bridezillas that messed with the WRONG opponent - REACTION

[@eliza6971]

I know a lot of people have been planning their weddings since childhood but I can’t imagine getting so invested in a literal daydream that it ruins my friendships with my besties

[@spacedorito9592]

I just realized something… when people say it’s their childhood dream to have a wedding, is it to marry someone who they love and be with their partners forever OR just have this big fantasy dream party and nothing else?

[@whoahanant]

That's how I view these too. They're all just daydreams and fantasy, nothing else. A wedding is about you celebrating your love with your partner, not an aesthetic purity party. You don't need matching bridesmaids/groomsmen. You don't need a fancy location. You don't need all the expensive stuff. Yet these people act like villains when it comes to their 1 day.

[@adoptdontshop3911]

Its kinda sad. Its like they believe 100% that their life will peak on that one day and its all downhill after.

[@ArtixellAnimations]

100%

[@rebecca9608]

I think nowadays people focus mainly on the wedding for social media reasons and not for the important parts like the relationship. Personally if I was ever to get married it would be a registry office thing as for me I think it’s just a piece of paper at the end of the day and the actual relationship would be far more important.

[@EmGee12]

I’ve recently been diagnosed with cancer and I am bridesmaid in a few months, I will undoubtedly have no hair or very little hair for the wedding. My bestie has been so accommodating with me. Including looking for wigs with me close to my natural hair so I will feel confident and beautiful on the day. I offered to drop out and she said “don’t you DARE!” With friends like that that poor girl has, who needs enemies honestly.

[@Babex214]

So sorry to hear that you have cancer… stay strong ❤

[@dazeddeiz]

Fuck cancer.. Rooting for you

[@cobaltmidnightoilamp6748]

​@@Babex214, what cancer do you have? I am sorry to read @ that.

[@thegrimmreaper9688]

I know that it probably won’t do much but, I am sending a lot of positive energy to you! My godmother died of breast cancer and it was horrible… I genuinely hope that you get better and have a blessed life! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@mollymorgan8388]

You have an amazing bestfriend right there and also I’m wishing you a speedy recovery. I’m so sorry, cancer fucking sucks but you’re doing amazing!!

[@YourNewSleepParalysisDemon]

Even if it is someone's wedding day, the fact that some brides think that they can dictate what people do with their hair, weight, etc. is nucking futs.

[@SonjaElizabethTeal]

If you don't mind I want to borrow this, Bestie!

[@nutty77]

Charlotte covered one where the bride wanted to give her bridesmaids some weight loss drugs without their knowledge... crazy

[@rachelmaddowswife8713]

Yeah, unless someone shows up with swastikas carved into a buzz cut or something, I don't see how it's justified. These brides should have just hired models to pose with them if aesthetics are more important than their relationships.

[@heathercamera]

When I got married I was just happy to have them there. I got dresses for them but I told them they could wear a burlap bag and I’d still be psyched to have them there! What is wrong with these chicks?

[@elincarlsson6388]

It happened to me with an ex friend & bridezilla, I had beautiful naturally curly hair down to the end of my back, however I was tired of taking care of it and wanted to cut it to my shoulders = 2/3 of the total lenght, she gave me a look and said "don't you dare cut your hair before my wedding" I was 😮 but laughed nervously as I wasn't sure if she was joking, turns out that was just the beginning...😅

[@suzannegraham7076]

The use of "boundaries" and "I can't allow disrespect" to bully people gets me every time.

[@alexia3552]

It’s so narcissist-coded

[@vaporean_boylove.0w083]

It really gives that energy of "I wanna justify my anger towards you! How dare you not enable me!"

[@yes2542]

Exactly! Boundaries are a two way street not just a "I SAY SO IT MUST HAPPEN". Entitled 🥱

[@loganbeverly7147]

The gaslighting and manipulation are just off the charts.

[@BeckBeckGo]

Someone can have a boundary around needing to be an asshole. Luckily my boundaries don't allow that. So I guess we can't be frens

[@Missuskeefe]

my bestie since we were 7 years old was my maid of honour when I got married. I was hers. I even named my daughter after her. I got divorced, she got divorced. Years later, she was getting married again (she had three sons from her first marriage. She approached me about getting married again. I was beyond happy for her (I actually really like this guy and hated the first guy). She asked how I would feel about not being her maid of honour (she wanted her sons to stand). I told her we had been there, done that and I just wanted to be there to see her marry a man who deserved her. My mom (her second mom) officiated the wedding. It was absolutely beautiful. She has been and always be my bff. We are 50 now. (Love you to bits Tatum)

[@I.am.hooked]

Awww, this is such a cute story.❤

[@Nana_Lala_]

So wonderful 💯

[@hannahraedobre]

Not inviting your friend that decorated your wedding is WILD

[@ThoseWhoBinge]

“I think the cash must’ve fallen out of the card!” I couldn’t have stopped myself, I would’ve HAD to respond with “it looks like my actual wedding invite fell out of my mailbox!”

[@lisamelroy2855]

😂😂😂 That's perfect!!!

[@marythewinter]

I think I would be very direct "Oh I'm sorry, I wasn't aware I had to pay after spending 2K on your decorations and not being invited"😂

[@candacen7779]

Perfect response! 🤌

[@francesmcstay]

I would have replied in a horrified voice, "Oh no! I had put $5,000 cash in the card. I'm so sorry it didn't make it into your hands."

[@Inspirayetion]

I was thinking that too! I would've said "What do you mean, I sent it right after I got the ceremony invite!"

[@chrystalminor1422]

The glasses one; I would be so so petty. I would absolutely not wear them at all, bump into absolutely everything, "accidentally" knock multiple things over and continuously say "oh I'm so sorry! It's just that the bride doesn't want me to wear my glasses."

[@Bookq36]

Knock over the cake 😈

[@pastelfantasy_rika]

Walk into the bride and spill stuff on the bride cuz couldn’t see

[@tiffanym1108]

The way my eyesight is, it wouldn't be an accident lol

[@ramachandra776]

"Auto renew Amazon subscription to audacity" - that's a term which I will remember for a long time . That woman is a genius . 😂

[@TheRealBrotherGrimmy]

Thank you for typing that out... because I was HARD confused when I heard it... and I'm pretty sure it would have totally gone over my head... like it did, until the last 30 seconds of the video, when I saw this. So thank you, good person, for making sure us stupid's could "catch" the drift!

