Childcare Guru Gina Ford Breaks Silence on Controversial "Cry It Out" Method | This Morning

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In the ‘90s and ‘00s, childcare guru Gina Ford became a household name for her controversial parenting techniques which included rigid time schedules, and even advising parents to let their babies 'cry it out' rather than comfort them. Now, 25 years on from the release of 'The Contented Little Baby Book', Gina has broken her two-decade silence… criticising NHS ‘vague’ parenting advice, and clarifying that she only advised parents to let babies cry it out as a last resort. But does the controlled crying method work? We’re joined today by single mum Annette Kellow, who says her son became a more well-rounded child after being left to cry it out and counsellor Lucy Cavendish who calls the parenting method “barbaric”.
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@linaj63
@linaj63 Ай бұрын
Nah, listen to your instincts, trust them more than anything. Your baby needs you.
@rebekahbeaven627
@rebekahbeaven627 25 күн бұрын
I followed this book with my first baby because I was young and didn’t have good advisors. I’ve since trained as a psychotherapist and feel deeply remorseful for having followed its advice. A child’s experience of attachment in the early years lays down the blueprint for forming relationships for the rest of there lives!!. Just because something work’s doesn’t mean it’s right or good. Raising emotionally healthy children is an accomplishment and anything worth accomplishing is hard, including comforting a distressed baby when we ourselves are tired.
@latashakhatri7529
@latashakhatri7529 18 күн бұрын
Yes age 0-7 so important and affects later life
@pa486
@pa486 4 күн бұрын
I’m exactly the same - young single parent, now years later a counsellor/therapist and full of guilt. Vowed I would commit the rest of my life to making up for this lapse in judgement by following my child’s needs and fostering extra security in our relationship.
@Blichens
@Blichens Ай бұрын
It's child abuse not parenting tips
@just_ro9308
@just_ro9308 Ай бұрын
I wouldn't even treat a dog like this, let alone another human
@dnjames9758
@dnjames9758 Ай бұрын
I think the point about comforting others when they’re upset is really important- if an adult is upset and needs comfort/support you wouldn’t walk away from them and come back when it suits you, so how could this possibly be okay for a baby who is so much more vulnerable and in need of love? They see you as their whole world- if you don’t come when they call you, they think their world is ending. Then they gradually learn that they can’t rely on you and must rely on themselves for comfort. Thea are not emotions or sentiments that we should encourage, how can a child learn empathy this way?? Or trust, when the person who is their whole world, who they cannot survive without, does not come for them in their time of need. All babies need is love. If you have a baby, you make the decision to be their everything and sacrifice your own needs for theirs. If you are not ready to make the commitment, to be there whenever they need you, don’t have a baby!
@V.F.N
@V.F.N 26 күн бұрын
So brilliantly well said. It pains me to see these methods being carried out when it is OUR choice to bring these precious little babies into the world
@Themis33
@Themis33 Ай бұрын
"I neglected my child, so he was conditioned, and within two weeks of neglecting him, (he learnt to shut up because he knew I wasn't coming to comfort him) and I had my life back, yay for me. now my son will grow up with an insecure attachment and have difficulties in relationships with others, but who cares because I got my life back and all that matters is me, not my son."
@Mel87y
@Mel87y Ай бұрын
Wow
@rebeccaallsopp9175
@rebeccaallsopp9175 Ай бұрын
Well said 👏
@Rise-and-Shine333
@Rise-and-Shine333 Ай бұрын
Exactly, well said
@latashakhatri7529
@latashakhatri7529 18 күн бұрын
Agreed our beliefs come from age 0-7
@Rise-and-Shine333
@Rise-and-Shine333 18 күн бұрын
@@latashakhatri7529 that’s good to hear people know that 🙂
@rosyapplekitchen635
@rosyapplekitchen635 26 күн бұрын
I remember with my first daughter I would always run to her quickly and guess what she would let out a massive burp! She was so relieved after. I imagined all those neglected babies at that time. They don’t cry for fun especially not in the early stages. They cry because they need you!
