how I perceive food and when I would eat, so I'm trying to not care too much about it and focus on nourishment rather than whether something will make me fatter. I really like when you said that the things that made you happy were the Si little things you did such as exercise and a change in clothing. It really helps to put things into perspective, especially concerning my body image.

[@jarryj1995]

I've been the same awkward person since middle school. I don't think I'm gonna change much because INFPs like to stay true to themselves. 😂😂😂

[@kathryninhawaii7115]

I am sorry you went thru that with your mom. You are gorgeous inside and out. I just subbed

[@viktorijakarpenko4923]

I usually don't comment on videos, but I related SO MUCH to your story😘 Hope you're doing great! I'm starting to accept my weird self more and it feels great)

[@luisa146]

I was very shy as a child, and I'm still awkward af. I was lucky to find friends easily throughout my childhood, the only problem is friendships pretty much happened to me, without me actively pursuing them, so when I grew up and went to university out of town I didn't have a clue on how to make friends and felt somewhat lonely and isolated. Luckily at the time I already had a boyfriend and I still had some friends in my hometown so that I wasn't completely alone. I'm also lucky to have very accepting parents who encouraged me to make my own choices, always supported me and never tried to impose something on me, except eating vegetables lol. I think it's important for INFP children's developement that parents respect their individuality. I think my parents did that well with me and that reflects in me growing up with a decent confidence in myself and my abilities. I have my insecurities, but I don't have it half as bad as some people I know.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

That is interesting. For me as a kid I didn't attract friends easily. But some people were drawn to me. My friend in first school. N 1 friend in second school. N some friends who pitied me in secondary. When I got older attracted a lot more friends. Not a lot but more than my childhood. I never had to make it happen it doesn't feel natural to make anything happen.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

@@lightinthedusk I agree there. It is rare. That is a loving open and supportive parent for sure and a blessing. Mine were abusive.

[@NoOne-wt6om]

I agree about Fi. Fi is not all "I don't care about anyone, I'll fight with everyone who disagrees with me." Especially, I thought I was Fe user for a while because I have strong 9 fixation on enneagram tritype and 9 is the least combative type out of all types, I even have hard time to defend myself but I realized that can't defending myself doesn't automatically make me high Fe user.

[@wamatd.92]

I love your story so much. I am an INFP and I think I am still in my awkward stage at 31, ha. My Te is pretty good with budgeting and organizing, I have been on a very Si nostalgia kick lately, but my Ne is kind of weak (except for doing new art projects) because any kind of public change is scary and I have to consider not only my own opinion but what I will say to others, so I don’t know, maybe after covid I will try to be more Ne and meet people and stop staying at home with my nostalgia and art and binge eating. Anyway keep up the good work, you are an inspiration 🙏🏼💖

[@ivyu5679]

OMG Thank you so much for sharing your life journey!! It encourages me to analyze more about myself 🥰 I’m more like INTP haha🤓 Really new to all these concepts, a lot fun to have!!

[@CamiKaze22]

As an Asian American and INFP I completely relate. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences and life. It makes me feel less of an outcast in society bc there are so many people like us in the world.

[@gisebasso]

You are sooo adorable!!

[@pugninja7037]

I think you have grown so much,

[@otariidae2067]

I relate so much to you, even in the facial expressions and the idealisation of being popular and I had also mess up my weight with binge eating because my mother said I need to lose weight. And I am not proud but I had/have often blame my mother in my head for past « trauma » because I felt she was not here for me when I messed up with my food and my hygiene and I was always sad but I felt she doesn’t care like she should do or help me get better. Sorry for the grammar, English is not my first language. Edit: It’s been 12 minute since I write this comment and I just made an appointment with a psychologist. Writing this comment made me say that I should REALLY talk to someone.

