AITA for canceling a wedding? - REACTION

[@MrsMcGee-tu3oe]

I knew someone who wanted a small wedding but was bullied and into inviting EVERYBODY so they finally gave in and did invite all the friends and family but changed their wedding date to a Wednesday at 3 and most people couldn't make that dated work but the people they originally wanted.. I always thought it was genius lol

[@flitsertheo]

That would certainly work in the USA where the employer decides whether you can have a holiday but not so much in Europe where people have holidays to spare.

[@HiThereLindsey]

​@@flitsertheoSame in South Africa. Just take a day of leave.

[@1tommyday]

That would work in the US.

[@Ciborium]

That is brilliant! Have the wedding at the most inconvenient day and time. Only the most loyal and dedicated will attend. As others mentioned, this would only work in the US. In countries, e.g., the EU, where they essentially shut down during the summer months and everyone leaves on vacation, this might not work.

[@dracofirex]

Man my workplace combines sick days, vacation days, etc into our PTO balance. If you're sick, they take your day from your PTO balance whether you like it or not. Sick for a week? Guess you're not taking that vacation or taking time for yourself! That time you were sick? Yeah that was the time you got to yourself.

[@haleytruslow7200]

The girl who cancelled the deposits after her brother’s fiancé made that cruel comment about Toast - she did not need to warn anyone that she was going to do that. The brother’s fiancé should have expected it after saying something so horrible. She contacted her brother right after to let him know. That story grinds my gears. My soul dog is still with me and I certainly would not have been so gracious about it if the comment had been made to me.

[@juliehanson8976]

If you can’t afford to get married, you shouldn’t get someone else to pay for you

[@TheBaumcm]

@@juliehanson8976or at least don’t act like a jerk

[@JoCamp696]

I wouldn't have had the self restraint that op did. I'd have straight up said eff you and then canceled everything standing right there in front of her.

[@morenafromthevineyard]

The OP had some self-control because I would've been omw to jail for assault and battery. My doggo is like my son, and if you don't like my dog, then I don't like you. May someone pay Ella the karma she deserves later on.

[@laurencooper9679]

I think Toast would be proud of his mommy for standing up for herself and doing what she needed to do. Losing a pet is a pain that only another pet owner can understand. It leaves a hole in your heart that never fully heals

[@cloudy2o333]

If someone canceled their wedding to be with me through trauma, I think I'd be devastated. I'd feel like everyone in the wedding party is put out because of my pain, and that me losing my baby caused a MASSIVE spiraling chain of events to play out. That would be the worst

[@ElleDavi]

But... something about the sister feels off, when she told OP "She isn't ready to celebrate anything and as a sister is HER responsibility to comfort her." Who says that? It feels like the sister is the one who wants OP to cancel the wedding and not the other way around.

[@appalachiabrauchfrau]

that one was v obviously fake a miscarriage just before a wedding ON the groom's mother's bday? no lol.

[@ambergerber5162]

​@@ElleDaviI agree but at the same time I hope there never comes a time when OP needs support from her sister cuz I don't think she is gonna get it now.

[@scarsound]

SAME! My OCD would never allow me to live something like that down and would destroy me...

[@lunarialoonatic]

Yeah I’m ngl I know the sister is grieving but I can’t believe she really tried to guilt trip the sister like “you have to be there for me.”

[@katiena1251]

My brother married into an itialian family. They pulled the we won't pay for the wedding unless it was huge and fancy card the entire time. So my side of the family decided to do our best to help keep it a small wedding and keep costs down. My brother and his wife are grateful.

[@rebeccahayward9607]

When I hear the words "theres an update" on these sort of stories I always let out a happy gasp. I love those words. I totally understand Charlotte!

[@RebekkaJones]

*there's

[@rachelrasmussen1101]

I have a friend who lost her sister to an accident a few days before her wedding. It changed the day dramatically, but feeling that joy and grief together was a healing day for her family. I believe the one sister will regret canceling the wedding and the other sister will regret asking her to.

[@sniderealism2410]

Yeah, especially since cancelling a wedding could also mean the end of a very loving relationship and future together.

[@annonymous3632]

she decided not to cancel, though. the update said she decided not to when 99% of the comments said she was an a-hole... 😆

[@TheBaumcm]

My brother passed on January 3 of 2017. It doesn’t change the joy and hopefulness of the New Year. Grief doesn’t cancel joy and vice versa.

[@jaimicottrill2831]

@@annonymous3632 Glad to hear it. Her sister is important, but the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with is also important.

[@kennethherget4470]

When my niece got married her sister had passed away. She would have been the moh. She wouldn't replace her so a bride's maid carried two bouquets and placed it on a small table next to the bride. Tears yes bride happy yes

[@BonnieDixon-v6b]

My husband & daughter passed away on a Monday and my nieces wedding was scheduled that very next weekend. They offered to cancel their wedding, which my husband & I were hosting at our clubhouse. I said absolutely not. Life goes on & we needed something to celebrate. 🥰

[@libbylou6004]

I’m sorry for your loss ❤️

[@maggieb4736]

Both at the same time? I'm so sorry, I cannot imagine---but what a strong and kind person you are to go ahead hosting for your niece. Wow, just wow. God Bless.

[@queenof2kings299]

My condolences

[@hoosfan29]

I’m so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences.

[@pastbehind25]

I'm sorry for your loss, and commend you for doing that. Not many ppl would❤❤❤❤❤

[@KimmieArgyshev]

The girl who canceled her brother’s wedding. This made me cry, I lost my sweet furbaby recently. Within 4 freaking days she went from jumping on to my lap to not being able to get up or walk anymore. Cancer destroyed her in a few days. If someone would make such a comment to me about my sick furbaby being death, she would soon follow.

[@essendossev362]

✊

[@gaudior13]

It's so hard when they go so suddenly. That happened with my first dog, who was fine the previous night. Turns out she had cancer. It's fine that the fiancee didn't like animals (though when you get to know one, you often make an exception), but she was downright cruel. I'm sorry about your furbaby. The home just feels empty.