@leilaevans2564
@leilaevans2564 25 күн бұрын
I think letting your baby cry it out goes against every maternal instinct. I did the complete opposite. My Babies were in bed with me from two days old on and off until they were about two. It wasn't intentional but just what felt completely natural to me. We're the only mammals on the planet that give birth then put the baby in another room.
@waji78611
@waji78611 25 күн бұрын
My prejudice made me think the older lady in the suit wud be the "cry it out" mum ... Madness that its the younger lady with a new generation of kids under her care
@CatsJP
@CatsJP Ай бұрын
This is a very cruel practice….medical evidence has shown that letting babies “cry it out”….has resulted in some babies and toddlers having developed..”hernias” from excessive crying…and have to undergo operations….which is even more pain for the child to suffer…it is basically…child abuse….a child needs to be comforted, to feel secure and most importantly…..loved….these women who practiced this….are just selfish and only thinking of themselves….besides the writer of the book has made money off creating misery for some children and parents.
@glheath11
@glheath11 27 күн бұрын
I don’t think this is true…
@Littlebluebirdie1
@Littlebluebirdie1 Ай бұрын
I tried to implement Gina Ford’s techniques with my 1st and it was disastrous! He was always overtired, hungry and grizzly. I gave up after a few weeks because as I was breastfeeding her feeding schedule tanked my supply. My baby needed more frequent feeds. Baby led was the way to go. He wasn’t a good sleeper then but he is brilliant now. I was responding to his needs and I have done exactly the same for the last 6 months on my 2nd. I follow her lead, her hunger cues and wake windows and she’s a much more content baby. Maybe for some the very strict schedule works but it was miserable for us.
@SarahHannah91
@SarahHannah91 25 күн бұрын
I had a very similar experience!
@Bibibaonojoba
@Bibibaonojoba 8 күн бұрын
I don’t use the cry it out method but now that I have a two year old and a newborn there are inevitably times when i cannot answer both of their cries at the same time.
@Sarah101-ld3vw
@Sarah101-ld3vw 19 күн бұрын
‘A little bit of crying doesn’t hurt’. I doubt the baby agreed when he was crying out for his Mother for comfort. This is only done in the west. It’s for the parents, certainly not for the babies.
@jmacjewels5780
@jmacjewels5780 Ай бұрын
I really appreciate them both having different views but staying calm and letting one another speak.
@sarahroberts7374
@sarahroberts7374 18 күн бұрын
Wholeheartedly agree
@user-mp6ox8dm8i
@user-mp6ox8dm8i Ай бұрын
why do we shame women through parenting we do not do this to men!! - having a baby is the most life changing experience
@sallyroddy6566
@sallyroddy6566 Ай бұрын
a child''s only way of communicating it is in distress and needs comforting is in crying. Who knows what lessons it has absorbed if it just is ignored. Read some child psychology books instead, i''d say. love and light to all who are parenting
@jamieleigh807
@jamieleigh807 Ай бұрын
Biggest regret following this I wish I hadn’t however my son is truly amazing but I do think it affects the bond. I followed a book rather than my baby. No baby should ever have to fit into a strict routine it’s unrealistic.
@tilbil3108
@tilbil3108 25 күн бұрын
Exactly same for me
@user-qy9rt9cy2b
@user-qy9rt9cy2b Ай бұрын
I would never of left my sons too cry
@jackiepurchese4169
@jackiepurchese4169 18 күн бұрын
The woman in the blue shouldn't bother having a baby . Shes too selfish. You cant be selfish when you decide to become a mother .
@thamimakhan3120
@thamimakhan3120 Ай бұрын
If you wanted your OLD LIFE- I’d say don’t make a new life! Coz no such thing as OLD LIFE when you become a mother and chose to stay as a mother…
@paulap9828
@paulap9828 24 күн бұрын
Very well said!
@rebekahbrown109
@rebekahbrown109 18 күн бұрын
Well said ❤
@sanya2479
@sanya2479 Ай бұрын
This is an awful, awful practice. Research shows that adults that were subject to this have problems with future partners all around trust issues.
@glheath11
@glheath11 27 күн бұрын
This isn’t true- cite a source please
@heidishirra9220
@heidishirra9220 13 күн бұрын
Yep I do!!
@heidishirra9220
@heidishirra9220 13 күн бұрын
​@glheath11 any book on attatchment will tell you this!!
