Cheating & How To Get Over Someone

[@nicoleb3868]

My ex and I had been together for 10.5 years and were engaged to be married (we met young). I found out he slept with a random stranger and called everything off. It’s nice to hear men say “once one person has cheated the relationship is over” because my ex was still convinced we could work it out through therapy and become “stronger” while I felt like he had not only betrayed but showed such blatant disrespect for me and the sanctity of our relationship I knew it was time to leave and find an honorable man in the future.

[@ThisIsWarxx]

I Got cheated on, i wanted to be with her so I took her back. Big lesson learnt, once trust is broken its forever gone. It never worked after that.

[@ChrisWillx]

Seems like a very common situation Harry. “Better the devil you know” doesn’t work here it would appear eyh?!

[@Jing-Ling]

Same same

[@Ikgeloofhetniet]

It's so painful. I was married and it happened to me. I felt like I couldn't breathe at times. Absolute worst.

[@requiem-ph5xx]

@@Ikgeloofhetniet hope you healed brother

[@cherlynlanning8712]

I think you 3 men are so refreshing to listen to. I have a complicated relationship and I I need to get out of it. I wish more men where as wise as you guys….thank you for your words of wisdom

[@Cuntsville]

Imagine being Chris. Yusuf. Being Jonny. They putting years of effort in. Just for a moment of ya smile. Dudes rock.

[@gatherfeather3122]

Half of this is more specific than you might think. It's based on your experience as men in their early 30s who never actually had commitments like marriage or even children. It's based on situations where they could easily walk away on a practical level. There is no way you can avoid contact when you have kids together. Your Ex will always be part of your life like it or not. Also when you have grown together in other ways like being business partners. Even if you just share a home, that none of you can afford on their own. The whole 6 months cut off seems pretty ridiculous at this point... As difficult as it may be you'll have to figure out a way how to deal with your ex and maybe avoid sharing more than necessary.

[@jamiegraham207]

Whilst I agree with what Chris has to say re liking another woman's picture on Instagram isn't cheating, I think the comparison to looking at another woman in a bar a stretch. Liking a picture is engaging with that person, looking at another woman in a bar is not. I suppose it also depends on what the picture is. If she is bikini-clad and constantly liking revealing pictures, then the scenario changes significantly. Again, great podcast guys - thoroughly enjoying MW!

[@ChrisWillx]

Great point Jason. I had a much more well rounded position when I discussed it originally but that was when I was drinking wine so I’ve butchered the recall 😂 Super glad you enjoyed the episode. Xmas special goes live later today 🎄

[@jamiegraham207]

@@ChrisWillx Jason? Have you been cheating on me?

[@ChrisWillx]

Well. That’s gone badly hasn’t it. Blame it on the late night. JAMES. Sorry 🤦🏻‍♂️😂

[@FIONA21ful]

@@ChrisWillx 🤣🤣🤣Lads this thread has me giggling here at 7am like a 4 yr old!! Funny stuff. 😁

[@FIONA21ful]

I cheated only when I was young and in what I considered frivolous relationships, I have never cheated when in love. I actually tried to once out of loneliness , when he was working away , and just couldn't go through with it. It was pointless. Unfortunately since I have matured I just have to deal with the problems that come with commitment and long term relationships , I cant just run off to Greece these days since something inside grew up and now puts others feelings on the same level as my own . We cheat because we care about our own satisfaction , its a selfish choice and we will do it until we realise that it solves nothing .

[@ChrisWillx]

Lovely story Fiona. Do you think you're maturing at the same rate as other people your age? Or ahead of it

[@callumross7682]

Been a while since I tuned in but what a podcast to start me off again, class as always lads

[@ChrisWillx]

Thanks a lot Callum. Really feel like we’re starting to hit the ground running with some of these discussions, and they’re honestly so enjoyable to record. Lots more coming up soon! Any topics you’d like us to cover?

[@DannyOstra]

How do you deal with honesty? I wish you guys talked on trust and if lying is worth breaking up with someone

[@craighall9282]

44:10 - great point. Been there for sure. Wish I knew then what I know now!

[@ChrisWillx]

So true. If I was able to write myself at 20 years old a life guide I’d have had a much easier last decade!! One of the reasons I enjoy doing this podcast is trying to disseminate learnings from all the fuckups we’ve made! 😂

[@mathewhymanclips]

Couldn't agree more with feedback after a relationship has ended

[@ChrisWillx]

How do you mean Mathew? Breaking everything off and no contact etc??

[@galaxysurfer1122]

Thanks for this, guys. It's like sitting with three friends who have their heads screwed on and also not unwilling to share their good AND bad points and dropping truth bombs like cluster bombs. Thank you, again.

[@breannareeves9596]

I feel like I’m a very empathetic and I have a hard time ending relationships. In the past I’ve cheated or even lied and said I cheated to get the other person to break up with me. I know it’s horrible and being cheated on is awful but at the time I rationalized it as it being more positive for them to be in control at the end of a relationship and being able to make the decision to end it instead of having all control taken away when it ended. However in my defense I only resorted to those actions when I felt trapped in a relationship especially after I’d voice concerns or go as far as actually breaking up with the guy and have it be ignored.

