Choosing a c-section without medical reason - Why did I chose to give birth this way *HONEST*, pt. 1

Giving birth is one of, if not THE biggest event in a woman's life, both mentally and physically. I chose to have a cesarean birth and I knew right after that I really wanted to share this experience. Being pregnant I watched a lot of KZbin videos about births, other women's experiences and a lot of baby content. However - I found it very hard, if not almost impossible to find content on elected cesarean births. If this video can contribute to just one woman being a bit more confident in her choice (no matter if it ends up being a cesarean or a vaginal birth), the purpose of this video have been fulfilled. I am in no way a medical professional in any shape or form, this is just my journey, sharing my thoughts on the biggest thing that has physically happened to me. How I chose to bring the most important person in my life, into our lives.

[@rochi6270]

My mom chose to have a c section with both my sister and I. We were also very big babies and she said it was the best decision she could’ve ever made. If I ever decide to have a baby I will definitely do the same. Thank you for sharing your experience 🥰

[@MrsKjrstad]

How nice to hear another great experience! You have a brave mom. Thank you 😃❤️

[@pupture9328]

I'm just curious does it leave a big scar on the stomach, I'm just not brave enough for the pain of natural and I have a horrible phobia of needles to the point of crying and throwing up at the sight of one so c section might be the best option but I dont want to leave a bad scar

[@atalanta9353]

@@pupture9328 Sadly, I can believe someone saying they’re not prepared to go through the usual, natural rigours of childbirth, these days, despite so many millions of women having given birth for millions of years. The ‘can’t be bothered’, social media elements of more recent generations are such a disappointment. Childbirth is scary and you don’t know how you’ll do it but you buckle up and recognise that life is no longer confined to your little Insta world and act like a proper bloody parent. Jesus, what has the world come to?

[@sophiehobley828]

​@atalanta9353 as someone with deep deep medical trauma from my health, who has also grown up knowing my physiology will almost certainly mean i can't ever have a natural birth I've had a different perspective on this. Coz I won't ever get a choice. If I have a baby it'll be a csec baby. And I've never been scared. All my school friends exoressed fear about giving birth. I never did. Surgery is also hard to recover from - especially whilst being a new parent. Pregnancy is hard. There is no easy option. But there are now options. And the fact of the matter is that choosing not to do something that for you is TRAUMATIC isn't a bad thing. Why do people have to be traumatised to just become a parent? You can become a dad without the trauma of child birth, so why not a mum (I'm just going with assigned gender at birth for a moment but the same applies for trans folk just the opposite)? Why does it have to be so much harder for one parent? Are you saying that the parent who doesn't give birth isn't as good of a parent?

[@devikaseth2742]

Thankyou for this video ,i have an elective c sec scheduled for next week ,there's no medical reason and I couldn't find any real stories of women choosing a csec birth .Even though I had decided a long time ago that c sec delivery would be the way I gave birth ,there's some strange reason the mind keeps going back and forth. This video is exactly what I needed today ❤️

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you! I hope you have the most amazing birth experience 😃❤️ All the good vibes and hugs from me

[@joanajeanpaul9745]

I need a gynecologyste yo planned elective c section .can you help me please

[@annabellejane6686]

Natural was a horrific experience. I suffered PTSD and still have nightmares 5 years later. My second baby was a planned C Section ❤ it was wonderful, calm, quicker recovery. Dont let midwives or OBs tell you C Sections are not positive or longer healing. Its just not true.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Sorry to hear you had a negative experience with your first ❤️ how wonderful that you where able to have a good experience with the second 💪❤️

[@Sasha-zl1xr]

Honestly, that is very reassuring to hear and I leaning further toward getting a c section when the time comes for me to have a baby, but it's also important to keep in mind that different people will have different experiences. I pray I have the same positive experience with c section as you, but it will be different for each individual.

[@totesmegoatscrystal9688]

Funny I had two, worst pain I ever had, long recovery time.. who is paying yall to lie to these young new mothers? Are you fucking kidding me? I'm 1 week pp right now, and I know your fucking lying

[@MrsKjrstad]

Hm, I can’t really see how someone can be lying about their experience. I had my experience and I am sad to hear that you seem to have had a negative one. I hope you are ok, and that you are able to process that. Please keep your tone respectful and kind in here. No woman ever gained anything good putting down another woman.