@heidishirra9220
@heidishirra9220 13 күн бұрын
​@glheath11 any book on attatchment will tell you this!
@AdeleFindell-mx8ct
@AdeleFindell-mx8ct 24 күн бұрын
Gina Ford ruined me as a new mom. Wouldn’t follow a piece of her advice if my life depended on it.
@Cuiositycola
@Cuiositycola 18 күн бұрын
Someone I know thought it was a good idea to let them cry until their toddler climbed out of bed and hit his head while crying cause he was afraid to sleep and didn't want to be alone. I find it insane, literally. Their child is now a very insecure/fearful and quite self centred person now, also highly competitive, but not in a good way. He is also a bit sadistic with his sibling and animals. I feel it could have go a much better way if their parents would actually listen to him wholeheartedly
@jasminestone2235
@jasminestone2235 Ай бұрын
Didnt have time... put you had time for the pub 😂 priorities
@biancacatherine9980
@biancacatherine9980 5 күн бұрын
When people say “I have my life back”, it makes me sad because having a child, you still have a life, it’s just different
@user-qp6sm3mw3x
@user-qp6sm3mw3x 14 күн бұрын
My parents did this & i now have an anxiety disorder that has been traced to feelings of abandonment & issues wirh connection. I wonder if this has contributed. So sad.
@ameliafatface7995
@ameliafatface7995 Ай бұрын
Terrible advice - this woman is responsible for the damaged kids we have in our world today
@WOG-ue9mt
@WOG-ue9mt 22 күн бұрын
Sorry i preety much let them lead when they are babies. Personally i look after my children as i feel best. Each child had different needs. Don't really believe in sleep training or letting my babies cry it out.
@eloise-rw3sj
@eloise-rw3sj 15 күн бұрын
Are people still doing this?! I regret trying this. People dont understand this method and do it wrong, which is what i did. It's traumatising for the children. Oh and I did this at the toddlerish stage, and still regret it.
@45frankieb
@45frankieb Ай бұрын
I got up to make a cup of tea and my baby started to cry and my step daughter told my partner that I left him crying! I only when to the kitchen to make a cup of tea! She didn’t offer to make me tea or anything to eat! I was so upset that she made me feel like i was bad mother.
@Themis33
@Themis33 Ай бұрын
Your stepdaughter is jealous and wants to cause trouble. You're a good mother. Ignore her misinformation. You can make yourself cup of tea. You can always call to your baby while you're gone for a short time to reassure them you're there and hear them even if you can't pick them up for 3 minutes.
@MadamDar
@MadamDar 26 күн бұрын
That’s right, she’s jealous and twisted. How old is she… 10? 😁 You’re an amazing mother. You definitely need to make yourself a sandwich and a cup of tea. Don’t be shy to ask family to watch the baby while you make yourself something to eat. All the best.
@nataliesmith885
@nataliesmith885 25 күн бұрын
I would urge all mothers to watch teal swans research into the effects of the Ferber method.
@laura1998xoxo
@laura1998xoxo 18 күн бұрын
Knew who the cry it out mum was straight away 😂
@graziellamariella4355
@graziellamariella4355 17 күн бұрын
It also depends from the child personality and attitude My little one has been head strong from day 1
@ellengillies393
@ellengillies393 18 күн бұрын
I dont have a opinion either way. But bear in mind those who have twins or triplets who cant rock there baby to sleep all through the night and are dying from sleep deprivation that they cant even look after there kids properly in the day from pure exhaustion.
@tb22k
@tb22k Ай бұрын
❤good morning
@victoriasp41
@victoriasp41 22 күн бұрын
First child in 1996, the two more 2011 and 2015 I never sleep trained I tried it once for one night with baby number 2 and ended up crying myself so never did it again. My two youngest are also autistic so that made a difference and they don't sleep all night even now. I obviously didn't know about the autism when they were babies. There is also no getting g your old life back after having a baby.
@eloise-rw3sj
@eloise-rw3sj 15 күн бұрын
Her child looks sad in the picture!
