Christian Dating ⎮Dating Non Believers, Modesty, Waiting For Marriage

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[@jamescowan1100]

Great job to the three of you. Before I got real with God I married a non-believer and long story short, when I did get real with God it created many, many, many complications in the marriage and eventually she left the marriage. Thank God the court was guided by God to give me custody of our three children and I raised them as a single dad and they accepted Christ into their lives and they are so grateful they were raised in a Christian home...so am I! :) Women, please respect yourselves including your bodies, men, respect the women and yourself by really getting to know the person. Sex is just sex...the rest of the relationship, God and communication (not by texting) are whats real!!!

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

James Cowan wow so insightful, thank you for sharing your story! So happy to hear all your children love God 💕

[@ndamugobaivan1]

Ooh sorry James for all that. To the glory of God you have managed to raise those three children and the rest is history. To God be the glory.

[@CateOtanes]

Really helpful insights guys. I love it when Ryan pointed out that when a person doesn’t know Christ’s love he wouldn’t know how to love right. TRUTH right there! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Yes that was a really good word!

[@xxrlew4340]

AMEN!!❤😊

[@ndamugobaivan1]

Yes Cate, because Jesus is the solid foundation of faith. Faith in Jesus is covered by Godly love. This love itself is a weapon and a very useful asset for people to jump into marriages. Marriage is not an easy course to take if there is no God's hand in the matter.

[@dalahufstetler1877]

YES AMEN !!!!

[@ndamugobaivan1]

@@dalahufstetler1877 Jesus is the solid foundation of faith. So we have to rely upon this solid foundation even for our relationships

[@Laura-hu3wy]

Ryan is so wise!!! Like WOW. Loooved this video ❤️

[@qreua_3075]

A man is supposed to be the leader of your household. If he can't even peruse you, that's kind of a red flag (for me) because that's his first chance to lead and it sets the tone for the relationship. Great content Kian. Keep up the good work sis 👍

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Yes wonderful input, thank you!

[@paigemiller4782]

I know this is probably a weird question but why does the guy have to be the leader of the household? Can you guys share it instead of him having authority? I understand that in the Bible, men were head of household but I’m not sure if that was because of the time it took place or if it was God’s intent for men to have the authority in a relationship. Anyone have any thoughts?

[@qreua_3075]

@@paigemiller4782 it was God's intent; you should read what the book of Ephesians says about marriage. In addition to it being biblical, it's also a preference of mine. The bible says men are supposed to "love their wives as Christ loved the church". That is from a place of selflessness, protectiveness, and authority. God did not intend for women to submit to their husbands in order to be taken advantage of. It was in fact the exact opposite. We are meant to have "complimentary" roles within marriage...not subordinate, so a man leading doesn't make his wife less than him. It means she trusts him. But never submit to a man who didn't have Christ in his heart, because it's the authority of the holy spirit within a man that makes him cut out to lead his wife in love. I hope this helps.

[@joehouston2833]

Be fruitful and multiply

[@laylalayla6630]

I am used to hearing women talk about the lo g list of things men should do for them. What do you do for a man?

[@VictoriaABaldwin]

Ryan is preaching!!!!!

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Hahah right! We get to hear this every week, it's great!

[@ndamugobaivan1]

Victoria, Ryan has been used by Jesus to be able to speak such encouraging words for sure. He is trying to show the essence of Christ in our relationships. What a message!

[@lindyavelar7624]

This speaks to me on so many levels. I was in a relationship with some one who “knew Christ” I was taken aback because I didn’t know anyone personally , my age that followed him, with all this there was mutual attraction and chemistry so we began dating. One thing lead to another and as time we fell into sexual sin, but at the same time god was already calling me and I refused to be in sin, yet he was in unbothered by it. As time passed father began to work in me and I started to realize that his faith was only on the surface and he was not full of the spirit as I had became throughout our dating. I asked and prayed to father plenty times asking is he was my husband and all he would say was focus on me. One day he said I would find the person I was to marry when I became that person. It then I knew I needed to part ways because we would never grow spiritually while we were together. Till this day I miss him, and when I think of what I want my husband to be like I describe him. But I don’t regret my decisions because I have seen how much father has changed me, given me wisdom and insight and that to me is worth more than anything in this world. I still don’t understand why father has given me the desire of a husband, but I trust in his plans even if I can’t see the outcome just yet. The funny thing is like this guy said, I had to trust in god to leave and wait on him for the right person, and well, he has had to trust in god for rejection by me. In the end let everything be for the glory of his kingdom! amen!!

