This video is very insightful especially when you were talking about having the right perspective on your future husband. I personally struggle with that, it’s like I just wanna skip to that part of my life and be over with the singleness part. But when you said how we should be focused on becoming a good wife for that future husband, that really made me take a step back and think, “Wow, I can’t believe this whole time I’ve been waiting for that special person but I should’ve been focusing on how I can better my relationship with God and myself so that if/when I do get married I’ll be a good wife, but also if I never do get married I’ll still be fulfilled by God.” So, thank you for helping me see that. I’m definitely gonna go check out the other video you have on that topic!
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
Julie R yes such an amazing takeaway Julie! The waiting period only seems hard because all we’re doing is waiting. But we should really call it a preparation period! 🥰
@nicole-wf4pe3 жыл бұрын
Wonderfully said julie! 💖 i also relate to your realization and comment so much. I just wish i had a christian friend or mentor who could help me along the way. I wish i had a friend like Kian🥺
@jamescowan11004 жыл бұрын
As a guy, I would agree...Don't live together with significant other. Make a real commitment not a make believe one. As far as getting a guy, clearly attraction is there plays a role. But don't make yourself too easy to get or you won't be respected as you should. Just little looks or hints once in a while makes a man work harder for you! Never date outside your faith, that really does cause issues down the road. My take on how long to date is the best part of a couple of years. The reason I say this is so you can see all of their emotions and see them more than once so you know what you can expect if you do get married. Never allow physical abuse or cheating EVER!!!
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
James Cowan thanks so much for your opinion James! I appreciate it 😊
@Hephzibah404 жыл бұрын
Yes amen
@hello--_-51884 жыл бұрын
James Cowan why can’t you date outside your faith lol? I’m an atheist but it seems illogical to restrict myself so much.
@roseovchiyev80163 жыл бұрын
@@hello--_-5188 because we are called to be equally yoked.
@lovelydaywithholly4 жыл бұрын
Love this Kian!! I’ve been married for 12.5 years and sent this video to my nieces who are in the dating phase of life! God Bless you! 💗
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
Congrats on your beautiful marriage and thank you for sharing with your nieces!
@denisefreitas43584 жыл бұрын
GIRL, your hair is sooooooo beautiful! Can you make a vídeo of your haircare routine + styling? :D
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
Denise Freitas thank you so much! I don’t do a whole lot but if you watch my beauty favorites video I talk about my favorite products 😊
@valerielinares20684 жыл бұрын
I respectfully disagree with your views on finding "the one." For a few reasons. For one, remember that scripture says that God knows all of our days, before we even stepped foot on earth (Psalm 139:16). Yes, we have free will, but God directs our steps (Proverbs 16:9). Even though we have free will, God has a way of orchestrating circumstances to influence our choices. Also, if there is such thing as "the one" God is certainly more than capable of orchestrating our lives so we meet the person He intended for us to marry. So, how do people end up marrying the wrong person? - you said it: free will. Is free will a bad thing? Not necessarily and not always. But, this goes to show that while we have free will, we also have the free will to ask God in prayer to choose our mate for us, since He knows us better than He knows ourselves. That person whom He created for us IS our soulmate, I believe. But, we have to be willing to submit and surrender that to Him, trusting He will make the right choice.
@sethfrady4 жыл бұрын
I was about to make a comment about this but you explained this very well!
@lindyavelar76244 жыл бұрын
I Totally agree with you!
@2000Dolores3 жыл бұрын
It’s interesting to read this now and I would say.....God found “the one” for Kian ❤️. Could be you were right 😉
@ikrambaouchouch95114 жыл бұрын
Im Muslim and I can relate so much to you. I was raised to honor myself and my body altho ppl find that weird nowdays.
@Ohgirlygirl4 жыл бұрын
I love your honesty and your growth!
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@jenny_g234 жыл бұрын
Hi Kian! I just discovered your channel through your love story with Kyle. You are a ray of sunshine with an incredible passion for Jesus and it's so refreshing to see ♡ Thank you for being you!
@elisepichola59843 жыл бұрын
She should do a reaction video to this after being married... update on her feeing about “the one”
@Bedhovns4 жыл бұрын
I agree with you.. if you want to dating make sure you full being single first.. God bless you..
@angelavanoosten14 жыл бұрын
I love that you are with almost every question "i'll do a video about that" haha
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
Angela Van Oosten 😂😂 I did that a lot in this video lol
@angelavanoosten14 жыл бұрын
@@Kian_Wolfgang yeah u did haha! Excited about what is coming
@Evergreenforest334 жыл бұрын
I know right!!! I agree always more expanding in every topic!
@lizmargaret4 жыл бұрын
Kian, really loved your perspective in this video!!!! Thanks for sharing ❤
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
LizMargaret thank you for watching Liz! 💛
@Hephzibah404 жыл бұрын
I just love you! You always make me smile especially the ending of vid lol.. thank you Kian! Very helpful tips to hold on to!
