The cost of moving to New York City to pursue your dreams. An *honest* vlog.

[@ChelseaCallahan]

Hi friends! Hope you enjoy this one 💘 For a lot of us who moved to NYC, it's not only about creating a better life for ourselves but also for our families too. What does 'living the NYC dream' mean to you?

[@Billy33753]

It means that the sky is the limit a city of opportunity

[@Jessie48722]

I lived in NY 15 years. Missed my family by age 40 and went back home to California. Best decision ever but that's just my 2 cents. Love you!

[@donnapecoraro3126]

Freedom. Blue state. Equality. Ease of transportation, diversity. I could not live elsewhere.

[@86emilymarie]

Ah this resonated so much with me! I moved to Seattle years ago, leaving behind family in Michigan and it was so hard to leave / watch them leave after visits. It’s definitely a different relationship but it’s still a relationship and you find a way to maximize the time you get together (as you said). I’ve since moved back to Michigan BUT my time “away” taught me a lot about what it means to really invest in and develop relationships. The beautiful thing is (when it’s healthy) family is family no matter the distance ❤

[@fruityliving3413]

Wow this really resonates with me. I always wanted to move out of my home state but sadly never did, now 53yrs old and taking steps to finally do it but with such a heavy heart. My parents are now in their 80’s and I feel I’m being selfish at a time when they’ll begin to need me more. But I would like them to see me happy instead of waiting till they’re gone. It’s a very personal decision and everyone is different but know your mom has to be so proud of you for being so courageous in your life & would want your happiness over anything else. 😊

[@margaritadiaz3779]

Grandma here. Don't overthink the family situation because that really doesn't work. Moms and family are usually happiest when family members are doing well no matter where they are. Facetiming, texting, and a quick phone call may help to keep you in the loop of what's happening with them. It's also surprising how many families live in close proximity and yet don't keep in touch. Live your life, Chelsea, and go with your gut feeling when deciding how to move forward. No one knows you like you know you!😂😂😂

[@lindyralph8792]

Such lovely advice 🥰

[@HolaSoyJillian]

That’s very encouraging to hear ❤

[@kitina11454]

thank you, Grandma!

[@egl3369]

Thanks for this. I feel constant guilt that I don't spend enough time with my mom. I really do try

[@jessima8053]

As a mom of adult children I can tell you there’s nothing I love to see more than my child happy and living their life the way they want, however that may look

[@ChelseaCallahan]

❤

[@pamd4068]

I'm a mom of three and I totally agree with you above comment. I always say I'm only as happy as my saddest child. So things are going really well right now 🙂 love love, love your videos and thank you for sharing your mom with us.❤

[@SirenSaysStudio]

Totally agree… I’m a mom of a 23 and 21 year old living their best lives (I hope) as creatives in NYC and Boston. It’s not always roses, but however it looks and whatever they choose to do post-college, I will cheer from afar with bells on. And hug them tight when I can

[@scottgiles7178]

Totally agree, my wife and I's kids are all over the world and all we want is happiness for them

[@cameronrickard8348]

These comments make me feel hopeful. We have 2 kids (4&2 yo) with another coming in April. And it may be bonkers but my husband and I think a lot about our "adult children". We obviously have no idea where they'll go, what they'll do, etc. but we mostly worry about the transition of them leaving and if it'll feel...natural? We've always said we hope to raise empathetic, emotionally intelligent kiddos who chase after what makes them happy/content. But it's a tad scary to think about that phase of life. I suppose you just go back to being in full swing of you and your partner, your interests, your hobbies, etc? And hopefully the kids leaving feels natural? And your adult relationship just continues to develop as they go through new stages in their lives?

[@bowenbritney]

'You will never be completely at home again, because part of your heart always will be elsewhere. That is the price you pay for the richness of loving and knowing people in more than one place.”

[@kristinesolhaug]

LOVED this quote 🥹 Thank you for sharing.

[@cs2619]

I am usually a “silent” follower (as an introvert living alone, I love you channel), but I just wanted to let you know, that I can totally relate to your thoughts about living at a distance away from your family. After finishing university in 2001, I moved from Copenhagen (Denmark) to Switzerland, and lived there for almost 20 years, pursuing my professional career dreams, and really just enjoyed life. It was such a wonderful time that I think back on with real joy and happiness, especially considering the experiences and friendships I’ve made during my time living in Switzerland ! However, there was always a “cost” in terms living at distance from my family; I could just not just stop by for dinner, a chat, or a coffee with my parents, sister or childhood friends. Sure, you can stay in contact by other means, and I could also jump on a plane and be back in Copenhagen in around 3 hours, but there is just not that closeness and spontaneity as when you are living around the corner. At a certain point in time - especially as time went by and my parent grew older - the importance of having a closer relationship with my family (especially my parents) just increased successively. And as an opportunity came up, I decided to move back to Copenhagen (that’s 7 years ago now). By doing that I gave up a lifestyle a really enjoyed, but in return I got a much closer relationship with my parents and sister. Sadly, my father got ill a couple of years ago and passed away. It was a tremendously hard time, but I was truly happy about and cherish the fact that I had had the opportunity to enjoy a couple of years of close contact and fun times with my father, doing just the most mundane and trivial things like eating dinner together, having a coffee, stopping by for a chat, going out for a walk or a beer, etc. - those memories are truly, truly precious to me ! More importantly, however, was the fact that I was able to support and help my mother during my father’s illness and after he passed away - it would have been extremely hard to do that if I was living in Switzerland. And when I look back at those hard times, and the time I now spend with my mother, I am really happy about the fact I moved back. In short, I know the feeling and “struggle” with living far away from your family - yes, it is complex, and, yes you feel conflicted. How to handle that situation, and what one should do is impossible to say: It is all about what you feel deep down - but there is no “right” or “wrong”; you just have to trust your instinct ! And please, please, please don’t worry: I am confident that you will (actually, you are) going to handle that situation (should it arise) just fine ! Dealing with the challenges of complexity and decisions that may conflict are just a part of life and living - and life is here to be lived ! So go grab a coffee with a splash of pumpkin spice and enjoy it !

