Childhood Bully Wants To Be Besties (w/ Stanzi Potenza) | Perfect Person Ep. 36

Stanzi joins the show to discuss the goth movement at her middle school, being friends with your old bully, a toxic freshman year roommate, and a hoe phase gone wrong.
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Perfect Person is a comedy call in advice show in which Webby-Award-Winning Podcast Producer, Miles Bonsignore, answers your phone calls, solves your problems, and helps you achieve maximum perfection with his talented friends.
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[@PerfectPerson]

NOBODY NOTICE MY OFFICE CHAIR IN THE MIDDLE OF THE WIDE SHOT

[@KyndraBarroga]

Only looking for this

[@jjunture]

What chair?

[@sleepypup]

I've been looking at it the whole time tbh

[@timothyluft4276]

17:49

[@natl2042]

I’m halfway through the video and I only just noticed the chair because of this comment😂 literally just didn’t see it at all

[@2014wolfy]

Take a shot every time Miles mentions Ira Glass. You'll only take like one shot an episode, but drinking doesn't always have to be about getting drunk.

[@PerfectPerson]

I love this so much

[@2014wolfy]

YESSS I wrote it knowing everyone in the comment section might think I'm cringe but damn it if Miles won't laugh 😎

[@TheShauNanigans]

Also do one every time Dua Lipa is mentioned. You only get a little spicy depending on the episode.

[@maverickzalewski2871]

perfection

[@daniellecroce7]

Take a shot every time miles references the bourgeoisie getting ya down lmao

[@faith-4059]

The second hand rage at that roommate situation is so unbelievably strong

[@faith-4059]

Instead of "I would simply die", it's "I would simply murder"

[@zerocraic3966]

If the uncorrupted mind of a 1 year old was so enraged, I think we were all on the right track w this one.

[@miratowns7905]

For the roommate issue: opening mail is illegal but besides that get the RA and housing involved. What she is doing is NOT OKAY. Love you guys!

[@courtneygilmore8030]

Literally fuming at the roommate one. The vomit filled trashcan would've been my breaking point.

[@grllwrfr]

no fr i would have lit her bed on fire at that point

[@kstrongtree22]

Dude I know...ugh. That's a person who has serious boundary issues and a lack of compassion for others.

[@GeorgiannaMiller5]

I was a juror once, and when they were doing jury selection and they asked one of the other potential jurors if he knew anyone in the room he stood up and said "I know you, Judge! You stole my bicycle in the fourth grade!" Silence. In the period. Courtroom. Should

[@jules194]

And then what?? Did the judge kick them out?! 👀 that's so perfect I love it

[@typhoid666]

did something happen to you at the end of this post

[@SirArthurTheGreat]

(x)

[@Anthonyeatspoo]

I think Miles’ advice of the watering the mom’s plants for her because she’s having a bad day is literally the best advice he’s ever given

[@PerfectPerson]

Get those puppies BLOOMIN like an onion

[@kimberlymcgill5558]

Stanzi is a shining co-host. She does nay back down, and you can tell Miles felt relaxed because she’s such a natural fit in this format, he had some serious giggs. Stanzi should definitely circle back to PP.

[@um2913]

Completely agree tbh. Love her vibe so much not surprised but happy to see that Miles also fucks with her vibe

[@nikksterr0902]

I don’t…understand…why she hasn’t gotten the RA involved lol. Like, being 18 is hard and based on the timeline this girl did covid high school but it’s WILD to me that this girl thinks sleeping in her car is acceptable. After resolving the roommate it’s therapy time. Woof.

[@zerocraic3966]

Tbf we have no clue what the RA rapport is socially at her school. I loved being an RA in my college bc one of our cardinal principles was we were kids mentoring other kids. Things like finding weed or “contraband” in residents’ rooms wasn’t even discussed why the fuck would students police other students. With that in mind, I wonder if the bf being there at all is technically not allowed at her school and could prevent the caller from asking for help. It’s possible her RA is of the law enforcement persuasion or they don’t have a personal connection with them (remember being 18 when dying in your car was easier than talking to a stranger?), or the RA/housing services have way too many residents per RA. RAs at my college were not weird hall monitor level people they were just like making snacks and picking you up from a frat party that went wrong. So RA-aged me would have had your perspective but a decade later having spoken to other people about their residential housing experiences, I realize RAs/housing structures and dynamics vary so much

[@megan-wl1ym]

i'm not gonna lie nearly all of my friends had some level of a similar issue w their roommates and none of their RAs did anything past speaking to the roommate and politely asking and they just went the whole year avoiding the room somehow for the entirety of the year and essentially not even living there. RAs can only do so much when the roommate is just not compatible or a considerate person

[@um2913]

If not the RA the resident direction. But so many of you young adults don’t know ur rights and shit. Like Why are the comments under this giving you so easily ???

