chatty make up video

[@thewinterizzy]

You're so competent at explaining anxiety. I don't know if that's a side effect of therapy or you're naturally a gifted speaker or both or something else entirely, but I just wanted to reassure (ha) you that I really enjoyed this video. I can't stand wearing makeup personally but it's oddly relaxing watching someone else apply their own makeup. Combine that with an open discussion about anxieties and friendship? Sign me tf up.

[@Rucola438]

thewinterizzy it feels calming, isn't it? when someone can explain how you are feeling and you know they feel it too. although I'm not happy someone else is going through this, I feel good not being alone

[@thewinterizzy]

Nail Polish completely. It's so easy to be swept away with your own thoughts and feel like it's incomprehensible, to feel and to explain - so hearing someone calmly talk about it is refreshing, even if I don't wish those feelings on them.

[@tessaviolet]

Thanks, Izzy! A lot of my insight comes from counseling (and reading). That's very kind to say!

[@thewinterizzy]

Tessa Violet absolutely! Meant every word. Would you happen to have any book recommendations to share?

[@thequinndallsfamily1775]

Ditto what izzy asked. Any book recommendations?

[@AkilahObviously]

Gah, all your videos are so pretty. And I totally relate to the feeling like you're putting someone out when you visit for more than a couple of days. When I was sick in the summer I felt weird asking anyone to come over because I felt like I was taking up their time. It's not something I have advice for, but I ~relate~

[@tessaviolet]

+Smoothiefreak yeah. Sorry you went through that ❤️

[@rachel_c_frey]

I think it's really impressive how you can break down the root of your anxiety. It's really telling of how far you've come. You are just so inspiring. AND YOUR EYEBROWS LOOK REALLY NICE WOW

[@allesundmehr]

the beginning was VERY dodie-ish :D

[@monkeywizard77]

I think it's the background.. looks like her place (to me at least).

[@corrinecrazycow]

Todd Davenport and the CLAP CLAP CLAP at the beginning

[@rhianwluv]

some of her recent videos are so dodie-ish ugh it's so cute

[@daanegberts7572]

(until she said 'coffee'instead of tea...😁)

[@Lililuff]

I really like how open you're about your feelings and insecurities. I'm trying to talk more about my problems, but I always end up feeling like I over sharing or looking for pity, which I'm not. So it's really inspiring hear you talk about those things with such a nice vibe and maturity. Thank you.

[@hazelchief-rabbit5903]

That's how I feel too especially when I talk about my anxiety with people other than my family. I mean, it's not that I want or need pity or sympathy, just that sometimes, I just want to get it off my chest or other times it happens when I literally run out of things to say (I know, I'm not the most creative/interesting person out there). And I, too, have a trust issue with other people. I have friends but never what you may call close. I hardly ever see them and I've never actually shown my silly wacky self in front of any of them (or anyone really apart from my family). I am slowly working on this problem though. Glad to know we're not alone on this one. I wonder what would happen if a bunch of us with similar problems/anxiety gathered in the same room/place...

[@Lililuff]

We would set a date and then probably neither of us would show up lol I wish you the best of luck, and even though I don't know, I'm really proud of you for trying to overcome your problems :)

[@hazelchief-rabbit5903]

Lililuff Haha, most probably XD Aw, thank you! I really appreciate your comment :) All the best to you too! ^^

[@cinemoni]

so much pink in this video i love it

[@lordcoyote2000]

I really respect and value how vulnerable you make yourself. You are so brave and I admire that greatly.

[@Lily.valkyrie]

we all do man

[@Lara-qt4wf]

I saw you at Bry in Dublin and now my dad and I can't stop listening. Ah im now in love with your videos

[@tessaviolet]

+Galactagirl 8 that was such a fun show! ❤️❤️❤️

[@daniellebalouise9596]

Thanks girl. Rewatched your video several times to sketch ya really quickly. How do I get to show you???