[@Cheri94]

I’m so happy you got to make some beautiful memories with your dad! Time with family is never wasted. I’ve lost both my parents now, I miss them everyday, what I would give just hear thier voice again.

[@bridgey968]

Both of you are making me cry x

[@trishnickles2236]

cs2619, Thank you! Your comment was so beautifully expressed. I will retire soon and will move from where I've lived since 1986, (Southern California), to Oregon, where I'll live with my sister. She's 17 older than I am and in good health, but her husband's passing last September has left her adjusting to "cooking for one." My sister and I are very close and it is such a blessing that I'll soon be able to spend time with her. Be well. 🙏💕💕

[@ana_sar]

I moved away from my family to study a couple of years ago, and at first, I felt so much guilt for "leaving them behind", my mom was terribly upset. now we both grew on it and I'm very happy with my decision - dream uni, great friends, work that I love, all in a beautiful city. I visit every 2-3 months, and sometimes the quality time I get in those visits is more meaningful than most of the time I would spend with my family before. I know it's better for my mom as well that I'm independent, happy, can help her if needed, and not just around) After all, you don't have to see someone daily to make sure they know you love them. I feel my people's love and support across space)

[@JoClark-c4n]

My son moved away from the Midwest when he was 20 to California. That’s been 24 years. It was his dream and it makes me happy that he followed his heart. We stay in touch several times a week…I fly out when I can and he and his family fly back when they can. ❤️ Live your dreams Chelsea! A parent wants you to live your life on your terms. I am so happy he has the life he chooses. I’m sure your family feels the same way. 🥰

[@allik8507]

This made me so happy to read 😊 what a beautiful parent!

[@alexjohnson111]

This one tugged on my heart strings. I lost my mom when I was 19 and for those 19 years she was my absolute everything. Best friend, gal pal, a wonderful mother. I felt robbed of ever having a real adult relationship with her. I'm such a different person from when she last saw me and I always wondered what our relationship would look like today

[@ChelseaCallahan]

thank you for sharing your heart ❤️ I’m so so sorry you lost your mom so young. I relate to your reflections so much

[@alexjohnson111]

@@ChelseaCallahan 💜

[@svtjunkie]

This video struck a chord with me. I don't blame you for keeping your family dynamic private, as it should be. You share what you want to share with us when you want to share. Doing great, btw!

[@ChelseaCallahan]

thank you :)

[@violettefemme21]

The push and pull never goes away.. i am in the process of "moving home" and the push and pull still hasn't gone away.

[@thenewbaguette]

You're so not alone in asking these big family questions. No matter which path we choose, there is always some sort of sacrifice on the opposite side - big or small. There's no "one right way" to live. All you can do is make authentic choices as you go and stay present (easier said than done, obvs). You don't need to decide the rest of your life right now

[@rocioiribe5841]

i needed this comment too. i've only recently started coming to terms with the fact that to really live this one way life means being ok with trade offs, b/c in the act of choosing anything we inherently give up something else and it seems to weigh more on me the older i get. phew.

[@thenewbaguette]

@@rocioiribe5841 I'm glad this resonated with you

[@jasminehodge58]

I'm from California and moved to NYC a little over 7 years ago. I am fortunately able to visit my parents a couple times a year, but totally get how each time you see your parents/family, it really becomes clear how time and distance and having multiple places you call home makes you feel all the things. I don't know if I had/have an idea of the NYC dream (think I'm still figuring that out 7 years later lol), but each time I leave NYC, I remember what I love about this city and each time I leave CA, remember what I love about where I came from! Love your vlogs!

[@rebeccacartier153]

I don’t think location is necessarily the answer. I live half a mile from my mom and sister and see them once a month or so, and my dad retired to Florida and we talk once a week on the phone. I think it’s more about the relationship you have with family more than location wise, yes if you were five minutes away it would be much easier to build those relationships but I think it’s more about putting in the time and effort.

[@MM-kx9ue]

The one thing parents truly want for their kids is to be happy. Like I tell my kids, now I have places to visit - one in New Jersey one in Puerto Rico and the other one in Japan.❤

[@kristinesolhaug]

I’ve been away for a 10 day meditation retreat, and I’ve been missing watching your videos so much! So glad I have two more to watch after this one 😍🤭 Also, what you say about family/career/living far away from loved ones resonates with me. I sometimes feel egoistic for following my own path when that path is far away from the people (and animals 🐶) closest to me. And the reminder that time is limited doesn’ really help ease that feeling (I too lost my dad when I was younger) ❤️ But at the same time, sticking to a path closer to “home” doesn’t always work out either, especially if one keeps dreaming of something else, something “bigger.” I think there are no rights and wrongs here, and that the most important thing is to follow whatever makes one feel most content and - yes - happy 😌 Glad to see you got to spend some quality time with friends and your mom in the wonderful city of yours! 🗽🥰

[@stephb3321]

Family can be complicated. When my husband and I got married, we immediately moved out of state for a training he had to go to for a little over a year. It was honestly the best thing that could have happened. While I was a bit homesick, we got to spend our first year creating our own memories and traditions. When we returned, we sort of did things our way, didn’t let our families control everything in our lives. We love our families, but we are adults with our own lives. I see something similar in you. You left to pursue your own life and dreams. It doesn’t mean you love your family any less.