[@kathleenuclear]

if the parents of the caller with the nightmare roommate find out about the fact that their daughter is being made to live with 2 people instead of 1 and is being taken advantage of, they're probably going to be pissed especially if it's their money going to her room and board. I am not a parent but if I were her parent and found out about this, everyone in an authority position at that school would hear about it. I'd go full Beverly Goldberg.

[@zerocraic3966]

Can you imagine American tuition costs and your child is in freezing cold sleeping in her car. No front desk, no keys, your child exposed to anybody and any element? Yea I’d torch a tree on the quad at least. AT LEAST 🤬

[@loveandhate52]

Pretty sure almost all of the things the roommate and her boyfriend have done are in clear violation of her residence agreement and are therefore grounds for getting kicked out. Hopefully the caller brings this up to her RA and they get the school's residence services involved.

[@ssuuzziiee]

WE STAN FOR STANZI

[@chocolate9747]

Literally the collab we wanted and never knew it

[@katiedrago1961]

I couldn’t have said it better myself

[@elizawoods7819]

Yes absolutely exactly no deny

[@haleyhoudini]

Regarding the bully -- you could behave as if you don't know them. Drive them crazy, absolve yourself of guilt, avoid confrontation. In all seriousness, I'm a huge proponent of not interacting with people simply because you're in close proximity to them. You're not obligated to give anyone your time. You're in grad school for YOU. If they want to reach out to make themselves feel better, even if they're different and feel bad/apologetic, you're in NO WAY obligated to forgive them or interact with them. You do you booboo ❤

[@popofpink11]

to the roommate situation - as someone who was in almost the same situation when i was a freshman in college 10 years ago, i just started acting like the worst roommate ever to the point that SHE moved out to another room and i got my room to myself

[@nataliethomas444]

I’ve done something similar before.

[@andreamendoza7613]

Was commenting “new shirt check?👀” as miles mentioned it was Sarah’s maternity shirt 🙌🏽 we love our eco-reuse parents ♻️

[@emmyemu33]

How has the girl with the roommate not gotten that girl kicked out? Only one of those things would get her kicked out of most college dorms.

[@zerocraic3966]

Remember being 18 and having someone being mad at you felt like a valid reason to wanna die? I agree with you 100% but getting that done would require the caller to be okay with being a nemesis in that lunatics mind forever (potentially) and that blows ass

[@emmyemu33]

@@zerocraic3966 true. My comment was judgemental. I think I just got really worried for her that the longer things went on, the harder it would be to prove the other girl is a bad roommate. Also that the college RA hasn't done room check and found the bf squatting. At my college they did random checks a few times a semester.

[@loveandhate52]

@@emmyemu33 At the very least the RA and other ppl living on their floor should have noticed that the boyfriend was hanging around a lot more frequently than is normal for someone's visiting SO - especially while using the communal bathroom. Also agree on the fact that letting this drag on probably won't help the caller. My vague memory of living on campus as an undergraduate was that when stuff like this happens, there was a strike system in place (obviously with the more severe housing violations being judged accordingly) so having a long term record of issues would help her case better than going to the RA and housing services with a list of bat shit stuff that's been going on for more than half a school year without saying anything. At this point she's complicit in the bf's squatting by not saying anything as soon as that happened.

[@seshapatel8750]

me at UNC trying to figure out which 10 person grad program it was

[@hilarygladstone6037]

My floormate in college's roommate freshman year CONCIEVED A CHILD in MY FLOORMATE'S BED. That girl dropped out. My floormate and I became roommates the next year. My new roommate met my other roommate's new boyfriend and now they are married with a child. Wild stuff! (I did support the boyfriend switch, other roommate wasn't nice to him.)

[@alexp9302]

I am so invested in the callers 😂

[@asunbeam5479]

For the caller with roommate issues, you absolutely need to contact your RA if not the housing department!

[@LaurieLuLu]

The Miles and Stanzi team up is truly magical, I’ve rewatched this episode so many times in the last week 😂

[@swati9781]

The fact that they match each other's energy so well👏🏼😂

[@sisterspacek]

Stanzi! What a great guest choice!

[@samanthagooding5493]

got a haircut & the outfit is FIRE!?! miles is in his glow up era!

[@mkwoodstock]

TRUE! Miles’s fashion has been EXCEPTIONAL recently and it needs to be talked about

[@spookygreg]

Truly a daddy miles moment

[@megs.9915]

It's so interesting to me which guests can't handle the Get Real segment and laugh it off, and which guests totally commit and lay out some deep emotional wisdom off the bat. Stanzi nailed it

[@Deviantaquarian]

With the title, I thought that Stanzi was your childhood bully you later became friends with and I was like 😮

[@iiEaTuNiCoRnS]

I love Wednesdays for this podcast. You and your guests always put a smile on my face. :)

[@PerfectPerson]

Thanks so much for listening!!