[@ericajacobson8121]

I want to thank you so much for this video, I'm 14 weeks with my first and already have cleared an elective c-section with my OB. There are just so many negative outcomes with traditional births these days and nobody seems to talk about this topic enough! ♥️

[@MrsKjrstad]

Congratulations! 🫶🥰 I hope you get the birth you dream of All the best of luck from me

[@CrystalB240]

How did you do this? My midwife said I most likely will not be able to get one.. although I feel this is within my human rights on how I want to give birth!

[@MrsKjrstad]

@@CrystalB240 hi, I’m really hoping for you that you get the birth you want! 💛 Not sure where you are located but in the Nordics it is something you can ask for and if persistent, have the right to get.

[@SuperLuckao]

Where do u get info about so many negative outcomes naturally? It is natural and normal to give birth naturally. I suspect women are getting scared of natural and being talked into C. I'm seeing it's a trend. Ur baby collects good bacteria for immune health in the birth canal. It's that way for a reason.

[@vanessachiunda7262]

Exactly. The birth trauma rates have apparently gone up to 6% now according to some doctor whose interview I watched some few weeks back. And I'd never even heared of the term until now. Alot of horrendous things happen with that and I don't want to take my chances.

[@nordiclights1]

"Not all designs are good" :D!! Thank you for this thought and also for sharing your thoughts, feelings and experiences about c-section and your story so naturally. I do not have any incline to natural birth either so far and I never had. It is good that we have a choice now and that we can live with this choice. I found this video yesterday and subscribed to this channel immediately. I like the tone and the funny-practical approach. Sometimes it irritates me when I see pregnancy or motherhood videos which are over-glorifying every detail in a cliché way. Also this aspects of life contain a lot of reality and everyday in them and it is good to talk about that too.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you for the kind words and your thoughts! ❤️😃 and welcome to the fam

[@Francesca8467]

Here in Italy they discourage C section so much for many reasons even more when you have no health conditions to request one. My gyno though recommended because my baby girl is big and because of my age there is a chance I don’t dilate properly or I go through a long labour to then end up in emergency. She managed to book the appointment for my c section and now I have a date. Like you I had my doubts because all other doctors were discouraging me and telling me terrible stories about the recovery. I trust my gyno and I stick to my decision. Also something that you don’t mention and many don’t mention is the sexual consequences you might have with vaginal birth. Lack of sexual sensitivity for yourself and your partner, loose vagina, prolapse, urinary or fecal problem. My gyno said that with c section my genitals would be intact and to be honest I want that. I want to keep having a healthy intimacy with my husband without pain, insensitivity or discomfort. Of course I am scared of c section particularly the Rico very but I am more concerned about vaginal birth and it’s consequences. My vagina, my baby, my choice

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I wish you the best possible birth for you and your choices and circumstances 💛 Nature did encourage birth to be in a certain way, I just believe that we have hospitalized natural birth in our western countries and that natural birth needs to be “brought back home/be less interrupted” for it to be the best choice. That is how I feel now after a lot of conversations and research. Luckily we also have a second option that is a great one in many cases. I am beyond happy for my c section and also felt my healing went really well and fast. Best of wishes again to you!! 😃

[@joanajeanpaul9745]

I am 35 I will have my first Baby, how hold are you when you giving birth?please .I want a planning csection to.

[@H4t0e]

You’re so honest and sweet. Thank you for this mama. I’ve been questioning what I want as a young mom and you made me empowered to know my choice.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you 🙏🫶 made my day to hear!