[@lindapatton4478]

I'm adding that to my list of rare insults.

[@_Ella_Serbia_Deutschland]

What minute does she say that..

[@aubreycarter7624]

Such a golden line!

[@anncoleman]

God, Charlotte, this one was freaking hilarious!!

[@annecannon-tolento8807]

NO woman wants to cut her hair when it starts falling out I clumps, but we do whatever we can to feel in charge. Especially when we feel our body is no longer in our control. As someone who recently went through Chemo and Radiation for 8 days STRAIGHT, for inoperable brain cancer (Thankfully 7 months in remission), and already lost all my hair 7 years ago, of course when the time comes that we realize we HAVE to do something. I am so excited she won!!! Now I hope she gets paid!

[@pamelaoliver8442]

And I hope you recover well ❤

[@lostshadows768]

First bride: "I wish you'd told me more than a week before the wedding." She did. Two weeks is more than a week. Plus, I don't think hair coming out in clumps would have looked good in the photos.

[@mage1439]

"Two weeks is more than a week." Clearly BZ didn't watch enough Sesame Street as a kid, or she'd have learned to count.

[@boogiebear3095]

@@mage1439😂 very true

[@YellowFreesias]

Losing your hair is heartbreaking, having to go for the chop to hide it sucks so much. Why can't leg hair fall off instead?

[@lindapatton4478]

@@YellowFreesias Agreed!

[@raisedstray4947]

And I bet had she have reached out in time to satisfy the bride that she would’ve only offered her to wear a wig in the photos and at the wedding

[@Ciela531]

Nah the OP who did the decor as a wedding gift should’ve responded with - “oh I’m sorry, I left your gift blender at home. Btw you owe me $2k+ for the decor I made for you”

[@ChefSarah4104]

"While I sympathize with your health concerns, I'm not willing to compromise on my vision." Is an unhinged statement. Wholly crap. (Edit to add) My husband wears glasses. He offered to wear contacts the day of our wedding (he only wears them to play hockey), I said no, that's not who he is.

[@karencotlar2023]

Obviously, she doesn’t really sympathize with her health concerns and is a totally garbage human being to be more concerned about her “vision” than about her friend’s wellbeing. You’re not staging a Broadway musical here where your vision matters. This is a wedding which is supposed, IMHO, to be about bringing all the people you care about the most to share what should be one of the happiest days of your life with you.

[@mage1439]

Any time someone wants someone else to ditch the glasses I keep thinking of Velma stumbling around saying "I can't see a thing without my glasses!"

[@aimee5259]

I wear glasses. I've been a bridesmaid and a groomswoman multiple times. Never even thought of taking my glasses off for photos, because why would I? I wouldn't look like myself!

[@patriot-hj5vx]

Wholly?

[@ChefSarah4104]

@@patriot-hj5vx Yes, as in it's "total and complete" crap.

[@mnicolestarrn]

I like how the woman who took the bridezilla to court, her hair started growing back as a result of the friendship ending. It literally showed how getting toxic people out of your life makes it so much better for you to enjoy. Also, just happy to hear that she’s much better off :)

[@sarahtaavetti]

I learnt that when it comes down to “services rendered” as wedding gifts ALWAYS send them a invoice listing the price what it SHOULD have cost, then totaling it to zero. Especially when it comes to decorations and stuff. That shit adds up and people are SO unaware..

[@lisamelroy2855]

That sounds like a great idea. You're absolutely right that most people have no idea how much time and money goes into stuff like that!

[@elinor6525]

Yep, I've done that in other situations where I have donated my expertise.send a statement with the actual cost and write 'Donation in Kind', $300, balance $000

[@TheBaumcm]

Good idea!

[@sillymcchilly9617]

My best friend shaved her head with short hair on top, almost like a Mohawk the day before my wedding. She loved it! She was glowing while showing her new hairstyle. It didn't bother me at the wedding (and yes, people were staring at it sometimes... because it was different 😅). But I support everything that makes her happy! Because that's what real friends do!

[@sarahsong8345]

When I got married I had very little money and so my family and friends gifted me things to make the wedding happen. I bought a lot of stuff from thrift stores and yard sales. Got my dress for 35 dollars from the thrift store, very pretty. Some of the gifts were - altering the dress, making the cake, buying components for decorations, helping make decorations, making an archway, setting up and taking down. I had SOOOOOO much support and I made sure to thank all of them and invite all of them to the wedding. I did not expect them to give us money or other gifts since their help WAS the gift. I can not imagine asking for further gifts when loved ones have offered their time and money to help make such an important event happen. People need to learn gratitude.

[@lisamelroy2855]

I bet your wedding was really beautiful and full of wonderful people and memories!!! ❤

[@dudeorduuude5211]

Beautiful. My wedding was very simple as well. Like 15 people. And all of my family pitched in. I made the food. It was at my Dad's house. That's all you need.

[@Queina1]

Same here, a friend of my mom's donated a wedding gown for me to borrow, another friend of hers made the bouquet from silk flowers we bought. My sister, who was my MOH, wore a semi formal gown I had in my closet. My mom's cousin made the wedding cake. A friend of my MIL's did the wedding video for free. I didn't expect any additional gifts from those people and if they chose to give a gift as well, they were very generous. I was very grateful for all of it. Though I never saw the video. He gave the tape to my MIL, she watched it and then left it in the VCR. Then the next day her soap operas were taped over it. *sigh* She felt so bad about it happening, so I know it wasn't on purpose but it was very sad cause she said the video was beautiful.

[@justjeni83]

I got pregnant at 23, our family’s pressured us to get married but we were young and broke. I was 8 months pregnant when we finally gave in. We had a small ceremony in my BILs backyard with family and a justice of the peace. To include our friends we had a big bbq potluck party out at my in-laws cabin. We did not ask for or expect any gifts. They were all more than happy to come and bring food and some brought us small gifts as well. We felt so loved and even though it rained we still had a wonderful time. Not once did any of them complain or berate us.