[@marie-christinelord6433]

Same, the best day of the week !

[@emmyemu33]

STANZI is the literal best!!!!! Best episode ever

[@nataliefrazier3400]

I feel like if Miles actually calls me back I'm gonna chicken out and just watch the phone ring lol

[@Anotherbrokenegg910]

Dang I needed this like 6 months ago! The girl that made my life hell in high school just came crawling back into my Instagram DMs and we even met up, I was expecting an apology, but she just wanted to tell me how shitty her life was and make excuses for herself? Never said the words “I’m sorry”. We haven’t spoken since and we’re still mutuals I wish I had the backbone I needed to stand up to her and say what I was feeling. I have people I dont know and never knew (but she does) are still to this day 6 years post grad are calling me and messaging me to this day calling me a whore lmao

[@Jupiter-james]

You can use this as the motivation to break the mutual!! You do not need this person to exist anywhere in your life, even in the online sphere. No one is entitled to have access to you if you don’t want them to! I hope you can feel empowered enough to break free from this person, she sounds horrible.

[@Perlene]

I absolutely need Stanzi to come back for another episode, love y'all together, please and thank you 🥰

[@livjm]

Instagram reels is in fact the way I know Stanzi 😂😂

[@PerfectPerson]

Mark Zuckerbergs little video collection

[@milla4898]

Same 😂😂

[@so_neill]

Actually fucking squealed when i saw this weeks guest perfect fucking pairing

[@SergioGonzalez-od7rx]

Miles, if you keep repeating 'The Doctor was his mother' you'll need to merch out of it xD

[@tawnyew]

I'm so thrilled. My day needed perfect person but my heart wanted stanzi

[@gabrielafuller2492]

Stanzi Potenza is the funniest. Hadn’t seen her before but now I’m checking out her channel.

[@lezlezzin]

ten minutes in and this is my favorite guest yet (sorry ! other guests, okay! ) but stanzi rules and yall drool (not really but she's so funny)

[@santibhav4927]

Yo justice for RAs tho, some of us r actually cool, we gotchu😎

[@PerfectPerson]

don't tell my parents I have beer plz

[@nataliedreww7585]

I woulda lost my shit and beat that roommates ass Lmao

[@hurricanerica]

My middle school bully was runner up the most recent season of the bachelor and is getting a huge social media following for it

[@CBruce0814]

Miles your “reach up” movement with two fingers lmao 😂😂

[@meganw6832]

I am from boston, I can confirm we are all miserable all the time!

[@sarybouthat]

omg- if someone gave me a trash can of throw up that they said THEY'D CLEAN!!! they're going to need to take a shower once i'm done

[@courtney104]

STANZI!! Yes!!! I’m so excited!! 🤩

[@Sara-yk3lg]

YESSS Miles, perfect timing. I’ve been in a funk today & can always count on this podcast to make me LOL and turn my mood around. Thanks for making everyone’s day a little brighter.🙏

[@siennamei3843]

I need Stanzi to be a permanent host on perfect person

[@Raevynwing]

For the first caller, honestly I would just go to your class, do your program and just ignore her. Make it clear to her that you don't trust her because of how she used to treat you and you will not forget that she did and you don't want to deal with her. Don't encourage her to treat the other person like garbage because she could end up getting in trouble and she needs this program.

[@jeanthepants7905]

I have been enjoying her humor for months and never knew her name.

[@elitettelbach4247]

This was an awesome episode!

[@TiempoFilmico]

Love the energy Stanki broght to the studio.

[@allstar14218]

LOVED this guest. What a fun episode :D

[@jessguad4104]

I came here from Spotify, midlisten to confirm the misery of Boston. Yes we’re all miserable. Are we going to move? No. Why? It’s the best city!

[@michaelbuckley4617]

I'm pretty happy and I think the weather has been great lately 🥺

[@jessguad4104]

@@michaelbuckley4617 hahaha I’m kidding I love Boston. I wouldn’t move ever. We have the best healthcare and the best schools in the country. We’re liberal and our rights are protected. Our summers are pleasant and we have access to the ocean. Just didn’t like the snow this winter!

[@zoiechan9567]

Nor’easter no problem 💪😤

[@clairepatton3963]

oh HELL YEAH IT'S STANZI

[@pretzellina]

Omg I love Stanzi! What a pleasant surprise 🥰

[@mmm555m]

STANZI'S HERE?!! I haven't even started the video yet and I'm so happy 😁

[@BoogieBrickhouse]

Oh my god! I love Stanzi! XD I just got hooked on her a couple of days ago and just binged her clips. LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS! SHES AN ICON!

[@joyzhong3224]

Great guest and episode !