@JillK-re4gv
@JillK-re4gv 18 күн бұрын
Gina Ford’s approach wasn’t new. I believe back in the 60s Dr Spock advocated for similar routines. My experience is to be led by your baby and his or her needs. The striving for routines is misplaced. Babies are unpredictable, their needs change, you need to accept that your life will not be the same for a while. It’s a new normal. Enjoy your baby. Feed on demand. Be patient and be kind to yourself as well. As they grow, you get your life back and although they’ll fly the nest one day, hopefully you’ll enjoy a lovely relationship with your offspring.
@jamieleigh807
@jamieleigh807 Ай бұрын
I did Gina ford rouines but I didn’t follow the cry it out ever my instincts never allowed me to do that. The Gina Ford made me pretty miserable tbh and I swear it made my son autistic. I couldn’t enjoy my baby I just felt extremely stressed because the routines were too rigid to be realistic
@mariannehavisham8323
@mariannehavisham8323 Ай бұрын
People are born with autism, they don't develop autism, it's neurodiversity -that's genetic (neurodiversity runs in families and disproportionately effects the lgbt community)
@Cuiositycola
@Cuiositycola 17 күн бұрын
I wonder how on earth are they even still discussing a book like that in 2024 on TV, like it might be a good idea! As if such theories and practices haven't been proved to cause serious emotional damage to kids, many decades ago!!! I guess to create polarisation and raise audience + comments here. It's depressing
@user-nu2vg5lw3o
@user-nu2vg5lw3o 18 күн бұрын
My baby is 18 months she is spoilt rotten she rules the roost I don't let her cry for a second! She is only a baby for a while
@heidishirra9220
@heidishirra9220 13 күн бұрын
Definitely not spoiling them, your doing great x
@monikag9081
@monikag9081 24 күн бұрын
Lots of half truths here. Yes babies have eat at night but only till they are about 5 months. Also Cry it out method does seem terrible but only if done incorrectly. I've done sleep training not to get time for myself but to get my sanity back. Also babies need proper sleep for the development of their brsin. Done it by myself and hated it, got a sleep consultant/neonatal nurse and it was best spent money in my entire life. Baby slept through the whole night forst night after 20mins cry. Before it had been 2 hours rocking her in my arms. She's nearly 4 now and happy as can be. Just do it right.
@saraeastman40
@saraeastman40 Ай бұрын
Are you serious? It’s like you know nothing about decades of medical research. Maybe look up Dr. Benjamin Spock from the 1940’s, go back to school and then post better content
@Anon00008
@Anon00008 Ай бұрын
Most mums in the 1980s and before let their babies cry and we don’t regard it as child abuse
@V.F.N
@V.F.N 26 күн бұрын
Yes we do, now. It’s an unrealistic and cruel method.
@Anon00008
@Anon00008 26 күн бұрын
@@V.F.N Is it cruel? Im not convinced that a baby crying necessarily indicates the same emotional distress as an adult crying. I don’t know for sure but I wouldn’t be surprised if in 50 years the view changed once again.
@V.F.N
@V.F.N 26 күн бұрын
@@Anon00008 it’s cruel when you do not tend to your baby that is endlessly crying. That’s the difference. If you need to do something urgently for 2 mins or so whilst baby is crying I.e. popping to the toilet, that can’t be helped, but knowingly ignoring your babies cries despite being able to soothe them is so against our instincts as parents to care for them. I just don’t get why we decide to bring a baby into this world if we’re not ready to selflessly be there for them?!
@Anon00008
@Anon00008 26 күн бұрын
@@V.F.N but how do we define endlessly? 5 mins? 10 mins? An hour. Also why is permitting crying necessarily selfish? I say this as previous generations and some cultures absolutely see crying as a natural part of a baby’s development, and communication- and not a sign of absolute distress. I actually wasn’t comfortable with my baby crying it out- but to this day I’m not sure if that was the right choice or not. I agree a baby crying for hours is of concern- but not necessarily for 15 minutes.
@V.F.N
@V.F.N 25 күн бұрын
@@Anon00008 it depends why they’re crying? What would resort to you leaving them to cry? We know crying is their method of communication but they also babble too which is a positive form of communication so surely crying must be a form of distress or discomfort in some way. No one cries because they’re in a good mood…
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