[@tenminutetasks]

Thank you for sharing this! It's true, there isn't much content for women to feel positive in their choice of an elective c section. I tried so hard to deliver my son naturally, we ended up getting infections and sent to the NICU for a week, so next time I'd like to go straight to deliver by csection. That's based on my experience and my choice. I used to care what other mama's thought about my decision but I've come to peace with myself and I know I'm just as powerful as a naturally delivering mama.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you for sharing! You are so powerful 🙌❤️

[@SR1012S]

Its amazing to learn that someone far away from me (I am in Canada) has the exact same story regarding their preference on C section. Your thought process was exactly as mine. Its nice to come across your video to know I am not the only one who feels this way about natural delivery.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you! I’m happy that you feel recognition in my story ❤️

[@killerangel4160]

I’m going to have to have a c section in a week and a half. Long story short I had a vaginal birth with my son and I tore abnormally and never healed correctly. First 4 months I couldn’t walk without being in excruciating pain (felt every step i took I was being stabbed down there). I had 2 corrective surgeries and other procedures and it took me 10 months to recover. I’m still having on off pain but I’m able to manage it by Gods grace. It’s not what I would have chosen but it’s for my best and my husband and I are trusting in God and praying the c section will go smoothly. My advice is you need to do what’s best for you in your given situation. The most important thing is baby and mommy are ok.

[@MrsKjrstad]

How exciting with a new baby soon 🫶🥳 I’m sorry to hear that you went through that. And you are oh so right!! Mommy and baby is the most important thing ❤️

[@jessicaf184]

thank you, this has really helped to validate my concerns around a vaginal birth.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Happy you found something useful in the video 🙌

[@bethciaccio3450]

Thank you!! I feel exactly the same way, trying to get pregnant atm and the only way I can imagine is with a caesarean, I just know it.

[@bethciaccio3450]

And also thank you for this video because you're right, there is really limited content about this. I think the brainwashing about 'natural' birth is so intense that people are like shamed into doing that or if they choose c section keeping quiet about it. I've been reading alot and even in a book like 'How to Give Birth Like a Feminist' there is an obvious bias towards vaginal birth. So yes, thank you for this video!!

[@MrsKjrstad]

Hi Beth! It makes me truly happy that you where able to find some support in the video. I will keep my fingers crossed for your baby journey and hope that you have a wonderful birth experience when you get there 🥰❤️

[@TerezaBarloon]

Thank you for this video. I have sooo many thoughts and opinions on this topic lol. I am TTC currently and have already talked to my doctor and she was super chill about having an elective CS, which made me much calmer and much more excited about the whole ordeal (I also have pcos which complicates things somewhat). I don’t understand why on one hand we encourage women who chose home births for example (and that’s totally fine if that’s what’s right for them), but still discourage women from csections, gaslighting them about the risks that come with vaginal birth (look up naturalistic fallacy) In my ideal world, everyone would weigh in the risks and benefits of each option (home/unmedicated/medicated/surgery) and decide for themselves what makes the most sense for them, their body and their pregnancy. Even then I still think most women would probably chose vaginal birth, so this panic around C-sections doesn’t make much sense to me. Out of all the stories I’ve heard/read about (dozens maybe hundreds), some of the worst outcomes happened when they tried avoiding the surgery at all costs, and I think it’s absolutely tragic that women are so discouraged and frightened about the possibility of cs that they put themselves through absolute horror style situations just to avoid it.

[@ninasandoval3781]

Thank You for sharing this!! I want a C section as well. I’ve never felt I wanted to have a natural birth. I’m hoping the DR will allow me. I will express my concerns.

[@MrsKjrstad]

I hope you get the birth you want 🙏🫶

[@SuperLuckao]

Why not?? It's natural that babies go through a birth canal°

[@MrsKjrstad]

@@SuperLuckao people’s why is always so different 🙏 so that is a great question if you are sincerely curious to learn about where others thoughts around birth comes from. I was afraid of the after effects of birth and made a great choice for my mental health - and ultimately my baby.

[@ninasandoval3781]

@@SuperLuckao because that’s what I want to do! My body my choice 🙋🏼‍♀️🤗

[@loviselinneasvendsen2985]

Thanks for sharing your experience!🥰 Loved to hear a different view on the C-section choice and why 💖

[@MrsKjrstad]

Lovise Linnéa Svendsen happy you enjoyed!😘 that means the world to me ❤️

[@Yuri-wm4hm]

I'm currently at 30Weeks and doing more research on Elective CS. Since the beginning of my pregnancy I have already set my mind on having a scheduled CS due to having PCOS and overweight. But on my 1st trim, I lost a lot of weight due to extreme nausea and vomiting and got my BMI to normal, then now had all my tests and ultrasound and all of my results came back normal which was really great and my OB is saying that my situation is very ideal for Vaginal birth. I also have workmates who are also pregnant at the same time and they'te all pushing for Vaginal Birth and whenever I tell someone that I am choosing to have elective CS they are all saying something negative against it. Now I'm getting confused and researching for people with the same ideal as me. I just don't want to push for Vaginal birth then on the process of doing it something happens and still end up having an Emergency CS.