[@TheBaumcm]

My cousin did flower arrangements for funsies so she did my bouquet, smaller for bridesmaids and boutonnières. A friend on my hubby’s side made the cake. My in laws helped with the arrangements (we got married on a popular date and my mother went momzilla, cancelled the wedding and we had to scramble 6 months pre game) and the centerpieces, along with decorating the reception area. I was just happy to actually get to the date, be able to have my dad walk me down, my autistic brother with me (he did not travel anywhere at the time and he came by vehicle), and be married at the end of the day. The fact that people were willing to spend this time and money to do these things for me was just too sweet to ask for something else.

[@Meeckle]

Wedding drama is wild!! My wedding was in December. It was low key, a wee group of family. We had wonderful hand fasting ceremony that involves twining hands through a strip of fabric, and pulling our hands apart, for the twined fabric to pull into a knot. (This is where the phrase "Tying the knot" comes from) Our reception was food at my parents house. It was literally perfect.

[@cierrahubers]

That first bride sounded so bridezilla like even after her friend did like so much for her wedding, she still wasn’t going to allow her to participate over HAIR???

[@silveritea]

Exactly. Has no one heard of a wig?

[@ceceelizabeth527]

Truly

[@WhatTheWHAT524]

Right!?!? And not just hair she chose to cut per say. It was health related and out of her control. How selfish and gross a human being do you have to be to react that way.

[@jadend6978]

Right?! I didn’t even care how my bridesmaid wore their hair, told them to do whatever would make them comfortable for the day. I could never imagine being upset at any person I considered a friend over their hair cut

[@Nanasays0731]

Maybe she was losing her hair from the stress of dealing with the bridezilla?

[@r10greyhoundsrule87]

The last story was heartwarming in that the other maids not only defended the maid who wore glasses, but supported her to the end. There are some people who wear glasses who cannot, for a multitude of reasons, wear contacts. It isn't that they don't want to do so, it is an eye condition or other health reason they aren't candidates for them. This bride didn't deserve their friendships. I'm happy the bridesmaids all had social, ethical and moral compasses and weren't intimidated by the bride to not act accordingly.

[@yasminni485]

Asking your "friend" to take off her glasses (which she needs to see) reminds me of the zilla who told her grandma she can't use her wheelchair.

[@lisamelroy2855]

Oof - that story was a doozy!!!

[@yasminni485]

@@lisamelroy2855 yeah, almost unreal that people like that exist.

[@TheBaumcm]

When I was really nearsighted, I wouldn’t have been able to help it. Malicious compliance would’ve kicked in. I would’ve taken my glasses off and then had someone at the end of the aisle hollering, and waving wildly, flagging me down with those violently orange lights they use for airplanes.😂

[@koconnell968]

​@@TheBaumcm I am super super nearsighted (like -8 to -9 prescription) and have astigmatism as well. The one time I lost my glasses in the ocean while babysitting my cousins recently (long story), I was functionally blind without them. Had to call us an Uber and leave my car at the beach in the meantime, and it was so disorienting overall. I would not be able to function in an unfamiliar environment like a wedding without glasses. Contacts aren't really an option for me either since they irritate my eyes after a couple hours.

[@LuckasSilver]

Some bridezillas are the definition of "I care more about my photos than you dying."

[@ShadowWolf1307]

As a woman who had to shave off her hair last year bc of medical reasons, the first story was heartbreaking. Cutting your hair can be a very personal thing and having problems with hair can literally lead to depression. When i was admitted to a hospital to have specialists monitor me and try procedures, in the very first meeting they told me "you need to get into therapy, at the very least join a support group as these things can lead to harsh psychological issues bc humans have strong attachment between their identity and hair" and the docs weren't kidding! I was sobbing each time in the shower when hair fell out, and at some point it got so bad I only saw a monster when I looked into a mirror (that's how bad the hair looked/got). The only thing keeping me from going fully into a deep depression was my partner, family and friends. And it was they that finally convinced me to shave what every was left. It was one of the hardest things of my life, but I am glad I did it. The docs had easier access to my skull for procedures and things improved. It felt weird and uncomfortable for months with just stubles and i did look like a boy sometimes but since then things have much improved, tho some of these health problems i will carry with me for the rest of my life. Much respect for OP to cut her hair and a big FU to the bride. What a bad friend. I'm glad she sued her to get the money back. EDIT: Wow! Didn't think so many people would even see my comment, but thanks for all the kind words! And for all than went through something similar: you are NOT alone! You are brave and strong and you will get through this, just like we did :) For those worried for my health: i have recovered enough to be able to live a normal life again. Things are off, i still rarely wear my hair open as you can see spots and wierd coloration of skin but my self-esteem is back to a normal level and i am no depressed anymore. I have accepted that this might be how i am now and that is okay.

[@rebny7801]

I wish you all the best. Oh hey! and congratulation to you for all you overcame! You are a fighter!

[@TheBaumcm]

It can be extremely traumatic and people don’t understand how scary it can be when your body goes out of control. I know several survivors who didn’t even know if they’d survive much less if their hair would grow back. I shaved my head in honor of what would have been my brother’s 40th birthday for St Baldrick’s and donated to Locks of Love. So many people said I was brave. It annoyed me, only because I knew it would grow back, and quickly. I have fine curly hair so it grows like a weed and there really isn’t too awkward of a grow out. Hope you are doing better, if that’s a possibility in your situation, and your hair is growing like a weed too, and if not, that you have learned to rock the bald and relish how little time it takes to get ready in the morning.

[@sidneyrenee7186]

I feel so validated by this comment. I'm sorry for what you went through but to know I wasn't the only one losing clumps of hair in the shower and sobbing over it brings me a lot of peace. I used a seriously damaging product for a couple weeks and months of hair loss ensued. You can see in my profile photo that my hair is kinda the point, my identity and hair are strongly linked. I know I'm just kind of rambling but I just really appreciate your comment. My hair is growing back now and is starting to get healthy again. Thank you for sharing your story ❤

[@nleem3361]

Absolutely. I started wearing wigs last year. My hair had been thinning for years and couldn't hide my bald spot anymore. Wigs are fantastic. Even the cheap ones on Amazon can be great and the synthetic lace front by designers look so real. Anyway, it's still hard to see myself without a wig on. I'm just grateful we have options now days. Hope you've found some good ones too.

[@kenzieuchiha1191]

I had to cut my hair last year (chemo) as my hair was thinning and literally coming out in *CLUMPS* so hearing the bride basically throwing their entire friendship under the bus over a hair cut for a wedding really messed with me.