[@jazmin6031]

Aww thanks for sharing :)

[@josharnold7247]

as intp i can relate to having a sort of identity crisis and trying to fit into a mold/ideal based off 5th function around adolescense. I became rly insecure around that time about not fitting in bc of low Te especially (and traits of having low conscientousness or just being abnormal in any way rly) and thought life was basically the hard working vs the lazy and rly wanted to refine myself/make myself more polished as well and worried about being a loser... can relate so much as I used to think about all this stuff a lot in high school but couldn't actually bring myself to stop wasting time/study/make friends etc

[@thewisestguy1]

Can you do a video on key differences as to why you're not an INTP? Basically how to know if you're an INFP or INTP.

[@heatherbryant4197]

@Pray ForMe Both INTPs and INFPs lead with an introverted judging function; _neither_ need external validation to believe the conclusions drawn by their dominant function. INTPs don't need other people to accept they're right to believe it's true. INTPs are what socionists term "Te-ignoring;" they don't care if their conclusions are accepted by a majority consensus. "Experts" be damned if they don't make sense. As a matter of fact, if people agree with an INTP's conclusions too readily, they'll often take that as a sign that something is wrong with their theorem, because most people are stupid and often mistaken, so the approval from the masses indicates a high likelihood their ideas are too conventional. For both it's often true that the weirder the better. But when an INTP explains their logic, it's not to determine whether it's true or not. It's either to make sure the other person understands and is on the same page so the conversation can proceed, to get the personal satisfaction of flaunting their own competence, or to publicly discourage the espousing of nonsensical beliefs by shaming stupidity -- because ignorance is a scourge that plagues society, and hubristic insistence on presenting fallacy as fact is a cancer that replicates unchecked. Illogical ideas spread to others from ignorance under the guise of expertise, weaponized ignorance, essentially, feel like an assault on truth and honesty to the INTP. That's why they correct people. It's like telling an INFP their values mean nothing. But they don't need people to agree with them to know their own truth, and so long as people acknowledge their subjective beliefs are subjective, they can be pretty understanding and tolerant of whacky ideas. Live and let live. Also, while it's true that there are key differences, I wouldn't dismiss it as easy to distinguish. Especially when people are typing themselves. Auxillary Ne isn't the best at settling on a single conclusion firmly without questioning it. But furthermore, remember that everyone has different influences and different levels of development. INFPs aspiring with their inferior function may confuse themselves for INTPs and vice versa. Compare a 5w4 INFP whose Fi values science and logic with a 4w5 INTP who had to learn emotional intelligence to survive, and suddenly all those stereotyped differences are far less useful at actually distinguishing and the waters become murky. INTPs who are depressed, in love, or in the tumult of hormone-induced emotions can also mistake their feelings for dominant Fi. There are many different reasons INxPs can have trouble determining which they are.

[@NoOne-wt6om]

@@heatherbryant4197 I'm still trying to find my type. The reason why I suspect if I'm Fi dom (or introverted judger) is because I don't have strong opinions like Fi dom is said to have. I'm open minded with most things and like things to be open ended as I like to argue both sides. For example, I never had strong opinions in religion, I identify most as agnostic but I'm open to researching and learning about different religious beliefs like Islam, Christianity, Budhism, Satanism... That also might be my aux Ne seeing different perspectives and can't commiting to one. I play devil's advocate in controversial subjects which is not a charachteristic of Fi dom. I sometimes wonder if I'm really a Fi dom or is that my BPD which makes me feel like high Fi user.

[@onlytrustthelightme9]

i feel all of this. thank you for this lovely video. it made me understand the reasons i act/acted throughout stages of my life. currently on the one where im experimenting and want to change things on the outside. i like this phase because i feel like im finally living authenticly and seeing what i enjoy and what i dont enjoy. did you feel like this too? xx

[@amymoondarling4019]

Calypso ♡ I changed my name too! :) It helped me out with confidence, and I turned over a new leaf doing so. I also identify with many elements of your life path and your experiences and feelings along the way. I am happy to be alive during the same time as you and to grow with you!

[@trustyourself-ashleyching3646]

So helpful!!! Thanks for sharing 🥰 Eating disorders SUCK.

