Chinese VS Western Weird Cultural Differences. How different are we?

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@jaredfaa Жыл бұрын

你觉得处对象应该考虑属相/八字相合相克吗？说说你的故事吧 😆

@maxyang7919 Жыл бұрын

Maybe I just want to show off my English. Dunno. It's like, 我已经知道你的中文有多好了，现在让我炫耀一把我的英文吧hia hia hia!

@あなた以外の誰でもない Жыл бұрын

我覺得這跟國外的星座很像，很多人也都相信xx星座不能跟yy星座在一起，否則會不幸 xD

@nywf1824 Жыл бұрын

People will still get compatibility done no matter the culture from time to time out of curiosity but never really follow thru with tradition to abstain if 相克. But everyone will use that some way or other as an escape reason to use it for blame when things turn bad or sour especially when you know you are but dont want to be or feel at fault. Compatibility checks are not just between couples but also amongst friends, colleagues, espcially bosses + future in laws pretty much everyone.

@yumendengdai Жыл бұрын

what about 星座？同理可证 Bro。

@SpikeOuu Жыл бұрын

啊难道没有觉得这是个很好的借口嘛？比如你不喜欢你的相亲对象，你又不想直说一些话伤害他或她，就说我们八字不合，他或她就懂意思了。我们这儿都这样操作。

@xiaotonghu9332 Жыл бұрын

我其实最不能理解的是好多老外直接穿鞋上床，真的满头问号😂😂我连在外面穿的衣服裤子都不会碰自己睡觉的地方的，回家第一件事是换衣服😅

@LeonLee1991 Жыл бұрын

而且鞋子放在衣柜里，还把鞋子放到洗衣机里洗，在家里有地毯的地方也是穿着鞋子踩来踩去......哈哈哈哈

@反华畜生都去死 Жыл бұрын

床必须是家里最干净的地方

@ardyyou7465 Жыл бұрын

我有时候都穿羽绒直接睡觉的

@debmar4857 Жыл бұрын

其实虽然我是意大利人，但是我也跟你一样做哈哈，不过在我们这里很多人觉得这个事情没有什么问题，不会觉得脏什么的

@whisperingstill3362 Жыл бұрын

穿鞋上床我不会干，但是穿衣服裤子上床我觉得无所谓，除非在外面沾上了什么不干净的东西。

@katelee1235 Жыл бұрын

感覺Kevin和Jared的互動還是那麼來電呀！😂

@user-qm9zg1op8f Жыл бұрын

哈哈好喜欢凯文和杰里得一起做的视频

@PierreWelbec Жыл бұрын

Ah, there's nothing like true bromance, great to see Kevin again! 😂 And, to answer your questions: 1) As a "Westerner", I never put my suitcase on my bed (I travel a lot), 2) I mostly shower in the evening (after sports), 3) I love drinking water from tab (especially in "Western" rural areas), 4) my wife kept her surname, although added mine to hers (it's a practice you will see a lot particularly in science/academia where people publish a lot), 5) and when we got married a couple of years ago, we explicitely asked for cash (instead of the usual list of gifts that guest can "register" for). Not very typical of Westerners, right?😉 Loved your vid! Cheers, Pierre 😘

@尼可-v2d Жыл бұрын

你是典型的asian man

@PierreWelbec1 Жыл бұрын

@@尼可-v2d 😊

@minichohuang1595 Жыл бұрын

Kelvin叔叔一直都是很客观的！说得很容易让人信服，加油！你们俩要多多合作呀！

@yixuan9213 Жыл бұрын

来了，新欢旧爱都在呀🎉

@yuefeiyang691 Жыл бұрын

凯文不错，对事物的理解，表述都很精准，希望多来跟杰里德和苏苏互动👍

@linkfang9300 Жыл бұрын

9:07 我人在加拿大，我可以稍微解释一下水质硬的问题，我们平时绝大部分时间都是喝烧开过的水，两三年，烧水壶底还很干净，没有任何水垢。之前买的咖啡机也送过水硬度试纸，如果1个格变色就是很软了，结果是，一个格都没变色。所以加拿大，至少我在的渥太华，水质是真的很软那种。

@mydogisbailey Жыл бұрын

I am a chinese-canadian. After spending almost my whole life in the west I still don't understand 1) why we have to smile at strangers in the street and elevator 2) why we have to hold the door for someone who is like 20 meters away just to make them have to uncomfortably run to catch the door and feel obliged to say thank you. HAHA

@jaredfaa Жыл бұрын

The awkward smiling as you walk by someone on the street. Maybe even say an awkward "how's it going?", I feel you. hahaha

@ruedelta Жыл бұрын

@@jaredfaa I've been in China for over 5 years and I still can't break these habits. Send help.

