Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivor interview-Carl

[@tdmj2812]

This man’s posture alone speaks volumes before he even speaks.

[@user-zs3of1vf8t]

💜💜💜💜🙏🏾

[@meangirllaura]

He’s still a scared child on the inside

[@Mack462]

He’s still in the child like moment where this happened!

[@alandareed3672]

Yes😢The way he holds his head down speaks volumes 🙏I’m so sorry this happened to him. God Bless🙏

[@ceceprincess4758]

Sitting like a child

[@FuchsiaSquare]

NEVER put a “boyfriend” before your children. 😡

[@TaylorM6668]

👏 and NEVER put yr own needs before yr children.

[@dp6970]

That’s the TRUTH👏🏽 NEVER.

[@marylougeorge9890]

@@TaylorM6668 Well said.

[@leeleemee]

@@TaylorM6668 🏆

[@lisadixon6617]

NO MAN FRIEND, BOYFRIEND, HUSBAND should ever be around your children without you. You shouldn’t have any man around who isn’t dad anyway. Wait till they are 18. That was your choice.

[@steveparks8168]

I was raped over and over again by a woman and man so I know the feeling brother and I deal with depression every day. Lets be strong together as survivors and try to move on in life.

[@jesussaveslovesyou3499]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@IAmMissJay]

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Sending you love and healing and peace ❤️❤️

[@sunshine9122]

I am so sorry you had to endure this, Steve. Those maggots will pay (karma). Big hugs to you. ❤

[@beemoseley5542]

I wish you all the best and lots of blessings. You deserve love and peace. Stay strong 💙

[@elena.t3251]

Steve Parks God loves you. You are perfect. The devil is fault!!!

[@ericawilson4759]

I will never understand, why would an adult take a child's innocence. That is evil and demonic.

[@magicallyme96]

I’ve never understood what these sick ass adults find in children either. My mind can’t even comprehend that..🤢

[@kkgreen7946]

It’s a demon spirit

[@olivermexas1203]

It’s actually a lot simpler and less evil than we think. The adult had the same thing happen to them when they were a child

[@olivermexas1203]

People who are abused become abusers.

[@SleekMinister]

​@@olivermexas1203 There's such a thing as serendipity. Too many strokes of bad luck in a row, and telling your story becomes a hassle. That's where it begins, with the lying.

[@CourtsThoughts]

There's no eye contact but you can feel the innocence in his words.

[@NoQuarterIsHere]

It will come. He needs a lot of time.

[@sr-si5fs]

the victim is usually innocent....

[@CourtsThoughts]

@@sr-si5fs innocence in the context of his perception of others, the world, himself. It's to suggest vulnerability, compassion, forgiveness, and a child like empathy even now as an adult with a more comprehensive understanding of what happened to him as a child. It's almost like he doesn't know it was not his fault - he still wants to know why this happened. Just my observation.

[@TheMoneysMaster2]

Words don’t have feelings though maybe you mean truth not innocence

[@CourtsThoughts]

@@TheMoneysMaster2 no, I meant what I said

[@dann551]

OMG, I can relate to this man. I'm 50 yo man, I was Molested and tortured by my Stepdad from age 4 to age 12 yo. My mother found out when was 4, 7 & 12 She Did almost nothing! She would kick him out, then let him back in. She was an immigrant and has a 3rd grade education, co dependent and ignorant. He took advantage of that and Molested all 4 of her kids. Now we all have mental issues especially one of my sisters she, is homeless and schizophrenic. (breaks my heart) By the Grace of God I have had Lots of Counseling and spiritual help. I have a Great wife of 25 yrs and 3 wonderful kids. I am disabled now and still dealing with PTSD, Depression, Anxiety disorder. People see me and where I live and everything looks great, But they don't know the HELL I still have to go through!! GOD BLESS YOU CARL!!

[@elena.t3251]

God bless you and your family ✝️✝️🙏🏼

[@etandrepont]

My heart has been broken too many times hearing these stories and knowing people in your exact situation. Stay strong! Time will heal. We all need a reset that is for certain. Once taken advantage of it seems always taken advantage of or one just continues to internalize and endures the suffering into adulthood. ETA🌹

[@xokhaliah]

god bless you💖

[@guzelfetkulina9599]

You just broke my heart 💔 May you meet only good and kind people on your way and may God relieve you from all your known snd unknown physical and mental issues and grant you with long, happy, beneficial life. Ameen🤲 I dont know your name, but Sir you are really a very strong man.

[@jenniferlosoya9742]

God bless you ❤ you deserved better. You deserved respect and protection. I’m so sorry a person would do that to you.

[@cyndi6426]

The way he’s sitting, like a little boy 💔 God wrap your arms around him 🙏

[@user-ge5ns1ls8w]

God did this to him

[@gwennk4962]

@@user-ge5ns1ls8w I heard him say that boys and men did that to him.

[@TaylorM6668]

🤦‍♀️

[@Imrightyourewrong1]

@@gwennk4962 and god just sat there, watched and did nothing. What kind of monster are you worshiping?

[@gwennk4962]

@@Imrightyourewrong1 never said I believe in a God, did I?Let's put the blame where it belongs.

[@rashawnbruner2676]

I am a survivor of sexual abuse brought on by my mothers husband...this went on from age 6 to 17... I bore a child at age 16... I escaped in 1988... thank you Oakland Police Department and District Attorney Office... he was sentenced to 54 years in prison...there he died... My son is 35.

[@numbernine3436]

I am so sorry you went through that. Mothers have to be vigilant when it comes to their children.

[@godsnotdonewithyouyet6955]

Amen and god bless you

[@SOFIIBX]

Im so sorry you went through that. I was molested at the age of 6-9 by a family friend. Im a single mom and scared of this happening to my kids.

[@tiffanyshoemaker7636]

Yes lord..amd hey im from oaktown as well..deep east

[@Imgill2003]

💙

[@younghem]

So many abused kids grow up to become abusers themselves. You are a hero for not going that route.

[@joeljackshaw5788]

Beind abused does not make you a pedophile......this is bad thinking, do some research.

[@theexotic2983]

​@joeljackshaw5788 there is truth in that statement. Some people internalize the rage and just want to cause others the pain they felt. It's twisted but it does happen...Hopefully not much though.

