Chelsea Blackwell - Life After Love Is Blind

[@TrentYakle]

She cant accept that she has any responsibility for her emotions, lol and the amount of people in here, "Jimmy was so fake because... well I feel like it, for sure he was the problem" lmao

[@sammielisabeth4928]

I've been watching Dr Kirk Honda (Psychology in Seattle) break down the infamous Chelsea/Jimmy fights and it was VERY insightful

[@PoetryOf]

My favorite series of his!

[@Deanne-se1bl]

I LOVE Dr Honda for breaking down her actions! It’s so accurate! I have known people like Chelsea & it can be so frustrating hearing her do these interviews & hearing him talk about it gives me a little insight as to why she’s STILL not getting it.

[@nicoled1787]

@@Deanne-se1bl I respect his experience but I don't think he has Chelsea right at all. All of the other girls are behind her, she's had the pre-psych evals, she's in therapy, I think it is unfair to say she's "not getting it." Even Dr. Honda says he is going based on an edit and isn't assuming she has borderline. AND if you watched his last video, he actually commented on how he doesn't think he's been truly listening to her because he's been listening through a filter. He's using the example from the show for his students on how things present - not to jump to conclusions on how she actually is.

[@deadams8905]

I don't think the majority of the audience is able to make the distinction you are referring to unfortunately. ​@@nicoled1787

[@KariN-or3sc]

@@nicoled1787exactly. He’s also not listening to podcasts Chelsea did and what others have said that back up her side of the story. He’s breaking down an “edited” Chelsea, and ignoring all the crap Jimmy did off camera. Which basically makes his words mean squat. It would be equivalent to a married couple coming to see him and he only listens to the husband’s side, then breaks down the wife’s “personality disorder“ based on what he said. I used to watch him, but I can’t after seeing how unprofessionally he’s covered Chelsea/jimmy. 😣🥴

[@saly4762]

This podcast is like seeing two delusional friends supporting each other blindly. No accountability, no i love you but you were wrong to say/ do that. Hopefully one day Chelsea would take some accountability and move on.

[@eleftheriasays]

Chelsea is a sweetheart, she beams with light and positivity. I hope she keeps some secrets from the pods and uses that to relaunch her podcast. I would go as far as saying that Chelsea was the sweetest girl in the cast, I feel genuine kindness in her. From what we saw, there was a disconnect in both Jimmy and Chelsea from the start. Even the engagement felt off. I think Chelsea felt that and her gut feeling just wouldn’t go away which is why she kept asking him for reassurance. As a viewer, you could see that when she says his words didnt match his actions is true. I didnt get the impression that he was in love. He also had so many opportunities to take a tiny bit of the fall to support Chelsea and wouldn’t (on Nick’s podcast). I get that Chelsea displayed insecurities but nobody is perfect and if he truly cares for her - I think that’s the least he could have done. I understand being cordial but still being friends… idk. I would tell her to focus on herself and truly walk away from all that. Real healing awaits! In the end, I wish them both only the very best ❤

[@simmytom7684]

Host did a good job positively reaffirming Chelsea. Now Chelsea, maybe she did get a bad edit on the show (not a Chelsea fan at all lol) but shes holding herself accountable & that's respectable. Jimmy is a ding dong too though. He looked like a clown on the show & his edit wasn't that great either. Everytime they said 'i love you', felt so damn empty & forced. They both were never right for each other.

[@deadams8905]

I saw someone say that Jimmy reminded her of the people in the sunken place from the movie Get Out every time he said he loved her. Now I can't unseen it.

[@justytem07]

She goes on all these podcasts and says that she is telling her truth but I don't really hear anything horrible that Jimmy did/was doing to her..

[@andreeanasca8216]

how about texting and seeing his girlfriend he had sex with daily while engaged to another woman?

[@deadams8905]

The pretending to be asleep and butt dialing her accidentally while he was actually out partying was pretty yikes 😬😬😬

[@ness0388]

Passing the psych eval doesn't mean much on this show. Carlton passed, Jessica (s1), Danielle, Matt, Zanab, Irina, JP, Carter, Trevor, Matthew, Clay, etc. I'm sure I'm missing people but let's be serious. That's not a flex. I think they let people in who have major relational issues so the show has drama. They RECRUITED Jeremy who was engaged 3 weeks before. That's crazy.