[@nenazawadka9577]

Danielle Balouise just tag her on social media and i would love to see it to ☺✨

[@kimolyslager]

tag her on instagram? I am so curious to see it now!

[@daniellebalouise9596]

Done. I'm electroOnix. Twitter. I don't even remember my instagram.

[@bethkennedy973]

adding a comment so that this comment will get Tessa attention ;) Going on to check out your sketch right now :)))))

[@sofiaperalta9710]

heheheheeheheh

[@vandini8185]

I like the way Tessa is so relaxed. She got almost two minutes into the video & then stated her being abroad & working, not promotional. It's a thing to learn. To not dramatize things in your head to much and look at life a little calmly & clearly.

[@shamblingmound6558]

I love that you are so open about your anxiety. You help me put how I'm feeling into words. This video especially when you talked about not trusting people when they reassure you. I feel like my friends say that because they have to not because they want to. Thanks for another great video Tessa.

[@leah1597]

"Just in CASE you need really tiny traveling." Please tell me that was a pun Tessa

[@notlikewater]

I'm currently sitting in my friend's room for an hour of studying, and upon entering, I said "Thanks for letting me invade your space" to their response of "Haha You're not invading if I invited you to be here." I am trying to say thank you more than I'm sorry, and I apologize over I'm sorry, but it's changing more than those two words to evolve your rhetoric to appreciating what should be normal, ie. chilling with your friends or talking to them about hard stuff.

[@Rucola438]

Jenna W But it is a really good start! They say our words and environments can really help. For me it is that I am really self concious about my space and what other people may think about it and if they are comfortable in it. so it makes me think that having someone over means anxiety and worry, but it is obvious that it is just me who gets those feeling, everyone else is most times more chill lol. hope you celebrate your everyday victories. lots of hugs 🤗

[@BathroomJams]

Jenna W my boyfriend told me that "I'm sorry" is my catchphrase hahah. The thankyou thing is a good idea

[@mjgautrau3167]

I have never heard "anxiety is fear repressed" before and I think I have a ton of journaling to do now. I LOVE LOVE LOVE hearing you talk out this anxiety because I too feel it so viscerally but I've never been able to put it into my own words. I find I repeat sections of your chatty videos verbatim to my counselor to get across what I'm feeling because you words so well. I admire how well you are able to voice your feelings.

[@UnderMyMakeup]

I studied abroad in England and got there in January a couple years back. Perfect sweater weather. I miss it!

[@MacarenaCamejo]

I love that even though some people may say this is a simple little short video, I always learn something new when I watch your content. Even when I'm not expecting to. Love that

[@mirandafaiths]

you're a very gifted person. at speaking, advice-giving? you're very eloquent. i love hearing you speak about things. usually every video you make, i'm enlightened in some way. it's amazing. i love you and i miss you.

[@Stephanie_Lou]

its reassuring to know that I'm not the only person who feels like a burden yet doesn't trust when people try to tell me otherwise. like I have logic to tell me that if this person seriously didn't want me around then I'm sure they'd tell me, but even so, I just don't believe it. man, we have so many of the same thoughts/opinions/problems/views/*whatever word you wanna use* i'd love to be able to just sit and talk with someone who understands, its so hard when people don't really get it but still try to offer advice, I don't want their sympathy, I just want to talk about it, ya know? also your makeup looks great :) xx

[@Rucola438]

Stephanie Louise I know, right? For me, I feel bad when people try to offer advice because it is obvious that they don't get it but they try so hard to help. Then I try explaining, but sometimes I manage to, other times I don't and it can be tiring and frustrating, you have to keep that self confidence that you can explain it and you are not the only one. I'm glad Tessa can help so many people come here and feel understood. I hope you celebrate your everyday victories 🤗

[@SuperJollyRainbows]

Stephanie Louise I literally just got back from talking to a counselor about my trust issues and feeling like a burden to people and then voilà! Tessa uploads a video talking about the exact same thing. It's clearly something many many people struggle with, which is sad, but it's great to know we're not alone and that there's hope.