[@seeyouinthegarden]

by Jesus grace he said he believes in a higher power that is the only thing to keep us from such atrocity!

[@kydramanuel]

I will never understand women that leave their children around random people. This is so sad, and you can tell he has some serious ptsd.

[@ceceprincess4758]

How can u tell? I cant tell

[@therealselenaselena]

Amen

[@jfksbullet2]

@@ceceprincess4758 ptsd is easy to tell if you’ve ever known someone/gone through it. The way he sits, the way he talks shows he’s dissociating, and he’s emotionless. There’s more to ptsd but as in physical signs it shows a lot. Only know bc I have ptsd. Man is strong for talking about this

[@shewins3775]

It’s CPTSD. So sad.

[@jessicalugay25]

It does not have to be a random person to do this

[@breannasloan6276]

This poor guy. You can tell by the lack of eye contact he’s still bothered by it deeply. He’s got a great mind set and he didn’t fall into the cycle, he broke from it and he’s helping other kids. It’s so unfortunate, so much potential.

[@dp6970]

I thought the same thing. Even in the photograph, he wasn’t looking at the camera.

[@mddell58]

@@dp6970 His body language is strong! Head down, eyes down, & hands basically covering/protecting his personal area.

[@marylougeorge9890]

@@mddell58 Good observations!

[@dp6970]

@@mddell58 Agreed. My heart really goes out to him. I hope he continues to talk about his experiences. It’ll free him even further.🙏🏽

[@blewprent]

I think he's actually just trying to conceal his identity.

[@martybob55]

Carl, you are deserving of love and a healthy relationship. I too am a survivor. I’m 66.. from a time when we black folk were encouraged to keep these things secret. We were sometimes blamed or made to feel at fault. Thank you for speaking up and speaking out. Tell someone, seek support from a healthy safe program or group or individuals. Much love to you Carl.

[@yikesyikes5974]

I saw another comment and it read "The most protected person in a black family is a molester". That rings true because they mostly side with the abuser.

[@joeycazarez4348]

@@yikesyikes5974 the molester would do anything to manipulate the people around him to get what he wants

[@ronyafeldman4853]

So sorry I knew a person that it happened to he Dead at young age hope he is happy now at peace.

[@mrjonesandme8848]

Molestation and being blamed for it and the family protecting the molester isn't a "black folk" or "white folk" experience. It, like death, are things that are color blind.

[@dianabritoart]

Wow it's crazy latin boys too, we don't speak on it but many know, and many many girls... I'm a survivor also, my mother is still with that man till this day. Pedo's are protected in latin community also.

[@liismaarii8450]

Child sexual abuse destroys the spirit and mind of a child and some of us never heal from that trauma. I thank God I was able to heal and I learned to be a better mother and how to protect my kids from predators

[@mzfancy4767]

I concur! 🙏🏾💯

[@KatJ3st]

You know, when I'm at a little league game I look at all the parent/partners there and wonder which ones are the molesters. They are everywhere. Closer than you think.

[@666blindrider]

@@KatJ3st Evilness is everywhere unfortunately.

[@coffeeplse3224]

I'm so sorry 😞 from a fellow survivor

[@onewomanarmyish]

Same. Stay strong.

[@delorasledge2492]

I have no right, but I'm angry with his mom. This baby had to have shown signs; no one was paying attention. Im so sorry Carl. Im also proud of you for becoming a protector.

[@latongelajohnson6979]

I'm glad he is telling this. It happens to alot of Men . 💕💕💕💕

[@delorasledge2492]

@@latongelajohnson6979 yes. It's like people overlook boyhood trauma at a higher rate. Kids are kids and they all need protection.

[@nicolecampos9648]

PEOPLE don’t have kids if you’re not gonna be the best parent you can be. She had 9 children & I bet they all went through something. I fucking hate those who bring another life into this fucked up world with no means of providing the protection love & care they need. They’re literally kids. So sad.

[@que4069atl]

I think at some point they did realize it but its so embarrassing you keep it secret.

[@timmywitty1432]

@@latongelajohnson6979 this is a trauma based realm, our boys are being raped and it is causing homosexuality thru trauma, another depopulation agenda from the banking families, the banksters.

[@avomaxo]

Molesters know to seek out already vulnerable children. I'm so sorry this happened to you Carl. Your ability to talk about it speaks to your strength.

[@ariamarshall5161]

Yes....True!!! They KNOW. No way in hell he repeatedly was molested by so many men just randomly it’s bc they know how to spot out their victims.

[@suefleming]

yes...heaven awaits him.❤

[@susanhowsden9398]

A CHILD IS INNOCENT & PREDATORS KNOW EXACTLY 'WHO' TO PREY UPON. . .ITS DEEPLY, DEEPLY DUSTURBING TO KNOW THERE ARE SO MANY PERVERTED INDIVIDUALS IN THIS WORLD . . .MADDENING . . .

[@suefleming]

@@susanhowsden9398 JESUS IS COMING BACK.

[@suefleming]

@Brian May The devil exists on Earth. God is in the afterlife. Adam and Eve disobeyed God and were sent out of the Garden of Eden. We only find out the truth after death.

[@SkunkApeMeg]

The adults in this man’s life failed him. Nobody protected him.

[@charlethajohnson2904]

And that's what is Sad!!

[@waitiwaita6993]

They truely did.

[@magicallyme96]

All of them should be held accountable.

[@joshperry6700]

That's the damn truth.

[@wifemomteacherlife7648]

This precious man has been through hell and he’s working so hard to protect children from living in the same hell he did. 😞

[@diannekhan5199]

Love ya man please help children of the world. I'm glad this didnt make you turn into their footsteps.

[@Dignity100]

He is a saint.

[@cvtqueen]

This is the same steps I’m taking

[@TeriB]

He is an amazing person 💯💪❤

[@charswebb]

Totally broke my heart 😢

[@felipevelez156]

Carl, I love you man. With all my heart and I wish that anyone who's ever been abused could hear you & gain strength.