[@sissy9393]

I’m very sorry about your fur baby. ❤

[@cindylwinslow]

Sorry for your loss

[@lynphillips9146]

People don't realize how much you and your fur baby mean to each Your pet loves you unconditionally, is always happy to see you, will provide an ear for any subject for whatever length of time you need. Your pet loves you with their entire body. The smile on their sweet face, their torso that shivers when you hug, the tail wagging so furiously you're almost scared it will fall off. There is nothing else like it, and when a beloved does, the hole in your heart is unfathomable. People that don't have critters don't understand this. People who have animals as part of their family could care less what other people think.😢

[@krznarbg]

My mother cancelled her wedding one week before her wedding. She told me she just realized she did not want to spend the rest of her life with that person. This was around 1952. She had to notify each guest of the cancellation. She married my father a year later. Of course, I am thrilled that she did because I would not be here otherwise. Better to change your mind before the actual marriage has taken place than to marry and then have to go through the legal process to get out of it.

[@bo2720]

A year later eh? Sounds like shenanigans going on, sorry😂

[@amandaloel1782]

@krznarbg. Definitely absolutely 💯 agree

[@bgoldschmidt2583]

My mom told me and my siblings that we could elope if we didn't want to stress out about a wedding, we just need to let her know in advance that we're eloping so she can send a gift and a nice card.

[@xxxjixxystixxx4164]

Why did I think you meant you and your siblings eloping... together ,,, sweet home Alabama style?😅🤣 for entirely way too lomg

[@hollyshaw-elliemae]

i eloped, weve been together 25 years :) best thing we could have done. save money, pissed off our in laws, both sides and had a blast together

[@robinkholmes7127]

Has she kept her word?

[@boogiebear3095]

My mom had a small ceremony, with her sister, my aunt as her witness and my dad’s oldest brother, my uncle as his. They were together 25 years. I think all weddings are nice. My friend from school eloped, she and her husband are adorable together.

[@andis60]

My parents eloped in Vegas but my mom still brought her mom. They were married for 40 years, until he passed.

[@cryptidconn]

That last one. The bride sounds like someone who needs a strong dose of reality, and the OP gave it to her. Amazing. Rest easy, Toasty. Never met you, but I'd bet my whole life on you being such a good boy.

[@kimincannes]

For the sister who used her credit card to help her brother: If lil miss fiance is THIS wicked BEFORE the wedding, just imagine how nasty she'll be during the (inevitable) divorce. I hope your brother has permanently removed his rose-colored glasses and can now clearly see the type of person he was about to marry. Girl, you did your brother a solid and he should thank you for it!!!

[@Midorikonokami]

Never mind the rose tint, I hope he has a prenup.

[@kingofcats964]

When she said your sick dog is dead now a add popped up for Petco. And My mother Start It laughing across the room.

[@Nezumi_Yasu]

talk about timing

[@kimhollingshead7820]

Glad the bride with her sister’s miscarriage went through with it. I can empathize with her sister with the pain both mentally and physically you don’t want to be around anyone. However, I can understand what the bride is going through also. Mine wasn’t a bridal party member, but instead my grandmother. I was VERY close with my grandmother and the night before my wedding, a few hours before my rehearsal my grandmother was rushed to the hospital unconscious. She had a UTI and became septic. She finally woke up right before our rehearsal. I was devastated and so was she. I did nothing but cry that night, but at no time did I think of canceling or postponing the wedding because I was ready to start my life with my now husband. Instead my husband and I talked at the rehearsal dinner and came up with a new plan. After we got married we went to the hospital to see her and our photographer got pictures of us with her. It was very special! We were even asked to walk around a little bit because the ICU was a buzz that a bride and groom were there and everyone got excited and wanted to see us. We obliged. Very happy with my decision to carry on, and even more so because my grandmother died 7 months later. If we had postponed I don’t know when we could have rebooked and she might not have been there at all. You never know what’s going to happen. Tomorrow is not promised so make the most of today!

[@ElleDavi]

But... something about the sister feels off, when she told OP "She isn't ready to celebrate anything and as a sister is HER responsibility to comfort her." Who says that? It feels like the sister is the one who wants OP to cancel the wedding and not the other way around.

[@shellypitcher1198]

That is so beautiful ❤

[@mbrown5494]

Yes elope! In 1993 I got married with a judge and 2 witnesses (great friends). Wedding cost a total of $150! No stress, no drama. The honeymoon weekend was about $300. We called parents and close friends and relaxed (has to go back to work on Monday) Still married after 31 years! Big weddings are a waste and 1/2 get divorced. You marry each other, not your friends and family. Good luck out there!

[@HiHi-lt1cb]

THIS

[@NickanM]

Did the same. We are still happily married now, 34 years later.

[@ulrikesextro4187]

Congratulations. In my opinion getting married should be most important, not having a big Wedding.

[@catherineg9943]

My husband and I, also eloped. We had one of his besties as a witness, and a random woman from the courthouse as the other. We spent the weekend out of town, then informed our parents/families on Monday. We celebrated our 36th anniversary in January!! ❤️

[@FukaiKokoro]

I got married on the fourth of July for a total of around 300$.. in 2010. On the beach. Had my husbands father and my mom there. Was very nice! The biggest cost was getting the county clear to do the fourth of July.

[@Threecrazydogs63]

Never put your credit card down for anyone. The level of entitlement is astounding. You are very nice. Had she made a crack about my dead dog I’d have told her I was going to count to three and she better run😄.

[@robinkholmes7127]

Yep, if they don't have the money now they won't ever have the money to pay you back

[@TheMandaBelle11]

You are far kinder than me giving them til 3 cuz as much as I wanna say I'd remember I'm an adult, that would be the comment after everything else that would make me choose violence and they would only get a 1 count 😂

[@ZayPlays1]

Yep! If that was me then i wouldve been taken away in handcuffs that night...