[@HannaRosePreuss]

i love the "woof" at the end because it sounds just like one of my best friends toni and it makes me happy to hear it

[@gemmaward3094]

this is incredibly relatable and also I just wanted to say thank you for always making such honest and wonderful content, especially related to mental health. I hope London treats you well!!!

[@juul3837]

After I finished watching I cried bc you just explained how I feel 24/7 and idk, its weird to hear it.

[@Rucola438]

Kota is very gay Crying is so therapeutic sometimes and it means the video reached you 🤗 I totally get it, because it reached me too. and Tessa usually does reach me, she is just so good at explaining and keeping a healthy balance between moving forward and making you feel like you can too. baby steps everyday, you are not alone

[@Levi_Latency]

Man, your channel's gotten so big. I remember when your channel was at 30k subs. Genuinely fills me with inspiration.

[@TheMegatski]

Watching this just helped me make the connection that I may have anxiety issues. Everything you have said in this video I do. Worry about being a burden, worry about being in the way, worry about inconveniencing others, worry that I'm boring, worry worry worry in any social context. I dont know why, but I've never thought it might be something like anxiety. I always assumed I was just stupid for being worried and scared all the time.

[@BexEdmondson]

talking and doing make up is SO HARD. i don't have that kind of multitasking power, so props to you!

[@initfordainspo]

This video is so real to me and my situation it hurts. It's nice to hear it out loud from another person

[@niamhabbott2886]

Your hair is so gorgeous in this aaaa

[@isa0ber]

i loved this video! your freckles make everything look good, don't worry. i've had friends over for a week at a time when theyre having family problems or are too depressed to take care of themselves and i love infantilizing them in a sense of feeding them, making sure theyre drinking water and even blowdrying their hair and doing their makeup. also, i often find myself helping others to find the vocabulary for what theyre feeling to help them navigate through the shit accumulating in their minds. it's a complicated ballance, not letting your self esteem depend on being helpful and letting yourself be helped, but i think my friends nailed making me comfortable. i think having a bunch of mentally ill friends made us a really considerate group that knows how to handle each other's paranoia

[@clownbabe2327]

SHES SO PRETTY!!!!

[@ShaynainShambles]

I always find it really enlightening and interesting to watch your videos, Tessa. I feel like we have a lot of very similar feelings and anxieties and I'm always astounded - truly, in absolute awe - of how you face them (and that you face them!) and discuss them so well. You always have wonderful words and insights to share with the world and I'm grateful that you do. It's reassuring to know that I'm not alone in my feelings and that, even if I'm grappling with them now, it's possible to move forward. Sometimes it really is about the exposure and just...doing the things that terrify you. :)

[@Rucola438]

ShaynainShambles and it is an everyday choice, isn't it? I need to tell you that it's not only Tessa, you can count me as well, cause I feel really similar to her so many times. she relieves me and also gives me hope, like you said, because she is facing things. I hope we all manage to make those baby steps 🤗

[@cuppatea4688]

I can definitely relate to what you're saying. I often feel like a burden or like I'm unwanted despite what people tell me.

[@paulstonewell]

wow, so self-aware. that's awesome. i'm all for feeling and understanding myself. helps with my relationships with others.

[@CassandraScherer]

Yes, yes to all of it. I am the exact same way. I stayed with a friend for a month and dude, they asked me to be there, they literally told me that they were so glad I was there. And every single day it was this internal sob struggle of me feeling that I was a terrible person and they must just be saying what they say to be nice. That I'm a burden and I don't want them to grow to not like me anymore. Like dude, I feel you. EVEN THOUGH I know that I'm not a burden, it is one of the things I struggle with the most.