[@Yuri-wm4hm]

The things you're saying in this video on having doubts and the reasons is what I'm going through right now. My mom and husband are really supportive saying that I should go for what I'm really comfortable with. But I want to hear more from mothers with the same stand as me. I googled and all of them is saying the same that this organization that Doctors don't recomment this Elective CS. 😢 and all are showing cons on having CS. But i trust my body more on having C-Section than having Vaginal Birth. I'm also lucky that my doctor is supportive about my decision. 🤍

[@MrsKjrstad]

There will always be pros, cons and different ppl have different opinions. Heck even the same person changes their mind based on experiences we get 😄 I really hope you feel what is good for you, because that will be the right decision. And also, you will 100% know what is right for you and your baby 🥰

[@hestiafae5123]

This is me right now!! I'm 36+5 wanted a c section from the start, spoke to a consultant, feel I got talked out of it and set my mind on a vaginal birth. Last week I was told I had polyhydramnios and I'm back to wanting and now set on c section again. I was c section and my mum is fine me having one, my husband doesn't want me to but is very supportive but I feel like I'm getting a lot of judgement from others for this option. It's our body and our choice. I just don't think I can mentally deal with doing it naturally after being so flip floppy and for my reasons to want one.

[@MrsKjrstad]

@@hestiafae5123 your body your choice 🥰❤️

[@vanessachiunda7262]

Don't follow the crowd my dear. Do what your heart and soul says is right for you. People will always have something to say about anything different

[@Rwynn-q8k]

I support you! Had natural birth when my cervical not even 10 because midwife want to prevent me from c. Then the scar in there from birth last for almost 6 months and brought me to postpartum depression as well. I’m going ask for elective c section for this time.

[@MrsKjrstad]

I am very sorry to hear that happened to you. 💔 I hope you get a dream birth next time, the way you want it 🙏😊

[@NoveltyK9]

I’m so thankful for this. I’m truly truly thankful. My whole life I never wanted to get pregnant or anything. So I was terrified when I got married and of course terrified having my period be late which it was never. I got extremely sick and depressed and would feel sick to my stomach whenever I had to go get an ultrasound. It was really hard to see the baby get bigger everytime. It was really hard having people find out and then when told not to they shared it around and pasted it on t shirts and told other people and said I needed to be excited and everyone telling me how happy they were and it made me fall into a deeper depression. I quit doing most anything. I quit my job, I quit my hobbies, I was extremely suicidal and I participated in self harm. I would lay on my bed all day in a dark room for months. I only got up enough to go to the bathroom and sometimes feed the dogs. My husband had a hard time and he took over helping me with the dogs and he’d bring me food and he’d try to comfort me. He’d cry everytime he saw me hurt myself or say I just wanted things to end. Family relationships started getting bad and we had to cut people out and block people. People shamed me for having the feelings I was having. I was even physically forced out of bed by people and then I had to give up some of my dogs because it hurt seeing them not being cared for when they used to be my entire life. The thought of birth terrified me and having everyone tell me how I needed to have the experience and I needed to do it for the baby and such. I already had trauma from 2 years before when one of my dogs went through a very hard birth and had to have an emergency c section after a very hard delivery of one pup and 6 others were stuck. Then having one pass away an hour after the c section and another 2 weeks later even though I tube fed Andy mom stayed up 4 days caring for her and she just fell once she passed away because she had poured everything into this pup to keep her alive. I had freak outs and it was so hard doing the entire experience. I almost lost my baby girl because she lost so much blood during her c section since her uterus was torn. I was also up to my head in debt to pay for it. It was just a really hard time. And there was more that happened and so having everyone tell me how I needed to feel and how I needed to do things was super depressing and hard. I also lost everything. I got evicted because the dogs were barking because they missed me. I had to rehome several of them. It hurt me more seeing them not being cared for and having fun like I used to do for them. I felt like a failure and I just wanted a c section because I just wanted to be better. I was in a lot of pain all the time. Medications were not working. I also had complications and at this time I’d already lost everything and was living in an RV with no heating or bathroom or anything. Having to waddle to a plastic bag to go to the bathroom and tie it up and throw it in a garbage can and then for a while not being able to get blood pressure readings because I was shivering. Constantly being in pain. Constantly being lonely because my husband had to provide for us and worked 24/7. He also got depressed because he’d leave so early I was not awake yet and he’d come home so late I was asleep. It also hurt him to see all his family turn on him and they wanted him to divorce me because I was not normal and not happy and we were having a hard time. It’s just really hard because I just wanted a c section so I could get better and stop suffering. Finally last week I talked to someone who put me on a schedule and I can definitely relate to the feeling of just peace when you finally are gonna get what you not only want but need. I don’t think I could do birth. I know everyone kept telling me a c section recovery is hard but the pregnancy has been so hard I just want it done. I just want the feeling of the doctors taking care of it and then I can recover. Thank you so much for this video