[@83gemm]

Right? I felt what OP felt when I heard that. Like my body went cold. I think she was right to just walk away. Because what on earth is the response to that? If you bring up my pets that died years ago, I’ll tear up. Sweet little Toasty JUST died. I can’t … oh my god I’m so mad!

[@90charmedndangerous]

Oh I would turn into John Wick so fast

[@lizzdtrick1106]

My friend did her wedding right imho... they knew both their families would be crazy to deal with and wanted literally nobody there. They took a "vacation" and shocked everyone when they got home by announcing that they got married! (A beautiful pre-planned wedding on the beach) Then they held a big dinner at a local restaurant for the family to celebrate. While everyone was shocked, there was nothing they could do, except show up to dinner. They were so happy with their stress free wedding.

[@moonhunter9993]

best idea!

[@jennie9]

My aunt called one of her sisters from the airport and said she was heading off to Europe on her honeymoon. She asked the sister to let the rest of the family know that she'd gotten married at city hall and didn't want any presents or celebration of any kind. Everyone was cool with it.

[@jaypritchett6846]

*My little sister and her boyfriend/fiancé just went to the court house, signed papers, and got married! No one was invited/told, but no one was upset either!* With my sister’s personality, my dad and I knew that’s probably what she’d want . (When my sister was younger, she was shy, and didn’t like being the center of attention.) So, when they announced their surprise marriage to everyone, my dad and I kinda joked around with each other saying, “we knew it.” 🤭 lol

[@tortlifee3470]

„to the man of my dreams“ and then Henry Cavilles picture popps up! priceless!

[@SaraSparks19922]

He's hot physically but a major creeper. Hotness ruined.

[@caitlinwade2758]

My husband and I recently eloped because my dad kept giving specific requests that I could only get married during certain months for his convenience and he wanted to be part of XYZ. I also got stressed thinking about people trying to take pictures and getting in the way during the ceremony, so after much thought, we decided to elope in the Colorado mountains and it was gorgeous. We still plan to have a reception, but we’re already married at this point so I’m way less worried about other people now.

[@TheBaumcm]

Far too often, the wedding becomes about the day rather than the start of a life together, which is why I think it can get out of hand, because people forget that they are messing with their lifelong relationships. I wanted to get married in my hometown, small and have a catered (quicker and easier) backyard BBQ, simple. After my mom canceled my wedding, twice, which my husband and I were paying for, and I found out she was trying to go behind our backs and add and change a bunch of stuff, my husband and I got married in his hometown, with my in laws helping with everything. My extended family chose not to attend for the most part, most likely because my mother lied to them (compulsive), but also because it was a 10 hour drive. At the end of the day, my husband and I got married, we had people who cared with us, and my mother learned her interference would not be tolerated.

[@janetdw]

A coworker of mine was sick of family drama and arguments from both families wanting THEIR way. So she and her (now) husband went to Lake Tahoe with her closest sister and his closest brother. They got married on the Tahoe Queen (paddlewheeler replica) by the ships captain . (There had been a lot of arguments about which family’s church they would get married in as well😂. ) It was in the winter so it wasn’t busy and the pictures from inside the cabin were gorgeous. They had a reception later and it took a lot of the pressure off since both families realized that there wouldn’t be any celebration if they didn’t behave.

[@aarohiketkar]

As an Indian, the 'small' wedding that was agreed upon by me and my then partner was 150-200 people 😂 usually his side has attended weddings of about 1000 people.. a lot of factors contributed to us not getting married eventually .

[@BlackFiresong]

Right!? We ended up with 240 people. I wish we could have capped it at half that number, but my fiance's immediate family alone is like 100 people.

[@PanicGamerGirl]

Something similar to the sister's miscarriage one. One of my classmates got married last year and two days before the wedding her sister gave birth to her twins. My classmate was sad she couldn't be there but they had FaceTimed her when they were getting ready and had the photographer take pictures of that to show sister was still a part of things. A year later the family all got together in their wedding outfits and had a "belated family photo shoot" with the sister and her now 1-year-old twins. The photos were so sweet and I'm sure the wedding day has so many happy memories because they found these little ways to still include the sister. Basically, my point is, I'm glad the lady went through with the wedding because there's still ways to include people who can't physically make it to the wedding.

[@TheBaumcm]

Life happens and a wedding is just one day. Not sure how people can lose perspective so much that they destroy lifelong relationships over it. My mom lost her mind (already low contact) so my husband and I just pivoted because all we cared about was that we got married and were able to make some good memories (we did, regardless).

[@missfunix]

03:28 I'm Italian, I can confirm that weddings are basically family fights and trying to please people that will never be pleased. Every time I hear you speaking in Italian I always get that proud mama look for no reason at all. Love you tons girl❤

[@oztippetarius]

That part about not being able to stand by and enable her cruelty... EXACTLY 💯 She didn't ruin her brother's wedding, she drew a line that hopefully he recognizes and eventually leaves this awful woman.

[@TrusfratedGal]

I got married amidst the pandemic. The venue, catering everything had to be cancelled as the country declared a curfew 3 days before the date. So we ended up getting married just infront of our immediate family. Both my husband and I have never been someone who wanted a big wedding and spending a fortune of marriage, so it actually worked out for the best. We donated more than half of the money we had saved up for the marriage to charity. We have been together for 13 years, married for nearly 4 years now and we couldn't be more happy. 😁❤️

[@Fogysoks4709]

You two sound like some real nice folks ❤😊 (belated congrats)

[@lizajane2971]

We had a Covid elopement too! Coming up on 4 yrs in March. Our very large over 300 people invited wedding, went down to around 10 people. I'm only sad my grandparents weren't there and my sisters who were out of state. Some of my extended family showed up at the church, but stayed in the parking lot and watched online, then honked and flashed their lights when we left! Honestly, it was probably more fun that what we had planned! 😂

[@brokenfae1296]

SamaraReeves, my daughter did too. So many cancellations with venues and what not. She lived with her now husband close to an army base (he is military) and about 4 hours away. They just decided last minute to get married at their church with just themselves and their pastor. We all watched it on a Zoom call. They took the money they were going to spend to put towards a home. They have no regrets.