[@rickmcquillis6626]

Tessa, you are beautiful without any makeup. I love your videos. You are precious, and I will forever be one of your biggest fans and admirers. Keep on doing what you do. Love you ❣️

[@Joenas7]

Came for the makeup, stayed for the EXTREMELY relatable content. "Do my friends actually hate me" is one of my favorite anxieties 🙃

[@aideeng8259]

I'm so annoyed I missed your Dublin tour dates! I only discovered your music a few weeks ago and would have loved to see you live! Hope you enjoyed your time in our little country and come back soon!

[@rukittenable]

WHERE CAN I GET THOSE SHEETS

[@tessaviolet]

+Julia R alas they are not mine so I do not know

[@thefrenchrandomone]

I'm pretty sure they are from the George Home brand from Asda. (but sadly out of order online).

[@lilyn5626]

I am in love with that lip stick color! Omg!!!!

[@desertdumitran]

Wow, I totally understand what you are talking about. I could never explain that feeling as well as you do. I too often do not trust other people when they say they want me around.

[@thebasket71]

i've recently felt this way about opening up emotionally, as if my friends are tired of helping me with my problems. I'm not sure how to not feel like an emotional burden

[@PabAng]

It's kind of reassuring hearing that I'm not the only one with trust issues, and the fear of becoming a burden on the people you love. I guess I just needed this video right now, it was a great coincidence you uploaded it today. Thanks Tessa.

[@rae_diant]

I'm saving this video for every time I start to feel like a burden because it helps me feel not alone ❤

[@merlinHPtwilight]

I feel you - I am no expert on make-up either. I think it's so cool that you couchsurfed for a whole year! I want to do that! :) I understand your anxiety being in people's space all the time, but saying 'sorry for being here' while they invited you into their home does not make much sense - realising that is a start. ;) Trust their word, I am sure you make a lovely house guest. Have fun on tour with Bry!! xx

[@gracet6529]

I'm so ill... fell asleep crying and woke up to this- already feeling better 😘😘

[@podoke]

tessa i dont think you understand how excited i get seeing your videos in my sub box you are lovely

[@firedonutzFTW]

So glad that you're making videos again, we missed you

[@user-jq3bh9ic2o]

ugh i feel the exact same way about being a burden :/// but thanks for talking about it, it really really genuinely helps me to know that im not crazy and alone in feeling like that

[@theonlyexception54]

I actually loved this video a lot. MORE OF THESE PLEASE!!

[@emma-wg5ph]

i always get so excited when you upload

[@sevenswanson]

I spent every weekend for several months last year hopping couches as I visited my fiance at college, so I feel you. After a while I just felt so completely and utterly exhausted and let's face it, grouchy. I'm so thankful to have a place of my own now, but of course I am sharing it with my husband, and that fear that they'll get sick of you still does not go away! I always feel like I'm too needy or selfish, but voicing it to him and talking it through with him has helped a lot. ~*~communication is key~*~

[@whatkindofblue17]

why are your videos so relaxing

[@siennamooney]

man, i can totally relate. it sucks so much to feel like a burden, and even when i'm hosting people i try really hard to make them comfortable and end up making myself feel like the burden in my own home. it's a weird situation and i'm trying to notice when i'm acting like that so i can fix it and be less stressed, but it's difficult. if you're looking for any other makeup while you're in the uk, i'd recommend checking out gosh cosmetics! they've got really great bb creams, mascara, and soft matte lipsticks, plus they're cruelty-free!

[@fernij]

ahh ily ily ily and I can't wait to see you and Bry in Leeds WOOP soooooo excited!!

[@thingslaurasays9995]

so relatable gahdamn. What really brought it to my attention was when my little sister said she felt that way to us, her older sisters. damn

[@zeeharan]

Your hair is so cute and I loved the video when you dyed it pink! I wish you would do a video on how you style your hair!

[@RachelAnn]

Definitely relate to this. I was homeless for a few months last year and would stay with different friends while road tripping and trying to get my life together. It was TOUGH as an introvert to be "on" all the time. But it also taught me so much about how loved I am and the community I've built in LA and on the entire West Coast, so that was nice?