[@artphotognh]

Charlotte mentions the bully who showed up at her house party; something similar happened to me. In high school, a female covert malignant narcissist had been emotionally torturing the cutest guy in school. She was super-flirty, but when he asked her out, she said she had a boyfriend who went to another school - so it "wouldn't be right." But the love-bombing continued until he graduated. He & I started going out, and I had a birthday party for him & a mutual friend, and this psycho (who had never even acknowledged my presence in school before) showed up for the party! And even signed the card, "Love, Cheryl." She showed up unexpectedly at a couple of other events we attended. Malignant narcissists never stop trying to ensnare their victims again, and there's a reason they are the inspiration for the Succubus of legend.

[@flamefangstar]

How'd she find it?

[@lightningangel45]

@@flamefangstar she prob used the book of faces

[@wikiwoof9590]

You ever watch its always sunny? Dee does this to rickity cricket! LMAO funny in fiction. Not so much irl

[@talesofflaws7509]

Lol there are literally wig options for the first story. The bride is being ridiculous and she as a friend being unconcerned for OP's health is nuts.

[@B.Harper7]

100%, you can get a BOMB ASS wig noways for $30-50 that you CAN'T tell it's not real, when installed properly. Sure, they could get a WIG wig and drop $5-10grand, but it's not necessary!!

[@bufficliff8978]

That's probably the other type of option the bride was referring to. Depending on where one lives and knowledge of wigs it's not always possible to get a wig on that short of notice, and nice wigs with long enough hair to do the multiple styles would be expensive. An expensive wig with more of a heads up could have been possible but in one week would have been difficult. The bride likely would have recommended a wig. I'm usually more chill than the comment section. The bridesmaid knew how important hair styles were to the bride. I would have told the bride before cutting my hair. I'm pretty sure she said it was 2 weeks before the ceremony. Sometimes hair can fall out overnight, but it's also possible that if she had waited 2 weeks the patches that were lost could have been covered by extensions. We don't have enough info. Sorry for being a rambling time-waster. I'm sick at home and bored. I think a lot of not-the-assholes are inconsiderate while simultaneously definitely NOT being assholes. For a wedding event as extravagant as a 3 day event with multiple hair styles there's definitely a hair stylist. I would have contacted the MOH or bride and let them know what was happening and asked if I could contact the hair stylist to make sure they have the tools to make the styles work and then cut it after the wedding. The hair stylist might have even had an "in" with someone who had a quality wig. The bridesmaid communicating could have prevented the entire problem before it happened. She wasn't an asshole, but I wish people communicated more.

[@user-mp4yb4wh8i]

Of course, that assumes the OP wants to wear a wig - BTW, wigs are NOT comfortable, especially if you're just starting to wear one and not used to it (I have alopecia and have worn wigs for over 38 years, starting at age 11, and have switched to hats or scarves instead). That bride is a real b1tch!

[@martina21953]

I was envisioning the bridesmaid wearing a color coordinated scarf! Some women look so good in them!

[@krystalynkersey]

@@bufficliff8978 I’m sorry but you sound just as insane as the bride….

[@xraydemo4157]

"So many gasted flabbers" 😂 CHARLOTTE!!! when I tell you that you had me cackling and I almost died - there's no joke here girl 🙉 I nearly choked on some jellybeans 💚 not trying to meet my maker just yet

[@nicolevance802]

To the first bride. Boundaries are for you to set around your own behavior. If you set them around someone else that’s called being a control freak.

[@Armystaytiny2380]

^THIS🙌🏾

[@FukaiKokoro]

Seems like a lot of narcissistic people like to abuse the term boundaries for their benefits

[@Anonicant]

I'm so tired of people trying to be controlling and saying they're setting boundaries. I'm just tired of hearing "I'm setting boundaries" in general. I think Reddit has scarred me.

[@Armystaytiny2380]

@@Anonicant facts

[@MidniteSpectre]

​@@Anonicantboundaries are good, you should have them. They can be as simple as "If you do x, i will do y" You can't let other people step all over you, ya know? You gotta leave a little something for yourself and if someone really cares about you, they'll respect you.

[@Guitarbarella]

At least Bridezilla was stupid enough to put it in writing for court.

[@pierremaiden]

I love the Bridezillas stories where the resolution is: ''you have no power here'' and everyone just straight up left with the victim.

[@annieharris2965]

15:22 “oh that was so wonderful thank you for sharing” and the little hand claps were so cute. 😂😭

[@Freya025]

Asking someone who wears glasses to wear contacts is not always an option either. They can be expensive, and not everyone with glasses has them as a backup.

[@mymlan]

And some people can't wear contacts at all. Like me. Contacts can't correct all the things wrong with my eyes. If it was me the bride would have had the choice black or green glasses, that's what I have.

[@pippagrey9633]

@@mymlan I had severe astigmatism and can't wear hard lenses. Also dry eyes (we think it's optical rosacea, not fun) and many times even soft lenses weren't an option. One of the joys of having had cataracts develop early was getting IOLs and now being able to function without glasses ( I still need them to read, but don't to drive; before I couldn't find my car without glasses). Heck, I can find my glasses in the morning without help if they get knocked off my bedside table!

[@crazybiogeek]

@@pippagrey9633 I'm imagining you acting like Velma from Scooby Doo, looking for your glasses. (And that's a complement because Velma is awesome. And the glasses bit from the cartoon is funny and thankfully doesn't happen very often IRL.)

[@melissasheppard6674]

Yes, that’s true. I’ve been wearing glasses since November and it’s probably easier than using contacts.

[@crazybiogeek]

I've never even asked if I am eligible for contacts, because I have no interest in sticking things directly onto my eyeball. Nor do I want to spend the money. Nor would I ever go through all that just for one day as a bridesmaid. I'd take off the glasses for photos if it would make the bride happy but I can't go without them for long cause it makes me nauseous to try to go without them. (My actual vision isn't so bad that I can't see what's in front of me. But my depth perception is pretty awful without glasses and I would be in danger of running into things. Running into the cake would be a much more plausible accident.)

[@swostikasharma9647]

On the next episode of Bridezilla tantrums you'll read "She's breathing. Stop breathing on my wedding."