[@MrsKjrstad]

That sounds like a really though time 🫶 I really hope you get the perfect birth for you and congratulations on your baby 🌷 You have made it through 100% of your bad days 🙏

[@hellokitty_hola]

I was so hopping to find vid like that!!! dealing with the same problem / choice that you described :) thank you

[@MrsKjrstad]

That was exactly why I posted it. Thank you for telling me - warms my heart ❤️🙏

[@theheartofthestone]

I just had my IUD removed today so my husband and I can start trying and confirmed with my obgyn that an elective C-section wasn't going to be an issue for me. She thankfully said her goal is to make sure my birth is as positive for me as possible and if that means having an elective C-section thats what we'll do. Labor is just so unpredictable and the idea of ending up in a situation that i have absolutely no control in is not for me. I would much rather have a routine surgery where things go a lot more according to plan

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you for sharing! I hope you get exactly the birth that you want and feel is the best for you 🤗

[@na27000]

Thank you for talking about it. My husband always supported me on that desicion but I feel that when women ask me how I will give birth they are judging me if I say it will be a Csection. I can't believe why women are not supportive with the ones who prefer a Csection. I also fear V birth and I need to calm my anxiety. It was hard to convince my Doctors but they finally schedule it for me for Sept 19th. I live in Canada and here they push a lot to make you have a v birth, which I think is unfair. Some women feel like super woman when they say they didnit naturally without epidural, but I am not less woman than then for prefering a csection.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you for sharing! ❤️ I hope you have an amazing birth 🙏😊

[@zuhra2562]

Just like you I knew that I wanted a c section even years before I could think of becoming pregnant one day and I was pretty much for the same reasons you mentioned. Then I moved to France where they never ever accept a c section. I spoke to my midwife and doctor. My midwife was so nice, she tried to convince me to have a natural birth but at the same time she respected my choice and I tried to convince my doctor, but not just her but the whole hospital never accepted that, and my doctor was so offended when I said to her that I wanted a c section. Finally, I did set numerous appointments with numerous doctors and could finally find a doctor in a public hospital in a smaller town, she has set my cesarean date for the next month and I am finally going to have a c section just based on my choice, now I am just a little bit worried about postpartum and the scars and strech marks. I want to tell people that the negative outcome of a natural birth are a lot more than a c section, you should do your research and you will know it.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you for sharing! I hope that you get the birth that is just right for you 🫶 I understand that worry, for me I have never been more comfortable in my body as I am after birth. There are stretch marks and I have a scar but they fade very fast and it is as if you see your self with very clear eyes. Not sure if it was the hormones or what 😆

[@louise744]

That’s not true at all, weak but do you lol

[@Benheps]

In France, approximately 21% of babies are delivered via caesarean section (C-section).

[@minniemouseeful]

I am also sceduled for an elective c section!

[@MrsKjrstad]

I hope you have a great experience 🤗

[@neacienation]

I had a C-section an emergency C-section with my first and a completely natural delivery with my second. I have to say the natural birth was easier after the fact . I should have had a C-section on my second just because my blood pressure was out of control for my delivery. I don't understand why my doctor induced me I could have had a stroke or an aneurysm. I was young though and I didn't stand up for myself and thankfully everything worked out. It's nice to know that doctors listen sometimes❤❤❤

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you for sharing!