@AmelieZh Жыл бұрын

The door thing, I do it depending on the distance 😂😂

@lizzieli8096 Жыл бұрын

诶我小时候记得我楼上的邻居在加拿大读书然后回来过暑假什么的在电梯有对我礼貌的笑我当时觉得哇她好友好但后来发现她只是可能国外待多了的原因

@chantelzh5951 Ай бұрын

@@jaredfaa 我们澳洲就是这样啊，how's it going/g'day/how are you etc...hahaha

@kristyng3998 Жыл бұрын

So happy to see you and Kevin back in the same video!!!

@牛眼旁观 Жыл бұрын

份子钱源于祝福，像华南F3的份子钱就很少，只是某些省份变成了攀比。

@angusxb Жыл бұрын

我的習慣是每天回家後，就去洗澡洗頭把一天的塵埃細菌都洗掉，衣服都拿去洗。不洗澡是不會上床的。

@cici000lin Жыл бұрын

Insightful, relatable and hilarious vid 😂 my husband is from the US and I hyphenated my last name when we got married. Our future kids would have the hyphen name too. They don’t tell you how annoying it is to 1. update your name across all systems, especially government ones and 2. how much extra work it will be for any paperwork related tasks because systems might read your last name differently (sometimes with hyphen, sometimes without, sometimes one of them as the middle name 😅) I’m often on the phone forever trying to figure out how they spelled it in the system I wanted to share the south american tradition which is you always have 2 last names - one from mom and one from dad. and I love that!! ❤ 最后我老公做的我不能理解的事情就是他把鞋子和其他衣裤一起放进洗衣机洗 🥲😂

@HeidenPark Жыл бұрын

好喜欢杰里德和苏苏这一对。淳朴真实接地气。❤❤❤

@千山雪 Жыл бұрын

南方人洗澡勤一些，北方干燥，并不会每天洗。我个人隔一天洗一次，夏天天天洗，出汗多有时一天洗三次。冬天如果天天洗的话皮肤会干燥泛红发痒，隔一天洗一次也会，涂身体乳也不可以。

@wangyuning285 Жыл бұрын

是的，我之前也看到有医生说冬天，尤其是北方的冬天，最好不要每天洗，可能这也是为什么搓澡在北方比较普遍，不能每天洗就每次搓干净点🤣

@nobletalent Жыл бұрын

好喜欢凯文! Miss you bro!

@chrystels.1 Жыл бұрын

法国人，小的时候我们晚上洗澡（浴盆），到了青少年我们渐渐早上洗澡（淋浴）。当然锻炼之后，很热的暑天，会洗个两次澡，等等。。。看情况吧。

@shiyexu Жыл бұрын

“在吗”这个开头语，跟当年的qq是真的有很大关系，因为当年电脑和智能手机没有普及，大部分都是跑去网吧或人不在电脑前，有时候遇到好友隐身，也不知道在不在，所以大家上线的第一句基本上问在吗或在不在！

@TheGLOSSette Жыл бұрын

I think more westerners, at least in Canada, are asking for money as a wedding gift. I went to a wedding where a couple asked for money which went towards their honeymoon cost. Also, a lot of couples these days already live together so no need for all those typical wedding gifts like plates, cutlery, towels etc. So hence money. But those who prefer money will state it in the invite.

