7 Tips from THE ADDAMS FAMILY to Keep Your Marriage Alive

[@aeh5109]

My favorite line is: "Don't torture yourself Gomez, that's my job"

[@thomaskositzki9424]

Same. ;)

[@madeegaindraws]

Kinky~

[@clunkyinc.5156]

Masochism Tango my friend.

[@DragonGoddess18]

That line always makes me laugh

[@monabohamad2242]

sorry it's whose job to torture who?

[@deeya]

"How long has it been since we waltzed?" "Oh, Gomez...hours." That's love.

[@tealablu3759]

Honestly! And both sound so genuine

[@louera]

One of my preferences in a partner is knowing how to dance and enjoying it. It's just a nice activity to do together, not only for health, but also because it's a big turn on as well haha. Also, I think dancing is all about just enjoying being in your body, being in the present with your partner, laughing off mistakes together, and being carefree/not caring about how others could perceive the way you dance.

[@doloreslehmann8628]

Always loved this scene. My husband and I got together as a dancing couple, so it resonates.

[@preciousypenguino]

I say that line almost weekly just to myself bc I don't have a Gomez! 😆

[@yeebler]

@@itsjustlarkspur1750 Stop it so did I lmao

[@pigpjs]

I love how when the family is evicted and Gomez is depressed, Morticia seeks a job. She doesn't resent her husband. She knows he is struggling and will do what she needs to support the family and give her husband time to process.

[@alwayslookingup70]

I also love before she goes to confront fester she looks at everyone in her family, how much she loves them and she’s like nope this won’t do and she starts walking to handle it soooo ethereally. I just love the adams movies so much lol

[@janaterbio8010]

I also love that one scene in particular, when getting the job at a kindergarten, which honestly is so wholesome and shows how motherly and nurturing at heart Morticia is, she and the director talked about their husbands. Rather than following the director with saying how much of a bum their marriage partner is, Morticia just swoons and expresses her adoration for Gomez despite being a bum/daydreamer. Even in a time when he is miserable, she still loves him, their family very much. I like it so much, just goes to show how strong their bond with each other is

[@alwayslookingup70]

@@janaterbio8010 it really is, i never really noticed how much of the tv shows or movies joke about marriage being miserable and hating their spouse etc. The addams family was so refreshing to go way the other way with it.

[@TheGrifhinx]

Without which we would have never been gifted an iconic scene like the daycare storytime

[@6rebelangel]

@@alwayslookingup70 It's actually hard not to notice that in media now. It's honestly really exhausting, like Family Guy and sometimes the Simpsons. FG started out with Lois and Peter being quirky and weird together but they loved each other and liked their odd antics- which was nice. But now they almost only tolerate each other and are so unhealthy now that it's vey cumbersome to watch. I don't mind unconventional lifestyles, but I honestly miss watching healthy marriages and family relationships. We already have enough of toxic relationships in real life, we don't need to see more of it on tv :/

[@ngmeylan]

I also really like how, when the family is kicked out of their home and Gomez becomes completely depressed, Morticia is not disappointed in him that he is momentarily unable to care for his family, instead she tries to take on a job and give him some space and when things don't improve, she doesn't expect Gomez to 'man up' and get the house back, she tries to plea with Fester herself

[@yvonnethompson844]

i'm with her on the colors in the house though, seriously, Pastelles hurt.

[@Chefgrlangel]

@@yvonnethompson844 it was the execution of said pastels. Debbie used baby pink for evil and that’s ok but the bar scene, the anniversary gift/bomb… ugh it’s the wasted potential for me. She could’ve been an iconic Aadams but she just missed the mark by not being about the family, for shame… SHAME!!!

[@yvonnethompson844]

The line, specifically states pastelles. And the set looked horrendous. Morticia says she can look past the treachery, and manipulation, and even ripping Fester away.

[@KennieDoll]

@@yvonnethompson844 From what I’ve learned painting with pastels costs less so Morticia was actually more so calling her cheap and tacky😭😭

[@yvonnethompson844]

@@KennieDoll hmmm... i think it depends on the paint quality, not color. or brands, maybe, because vanta black is definitively out of this artist's pricing, and the types vary in price as well, as if it's synthetic color, or, from natural dies.... 🤔 interior paints are generally latex based any more

[@Xehanort10]

One of the funniest parts of Addams Family Values is when Morticia says to Debbie "You have placed Fester under some sexual spell. I respect that. But really Debbie? Pastels?"

[@candacecasey5634]

I loved that line too😂

[@ForsetisStenographer]

Can confirm!

[@annegreengables6367]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@clopez6768]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Introvertsan]

That was iconic

[@PrettyBoyKii]

Even from a young age I never understood why so many dysfunctional and often abusive relationships get so much ideation. Gomez and Morticia have always been my example of what a good relationship is. If I hear one more person say they want a Harley and Joker relationship, I'm giving up on humanity.

[@tararocksong5085]

I would much rather have a Morticia and Gomez romance than anything else.

[@novakarledge114]

I don't want to be like Quinn and Joker but maybe Quinn and Ivey...

[@ahstiasummers5583]

Families that fight all the time make for good drama. And when peoples' lives are down in the dumps, drama can serve as a distraction from their true issues

[@aroeenafaith5519]

But I do want that relationship 🥺/s

[@Zeagods-CyberShadow]

Morticia and gomez are a good role model

[@m.h.7364]

Gomez isn't "en guarding" the blinds, he says "En garde Monsieur Soleil".... He's directly challenging *the Sun*

[@inoli3164]

challenging the sun makes me think of Dark Souls 😂

[@katiearbuckle9017]

Morticia's need makes sense though. If you wake up and the Sun is rising through whatever curtain you have. And it rudely wakes you from a Good Dream or even minimal sleep. It doesn't help your mood at all. And if it's Before you had your coffee...forget it.

[@MagpieRat]

Ladies, get you a man who'll duel the sun for you.

[@maem7462]

I love that. He’s like I’ll fight the sun for my wife

[@sonorasgirl]

@@MagpieRat 😂😂😂 definitely relationship goals

[@littleblackcar]

The Addams family: Happily-married, faithful parents; parents who support their children's interests; intergenerational household without resentment; treats employees like family; happy extended family; kids who play together (more or less) constructively . . . I think this might literally be the most functional fictional family I've ever seen in a movie.