[@HorrorandScience]

I can relate to the first story. I didn't sue but because of a medication I was on, I gained some weight and was removed from the bridal party. I spent 1000 dollars and am still bitter about it. Especially since I was there for her and helped plan the wedding.

[@mpras684]

Their rejection is your protection sweetie. Really hard to fathom what some folk value and are willing to do in order to get it… sucks about the cash and treatment but make sure you remind yourself (if you can) that all that bad ‘juju’ is baggage GONE! Let someone else be her gofer.

[@Amélie20159]

Bonsoir Tatie Charlotte je suis présente je t'aimes très fort tu es ma meilleure amie ❤❤😊

[@Mike90317]

Steal the husband! Get her. lol

[@B.Harper7]

@HorrorandScience. WTF?!?!?!?! Please tell me you've sent them an invoice, that's fcked up and you should get your money back. Absolutely go to court.

[@HorrorandScience]

@@B.Harper7 I'm a pushover so I never really did anything other than return the shoes and sold the altered dress on eBay. It was 3 years ago and I'm not sure I could get anything from it still. Her excuse was that since the dress was altered it was now personally mine. She got divorced though lmao.

[@iverg_]

"achoo! sorry i'm allergic to BS!" The actual best quote ever said

[@hauleimacecsko7501]

Charlotte.... I'm a recovering people pleaser myself and it has taken 52 years for me to realize it. I have begun changing my life. Your videos have been inspiring ... I would love to get that shirt. I will wear it proudly 😊🎉

[@CharlotteDobre]

Proud of you bestie!

[@Luvhlymiraa]

Slay!!

[@Bertoboy41]

3:14... "Choo! Sorry, sorry... I'm allergic to bs." One of the biggest guffawing laughs I've had in a while. If that joke has been around a while I've never heard it. But you did it flawlessly 🤧 😔 🐂 💩 😂😂😂😂😂

[@paginator]

I don’t understand these brides that freak out over hair, especially when the hair cut or loss is health-induced. If i were getting married, I would want my friend who has cancer to be there even if she has no hair. Her presence is what’s important!

[@joanneloudin8309]

Having lost my bestie to cancer I would have loved to even have one more day with her, one more picture, one more memory let alone to have her in my wedding. That would have been awesome. Shame on this bride.

[@paginator]

@@joanneloudin8309 Amen! 💜💜

[@kaitlanparks8061]

I wrote my vows and stumbled through because I have intense social anxiety. My husband has given speeches to tens of thousands of people at once, both live and broadcasted. He spoke from the heart at the alter and it was perfection. It truly shows how we complement one another and I still look back after a decade and that’s one of my favorite parts despite how terrified I was in the moment. ❤

[@CassMaxwell13]

I was MOH at my best friends wedding a few months ago. I did not leave them any cash but I did make 48 cupcakes, 24 chocolate, 24 vanilla decorated with white and sage green rosettes. I’m a professional baker and cake decorator and that was my gift to the couple. My friend was so happy with them she said she couldn’t have imagined anything better. If I had sold them to her I would have charged at least $200 plus delivery fee. The thought of gifting someone my work and then asking for a gift would have got a prompt invoice from me. “It cost this much cuz it takes me fucking hours!”

[@Craze961]

That last bridezilla didn't deserve any of those bridesmaids. Good on them for being awesome!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I wouldn't be surprised if she was deprived of her future husband too. 😂

[@marareyzaga1417]

First story: indeed, there are wigs that could have been used, but I feel the hair shouldn't have been an issue in the first place. If you're going to be so fixated on small details like that (bridesmaids hair, weight, tattoos, etc), you're never going to enjoy your wedding and you're only going to get people fed up with you. Some things need to be let go.

[@martina21953]

What I don't get is that most of these people had these things before they were asked to be bridesmaids! My best friend was quite heavy. It didn't matter to me! She looked beautiful in a dress that she had from one of her kid's weddings. I made my dress and our three daughters' dresses. My dad and son wore blue suits. The groom wore an off white suit which, unfortunately, shrunk when he had it cleaned! Who cares?!? We were all insanely happy. That's what matters most.

[@mymlan]

These types of brides don't want friends at their wedding. They want Instagram worthy clones just to look aesthetic.

[@thetwistinside2857]

​@@mymlanMakes you wish they had the self awareness and honesty to just hire the models they want. But I guess it's cheaper to try to bully your friends into it while snatching at their purse strings.

[@FlawlessImperfectionBeauty]

Yes! As a makeup artist, brides often open up to me about concerns and worries for the big day. I do my best to help where I can, but I also let them know that if they can let go of impossible worries they will enjoy their day no matter what. My very first wedding client and bridesmaids were amazing, everything was perfect. During the ceremony the country club was hit by a microburst (mini hurricane). The windows were broken by flying patio furniture, and the power lines were taken down- no power. No lights, no music, and the caterers couldn’t cook the meal. I comforted the bride, and gave her a pep-talk with a makeup touch up. Everyone helped fill the place with candles, and we passed out salads and appetizers. You will never find more beautiful photos, everything was by candlelight. The photographer backed his car to the ballroom and we used his cars sound system for music. What started as a disaster was a wedding no one will ever forget! When the bride was able to relax, they had the most amazing day with the best people. She kept a great attitude, and that made all the difference. 💕

[@gloriamontgomery6900]

Oh, yessss! So true.

[@19kh75]

"I don't condone violence, but I would riot" Best. Quote. EVER!!! 🤣

[@caljones]

I’m kinda thinking that the first OP’s health problems might have been caused by the bride, possibly. She sounds like a right piece of work

[@lisamelroy2855]

That's what I was thinking, too. Planning a wedding can be stressful, even if you're not the bride. I'm sure it contributed to her health issues!

[@lotstodo]

It was also in the middle of Covid!

[@seameology]

My thoughts exactly!