@あなた以外の誰でもない Жыл бұрын

我在歐洲看到的是，哪怕是同一個國家，某些地區的自來水就能直接喝，因爲當地自來水可能是來自雪山或者深層地下水，都屬於天然礦泉水，而其他地區就不行了

@chan4man1 Жыл бұрын

以前有一段時間跟很多外國人做同事，他們有些習慣真的讓人很難理解。比如： 1, 喜歡用口水舔郵票（不髒嗎？） 2, 只喝冰水，連常溫水都不喝 3, 早餐只會吃谷物麥片泡冰牛奶 4, 穿著鞋子直接踩在板凳上墊高等等 ........

@qxhuang3560 Жыл бұрын

在美国我真的见过用口水舔邮票的😅 早餐吃牛奶泡cereal是因为很方便又快。

@lh7016 Жыл бұрын

口水舔邮票是因为邮票有背胶

@chan4man1 Жыл бұрын

@@lh7016 當然是因為有背膠，但用口水舔一來不衛生，二來就會把背膠吃進肚子內。為甚麼不用清水呢？

@yixuan9213 Жыл бұрын

后面的猫猫动了一下，我还以为抱枕之类的自己动了😮

@心目 3 ай бұрын

結婚的分子錢不是單純的錢的問題, 他最重要的意義是互助性質, 婚喪皆是. 以後親友有事也要相對互助的, 類似不定期的分期付款.

@songof6p Жыл бұрын

In Quebec it's actually law that women are required to keep their maiden name after marriage for the sake of gender equality. Even those who want to take their husband's name are legally unable to.

@danielwang2277 Жыл бұрын

我也是魁北克长大（在那里上的中学和大学）也觉得她们不用冠夫姓我以为说法语的都这样后来被一个法国姐姐diss了哈哈

@卢大大-q6i Жыл бұрын

在么？这句话根源来自早期qq时代。那时候qq不是一个真的即时通讯工具，大部分人都不可能实时qq在线，早期的qq也习惯隐身，所以联系人时都习惯先问在么。再决定文本是是留言体还是即使体。

@hli150 Жыл бұрын

有个好朋友老婆是美国白人，结婚后主动要求改成他姓，我还在她facebook上看到她的announcement了，很骄傲的那种😄

@Seafood1234 Жыл бұрын

以前有位西班牙朋友去我家住，都是早上洗澡，到了晚上一身汗就穿著穿一整天的衣服躺在床上，這樣睡覺不會很不舒服嗎？😅

@心目 3 ай бұрын

過一陣子讓他去聞聞看床和棉被那五味雜陳的味道.

@rutube2006 Жыл бұрын

感觉这个视频是讲述苏苏和杰里德小夫妻磨合的故事😂

@syf0105 Жыл бұрын

“在吗” 是因为当年qq隐身功能，都知道他可能在线但是隐身了，所以先试探性的来一句“在吗” ，“好”习惯保留到了现在哈哈

@chan4man1 Жыл бұрын

不懂問「在嗎？」有甚麼問題，只是想確定對方是否方便聊天而已。反而有讀不回才討厭！

@陈若为 Жыл бұрын

@@chan4man1 现在看到在吗，第一反应就是要来借钱了，特别是那种很久不联系的。😂

@chan4man1 Жыл бұрын

@@陈若为不會啊！如果有人問我「在嗎？」我會馬上回他一句：「在吶！」

@jielunmo6833 Жыл бұрын

无论冬天还是夏天，无论有没有出门，晚上睡觉前必须要洗澡，来自一个广东人的倔强

@nywf1824 Жыл бұрын

冬天晚上不洗澡👌没什么汗没问题而且冷死了，不臭没异味就行了。我男友是法国人他也是早上洗澡但在一起时他会乖乖的晚上洗2次澡。如果在外吃了火锅之类回来有臭味不洗澡没洗头就没床睡让他睡阳台！On this point it’s basic respect and hygiene if you have a partner, culture as an excuse is lame unless your partner is absolutely 100% ok with it.