[@MyLifeBeLike23655]

This is beyond true

[@lynninfinite]

The psychological evaluation can’t tell if you’re insecure or avoidant of accountability 😅😅 She passed because she’s not a psycho, not a potential killer, not mean, and probably didn’t have bad intentions. I’m sure she truly wanted to find love and get married. Also, how much can we trust Netflix’s evaluations considering the other cast members they’ve let be on TV 😅

[@whatever5026]

Euhm if anything attachement styles are one of the easiest constructs you can identify in individuals as a psychologist. And the show would be boring and unpopular if netflix only picked adequate candidates

[@lynninfinite]

@@whatever5026 we dont know if they even hire actual professionals to do these evals lol & yeah you’re adding to my point - we can’t trust Netflix are picking adequate contestants. They are looking for DRAMA. Chelsea was a great person to come after because she was not stable, not confident, not secure, not accountable.

[@andrewchevrier]

Carter passed it, and from what we’ve learned in lawsuits, that’s alarming.

[@deadams8905]

I think the process in general is very stressful. It could potentially mess with relatively healthy people's heads. With that said though, I do not trust the creators of the show to put ethics over ratings.

[@patriot-hj5vx]

Dont know this host but she is so supportive and wonderful. I would love to have her as a friend.

[@StephiMills]

I know right 😭😭😭

[@MyLifeBeLike23655]

What about these podcasters enablers ?? I don’t get it

[@SarahD19887]

They play into it to get her to say more polarising stuff because that gets them views. It's really sad that Chelsea doesn't see it and thinks they're on her side and damaging because she feels supported in her delusions.

[@dianecarpenter5611]

Despite what she says of herself and how others generally see her, Chelsea appears to have issues in relationships that are very deep. Her behavior shown was VERY abnormal and dysfunctional. The issue is not just the men she selects but is also very much re her. Her behavior shown was consistent with the behavior and thoughts of someone with a borderline personality disorder. You can have that and mainly show those traits in a relationship and not friendships. She needs to be able to see this and work on it if she wants healthy relationships in the future. Jimmy has his weaknesses but he doesn't appear to have done anything so awful to be so written off or blamed solely. He did not make her feel secure seems to be her main truth but that is at least as much re her as it is him. The vague talk re him going out did NOT appear like much of that had happened prior to their big fight and apparently the butt dial incident happened later. By then he probably really needed to talk and let off steam and was likely deciding whether to quit this. I am so tired of hearing re good or bad edit. Her behavior shown was very abnormal and a big red flag and she continues to take virtually no responsibility for her behavior. Her behavior was not manufactured by the show but were things she actually said and did.

[@lynninfinite]

Things shifted BEFORE you guys even met each other. He literally said he was about to go home!! Ughhh they were such a bad combo from the start!

[@trinalynnb]

100% disagree. One feels insecure because of their own issues, not because of the other person.

[@andreeanasca8216]

right, like when you are a child and ask a parent for a need and they dismiss you, the child feels guilty for having a need and stops going to their parents, withdraws, becomes avoidant and as an adult cuts off contact. But yeah it is the child`s fault for feeling rejected.

[@deadams8905]

Being in an unhealthy relationship can definitely affect your self-esteem.

[@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye]

@@andreeanasca8216as a child, yes. I’m a mother and very aware of that. I’m also a 34 year old woman who grew into adulthood with my parents having an extremely difficult divorce when I was 16, having my own issues with addiction and rejection after that, etc, grew into a woman, sought therapy continually until I was at peace with myself and my personal confidence and continues to do so before I re-enter the dating world. Something I suggest most people do before making finding a spouse their first priority.

[@aaaaasashaaaaaa]

We all watched probably an hour total of their relationship - for people to act like they know who she is after that is WILD

[@lorenavaldez869]

Completely agree! These comments are not girls girls -If you haven't watched the entire season, reunion, and kept up with social media, it's best not to comment these negative projections. I'm happy she is standing firm and has been transparent throughout her journey. The hate and projections are just so cringy.. I'm happy for her and wish her the best.