[@jacquelinecountryman2976]

That's very sweet of you

[@sassie88901]

As someone who is also Italian and got married last year, I will agree that is definitely an Italian thing to invite everyone and their mother so as not to "offend" anyone. Also my grandma and stepdad got covid the week of my wedding and as much as it sucked that they weren't there, cancelling was never on my mind.

[@celtzen]

Ugh.. you'll offend this one if you don't invite thst one but then the other one isn't speaking to either... my advantage was that I lived 2k miles away :-) so there was a good excuse!

[@HiHi-lt1cb]

Yes! My Italian mother just asked if she could invite HER aunts and uncles and cousins to my graduation party 😂

@@HiHi-lt1cb Tell them to bring money, lots 😂 _j/k_

[@peep3616]

When I was looking into how many people typically respond yes to an RSVP to get an idea of what my final numbers will be, someone said they invited something like 300 people to their wedding and 80 came. 300?! ..And 80 came?! I wondered if it was an Italian or Indian wedding because that invite number seemed crazy!

[@HiHi-lt1cb]

HA that's what I said 😂

[@andreaturner7207]

Charlotte “Does anyone else absolutely crave closure?” Me: “Yes!”

[@robinkholmes7127]

Me too, if I see a "To Be Continued" sign at the end of an episode and I need to wait a week, I'm pi**ed. I only like to start a book series when I know it's complete.

[@jeanams07]

One of my absolute worst pet peeves is getting told a story or even watching a movie/show where you don't get to know the ending or get closure for whatever reason. Even worse are the ones that do it intentionally, to try and make you think about what all the different endings could have possibly been. I am 40 this year and I don't have time for that, lol. I understand not all things are going to have a happy ending, and sometimes don't even need it to be, but do not leave me hanging!

[@Fogysoks4709]

Very much so!

[@boogermaiden]

Yep. But sometimes you have to provide it for yourself. 😂😭🫠

[@ThatChickChrys]

11:19 ‘just throw up’ had me cackling! I have gone through the loss of a pregnancy AND a sister being hateful and petty over me not canceling my wedding for her to attend at a later date. She was in jail at the time and I was supposed to be wearing her dress. Since I wouldn’t postpone my wedding, she wouldn’t allow me to use her dress. 4 days before my wedding I had to go find and buy a dress. I should have actually taken that dress fiasco as a sign though because that marriage failed. Now going on 10 years with the man of my dreams. I hand made my dress for our wedding 6 1/2 years ago - just like my stitching, we are still holding strong. ❤️

[@RavenNagel]

6:47 😂😂 While you got stuck on eloping and antelopes 😂 I was thinking another weird English word.. 🤣

[@rachellisonbee3798]

There is one exception for a day before cancelation, when even before marriage you constantly fight and can't compromise. A friend did this with his fiancé because he didn't want to be divorced soon after and knew they would be better off with other people. She needed a pushover and wouldn't compromise or meet in the middle and he hated confrontation and was passive aggressive. So he then called it off while admitting it was an a-hole move but better in the end.

[@rachel-lou3318]

Has the definition of getting eloped changed? When you elope you run off and get married and tell no one. A wedding with 20 is still a wedding just a small one.

[@kopykat6843]

It hasn't changed. People are just misusing it.

[@chinitonamoreno]

Yeah. I'm also kinda surprised that I'm hearing that being used as a term for a "small intimate ceremony" . Here in the Philippines, elopement is when the couple runaway to get married in secret especially if one or two sides are against the union.

[@youdontgetaname2904]

A little, it doesn't carry as strong a "running away" connotation anymore. It used to be just a couple finding a priest and making it as fast a possible then running off in a carriage, now it's more of just going to the courthouse and leaving when the vows said amd paper works done.

[@AnniCarlsson]

Well if just get a few people that go and do something fun together and you throw a supprise ceremony for just that group not telling them is more or less elope just with a group of people

[@dlodge4966]

That’s what I was thinking!

[@PigeonFluff]

"Gimme your phone* (smacks it) *Block* 😂😂😂😂 I am dead 😂😂😂😂

[@moonsaces2122]

My fiancé and I are planning a small wedding, we’re even only inviting maybe 2 of his 7 aunts. His brother is also engaged and I’m so glad that him and future SIL are having the big wedding so we don’t have to. We’re both anti-social hermits and are basically only planning on having the wedding cause we’re still semi-traditional and I’m an only child. That and my Dad almost died when I was 19 and from his hospital bed he promised me he’d listen to his doctors and take better care of himself so he could walk me down the aisle and meet his grandkids someday. Ever since then him walking me down the aisle and our father daughter dance has become even more meaningful to me.

[@deercepticon]

"Give me your phone. Blocked. Done." I have replayed this part many times since I have told people EXACTLY THE SAME SHIT to block people that were outright abusive and assholes and yet half of them didn't until way later when they were completely upset and hurt by them. I wield it like a fucking shield and it's fantastic. Make them seethe with the block. Doesn't get better than that.

[@HelNoodle]

This was unexpected! Love the random surprise post at 12 AM EST!!!! My wife and I watch every single one. She loves you so much and I've caught her quoting you a time or two 😂

[@aleciajames417]

Me too! Your wife is not alone!😂

[@gbeagle417]

I love her vids and don't have a wife. I haven't quoted her yet though haha

[@gbeagle417]

I love her vids and don't have a wife. I haven't quoted her yet though haha

[@raecheldeaton]

Interesting timing. I wonder if this was meant for tomorrow morning? Lol either way what a nice surprise.

[@K-popstanLuver]

I was going to say this is earlier than normal unless she changed her times.