[@tianlandai]

I’m infp and we have so so much in common and I relate so hard to this. I think you are developing si early and there’s nothing wrong with having help with te. I also tend to date people with better te haha :)

[@kathryninhawaii7115]

I think I am an INFJ because I identify with being an HSP and also when I study INFJ and INFP I identify more with INFJ, yet I can relate to most of the INFP stuff. My best friend is INFP and my daughter (who I am close to) is ENFP. These are the only 2 people I know that I truly connect with at this point in my life.

[@NoOne-wt6om]

I was blind to social norms and stubborn to not fit in so I'm still a lone wolf most of the time. I've never desired to be popular. Even talking with people is a challenge for me as I might say inappropriate things without even realizing it also I have always been very untalkative.

[@hannatalks8437]

You are a really brave infp

[@kelceypete4502]

Did the same exact thing with food. Restrictive ate and then binged and never look back. I am now being consistent in the gym and with my diet;)

[@carolinarey598]

INFP I really tried fitting in at middle school, that led me to eating disorders as wel. (I was at a new school, didn't have ideal friends)

[@arlyntobady]

Carolina Rey (esfp) me to in 6th grade but i really stopped caring and just being myself in 8th grade.

[@jupiter8037]

I'm also an INFP (I'm not completely sure though) and I was dealing with a lot of anxiety issues in 8th grade so I'm currently going to an independent school for 9th (kind of like homeschool). I'm still pretty shy and nervous sometimes but what I'm trying to say is stay strong and be true to yourself because when those feelings of being judged kick in, things can get hard really quickly. I hope you're doing well now and I hope you have the best day in your life :)

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

I was called a rake at secondary school. That I lived in a cardboard box. I worked out a lot since 10 years old. I loved fitness until I burnt out at 25 I think from trauma n cyber bullying n backstabbing trauma from a ex friend. But I was very thin from natural reasons. I struggled with cptsd and deep depression since 6 from trauma n abuse growing up too. So maybe I was burning more calories from a lot of stress. I struggled with IBS too n struggled to eat a lot.

[@rayw3332]

My latest is to do a daily morning positive affirmation.

[@sammartina8574]

Reminds me of me growing up as an INFP with autism. My thoughts are that my enough issues were too much but on top of that your issues were too much...

[@peregrination3643]

In a lot of ways, I took the opposite approach. I kind of had my ST parents as the social group I tried to align with, but I was very oblivious to my peers. I observed them and remembered a lot about them, but it never occurred to me to mold with them. I always dressed what I was comfortable in other than what my mom tried to culture me into liking, I read a lot and read a limited array of interests except when my mom forced me to read something to challenge my reading level (which makes little sense in fiction--children aren't a good fit to read teen romance triangles and first sexual experiences, and tweens aren't a good fit to read full-on adult romance subplots that seem to be in every fantasy book I tried no matter how much I tried to avoid romance), Fi and Ne things existed in my head but were mocked externally so I didn't learn to embrace those traits, Si and Te traits were regularly validated and I showed those when I was insecure so it's like I was validated for being anxious, so I was basically always told I was "this person" who was really just a version of my parents and I always fought off my natural tendencies. Let me just say that doesn't add up into a healthy adult, and it's taking some time to teach myself to let myself be. Still oblivious to many of my peers though. There isn't enough interest overlap to invest. I do better with people older than me. It's only more recently through reparenting myself that I've suddenly started to connect better with people in general and empathize instead of evaluating people like I'm an anthropologist.

[@infjinsights8074]

Omg I love INFPs I can relate alot as an INFJ

[@Who·is·Lain]

Came here from Eric :)

[@AnyaWiriyas]

I'm Ploy INFP same to you

[@NicStride]

I got 14 mins in and I don't think I can go any further, it's making me too sad.

[@thewisestguy1]

Can you also do a visual typing video with an infj example?