[@borchsupremacy]

Right?!

[@nicoled1787]

THANK YOU

[@legendbones6729]

That's how white people are. They love making judgements with very little information

[@jordan20122]

He didn't call her clingy because she did his laundry and went grocery shopping. She was whining about him being gone for an hour without her. I'm only 20 minutes in and she's still ridiculous

[@urgstheword]

This - we’re being gaslit by every podcast she goes on and the hosts just allow it. Editing doesn’t change the words that come out of your mouth.

[@tmcbgrrl0074]

Chelsea scares the F outta me and scares all the good guys away!!~~ imo

[@deadams8905]

​@@urgsthewordwe don't know if that fight you are referencing and him calling her clingy had anything to do with each other.

[@rubiirae]

She’s got all the time to do interviews yet no time to work on her borderline personality disorder and other mental illnesses

[@Halo-d8t]

Dude other cast members have said he literally would be out ALL the time and they edited that all out. All of them have said it.

[@StephiMills]

Loved this episode!!! Omg 😍

[@tmcbgrrl0074]

Chelsea is a good example of why men are afraid of dating women imo 😞

[@andreeanasca8216]

lately it`s the women who are choosing not to date lol check resources on patriarchy and you`ll understand

[@Mercury688]

So instead of getting more therapy she’s on a mission to push blame everywhere else?

[@simmytom7684]

She has work to do but don't let that weirdo Jimmy off the hook. He seemed disingenuine. He always made it a point in front of everybody that he had the 'best' relationship with Chelsea & he HAD to drive that point home each & every time he was in front of everyone else. Fake AF. Inappropriately complimenting AD like that...seemed weird. His 'I love yous' were empty man....no genuine emotion behind them.

[@eleftheriasays]

Right! I can’t believe that moment with AD wasn’t addressed… they were both 100% flirting. I really felt like no emotion from Jimmy even in the pods… I was always wondering like what is he doing on this show.

[@aubsarg0222]

Thank you! Everyone who knows human behavior could sense Jimmy was a bad person from the beginning. We all (my fiancé friends etc who wayched the show) said from the start that Chelsea would never act this way if Jimmy didn’t treat her this way: poor girl, she fell in love and fell into desperation. And btw she does look like Megan fox and I solute Shane Dawson and the ppl on his podcast for sticking up for Chelsea with this. Yes she was whiny but all females have been in this situation one time or another. Life isn’t what you hear playing Fortnite or seeing commentary on YT. Real Life is rough and she showed us some raw real emotions. Chelsea you were our favorite!

[@lolalisa6957]

She should be the last person complaining how her match looked like after she lied about looking like Megan Fox.

[@TheEahnne]

It's you. You led him to pick you by saying you look like Megan Fox.

[@MyLifeBeLike23655]

And Jess, she just had let him know that she have a 11 years old girl 😂 I think that played too

[@deadams8905]

He shouldn't base choosing his future wife on who she does or doesn't look like. That makes him look pretty bad if that's what led him to choose her.

[@devochkadee]

Genuinely curious. At 7 minutes in she says "I’ll never let a man belittle me like that again". How did Jimmy belittle her?

[@siiiiiuu7]

Since no one answered, I can try. Here's a hypothetical based on the show and everything Chelsea has shared in podcasts, assuming it's accurate. I'm a guy and I'm in the pods. I hit it off with a woman and we share who our celebrity lookalikes are. She mentions some names, I mention a few names and tell her I've been told I resemble Keanu Reeves. We get engaged, we have the reveal, I'm so happy to meet her. She's separately filmed saying that I 'lied' to her and don't look as much like Keanu Reeves as she had hoped. Ouch. She says things like 'I can work with that', in regards to my looks. Jeez. Then on the days leading up to our *marriage* she does things like... complimenting a male cast mate's body part, texts her male friends constantly throughout the day, including a guy she had an affair with, goes out to bars frequently with her male friends... and when I ask her to cut down on these things as someone who's about to be her husband, she says 'if you tell me not to do those things, I'm just going to do it even more'... all while claiming I'm the best thing that's ever happened to her and that she loves me so much. Then, towards the end, she dumps me. The show airs and I'm made to look like a clingy partner and very little of her unpleasant behavior is shown. She doesn't even defend me to the public because she's afraid of the backlash. Would I, as a man, feel belittled by that experience? For sure.