[@deathwish-fs1ib]

Don't forget that they're ridiculously rich but never flaunt their wealth outside of using it to help others and are instantly accepting of pretty much everyone, despite how strange they find 'normal' people. Everyone could stand to be more like the Addams Family.

[@JazzyWaffles]

@@deathwish-fs1ib In the old TV show, their taxes get lowered so Gomez runs for office to raise his own taxes! The Addams are very based.

[@blackangel163]

In second place is the Simpsons.

[@DragonKnightJin]

@@JazzyWaffles Having never seen the old tv show or read the comics... That sounds like an INCREDIBLY Gomez thing to do. "What? Lower taxes? Not if I have anything to say about that!" *Runs for office to fix that shit*

[@FEARNOTBlue3778]

and Wednesday completely ruined that

[@AliAngelpie]

I love the Addams Family because they're creepy and they're kooky, but they're not toxic. They love each other

[@Valdagast]

This is what Edward's and Bella's relationship should have been.

[@tiananesbitt7156]

They performed so well together!

[@AliAngelpie]

@@Valdagast Agreed

[@Burner-B]

@@tiananesbitt7156 this movie was lightning in a bottle, especially when it came to casting. Each actor was almost designed from the atom up to play these itterations of these characters.

[@Nicamon]

@@AliAngelpie (Meanwhile Wedensday and Pugsley try to kill each other.🖤🖤)

[@nhogan84]

My answer to Alan on the question of "is their obsession with each other unhealthy?" would be: Yes, IF that were the only thing that defined who they were. As Jonathan says, their family as a whole is just as important to them, but Morticia and Gomez both have interests and self OUTSIDE of their marriage (Gomez fences, handles their finances, golfs while Morticia gardens). They have identities of self outside of "Morticia and Gomez" and that's something that's very important to avoiding excess entanglement that is unhealthy.

[@petrifiedviewer]

This is so true. I have a lot of friends who lose a sense of self when they get into a relationship and start defining themselves by their couple status and by how they want to be perceived as a couple rather than just living as a couple and learning to incorporate their new relationship into their lives. Then they end up breaking up and they become so lost as an individual because they spent so long as a "we" instead of as a "me".

[@deanospimoniful]

It's unwise to build the entirety of your identity around something that can be taken away from you, even positive things like familial relationships.

[@canvas_125]

Exactly. The plot in the sequel starts by Gomez helping Morticia have time for herself aside from being a wife and mother so they hire a babysitter.

[@dayalaver64]

Mortician also does witchcraft and knitting.

[@MrsBlack88]

YESSS exactly!!!

[@abbywolffe4114]

Okay but "I would die for her; I would kill for her; either way, what bliss" is such a feral and romantic line and I love it

[@themurdernerd]

Her lines, "Last night you were unhinged, you were like some desperate, howling demon! You frightened me. Do it again." Sexiest. Lines. Ever.

[@LadyYurikoLP]

In German this line was translated to this: "I would die for her; I would kill for her; just wondering what do I do first." Really awesome.

[@LaBrew]

Agree!

[@saturnmercury8533]

@@LadyYurikoLP Oh god... Your profile, it frightened me.

[@marahbaker8615]

@@saturnmercury8533 do it again

[@markusallen6818]

One small detail I like is how when the grandma is suggesting what might be troubling gomez and suggests "adultery?" Morticia responds "oh, no" the way she says it she knows that definitely isn't it she knows their relationship is too solid for that to even be a possibility

[@btsarmyforever3816]

I agree. You can tell by the way your spouse treats you if they love you are not. And it's not by buying stuff for you, but rather doing things for you, being there for you, prioritizing the family. Just a quick call away etc. It would be a GREAT GIFT to have a relationship like Morticia and Gomez.

[@sarahpersson5662]

Ya she just answers and moves on. There’s no freak out or panic just matter of fact

[@pecevearancemolale5584]

She put him under a love spell 😭

[@georgewilliamsiii4677]

​@pecevearancemolale5584 They both used love spells.. from grandma so they were a Lil effed up. But now they just love each other to.. well.. death lol

[@roguejester4986]

Plus why would he? Morticia is a goldmine of delight.

[@1bendykat]

It says a lot about our culture that a healthy family is framed as “strange” or “off” somehow. That it’s framed as comedy when they’re really the healthiest family on TV.

[@sarroumarbeu6810]

Ikr ?? When did messed up abusive families become so normal... That's like ..the essence of so many issues is "normal" and healthy balanced romance is the weird one ??? 👁️👄👁️

[@kinka9883]

I don't think it's because they have a healthy marriage, I'm pretty sure it's just the fact that they like dark, morbid things. And as far as I've seen everyone loves the Addams family because of their wholesomeness. If they were hateful and actively malicious, I doubt people would like them that much beyond their aesthetic.

[@1bendykat]

@@kinka9883 now they’re viewed as having a healthy relationship but my Mom talks about growing up and how most people viewed them as kookie and entertaining, but not necessarily a “healthy marriage” due to their “occult interests” (she grew up in the rural Midwest)

[@redrhapsody1415]

I think that they're like this because regular sitcoms were always centered around a wife and husband who hate each other.

[@exoticsamba492]

@@kinka9883 Yeah but that’s the problem. Why portray healthy couples as dark & evil? It doesn’t make sense because evil people are abusive. So technically, this image belongs to the abusive toxic relationships from “normal” society. This type of healthy couple deserve to be portrayed as normal, kind beings.

[@martijndekok]

I also love that The Addams Family is not a-social. Even though they spend most of their time with each other, they don't isolate themselves. They enjoy joining in with and contributing to social events with people with completely different interests and morals then their own. They might find it hard to relate to them, because they have such a different view of life, but they accept them and wish them the best. Very much a "live and let live" mentality. I love that.

[@Theeight8b]

They even tried and participated in social events of "normies', so props even there. I'd say, for all their oddities and extravaganza they are the very example of a good, adequate and tolerant family. Cant' really believe that I said that out loud. -_-

[@kelsisimpson9843]

I think for the Adams, though, it’d be more of a “live and let die” mentality ;)

[@technounionrepresentative4274]

i wish more adapted the live and let live mentality lately instead of the live and lets shove this person into a box because they disagree with me mentality

[@DecemberDaydreams]

o.o

[@Drekromancer]

@@technounionrepresentative4274 Well said.