[@Day-ZDuke]

How do people do it?? How could a grown man force a boy to stay naked in a closet until they give in to being molested? How is there so many sick, sick, sick people that destroy the lives of children. It’s just mind boggling. How do these people live with themselves? How is society this damaged

[@allaboutherterritory]

Sad to say repeated cycle

[@mamiibeckyy]

Because no matter how hard we wanna believe that there's good in everyone, its just not true. There are sick, evil, disgusting people out there. And sad to say, not every parent believe their child(ren) when they say they're being molested or raped so predators continue to get away with it 😪 and the law protects predators more than victims.

[@fifilamoore1718]

That’s 100% what I was thinking 🤔 I find it so mind blowing how many sick people are out there , it’s awefully sad

[@joshuacarpenter4350]

Demons are real.

[@EV3NTH888]

@@mamiibeckyy a girl I used to babysit told me years later that after I moved away her mother's boyfriend at the time molested her. to this day I feel guilt about moving away. I can't help but think that if I was around and she was with me that she wouldn't have been molested. At times I feel like I'm the only one to blame, even though intellectually I know that's not true.

[@Shatara_Styles]

I'm truly starting to believe that once someone or a child is initially molested, these predators can literally see the signs and attack immediately. So sad how the victims continue to get molested after its happened that first time, really disturbing.

[@jordanrostron]

Psychopaths will know when someone is vulnerable. Path of least resistance

[@freetobree5323]

Agree.. it’s sick. I know other abuse survivors that have been victims from the hands of more than one person.. they somehow know..

[@thematriarchy2075]

No, it's because children are more in danger if they are not protected by adults. So he was an easy target as long as there were no adults around that made sure he was protected.

[@killianson85]

@@thematriarchy2075 Of course, but what fliflops is saying is that there's a mark left in their personality, a behaviour or something else in those childs that pedophiles detect conciously or unconciously so the chances of being abused again increase.

[@thematriarchy2075]

@@killianson85 I disagree, respectfully.

[@theresaskrzynski9916]

I'd like to share with Carl something that has helped me with my past. In your mind, go back to the little boy who was afraid and alone for so long. Go to him as the good man he needed so badly then. Give him comfort, give him courage, give him hope, and help him to realize that it won't always be this way.

[@PracticallyMagic88]

Healing your inner child is so powerful and transformative

[@FreeBird2.0]

Yes❤healing the inner child is powerful. Thank you

[@dreamychick19]

This broke my heart. His body language says a lot. You can tell he struggled with this his whole life and not having anyone he could run to for help. This really hurt listening to and I hope he gets the help he needs. Being a survivor, you deal with a lot of shame and resentment, I just hope he can get the help needs.

[@iAmNothingness]

As a survivor myself all i can tell is that mens feelings don't get taken serious at all. Especially when it comes to sexual abuse. Pray for all the people that are out there having such a negative past.

[@Bumblebee-jl3ur]

🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@kimberlyfancher7833]

,. Q

[@katyrockett]

At least you have an honest reaction

[@austinrichards1740]

Yes

[@joshperry6700]

"I just started thinking that any time I did something, I was gonna be molested." That's legitimately one of the most tragic statements I've ever heard, or that could even possibly be spoken. His candor and dignity are beautiful , however. Seems like a good, intelligent person who has been victimized beyond belief. Carl, if you should read this, you are not defeated. The depravity that was inflicted on you will not define you. And that goes for any other people that read this and have walked through the same hell he has. I wish you all the best.

[@jennifersykes2163]

Praying for you, So sad.

[@tally0224]

I will be keeping Carl, in my prayers. God bless him. 🙌🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💛

[@felipevelez156]

Best Comment Award Goes To You

[@ashleycoleman8762]

❤️❤️❤️🙌🏾

[@jancaldwell434]

PTSD

[@jenniferlosoya9742]

I almost cried when he talked about being protective of all kids- ANY kid. I hate that these things happen to innocent kids. It’s so disgusting of the abuser and I swear if I EVER found out someone touched my kids… oh man. I’d be in prison. I had an ex boyfriend and my ex hubby was molested- both by other men. I legitimately HATE the people that did that to them. I’m in recovery and on my fourth step I listed those two men as resentments because of the damage they did to my exes- especially my ex husband. He drinks a lot and I know that’s why. I don’t even know who the abusers are. Never met them. I don’t know their names… but I truly HATE them.

[@kyokomashimoto8584]

This is so true. Alcohol is used alot to make the memories go away. The horrible tragic memories. I 100 percent understand

[@mddell58]

ANY mother who chooses to place ANY man above their own children's safety, is the very, very worst parent. Absolutely NO excuses.

[@vadamsable]

I've run across a LOT of these women. The men or supposed fathers are also a part of the problem. They have left their position as protectors. You hear how he tries to protect his child.

[@pjpj3416]

AMEN

[@missunderstoodone2513]

I am a single mother of 3 and this is exactly why I won't allow anyone into my home until my kids are grown and gone. The safety of my kids take priority over all else!!! I am so sorry for anyone who has had to endure this and I pray that God grant the peace that you all deserve

[@faithhernandez9269]

I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. Everyone always asks why I’m not dating and this type of story is the exact reason why.

[@KHess-e]

My mom was single the entire time I was growing up. Literally from birth. She always said that she didn't trust anyone, meaning boyfriends around her child. I'm 31 now and she's still single, and living the grandma life now. ❤

[@missunderstoodone2513]

@@KHess-e it's so amazing what our mothers plant into us because my parents divorced when I was 8 and I'm 40 and I've never seen my mom with another man. I'm so thankful for our moms who had the strength to raise us single handedly and didn't bring those dangers into our lives. It's so scary when you hear these type of stories.

[@KHess-e]

@@missunderstoodone2513 I agree. I'm so thankful for moms like ours! I would do the same for my two kids too. I always tell my husband that if we ever were to divorce, I'm flying solo.

[@hilaryb.1955]

I commend you!

[@daisynunez9953]

This is exactly why my mother, thank god never let us out of her sight. She never brought anyone over to our house and didn't even allow us to be alone with family members. She was definitely protecting her girl, I'm so grateful for her protection. Hearing these stories puts everything into perspective, I'm very fortunate to have had such a good mom.

[@lovemuffin4596]

Child abusing is getting worse and worse. He can't even look up still so traumatized.