[@heezypeasy8611]

I was wondering the same thing. I usually get notifications of uploads at 11am instead of 11pm. I'm totally here for it tho 😂

[@phillipfournier7880]

💯

[@s0siimdying]

Yeah, I think this was supposed to be a noon post. Not midnight. But I’m not mad at it 🤣

[@WhatTheWHAT524]

Right? It is usually sometime mid afternoon ish when I get the notification. Often able to watch at that time fairly easily with my schedule. It's 10pm now and I was about to go to bed but I'm excited to watch this first instead!! So it still works out either way!!

[@dazedanddark]

i was always the black sheep on my dads side of the family. they only included me because of my dad. but since he passed, it’s like they seem obligated to invite me to thanksgiving/christmas. well this past year my cousin got married. i expected to be invited because it was a large wedding. turns out i was not invited yet somehow my mother was invited even though its not her family ?? this really upset me. then they had the audacity to invite me to the “private” thanksgiving/christmas. which made no sense to me. how are you not inviting me to a large wedding but will invite me to a private thanksgiving/ christmas. make it make sense. i decided to skip thanksgiving/christmas for the first time. it made me feel guilty but i honestly feel like they couldn’t care less. so why should i 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@bottomofastairwell]

girl don't feel guilty at all. if they don't have any real regard for you, then why should you have any for them? this shit is a two way street, and they've made it clear they're not really gonna put in the effort, so don't waste your time putting in effort of your own that isn't gonna be reciprocated. and don't feel bad either. family is who you CHOOSE, the people that love you and SHOW YOU they love you. not blood

[@catherineg9943]

@@bottomofastairwellEXCELLENT COMMENT!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻❤️

[@littlelizzi3135]

Yeah fortunately you can choose your friends if not your biological family. Sending a virtual hug 🤗

[@ghoultooth]

I’m the blacksheep of my family too, especially after going no contact with my mum’s sister who strangled me when I was 15. I don’t get invited to things, but honestly I prefer it that way. It just means that when my wedding comes, they shouldn’t expect to be given invites neither 😂

[@StrangeFacinations]

Time to make your own traditions.

[@susanminer2088]

So, instead of taking you the feelings of your sister, who just miscarried, into account, your fiancee wants you to always share your wedding anniversary with your mother’s birthday. Always a joint celebration-and a cake- for mommy on your anniversary. RUN!!!

[@fairytalefreak01]

That's exactly how I feel about it. Her fiancee sounds like a momma's boy. She should have canceled for that detail alone, regardless of her sister's loss, but especially because of it. That girl is in for a lifetime of him putting his mom first. "Oh, honey, we can't go on an anniversary trip. It's Mommy's birthday!"

[@stevenporter9466]

I discovered your content by accident. Holy crap I love this. been listening for a couple weeks. You are amazing. I listen to you for a couple hours every day at work. Well you and MrBallen 😂

[@lgumede8532]

I'm from South Africa and I usually watch Charlotte's videos later in the day because of the time difference. This is such an amazing surprise, so glad to be starting the day with Honourable Judge Charlotte❤

[@rikih1442]

When me & my husband got married in 1984 we decide to have a small no-wedding wedding overlooking the ocean on the cliffs in Oregon. Kinda like eloping, just us, the justice of peace & another couple. It would've been a perfect day, but in the middle of numptials, cloud cover overtook the sunshine when a massive storm squall blew in. The sky opened up & we were drenched before we could take shelter 😂. Forty years later, and neither of us regret not having a huge wedding with both sides of our families there.

[@TheBaumcm]

In most cultures, rain is considered a good omen on wedding days.

[@rikih1442]

@@TheBaumcm That's nice to know! Maybe it's true, we're still together 40 years later, happily together ❤️💕

[@jackyyrag]

That's very sweet 😍😍 also my mind cannot wrap around the fact that the 80s is 40 years ago

[@tracy3418]

I've had 4 miscarriages. I would never expect my sister to cancel her wedding to come comfort me. A lot of people want to go through those alone anyway.

[@Hgould]

Right, I went through it with my SO. Only person that mattered to be there.

[@asian.draper6324]

Same. When I had a miscarriage, I disbanded want no one to mess with me.

[@redwoodrebelgirl3010]

I am so very, very, very sorry for your deep, profound, & terrible losses. I think that there is no greater pain than losing a child, for any living being. I wish you Love, Light, comfort, healing, strength, support, Light, Hope, & ever-increasing Peace. And, if it is still something you desire, I pray that you have the children & family that you dream of. ❤ You are in my heart & my prayers, dear Mother.💗 God be with you & your partner, & family, & hold you close.❤

[@redwoodrebelgirl3010]

I'm so very sorry for each of you who have suffered the terrible pain, loss & grief of losing children. I wish each of you Love, Light, comfort, & healing, strength, support, Light Hope, & ever-increasing Peace.💗 And, if it is still your hope, I wish you each the children & family that you desire. God be with each of you & your partners, & families.❤ My heart & prayers are with you.❤

[@tracy3418]

@@redwoodrebelgirl3010 thank you I just gave birth to our little miracle rainbow baby!!!

[@Epodmusic17]

I also need closure so much and felt so seen and validated when you said that 🤣🤣🤣 yay for updates!

[@susankaempfer8427]

10:50 😳 His mother’s birthday? Her responsibility to comfort her sister? I think it’s time to run away from ALL these people.

[@camij.m.7162]

I didn't hear the whole story yet but if his mom's dead maybe he choose that date to 'include' her that's what my aunt's husband did when they got married after his dad passed

[@ireallywantedtolivethruthe80s]

My mother died and the next day I had to get ready with my brother to attend my fathers wedding to my step mom…we were devastated but life goes on and my father was having a milestone even signifying the rest of his life.. so we put our feelings on hold and showed up to support.. they did bring me out to dance and I had to fake smile, pretending to jump around the enjoying when I didn’t even want to move a muscle and cry in a corner

[@badass6712]

Very respectful and strong of you! ❤

[@kathybrem880]

So sorry!