[@meowmeow962]

It has always been a dream to move to New York. But I would be lying if I said I wasn't scared leaving my parents. Flying (like you said) is so expensive and especially if I want to visit during the holidays. Thank you for being honest we all appreciate it 😊🌸

[@gregtoutain]

Don’t worry about the subjects that you’re talking about, you have the right to your own privacy, you’re always honest and we appreciate it.

[@maryantonishak400]

Always follow your dreams. Don't wait until you are too old to do them. I think you are doing great Chelsea. You rock girl.

[@JL11775]

Hi Chelsea! I am in the reverse situation. My daughter lives in Oregon and I am in So Cal but I only see her twice a year, when my husband and I travel to her (we’re retired) and when she comes down for Xmas. She is truly independent and has created a lovely life for herself in OR for almost 10 years. We try to have monthly Zoom calls with her and our son which helps us keep in touch. Even though I wish we saw her more, I take pride in the fact that we raised two kind and independent kids. Having said that, when you said you cried after your mom left it made me a bit emotional. Indeed we don’t have unlimited time on this earth but I’m sure your mom takes comfort in knowing you are thriving in the place of your dreams.

[@Tilly236]

Hi Chelsea! It's so difficult - you're meant to spread your wings and fly, but you can't be with loved ones at the same time. If only we could be! I'm sure your family are very proud of you and all you've achieved 🩷

[@christineemory528]

I live in Pennsylvania. Around 25 years ago I had this overwhelming urge to move away, so I moved to WV. It was really only 45 min away from where my whole family lived. I ended up only being there for 2 years before I had to move back. My parents were getting older and I hated not being close in case something happened. Now my parents are gone and I'm an empty nester. The urge to go is coming back but I won't go as I have grand children. My point is that I feel like everyone should follow their urges because you can always come back home. Much love ❤

[@pl8305]

Honestly Chelsea, I live vicariously through you and wondered whether if I lived your life I would have experienced more so a vice versa. I feel like this video showed me there are many ways to live life and that is okay, all of it is okay. Either direction. Thank you for your content, it makes us feel not alone and not feel left out especially this vlog. Thank you for showing vulnerability. That’s why makes your channel so special💕

[@AmyPandora]

Your worries about family and all the questions you asked were so relatable. I have a long-distance relationship with my family, since I'm 18 just like you and from last year I committed to visit much more often. I understand it's money, but it's worth spending it, as time never comes back. + your mum coming to visit some other time, I'm sure she enjoys living a bit of your NY life with you!

[@nathaliemontrose]

I’ve been watching your videos since you moved into this apartment, but didn’t realised I never subscribed!! I always get super excited when you’ve posted a new video, you are def my comfort KZbinr 🫶🏻

[@miid3667]

Hi Chelsea. I’ve been watching your vlogs for a while at this point and you ALWAYS give me a peace and comfort. I just wanted to thank you so much🫶🏻 I’m from Japan and I’ve left over 11 years ago (currently living in California with my husband). I get to see my mom and older sister once or twice a year( My dad passed when I was 25). I sometimes feel bad for my mom that I can’t be close to her enough. I miss my family but my mom is happy because I’m happier here than when I was in Tokyo. Since she retired last year, I’ve been trying to see her more often and make most of our time together.❤

[@masegomoletsane333]

Oh, Chelsea, this made me so sad. It made me realize how much I’ve been missing in my life. I became severely depressed in my early twenties, which impacted my ability to pursue my dreams. I moved to another city at 19 but returned home by 23. My family isn't very loving or supportive, so being around them while struggling with my mental health has been incredibly difficult. Now, as I approach 30, I feel like I’ve missed out on so much life. Keep doing your thing, girl; you’ve built a life that many people aspire to have. I wish you all the best in staying connected with your loving family.

[@leydianacrockett4040]

I love your videos and the music you choose is on point. We have two girls 24 and 27 who no longer live at home. The way we see it is, we lived our lives and now it’s their turn to live their lives and that’s exactly what they’re doing and we couldn’t be happier for them. It’s what we prepared them for and we did good 😊

[@ianthe.w]

I only live a 40 min drive from my parents and still always feel like there isn't enough time and I can't quite strike the balance of being career-focussed or family-focussed. I think it might be universal! Regardless, I'm sure your family are simply happy seeing you thriving!

[@tovalm6213]

I was living in NYC but moved back home in December. I understand the push and pull, and for me the pull won. I just realized that family was more important to me than my desire to be in the city, but for you that might be different! I now live close to home, studying and am happier than I've been in years. Take care, it'll all work out.

[@hptheperson]

Thank you for sharing this. It’s so nice to hear someone who understands. I moved to NYC a few months ago and left my entire (large) family behind in Louisiana. It’s the hardest part. I love New York and needed to be somewhere new, but I always say I wish I could pack my family up and bring them here or pick New York up and bring it down there. I don’t truly think we get to have it all and it’s such a hard sacrifice to come to terms with. I think you just do the best you can to have it all in tiny pieces…. And everything is only as permanent as you want it to be

[@ElenaAnna.]