[@vadamsable]

It's almost at pandemic proportions. That's why our country is dying. It's not being dealt with properly by the legislative authorities (scorched earth policies). If this were really dealt with, it wouldn't be so widespread.

[@laybronzejaimes937]

@@vadamsable I agree, but I’d go as far to say that they don’t deserve to draw breath on this earth, and it’s unfair to decent citizens to have to pay taxes for such a despicable person. It’s unfair to the inmates to be forced around these sick people. Should just end them.

[@ah-ss7he]

I think it’s always been bad just more talked about now. But as far as the pandemic I’m sure it’s worse bc ppl were on lockdown for nearly a year 😢

[@JoJo-zq6gb]

@@laybronzejaimes937 I understand what youre saying, but on the other hand isnt "ending" them an easy way out for them? If they just die they wont be able to live with what they did and suffer in their own way. Why should the predators just die, when all their victims have to live every single day with what happened to them??

[@laybronzejaimes937]

@@JoJo-zq6gb I agree with you as well, but a lot of these individuals who commit these deranged acts against children actually try to rationalize it in their heads and lack remorse for their actions. I honestly used to think once you’ve mentally committed to doing something this foul, you really can’t be mentally redeemed to even feel guilt. There’s also the possibility that they get off early, and tbh not all individuals think of prison as punishment. I’ve met plenty of bums that actually like jail bc they’re devoid of outside responsibility lol. I see your point, you’re right and I appreciate the outlook.

[@julez6nine]

This is what PTSD looks like, sending you light and love!!!

[@rarebreed345]

Right! It is like calm on the outside but heavy rage inside

[@soulfullygraced2521]

Same thing I was thinking severe PTSD

[@Eyemotivateme2]

Yes it does. Truly Sad.

[@ericawilson4759]

Yes

[@Buxtohn]

I pray he finds peace and healing. He's such a sweet and pure soul.

[@mb74091]

💖

[@philidox]

God had his opportunity to prevent these monsters from violating this man as a young boy and he failed to do it multiple times. It time to accept the fact that God either doesn't exists or has a sick interpretation of morality.

[@YorkshiremanReacts26]

PrAyErS didn’t stop us from being molested. Commenting “hopes and prayers” on posts about traumatic events does absolutely NOTHING to help anyone. He won’t even see your comment. It’s just a way for people to claim they tried to “help” someone. If you actually care then donate to a survivor’s charity or something.

[@philidox]

@luvxtbp if God is all-knowing and all-powerful and has the power to prevent this type of evil then he should get off his high horse and do something to prevent it.

[@DonnOfTechDuinn]

​@@philidoxExactly, most people aren't ready to face that reality, if God is who they say he is then why isn't he able to stop these things from existing, and if he's the creator then why did his creation allow these things to exist in the first place

[@heatherrayramirez3749]

Notice how he describes how he admired each person before they victimized him... And then his fear of his father later. The impact it has causes our perspective of life to be soooo skewed

[@toeachitsown2050]

The worst betrayal

[@the2ndcoming135]

That’s how it starts. They gain your trust. Then, snatch it right from under you.

[@annmcdonald7713]

@@the2ndcoming135 part of their grooming process

[@the2ndcoming135]

@@annmcdonald7713 right. Sorta explains much of the pushback on homosexuality among males.

[@maeganyust2568]

Although he may not believe it, he really has such a strong spirit.

[@jessepancamo8449]

Pretty eyes

[@shaunalea823]

Yes!!!!

[@ellentorres6314]

I was raped as a child and I never told anyone until I was in my 30's...the same person and 3 others tied my sister to a bed and raped her...if I had told maybe my sister would have been spared...the shame is not ours...the shame belongs to our abusers...our stories can save others....

[@susanhowsden9398]

SHAME ON THE PREDATORS. . .TO TAKE A CHILD'S INNOCENCE . . .

[@schuylerrees7029]

I so agree, Ellen! I was looking for someone to say what you did - the shame is for the abuser, sharing these stories out the shame where it belongs,

[@morticiagypsy4244]

His body posture is that of a hurt lil boy. May God bless and protect this Man

[@joshuagumpert8910]

This hurts me on the deepest level. I pray he finds eternal happiness for all of the suffering he has had to endure.

[@prodigal_no_more]

As someone who was molested as a child I understood so much of what he said. When he said it doesn’t make you gay. I used to think that if someone heard what happened to me that’s what people would think. The first person who molested me after he finished with me held me down With a razor sharp knife to my throat made me beg him not to kill me. Five years later at 15 when I finally decided to tell someone what happened it was my guidance counselor. He wanted to know who had done what to me. I knew my whole world was going to crash around me after I told him. Nothing ever happened. Then he was arrested for soliciting sex from men. I kind a lost faith in everything. Now I’m a fairly well-adjusted husband father grandfather. I told someone one day that every now and then it comes back to me and I’m a scared little 10-year-old.

[@michellebolden3143]

Soooo sorry for your suffering.

[@miamoore825]

Praying for you!!!!

[@goodgirl170]

I am so sorry you went through that Jeff. God bless you

[@suzybailey-koubti8342]

I know exactly how you feel.

[@sharonbrown6595]

So very sorry for your suffering. It’s terrible.

[@sugardaeday6511]

"I was a helpless little boy and I didn't have anybody" It was heart breaking to hear it.

[@ndiabee9603]

He would be great to speak to other male molestation survivors, I can imagine how hard it is for a male to reveal he has been molested and now have to defend his masculinity all the time. Especially Black males. He can help because he understands.

[@timmywitty1432]

Our boys are being sexually abused even more than our girls, the Satanic agenda is all about stealing our men.

[@lolsamftw]

Noise what you said was great but "especially blacks males" doesn't need to be said. Bringing race into little kids being molested is a big no. EVERY child deserves to be safe from abuse black white,Asian,small or big.

[@siobhanofarrell4646]

@@lolsamftw Get off your high horse. She wasn’t saying that all children don’t deserve to be protected. She was simply pointing out the fact that there IS a stigma in the African American community as far as masculinity is concerned. It’s also why you have African American men on the down low; because that stigma of being gay still exists

[@akon6705]

@@siobhanofarrell4646 that stigma of masculinity exists for males of every race, quit acting like your the only ones to exist in your own world. She literally pointed out black males to be protected “especially”. Smdh

[@gregm5408]

Young, middle age, old, male, female, teen, child, GO TELL SOMEONE!!!