[@teleportingpotatoe]

to come together be a griefing moment and share happiness also.

[@p.n.r8511]

Damn man your a stronger person then I

[@boogermaiden]

Sorry to hear.

[@schauschau2552]

i need everyone to remember, if you date a person who hates/disrespects animals, that is not a red flag, that's a whole red planet, RUN.

[@jennjohnson4067]

What if you’re just a mom with a really special needs child and doesn’t want to take care of yet one more thing that cannot take care of themselves? Because it’s not that I hate animals and I’ve certainly never hurt or disrespected an animal but I also will not be having one any time soon. Not everyone has the fun loving freedom of choice.

[@sarahuher8358]

​@@jennjohnson4067 that's fine. Just remember that if you find someone you like who has a pet they love, don't demand that they get rid of it. That's a red flag. If a guy is allergic to cats I won't date him because I have 3.

[@jennjohnson4067]

@@sarahuher8358 I have cats. Yeah, I know what I said. But cats are different. They make you feel like you’re not alone in your disdain for…. Just about anything 😉🍀🤣🤣

[@averysmolbrownie3856]

@@jennjohnson4067that mother doesn’t hate the animal, she just cannot handle caring for it given her circumstances. There is a *massive* difference between not wanting a pet and actively hating an animal

[@ThoughtsonThoughtsandFeelings]

Ding ding ding!

[@crazyw3078]

After packing all day, running errands like a crazy person, and bathing 5 animals, plus getting kids to bathe and just now sitting down at midnight to finally relax I get this, Yay... Charlotte i needed you tonight 😂❤❤❤❤ Thank you! Weddings are always something 😈😬🤣 Glad mine was fast and small, basically eloped but at a church on a holiday no one expected. I told our families if they want a huge wedding they can pay for and plan it and we'll show up😂

[@myselfotaku9188]

Girl you're awesome

[@kristindrawbert4104]

The stories with updates are the best!

[@dasrazzul]

Second bride had the chance to dodge a bullet, but didn't. How can you still marry someone who puts himself over the loss of a family member? Death and a grieving sister vs. one day you can always do again? I would never ever trust such a person to treat ME as his family if he does not back me up beeing there for my family. He showed his true colours, hopefully she will never be in a position where she is depenend on his mercy. Playing nice for people who are suposed to love and understand me, while I am in pain and wanting to help my sister through her pain...hell no. You can always pick a new date (and see who is comming a second time, hinting who you might want to remove from your life), but you can never ever undo the damage this does to the relationship with your sister.

[@ConnorMiller417]

Charlotte posting at midnight?!!! SIGN ME UP! I’ll watch her videos any time, anywhere! You’re the queen Charlotte! ❤

[@catandrobbyflores]

It's 9pm where I'm at.

[@katefitzgerald1561]

It’s 5am in the UK

[@heyyfarah]

It's 1pm here but i still watch it anyway 😂

[@gintaredanileviciute3673]

Haha it's 7 am in my time zone

[@LovelySweetTea]

9pm in British Colombia ❤

[@Lmerc]

I agree with Charlotte. I love when there are updates to these where they tell us what happened. Closure!

[@mbourque]

9:39 this is why I advise ALL wedding planning people to spend the little extra and hire security for the event (BOTH parts)... it's one headache off your plate and you don't have to get personally involved in any situations.. JUST leave clear instructions (and possibly pictures if 'unwanteds') and let them deal with it...

[@Sarah-2277]

I had a small wedding 30 people in total, and everyone that wasn’t invited understood and supported me because they’re my family & friends ❤

[@Stephtile]

Charlotte you’re truly glowing lately 😍 all your viewers are bridesmaids 💖 youre like the older sister I never had 🥹

[@marissayates3814]

My 10 year old just walked in and said oh your watchin auntie charlotte 😂 I said of course! We love auntie charlotte don’t we?! He laughs and says yeah! 😊 she funny and I love her voices like you walk around the house doing your voices 😂 ❤❤❤

[@melindahmkhwanazi]

This is EXACTLY what happened to my husband and I. Don't buckle! Elope!

[@Lynn-kh5rs]

When my stepson got married he was brilliant. Because of modern family logistics (his mom married 3 times) stepson and his fiance (along with the best man and MOH) went to Las Vegas to get married. When they got back they threw a large outdoor reception for all their friends and family members. Bride & Groom put on their wedding attire for pictures then after changed to shorts & t-shirts to enjoy their party.

[@dodiekoehler]

My husband and I were just ready to leave for my sister's rehearsal, dinner and then rehearsal. Their wedding was the next day. Our Grandpa died getting ready to come to the dinner. 😢 It's was heartbreaking. 💔 My sister and her fiancé were ready to postpone the wedding and my parents talked to them and told them that my Grandpa would be so upset to know he had ruined their special day. He was so happy and excited for them. They chose to proceed with their original wedding plans. It was a hard day for all of us to power through, really rough. Looking back 43 years now, I think they did the right thing. ❤

[@thisismetoday]

3:55 That mum seems trouble anyways, if she’s having falling outs with several of her children. As she doesn’t appear to respect their wishes, I can understand why.

[@MommaWolf66]

My daughter was bullied by her in laws - everyone was trying to tell her what to do and how to do it when it came to her wedding… so they went to the courthouse and told them after they got married.

[@canadianmom9404]

11:53 as somebody who has had multiple miscarriages this is absolutely unacceptable. How dare you take away the joy from somebody else? Specially your sister’s wedding day that’s so selfish.

[@AnaHaze777]

My exact thoughts

[@artphotognh]

The animal-hating bride made me MAD! My husband & I are heading out tomorrow to bring our precious 11-yr old Papillion to the U. of Missouri for 1 month of daily radiation treatment for a brain tumor. It's 5 hours away, so we'll be in a hotel & he can spend nights with us. We did the same thing 3 years ago, with great success - this is a new tumor. Whatever it takes, or costs, to maintain quality of life for our furbabies is what we'll do - no regrets!