[@piris91]

I feel you are talking about me on many level haha

[@CandyApples4ever]

I’m infp. Appearance wise I still look the same except I just swapped pants for skirts and my baby fat is gone. Personality wise. I only started being shy, cautious and unconfident in high school when people started bullying me to the point it stopped being bullying and other students did crimes (stabbings. House fire attempt). Once I got out of that environment though I was fine. I was mostly always just selective about who I spent my time with. I never cared about fitting in. You either liked me or you didn’t. I would please people if it did not make me super uncomfortable just out of kindness rather than a need to fit in.

[@raysacassanelli500]

Random question. What do type Michelle Williams the actress... intp or infj? People say infp but I don’t see it

[@caramelunicorn8023]

hectic about schools in China. I work at a language center now in China, and I must say its very different from your experience, maybe its because it was a long time ago and language centers are different from public schools,

[@snacchbar10]

What do you mean you don't know why you felt bad when someone told you nobody talked about you in school. As a fellow INFP I feel the meanness of that memory, viscerally for you.

[@bozydarziemniak1853]

I love your style you are so cute :-).

[@arlyntobady]

Everyone cares what people think to an extent. Some people just care to much

[@marinachoban2607]

You will make a great mother 😊 just sayin

[@rbutton6702]

Jesus, your mother... weight it already so difficult for a teenage girl, and having such a critical mother just makes the experience 10x’s worse; it validates all the bad feelings, all the worst thoughts you have about yourself on the inside. And the eye lift surgery?! My god. My, my god. I had a super critical mother, as well. Whether you wanted to diet, get surgery, whatever...you could do that on your own, but a parent should never make their kid feel as if something needs to be ‘improved’ to fit in.

[@johnknight9150]

I wonder how she would have felt if in school if she knew there would've been two or more INTJs obsessed with her?

[@anunayasingh3621]

She is Luna Lovegood in real life

[@louern123]

I don’t think you develop tertiary in forties - I would say late twenties and thirties and then last function at about fifty. - but it makes me think of something interesting which is that probably different types develop Lowe functions at Different times because of their top functions ... I never knew you were Canadian ! I am a montrealer and just discovered you recently - ENTJ with many infp friends - def one of my favourite types ❤️... and now that I’m old and developing Fi, I keep thinking about your video where you explained how Alex left you and I am so I trognes by that even though I really don’t like gossip ... I don’t know why I’m so Interested in it... but maybe because I have FI and I feel bad for you ...

[@valzugg]

Holy damn I'm grateful to be a guy for not needing to pay so much attention to my appearance.

[@valzugg]

Demon Windu but by that logic wouldn’t the expectations to how you look as a girl be higher by default, sort of forcing that ”cheating” onto them? Also, in general bad looks make life soo much harder for women than for men, so it totally makes sense.

[@Myusuki]

wait, sorry about this but I didn't know, wait you are Chinese? Can you speak Mandarin? (I'm also an INFP)

[@CasualCognition]

I can still speak Mandarin, just not super well haha.

[@Myusuki]

I can say my level is somewhat like above average, but it's just not good enough for like formal scenarios or like casual converations using advanced vocabulary lol

[@Myusuki]

sorry if I don't use much punctuation in my txts/ replies/ comments. I'm just too lazy to use them

[@rolocaster]

omg her eyes so kind already in love hahaha jk

[@melisasegura4054]

Hello Calypso! 😊 Do you have a paypal account? I'd love to support your channel. Much love from a fellow infp.

[@CasualCognition]

Hi! That's very kind of you :) My paypal is [e-mail] though I also have a Patreon at patreon.com/incoffeetime.

[@BasedGodEmperorTrump]

Te grip makes you paranoid of what others think about you. Since Te values other people's opinions/feedback, in the grip you worry about their opinions towards you. You can also become domineering and controlling. You can also be a workaholic in the negative sense. Valuing efficiency in the wrong way.

[@thesevenkingswelove9554]

You are definitely INFP 6.

[@jennys5536]

[@johnmazurek4062]

We typed you in objective personality. Lol your not INFP. Cant stop 😆 ing. If only you new.