Thanks for opening up this topic, Chelsea! Since I moved away from my home province at 21, I've consciously thought of every time I see my parents as the potential last. But, my parents met each other while travelling, and didn't build their lives near either set of grandparents, so it seems normal for me to live far away. I never felt that my hometown was my destiny. Now, I'm 35, and my dad has metastatic cancer, and I'm grateful for the 14 years of visits we've had ✨ I live with my partner & stepkids in the Toronto area, and see my future here. Every situation is different, but following what feels right in your heart is so important! 💛

[@laurahill2511]

When I was watching this I had to pause it to tell my partner about it because we are having the same conversation now! I feel this draw back to my family, when I couldn’t wait to move away as a mid 20’s “worlds my oyster”. If we want “bigger” careers we have to stay further away, but now I’m questioning if that what I really want in life. No real solutions - and it’s a long conversation for us, but this made me feel less alone in that struggle. I hope you find a way through it too ❤️

[@sophiapaterno8685]

Your video couldn't have come at a better time. I'm feeling the exact way, and I'm only turning 26. Being Asian just amplifies it even more. I recently had to move a bit farther away from family and I often find myself feeling lots of guilt if I feel like I don't spend enough time with them. Traveling to NYC is an ultimate dream of mine. I'm also living in the big city where I'm from, kinda like our own NYC, and what I also realized from your video is that sometimes, we forget that the biggest aspects of our lives (like where we live) might very well be someone else's dream, and it's so easy to lose sight of how far we've gotten when you've become so used to everything. Realizing that somehow eases the guilt, I guess. Also, little side note, LOVE the editing style on this video. Not sure if you've changed anything, or if I've missed a couple of your past videos, but I super love your videos like this when you throw in more of where your current headspace is at (feelings, realizations, etc.) in your normal day-to-day vlogs. Keep doing what you're doing.

[@tulipsxw2]

I’ve been with my long distance partner for 2 years. He always said he would move to CA to be with me because I was afraid of losing my stable and well paying job. On my last trip, I realized I actually want to take the leap and move there. I feel as though I’ve outgrown my life here. All of my girlfriends are now becoming moms and I really feel it’s time for me to grow up too. I am sooo scared. Of quitting a stable job, of all the financial responsibilities this move will cost me, and the fact I’m gonna miss my mom. I’ve been living in the comfort of parents’ bubble and I feel it’s time to make a life for myself. I’m in my early 30’s and culturally kids don’t leave unless they’re married. I had planned on taking over financially for them, but I feel as though I need to do this for myself. I can always go home right? But seeing this video made me realize that I will be fine starting a new life so far from home. You did it for 8 years, I can do it too. I’m sure it’s not easy, but sometimes we have to branch out into this world.

[@kathleenhudnall7289]

Just moved to Chicago in September from a super small town to experience living in a big city. Being so far from family is something that I didn’t expect to be so hard! I’m also 27, and I think as we get older, we want to be closer to our family (at least for me). It’s hard to know how to navigate it, but just know if you follow your heart it will lead you to the right place, even if you feel very doubtful at times. Keep up everything you’re doing, you’re making such a beautiful life for yourself and that’s something to be celebrated 🎉❤

[@meghanr1209]

I’m in the opposite position. I’m 34 moved back home, never really been away from family but have the incredible urge to move to a different province (from Canada here). At a young age I was in active addiction, got sober and decided to pursue my passion in psychology addiction to help others. I’m finishing my masters in it now. But always wanted the life of living in British Columbia and following my passion there. The trouble is the thought of leaving my family. To be honest this video made me realize that everyone (reaffirming this really) has their own journey. And I still have no idea what I want to do, move or stay with family. This vlog made me feel less “behind” in life, since everyone has their own story💕

[@nishatrahman9586]

Chelsea, everything you mentioned before about family being a complex topic, really resonated with me. It's interesting to see your perspective about the whole idea of moving away from home to grow independently while still harboring feelings of attachment for those closest to you. As a 1st generation American in a South Asian household, living at home well into adulthood is completely normal. Ironically although I've spent my whole life at home here in NYC and never took a chance to "leave the nest" , now in my early 30's I've also started to harbor feelings of nostalgia when thinking about my parents. Both my mom and dad have retired and my older sister lives close by with her own family. Even though my parents and I live together and technically see each other daily, I constantly feel like my working + commuting + adulting leaves me less time to savor with them as they also get older. I'm so glad you and your mom had a chance to connect, I've loved watching your channel grow and I always hope to bump into you IRL! Much love ❤

[@annaboucher7135]

I’m in the exact same spot but from the other side where I’ve always wondered if I should’ve/could’ve gone on my own and sacrificed time with family but the pull to stay was stronger. So you are not alone at all and I really related to this from the other side and found it comforting. Just goes to show struggles and feelings like this are universal!

[@suefitz2498]

What a time you’ve had of late…out dancing and socialising and having your mom to stay, it’s great to see❤. This little cats of yours are really at hime with you these days…so looked after and loved by you, beautiful. Life will,evolve as it should, however, anyone who has lost a parent early in life will always be on high alert about family things. Trust your gift Chelsea, it’s supported you this far ❤❤❤

[@jessicasheppard7871]

Thank you for being willing to be vulnerable on your channel. I moved out when I am 18 and I know that my other family members miss me but I am just not the easiest sibling to visit. Keep loving your chosen and blood family and feeling the support from the community you have built here

[@serataylor664]

I've always lived close with my parents and was heavily involved with my dad's care before he passed. My sister and I are now involved with helping our 86 yo mom navigate her last years. Along the way my two kiddos gave me 9 grandchildren so to say I'm rooted where I'm at is a bit of an understatement.😉 We all have choices we make in life and most of them aren't inherently right or wrong perse - and life sends us down different roads all the time! Live your life where you're at now and be open to future change - it's all you can do! Love your videos and may you and the fur babies be ever blessed!!❤️

[@82court]

I lived away for ten years but saw everyone regularly. You do see your parents get to an age where they are older. And now being 42 career isn’t the main focus. I think more of lifestyle is the driving force and balance. You don’t give up on dreams but some things just are not as important anymore.

[@summertyme9046]

Its common to feel that pull of family as we pave our own way. Its part of it. We appreciate them more.

