iam learning yoooh, red flags are not meant to be ignored,,,,,thank God u came out of the marriage alive
@ivanmalangadayz1713 Жыл бұрын
Abuse starts with verbal - emotional and then physical. Be careful, once s/he starts throwing strong words and swearing, run away and never look back.
@QueenShaz-oc3qg Жыл бұрын
a point of a finger is also part of the beginning
@thalithamngomezulu457 Жыл бұрын
I love that warning It is not going to stop. It is gonna get worse and worse
@thalithamngomezulu457 Жыл бұрын
Yes yes very Tue.sister
@mankwanamoabelo4032 Жыл бұрын
Very very very true😢
@xolekagxulu5405 Жыл бұрын
True🤞
@SA_CrimeWatch Жыл бұрын
Narcissists hates being given the silent treatment , it cripples them to the core . Thats the only time they feel out of control and they hate being out of control
@vinolialindt5234 Жыл бұрын
She’s is well spoken, educated and has nice teeth. Love you girl❤
@YouTuber11111 Жыл бұрын
I haven’t watched this yet and I’m about to, but I just want to point out that the twins look STUNNING hunnay! I love that you guys enjoy matching and looking gorgeous together! 💕 Looking forward to hearing this! 🤍
@sybillamula Жыл бұрын
He loved you when you were helpless and dependent on him and the minute you started making something of yourself, he was intimidated😢
@Vv-fl2rm Жыл бұрын
Jen ever loved her. It was about his ego and the boost he got from her dependency and innocence. A man who abuses and mistreats you later has never loved you.
@indolilyindomitablelily73065 ай бұрын
That's a narcissist
@nyeleticecilia115215 күн бұрын
@@indolilyindomitablelily7306I agree
@frostedwindows1 Жыл бұрын
One lecturer at Varsity once said, " we do psychology because we are sick, and we also seek help." I never believed it.
@NqobileNgwenya-sx6to Жыл бұрын
I dont know why i find this comment funny...maybe it's the truth in it..😂
@madamt4714 Жыл бұрын
I can relate, so proud of you for sharing your story it will indeed help other women who are going through abuse
@DR_Zandipetronella Жыл бұрын
This is a heartbreaking story. Last night as I was sleeping I had a dream and a Pastor was abusing his wife and he said it proudly to my face on that dream and I got angry and left immediately.And today I come across this video.I pray for all women to gain strength and leave any space that has any form of abuse.
@mathapelongwenya864 Жыл бұрын
I opened up to One of the elders at our church when I was in an abusive marriage, he told me that one day as I was passing him to greet after church God told him that " this lady is abused by the husband" but he overlooked it bcos the husband was a pastor and looking all humble and innocent in the public
@rachelrangongo5622 Жыл бұрын
One of my favorite girls in the world. You such a survivor and an inspiration Vee
@veniceditshego3602 Жыл бұрын
I love you ❤
@JASMINE-F-A Жыл бұрын
May we never marry our enemies .
@sinethembamkhwanazi2724 Жыл бұрын
I sometimes feel that those who are challenged the most God has a plan for you and knows that you'll come to him in good time and with what ever you face that will someday save his people❤.
@Sibumagazine5 ай бұрын
I don't think he was the enemy, he married a broken guy 😢 May God heal that guy...I know the feeling of being raised in an abusive household takes God's grace to be delivered
@bridelamb2000 Жыл бұрын
So proud of you sister, you are the voice of this generation🙏 God bless you all ladies❤
@HisPrincess_ Жыл бұрын
Truly. Today morning I woke up w such a deep heartache and I cried to the Lord for help and for him to make a way for me. I’m dealing w a heartbreak w a leader a whole pastor who has a ministry and I have constant heartaches because I had such high expectations because I thought he is a pastor I would have gone through What I went through. This is def God speaking. 🙏🏽 Thank you Lord
@evahmontsho6328 Жыл бұрын
My only daughter went through the same😢 Thank God for giving you strength and the power to survive❤. Remember the Bible say that I know the plans I have for you plans to prosper you and not to harm you🎉
@HloiMolloАй бұрын
My only daughter is still in that toxic marriage. I pray that God open her eyes
@spm9130 Жыл бұрын
When you separate from a narcissist, it's not easy to fall in love easily with men. It takes time, and honestly you need to heal and rebuild your self-esteem and grow as a person.