@faithbradley42243 жыл бұрын
Little did she know that, 2 months later, she'd meet Kyle 😂😂💘💝
@genesiscarter Жыл бұрын
kian! went back to watch your old videos and was curious if the lombard poster behind you means you grew up in the Chicago suburbs. if so, super cool because I did too :)
@HannahBirzes4 жыл бұрын
Yay!!!!! Was looking for you to be posting yesterday :-) I hope you have an amazing weekend. You’ve inspired me so much to be real and not just 100% over the top wannabe perfect Christian and just accept myself as I am. 💕💕💕💕🙏🏼
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
So sorry for the late upload, I was having trouble with exporting the video! Aw that's beautiful, thank you for sharing that with me 💛
@elyssavillalpando21114 жыл бұрын
I love these videos so much! I have this crush on my friend and sadly I don't think that it's the right timing. Always praying and writing letters to my future husband. Thank you for this video, Kian!! 💓💓
@stonemoney6914 жыл бұрын
Thanks Kian for all the insights. Keep Jesus the center of your life and everything you desired will fall in place as you grow each day dear. Keep that love light 💡 shining bright hallelujah glory to Jesus 🙏🇬🇺🇺🇸
@CeniaVL4 жыл бұрын
Kian just a suggestion... please enhance the video volume, even though I have it in 100% is pretty low
@zmiem95564 жыл бұрын
Err on the side of right 😊. I love how you addressed everything so graciously.
@celticRicky4 жыл бұрын
Try being single for 15 years ☺️
@maria-mpascual44264 жыл бұрын
sooo good thank you for this!!
@JuliooTrades4 жыл бұрын
Well Ruth chased boaz . Ruth 3:1-12 she was bold lol she took it by force !! .
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
I look at the story of ruth a little differently. She was focused on working and helping her mother-in-law. Boaz saw her working and inquired about her. Then she made herself available and waited for him to react and tell her what to do. That's my perspective though ☺️ I think there can come success from boldness as well!
@JuliooTrades4 жыл бұрын
@@Kian_Wolfgang amen cool (: thnx for the response
@KenFlowin4 жыл бұрын
I think your ready when the desire is there cause with no desire it's difficult to commit.
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
Kenneth Muiruri healthy desire is great! I’m talking about the feelings of craving a relationship desperately, but like I said everyone is different 😊
@KenFlowin4 жыл бұрын
@@Kian_Wolfgang I won't dispute, my experience may differ from yours and that's okay...Also, Keep up the good work you're doing 👍
@gc92464 жыл бұрын
Love your honesty
@justismoses132 жыл бұрын
Kian, i cant remember or find the video that mentions it. What is the video that you recommended for "rules on christian dating" or something
@kar3n354 жыл бұрын
I wouldnt want to move in with a boyfrien because that would mean sinning agaist god everyday and if a guy loves me he is not going to jeopardize my relationship with jesus. i would never pressure a guy to married but also he shouldn't pressure me for sex.
@kldoofenshmirtz65694 жыл бұрын
New subscriber here. Im so glad I found your channel. This is helping me a lot to go through my first ever break up. My ex cheated on his gf with me. I didnt know he was living in with someone. We were in a LDR. I’ve watched your Break up advice video and I couldn’t agree more with what you said. my ex is a Christian and was baptized. Your struggle at 18:12 was my struggle too. He was basically what you were describing.
@kar3n354 жыл бұрын
I ve been single 2 years celibate but i had sex once😒 then i continued being celibate. And i really want a guy who will respect that. I dont believe in the one.
@angelavanoosten14 жыл бұрын
I love your vids so much! Do you have twitter?
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
Angela Van Oosten thank you so much Angela! I don’t use twitter at all but definitely considering making one in the future if that’s how you enjoy connecting 💛
@kar3n354 жыл бұрын
Im not going to persue any guys. Nothing good comes from that. I feel im open to dating but i haven met anybody i like that much. Or at all.i kust wish i could meet a guy that finds me intresting and that is corious to get to know me. I consider my self to be intresting person. And i get turned off when a guy finds me cute but dont care about "me" inside.
@mohamedaboalkasem35223 жыл бұрын
Sweet ,, lovely
@bukdavid5094 жыл бұрын
But yeah you're right, church girls can be scary. Lol
@jarodorla69494 жыл бұрын
how old r u kian?
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
I am 24, but turning 25 October 13th! 🙃
@jarodorla69494 жыл бұрын
@@Kian_Wolfgang well would you look at that your birthday is next week so let me the first to wish you happy birthday in Advance. Do you have any plans? By the way kindly check out Katie Reines here on KZbin as she specialises in all things nutrition and health related matters.
@Kian_Wolfgang4 жыл бұрын
Jarod ORla I am going to Denver the following weekend to celebrate 🙌🏽
@jarodorla69494 жыл бұрын
Kian your maturity in your disposition is admirable have you read any books by Lisa Bevere?