[@andrewpendleton1578]

TY for putting a voice to this and sharing your experience with it. I’ve been away from home 11 years now, and while I get to spend with family (or friends that have moved away) means so much more now, sometimes it’s hard to reconcile with the journey I know I need to take on my own. (Especially when the “what are you up to?” becomes a low-key “when are you coming back?”) Also that pasta looks AMAZING.

[@mohuyakhan]

something about this vlog felt so homey. so happy you got to spend time with your mom and friends. also your cats got so big??!! ❤

[@ChelseaCallahan]

❤❤❤

[@kathy-o4p]

This one touched me. I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum. Moved from New England with my husband away from family (including elderly mom and great grandkids). Love the life I have built in NC but always feel the tug (guilt?) of being “the one who moved away “. Not always easy, but I work on remembering that I am worth it and I deserve the opportunity to be happy and fulfilled. Love the channel!

[@Graystreeet]

I REALLY resonate with the not having an adult relationship with your fam because you've lived so far away for so long. I'm originally from Colorado and I moved to Seattle when I was 22 and I'm 30 now. I always try and go visit at least once a year but sometimes it just doesn't happen and that is a little scary when I think about it too long lol

[@LizBittiker]

Had a good cry watching this ❤ Thank you for sharing your experience, it was really helpful to hear another perspective. I moved to San Francisco from Ohio in 2012 when I was 23. It was the scariest and best decision of my life. I still struggle with the guilt I feel of moving away, but I’m learning that I’m the main person putting the guilt on myself. I cherish the time I spend with my family (2-3 times year), and have enjoyed becoming friends with them as an adult, while still always being their baby girl ❤ Sending you love, I know this is a complex matter for the heart ❤ Sorry not sorry for all the heart emojis ❤❤❤

[@rp3504]

I lived in NYC from 26 to 42, and only moved out after my girlfriend "strongly requested" that we get married, have kids, and she be allowed to quit her job and have babies. Your experience is very typical of me and most of my friends in the city. I miss the freedom of single life in the city but at the same time, love the way life has taken me. The "dreams" I had changed as I grew older and having kids (which was one thing I did not want) sort of altered my priorities, particularly in the work/life balance aspect. One note: I also had dreams of leaving my corporate job and being an artist (writer) and have now resigned myself to being a corporate attorney until the day I retire. This too is very common among my friends (particularly the attorneys).

[@melleedunn]

I'm a little bit older than you and I have a four year old and I want him to feel set up and supported to follow his passions and find himself when he's older. We only get one life to live and in the grand scheme of things there's a small window of opportunity to really get to explore and grow into yourself and it would break my heart to find out he wasted chances just to be home around me.

[@Dobijit]

Honestly I am on the opposite side of the spectrum - meaning that I live within walking distance with my family... and honestly I think that sometimes it is not necessarily about the distance. It is about people about that mutual willing to stay in touch... Where's a will there's a way, right? But we all are different. You do you. (And I think that you do it absolutely great!) (Also... how weird is it that I cheered the moment I heard that your friend came visit from Czech Rep.- the country I am from... Not at all, right?! :D :D Yaay.)

[@nicolearduini3362]

I am also in the "moving home" process. It's taking much longer than I wished as the push and pull feels heavy on my heart. Just waiting for my partner to secure a job there before making the move back. We spent 3 years away, and it both provided clarity of what we value, as well as giving us the opportunity to do it on our own. I wouldn't have done it any different. But now, it's time to get closer to those I love. Closer to support and closer to friends

[@turkeyleg4374]

Chels, amazing video this week. My mom died when I was 14 so i can relate to losing a parent. Thank you for sharing your life with us. ❤ from Houston, Texas

[@clareking4434]

I think as you grow older you realise that time is the most valuable commodity we have. Sometimes that has us questioning our life choices but it should never stop you from making them. I bet the time you spend with those that don’t live close is far more intentional than it would be if they lived close by.

[@Allysthriveera]

Thank you so much for this video Chelsea. I am also 33 and since I was 18 I would say well over half of those 15 years have been away from my family. The love for exploration and living in new places has now caught up to me as just seeing my family and how my parents are aging, it has been rough to witness. Thank you for this video ❤️

[@therealhannahlee]

I had tears in my eyes for most of this video! I’m also in NYC and my family is either a 12 hour drive or very expensive flight with a 2 hour drive after away. (Bc they’re in the middle of no where!) I’m very close with them, and they all live close together, so I feel like I miss out on a lot. I’ve been here for 5 years, and love the city and my life here so much, but I frequently fantasize about what it would be like to move somewhere closer to home. Thanks so much for making this video! 💜

[@Michele-kn9kv]

Hi Chelsea!!! We missed you but I am so happy you enjoyed your visit with your mom and friends. I lost my mom in my early 20s, and my dad was murdered in 2019. I miss them so much. I wasn't brave when I was younger and left home later than most. Sometimes I wonder how things could have been different but wouldn't change that time as I was able to care for my mom in the end. ❤ I truly love your vlogs Thank you for taking us along with you ❤

[@stephv1563]

I really feel this so much. I have always had the desire to live a much different lifestyle than the one I came from. Being around nature is important to me although I could see myself also loving NYC because I prefer a more urban lifestyle too. My husband and I moved from Houston TX to SLC UT for an education opportunity for him and he ended up finding a very niche job here that he loves and that doesn’t really exist in Houston. It also checks a lot of boxes for us that Houston doesn’t like proximity to amazing travel destinations and a smaller, safer downtown so we get both the nature and the urban life. And a big one is no hurricanes and much better state infrastructure. I had no idea how much easier life could be. But we rarely see family now since it’s so expensive. We lived in California years ago but didn’t have kids yet so I could travel solo to visit my parents a bunch. Now we have kids and we know life would be better for them here but it’s so hard to miss extended family time. We both have family members with health issues back home and that weighs on me. But after having moved out west once before I know if I go back to TX I will be longing for nature again and next big hurricane I’ll wonder if I made the right choice for my kids. It totally feels like having one thing is giving up another huge thing. I think you are so courageous and I love what you share from the life you’ve built yourself. I could see another version of me enjoying a similar life. I love that you talk about these kinds of things. I’m glad I found your channel. ❤