@mathapelongwenya864 Жыл бұрын
True it took me 4 years to heal, luckily God sent me strangers who were so relaxed and funny always joking.... I learned to laugh again n to be happy instead of being fearful. But what I love now that I am ready to love again is I see nonsense from a distance and stop it right there. I am rewriting my book of life with love and wisdom
@christianaffirmations5639 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for getting into the story and not delaying on the video. Well edited as well. The lighting is a bit dark though.
@carolinephorosi2345 Жыл бұрын
Thank God that you are still alive and here to testify, I paid for someone else's sins as well in my previous marriage but I'm still here, stronger and single
@Galiemelato Жыл бұрын
Narcissists don't know what love is, he never loved you from the beginning🥹. All they do is love bombing. so sorry you had to go through all that.
@Geegee-r1n Жыл бұрын
Yes he never loved her ,thanks for the comment. Even before the marriage he had issues with who she was as a person,from her career to her strengths.There was never love there ,just someone trying to change and control her. she was young,he had money,there was power imbalance and she thought it was love!
@avelakhoza6140 Жыл бұрын
Yep so true, they love bomb to the core. My ex husband would write long Facebook posts about me, how much he loves me and all that. People still think I was a lucky lady, not knowing what was happening in closed doors. I have no voice to share with the masses like he does, so I let him win, but on the flipside I know I won, I don't care about what people think, what he fed them. I won by getting a strength to exit that dark place of marriage.
@HloiMolloАй бұрын
I agree. They dont know how to love
@mathapelongwenya864 Жыл бұрын
Yoooo this lady's story is 90% exactly what I went through. By God's grace I left, Unfortunately the narsassist is refusing to give me a divorce in the name of he loves me and he has faith that God will restore that evil union making me look like the crazy one to the world.
@Joanna-vt8io Жыл бұрын
Me toooooo!
@abigailranga9036 Жыл бұрын
Don’t go back honey . God know what you went through. Your feelings are valid
@mathapelongwenya864 Жыл бұрын
@@abigailranga9036 Thank you sis
@favouredandsaved4 ай бұрын
The court can actually grant you a divorce if he's making it difficult
@SelloLebea-yd2pq2 ай бұрын
80% of divorces initiated by women
@elishadung7975 ай бұрын
Keep it up twins! Good work. I m also having fraternal twins a boy and a girl. Thank you. May the Good Lord strengthen you guys.
@thembu5854 Жыл бұрын
This is so so heavy 💔 1st time I was able to differentiate the twins 😊. Looking 🔥 as always
@QueenShaz-oc3qg Жыл бұрын
she sounds like she is describing my deceased husband and all I had endured in our 7 year marriage, may his soul rest in peace. i am sorry lady, things happen to us for a reason.
@kholisaable Жыл бұрын
Thank you Twinz for the session, informative and useful but it felt rushed. Certain parts could have been elaborated on. Maybe have Part 1 and 2 if the interview is longer than the time allocated. Venice, thank you for sharing, continue to work through your pain.
@aluwanimuavha6865 Жыл бұрын
Yes can we have part 2 please 🙏 ❤
@AvuzwaKeei Жыл бұрын
I am doing my master's in clinical mental health counseling and this is just so interesting. It's a proven fact that most people who grow up in broken homes tend to be abusive themselves especially men who grew up with dad's that beat up their mothers. What I don't get is how as a psychologist, he did not seek help because he knew those things would come back to haunt him.