[@jennifermartin79]

I am absolutely terrified of natural birth, especially after experiencing the earth-shattering pain of getting an unmedicated endometrial biopsy (the nurse holding my hand during that procedure who had given natural, and had a biopsy said the pains are the same) after that experience I feel solid in knowing I will never have a natural birth

[@MrsKjrstad]

Sounds like you know what you want! That is always good 💪☺️

[@annabellejane6686]

Trust your gut instincts. Natural is horrific. I've had both, and I recommend planned c section to every woman. ❤

[@totesmegoatscrystal9688]

I had that same biopsy and had 2 csections not by choice, I wish I had vaginal, csection is much harder on your body, takes more time to heal and more dangerous for you and baby, it's MAJOR SURGERY...you may not feel it on the operating table but you will feel the pressure when they clear your womb and stitch you up, takes an hour.. and that is painful in a few hours after spinal wears off you'll be in alot of pain, especially if you get staples, every tug feels like a knife twisting in you, getting up in the middle of the night to feed/change your newborn, I hope your partner/spouse wakes up easily.. do not do this unless it's medically nessicary. I wish I had the other choice, I had high blood pressure and 3 weeks early, I had no choice and 1st kid high blood pressure was induced and wasn't progressing so they made me have one. 1st kid had staples, worst pain I ever had, recovery night and the first week, had the worst pains ever, worst nausea ever. with both worst headache, backaches I ever had due to spinal. Please rethink this

[@misscoffee1866]

Im just curious about something! Did your OB explain the risks vs benefits of a c section vs vaginal delivery ? Mine didn't and I'm now learning that the risk of placental issues like previa, accreta, increta, percreta go up significantly after every c section... the last 3 usually end in a hysterectomy (90% of the time) and/or maternal death... so that's why most providers push vaginal deliveries onto their patients especially for a first birth

[@MrsKjrstad]

Yes! I was told all benefits and risks. I also did a lot of research my self in addition because different countries seems to have different data… maybe it is the skills of that country’s doctors or similar. 😊

[@floortjevandijk879]

C section is the best way to deliver a baby.

[@MrsKjrstad]

I Think that the best way to deliver a baby is what is best for the mother ☺️🥰 her choice

[@SuperLuckao]

Absolutely not! Nature made a birth canal for a reason. Use it.

[@floortjevandijk879]

@@SuperLuckao and what if some of my family members died during giving normal birth? Sorry honey, but not everyone can use it. Second of all, i got i like of the youtuber, so there is maybe a reason...

[@Outlawgirl1297]

@@SuperLuckaonot all of us can give birth that way

[@totesmegoatscrystal9688]

​@floortjevandijk879 women die from csections too and it's more dangerous on babies. Vaginal birth clears out their lungs and gives them antibodies.

[@Nope44bigpapA]

I had an amazing natural birth experience and I’m happy with that. But now I’m older and I’ve decided that if I ever get pregnant again, I’ll try to have an elective c-section.

[@MrsKjrstad]

That is awesome to hear! You having the births that is right for you 🤗

[@ReaganAlexander-g4m]

I feel like Im being judged for being scared to give birth and wanting to have a c section. I feel like im going to rip down there or something is going to go wrong. 2 of my aunts have almost died one technically did and got brought back on the table as well as my mom with me before they took me c section.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you for sharing ❤️ that sounds like tough feelings to have to carry. What matters is what you feel, nothing else. The best birth is the one that is best for the mother. If others judge, let them. It has nothing to do with your feelings and your experience, but all to do with theirs. I hope that you can find support if you need in someone around you 🙌 you’ve got this!

[@NiKea2111-dr6cb]

Thank you

[@pupture9328]

I dont seem the have any good options I don't want to have natural because pain, epidural is almost out of the question because I have a terrible phobia of needles like I watched a video on the process of epidural and almost threw up, and I don't want to leave a scar on my stomach

[@MrsKjrstad]

I’m sorry to hear that you are struggling. My best advice would be to get all the help and education you can online and maybe from family, friends and local providers. ❤️ as far as the scar goes, my experience where similar - hm I don’t really want it! But since I had some months to prepare my self that it was going to be there, it was honestly the last thing on my mind and now… I love it. It gets very small and fades and now I just think it looks good actually 😄 big hug and all the best!