[@jenniferevelynhayes]

I’ve been there! When I moved to NYC from the Midwest I was 29 and so ready to explore life independently. Then nearly 17 years later I knew it was time to go back and be close to family again. I don’t regret either move , though it was damn difficult to leave New York for good! I’m glad you got to spend some quality time with your mom, Chelsea. And good luck with the new sourdough starter! I hope it stinks up your kitchen for many weeks to come! 🤣❤️ (PS…clink, clink! ☺️)

[@noellee.valencia760]

The BB’s are getting so big. Every video they look bigger! I love seeing them. They’re precious. And Gordo’s tail 😮 it’s gorgeous! It’s so nice that you got to spend some time with your mom and share a bit of your NYC life with her. It’s so sweet that the kitties enjoyed her visit too 🥰

[@PierresHuman]

If you are getting ready to get your kitties fixed, I highly, highly recommend getting them each one or two surgical suits. It’s basically a onesie that will keep them from being able to chew on the stitches. These were life changers when I found them, I use them when I got my kitten spayed about a year ago, and my dog neutered about two years ago. Since their stitches were covered as long as I was at home and supervise, they did not need to wear a cone. Then I bought soft cone get and I put those on when I had to go out. It made the entire experience so much better.

[@stateofgracevlogs]

I'm in the same situation! the only one of my family out here in NY and visiting my parents and siblings in Korea once a year - ans I SOB on the rhe plane back every time. I'm still figuring out what my future looks like but wanted to say I totally empathize - and thanks for putting it into words ❤

[@andrea_berlin]

I do understand the push and pull, I moved to the US from Germany 16 years ago and the US is home. I have my husband, 2 cats and a dog and good friends here and could not imagine going back (at least for now). I visit my family once a year and always feel guilty living so far away. Though even when I lived in the same city with them, I was fairly independent and would not see them that often either, though I could have because they lived only 45 minutes away from my house. It will always be a push and pull for sure, it never went away. Love your blogs!

[@renealynnmn]

I left my home state 10 years ago. I did move back for 1 year. It didn't any longer feel like home to me. After a year I moved back across the country. This is my home. My family is not here but everything else is. I am glad a went back for a year in 2019. I lost my Dad to cancer in 2022. I am so grateful for the memories I created with him in that year. Its tough when living apart from family.

[@thechristineangel]

Thanks for sharing a part of your life and your thoughts! There's no pressure to share anything you're not comfortable with, and I'm happy you got to spend some time with your mom.

[@taraoliva7273]

I felt what you were saying about being so far from family and feeling there is only a limited time with them. In college, I spent summers working in Yellowstone or studying abroad, then joined the Peace Corps, then decided to move to Colorado after finishing my service. Now that I'm almost 40 with two young children, I keep going back and forth about moving back to Nebraska. I have so much family there, but I've built a life here. It's definitely a mixed bag of emotions, and I don't think there is any perfect answer.

[@viccib12]

you share whatever you feel comfortable sharing, it's your channel and no one elses. I have lived away from family for over 20 years and have missed so much and at times wish I was still living near them. I know how you feel. sending hugs xo

[@ayaya64]

You bring up such thought provoking themes in your videos and they always end up making me have a really focused reflection afterwards. Even though you are living a completely different life than me, it's so familiar and heartwarming to feel connection through shared and non-shared experiences.

[@beckybetsworth4366]

Insightful video about building and maintaining relationships with family and friends. The relationship with your mother is probably the most profound and long lasting than any other will be. It’s delightful to see see you and your mother together. And so good you’re get the furbies their surgeries. You’ll all do fine. ❤

[@letakennedy]

Hi Chelsea! I think in terms of moving back to Portland or closer to your grandma, mom and sister, when and if it happens you will know it’s time. You won’t need to question yourself, you will just know that the time is right. Until then keep in touch with your family when you have a moment, let them know how much you love them and never let anything go unspoken - live with no regret ♥️

[@xaramanesiotoy9872]

You are so genuine and that's what I like most about you and your content. I loved seeing you with your mum, though! I love love the kitties too. Nice content sweetpie!!! Enjoy your life

[@caroltaylor2956]

Hi there! I'm glad to hear you are getting your babies "fixed" soon. I have been fostering kittens for a rescue for years and I can't tell you how many 4 and 5 month old kitties we get that are already pregnant. It's absolutely heart breaking. Your babies will be fine, Gordo won't even act like anything happened and Deli will be a little groggy for a few hours and then over it 😊. Cats are so resilient it's amazing. Sending all mine and my foster babies love your way ❤️!

[@rachelwilson9480]

Agree with this! I foster cats after they are fixed and it won't be nearly as bad as you think! The little lady I just had at my house after her surgery was fine the next day! Still had to take it easy, but she wasn't in distress. You've got this, Chelsea!

[@AnneLilley]

Your Mom looks like such a sweetheart. One of the greatest joys of my life is having strong independent adult children. It's how things are supposed to be. I love seeing my sons but know they need and deserve their own lives. PS: So glad your cats will be fixed soon. Isn't a lazy morning with cats the best!!