[@totallyoutofit6989]

"don't torture yourself, Gomez. That's my job" - Morticia Seriously though, their passion for each other and their love and devotion to each other and their children is amazing, which is why I love these movies

[@banxeescreems3337]

I love that line 🖤 so many good ones.

[@charlieflight6124]

@@WhitneyDahlin the problem is finding them. People say 'there's plenty of fish in the sea' but the problem with the abundance of fish is that you will have almost no chance to find the one you want.

[@Oturan20]

@@charlieflight6124 Of finding the one you want... and wants you.

[@charlieflight6124]

@@Oturan20 Oh yes, of course!

[@janetmckenna_lowry]

Morticia fully communicates, she just does it in French, which he understands. She says, The sun, "he pierces me like a dagger," and Gomez accepts the duel.

[@sabrina-wq4uu]

He becomes her champion to slay all of her enemies for her.

[@fernandocabette6050]

@@sabrina-wq4uu Including, but not limited to taking on the sun it self for her.

[@erenjaeger0794]

Bro picked a fight with a god 💀💀💀

[@nekomitaina]

Morticia also an embodiment of self-esteem and self-acceptance. I don't see her taking BS from anyone, or other way round diminishing others. Real role model in that regard!

[@PlanetLovingMom]

My favorite part of the movie to give an example of that, is when they talk to Flora and Fauna at the party. Morticia knows Gomez and one of the twins dated, yet she regards them as "twice the woman" she is. "How could I ever compete with you?" She says to them. THAT is classy and mature. It's *chef's kiss* perfection.

[@bigclitenergy]

@@PlanetLovingMom I know! it just shows how self secure she is and honestly I love that

[@irishdc9523]

She does know her limits for tolerance as well, since she says she could forgive Debbie for stealing Fester from the family and destroying his spirit, but..."Pastels?"

[@lunaselena4270]

when she sadly says "not anymore." to "he is a dreamer, isn't he?"

[@stephaniedesmond8329]

She'd probably take the BS silently, with a smile on her face, because it wouldn't affect her life in any way. She'd just leave the BS sitting there, uninterested, and decline to pick it up.

[@mikeyates7931]

It's a small scene , but I love when Gomez is hitting golf balls and Morticia is watching him ; not because he asked her to , not to placate him , but because she genuinely enjoys watching her Man engaging in an activity that he enjoys - in essence , it makes her happy to see him being happy 💕

[@ahhh4117]

I mean he's definitely something to admire

[@tiph3802]

These moments in a relationship are the greatest!

[@mikeyates7931]

@@tiph3802 absolutely 💕

[@jennifermalcolm6838]

I love watching my partner do something that lights up his eyes and puts a smile on his face. I thought I was a sap but its clearly just what it is to be completely in love and truly caring for the other person!

[@mikeyates7931]

@@jennifermalcolm6838 you are a Very Beautiful Soul 💖 and your partner is Very Blessed to have You in his life

[@unbakedalaska1301]

Gomez and Morticia are genuinely marriage goals

[@trinaq]

Exactly, they're still passionately in love, and never lose sight of their love for each other.

[@NyGeL_Derey]

I also want to raise the dead with my wife

[@ladyreverie7027]

My husband calls me "Cara Mia" because of this movie! We aren't as goth as Morticia and Gomez but in all other respects our relationship is quite similar 🥰 we've been friends for 10 years and in a relationship for 5 years and we are still passionately in love, still growing in love ❤️🌌

[@Suchwerewolf]

And Jonathan and Alan are genuinely friendship goals 🌈 ☀️ 🌻

[@marahbaker8615]

In my marriage, I'm definitely the Gomez. Even after 14 years, I hit on my husband constantly and he acts like he thinks I'm being ridiculous but I can tell by his little smile that he secretly loves it. My husband is a very handsome man, but he was a chubby kid most of his young life and I think he has a hard time with still seeing the chubby kid when he looks in the mirror so I always want to build him up and make him feel good about himself. I literally bought a letter board to set by his desk so I can always leave him a cheesy pick up line (currently it says "If you were a flower, you'd be a dammmndelion" lol). I just enjoy making him smile and making it where he'll never feel unloved.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Aww, sweet story. Thanks for sharing! 😊

[@msk-qp6fn]

AWWWW THIS IS SO SWEET YOU ARE GOAL MATERIAL 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@acelovesdiyschristopher7023]

Here's a pick up line if u haven't used it yet: are u homework coz I'm gonna slam u on the table and do u all night long. Enjoy, u 2 are literally goals.👑👑

[@spb8039]

If you didn't already know it, you're a really good wife!

[@insanelittlesilk]

Lol! I’m a librarian so I tell my husband, “Are you an overdue book cause you are fiiiiiiine!” Not my best joke but he always laughs.

[@AngelaRichter65]

When my husband and I were dating he asked me what I wanted in marriage and I said "Gomez and Morticia Addams". I didn't even hesitate and yes, he gave that to me. Over 20 years and we're still going strong.

[@alicecain4851]

Envy and congratulations!

[@aubreycarter7624]

That's awesome!

[@VforVendettas]

Awww, cute

[@molybdaen11]

Your game evenings must be weird.

[@AngelaRichter65]

@@molybdaen11 you have no idea.

[@r.babylon2885]

Morticia's, "Do it again" does so much more for me than modern garbage. That look, that voice, and that subtlety.

[@francis7336]

whenever i see the phrase "do it again" i think of the hyenas from The Lion King

[@ebindelgado9660]

Patrick: "DO IT AGAIN, I WASN'T LOOKING"

[@alicepbg2042]

"subtlety"?

[@Firegen1]

@@francis7336 To be honest..... same vibe.

[@thomaskositzki9424]

I think they are 100 times much more kinky and sexy than "50 Shades of Grey". ^^

[@claratalbot7613]

Morticia and Gomez have always been my ideal marriage. It's just a such a wholesome marriage

[@maryabruxinhaartista4045]

I have to ask, if it's your ideal marriage, are we counting with the goth part as well?

[@null6353]

@@maryabruxinhaartista4045 that's mandatory, to me

[@AnymMusic]

sooooo are we talking WITH or WITHOUT the killing and attempted murder

[@claratalbot7613]

@@maryabruxinhaartista4045 I am goth so xd

[@claratalbot7613]

@@AnymMusic Without of course but the legal kinky stuff we could do if my future partner was into it

[@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343]

“En garde Monsieur SOLEIL!” Honestly get you a man that will fight the fucking sun for you. That’s love.