[@alexia3552]

If it’s alopecia triggered by stress the wedding and bride no doubt contributed to that stress

[@Kmb33831]

When you axe someone from your wedding party 3 days prior to the wedding-the likelihood of the friendship surviving is almost zero. Either a. The bride/groom is being a total jerk and it’s not going to be easy to move past Or B. The bridesmaid/groomsman is being a total jerk and it’s not going to be easy to move past. I can’t believe you would kick someone out of your wedding over hair. I had a friend that was ginormously 7.5 months pregnant. She was huge. She had offered to step down when she found out she was pregnant but I told her if she was ok staying in that of course I wanted her to be a bridesmaid. I felt badly that she had to buy a bigger dress and pay more for alterations. And she didn’t seem super comfortable-but I was just grateful she wanted to be there for me! I mean. Good lawd people. Pictures tell the story of your life. They’re not meant to look like AI created them

[@audraberreth7632]

As someone whose parents hate each other so much that I could never conceive of having a normal wedding, I can’t comprehend why brides insist on such ridiculous things like all bridesmaids having the same hair. Why the duck does it matter?

[@carmeltabby]

Because they don't have bigger problems. Or I have to assume they don't.

[@Zinnia-bs8tt]

@@carmeltabby Or they obsess over trivial stuff because they don't want to deal with the real problems. The groom's cheating on me? La dee da it didn't happen, but OMG my MOH got her hair trimmed & the flower girl sneezed & my entire wedding was ruined!!!

[@7ShadowMaiden7]

@@Zinnia-bs8ttmy future in laws are abusive turds? NononononoNOOOOO THEY PICKED THE WRONG SHADE OF CORNFLOWER BLUE FOR THE TABLE SETTINGS

[@kaelin_cherise]

Instagram aesthetics? Making sure the BRIDE stands out in the photos. As if 9 times out of 10 IT ISNT HARD BECAUSE SHES WEARING A WHITE PRINCESS-STYLE DRESS?! Honestly, these types of stories just read "insecurity" from the bride.

[@MamaDearest-bc5uv]

Same, that's why we just went to the courthouse.

[@marissabulso6439]

These stories of brides excluding friends or family because they won’t “match the vision” never cease to make my jaw drop. I was asked to be a bridesmaid for a wedding and immediately told the bride that I would love to, but explained I had a pic line (one of those IV lines inserted into your vein for administering medicine…it hangs out of your arm and there’s a whole dressing/bandage situation, etc). I was afraid it would ruin the look of her bridal party or distract people. She gently laughed and said it was absolutely not a problem and she still wanted me in the bridal party, so long as I was feeling well enough. She even worked with her family to make several accommodations for my health and comfort. AND fully supported and encouraged me to make a pic line cover that coordinated with my dress (instead of one that was meant to disguise the pic as much as possible). She helped me EMBRACE my pic line as part of my look, rather than feeling awkward and ashamed for being so visibly sick. And this from a girl who wasn’t quite convinced I was actually sick to begin with when my symptoms first started. Made up for that in spades once I had a diagnosis. Wedding days and bridal parties are about being surrounded by your loved ones. Not about orchestrating the perfect image. Why would you rather look back on your day and remember that you excluded a friend for her haircut (especially one related to health problems), than to remember having that friend around despite your “imperfect” pictures? Either way your friend with be present in your memories. And I HATE when people use language about boundaries and respect for trash behavior like that.

[@Allie_phelps]

I had a good friend that I met through work. She did flower arrangements from home and when I was getting married I asked her if she could make my and my bridesmaids bouquets. She did them, they were beautiful they would’ve costed me an afford but she did it for the cost of the flowers and gave them to me as my wedding gift. It was the best gift I received because it came from such a sweet, kind, wonderful friend. I couldn’t even imagine 1)not inviting her to my wedding or 2)asking her where my wedding gift was. WTAF, who does that?!?!?

[@heathermiller5765]

"Suck on that" Lmao I'm dying 😂

[@daphnereal3129]

As a glasses wearer, the baby mamas in the final story warmed my heart. I can only imagine how EMBARRSSING it was for the bridezilla to be alone on her side, no friends in sight, while all the groomsmen and guests were looking around trying to figure out where all the baby mamas went. Edit to add: AND THE WEDDING PHOTOS WERE ALL RUINED TOO :D

[@raghailligh1080]

If the groom had any sense, he should have seen the departure of each bridesmaid as another red flag, or a host of semaphores waving a big giant warning.

[@amyvary6875]

I have been using that wonderful phrase “ My Flabbers are Ghasted “ I love it Thankyou I love it 😻

[@jessicaroses9831]

I haaaaaaate this trend of writing to your friends like it’s a business email. Like girl, just say you’re mad your friend cut her hair without your permission and she’s fired as a bridesmaid. We don’t need word salad.

[@Meredith13Angel]

I agree! It wasn't even a good one lol 😂 I kept cringing! If I got a business email then let's do business! 😏

[@draconicfeline6177]

Right, it's so bad. Shows what she thinks of op. Op then treated it like business and I love that for her.

[@pearlofthedarkage]

I agree. I think it's because big business wants to corporatize the world to normalize "the culture" and gaslight us into believing that this is the pinnacle of human existence.

[@Enskoennedag]

Yeah, and it was so poorly written too.

[@rachaelgibson2330]

😂 "word salad" I like that! Hope you don't mind, I'd like to use that in the future 😉

[@KiaTy91]

Take off your glasses or leave… I’m taking my glasses and “accidentally” walking and knocking everything over. You will rue the day you told me to walk around blind. Ahh why did someone on Reddit say this also as I’m typing! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@agkittyhook2257]

2nd bride: OP should send an invoice, and in the discount line, in all caps, write " DISCOUNT - WEDDING GIFT" and put the 100% discount so the invoice total is zero. If the bride continues to escalate with public gaslighting, post a copy of the invoice along with proof of delivery.

[@alexia3552]

Gorgeous, good idea

[@elisham23]

I would've loved to see them come back and be like "oh yeah we forgive you, we'll stay" then have all the bridesmaids show up with glasses on

[@seameology]

Or that! 🤣

[@nashigaming7878]

For the first story. I don’t plan on getting married, but if it was me, I would sit down and talk with her about how she feels and ask if she wants to step down. Not for cutting her hair. To make sure she isn’t putting herself under too much pressure and risking her health. If she feels like it won’t make her worst, I would allow her to stay. But never put someone’s health below a wedding.

[@guestguest9634]

I love how all the bridesmaids stuck up for the one with the glasses. I think more people need to take a stand against bullying or bad behavior. ❤

[@libbit75]

Bridal season and the Honorable Judge Charlottes, the perfect start to my weekend!