[@ChrisWillx]

Sounds like we have a lot in common Breanna. It’s a savage combination when you’re unhappy but too empathetic to be brutal. Moving past the inertia of the awkwardness and focusing on “this is being cruel to be kind” is a great approach I’ve found helps. Did you agree with any other points?

[@FactFusionU]

Wow you women actually have justifications for cheating. Wonderful.

[@imooyeohiolebo5047]

I think trust in a relationship is overrated. When my husband started getting frequent night calls , i would ask and he would just wave off those calls as unimportant. At a time i could take no more of his lies, i decided i deserve to know what was going on. A friend of mine referred me to this great ethical hacking team( Cyberhackingsage@gmail ) who helped clone his cellphone without having to touch the device. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad i found out all his secrets and infidelity and how he planned on using this pandemic to get back to me. I got access to his Facebook, iMessage, GPS location , WhatsApp, Call Logs and Text Messages (both deleted and incoming ones) with a remote link to a programmed App on my phone. I’m here in Florida and able to access my husband’s phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i have enough evidence for my divorce. If you need help or that little bit of closure, i advice you get in touch with them Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail )Or Text and WhatsApp them on [phone].............thank me later.

[@requiem-ph5xx]

@@FactFusionU you clearly can’t read

[@ElisaBustin]

100% agree... word for word

[@patrickleland7012]

Cheating can never make a relationship better. Working on a relationship can make it better even after cheating.

[@delaniquelawrence1173]

This was informative 👏 thanks!

[@petermorrison5664]

We cheat because we're seeking Solace but it isn't always with malicious Intent, sometimes we hold the other person in such high regard that we can't bare to them it's over. When you're the one who's been cheated on, no-one else knows what it's like to walk a mile in your shoes and you must remember to hold your head high and get back out there ASAP and let the good times roll.

[@imooyeohiolebo5047]

I think trust in a relationship is overrated. When my husband started getting frequent night calls , i would ask and he would just wave off those calls as unimportant. At a time i could take no more of his lies, i decided i deserve to know what was going on. A friend of mine referred me to this great ethical hacking team( Cyberhackingsage@gmail ) who helped clone his cellphone without having to touch the device. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad i found out all his secrets and infidelity and how he planned on using this pandemic to get back to me. I got access to his Facebook, iMessage, GPS location , WhatsApp, Call Logs and Text Messages (both deleted and incoming ones) with a remote link to a programmed App on my phone. I’m here in Florida and able to access my husband’s phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i have enough evidence for my divorce. If you need help or that little bit of closure, i advice you get in touch with them Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail )Or Text and WhatsApp them on [phone].............thank me later.

[@azure0115]

Loving these older episodes - I'm relating.

[@Cuntsville]

I don’t mind if some dude cheats on me, I realize it is a physical thing. Also teaches him that the shit out there ain’t as good as me.

[@Cuntsville]

I don’t own the person in a relationship with me.

[@Jing-Ling]

This was very helpfull Thx

[@nickcortese990]

Forget the experience... Remember the LESSON

[@jasonnaylor8018]

Great listen as always guys. Fyi I found x1.25 speed optimal for this one. Utilising that excellent life hack!

[@ChrisWillx]

Thanks Jason, any points in particular resonate with you? And I’m very happy the sound quality is good enough to be ratcheted up! 🤓

[@jasperbhogal4953]

This is great. Why don't you guys have a podcast that I can download? or stream. It's too much data for me to stream youtube while working or commuting, you know.

[@ChrisWillx]

Did you look in the video description? Links to all audio platforms are there... apple.co/2MNqIgw

[@CoachConnorPT]

Amazing

[@ChaldishBambino]

Can anyone link the vid they talk about what journaling is/how they do it? Or just give a simple explanation of what it is? Probably a stupid question, and I think I've pieced together what it is from when they mention it throughout other pods, but rather have the definite explanation than rely on presumptions

[@ChrisWillx]

Hi Will, me and jonny use the 6 Minute Diary (available on Amazon). Life Hacks 106 has our thoughts & usage detailed 👊

[@adi-ik7fx]

Very intersting. Im 34 married for 14 years. Been all my life with tha same man.i live very diffrent life from you. Sounds like a mess.how can you stand so many pepole in your life?

[@animepillz]

Me my partner both cheated on eachother at the same time. She did it to get back at me. We both are in love and both can't get over it and both want to get over it

[@helenamoniqueclarke8135]

You get under somebody else. There's always another train coming.💯😆

[@benwinch1614]

Beautiful relationships will never come with terms and conditions. Love is fundamentally unknowable guys! You all say very peculiar things! makes me laugh haha! keep going though have a good 2019

[@ChrisWillx]

Different strokes for different sorts I suppose Ben. There’s no X Factor that can’t be defined in our view but herein lies the requirement for compromise in a relationship I suppose. Thanks for checking in brotha, have a good new year

[@MM-kc2bw]

I've been dipping in and out of sex at dawn for the past year 😂! Terrified I will read it and wave good bye to my relationship