[@tyla4693]

Dive in on courtship!! 🙏🏽 What is the meaning of courtship and dating as a Christian.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Kay thanks for the suggestion!!

[@lyxaira]

Man, that boy is on fire! 😂🔥 Preach to the people, they need the word today.

[@shamerafye5035]

This video has healed my heart, I’ve recently got out of a relationship with a non-believer , we been friends since 15 and then started dating in our 20 then he became a non- believe. So this is a struggle for me.

[@paolabueno4995]

I am SO happy for this video. This is amazing! I'm 19 and going through my season of singleness, I find this very helpful.

[@soumiliray1522]

I liked the video and respect that different people have different opinions. I believe in Christ myself, but I don't agree that a woman can't pursue a man or that the authoritative role should only be played by a man.

[@ndamugobaivan1]

Of course Soumili. On my side it depends. If a girl approaches me, I would be very grateful that she has managed to cross the border. Sometimes this pathway is more traditional than the reality itself. Both men and women have a passion for love. We both have some ambitions n life, with love itself included. The only issue is that it is very uncommon for the girl to pursue a man, but this should not limit the goodwill between the two partners, and of course God should always be the target and the reason.

[@Sarah-ty5ev]

Lorraine has the most beautiful smile! I really appreciate this video. Great job! I have been loving your recent videos. I can see God working through you

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Isn't she a doll? :)

[@sw6951]

Advise: Not all of us are suppose to be married some of us are suppose to be like Paul and dedicate our whole life to Him. Pray about what GOD wants for you not what you want ❤️ the Bible said we were bought with a prize !!! God owns you!!! He’s our master but He’s a good master that loves you and knows what’s best 🙏🏾 Trust in Yeshua!!!

[@cramollia]

To add to this, when you talk to your children or other people about marriage, please phrase it as "IF you get married" and not "WHEN you get married" because it is not a destination. As you noted, some people are called for singleness. If it is in God's will for you to marry someday, then it'll happen :)

[@chanella_cas]

I gained so many wisdom from this. Thank you. ❤️

[@ruth9383]

love watching how much you’ve grown kian! this is so encouraging and eye opening! 💓 so so happy for you and your love for the Lord!

[@harleighstringer]

WOW!!! ive been seeing this video on your channel and kept putting off watching it and i SOOO needed this. yalls input on EVERY SINGLE QUESTION was so good and it really got me thinking about myself and how i need to check my heart. i started crying when he mentioned having a kid and being insecure about being loved by a christian man and that has literally been me for SO LONG, and WOW, thank yall

[@liveverdienever]

The way that the roles are explained in this video is spot on and going against that order, is to be in rebellion against God. Excellent content Kian, and thank you for making this video.

[@christinawatkinsyoutube]

Love this!! It’s also just so attractive to see a guy like Ryan talk about this so passionately. I want a guy after gods heart 😍

[@angelf09]

This has touched my life. Thank you for this video!! God is good ❤️

[@zuzannamilewska2394]

Kian! Thanks for that interview! For that video. I see that my heart was far far away from God's dreams for me. Once I started thinking my way. Today my way of thinking was confronted and now I see. Thank You and Bless You!

[@allyscholten9784]

Holy cow!!! You killed it!!!

[@marielarocha4835]

Thank you so much ! This video really helped and open my spiritual eyes ! Please more videos like this 😊😘🙏🏻

[@allisonsegalini4452]

It is really convicting to hear Ryan’s perspective on dating a non believer. I just ended a relationship with someone who didn’t love Jesus and everything Ryan said rang so true for me🥺❤️

[@dalahufstetler1877]

There is so much wisdom in this video. I LOVE IT !! Thank you for sharing. I have found myself in a season of divorce in the last year and have found the enemy throwing lies at me. This video has confirmed for me that they are lies and has been a good reminder to replace them with the truth.