[@cosmicrae]

She woulda been a good lawyer

[@LynetteTheRogue]

Honestly im just glad im not the only one who hoards screen shots in case I need them to prove my point in an argument

[@ratsika3]

17:55 contacts aren't a solution if she doesn't already have them. It takes a while for your eyes to get used to them and not be all red and irritated. Also, many people aren't able to wear contacts.

[@TheBaumcm]

Not to mention some people have a thing about fingers in eyes.

[@FukaiKokoro]

Some eye conditions also make it hard. I have astigmatism and the lenses I got were so thick one snapped when I was putting it in. Didn't even get to try it for a single day. Plus it was super expensive so I got over it quickly because I'm not going to waste time and energy if they were that thick and complicated

[@roguerouge]

Plus, some people can't afford contacts on top of glasses

[@DawnKellyMedia]

I can't wear contacts.

[@staycee639]

Yup I can't wear contacts, lots of people can't.

[@Wowthatsabighat]

SCREENSHOT EVERYTHING YES lmao

[@chemicallyscrwd5485]

I have a lot of anxiety every single moment of my life. Listening to you makes me less anxious for a little bit. Thank you for being such a lovely person 🩵

[@HJJSL-bl8kk]

I've seen people spending huge amounts on the 'perfect wedding', getting into debt, insisting everyone is matchy-matchy etc. What's important is the bit that comes afterwards. I've been happily married for nearly forty-five years now.

[@affectivity1]

Congratulations! My husband and I were married for 31 years til he passed away in 2020. A good marriage is awesome!

[@tails300]

And then end up going through a nasty divorce 😂.

[@revgurley]

Couples, listen to a grizzled wedding officiant - your "vision" is what you hope for your wedding: your dress style, venue location, dress requirements for guests, food. But your MEMORIES are going to be what actually happened on the day. Will it go perfectly? Though we vendors and ministers do our very best to make your one day exactly how you want it, things WILL go wrong. A lot goes wrong and you couples NEVER KNOW because professionals fix things without bothering you about it. So yeah, you can request certain things from your wedding party, but honestly, the stuff that goes wrong becomes the stuff you share and laugh about years later. I promise!

[@TheBaumcm]

After having seen how many weddings go down and end years later, all I can say is focus on the purpose of the day, to be legally and/or sacramentally committed and to celebrate this decision. The other stuff is just details and fodder for funny stories later. My hubby got his groomsmen tankards. I have a vivid memory of them with my FIL, singing Piano Man while sloshing them all over. Wouldn’t have guessed 6months prior when my mom went momzilla that it would be so funny. Even started a new family tradition.

[@nbunnysnowboard]

You sounded like Pikachu when you sneezed and it was adorable!🥰

[@mil0ishere]

Charlotte has taught me the ways of screen shots and now I have stuff against so many people who messed me up😊 Thank you Charlotte!!!

[@magwed4120]

I literally said oh my God when you sneezed😂. So dainty so quiet..I wish ...I wake up my neighbors when I sneeze. 😂

[@nada.serhan]

The first story, you have actually read the bride's initial post a while back!! everyone dubbed her the ah. I'm so glad we have the other side now! closure

[@larissafeltus6013]

Oohh!! The situation did sound familiar. Do you recall which video?😅. Must rewatch

[@SeaMitchell]

Most important thing about a wedding (and this is my personal opinion) is to spend time with your loved ones.

[@arttherapywithamanda]

Remember for those document queens out there, always keep 3 copies of your screenshots and other documents. 1 on computer, 1 usb in a different location, and 1 on a cloud under a different name/account ❤

[@rachelmap100]

"I think the money you gave us must have fell out of the card" "Not at all. part of it was in all the decor I made at no cost to you, and the rest of it you can find it in the cash register at the bar you made us pay for."

[@itismedicationtime]

Ohhh I’m so ready for the honorable judge Charlotte !! I love her way of reacting and her judgements 😌 The first bridezilla makes me angry. Imagine your friend thinking their aesthetic is more important than your health ! Huge yikes

[@nxalatibaloyi1253]

That last one needs a movie. Amy Poehler, Maya Rudolph, and Melissa McCarthy.

[@ceilinh6004]

OMG. That last story. I love that the bridesmaids had glasses girly's back. I wear glasses, and can't imagine trying to function without them. My eyesight is so bad, that I have a very specific spot that I put my glasses when I take them off to sleep because if I don't know exactly where I put them, they might as well not exist anymore. I have such anxiety about trying to do anything without my glasses. 👓

[@leoschmitz1695]

For the first story I say the lady isn't the asshole, but she is burning that friendship to the GROUND

[@TheColorHopeIsBlue]

My mom developed the exact same hair condition just two months before my wedding and she was super stressed over it (which I’m sure didn’t help). She went to the dermatologist, tried some medication which didn’t work for her, then finally opted to get special wigs. Let me tell y’all, she. Looked. Fabulous. But you know what I would have done even if she hadn’t taken all those steps to make her hair look good? I’d still let her be in my wedding, because she’s my freaking mom and I love her to death. I didn’t care how her hair would look in pictures as long as she was there. Also, just fyi, if you have a great photographer the pictures will look great too, but nobody is going to look perfect or exactly how you want them to. Nobody. Especially when candids are taken. And it’s really, really, really okay.

[@Debster-di3gw]

I live for your sarcasm! ♥️💯 All the flabbers have been ghasted!😂🤣

[@katiedickson0820]

I will NEVER get married. 😅 Imma be an old spinster taking care of all the neighborhood cats 😂

[@DawnKellyMedia]

I told my husband if he dies I'm just getting 1,000 cats. Because no one would come close to how awesome he is. I've seen all these stories and dating stories and I'm like, "No thank youuuuuu!"

[@ReptilianTeaDrinker]

Same. Sadly, I'm allergic to cats. :( So I'll just have a bunch of rats instead, because I love rats. XD But mostly fancy rats, wild rats I might have to be careful with. But yeah, I'd rather be surrounded by animals than marry someone. I'm not much of a people person.