[@teesimone2018]

I just want to hug him and tell him "I love you"

[@allyjerome2660]

Me too 😔

[@valeriejackson4261]

@@allyjerome2660 me three my heart is hurting for him.

[@JudyBonilla]

Same ♥️

[@Hendrixtanell13]

Me too

[@brittbritt5613]

Same 🥺💙

[@jacobsparks2175]

I was abused a lot as a kid. A lot like Carl. Now I just look to protect people that are weaker than me. Its almost the only happiness I feel these days is knowing I protected someone and kept them safe the way I wish someone had protected me.

[@myranaam8562]

I seriously wish we could unalive molestors after they’re found guilty

[@Top_CaBin117]

JACOB! 🙏

[@Lauren-i8i]

👏👏👏

[@gabrielledavis7491]

Jacob that is beautiful. You give me hope.

[@laylab3053]

His inner child is still so full of fear. I hope he finds the peace, love and joy that he deserves in this world. He never deserved the abuse that he endured. My heart aches for the things he experienced and how they still follow him today.

[@Christian-xo8hu]

As someone who is on the (Autism) spectrum, I genuinely believe that this man is also on the spectrum. You can tell by his monotone voice, lack of eye contact, and fixed posture.. also his very literal way of talking.. and his innocence.. all marks of being on the spectrum. And the fact that he was molested terribly as a kid made it even more impossible for him to find relationships.. like how he ran away from work and never came back.. I just feel sorry for him. I truly hope he finds peace

[@Leconte.]

I admire his courage that he did not continue the cycle.

[@belfanminnocent5235]

Indeed! So do I because he could’ve definitely continued the cycle and he didn’t, he’s a very strong man! May the Lord be with him 🙏🏾

[@UncleHashy]

Its a common assumption because there is alot of correlation. Just because you were a victim of sexual abuse, doesn't mean you are going to turn around and do it to someone else. I'm not saying thats always the case but, imagine being a victim of rape as a child and because of that ppl stigmatize you as a predator

[@mudcast]

I was a victim like him and made it my life mission to never let any child go through that on my watch. It ruined me. Ruined me. Stepdads are a lot more likely to Molest you than your real dad so make sure you choose the right partner, get married and never divorce. God bless you all

[@markboyer2054]

That’s a bullshit stigma. Lots of pedofile and child molesters that have never experienced any abuse growing up.

[@UncleHashy]

@@markboyer2054 thank you

[@Peacelovecafe]

Sexual Abuse is everywhere and there needs to be a 24/7 public announcement blasting on billboards, audio, film to teach people not to do this and to protect victims

[@stephaniejean399]

Always pay attention to your children. Always believe them. This is heartbreaking.

[@LATLSpeaks]

Oh my god, this man exudes kindness and gentleness. I want him to have a good life.

[@dvs001]

40yo man here... didn’t think I was gonna cry the whole video... until the end when he said the most powerful and healing words a victim can say...”I forgive them” 😭

[@KolossalYouth]

This makes me so grateful to my mom, she never had any man around me because they weren't my father. Her current husband didn't even spend any time around me until I was a legal adult and by then, they'd been together for like 15 years. But, to Carl: I love you. I pray God heals all your wounds and allows you to continue on in peace, love, and happiness.

[@thatsthat2612]

Great mother, if me and my husband ever separated id happily spend my whole life without a partner to protect them, i have to protect my children. My 7 yr old is non verbal autistic and it scares the shit out of me even sending him to school, although i do trust his teacher, she's wonderful with him, i took measures to get me to this point of trust but im still always wary

[@extrollacc4587]

You can see by the way he hunches and fiddles with those sad eyes, he’s been through hell poor guy.

[@lindseyfortein8894]

What a great mother

[@Flower-ck2bs]

It can happen everywhere. In school, on the street, att friends/relatives. We can never protect anybody to 100% but we can try.

[@localjunckieasmr9207]

Okay her not allowing her husband to spend time with you is buzzard doe but Ig …

[@Ashtrey444]

very proud that he spoke up. a lot of men have shame about being SA survivors but with his interview he’s bringing awareness for those who are silent. thank you Carl for speaking up. you are valid and worthy, I’m sorry this happened to you I hope your doing well ❤️

[@MioRaem]

I am a man and I was raped in Kindergarten between age 4 and 6 by my female teacher. It has messed up my entire existence. my life is nothing but trauma, sadness and fear of the world. I don't trust people. I have anger issues. Crushing depression for the last 25 years. I literally cringe and shrink away when my mother tries to hug me. I have so many dreams and wishes but Im 31 and without a job. My life has amounted to nothing and I don't know how to get out. Im seeing doctors but Im not sure it helps. Anyone who just leads a calm, happy successful life doesn't know how good they got it 😞😞😞

[@MsMedford]

I'm sorry that happened to you. You didn't deserve your innocence taken away. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. And your life matters. You sharing your story can help other survivors.

[@Prittyladylex]

So sorry 🙏🙏🙏💙

[@SuperNurseNelly]

I am going through PTSD therapy. It is really helpful. I hope that you can get through this. You are a survivor!!

[@lindseybrooks5810]

I'm so sorry this happened to you .

[@christalmorgan5265]

I KNOW BROTHER YOU ARE NOT ALONE

[@Badakhsxx]

He still holds the weight of the guilt and shame on his fragile shoulders. I pray that he finds salvation and is set free from the heavy chains of his childhood trauma. 🙏

[@ricoham7263]

Couldn’t have said it any better. God bless this man’s beautiful soul for eternity.

[@ravenlyric5121]

I’ve watched so many of these interviews and this one absolutely breaks my heart It’s so crazy how much of our adult life is the result of what our childhood was like

[@LosAngelesLaura]

Same!!!! This one really hurt 🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@krar1587]

@@LosAngelesLaura ll)llllllll))

[@zodsi]

you can feel his hurt just by looking at and listening to his voice

[@domimakeup]

Carl, please hold your head high. Be proud of the beautiful man you are. You are filled with so much love, and your love for children beams out of you. You are a survivor and managed to maintain such a beautiful spirit. May you find peace, and relief.