[@zinzanzoo]

🙌🙌

[@lucidfangirl1030]

That meme where a guy is pointing a gun at the sun for his girl

[@Channel9001]

I think one thing you notice about the Addams Family is that they make one important distinction. They seem to enjoy physical pain, and have no qualms about causing bodily harm to one another. But they never cause each other *emotional* pain, they are very loving and supportive of one another, never talk down to or belittle each other. I believe the Addames are very well aware of the distinction between these two kinds of pain.

[@Katyloveheart]

Wow that a really good point

[@mr.miserable280]

Say it louder for the people in the back!

[@glenngriffon8032]

Yeah it's played for laughs how sadistic and masochistic they are but divorcing it from the funny you look and see parents who get along with their children and don't just order them to do as told, siblings who get along and play together and aren't at each other's throats because of rivalry. And what's funny is that even with the idea that Wednesday is zapping Pugsly in an electric chair, it's an activity that they both enjoy and Wednesday isn't causing her brother anything traumatizing or damaging to him. Obviously in real life it would totally kill him but we're not looking at that. Here is two siblings playing, Morticia shows concern Pugsly could be hurt, They both assure her this is fine and they're just having fun and Morticia trusts her kids to know their own limits of play, the boundaries, and not only lets them continue she observes them with a smile. She's supervising and enjoying watching her kids play. I remember a couple of times on the rare occasion my half brother and I were playing around and I was having fun and our mom just flat out broke us up cause I might get hurt and she was always so protective of me. I'm not saying my mom was wrong but it does feel like she broke up what could have otherwise been a small bonding moment between us and we didn't have many of those

[@FaeChild8478]

Yes, because certain physical pain can be enjoyable and controlled by both parties. Where as emotional pain is never enjoyable and can/will push people away

[@wiiink]

even though they still do stuff like play with guns and dynamite in the old black and white show, they made it clear they never physically discipline their kids and even in an episode where Morticia and Gomez thought each other were cheating, Morticia refused to use violence even tho Thing suggested it and they just wanted each other to be happy even if it was with someone else. Uncle Fester on the other hand would gladly use violence on whoever 👍

[@amberkelly3187]

Instead of a remake they should have made a prequel of Mortica and Gomez’ relationship. A dark, adventure romp. A hilarious romantic comedy. I’d have watched the hell out of that.

[@BurnTheTeddy]

OH MY GOD YES THIS WOULD BE PERFECT

[@raymondtillotson6985]

@@BurnTheTeddy I don't know, seeing how the Munsters movie worked out with the same premise, we may have dodged a bullet there.

[@496brit]

YES like the Heathers somehow comical bizarre and macabre and mocking romantic movies

[@scofieldvictoria]

Yes

[@sagelyne4621]

FACTS

[@gray_mara]

She expresses a mild discomfort at having the light in her eyes. He wants to be the hero who slays the sun for her. She knows she can express her needs to him, confident he will make meeting her needs a priority.

[@kkibela]

Or allowing him simple easy spaces to be the hero in their marriage

[@gray_mara]

@@kkibela What a beautiful way to describe it!

[@coffeeteamix]

I was thinking that too. And even though she spoke in French which apparently turns him on and would usually make him immediately fall all over her, he stopped what he was doing to make sure her needs are met first, and he did it in a fun way so as not to kill the mood.

[@TriaMaxwell]

To be fair, I'm not a fan of the dayball either. LOL

[@gergovarga321]

This is one of the best thing a woman can provide their man in a relationship, to let him be her hero they both want him to be. And it works both ways and any relationship regarding sex. Providing space for your partner to grow, to shine, to be gentle to you to be nurturing to you is an awesome, selfless act. Bravo, brava!

[@WellWoopdidoo]

One of my favourite throw-away lines from the second film was when Debbie meets Gomez. “Well, aren’t you the ladykiller!” “Acquitted, actually!”

[@crazyjason9838]

"I'll play the victim!" "All your life"

[@MasterSandman]

@WildFireWoo And the proud look on his face while saying it! 😂

[@zedudedaniel]

“I didn’t hate my mother, it was an accident!”

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

He doesn't say "actually." I know because I can recite the film by heart. 😅

[@WellWoopdidoo]

@@LadyAstarionAncunin Fair enough. Won’t argue.

[@macaroni.5032]

let’s also talk about how amazing a parent Morticia is bc when their baby turned into a “normal” baby Morticia reads Cat in the Hat even though it causes her real discomfort. The baby wanted it so she was a good mother and read it to him, love her!!!!

[@BonaparteBardithion]

[solemnly reading, turns page] "Oh, no. He lives."

[@shiaras4675]

That was, hands down, one of my favorite scenes in the entire Addams franchise. She didn't try to convince him that maybe the book on poisons or whatever would be better, she didn't dye his hair black. Sure she was upset and would greatly prefer him to be less cheruby and more goth like the rest of the family, but she doesn't force it. Because even if she doesn't like what's happening to him, or what it means for his future, she loves him more. So she sits and reads a book she knows he'll like. And considering the literature at the Addams manor, she probably went out and bought the book fresh from the book store. Just topnotch everything in this movie.

[@DecemberDaydreams]

o.o

[@elfteiroh]

My favorite part about that baby: Rest of family: “Is it a boy or a girl?” Gomez: “It’s an Addams!” THAT IS PARENTING!

[@fungusfood8097]

@@elfteiroh oh you know they're so affirming to everyone. If one of their kids were to come out as trans it would be zero doubt, just immediate snap to New name, New pronouns, asking what they can do to help, offering to take them to buy new clothes etc and they would burn down a school if a teacher misgendered their baby

[@kendahlgrant8208]

Fun Fact: the Addams Family was designed to be the exact opposite of a normal family. The reason they are a happy couple is because the author thought normal families were not happy.

[@quietperson3886]

my parents be like..

[@laurene988]

That's sad

[@juliak8461]

Well that's just depressing

[@spaghetto9836]

True, can confirm between my parents.

[@KashaLupul]

Sucks to suck. Easy to be happy with your spouse. -dabs-

[@oliviamackenzie9725]

Moment of appreciation for the fact that as well as being a loving husband, Gomez is an involved father. He goes to plays and parents evenings, he engages his children with their interests, and its not just the movies, in the TV show we see him cuddling his Wednesday and Pugsley. This man saw toxic masculinity and said en garde!