[@cozieswithkritta]

So excited for Stanzi

[@samuelcareen5563]

MOM'S GOT A CHEMICAL BURN

[@miss_ayla]

What a great episode! I hope that we get an update from the roommate caller. Also, love Stanzi!

[@bethyberryy]

aaaaaannndd ill be watching this podcast for the next 98 hours. don't contact me, I'm not available

[@alexyrodriguezLA]

Hi, Miles!!!! Hope you're having a fantastic morning 🤗

[@maverickzalewski2871]

THE ULTIMATE CROSSOVERRRRR

[@braxtt0nn]

i really hope the girl with the roommate can get her room back without it being awkward. i’ve been in a weird roommate situation before and its a horrible feeling to feel like you have no home, let alone no privacy since most people who have roommates in a dorm setting are in the same room

[@samuelcareen5563]

I LOOOOOVE STANZI.

[@VyVylikesloudmusic]

Omg yesssss Stanzi!!!!

[@leoniemoats7467]

That Jacket is absolutely amazing❤

[@reneemesich8138]

I resonate with her in this SO much! I was that exact kid in middle school lol Showing up with the old Tripp pants, baggy as all get out with chains and handcuffs on them, a band tshirt and some dyed hair xD

[@journeyofemily]

Can I just say Stanzi's handbag is gorgeous wth

[@TheNinjaPOW]

It's a crossover episode!!

[@strawb3rrygh0st]

Yay Stanzi! :D

[@petalchild]

Ayyyy she went to my undergrad! So cool to see where is she is now

[@celestial_avatar88]

Love this! My first viral comment on TikTok was under a Stanzi video.

[@forgetmiiknot]

Holy shit hiw did i not know stanzi was on an episode? Shes incredible!!!!! 😂

[@mj-bw9eo]

SUCH A GOOD GUEST OMG????????

[@zoeruhl7525]

I wish I had all this advice from miles ten years ago.

[@sophiekuhn5342]

I offered to let my friend crash with me due to her family kicking her out and she moved all her furniture in and her boyfriend. Didn’t pay rent and stayed there for months. I ended up moving out and they took over the lease I was too terrified to say anything

[@lowkey276]

Sometimes that's how you learn being a people-pleaser is worthless. Your friend was kicked out by her family --> Red Flag. You ignored it. Fuck around and find out. I was also a people-pleaser and had to be trampled on a couple of times to learn to respect myself 😂

[@Zoomieszad]

Omg I love Stanzi😮hilariousssss

[@Kaylee_eeee]

I LOVE STANZI

[@missaprilfool120]

Stanzi!!! OMG! 🥰🥰🥰

[@ksblondie22]

More Stanzi!

[@bellama920]

Stanziiiiii yesssss!!!!

[@unseriousghoul]

A partner moving into your dorm is really really against the renters' agreement. People can feel unsafe. She can get kicked out for that. It is also super easy to get proof of this. His clothes and things in your room. Getting more witnesses. Or poison her. Her and her man deserve the judgment of Christ.

[@fruitgh0st]

OMG A GUEST BESIDES PMI THAT I ACTUALLY KNOW

[@ssuuzziiee]

Omg I'M FUCKING HERE FOR THIS.

[@alexare6655]

"Figuring out each other's holes".

[@alexikleiin]

HOW DID KZbin NOT TELL ME A STANZI EPISODE DROPPED?!?

[@TheLucidMystic]

Aye miles. On Patreon, are the extended versions separated from the versions you put on here? Or is it just one big EP? I am about to sub to Patreon so I can catch up on everything but wasn't sure if you have the premium and extended versions as their own videos so it's easier to find what I haven't watched!

[@BenSwagnerd]

I fucking love that this happened

[@abbybrinkman2666]

I am here for the materintiy shirt

[@lovemycharlene]

🙌🏽the be real was REALly 👍🏼

[@adebisiakinyemi7833]

Why am I concocting an enemies to lovers romance between the first caller and her high school bully in my head?

[@JulianneFreytag]

stanzi!!

[@desireekidd6764]

Oh My Freaking God! STANZI!!!

[@kayteebarga9694]

Hurt people hurt people is so real. My mom is an abusive narcissist and I never was a bully but I'm sure I've said things that could've hurt people because as a kid abuse is all I knew. I thought saying certain things a certain way was ok because that's how my mother showed love. I hope I never hurt someone's feelings but I hope more that they've moved on and said fuck that chick. Lol

[@vialikescats]

does anyone know what is depicted on the white vintage phone behind miles?? is it from something?? or just random art on a phone?? I NEED TO KNOW PLEASE HELP

[@funkybunny4604]

I FUCKIN LOVE STANZII!! And Miles of course, but STANZI!!!

[@emilymahan9735]

Stanzi!!

[@porgiepuddinandpie]

at 16:16 it sounds like miles runs into the sun