[@monicat6379]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@timmywitty1432]

Your past does NOT define who you are.

[@murphyr31]

He’s a soft spoken and articulate man and his story is heart wrenching and I hope he’ll get to read the comments of support here. You’re loved and I respect you for telling your story to us.

[@arianalovelace1133]

You can just tell that he was a lovely kid and a scared little boy.Single mother’s need to do better especially when you have 9 children absolutely crazy

[@OMGLinnea]

She had nine BOYS and six girls. That's fully insane.

[@ms.b639]

How about also men not making babies they don’t want to take care of, there’s a thought.

[@lilone1925]

@@ms.b639 that part!

[@phanomfoxxy4453]

@@ms.b639 Spoken like a true woman who thinks she is not responsible for her own actions and chooses to blame others. You have no idea what happened and if this woman refused to allow the men to be involved. Another feminist who thinks women are equal except when they are being held responsible for their choices. No one made her sleep with losers over and over and over...even a dog would have learned the pattern by then.

[@phanomfoxxy4453]

@@vikuly8 I would have never guessed. A woman playing the victim and blaming men for all their failures. How original…no self responsibility.

[@khawlahmuwahid124]

Thank you for being so brave and open, you are a real hero in the eyes of millions of children, teens and adults who are suffering. Such a strong man.

[@leeleemee]

Yes. He’s a very brave soul that is helping so many through his openness.

[@Candy2Bossy]

Yes I Agree.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@IngridHurwitz]

❤️

[@austinrichards1740]

Yes

[@eileensketo6473]

Well said!!

[@nolasmith2875]

What a great person Carl When he said: “I forgave them” I burst in tears God bless you and your heart and your daughter 🙏

[@Celebeauti21]

Man i pray for healing this man. Parents please pay attention to your children. Most children who have been through this won’t tell you. It’s extremely difficult to talk about for many reasons. I’m 30 and I still never told my parents what happen to me. It’s not easy and really affects your entire life.

[@marylougeorge9890]

You're speaking the truth. I'm sorry for what happened to you and that you weren't able to tell your parents.

[@maplecookies2036]

Sending you Healing Hugs.

[@Celebeauti21]

@@maplecookies2036 Thank you so much ❤️

[@nikareims85]

So much truth ❤️ I always have eyes on my son and have been told I’m overprotective. I’d rather be overprotective than not at all.

[@MikaelaJoArroyo]

I've been having discussions with my daughter since she started school about things like this. Having a kid is scary shit.

[@samanthacostido7823]

No one really talks about that..... not everyone who is molested will also molest someone. I was abused as well and I would never hurt another child.... but it makes me super over protected... I hope you find peace with yourself.

[@jessicazepeda9516]

Me too. God bless you.

[@nicoletripp9629]

🎯 Agreed

[@RL-xv1nk]

Same here. I was overprotective with my siblings & my own kids. I’m still overprotective of any vulnerable person.

[@user-gx5hf2fn9j]

I’m the same I wouldn’t even let my children go to sleepovers because I was so scared for them.

[@magicallyme96]

@@user-gx5hf2fn9j I don’t let my kid do sleepovers either his father thought I was “overreacting” 😒 I don’t think so..💯

[@brittanydoll24]

The fact that he looks down,the way he’s sitting, and won’t really make eye contact shows how much this affects him. How truly heartbreaking that he suffers the way he does. He’s truly a warrior and makes a difference.

[@lizl7096]

This is so heartbreaking. His posture is that of a young child who never truly left those horrible moments in his young life. I pray to God that he wrap his arms around him and that he may find peace 💗 as he is so deserving of it. As for mothers (or fathers) who bring a slew of boyfriends (or girlfriends) around your children ... STOP 🛑 Stop bringing around people around who may not have the best of intentions for your children. Your children are FIRST! You deserve a love life, yes but carefully vet the person that you bring into your child’s life and always be vigilant. This goes for vetting and being vigilant of others too (family, friends, etc.) While it’s not possible to zero out the possibility of abuse, it is possible to drastically reduce it.

[@kanileah]

Ameen. Absolutely.

[@lunron9548]

@Johnnie Boi Same

[@magicallyme96]

YES! No lies were spoken 💯💯

[@ryleighalex]

So many adults failed him from his mom to the people that was supposed to be safe😞 this is so sad

[@acardinalconsideration824]

There are so many wolves in sheep’s clothing on this planet. Mother’s, NEVER leave your children alone with a boyfriend. So many lives have been ruined by bad parents and it makes me sick. Carl is beyond brave for being able to share his story

[@Gabsengeii]

Man, this breaks my heart knowing there's so many of us who experienced this in their childhood. We're supposed to be protected and loved as children. And I'm the same way I am protective of my kids to the point of paranoia because I don't want them to experience what I did.

[@leeanne7077]

Man. I just want to give this sweet man a hug. And Darn it. really makes me angry how so many men abused and humiliated him. He just didn't get a break.

[@kyky8862]

My heart is absolutely broken for this poor sweet soul 😢 what a lovely human, even after so much trauma and horror ❤

[@msaunsha]

I noticed that his body language changed as he started to open up. He needed to do this; for him. Thank you for the powerful testimony, Carl. Praying for healing from all that you’ve been through. Keep your head up, buddy. 🙏🏽🙏🏽💗 Have a great day/evening All!

[@Jivolt]

You know stuff is deep when Mark hardly says a word for over 11 minutes.

[@BabyJellyfish]

As disturbing s the topic is, this is a great interview. He talks very naturally without being prompted. You have to feel very sorry for him, hope he’s alright

[@monadeberry9060]

That's true, Mark hardly says a word for a minute

[@andieshah]

I thought the same. He let him speak for so long no interrupting.

[@cask1]

For real

[@TheMoneysMaster2]

I mean he hasn’t stoped talking though why would he it’s gold

[@nagilum]

You can see it in his body language that he still feels a lot of shame for what happened to him. What a heartbreaking interview. I’m glad he told the story though hopefully it’ll help in his healing

[@markoembarko9045]

I need more of these videos. Currently in the process of speaking out to the courts about the sexual abuse I endured as a child at the hands of my father. These help me through the healing process! Thank you Mark!