[@sarroumarbeu6810]

Love this comment !!

[@Dani-et3es]

I wish I could super like this comment. En garde!

[@Wargatron]

Well, they’re supposed to be the opposite of a preppy, suburban family.

[@Manu7Uzui]

Yesss

[@sarroumarbeu6810]

@@Wargatron aka actually Happy 😂😂

[@josealmeida2842]

One of my favorite moments from the classic series is when Gomez spends about five minutes on the show trying to figure out how Houdini got out of a straight jacket. But the minute Morticia said something in French, Gomez was out of that straight jacket in less than ten seconds! 😂

[@Baldwin-iv445]

I think I remember that scene and my Dad bursting out laughing while I was confused because, well, I was ten.

[@Y2KFroggyAngel]

I want to see that so bad 💀🥺

[@taz2906]

‘Cara Mia’ is actually Italian and I think it’s adorable that Gomez answers Morticia’s French with the other language of love.

[@ladyredl3210]

I was about to say, isn't that Italian? Lol.

[@stephr2980]

I was scrolling through comments wondering about that. He speaks mostly Italian to her, doesn't he?

[@Nicamon]

@@ladyredl3210 In the Italian version he says:"Carra mia."which sounds more Spanish,but it's actually not and I realized it *just now* because I checked and:"Cara mia."in Spanish is actually:"Querida mia."and now I feel stupid because I should have known that!😅

[@Revanbzn]

Cara mia is Italian yes it means my darling basically

[@Nicamon]

@@stephr2980 Well...let's see... 02:58 Italian 03:03 - 03:06 French 03:10 - 03:11 Spanish 11:06 Italian 11:12 - 11:13 Spanish 22:51 This is...complicated.😅Because"bravo"is an italian word,but the last letter should change depending on how many people you are talking about and if they are males or females(bravo=masculine singular,brava=feminine singular,brave=feminine plural,bravi=masculine plural or neutral plural)so if it was actual Italian he should have said:"Bravi!"if he wanted to refer to _both_ Wedensday and Pugsley and not only Pugsley,so I guess this counts as..English,where you use"bravo"for every cases?😅 So I'd say Spanis and Italian are a tie(in these scenes,at least)and then French once.😁

[@trinaq]

Morticia and Gomez are marriage and parent goals! Though they might be ooky, and altogether spooky, they embrace their quirky nature, and encourage their children to be different.

[@Firegen1]

Hear hear! If you are likely indestructible - possibly/the living dead - be the best damn parent and spouse you can be.

[@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access]

Buh duhduh DUH 🤌🤌

[@Ashleymfranklin1990]

Couple goals

[@liamisaac1152]

They accepted Pubert who turned “normal” for a while even though it horrified them lol 😂 They were willing to embrace that this was who he was now

[@timothylong3110]

Agreed. As an aside I read this to the tune of the show.

[@micaelaonofre311]

I love how the Addams family is supposed to be the opposite of the nuclear family ideal, and that means that the husband and wife are crazy in love with each other instead of hating each other

[@Lucy666Fernandez]

Kind of sad that showing affection and support for each other without shame or irony was and sometimes still is considered abnormal.

[@caitlin329]

That's not the premise of the Addams family, though. The whole point is that they actually fulfill the ideal in many ways -happy husband and wife, two kids, close to their extended family, nice house etc. They just do it whilst looking spooky and enjoying the macabre. I suppose for this particular 90s adaptation it had more that effect, but that's more just a sad reflection of where sitcoms as a genre had had to get to by that point. The 'nuclear family' ideal was actually pretty dead by the 90s.

[@giboi03]

@@caitlin329 I'd say the Addams family was challenging/subverting the "perfect family" ideals. Like, they may be spooky, they may be standout, they may be extremely kinky and gore-y in public--but they have the healthiest relationship dynamics out of all the families in their neighborhood, who have to remain perfect, one-note, and quiet about their problems for the sake of following status quo.

[@caitlin329]

@@giboi03 It was originally a comic based on the joke of a seemingly 'weird' family actually being really nice and 'normal'. I think that the 90s films definitely started to go more in the direction you're describing, but it still doesn't quite fit. They do fulfill most ideals, just in their own way, and that's where the comedy comes from. The sequel maybe goes more into it? But then one could argue that's more about specifically challenging white suburban American culture as a whole, more than it is specifically about the family aspects.

[@giboi03]

@@caitlin329 Yeah, suburban's what I was thinking. I just wasn't sure whether to use that word specifically or not, since it's been too long since I watched videos about it.

[@xX_AstroAce_Xx]

I love Gomez’s portrayal as a caring and involved father who laughs at toxic masculinity’s face, especially because my dad is a very big, manly, bloke. He likes surfing and rugby and sports and barbecues and all that shit which is considered “masculine” and he’s a big, tall guy to. But he also has to daughters and was never above being there for us princesses, fairies makeovers and all (we were very girly when we were little) even for the icky puberty talks and the teenagers waterworks. It must’ve been a little lonely at times being the only dude in the household but he never hesitated to take that extra step.

[@irimac1806]

Ty for sharing that. it helps keeping the hope for good people/men out there up :)

[@phastinemoon]

Real men wear pink!

[@brunosantos3245]

Theres no toxic masculinity. just men who are too weak to be a man. An no real woman want a weak man.

[@Fionacle]

I love how he doesn’t take out his stress and anger by beating or yelling at his family, they could get some easy drama and slapstick out of that abuse, but they don’t He gets his feelings out healthily by playing with trains, and while the others worry as they know what him playing with the trains means, they’re not really hurt in the long run

[@kimhungnguyen8001]

I totally agree

[@Fuglychick]

I go fight on twitter. It helps!🤣

[@glenngriffon8032]

Yeah. They have concerns because they know it means Gomez is stressed, he's got a lot on his mind that he needs to work through but they don't go busting in like "we need to talk" because they trust that once he gets it out of his system he'll come to them to talk. Gomez and Morticia know each other so well, they have such complete trust in each other.

[@Vidar33]

Also, the rest of the family know exactly what trains he uses, along what route, and what that means in terms of his feeling, by nothing more than the shaking of the house. All of them care deeply for each other, and know one another to a scary degree.