@thandilelucas4538 Жыл бұрын
The abuse started very early but she only realized when it was physical am sure the was a tension building stage where he tried to make sure she has a low self esteem am happy that she finally found the courage to leave the marriage
@elizabethsilas3191 Жыл бұрын
She’s well articulated
@ntombikoloti2034 Жыл бұрын
I ran away from such a patner a nice guy he was but he will kill me with his words I attempted to leave him for two yrs it's not easy to leave but 2023 helped me escape and I'm free he likes to play victim
@carolinephorosi2345 Жыл бұрын
Their brokenness make these abusers to seek vengeance on innocent people like they wanna practice what happened to them in others, my ex hubby did exactly the same because according to him his father abused his mom and he hated him to the core and I was not responsible but hey I'm here and happy because I'm out of that dark tunnel of despair
@neegee3755 Жыл бұрын
Happy for you ❤
@sunshinezee4438 Жыл бұрын
Whether a person is Christian or not ~ Hurt people, hurt (other) people! We must learn to heal from our past traumas. ❤️🩹
@rajahsulaiman3023 Жыл бұрын
She's a strong woman,
@rajahsulaiman3023 Жыл бұрын
How will I be able to meet with her?
@zamambhele242 Жыл бұрын
Very true,
@tendanipelaelo6293 Жыл бұрын
Easier said than done though
@sebonalomorotsi9151 Жыл бұрын
You are strong my lady I am soo proud of you 😊
@zanelemncube1726 Жыл бұрын
You such an inspiration Venice❤!
@thrivingforward7481 Жыл бұрын
Big mistake that most Church girls do is jump into marriage without fadting n praying asking God to confirm and show them signs that this is realy my kingdom spouse..marriage its like an achievement to them like they hit jacpot so they r blinded by that they cant even see who they r marring ,obsessed with a ring cant blame them much on that one coz black wonan r groomed to see marriage as a Goal... My point is Ladies *just bcoz he goes to church it doesnt mean his a man of God* church is like a hospital some patients respond to treatment some they dont ,so Ladies wake up pray n ask God to confirm...otherwise more abuse n divorce amongst Christians will escalate ....face reality n wake up Ladies
@kholisaable Жыл бұрын
On point
@avelakhoza6140 Жыл бұрын
I fasted and prayed, I remember I used to fast for 3 days, without water and food, every week for 3 consecutive months and prayed really hard. I think the biggest pressure is when you're proposed by a known church member and people keep pushing for you to be together. I did pray, I don't think I've ever prayed so much in my life for anything than when I was proposed to marriage.
@victoiredouniama91256 ай бұрын
Exactly 💯 , you also forgot to mention some pray and fast but are too quick to take a decision without the Lord revealing to them if it is his will or not.
@tarirobizaro2448 Жыл бұрын
It was the title for me .We tend to forget that pastors, bishops,the communities role models are human beings too. I can relate but I thank God we ended up not getting married and when I think of it today I can say God works in mysterious ways just trust Him.
@nokuthulamthimkhulu8008 Жыл бұрын
I just see your braveness and a woman of virtue, i love the fact that you rose up even after the downfall or shut down of your mind and body, i'm really inspired i need that book 📙🙏❤
@mamagaseangelique1282 Жыл бұрын
Girl from my hood neighbor love you girl your strong.
@melinahkewagamang3513 Жыл бұрын
I'm scared that I met someone of that kind I'm glad he showed his color there worst was we almost got into a physical fight I never cried like that thank God I chose to meet him in a public place
@josephinemokone8195 Жыл бұрын
She is soo beautiful and you are strong baby girl and you still young to go through ❤
@nokubongampendulo4882 Жыл бұрын
The guy that wanted to abuse me thought he was winning because I was quite. One day I told him that, "you know what you are doing to me I can do it to you better than you, you know that moss" I said it slowly looking straight into his eyes. He went out and changed completely after that conversation.