[@Alexandraincognito]

❤

[@stumagoo5433]

Keep your head up!❤❤

[@markoembarko9045]

@@stumagoo5433 Thank you!

[@ChrissieMarie19]

❤️❤️

[@mzfancy4767]

I pray for peace and a sense of calmness when u must relay ur story in court. 🙏🏾💯

[@mikaylacraw99]

when he talked about leaving his job over that man simply touching him that really hit home. a lot of people are physical or like to embrace you when they see you and never with any malice intent but when youve been molested,the touch of anyone gives instant PTSD and its not their fault which makes you feel bad bc they dont know any better.

[@alisasalem8316]

I want to hug him so tight and thank him for sharing the deepest part of his journey through healing. His forgiveness and gentleness...I am inspired. Thank you for doing this work, Mr. Laita. I am a changed woman.

[@Dude-iz2dw]

I am a man but I'm crying, I want to say that this man is really taught that he went through this hell and he's still a human-being.

[@Nomsaiyan]

I was molested when I was 7 years old, never told anyone I'm 31 now, and it has haunt me to this day. I've never been in a relationship, because It made me never really trust anyone ever again. I walk around with a mask, to make people think I'm fine, but it's all a farce. I wish I could have a family, but I feel I'm not worthy of being loved.

[@Weekendwavves]

Hey listen, YOU ARE WORTHY! YOU DESERVE LOVE AND FAMILY!!!! You'll always be worthy and you can get help if you need it.

[@shaniquasewer1895]

You are worthy and you deserve the best of love and life. Your abuser was not worthy. I am sending you much healing love and light 🙏🙏

[@kristinaknox6553]

God loves you. You are worthy to feel love we love you

[@princesskayla10013]

You are so loved of God. So special. His perfect creation. Let no one ever tell you otherwise ❤️

[@sharonbrown6595]

John you deserve happiness and a family like everyone else You r worthy person. Like I am. I was physically abused and all we can do it take one day at a time. And talk about it. There will be a great woman out there that will listen to you life experiences and understand ……. Just don’t hide away. We need you in this world and want you to be safe healthy and happy. Please get help if you need it because you r worth it

[@LibraLeo325]

Being a child victim myself, I totally understand his fear of people. I lived with so much paranoia. He’s strong to step forward and share his experience.

[@chocolate8486]

This is probably the closest thing to therapy most of these victims have ever received , just a platform for them to talk about these demons and a community of people all around the world commenting with no judgement just inspiration , prayers and respect. This is real life. Real stories. I’m here for it 🙌🏿

[@tickledpnk85]

I was abused by a teenage boy when I was 7yrs old in 1970, to this day there’s a song that played a lot on the radio back then that was probably a top 10 cause it was always on that if I here it it takes me back and I don’t want to go to that place in time.

[@blank3115]

I’m sorry. A lot of things trigger me: patterns, home decor, names, colors... I finally said enough is enough and I won’t let it own me. Avoid what you can but take your power back in small ways.

[@sharonaerneckeaitchison4500]

What a sad sad story. A youngster growing up in a home with 15 other siblings, chances are the mother could never keep up with what was going on with all her 16 children, and her boyfriend molesting her child ... it's so sick and hurtful for life. I pray this man will find peace after letting his story out. He seems like a lovely man.

[@Classynsassy87]

I just want to hug him. May God watch over him.

[@rachelybarra2783]

Me 👩to poor😰😥😪😭😢😓 man

[@galileogalilei9297]

He does not want a hug though.

[@iloveyewv]

This one made me tear up. This guy deserves nothing but good in his life. His story is far too common now a days... disgusting how cruel humans can be.. especially to children who r so pure and innocent . My heart breaks for these kids going thru it now

[@Parrotgirl-tattoo]

Children need both parents in the home. The odds of being sexually or physically abuse drop dramatically. There are of course cases of a natural parent being the abuser, but unfortunately we cant stop all instances of abuse. If this man had had a responsible mother & his father in the home, this wouldn't have happened. I blame both parents equally with the piece of crap "Jonathan" & the other pieces of crap. 😡

[@sammyboldt]

Being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and emotional neglect, and more abuse in my early adult hood, your channel has honestly been therapeutic. I've been able to feel more empathy and compassion for human beings I never thought I could, and feel a sense of peace within myself until I'm able to get the help I'm seeking. This pandemic has left a huge shortage of therapist/mental health workers due to the influx in demand, and burnout on people working in the field, and I'm on a 4 month waitlist after reaching out to almost 40 therapists. It's been hard to be patient, but your work helps me and others feel less isolated/alone in our suffering. I also really like that you have interviewed multiple men who are sexual abuse survivors, because unfortunately, there is still too much stigma and shame attached to the idea of a man being a survivor of abuse, because it "demeans their masculinity". The truth is, actually, that those who speak out about their stories (men and women and everyone outside and in between) carry the utmost strength, reclaiming their own power, and not allowing what someone else did to us to dictate our lives any longer--ending a violent cycle. I wish this man the best.

[@melissaespino1326]

Beyond proud of this man. He is so brave for sharing his story. Breaking the cycle and not letting all the negative things that happened in his life carry on to his adult life and seeking help.

[@JustinRothberg]

Amazing how well put together he is after all that. Not a junkie or a dropout. If that’s happened to be I’d be homeless on the streets and in and out of prison. Tough guy. I admire his strength

[@bunnywavyxx9524]

"I just felt ashamed" and that's the worst part.. the victims hold all the guilt, and the shame

[@stefdiazdiaz7067]

It makes no sense and it is so unfair

[@laurapetrilli]

Carl, WE love you. I love you. I pray for you for peace in your heart.

[@OzarkPursuit7883]

Sounds like a broken and intelligent man. My heart goes out to him. May God be with him.

[@sweetseasons2510]

safeguarding every child is everyone’s responsibility ….. no exceptions xx

[@babakazi808]

I was molested by my father and a step brother at 6 years old till about 8. He was too drunk to remember anything so he's basically in denial even though I've told him. Everyone deals with SA differently, but it always has negative life changing impact/consequences. Changes your personality. Effects everyone dfferently, but it never truly goes away. You just learn to live with it. Hearing others talk about their stories helps with the healing process. Not only with the listener, but the story teller too. Edit: I'm glad he asked the right question. I always wanted to know why too

[@markoembarko9045]

So true 💓 We ask why, but it's something we can never understand. And why could we? It's not supposed to happen!