[@WiseSageBum]

It's a good sign on all sides Gomez gets his stress out without harming his family, and his family know him well enough that him playing with trains means he's in a bad headspace Everyone's looking out for each other

[@erikzherrllo6960]

Me, a teen with no intention to start a relationship or even marry: “ah yes, the pillars of marriage, must know them!!”

[@phyrewillow6463]

These are good to know for any relationship. How to care for the ppl in your life.

[@banjotiki3910]

Same 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I've always thought that the idea of me having a boyfriend some day is a joke, but for some reason I absolutely love watching this kind of stuff.

[@veesancez]

Gotta learn now so u don't end up suffering throughout ur 20s

[@banjotiki3910]

@@veesancez Well I plan on being single my whole life, so...

[@g.strobl4458]

@@banjotiki3910 , well, if that is what feels right, then stick with that. As long as you give yourself leave to change plans, if you find this does not make you happy, that's perfectly fine. :-)

[@misery8264]

This was the first depiction of a healthy marriage I saw as a child. Most on-screen couples in the 90's hated each other, and it made me hate the concept of marriage a little bit :D

[@wintergarden7539]

I can't think of one.

[@FWilson15]

Home Improvement is the first example that comes to mind of the 90's couples who hated each other. Tim Allen's character was so toxic and the wife wasn't much better.

[@3Rayfire]

If you had to choose between Al and Peggy or Gomez and Morticia, there's really no contest if you want to be happy.

[@AB-sm1qf]

This. Especially when you grow up seeing your parents and everyone else’s parents around you hate each other and have awful marriages, things like this can make people give up before they even start. This movie ironically showed me WHY so many people have bad relationships and it did that in a healthy, organic way not in a fantasious idealistic way. It showed raw, organic and balanced loving relationships where both parties are happy and steering their ship. I think what society gets wrong in most relationships is that one has to be the captain of the ship in that relationship when it’s so much better when two steering that forth. As a kid this movie made me view the lovely well adjusted side of what people can be and look forward to it.

[@luci_datum]

That's actually the reason they love eachother The Addams Family is meant to be an inverse of classic 90's tropes on family sitcoms, hence the marriage being healthy. You'll see it everywhere you look - the family pet is a hand, Morticia actively cuts flowers off bushes in her garden in one (fucking amazing) scene, they prefer Gothic styles, they simply accept and encourage over belittle and deny. It's wonderful to see, and sad it came about as something to use as a punchline at the time

[@Neytiri94]

Even after all the romantisised toxic relationships todays TV shoved down our throats, Morticia and Gomez were and always will be marriage goals

[@ss-on3ll]

i'm so tired of those.

[@throughtheotherside420]

Goals

[@s_nappsi]

Possible toxic to society but not to each other

[@Okbuddypal]

​​@@s_nappsiThe contrary actually. Even when Debbie (who is nothing like the Addams Family) came into their lives to pretend to be Wednesday and Pugsley's nanny so she could get Fester's fortune, Morticia was pretty okay with the idea and didn't treat her like some kind of weirdo or outcast that didn't belong. And when she had them hostage and ranted about how she deserved jewels and all this other stuff, Morticia nodded approvingly which meant she agreed and wanted her to be happy, even if she did just threaten to electrocute her and her entire family

[@tessat338]

When I was in at the hospital, in labor before my son was born, I asked my husband, "So how are you doing? What is going on in your life?" I figured that this was the last chance for us to have an adult conversation for a while. He sat down on a chair, I gave him my full attention and we had a nice conversation about what was going on at his work and what he was reading at the time. It is one of my fondest memories.

[@mikeyates7931]

I think that you are a Very nice and very special Lady , and your husband is a very blessed Man 💕

[@tessat338]

@@mikeyates7931 We ended up having a nice baby too! Nice kid still, even as a teenager. He takes after his dad!

[@mikeyates7931]

@@tessat338 That's great - God Bless your happy family 💖

[@briana00grace]

“We demand some serious kink in our healthy, happy marriages!” Not what I was expecting to hear, but absolutely correct and I’m quoting this forever now

[@acelovesdiyschristopher7023]

I support the sentiment tbh.

[@patricecipher6457]

Same, can I get an AMEN 😎😈💕

[@alakesbrahms806]

@@patricecipher6457 Amen!

[@patricecipher6457]

@@alakesbrahms806 hell yeah 😝

[@alakesbrahms806]

@@patricecipher6457 I’m just preaching at this point lol! Gotta find my Mortica Addams! Can I get a hallelujah?!

[@mangaanimefan89]

There's a really small moment in Values that shows off another facet of Gomez and Morticia's parenting that I can really appreciate now that I'm older. When Morticia's in labor and Wednesday and Pugsley are in the waiting room and this 'normal' girl is giving this cutesy explanation of where she believes babies come from and then Wednesday chimes in that her parents are having a baby because: "They had sex". And it's meant to be funny that she says that so bluntly but, looking back at it, what Wednesday was told was a hell of a lot better than the saccharine crap that other girl(who looked to be close to Wednesday's age) was told. Morticia and Gomez gave their children an honest, maybe detailed?, talk about the birds and the bees and neither of them were scarred by it. So, I liked to see that.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Alan here, we’ve been teaching our kids about sex since they could talk and look at people. If you make it a normal part of life, and not some weird hidden secret, guess what? It’s a normal part of life that’s not weird or embarrassing. Learned it from Wednesday Addams (my first movie crush)

[@mangaanimefan89]

@@CinemaTherapyShow I've no doubt Wednesday was the first crush of many boys(and girls) in the 90s. 🤭

[@MysticMae21]

I've been told about it from before I can remember. Obviously I wasn't told details, but as I got older, more age appropriate details were added.

[@ruserious2966]

It's true my mom was very open about it to the point that our private joke is that she 'scarred' me for life. Years later when I had my first time it was as funnily akward and yet still a good experience as she told me it was going to be. My mother was made sure my younger sister and I had a very healthy sexual education growing up and now both of us are very responsible sexually active adults. Funny how that works out huh.

[@astoldbynickgerr]

I’m 20 and neither of my parents have given me “the talk” 💀 It’s okay though, I think I feel more comfortable learning on my own from sexperts on the internet.

[@painoftheheart12]

My girlfriend and I before we even started dating, before we told each other our feelings (before I even realized I had feelings). One of our mutual joked how compatible we were and we were playing into the Morticia and Gomez dynamic and I quoted Gomez to her and I just remember her gasping and saying, "I get to be morticia?" And I was like, "of course!" Needless to say I'm marrying her

[@krisherman3513]

Snap her up! When someone gets your references and humor without explanation, that is a major part of a partnership. One major reason my husband and I got married.