[@kenzieleach741]

Fav youtuber/singer

[@dearcomrade2358]

the way she speaks and the overall aesthetic is so similar to dodie?? i loooove

[@StickDK]

It's been a while since I watched one of your videos from end to end. I must say, I enjoy this kind of video more than most other stuff on KZbin. And your hair is beautiful btw.

[@BathroomJams]

I'm so happy that you're chatty vids again. Have I missed a lot of your uploads or am I right in thinking you haven't uploaded anything like this in a while (a while meaning a few weeks because I can't handle no vids like this from you for that amount of time without missing you haha)

[@Kassuhday]

This is awesome!! PS I love those fox sheets!

[@rhysgrace7047]

Your honesty is lovely to hear! :)

[@monvia88]

Just had this whole "I'm a burden" talk today with my therapist. Ha! Man, Tessa, I relate with you so much. I love you. Don't change.

[@UnderMyMakeup]

Just finished the vid. I totally get the anxiety about feeling like people almost maybe regret saying yes to hanging out or having you around, and it's totally a fear just rooted in my own worries, but I feel like "If only I could read their minds and confirm that they don't want me here, then I could be a great guest and make an excuse to leave to relieve their discomfort" or whatever. I think it's a people pleaser thing maybe mixed with a social anxiety thing?

[@Rucola438]

Kat Eliza people pleasing mixed with social anxiety is so confusing. if you add the fact that you actually used to get energetic from staying around people and getting to know their stories... I hope you manage to get through your anxiety! lots of hugs 🤗

[@MonkeyM98]

I know I say this every time, but I just love this video so much! I definitely relate, and you're not alone.

[@adorableolive]

You articulate your thoughts so well

[@TheNicolexoxo]

I totally have those exact same anxieties. I was thinking about going to orlando to visit some friends, but in order to save money I would have to stay at someone's place AND use my friends' guest passes to get into the disney parks (since they work there) and even though I had no problem doing it for other people, there's always that fear that they wouldn't do the same for you, or even if they would maybe they don't want to? idk. YAY ANXIETY

[@Rucola438]

TheNicolexoxo yeah, exactly, I totally get it. Like in my uni course, with getting help from other people. You would do it for them, but is it ok? Is it ok if they help you on something you are marked on? You would help them, but would they help you? Would they think you can't do anything or you shouldn't be studying this? I couldn't have said it better: YEY ANXIETY

[@creativereindeer]

I've thought that I couldn't do a GRWM as I'm also not a dab hand at making up but this is inspiring me for a cheeky daily series in March? Hum. Thanks for this. I really appreciate how you think about things I find it very often sparks more thoughts and I value this. Merci.

[@hopesim4534]

Are you bringing merch on tour? Because I would love to get a physical copy of Halloway and a t-shirt :)

[@hannahoutridge7504]

I just love the li'l 'woof' at the end of her videos

[@BilliamCC]

One of the best pieces of advice I ever got from a therapist was that by denying your friends the ability to support and encourage you, you are unfairly robbing them of their chance to truly be your friend. I say this not to guilt you, but to encourage you. I hope it gets easier.

[@ClaireWestfall]

Your hair looks so good. 👌

[@spiralsun1]

I love dancing with people. They like me. Some call me STEVE. Now that we have the introductions out of the way, let me congratulate you on this great makeup video.

[@gracielaishere6225]

yesssss

[@unnamedcryptid2827]

ooh i love ur hair tessa!

[@leticiamoreno1647]

I wish this was longer!

[@mirandaweiffenbach6602]

I loved this so much ❤

[@Katie_Bee]

this makes me so happy to know i am not the only one who thinks like this. i keep trying to identify what it is that makes me so anxious/jealous/generally upset and i feel like that's something you do. i keep thinking that if i can rationalise my feelings then maybe they will go away. not worked yet but meh. interesting.