@ntsoakisheleni5791 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@aprilmotau-pm6gr Жыл бұрын
Hahaha you make my day dear!
@tarirobizaro2448 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 I'll use that line in future
@Tongues254 Жыл бұрын
Taking this line now
@apehekiemieze414111 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂 another level of bravery
@JustAThought155 Жыл бұрын
Regarding love, his love is probably based on his ability to control. I was raised with an abusive parent who would tell me they loved me as I had bruises and dried blood on the wounds they inflicted. A psychopath’s version of love is based solely on themselves. And their ability to control is how they feel “in love.”
@thalithamngomezulu457 Жыл бұрын
Truly he is a psychopath he enjoys inflicting people with pain. And degrading them . I love the channel and thTwins
@sunshinedube5214 Жыл бұрын
M so sorry for what u passed thru sister. I was in the same situation lyk u but now m free but the damage was already done
@XekoDiana Жыл бұрын
❤my lil sis❤... proud of her 😊
@aubritechitsolution Жыл бұрын
he was jealous, you are anointed
@aluwanimuavha6865 Жыл бұрын
Can we please have part 2, 😢❤❤❤❤❤
@claudiemunyai86506 ай бұрын
My goodness as a psychologist I'm so appalled 💔 It makes me wonder about how many practitioners who are entrusted to uphold the practice of care and protection end up doing the opposite especially behind the curtain of life. Your cry for help was not heard hence you crumbled years later because indeed it does catch up with you when not addressed 💔 I'm so proud of you and I believe your book is a gem for our youth Keep up the awesome work you do 🎊 keep shining that light 💯🎉❤️
@apehekiemieze414111 ай бұрын
Worth sharing ,thump up ladies❤
@Sibumagazine5 ай бұрын
Askies sis❤may God heal each and everyone.
@zaneleluhabe8863 Жыл бұрын
Broken people 💔 break others...misery loves company
@MphoDebra-ji3yj7 ай бұрын
I can really relate aucy,I salute you on working on urself
@HisPrincess_ Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this sharing🥺 so many women and men are going through this including myself 🤍“Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves” Mathew 7:14 Also age is really not just a number that is something that I have come realisation w. As women it is so important to love and care for ourselves so that when we see such toxic behaviour we can let go and leave because we know ourselves, what we want and what we deserve. Shuu God is Good God is soooo sooo sooo Good. Thank you Lord 🙏🏽
@dikeledimonang6334 Жыл бұрын
Awesome.... how can i get the book, I'm in Botswana. Thank you for the programme . we are empowered. Abuse is painful
@henrylucretia8142 Жыл бұрын
Thanks u for sharing your story be bless 🙏🙏 amen and amen thanks u Lord for the blessings to you all 🙏 🙏 amen 🙌🙌
@mphomphafe-fish9209 Жыл бұрын
There are pple who are so sick out there, hv gone thru 2 of these experiences, the first one the psychopath husband attempted killing me twice, but like Vee, i stayed nd still wanted to fix the unfixable...i just dnt understand what abuse does to people's mind..it is so hard to even try to explain or even describe it. Testimonies like Vee's need to be told for the young ones to avoid falling prey of abusers who thrive in seeing others suffer at their hands..may we wise up..May the Lord have mercy
@spm9130 Жыл бұрын
The reason why she didn't get to the point of being done was the short period of the marriage. With me it was 20 years before I could plug up the courage to leave.
@mathapelongwenya864 Жыл бұрын
20 shoooo my lady, I'm so sorry. I'm happy you found yourself. I was exhausted by 11 years I can just imagine 20 years of hell
@gracekalumbi5569 Жыл бұрын
So sorry..... Its been 7yrs and I'm leaving soon....