[@jenni5342]

Wow this was so helpful! loved the different perspectives you each had to offer. Loved Ryans point on dating a non-believer and asking yourself what you find attractive. So raw and so helpful! love your videos girl, keep it up. Praying for you and this channel xx

[@stonemoney691]

Thanks for sharing! Yes and amen 🙏 to all the great insights☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️

[@followmemove]

Thanks! These are very helpful insights! Start with friendship is a very good point!

[@helenegates9576]

So so refreshing to see all of your points of view! I love the part when you spoke of the past! Thank you all so much! ☀️🧡🥰

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you for watching Helene!

[@Beautifullycalm2]

Thank you for making the video, it was very helpful.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Of course! Thank you for watching!

[@loveazlen]

this is so beautiful !! thnx for sharing

[@acardoza14]

So much wisdom in this video ! Thank you for sharing. I’m thinking about dating again & it’s so important to me to date a Man of God who puts Christ first & who will value me and cherish me the way Jesus does. 💕

[@laylalayla6630]

And you are planning to do the same for a man, right?

[@erikasimone_]

this was SO good!

[@sarahdenisemoran2182]

great video! looking forward to part 2 😍💕

[@theonegrateful-leper]

This was so good Kian

[@yourmorningbird]

Ryan is really wise. Thank you all for this video!

[@Imaslife]

great video. a whole lot of TRUTH❤️

[@gabl3400]

Wow this is g o o d praise for for these 3

[@nathaleclarke]

Thank you again this video is so helpful even a year ago thank you so much for sharing this on KZbin

[@sophiiaawalker]

Thank you for this, I find your videos so helpful 💖

[@aceraht.strickland114]

I loved this!

[@michellearroyorobles9075]

Very opened my eyes! Loved the vedio ❤🙏

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Michelle Estrella so good to hear!!

[@jtaylor6241]

Great video. Wise young Man.

[@cheer1volley2]

This is so so so good.

[@hossianathompson1127]

Great content ❤

[@kidrAgg]

I love thissssss it helped so muchhhh

[@robertastfleur8358]

Thanks for the video it’s amazing 😘😘god bless you gorgeous

[@roseghale2675]

Ryan gosh he is so wise.i wish i can find some who is like Ryan.... But the whole video is🔥 We have to trust to god.he has some for us beyond our imagination....🙏✝️

[@nadyareinhart6947]

I really enjoyed Ryan's perspective! I agree with everything they both said but just wow just being a girl and hearing a guy speak on these topics is so heartwarming. Someone who knows how to take a relationship seriously and put God first and know the "why" of why sex in marriage is so important and boundaries. Thats just super attractive to me and I pray for a man like that! A man can not truly love a woman if he doesn't have God in him! That's so powerful!

[@kallymaddox5385]

Amazing video! Sending so much love your way!

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you Kally!

[@yourmomfromstatefarm]

Great video!

[@dulcenguerra]

I love this.

[@graceward892]

Loved this video!

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you Grace!

[@nextbigthing2917]

Great video 🙏🏽keep doing what you doing God bless

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

comedy gaming thank you!

[@trackstar6466]

Wow Ryan speaks very well

[@RomellFreeman]

My people! This was good. Glad it happened.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you Romell!

[@JustNay]

Ohh excited for this

[@anapadilla827]

Hello! Have you uploaded part 2 yet? This video was amazing, really really helpful 😊

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Ana Padilla yes it’s uploaded! Look for a thumbnail with me in this dress 😊

[@adyjuamy1580]

Wow KIAN! in the same spot rn, God told me to get out of His way for him. wow, girl! i'm not alooooooooone! haha

[@angelafranklin6156]

Wow Ryan is a true man of god

[@kweho2023]

Kian you look at the guy with so much love❤

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Yes I love ryan as a brother in Christ! People loving jesus makes me happy :)

[@alemwalling6101]

Vike are you from kohima?

[@CorinneBalfour]

Loved it!

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Corinne Nicole thank you!! 💕💕

[@joehouston2833]

I'd marry you..

[@Chryslerdealership]

Wow, this video has so much deepness and truth! I def feel like it was Holy-Spirit led. I will take these tips into consideration. Thanks ❤ Heres one question I have though: how much do looks matter to guys? Like I know we all want someone who is attractive and looks like they take care of themselves, but is it a big problem? I'd appreciate some input on that :)

[@eliargumedo4728]

That’s some good stuff. I also wanna know how do you get people to hear the word of God? Instead of just having the same people listening to you over and over again because I know some preachers who will talk to the same group over and over again but the word never gets to the people who need it most

[@claubit32]

The man in this video has very sincere faith. That's great to see, especially since he hasn't been following Jesus for that long!