[@jameshowlettii761]

What was the quote?

[@ladyreverie7027]

​@@krisherman3513this is me and my partner 🥰

[@SeeItLikeItSub2It]

❤❤❤

[@gagarfield2934]

Wish you two luck! You sound like such a sweet couple :D

[@Radhaun]

My parents acted not entirely dissimilar to Gomez and Morticia and both often joked that our family was just like theirs. I grew up with the assumption that *this was* how people in love behaved. I was really thrown for a loop when I got older and encountered the "partners that hate each other" trope.

[@Tevikolady]

My mother and father loved each other deeply, and weren't afraid to show it. I think it's honestly healthier to show your children how to love, and what to look for in a partner, so that when they grow up, they too can look for healthy relationship partners by finding something along the lines of what their parents have. I don't think families do that. Much of the 'healthy' part of the relationship like kissing, and complimenting each other and building each other up is hidden from kids, yet the sex isn't??? I don't get it.

[@FaeChild8478]

Honestly? As someone who grew up with divorced parents and had an unhealthy relationship with one of them and most of the kids I grew up with (and asd), more healthy (generic) relationship representation would be highly appreciated

[@msk-qp6fn]

I am happy for you fellow human. You have one of the best yet underrated blessings a human being can be blessed with.

[@pokaay3163]

That’s crazy to me. My parents aren’t divorced but their only reason for not being so is for me and my sibling to have two parents in one household. Which I’m grateful for, but it’s strange. Neither of them believe in being able to find a relationship wherein both parties love each other for as long as they’re together. Whenever I talk about wanting to find a partner that respects me and to have a happy relationship with them they tell me not to have high expectations for it. I would much rather be single than find myself in a relationship akin to theirs, or worse. It’s not entirely loveless, but it’s definitely not happy. I always wonder what it would’ve been like to grow up with parents that actually loved each other, healthily. I feel happy for the children that do. Morticia and gomez is such a fun dynamic to watch. I love the Addams family (not so much the animated ver.). I really think we need to see more relationships like theirs in media. Dysfunctional families aren’t the only way to derive conflict.

[@excusemeifimstupid5910]

@@FaeChild8478 like seriously. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a relationship where both parties loved the other healthily to the point that it sounds like a fantasy. It would help me see people in better light.

[@funkyjbass7762]

"Anything is foreplay"; I remember hearing of a elderly Jamaican man talking to some young guys who were wanting to know why he was so successful in his marriage. And his answer was "EVERYTHING" is foreplay. I always remember that. The 'sex' is just the end of everything you have done to make her feel special, and everything is an opportunity to make your partner feel special.

[@Nu_Wen]

Woah, I love that, so much. so much, omg. my brain is fizzling just thinking about it.

[@thethmooteresa]

@@Nu_Wen sameee!!!

[@minagica]

My exes were greedy selfish fucks regarding foreplay. I'm honestly going to blame it on misuse of porn due to having been exposed to it years before their first time having sex (I don't think porn would be evil or should be illegalized, I just think it's counterproductive for virgins)

[@Trollestiatumblur]

@@minagica Absolutely agree. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told men that porn isn’t real, and virgins think they will be good at sex because of porn… no! I’m talking to a virgin right now, and we already expressed we wanted to have sex, I still need to have a few talks with him before our/his first time having sex.

[@blaznskais2048]

He ain’t wrong. If I came home from work and I saw that my partner had gotten a jump on all the chores that needed doing, dinner was cooked and ready when I got home. They definitely be getting some that night.

[@Luubelaar]

Forget "Romeo and Juliet". Morticia and Gomez are the greatest love story. They are couple goals, and parent goals. They clearly love each other, make time for each other, support the other in their passions, and have shared interests. They don't neglect their kids, and sure they're a very different family, but never do they discourage their kids from being who they are. Edit added 5+ months later: I KNOW R&J IS A TRAGEDY NOT A LOVE STORY. THAT'S MY POINT!!!!!!!!!

[@miraijfish]

Romeo and juliet is problematic at best

[@erilayne260]

Eff Romeo and Juliet. Never really liked that stuff even if it was for the sake of grades or something.

[@xAlecto]

To be fair, I don't think Shakespeare intended Romeo and Juliet to be as idolized as a couple they are now.

[@acelovesdiyschristopher7023]

Not to mention that they're both adults instead of just one.

[@veronikamajerova4564]

Well, since I wanted to kill Romeo myself after the first act, while I adore Morticia and Gomez...

[@simonscowled9925]

Jokes aside: Gomez and morticia respect each other, support each other and still flirt and romance each other after x years and 3 kids. Relationship goals

[@Lycanthromancer1]

In their case, it was probably XXX years.

[@HalloweenYearRound]

Absolutely love Gomez and Morticia. They're the antithesis to the typical bickering sitcom couple that's usually not a healthy relationship. Plus they're weird but they completely own it!

[@elieli2893]

I find it so weird that people in general just, accepted the "strained marriage and a couple hating each other and possibly also their kids while dependant enough on each other not to get a divorce" as "okay, this is comedy, so relatable!" It... Is everyone okay? Why do we not have more iconic couples that are, you know, in a healthy relationship? Why do so many movie couples seem to be a bad personality match for each other? I'm so tired of the whole trope about a couple unable to communicate and thus, drama ensues, but in the end it's okay because someone else told the other person what their partner is actually thinking and now they're in love again! Um... No? Please learn to communicate? Something is wrong if a person not involved in your relationship has to translate your partner to you..? Morticia and Gomez are so refreshing :'D And they're somehow supposed to be the monsters? (excluding the whole, murderous, pretty insane, highly probably undead part :'D)

[@caitlin329]

It's a pretty recent phenomenon in sitcoms to have couples who seem to hate each other as the norm. There's probably an interesting bit of analysis and research to do there.

[@rachaelknudsen8801]

@@caitlin329 I submit that it's not. The Honeymooners is an classic 1950's TV show which acted like spousal abuse and disdain were normal. The dysfunctional relationship as normal has existed for decades. It's grown more pervasive in recent years, but it's sadly not new.