@Erin-Zhang Жыл бұрын

这个属于有点东亚人特权，因为没狐臭这个事情只有在东亚是主流，东亚有狐臭的低于20%，其他地方是刚好相反，没狐臭的低于20%😂

@rosemaryskeen9670 Жыл бұрын

Wearing street shoes inside the house is a big NoNo for me! I take two showers in a normal day.😅

@smallant. Жыл бұрын

我在加拿大都是用過濾器/淨水器接自來水喝。改名這方面就沒任何規定，跟誰都可以也可以把兩個人的姓加在一起變成一個超長的姓。

@zyctc000 Жыл бұрын

"左拥右抱" 人生赢家杰里德

@fannybirot2362 Жыл бұрын

我觉得把结果份子钱理解成众筹也蛮不错的。其实我认为比给礼物更实用，因为有些礼物你不喜欢就是很浪费了！不过给份子钱最好不要攀比，按自己的实际情况给就好了，不需要太大压力。

@joeong4180 Жыл бұрын

I take shower both morning and night before sleep lol

@kinglin9837 Жыл бұрын

在西班牙表示西方的都说的准，在这里的秃头率真的非常高，来到这里后我的头发都变软了，每天都大量掉头发。这里上了年纪的男人基本都是地中海，有头发的中年人非常少见，卫生问题也是无法理解，在外面回家第一件事不会是洗手就可以用手抓东西吃了。回家也直接不换衣服躺在床上。。唯一“融入”了这里的习惯就是现在我也穿着在外面穿的鞋子在屋子里和房间里走动也没什么感觉了。🤣

@denniszyz Жыл бұрын

对我来说以前每天洗两次澡的😂疫情之后有点懒了，所以早上就不洗了。我工作的地方有很多来自不同国家和地区的人，但是遇到外国人会说英语、遇到当地人会说当地语言、遇到香港人会说粤语、遇到中国人就说普通话。我认为这是中国儒家思想的关系，迁就对方比较多点吧？还有跟夫姓自古中国就是跟夫姓的，直至现在提倡男女平等才开始停止。我记得我太外婆就是有跟夫姓的，有些香港人也有这习惯。西方国家会改夫姓也有很多人老外会吧自己的姓氏保留在名字和夫姓之间。

@whisperingstill3362 Жыл бұрын

17:40 我也是这么认为的。以前大家都不富裕，从互帮互助的角度出发建立了这么一个约定俗成的传统，现在变味了而已

@hoseachen3255 Жыл бұрын

对于洗澡是要看地域的！长江以北大概洗澡频率没那么高，对于长江以南的地域，比如广东拿是要天天洗的，天气热没有不出汗的

@twygee Жыл бұрын

Although the name change traditional may have stemmed from a negative past, I think it also gives people a great deal of power, as they get to decide whether or not to take on their partner's name. For someone to be wiling to use their partner's name is a sign of respect and love for the partner and their family

@longlangago Жыл бұрын

又合体了hhh 感觉苏苏以后也可以发一个那种视频，can’t believe it’s finally me and you and you and me, and your friend Steve….

@jyzh3936 Жыл бұрын

直饮自来水......西班牙马德里的自来水听说是山泉水，水质很好，直饮没问题,在学校真的是直接喝，开始很不习惯。后来发现西班牙人很多家里都有饮水过滤，还有很多人经常买超市矿泉水煮咖啡等。

@danielwang2277 Жыл бұрын

我住西班牙的时候他们都说马德里的水是最好的因为是Guadarama雪山上的水

@DragonriderEpona Жыл бұрын

Is putting one's suitcase on the bed to pack a North American thing? Because I've never seen anyone doing it and I'm Central European 🙈

@sophiexu1463 Жыл бұрын

哇哇哇凯文来啦❤

@feishenzhang Жыл бұрын

小脸这个不是中国习俗。但凡上点年纪都会喜欢银盘大脸，认为那是福气长相。以前我奶奶就会说这个小头鬼😂

@sikevon8903 Жыл бұрын

长辈喜欢鹅蛋脸啊，胡静那种脸型。瓜子脸也是传统美女脸型啊。

@maggiezhai1491 Жыл бұрын

我不太理解的是西方家庭，如果成年子女工作后还住在家里就要付房租，帮父母买了东西就要算的很清楚…

@yuedu1130 Жыл бұрын

没想到苏苏年纪轻轻这么多迷信的习惯😅

@bottomless_pit Жыл бұрын

Yeah the suitcase thing was a really good point!! I'm from middle east and every time I see it in a movie, I'm like:wtf?!!!