@mathapelongwenya864 Жыл бұрын
@@gracekalumbi5569 may the good Lord fight for you and hold you by his mighty hand out of that he'll
@avelakhoza6140 Жыл бұрын
I was exhausted at 5 years, Ahhhh it was enough. He never laid his hands on me but him screaming over me everytime I try to communicate things that are bothering me, things we needed to fix in marriage was enough, not to mention the emotional cheating on WhatsApp and deleting flirting messages and yet a man of God in Public, who loves his wife. The reverse psychology and gaslighting. Ay even 5 years was long
@mathapelongwenya864 Жыл бұрын
@@avelakhoza6140 May God heal and restore you queen
@MohauHuma-zj6ng Жыл бұрын
Very proud Sesi Vee. 🥳🥳🥳🥳
@sybillamula Жыл бұрын
She was too young ad he targeted her to control her
@OlufunmilolaImamOtubu Жыл бұрын
I knew someone like her husband 😅. The more you appear to be happy, the grumpier they become 😊
@indolilyindomitablelily73065 ай бұрын
They're sadistic
@geraldineminyuku829 Жыл бұрын
Oh I know her. My friend used to talk a lot about her and the work they did in sports back in varsity.
@malebelomaphutha6566 Жыл бұрын
The moment I saw both titles on one person i knew there's a narcissist in the picture. They like titles of adoration
@ndekah1592 Жыл бұрын
I relate so so much to her story. I also suffered narcissistic abuse from a so called pastor.I also remember being called “a broken woman” I’m even thinking maybe I was with the same guy this lady was with 😂. One day when I’m ready I’ll share my story.
@LuuNdlovu-co4hx Жыл бұрын
I honestly feel like MOST pastors are abusers.
@cobainbride Жыл бұрын
What an amazing lady you are Venice!❤
@thrivingforward7481 Жыл бұрын
The Lovebombing phase was over,His mask has fallen and U started seeing the real him n his true colours......for the fact that he was psychologist too so he was a perfect Narcissist
@thutosenna24414 ай бұрын
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭Bathong wee I understand exactly what you went through my sister.Basadi ke kopa lo ithuteng go ikuela go santse gona le nako pleeeeeeeeeease.Do Not Keep Secrets tsa Abusing man for a long time ngicela
@Peachcobler22 Жыл бұрын
Bathong! A whole psychologist 😮 So disgusted!
@MavisMathinya6 ай бұрын
That is why we need deliverance before marriage and it is important
@godsfavouritedaughter3476 Жыл бұрын
Mine used to call me damaged goods and told me how lucky I am to have him.
@abigailk14017 ай бұрын
😢😢😢😢That's very painfull.... It took me from where I was...
@AfiDeSouza-qf6nf Жыл бұрын
Some of them, comes in to destroy us and still our personality and happiness in Life.
@phomelelonkoana4585 Жыл бұрын
Yey I’m no 4 to comment🤩 Big up to you twins… you are doing a great job❤
@LesediTsabeng9 ай бұрын
😢😢😢 You went though what I went through my dear.
@elishadung7975 ай бұрын
Twins, i love you. You are so gorgeous. I love your makeup ❤
@rotondwamulaudzi5319 Жыл бұрын
This story was so painful to listen to. I would suggest that your guest approaches an attorney for advice. If they didn’t approach a court for divorce, it is possible that they are still legally married. Most likely, In community of property even.
@Uniko2012 Жыл бұрын
Good that he wanted out,he saved both of you
@mphomashego6252 Жыл бұрын
First to comment💃💃💃 I love your podcasts🥰
@centtwinz Жыл бұрын
Yay! Thank you!
@matloujacqui1668 Жыл бұрын
I'm suffering migraines right now due to overworking. At times I would be walking on streets not seeing anything around me😢. I'm suffering.
@SgcinoLMakhathini Жыл бұрын
You are healed in Jesus Christ of Nazareth Mighty Name Amen.