[@ethelbentancourt4251]

I believe you I've been there time therapy incest AA helps yes it's destroys your inner child you're in my prayers 🙏

[@IngridHurwitz]

🌹❤️

[@clerictamer]

Love and strength to you.

[@sanandreasX]

Nah, I call bs... He remembers.

[@thabsmkhize2481]

My mom taught me at the age of 6: grownups can be evil and some of them touch children. TELL SOMEONE. If you don't tell, they won't stop. Guaranteed. Peace and love to this brave man and to the little boy in him who was never rescued ❤️

[@WikkidPiggy666]

Oh Carl 😔❤️ this was heartbreaking.. so many people let him down as a little boy. If only one person had picked up on the signs that something was happening to him and been a friend, things might have turned out differently for him as an adult. This world is a cruel, cruel place sometimes.. I hope he’s doing well.

[@candybroughtitup]

If you not gonna protect your children at least teach them how to defend themselves or even better stop having them. 🤬

[@elizabethsmith2948]

Agreed

[@Allahakbah]

AMEN

[@666blindrider]

👍👍👍

[@fifilamoore1718]

It’s really so simple!! Just cos you can have children, doesn’t mean you should!!

[@TK-ij2xi]

The prob is people who allow "strangers" around the kids are literally in the throes of their own trauma - they can't see. If we can create a rule of thumb; " you can't meet my kid until you've been around proving yourself 6 months" then the baddies will fall away even if mom is blind.... hopefully.

[@angelategos8109]

my heart bleeds for this gentleman but at the same time I am impressed with his strength and kindness!! he is a strong individual and the fact that he helps kids shows the depth of his rich soul.

[@lou-anneburnsmartinez1338]

Thank you Carl and Mark for this extremely brave interview. Carl's ability to speak so openly and candidly about the fear, confusion, silence, isolation and trauma of sexual molestation will help so many others. I wish him peace and joy.

[@emilygonas804]

I’ve never watched one of these videos where I actually broke down and cried, but you can see the pain in this man. This one really hurt me to watch. This man just wants to help others from going through what he did

[@rainbowbaby196]

Your a brave man Carl!! He’s such a sweet but broken soul. Hold your head up high, and just know you are a good man & a fantastic father to your daughter.x

[@satanicfaygo666]

As a child myself who was groomed, i feel for him..your childhood is taken away in that moment..pray for Carl..He has a strong spirit..

[@roemello3ify]

I know the feeling of avoiding eye contact with people so theres no attachment . May the ancestors keep and guide you forever King.

[@WhatsyourIQ1]

Ancestors? You mean God…

[@magicallyme96]

@@WhatsyourIQ1 no she meant Ancestors. 🙌🏾

[@WhatsyourIQ1]

@@magicallyme96 well I mean God

[@justthefacts8872]

Hurt people, hurt people, but you've broken the cycle. God Bless You.

[@sayittomyfaceortapglassfar4392]

That's the dumbest saying 🙄😒it's so corny what are you even trying to emphasize? Everyone has been hurt, so really now?

[@justthefacts8872]

I'm not going to explain anything to you. Google it, then waste someone else's time by picking a fight with your repulsive questions.

[@Seatowntony206]

@@sayittomyfaceortapglassfar4392 it's facts I've seen so many of these interviews and not me personally but my step mom was abused when she was little not everyone abused becomes an abuser yeah we bumped heads but she never touched my siblings or me, she was so traumatized you could barely get a hug outta her if you hugged her from behind she would seize up and be frozen in place shit is EXTREMELY sad. My daughter is 3 and if she were to go through this id be in prison or kill myself for letting her down

[@sayittomyfaceortapglassfar4392]

@@justthefacts8872 I just don't like that saying I believe it's misleading. I understand have compassion and caution with those that have been traumatized, it's just an irritating statement to me(hurt people hurt people)because it's so general, may be my autistic tendency, idk.

[@sayittomyfaceortapglassfar4392]

@@justthefacts8872 funny how any opposition to your thought process is repulsive, why don't you google narcissist too, and learn more about your repulsive behavior, ol sociopath.

[@susanhowsden9398]

'WHY DID YOU MOLEST ME ?' . . .'DO I FORGIVE THEM ? YES, ITS HARD AS HELL, BUT I DO' . . .YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES CARL & MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU FOR HEALING & SUPPORT.

[@tallyelizabeth7641]

You’re not alone, not you or anyone. I’m so fucking deeply sorry, you have so much hope and potential. It’s not your fault, you’re a handsome man and you deserve confidence.

[@conor7187]

Nobody thinks you're gay. Survivors often blame themselves for what happened, but that's just the wrong frame of mind to be in. I can say with great certainty that nobody will ever touch you like that again. Look at the bright side. You get to live life with a greater understanding of what can potentially go wrong and stop it from happening your daughter. Stay strong and thank you for doing the interview

[@vonderloo3184]

Codependency needs to be addressed if victimization is going to stop. Predators do pick these people out of crowds. Boundaries and healthy relationships need to be learned. It does repeatedly happen until those things are addressed in the victims. Also dwelling on childhood abuses and feelings of helplessness can only serve to perpetually keep in a state of depression. Been there and learned.

[@conor7187]

@@vonderloo3184 can you explain how codependency comes into this situation?

[@vonderloo3184]

@@conor7187 As was explained to me by DOJ Agent after physical, mental emotional and stalking abuse, Predators do pick these people out of crowds. Codependency. Research it. Makes you a victim that is recognizable to predators. Like a neon flashing sign on your forehead, predators can pick them out of a crowd of 200 people and zero in.

[@conor7187]

@@vonderloo3184 I know what codependency is, but I'm just curious as to how it's related to this topic. Codependency doesn't make you a victim though. It could make you more susceptible to staying in a bad relationship for longer than you should, but what's that got to do with predators?

[@vonderloo3184]

@@conor7187 your answer is in this thread. Reading comprehension.