@Kzerrr Жыл бұрын

我是早上洗澡的不洗根本没法出门因为发型还有fresh new day的感觉😂 晚上看情况洗

@kickiniitbak Жыл бұрын

Growing up Chinese-American, I never understood shoes in the house. It's so dirty! And also lots of western movies/tv shows, show people chillin' on the bed/sofa with SHOES on. Oh my Asianess, a piece of me always dies. But I will say, I never understood the "girls on their menstrual cycle can't drink cold liquids". I'm sorry, I can't be gulping down boiling tea in 90 degree weather lol.

@isabellachen7132 Жыл бұрын

行李箱肯定不能放床上收拾，除非新的，不止輪子，整個外殼經過一個旅程髒死了，基本朋友來訪也不會坐你床上。初一還是可以掃地的，只是不掃出門，不動刀和不吵嘴是必須的，意思是一年之初好開頭嘛。洗澡基本一天一次，但也曾經有過一個周末懶在家裏發霉，沒洗澡哈哈。結婚還真是助力朋友，尤其香港地方小，買東西不合用就浪費了地方和錢，直接給$讓朋友自己買有需要的，如果閨蜜好友就會合資買新居的家具電器。

@mingtang9364 Жыл бұрын

一个典型的中国人告诉你，婚礼可不就是众筹吗？无论中外！只是在中国更早更现实，钱的的自主自由度更高。当然它在农业的熟人社会也很现实人们会量力而行；现在就是攀比造成的困境。

@Austin-ut4qe Жыл бұрын

的确生活习惯很多不一样。我会晚上回家之后会洗个澡，不仅可以洗去一天的疲惫，睡觉也会很舒服。第二天早上顶多也就洗个头而已😅

@fannybirot2362 Жыл бұрын

很搞笑，友好轻松有趣的交流！

@peterlin343 Жыл бұрын

自来水那是以前，现在也很少人了，水管基本都老化了，里面矿物质太多，直接喝的家里应该装了全套的过滤器

@绿水长流-v1u Жыл бұрын

南方人每天都洗澡，北方的话，天气比较干燥比较冷，有的高原地区不可以每天都洗澡会生病。

@lizzieli8096 Жыл бұрын

喝自来水真的会掉头发吗。。。可是真的很方便啊。。

@jieli7123 Жыл бұрын

这期好有趣，杰里德很可爱😂

@g.7167 Жыл бұрын

来广东佛山，我们习俗是折个红包角就退回去，或者干脆就不收了。关于洗澡，我也有迷思。不过我就看我啥时候想洗，一般是睡前或者下班回家

@kalren9 Жыл бұрын

我有不理解的是，也是影视里看到的，西方人刷完牙，不用水漱口，要么就用毛巾擦一下嘴，要么就漱一口水，不用多喝几口漱漱干净么，牙膏泡沫要吃到肚子里的呀。😅

@SpikeOuu Жыл бұрын

关于洗澡，大学里有个江苏室友特别喜欢早上洗澡，我还有其他2个弗兰室友早上被吵死，只求他声音小点，因为我们三个都晚上洗澡。😂 关于冠夫姓，我姐远嫁连户口都没迁过去，就怕以后夫妻感情生变，婆家那边卡户口不让走，我们这边大部分都这样，我邻居他家女儿远嫁山东20多年户口都没迁过去。还有，我学弟他家三个儿子，他跟她妈妈姓的，他弟他哥跟爸爸姓。关于生肖八字，我们这边特别信这个，尤其我外公对这方面特别痴迷，还实时买书研究，认识他的人都找他看。关于聊骚，呃呃呃歪果仁一上来就说我可以见你吗？还说什么come for you…还想娶我…才认识几分钟就满嘴sao话，跟他说sorry, I can't，他就说对你有些精神上的坏想法没什么大不呢…真普信男，想yue😅（他以为我女的…简介都说了我是♂）

@西瓜-f7f Жыл бұрын

我这辈子现实中也没遇到过在意生肖属相的人。初一不动刀不洗头啥的，也是第一次听说，只能说国内地域差异也很大，更不用说中西方。

@liuqingyan4696 Жыл бұрын

来了欧洲之后早上洗一次晚上洗一次，冬天也是……

@sabrinaymt Жыл бұрын

很多老外喜欢穿鞋子在家里走。中国人习惯进家拖鞋

@心目 3 ай бұрын

西方女性結婚後改姓, 確實很多人以為不會, 但是傳統上世界諸國幾乎都是如此, 只是近代才有所稍微改變, 如今也大都維持著傳統習俗不變.