[@82staceyg]

I have an entire family/extended family that was very “do you.” My siblings, cousins, etc, and I have lived around the US, including across the world. And you’re right, it is a privilege that there are opportunities to see each other despite the cost. WITH THAT lol, if you are wanting to move out of NY, back to OR, or even just closer, or just somewhere else besides NY, do it! Do you. Whatever, wherever, this is the time in your life where you are free. Live anywhere you want (that accepts the kitties of course lol). But if you are alluding to leaving the city, family or not, do you, girl. You have the freedom to live anyhow and anywhere you want, do anything you want, do it. 💜💜

[@heididuffie9640]

Great job ! I totally appreciate the complexity of family. You share as much or as little as your heart dictates. You're doing fantastic! Give yourself lots of credit. Love from Niagara Falls! ❤

[@booklover2.0G]

I really enjoyed hearing these honest thoughts on being away from home. Im planning to move over an hour from my family. An hour is nothing compared to moving states but its hard either way. I just keep telling myself this is what I want to do and I dont want to have regrets because we only get one life to live. Thank god we have facetime in this day and age

[@megmulholland4518]

Hi Chelsea, happy Saturday! Thanks for the video, it's always a pleasure. 🌟 I never left home. Knowing the price I've paid for that, if there are prices to be paid in either scenario......... well. Yeah. I guess no matter what life moves we make- there will be the questions, I think. Better to have taken the harder, braver, more self-realized road- than not. And as many here are probably saying, your family wouldn't want anything less for you than what life you're creating. You're such an inspiration! I hope one day I can follow my heart and soul, as have you. 💖

[@JoseFlores-kl6jm]

Chelsea ! It was great catching up with you ! I can relate because I also live away from my family ! I do know that my family is happy and proud of me for chasing my dreams !

[@staceykey9836]

My sweet daughter lives a little over 6 hours from me. I miss her everyday but I’m so proud of the life she has built for herself. I also know she is just a phone call away and if we need each other we will always be there no matter what. ❤ what special time you had with your mom.

[@xxrstiann]

I enjoy your content because it’s relatable. I could less about your location or NYC. Your apartment, grocery hauls and kittens will always get a big #ThumbsUp from me ! Cheers from San Diego, CA ☀️

[@ShellyBomb]

@xxrstiann ~ Hi: I'm here in San Diego too and just love Chelsea's NYC 🗽 vlogs ... 🏖️

[@xxrstiann]

@@ShellyBomb hi friend !

[@ShellyBomb]

@xxrstiann Well, hello to you too; it's Saturday night 🌃 and it just started to rain 🌧️ here ... Fall 🍂 is in the air! 😉

[@joybird30]

I definitely feel conflicted about moving away from home and starting a new life. First I lived in Texas and now Oregon, with my family in Ohio. It's hard to know where one belongs, but I think we are just trying to make a life the best we can. It's hard being far away as family ages or has health problems. I struggle with guilt and wanting to have both. Thanks for sharing!

[@phyliciajoykloes]

Awww, girl! I got emotional at the beginning. Saying goodbye to family visiting you when you've decided to move somewhere else is tough. I totally understand! I lived in Florida for four years, and it was quite sad to say goodbye after their visit. Lovely vlog as usual

[@sploib]

i love the throwbacks to the other videos in the thumbnails ahhhhh, your journey has been so inspiring

[@ChelseaCallahan]

❤️❤️

[@ashleymyers3100]

Things I resignated with in this video: 1) trying new recipes & they don't always turn out like Pinterest or KZbin 😂 2) cats claws getting stuck in bedsheets 😂 so realistic (can't be mad at them because they are so cute) 3) Mom bringing thoughtful gifts to give to you during her stay: unique Jalapeño plum jam & fancy schmancy olive oil 4) feeling guilty at missing out with time spent with family members 5) almost cutting your fingers off cutting spaghetti squash 6) going grocery shopping & spending a bunch of money & still not knowing what to cook 7) trying to keep your family life private 8)experimenting with new coffee flavors 9) being honest about the last time you worked out 10) reflecting on how far you have grown in 8 years since moving to the city 🎉 Love this blog. I would love to do what you are doing but I would miss my family too much, plus i dont think i could afford it. Love watching your blog of living out my NYC fantasy of living solo & being adventurous with life ❤

[@rocioiribe5841]

so much of this resonated with me. I spent most of my 20s (8 years) in the military. For a Mexican family, me leaving was abrupt and an adjustment. So after getting out and coming back to CA, it was an adjustment for me. it has only become increasingly apparent how much i missed and i wonder if i even belong in my family anymore. some days, i think it would just be easier if i left entirely. but honestly, as i'm getting older (37 now) i am learning the hard way connections are the only thing that matters and i'm working on just spending time when i can and being present. easier said than done. i see you.

[@LivingwiththeSherwoods]

I moved away from home at the age of 18. I am now 44. My family is only two hours away and I see them often. So I can only imagine how you feel. The one thing that I’ve realized in my time away is that my family is my home. Regardless of where I live. However, my dad is aging and I try to make the most out of every opportunity to go see him. The only thing that you cannot buy back is time.❤

[@maddi3582]

Having fairly recently experienced the death of a loved one, I thought I'd share my thoughts of spending time together - feel free to ignore if it doesn't 'fit' your situation! The issue of spending time with family as you all get older and living at a distance is an ongoing and always changing situation, made more pertinent when you're single and not 'growing' your own family unit ("cough" cats aside 😉). It can be a challenge to find the optimum balance among everyone's needs, especially as none of us know the future. I think the first step is just accepting that, and also being clear and honest about your boundaries. Next, I think, is to reflect on the quality of your time together - do you just want nearness and lazy days being around each other, or do you lean more to epic travel and adventures together - or something in between, or both? I do think it's important to have all the conversations while you still can, and future focus yourself - when folk are no longer around there may be things you wished you'd asked about, or told them. Family photos, for example: nothing worse than finding a really cool picture and wondering, "Who are they?!" Finally, there's nothing to be gained from settling old scores, is there!😂 but there's a lot that can be learned by expressing things from an 'I' perspective. Sometimes telling someone your feelings and how you experienced situations is enough to rest a gnawing memory... Now you're aware of this, you have a wonderful opportunity to make something really special of the time you choose to spend with family. Maybe think about filming conversations to archive family history and consciously record special moments? Thanks for a lovely video 🙏