[@reinp5714]

The guy was on point

[@ndamugobaivan1]

This video sounds as if it has been recorded yesterday because of its importance in our lives today. I can agree with Ryan and the two participants in general. Being a believer does not qualify a person to be your spouse. There should be more considerations beyond that. Believers should personally have a very good and sound relationship with God Himself before thinking of getting into a relationship with a spouse. Purity during courtship is another thing which is missed in today's church. The whole course of relationship starting with courtship until the marriage itself should be quite unquestionable.

[@jaykay5086]

Lately i've been thinking about an old friend who liked me. He was one of the gentlest, sweet guys ever. He's so humble and ambitious. I never considered him because he wasn't a Christian but sometimes it feels like they have amazing qualities despite not knowing Christ. TBH i've been praying for him to know Christ but also low key like God you think me and him can be together? I know it's naive because since we never actually dated, the big issues that can come from very different world views never came up. I also know a couple I respect who the woman was a new Christian and the guy was non believer, God told her he is her future husband and then later in life, he became saved and got married(not sure what order)... I guess it can happen. He's doing Gods work now. On fire for God

[@vinodkumar-xw9qy]

I believe if we are leading by spirit of God all the time then it's okay we can marry any person either they are believer nor unbeliever. But I'm a believer

[@viktorijakrasovska8390]

i used to date non-believer. my mom put it really well which i obviously ignored back then "if you are standing on a table, which will be easier - for you to drag him up or for him to drag you down?" which did happen and i was in a toxic, unholy relationship for 2,5 years. Ladies, there is so much more in Gods plan than some guy. Stay in His will and all will go the best way!

[@laylalayla6630]

I feel bad for the guys. Guys do so much for us and still romance seems to focus on us while guys have to do it all: approach us, ask us out, pursue us, court and romance us, pay for everything, propose, save like 3 months of their salary to buy us a ring, talk to both families, etc. And all we do is show up to the date? Thats cold haha! I might get weird looks from friends but I do those things for the guy I am seeing just like he does for me. Come on girls. Lets put some effort for the guys just like we expect from them. There are women in the bible who also pursued men. They just didn’t demand and expect men to fulfill a long list of things. They just didn’t act cute and that was it. Lets try to be that woman from Proverbs 31.

[@Mrb614]

Anyone else here after seeing her Instagram story about Ryan?

[@adeshawilson9307]

Why only now im finding this chanel

[@miarosefeltham]

Couldn’t help but notice the repetition in ryan’s speech of it having to be heterosexual relationships which doesn’t seem to stick with the theme of agape on your channel

[@user-vt6ob4ux4s]

I suggested this before on one your previous videos and now I'm going to share it again. Check out AGW (Apply Gods Word) his channel is packed full of great stuff on Christian dating.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Zela Adams thanks!

[@mitchiec9350]

On what do you edit your videos?

[@candacedawn357]

Do you go to the same ⛪ as your guests?

[@goudbloempje9835]

When is part 2 coming?

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Lydia C it’s out already! Look for the thumbnail with me in this dress! I should add a link to the description

[@goudbloempje9835]

Kian Tilton Thanks. Really love what you’re doing on this channel! God is with you 😊

[@BeachsideHank]

Women share- men reveal. If you can appreciate the difference in that genetic makeup, then you have a chance at finding a compatible mate. If you don't understand the hard wiring we all have, then you are doomed in thinking you can "fix" somebody to your liking.

[@claudiumondoc]

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[@sarahielizabethg]

WHAT THE HECK HE IS PREACHING TONIGHT!

[@rhino2cul]

Great stuff!! 2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 1 Peter 3:7 ESV Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

[@kar3n35]

13:35 intresting. I wouldn't mind the past on a christian men since jesus accepting him as he is, i should too. Same with me i dont wanna date a person judging me cus i used to drink and smoke marihuana. I also have tattoos. I would like to meet someone that can be ok with that.