@advancededu1 Жыл бұрын

我在美20年，现在也是早上洗澡，喜欢喝冰水，习惯而已，无他。

@anddrevaldivia2971 Жыл бұрын

感觉身边越老越多的同事朋友婚后不改last name了，因为改last name 自己婚前发表的文章署名就很尴尬

@thoughtsinspiron Жыл бұрын

终于和kevin复合了🎉🎉🎉

@xiaoweixue3770 Жыл бұрын

我老家在北方不是每天都洗澡，大概是3天左右吧，因为在南方呆习惯了，现在基本是每天晚上都洗澡

@jingkun72 Жыл бұрын

结婚送钱外国也一样呀。送两百美元或加元的礼品卡，肯定要比送一个人家不想要的东西更受欢迎。另外西方有结婚礼品愿望清单，你直接买新婚夫妇点的东西就行了。这比送钱还直接吧。总之我认为你们在比较西方不熟悉的朋友之间送礼和中国亲朋好友之间送礼。其实如果你比较中国亲朋好友和西方亲朋密友送礼，你会发现没什么区别。

@jjl4806 Жыл бұрын

哈哈，行李箱的问题你们不说我没发现，我老公也是把行李箱放床上

@michelleli399 Жыл бұрын

在加拿大看到超多年轻人站在那里的时候一只脚踩在另一只脚上，这个也是我特别不能理解的～～虽然这边确实灰没有那么大，但是毕竟是鞋底啊，还是很脏啊～～还有穿鞋上床这件事，电影里每次看到都浑身不自在😂😂

@kellyc.7357 Жыл бұрын

也有男生和女生姓的😁，每个家庭可以自行选择的

@AmelieZh Жыл бұрын

我现在也喜欢早上洗因为我晚上下班很晚才回来，lol

@yayingzhang1506 Жыл бұрын

求英文字幕！！！已经三期没能和外国朋友一起看Jared的视频了

@sikevon8903 Жыл бұрын

可以开启英文字幕的，KZbin 不是带这个功能吗？现在还有翻译，我看其他非英语视频也可以了😊

@AmelieZh Жыл бұрын

点cc

@kkfg3008 Жыл бұрын

哇好久没见凯文了

@yi6958 Жыл бұрын

kevin好好笑

@shirleyleong892 Жыл бұрын

最不能接受不洗澡就直接睡覺

@卢大大-q6i Жыл бұрын

属相→星座。小时候看成长的烦恼，感觉完全不能接受他们穿着鞋直接躺床上。

@chunyuwu1947 Жыл бұрын

现在我家乡的人结婚是不收份子钱了，还收到主家一个小小红包回礼呢。

@牛眼旁观 Жыл бұрын

在吗？是一种礼貌，而且也不是很急的事情，或者自己有事先问一下，不在就去先做了自己的事情。

@wanyuhuang8802 Жыл бұрын

夏天比冬天屋里还冷；洗衣机洗鞋；一定要开车到健身房再运动，而不是走过去，哪怕很近。

@Kanukosan Жыл бұрын

This was really funny and interesting. I lived in China before and can confirm many of their points. About talking in English to foreigners who can speak Chinese (happens not only in China but in Japan and other Asian countries), please, Chinese people, have in mind that not all foreigners are British, Americans, Canadians, Australians... to many, many foreigners, English is a foreign language. Why should a Portuguese like me, who can speak Chinese, speak in English with a Chinese? It's absurd. But even if I tell the Chinese that for me English is a foreign language, the Chinese look at me in bewilderment, and keep on speak in English! Also, about the surnames: in the West, the surname thing varies from country to country. In Portugal, women don't lose their surname (surnames, actually), they just add the husband's last surname (still biased though, because the husband does not do the same). Anyway, many women do not do that anymore.