[@lynninfinite]

At least she’s self-aware and knows he didn’t like her 😅

[@sharalhall5911]

She’s really whiny & ick to Jimmy. Sorry but she was clingy!!

[@susanamontoya2613]

I truly dislike Chelsea. However, I guess I can tolerate her. I just find her beyond fake and very manipulative into narrating things to favor her perspective, instead of just keeping it real. Like, I love a blunt straight forward person. Whom admits pros and cons of their own self. All I see in her is gaslighting back and forth. The man was clear he didn’t like you, yet her main priority till this day is him. On other podcasts/interviews she was asked what’s your current state with Jimmy, and her answer was very different, as if the door was still open and here she said single. Why can’t she just be authentic with everyone and not role the dice with each person differently. And there’re many more other factors. On the other hand I do feel she ruined Jessica’s chance for true love by sabotaging her opportunity to be with Jimmy. But then again I feel she did her a favor by keeping him away from

[@tmcbgrrl0074]

I cannot tolrate her. quitting now bye

[@lynninfinite]

13:31 😂 that laugh will haunt me

[@lexis4490]

Chelsea was one of my favorites. I wished the men were better this season.

[@SarahD19887]

Ew.

[@aubsarg0222]

I would have went on the reunion and said I didn’t say Megan fox I said Jessica Simpson but not jS now I mean the JS when she was married to nick

[@PinkNora10]

22 years married never have done laundry for my husband..you are the pretty one in the relationship!! Believe it !!

[@gbahari2]

Chelsea what's the point of these types of interviews? Do you want ppl to see your side? If so, you need to stop protecting Jimmy and share more of what how he acted off camera OR how the edit is helping him save face specifically? Based on the current edit and the current level of info you're offering, Psychologists (e.g., Dr Kirk Honda, Psychology in Seattle) and a lot of ppl are calling you abusive, with a borderline personality. You need to stop protecting Jimmy and be more elaborate and specific in describing how he didn't make you his priority or which of his (not so great) reactions were left off the edit, during your arguments.

[@rachelelizabeth173]

100% agree. I initially was taken aback by Dr Honda’s take, but Chelsea’s post season interviews are giving me pause. She is either protecting Jimmy or there is just not much there to justify what we saw on the show.

[@nicoled1787]

You're clearly not watching those Psychologist shows in good faith because you'd know they're not diagnosing her or even claiming to. I feel like a lot of people are only watching those shows to have their hateful and intrusive opinions confirmed.

[@SarahD19887]

Girl. She's not protecting Jimmy. She's very willing to throw him under the bus and even went as far as LYING (when she claimed the butt dial happened before the fight) to do so. If he had done ANYTHING wrong, she would've already told everyone.

[@borchsupremacy]

LoveIsBlind casting the worst men possible

[@borchsupremacy]

No, but like fr who doesn't want a clingy partner? What's wrong with the person you like to wanting to be with you?!

[@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye]

‘Clingy’ and ‘obsessed’ with the person you love are not the same thing. There was an opportunity for growth here and I understand it’s not easy to be brutally honest if you’re a new podcaster trying to win over your guests, but being a good friend, good person, good woman means being real with people. Being a “girls’ girl” doesn’t mean you shouldn’t tell another girl when she’s not thinking clearly. Telling every woman “you’re gorgeous” is not helping the problem. The way to dismantle unrealistic beauty standards is not to tell everyone they’re beautiful; it’s to remove the notion that exterior beauty is a necessity for love and for life. It’s nice to give people space to open up, however: we should be cautious about how we present our perspective in opening up that space. In this case, there’s a need for the interviewer to grow her podcast so she has an underlying agenda to be agreeable (at this point anyway, hopefully she realizes positive interactions can happen with the truth being laid out even if it’s uncomfortable, and still bring growth to the channel).

[@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye]

Finding out Chelsea slid into Post Malone’s DMs and then said “I was fine with being step-mama to Posty’s kids”… YIKES.