[@tallulahraccoon3832]

All the best to you two and your sweet Papillion ❤ I pray to the universe that your puppy beats it again and that the three of you will be together for a looooooong time ❤ Much love ❤

[@Beckster1]

Prayers 😢

[@83gemm]

Tell Papillon we all love him and are cheering for him. ❤

[@Solènelamigonnelicorne]

Papillon c'est en français ça s'appelle pas comme ça en anglais maman Charlotte ❤😊

[@KennaM.]

Sending you the best of luck that your sweet furbaby comes out of this happy, healthy, and with many more years to have with you both

[@KP-bq7yc]

My wedding was during a lockdown in 2020. There was a limit to how many people we could have, and then.. it was limited even further. Outdoor wedding, but it went from 50 to 25. We had to awkwardly uninvite a lot of people.

[@archaeoisa]

As you told about the last one…. I cried when you told us Toast died,…I lost my first dog 9 Years ago… still heart broken and lying with my two other dogs on the couch cuddling. How can anyone be like that! Dogs are the most wonderful creatures to me ❤️❤️❤️ RIP Toasty

[@TheBaumcm]

Dogs are like children, in the sense that they are open books and deserving of every protection. I was teaching when I got my first. I went to the pound 3 times, which broke my heart but one trip, the animals were not a good fit for my lifestyle, one, the dog I wanted (beautiful brindle collie) was processing for adoption, and the last was my girl, for which I will always be thankful for the volunteers, knowing what I was looking for, for pointing her out. I was looking to give both myself and the dog the best chance of forever. I don’t know if she was my “heart” dog, as I fall in love with every single one I meet, but I think I was her “heart” person. She loved everyone but she could only tolerate being without me for a couple of days. She was absolutely amazing though, beautiful, smart, and just wanted to please, and anyone who looked at her sideways would’ve gone butt over elbows shortly after.

[@Papermoon310]

Oh this sure rang a bell with me! I had a lot of stress over family stuff while planning my wedding. After getting so upset and not really wanting to be around my family, I canceled mine. We let everyone know that we would be postponing the wedding and then planned an elopement! We went to Hawaii and got married, just the two of us. It was amazing and wonderful. No one else went along and Hawaii was perfect. I would recommend this to anyone!

[@robinkholmes7127]

Story 1: (NTA) Once you get engaged everyone wants to put their two cents of advice into your wedding but often don't want to put two cents of their money into it. Don't let toxic people attend your wedding or don't have a wedding and elope. EDIT for the update: A general rule, is don't bother warning people that they probably won't take the bed news well, especially when they're toxic people, it'll make it worse. That mum, "But fam-i-ly...." she doesn't know the difference between family and relatives.

[@jacklow9611]

Not all family is blood related.

[@yaritzaovalles4413]

After watching you for years talk about everyone’s wedding drama and giving your two cents, I legit cannot wait for you to engaged and talk about yours. I don’t even know you and I want to celebrate when it happens!! 🎉❤ love you charlotte, you’re my favorite!

[@daniellelunsford7175]

I have a soul dog too. I respect what she did. Never allow anyone to speak to you that one and about someone you had so much love for. Never the asshole in a situation like that.

[@TheGrandy123]

My sil lost her babies (twins) when she was five months pregnant before our wedding. I felt bad and talked to my husband (as it is her sister) how to handle it. Impossible to cancel but maybe make it more sober, more simple etc and to tell her that it is ok if she feels like not coming. She insisted to keep the wedding as planned and to enjoy and her husband and her came and dance to make sure we wont feel bad for doing it. They did all they can to make sure we enjoy and told us this allow them to change their mind and happy to see her bother getting married. I have more respect for both of them. And i am so happy because today they have 2 children and manage to remember their twins and cherish their memory. ❤

[@catherineg9943]

My husband and I, also eloped. We had one of his besties as a witness, and a random woman from the courthouse as the other. We spent the weekend out of town, then informed our parents/families on Monday. We celebrated our 36th anniversary in January!! ❤️

[@chatnoir9038]

Congratulations 💖

[@catherineg9943]

@@chatnoir9038 Thank you so much!!!! Every year on our anniversary, he gives me a red rose. We need a bigger vase. 🤭✌🏻❤️

[@SaltiBebe]

The last story reminds me of a proverb in my language, "hate the animal, but eats its eggs." Essentially meaning, when someone hates or disrespects the other person, but want the privileges and benefits that that person offers. Disgusting behaviour lol

[@powerpuff_avenger]

That is literally me on how I feel about chickens. XD

[@roselover411]

So happy to see the update to the last story! I know we've read through that one before (the dog made it unforgettable for me) but we didn't have the update last time! Glad to see things turned out well for OP and her brother.

[@nancysteen9111]

Unless you're immediate family, who WANTS to go to a wedding? Ever notice people say "I HAVE to go to a wedding this weekend:"? Never "I GET to go to a wedding this weekend". My husband and I opt out of every invitation we can.

[@dezh.3892]

I personally think that on the second one, she wouldn't be the AH at all, if she had cancelled. If it were me, I would've cancelled without a second thought. A wedding is an event that can always be postponed or moved, and her going to be with her grieving sister is not her choosing her sister over her partner, and if I ever had a partner that tried to say it was, they wouldn't be my partner anymore. I know not everyone thinks of a miscarriage like this, but I and anyone that wanted the baby that was miscarried would think of that like my sister just lost her child. If her sister had a one year old that suddenly passed away, then everyone would think it inappropriate to have a wedding right after her niece/nephew died. It feels so horrible to think that anyone would think of her as an asshole for going to her grieving sister after the death of a child she wanted. Imagine how her sister felt, grieving over the death of her child and being told her sister's still having the wedding without her, and she doesn't get to be a part of it. She was grieving, of course she was upset about her sister still having the wedding. Your partner is your priority, but this was a wedding, not the partner being in the hospital. It's expensive, but it can be moved. Choosing to go to a funeral instead of having a wedding should never make you the asshole.