[@braniya99]

I choose cs with my second baby because my first vaginal delivery was traumatic and very painful. Actually after section i had terrible headache and that was difficult too, now pregnant third kid and i learned my lesson. I never regret choose cesarion only i regret that i choose spinal anestesia. This time i will get general anestesia.

[@MrsKjrstad]

I’m sorry to hear that you had to go through that. I really hope your next birth is what you hope for ❤️ I had a achey shoulder after my birth, apparently the body can switch up what nerves are where in the uterus and shoulder after a cs. So crazy and by far the most painful part of my birth experience 😅

[@watchman243]

Thank you for this video 🙏

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you ❤️🥰

[@Youfoundmeinthecommentsection]

I’m pregnant with my first, and due to some injuries I’ve had to my lower spine and pelvis, I’m going to tell my OB I want a cesarean. I feel like it will be a better option for me personally. Thank you for this video.

[@MrsKjrstad]

Wow! Congratulations ❤️ I hope that you get the best birth possible for you 😃🙏

[@babygirldestiny2211]

Hey! I was wondering how you ended up convincing your doctor to let you have an elective c-section. My doctor didn’t let me to have one, I was very desperate 😢

[@MrsKjrstad]

I’m very very sorry to hear that you experienced that. Can’t imagine how that felt 🫶 I did not feel that I had to convince anyone I was clear on why I was scared and my baby was also constantly measuring big. I did need to go through 3 talks with the hospital but did not feel like it was a problem

[@babygirldestiny2211]

@@MrsKjrstad so the reason was your fear and what else? Are you from the US or Europe? Because I’m from Russia and it’s different over here..

[@MrsKjrstad]

@@babygirldestiny2211 my reason was fear of possible damage after birth. The birth it self was not what scared me, but possibly having a lower quality of life after due to damage. I also have a need for control, so having a c-section was the only option that guaranteed me that. I live in DK

[@Unavailable669]

Yeah id rather have a basic recovery from planned c section rather than a loose, ripped up vagina, dealing with incontinence, and using poise pads when i pee everytime i laugh. If you do your homework, your c section recovery is a BREEZE, you can heal faster than a vaginal birth from my primary elective nonmedical c section experience, compared to all my friends with their conehead, broken limbed, vaginal babies 💔 and they had SO MUCH negativity to say about a c section but i showed them 😏

[@totesmegoatscrystal9688]

And wow, not wanting judgement from elective csection you and OP liked your very judgemental post when you really went there on those who had vaginal birth when you chose to put your child in more danger so your vagina didn't get "ruined"..selfish. and "conehead" babies shape up to normal heads BTW..and your broken limb remark, that is rare and usually an emergency csection would occur if the OBGYN seen there was something wrong in the birth canal. Inconvenience happens with csection moms too.

[@vanessachiunda7262]

My partner is a big guy... So are all the members of his family. I'm a thick girl. But so is my family.... Mostly us females and mainly on the lower body. But me plus him.... I know that's definitely a big baby already

[@athenasmith5867]

I had 2 successful vbacs due to the fact I never wanted to go through the pain or the trauma with being cut open. I just never knew there was women that wanted the opt for a c section which for me is taboo

[@MrsKjrstad]

How wonderful that you had 2 great births! Having a vaginal birth was for me as taboo as it seems a c-section sounds like to you. Funny how we are all individual like that ❤️ that is my main message - what is best for the individual is the best choice. Taboos are all breakable if we share our stories 😊

[@nosoynadaoriginal]

My husband was +5 kg and his brother too... yeah, I'm getting a cs

[@joanajeanpaul9745]

I want a planning csection, how i can do this? Please

[@MrsKjrstad]

I cannot tell you how I am afraid. But would encourage you to speak to your doctor 🙏 No matter what I hope you get the best birth for you 😊

[@michellelrobison]

It makes me a little sad that the root of the decision was fear of birth, but I'm glad that you were able to go into birth with more peace of mind, however that happened. As a mom who has had both a planned c-section (first baby due to breech presentation) and a vaginal birth (second baby), I can say from at least one mom's experience that vaginal birth is very powerful. My vaginal birth recovery was much harder physically than my c-section recovery and vaginal birth itself was extremely intense and painful, and yet, I would choose the vaginal birth a million times over. Everyone has the right to their choice, so I'm happy this was a good choice for you, but I can't deny the little part of me that thinks, "I wish you could have experienced it the other way." Very interesting topic and definitely a viewpoint that is underrepresented here on KZbin, so thanks for putting this video out there!