[@greciacastillejos7535]

I feel the same thing when I stay over at other people's houses. It's so nice that I'm not the only one

[@mollyj]

You have the beauty KZbinr lingo nailed. 'I'm obsessed with this' ☑

[@amakamgboh187]

everyone goes through their own struggle and everyone's journey is different. just think of this period in your life as apart of the journey and no experience lasts forever! Right now you feel anxious and scared but if you weren't doing this, maybe you would be doing something else that you hated. Struggle now, Enjoy Later! Its worth it. Love you Tessa!!!

[@annamckean9703]

I enjoyed this great way to start my day and force me to get up and ready for my life

[@charlottehunter2938]

this is what i needed my whole life

[@scrapingskies]

would love to hear more about your year of traveling and living on couches :o can you do another chatty video about them? loved watching this!

[@animalloverrr2000]

you know what I am the same as you. I'm new to school rn (2 weeks in) and I conversate with the people I want to be friends with but at the same time I want to distance myself because I think they'll get sick of me. interesting how I've never had that problem when I was younger. interesting how some can be more carefree when younger and then more incescure and worried about things as life moves forward

[@susannareid3563]

I'M SEEING YOU ON FEBRUARY 15TH SO EXCITEDDDDD

[@lizmoore3403]

I feel you on this. Last year I had a few situations where I had to force myself into people's houses (ans by force I mean I needed a place to stay while traveling and they invited me and were totally cool with it but I was a liiiitle bit not trusting that they were actually okay with it lol). ALSO AESTHETICS OUT THE EARS OH EM GEE WOW I'M SO PLEASED 😍😍😍

[@lizmoore3403]

wait waIT WAIT does this mean your doing vedif?!?!? yussssss 😄😄

[@lizmoore3403]

you're* lol I gotta clean up after excited me

[@biancakekoa1363]

please do a hair tutorial ^^ I want to cut my hair short but the one thing stopping me is having no idea how to style it and I adore your hair

[@kalifusch]

your natural freckles are lovely and I want them. also, what is your favorite book for anxiety and self help suches?

[@kikwangk4793]

how do you filter your videos tessa? its always beautiful

[@beautybabbles8757]

So gutted I didn't realise you were coming to Norwich!! Have a great your, you're very inspirational xx

[@Judiee]

tessa, how are all your videos so gorgeously lit

[@tessaviolet]

+Judiee thank you! I'm just using the window for this ones it's about how close you sit to the window/vs ISO. I'll make a video about it!

[@SuperJollyRainbows]

Tessa Violet Awesome! I'm looking forward to your video about lighting because you are killer at it, gurl!! All of your videos are so aesthetically pleasing and I am just in awe of your lighting skills. It's something I want to improve upon in my videos this year. 👍

[@Judiee]

ughhhh! you're the best! :)

[@morganscott8879]

Love you and your videos. You're refreshing!

[@ttaddicken98]

I literally squealed when I saw that you uploaded more videos

[@alexkind2011]

:) should be seeing you and bry for our 2 year anniversary in cardiff and i cant wait!

[@maddiepilz5711]

tessa I love your videos!

[@shinsally52]

thank you for this.💕

[@kokil]

You look wonderful and very Tessa from the start to the end! Hope everything's going well over there! I totally understand the whole being a burden feely thing , I just think everyone else is probably feeling the same way! Then we can all be burdens and have fun! So you're welcome to "burden" me whenever!

[@Elizabeth-qx4fr]

THE SHEETS ARE SO CUTE!!!

[@NintendoCapriSun]

I've let people stay with me for months in the past, and while I may have had the right to feel like I was being used, there was also a part of me that felt like "I'd rather feel used than to feel useless." It did make me feel good about myself that I could offer that to them, despite the situation. It's nearly a guarantee your friends will appreciate the opportunity to feel "useful" for a few days. Best of luck with everything, travel fees are hell! (I almost typo'ed and put "travel feels", but I suppose that can be just as true)

[@Evershear]

Those bed sheets were really foxy! ... Another great video. you have a lot of friends. I hope you have a wonderful time on tour, and return to the US safely. Thanks for sharing. Peace