[@starrkitty1]

1000% agreed, cannot believe the coldness towards that situation in this comment section! At five months that’s a still birth too, absolutely horrific to go through. I can’t imagine going forward with a wedding and trying to salvage that day with that going on.

[@Megunyan688]

The first story is exactly why I didn’t even invite my parents to my elopement. They only heard about our engagement/wedding the day after it happened cause I was not gonna play that game about “well you have to invite your family” with all 7 siblings of mine and all their kids (that’s over 30 people) when we only had space for 20 people. Plus with her OCPD I could not handle her trying to control my whole wedding! Admittedly these videos from you helped me chose to elope so thanks Charolette! If I have a baby girl I will name her in your honor (if my husband agrees of course)

[@ShreyaDash-er3dg]

Props to the brother from the last story for sticking by his sister and not turning a blind eye to his fiancée's cruelty. I've seen so many reddit wedding horror stories, I fully expected him to be an ass as well.

[@Stories_I_Tell_Ya]

The way I yelled “OH HEEEEYYLL NOO” to the doggy comment and the turbo tax commercial came on to save me from further cursing

[@bysscanna]

hating or treating animals bad will always be a big red flag for me. shame on that bride !

[@TroubledFerretzz]

The wedding versus sister one that was such a tough choice and can we just applaud the person for being so gracious when called out and applying the advice they got? Like Kudos, that was a sticky situation.

[@terrikeentk]

OMG a Saturday night special ❤ i don't think i can love you anymore than i already do😂

[@chucky6367]

Sunday arvo where l am lol

[@terrikeentk]

@@chucky6367 it's Saturday 9:07p.m. in Oregon🤗

[@Livingingratitudeforever]

@@terrikeentkit hella is!!!! I’m in Oregon too!!

[@terrikeentk]

@@Livingingratitudeforever well hello there🤗

[@Livingingratitudeforever]

@@terrikeentk hi!! 🤗 If you are near PDX, I hope you made it through the ice storm alright last month! I am a 30F living near Portland and I manage a large apartment community. It was rough but other areas got hit way harder. Glad to see another fellow PNW friend here! ☺️

[@sallymb6356]

Because of covid we had a tiny wedding of seven people, me, him, my son and his girlfriend, his Mum, his brother and his sister-in-law. Best day of my life. Nothing to worry about, all enjoyed it very much. We then had a party with lots of people some time later, that was also a lovely, lovely day. We felt it worked out as being the best way to do it.

[@angelahicks1642]

My husband and I got married at the courthouse. Brought our 2 young sons and a friend. After hearing so many stories of these weddings and stuff ( husband watches with me) we are so Happy we got married at courthouse and didn't have a wedding.... 5 months later mom thru a reception. I got the wedding cake I wanted and we had lots of good family fun and food. ❤simple is sometimes best!

[@SazzuHope]

Putting henry cavill as "the man of my dreams" is as accurate as anything ever

[@sarahgreene4467]

Randomly checked KZbin to be greeted by a lovely video! Can't wait to watch it, your videos always brighten my day!

[@RynKimVay]

Midnight happiness?! JOY AT WORK?! YAAAY! THANK YOU!

[@RynKimVay]

Also - Toast has a "sibling". He's called Crumb

[@Easy_n_Fun]

I love Reddit. I love how we get so much good advice from it. I consult Reddit all the time, tho it's so hard to get my post approved.

[@rebeccasimpkins8231]

We eloped. 25 yrs later and the marriage is great! No hurt feelings and no bs. It was great!

[@cherokeegirl85]

Somebody missed the AM and PM on the 12 o'clock 😂

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

I relate so hard.

[@tibbynibby]

That’s what I said too 🤣🤣

[@CharlotteDobre]

😂😂😂🤦‍♀️

[@kelp9116]

There's been redit stories about people still getting married even after a parent died a week before the wedding. Making a toast and going after the wedding to support the sister is definitely the right choice and this bride is clearly not ready to get married

[@Valentinathevamp]

People pass all the time. Sometimes you have to push on.

[@Duhbella]

Every time I watch your videos I am more grateful that my husband and I are eloping to avoid our nonsense family members. Plus we don’t want to waste all the crazy money that can go to our kids having better experience in the future

[@arieshyper6839]

I finally realized you had a KZbin. Too Many people on FB steal your videos and replay them for views. This is a better way to be supportive. I love your content keep it up b

[@talihasalinas7119]

Haii you !!❤ can’t get enough of you finally a series that never ends 😂😂 this is vital for mom life 🎉

[@zamiel3]

That's not eloping. It's changing to a private destination wedding.

[@noteworthy__a3763]

ALL RISE FOR THE HONORABLE JUDGE CHARLOTTE!! 🦃🦃

[@ilianag5680]

The sister(of the bride) who has a miscarriage sounds as if she was expecting the wedding to be cancelled. Which is wild, even in that situation. The problem is that every anniversary they'll ever have is going to also be reminding them of the lost baby, and it will make it difficult for everyone involved to deal with that.

[@jessicathomason7063]

Stg your photo edits are THE BEST. The "deer lord" cracked me up lol. I always wonder how yall come up with some of these inserts 😂

[@heatherdavis345]

Spontaneous timing ! And we are all here for it !! Charlotte at midnight , and here I am already snug in bed, snacks and goodies at my side , dogs are settled in , and I am happy ! Our dog Polo likes Charlotte a lot 😂 He was snug at the foot of our bed, and now he wants my hubby ( also a Mike ) to move over so he can watch with me ♥ 🐶

[@Peajay007]

this pretty much happened to friends of mine. their parents backed them. they ran to Hawaii where they had mickey and minnie as best man and maid of honor, we had no idea until a mass text and photos from Disneyland. they had a party when they got back

[@Buhleep]

ive noticed i binge Charlottes videos when im the saddest...she really really cheers me up. thank you mama charlotte, youre such a blessing🎉