[@MrsKjrstad]

Thank you for sharing! And for keeping such a open and empathetic energy while doing so 🙌 It makes me super happy that you had empowering experiences. Motherhood opens the mind, body and understanding in ways that are hard to explain.

[@michellelrobison]

@@MrsKjrstad ❤️❤️❤️ unfortunately, my births were not very empowering. Both times, my care teams did things against my will that made the experiences really rough. That's part of why I advocate so hard for women finding a provider who is supportive and kind and uses actual statistics to talk to pregnant women instead of scare tactics. Anyway, I'm glad that your c-section seems to have been a good experience for you!

[@GracieSaunders]

Omg I'm 18 week im so scared to have vaginal birth because I am only seventeen and when my mom was 18 she had her first baby and she almost bleed to death so I want a c section but I've been scared to doctors will tell me I can have a c section with a Medical reason

[@MrsKjrstad]

That sounds like a really scary situation to be in. I hope that you have one or more adults around you that you trust and that you can have with you through the whole process ❤️

[@totesmegoatscrystal9688]

Listen to your doctor, please

[@Ni12_]

Can I ask c section delivery to my doc.

[@MrsKjrstad]

I guess that depends on where you live in the world. In the Scandinavian countries you can 🙏

[@Ni12_]

@@MrsKjrstad I m living 🇬🇧 uk.

[@MrsKjrstad]

@@Ni12_ ok! Either way I would ask, always good to have all the information so you can choose what works best for you 🙏 best of birth to you 🫶☺️

[@Ni12_]

@@MrsKjrstad thank u so much hun for ur response 🙏❤️

[@sarkarpiu1]

​​@@Ni12_es it's legal to request for a c section in the UK if the mother wants. The hospital must do a c section if the mother wants it.

[@onalightmission]

This basically gave no information on the actual experience or recovery or anything....I hope the second video has better information. Feel like i just wasted my valuable time.

[@totesmegoatscrystal9688]

Don't get information from this person, she selfishly risked her child's life. I had 2 csections without the choice and wish I could've done vaginal which is safer for both mom and baby

[@MrsKjrstad]

Are you okay? Please keep a nice tone in here. This video was why I chose one. Part 2 is about the birth 🤗

[@eejjjj]

Women can choose whatever they want with their body and with their OWN baby! What a disrespectful comment.

[@SuperLuckao]

Id NEVER have one unless an absolute emerg e ncy. Its natural that babies enter via birth canal.

[@MrsKjrstad]

That is amazing that you know that a natural birth is right for you 😊

[@totesmegoatscrystal9688]

I wish I had vaginal. Recovering from csection, a major surgery is NO JOKE

[@atalanta9353]

Backbone, anyone?

[@MrsKjrstad]

That’s an interesting comment! Please elaborate 😊

[@totesmegoatscrystal9688]

I do. Im warning young new mothers not listen to this person, having 2 csections myself..a MAJOR SURGERY, it's not better than vaginal, I wish I had that choice

[@MrsKjrstad]

Sounds like you had to bad birth experiences, sorry that you had to go through that! Also sounds like you have 0% experience with vaginal birth…. What is best for the woman is the best birth I believe. Focus on the individual, her choice ❤️

[@annaritchey1342]

It should not be a choice and most dr.’s will only do it if it’s medically necessary

[@MrsKjrstad]

How do you define “choice” and “medically necessary” ? 🙂

[@GreenEggsandPamm]

How YOU bring YOUR child into this world should DEFINITELY BE YOUR CHOICE . Who tf’s choice should it be Trumps ?

[@juliennetully4814]

Most doctors, do c-sections for money even if they aren’t necessary