[@loelizabeth6109]

You and your vlogs are so heartwarming! Your channel adds joy to my life. Thank you for that. ❤️

[@Emma_Kiwi]

As a kiwi who's lived in France for many years, a stint in Spain, Czechia and now Montréal I totally get the distance thing and the thoughts of being far from those we love. But as you said, in our chosen city or home, our family becomes our friends, and parents and siblings will always be happy as long as we are. Also gives them an excuse to travel :) and we can appreciate each other more when we reconnect. A beautiful thoughtful video.

[@butterbeer8651]

similar scenario to you Chelsea, close in age (32), and I've been living in my current city for over 7 years away from fam. It's what I always wanted to do, create a new life in the city of my dreams, and as ive gotten busier with life and my career, my visits home have dwindled to once a year, not even the same time per year, just when I can afford it. I do love the life I've created but I feel that guilt of not being there for my family and missing out on so much. They've never made me feel bad for it, I think it's part of life, and eventually we learn to slow things down and strike a balance between time for future planning and time with our family. thank you for sharing your thoughts

[@SlavaBelchenko]

Chelsea, I think it’s absolutely normal to be in control of what you want to share and what you don’t. Having boundaries is actually a good thing. The internet is a wild place, and sooooo many people bluntly overshare, which can be dangerous in some [extreme] cases. You do the right thing. As always, enjoyed the video!

[@DomoinaYoga1976]

Living in New York City was part of your dream, the other part is what you create while in NYC. Like you, I moved away and stayed away from the age of 17, and yes there were times when I missed my family so much it hurt. However, still remembering those times, if I had not moved away and created my life away from my family, I probably would have regretted not doing what I've done. When your family knows that you are happy, healthy, and enjoying life - that's more important than anything. I believe we all have to live our own lives - whether that's close to family or on the other side of the globe. If there's something you cannot stop thinking about every day - that's what you should do....just my opinion.💜

[@lesshustlemorecoffee]

I’m on the other side of the spectrum. I’m 61 but my daughter- about your age- is in TX with her spouse and my 2 grandsons. It’s expensive to see them, but we get to see them about twice a year and often plan trips together. So we make the most of it. I miss them though and pray for them every day and we face time every weekend. Love watching you live your life! I feel like we are friends and then I remember- oh this is a vlog and you have no idea who I am unless you are watching mine - but it’s a lot smaller lol. From Nashville here. Have a good week.

[@michelle_nolan]

Love how real you are. I’m 50+ and still totally relate to so many things. Hope if mom comes again, you share more of you 2 together.

[@michelle_nolan]

I went into the Air Force at 18 and went overseas for my first assignment. I already live in a different state than my dad (divorced mom while I was in 2nd grade). I still felt close to my family, even after leaving the USAF for college. After an Aunt on my dads side and now an Aunt on my moms side have passed - I feel much more alone. I had “work family” for years, but now working remote in a different field makes that 100x harder!

[@darkpaca]

I lost quite a few family members that I was very close to over the last 7 years and that coupled with my own mental health taking a turn for the worse I moved back home in 2017 (after living a couple hours away and only being able to see them every couple of months). At the time it was the right call and even though I moved out in 2019 into my own place again (only 30 minutes away, so seeing my family a lot more often) I spent the first lockdown in 2020 with my parents (I happened to be visiting them anyways and decided to stay instead of returning home alone) which I am now incredibly grateful for because it was a few months of quality time that I got to spent with my dad before he passed away as well. I've been spending a lot of time with my mum especially since then as well as with my sister who lives not too far away. And I know at this point in time I would be unhappy if I didn't get to spend this time with them, I cherish it so much knowing how quickly it can be over. However I do think there will be a time again in which I don't see them as often because my priorities in life will be different and that's okay too. Honestly I think what I'm trying to say is that it's important to figure out what makes you happy and what's important to you. Sometimes seeing people less often makes the times you do see them all the more special, it doesn't have to be a negative thing at all.

[@bree8150]

I loved this video Chelsea! It’s so nice to hear more about your life and family and those relationships - to the extent you’re comfortable sharing. 😊 I also love how independent you are!

[@Warmbreeze43]

I regret not staying more with my parents. I didn’t stay for Thanksgiving on year and decided to go travel. My mom got sick in February and passed away in March. I could never get those last two holidays back. Now father is gone as well. I didn’t visit him very often because I thought well he’s with my sister and I call. Now I have no parents, no grandparents aunts or uncles. I’m glad I had two children or I’d be totally an orphan. My siblings live in 21:44 Different states. Can’t turn back time. Can only move forward and hopefully do better. My daughter doesn’t understand the value of a mom. I try to have the conversation about how important it is to establish that relationship. But adult children will live their lives as they should. Only you can balance what is most important. Life can be different looking for each of us. But one thing for certain. This is not a dress rehearsal. There’s no do over. Hugs

[@breathpresent53]

When I moved away, when I would see my mum on visits, I started to notice her looking older, and the passage of time on both of us. ❤

[@caryncrossing]

I have brother and sister cats and it was so stressful waiting for their neuter appt lol. My boy was fine without a cone. However I did get some infant onesies for my girl bc she was miserable in the cone. They do make surgical suits too, but I got mine last minute 😬