[@mizztella]

You and me both. All I had to see was my younger brother marrying this psycho bxxxh on, guess what? October 3rd (Mean Girl Day). Nobody even remotely likes her, especially my younger sister. PS, my brother’s wife is scared of my sister even though they’re the same age lol😂

[@MacP2990]

Her sneeze lol😂❤love you girly pop

[@Bunny_Gee]

I have risen for the Honorable Judge Charlotte. I am seated. Love you, 🥔👑

[@geolee9522]

I know that I am late to this party but the thing I find so unbelievably disturbing is the number of superficial brides out there. The ones who are worried about the look of their weddings and not the things that really matter… sharing a beautiful and happy moment with your well-meaning friends and family. Nothing else should matter. Watching these videos makes me feel like a relic and makes my heart sink at the sad movement of the world to all that is artificial and simply unimportant. When did love, getting married and sharing a wonderful moment become so superficial, commercial and commodified?

[@erikarussell1142]

This was so cathartic to listen to. Especially since I think most of us were bullied for being too amazing.

[@SheSheBoom21]

13:15 she should’ve sent her an invoice for her decor. 😂😂😂

[@jessica8471]

My sister was a massive bridezilla! Good thing I wasn’t there because she said we look too much alike lol she had her destination wedding during the pandemic, and my mom couldn’t even go due to her health condition. Best weekend spent with my momma and my dad still hates his trip he had to take to be ignored by her pretty much all night. Haven’t talked to her in over a year now, blood doesn’t mean you have to deal with mistreatment

[@alexia3552]

Dude that is all so disappointing for you guys. It’s really sad that she took herself out of your lives and just declined to be a decent human being.

[@jessica8471]

@@alexia3552 say it louder for the people in the back 😂 we are doing very well with her not being around honestly

[@SomethingAboutBeautee]

Speaking of screenshots, I absolutely HAD TO screenshot the friend who made all the decor only to not be invited to the ceremony or the dinner: *”Some people have an auto renew Amazon subscription to audacity I swear!”* 😂🤣

[@CtinaBlankk]

I'd be afraid to be a bridezilla with the fear of ending up in one of these videos 😅 And how good the honorable Judge Charlotte would tear them to shreds with a few simple words and show them what a fool they look like lol The entitlement with some of these bridezillas could also have them end up in some of the Delulu videos as well as these 🥴

[@katebunn7567]

So glad she won her case & her hair is growing back

[@mrscatlady912]

Lol, she wanted a cash wedding gift while she wasn't invited to the wedding 😂

[@BeautifulKittenOfLove]

It doesn't matter WHY she decided to cut you out of the wedding. You made those REQUIRED purchases in expectation of being in the wedding. That is an implied contract. She decides to no longer honor the understanding SHE is responsible for making you whole.

[@ericamee5285]

Oh my god "recovering people pleaser "shirt is amazing 🙌🙌🙌🤣🤣

[@lisah8748]

With regards to the eye glasses, not everyone can wear contacts. I wore them for many years, then one day I had my yearly assessment and the doctor said I needed to stop wearing the contacts. It was medically dangerous for my eyes if I were to continue wearing the contacts and would likely end with me being blind. I stopped wearing contacts. I hate how I look in glasses, even fancy glasses, but I can see my children's and grandchildrens faces, so I wear the glasses. I haven't been a bridesmaid/MoH, but if a person with glasses says they can't/don't/won't wear contacts, don't be a but-munch. If the person is important enough for you to include them in your wedding party, and you already know she wears glasses, you are the AH. Jmho Love you 👸Queen👑 🥔Potato🥔

[@dinasilva9263]

People should want a wedding to celebrate their happiness with friends and family. Not to be the center of the universe. Just because someone is a bride doesn't mean the world has to stop.

[@Amélie20159]

Bsr tatie dina je t'aimes ❤😊

[@srkh8966]

Social media says otherwise

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@srkh8966 You're right. But we can only blame social media for so long. 😅 Some people are just that entitled.

[@srkh8966]

@@PrincessQ-fj9ly social media promotes Bridal hysteria

[@joannieb3155]

When you said you had an update to the 1st story I let out an audible "hell yeah!" I was so invested.

[@devikakj9338]

I can relate to the first girl. I had severe hairfall because of health issues and I was forced to cut my long ass hair because it looked like a rat tail in a very bad condition. it take so much willpower and courage to cut your hair like that. It's painful. I can't imagine how the bride didn't have any concern for her friend.

[@TheBaumcm]

Definitely way scarier when you don’t even know if it will ever come back AND have some health issues causing it. The stress makes it worse and it’s like a dog chasing its tail. Hope you are doing better now, if your issues are resolvable, and if not, rock the short styles and revel in how much less often you need to buy shampoo😂.

[@themslydia]

The last one is the absolute BEST!!

[@Nina-rj4nu]

My cat just lifted her leg in her sleep, stretched, then blew off. It has nothing to do with the video, but her bum is pointed right at my laptop. Honestly, until I had recently seen it on KZbin, I didn't even know cats farted.

[@thesecretlifeofwonderwoman]

1st story: I think submitting the court application is appropriate albeit a sad situation. Submit the application to sue which will show how serious this is and gives the couple a chance to respond appropriately and then the court application can be canceled and the issue can be settled without going to court. The door is always open. The matter will only go to court if the terrible couple refuses to deal directly with this woman. All they have to do is to be reasonable and the whole thing would be resolved. I'm holding off posting this until Charlotte completes the update lol AWESOME! She deserved to win! That was a righteous decision. Justice was served!

[@donnabradley9926]

Charlotte, I absolutely love your channel. I feel so sorry for the girl who was ill and stated to lose her hair.Her so called friend/bride is a piece of work. I am so glad she won her court case. Chuck that friendship in the bin.

[@rachelhatchet]

11:08 OP literally just BROKE Charlotte! 😂

[@Thvgrats]

IF YOU ARE A PETTY POTATO LIKE THIS COMMENT 🥔 🥔🥔

[@catherinem.lanuezsavethete4649]

I am definitely a petty potato 🥔🥔🥔🥔

[@brendap.8492]

You are the definite person to ask about the “potato’’ thing. I subscribed to Charlotte during Covid and totally missed out on the meaning of the potato. What is it? I GOTZ Ta Know!

[@catherinem.lanuezsavethete4649]

@@brendap.8492 honestly idk lol. It’s something that Charolette says. And it stuck lol.

[@perfectdonut11]

My new answer to everything: I have been graceful, but I cannot allow you to disrespect me. 😂