[@InfinitelyLoved]

I agree with a lot of things discussed in this video, however as a woman who grew up in church, waited for marriage to have sex and married someone within the church, I can say that a lot of the things taught in church are erroneous. God will not "send" you the person, that is a responsibility that was placed on us as part as humans created with a free will. There will be a lot of people inside the Christian world, we will be compatible with and it is our job to see what things about that person can be the characteristics we look for in a long-time partner. The people who are speaking in this video are young and probably do not have much experience in relationships and marriage, but as young single- adults I would suggest that you do not get discouraged if you have ever been in a "Christian" relationship and it ended up being just as bad or sometimes even worse than a worldly one. Being a Christian does not guarantee perfection and that nothing will ever be wrong. Christians are still humans and battle with the flesh, the only guarantee about a Christian walk is the peace and the security that even if you were at some point disappointed by a Christian relationship, everything will still work out for your good, somehow. That is what our hope as Christians really is.

[@joehouston2833]

Be fruitful and multiply

[@anastasiyarakova8517]

I think it depends on what kind of Christian you are. I see as a Christian that dating a non Christian can be a blessing for their life and bring them to God. i wouldnt date an athiest though. Only someone who believes in God but struggling in their faith. i feel confident in my faith so dating a non Christian doesnt faze me. You can love like Christ while not being a believer. I think there are immature people out there but also exceptions. Also in terms of boundaries, if you arent Christian but are strong in your boundaries then you dont need to be afraid of crossing anything you "shouldnt". Romans 14 - "Blessed are those who dont feel guilty for what they believe is right". It's between you and God. Do not condemn someone for their actions, criticism is dangerous

[@marshellsmith2224]

Question : why is it hard for Christian couples to last?! 🙃🙃🙃🙃

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Marshell Smith great question! in marriage or in dating?

[@marshellsmith2224]

@@Kian_Wolfgang Dating! lol

[@cubed0724]

Because of lust and the concept of the man pursues is what's causing the relationship issues. If both would seek God first and let God lead, relationship would be much better.

[@marshellsmith2224]

That’s true but what if Christian guys silly don’t pursue other Christian women? 😫

[@cubed0724]

@@marshellsmith2224 You want the one that God has for you, but if your walk with Him isn't strong to where you listen and follow Him than you'll miss out on the husband that God has for you. Christian women are gifts to be given, not prizes to be pursued. Ask God to guide you to the right husband.

[@becdaly353]

Just a question: I didn’t hear any mention of modesty on a male? Only that women have to cover up. That’s interesting. Also... Why in “past mistakes” did you only mention a woman’s sexual past and not a males? I’m so confused. I love believing in God but I want to feel equal and powerful as a woman. This made me feel weak and ashamed.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Bec Daly thank you for sharing your thoughts! That is a very good point and in the future I will do my best to incorporate that. As a women I can speak about my role in modesty a lot better than I can a men’s role or his sexual past. The men I do have in my videos may not be as open to share about those areas of their life either. Hope you can understand that as well. We are all equal and loved by a perfect father 💛

[@LimeandMocha]

Something about the way you talk about non-believers made me uncomfortable- they are made in the image of God too and have just as much inherent value as the rest of us ‘believers’. I feel like any non-believer might hear this and feel alienated from the love of Christ, which is NOT what we want. A Christian who is attracted to a non believer is a valid reaction. To say they are automatically struggling with their faith is almost manipulative? We all stray, and the decision from there should be based solely on whether the gulf between a Christian and non believer is too large as far as morals, life goals and faith.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Isabella Beutel thank you for bringing this to my attention! That definitely wasn’t any of our intentions and I will do better moving forward. Appreciate it 💛

[@cubed0724]

Disagree with the pursuing, when God said he who finds a wife finds a good thing, He was talking about finding the wife that God brought and gave him. He obtains favor from the Lord. If a man finds a wife who is non believer, he doesn't find a good thing. Men pursue God and women are given to men by God. A women pursues God and God leads her to the husband He has for her just like Eve was to Adam. Men shouldn't be hunting women, that's unbiblical.

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thanks for your perspective!

[@cubed0724]

@@Kian_Wolfgang It's the Bible's perspective, were told to seek first the kingdom of God than all things are added. Men and women pursuing each other is them seeking their own wants and desires.

[@prajication]

Every Christian is a lay evangelical...dont date them if u are a non believer...else u will be forced to convert