@rozettameyer41458 ай бұрын
well done❤
@MifupaMikavu23 Жыл бұрын
Watching from Kenya 😊
@sibusisojoseph6 ай бұрын
When someone is evil in heart they feel nothing even when the hurt you,they don't care at all,you become good for nothing. But God is above all😊
@MsRebekahofYHWH Жыл бұрын
There is power in testimony ❤
@faithmwangi7486 Жыл бұрын
From Kenya, volume too low, struggling to hear. It's maximum everywhere on my computer.
@leratogao2267 Жыл бұрын
It’s your device hun
@tshidimochakisa9395 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much ❤❤
@mavischifamba23569 ай бұрын
How can I get this book
@noluvondlebe851311 ай бұрын
Wow gal I'm proud of you ❤
@faithsdollsville2662 Жыл бұрын
I love your channel. But the volume is a bit lower than usual.
@centtwinz Жыл бұрын
Noted!
@lizzienkhoma5785 Жыл бұрын
I agree ❤❤
@SakhileTfwala4 ай бұрын
Would love to get the book, cant get your contact
@mmeme5861 Жыл бұрын
What a wonderful lady....i hope the ex watched this.....
@MicaylaBaloyi Жыл бұрын
Wow Iam so inspired my sister "
@DabbyMuyunda-sh2kl Жыл бұрын
Watching from Zambia
@Godislove1292 Жыл бұрын
I need to talk to this lady. I’m in the same situation and I need a voice of reason coz I’m loosing myself and I’m scared I might just perish. Please let me know how I can get in touch with her.
@thobilemasango4668 Жыл бұрын
Cc loved you story luv luving you I'm on journey
@Lusanda_._ Жыл бұрын
Pastors!! Pastors!! Pastors !! 😓 they’re just monsters shem… Im noticing almost everyone married to a pastor is going through HELL!! but most ladies are silent about it probably cause they don’t want to let down people who are looking up to them
@ArenaOfLibertyMinistry Жыл бұрын
Never generalize...doctors,lawyers and etc are also that.its just how he was
@marthatladi-7012 Жыл бұрын
The devil doesn't want love. As a Community Developer and a Believer, I encourage you to start the Women Prayer for married couples. Just sharing the pains is no more enough. I'm doing the same activities as you and in Limpopo. Please touch base. I know and have worked in Mouse, Ntwane, ga bo Seun. Narcissists spirit is rife this days.
@thulisilethulisile2137 Жыл бұрын
Bathong Venice 😭😭, to think that you have been a gently child 🤗.
@jacklinekundu7142 Жыл бұрын
Hi,this story resembles mine,may l have the contact of this lady pls
@redtaggirl493 Жыл бұрын
Lol wena you were married to my ex husband. I can relate to a lot of things
@thalithamngomezulu457 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂Wow
@thutosenna24414 ай бұрын
Ithuteng go reetsa motho ha a go bolella gore wa abusiwa😥
@fundiswafundie2117 Жыл бұрын
I have a lived this life and now m starting to recall more
@lesegomodjadji8680 Жыл бұрын
😢😢😢 this is sad.
@peaceful22023 Жыл бұрын
The man calculated your whole relationship. Narcissist cannot love. Yet, they envy your Godly ability to love. I am happy you kept on being about your Father God's business.
@mookhobrenda2349 Жыл бұрын
He was a narcissist, I have a husband like that
@matshidisomphuthi4403 Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry for that, I hope that one day you are set free.
@rorisanglethole4025 Жыл бұрын
My husband is a narcissist too. I'm gathering strength to leave him.
@Verah345 Жыл бұрын
@@rorisanglethole4025I’m so sorry may god give you strength 🙏
@ramaselaviolet2993 Жыл бұрын
Sorry dear, you need to get out while you still can
@abigailvilane Жыл бұрын
@rorisanglethole4025 I believe you will leave soon especially now because you are aware of what he is and you not in denial
@RuthMadumo Жыл бұрын
When we start denying that we are only human inhumane things start happening to us so just be true to yourself so as to see your mistakes coming and have the skills to.deL with them before tjey deal with you