[@caitlin329]

@@rachaelknudsen8801 It is the idea that it's the norm or the default. The Dick Van Dyke Show was incredibly successful and they loved each other despite disagreements and conflict. In shows which focused especially on families, especially more 'traditional' or honestly just suburban, they often were actually quite happy and loving in general. It just depends on where the show decided to get its jokes and comedy from.

[@morganrobinson8042]

@@caitlin329 See, what's missing from this interpretation, as well as the one you're arguing against is the context from the inception of the original show, and the way that Gomez and Morticia managed to sort of outlast one toxic cliché to stand in contrast to the one that superseded it, a few different times. In the 50's and 60's censorship meant that couples on Tv we pretty much neutered. Weird and concerning stuff like showing nearly no physical affection and sleeping in separate beds to avoid even circuitous implications of a married couple having a sex life. The Addams', as tame as they may seem now, were pretty much the only couple on Tv with a healthy interest in one another. Actually arguing wasn't really a part of it, few shows of the period went into anything but the tamest conflicts and I'm not sure any that did were even running concurrently. It just wasn't allowed to have a couple in discord, too controversial. But with the counterculture movement that loosened up, and writers started riffing on the tropes and methods of the sitcom. It usually happened in cycles of deconstructing and reconstructing the genre, thee Addams Family was pretty much the start of the trend, being based upon comics that had been running in the New Yorker for years. The arguing couple as the basis for the plot showed up mostly in the 70's and 90's to 2000's, largely influenced by the recession in the first and Gen-x cynicism reassessing the boom years of the 80's in the latter. More placid characterizations of on sort or another tended to fill in the gaps but aren't nearly as well remembered. In effect, Gomez and Morticia aren't directly opposed to any specific trends since their adaptation in the 60's, the genre conventions shifted around their unshakable foundations. The constructed problems of more dynamically cynical shows or the implicit inadequacy of the more toothless have very little to do with them really. They're living their best life, and the more normal people just got in their own way more, usually by trying to be something besides themselves.

[@TimDownsAnimation]

Morticia is honestly a role model in a lot of ways. She’s always 100% HER. She does not budge from who she is, but at the same time she doesn’t ask any of the “normal” people to. When she judges, she’s p much silent about it and is very validating, but that goes both ways and she expresses herself in public just as boldly as everyone else. The ONE time I can think of where she outright judges someone out loud is to insult Debbie after she’s very clearly been revealed to be a genuinely evil person ruining the family: “But really, Deborah? …….. Pastels?” Lol

[@themurdernerd]

LOVE that line!!! "You have placed in under some strange sexual spell. I respect that."

[@ForestSen]

And I’m sure she wouldn’t have even mentioned the pastels at all if she stayed part of the family. Morticia would have just accepted it and worked around Debbie’s pastel fixation. 😂 she had no problems with Margaret and her “normalcy”. She just accepted her and her pink princess dress (I think she was dressed as Glinda?)

[@Gummy_Pop.]

Iconic line 🤣

[@deathwish-fs1ib]

@@ForestSen It does seem to be a running theme that while they consider everyone else strange compared to themselves, they still respect them and at no point try to make others change to fit into their 'normal'. They're probably the nicest family in the fiction overall and I think everyone should strive to be more like the Addams Family. Heck, even Wednesday, the most sinister of them all, tends to avoid causing issues for others unless they cause issues for her and has shown a desire to punish bullies in pretty much every rendition of her character.

[@rebeccahahn6172]

And judging her extremes in clothing is far different than judging who she is as a person.

[@1986kerrichinchilla]

I love how the adams family is so accepting of poeple. When IT marries the auction woman, they dont try to change her and make her like them, they accept who she is.

[@voguishthrone5887]

And they make an effort to include her in their family activities! Like in the first movie, when they play wake the dead they explain it to her instead of belittling her so she can join in!

[@dzbanecekfrost666]

Well, I'm pretty sure they've known Margaret for years since she had been married to Tully. And they have always accepted her. That's beautiful

[@twindrill2852]

Kinda funny considering she DID change a bit in the sequel. She looks and acts rather different, a bit more suave and sly.

[@_50_ducks_]

​@@twindrill2852 I think the reason she seems different is because she's not around sully anymore, and she is happier with what is going on with her life

[@lindsay3917]

4:37 Shared love maps 7:03 Nurture your fondness and admiration 9:38 Turn towards each other 12:33 Letting your partner influence you 15:35 Solve your solvable problems 18:29 Overcoming gridlock by seeking outside help 21:55 Create shared meaning

[@NN-vb5jm]

Thanks 💗

[@GoddessLuna23]

Thank you! Everyone in the comments is going on about their personal shit, and projecting whatever issues they have. Instead of point out what he says and the reason their relationship works!

[@itslexactually]

People deserve to have that outlet if they’re so inclined. It’s part of what makes the channel special and doesn’t merit disparagement. It was possible for you to make a compliment without trying to tear someone else down. I’m guessing you didn’t really mean anything by it, other than an expression of personal annoyance, but some people may have found that hurtful.

[@signat2335]

This should be pinned! (please reply so I remember this comment)

[@jumpingbeaner]

Thank you!

[@JonduGaming]

"I'll be the victim!" "All your life." Imma use that one!😂😂

[@sarroumarbeu6810]

The delivery 😂😂😂

[@themurdernerd]

As a weirdo goth(ish) teen girl, I related to Wednesday in this one so much!

[@diamondflaw]

Gomez and Morticia are 100% marriage role models for us. 16 years in and still going strong. Also, as far as I'm concerned Anjelica Houston EMBODIES Morticia in this movie, I have seen no other depiction that captures the character so perfectly.

[@thehutch7728]

That’s so funny! It was hard for me to accept her, because I grew up on the TV show reruns with Carolyn Jones and John Astin. Morticia was who I wanted to be when I grew up.

[@rebeccahahn6172]

Us too! My other half (of 4 years as of August) even randomly grabs my hand and kisses up my arm just to make me giggle. We are RIDICULOUS and I LOVE IT. It's safe for me to play and be "kooky" with him, and he knows what it takes for me to trust to that level.

[@alicecain4851]

I adore Anjelica and wish she had done more. I know she's not everyone's "beautiful" - she's so much more!

[@gingergoddess8953]

If my kids did what Wednesday and Pugsley did on stage, I'd be *so* proud. Wednesday's Shakespearean delivery actually isnt too bad.

[@ameliecarre4783]

Also, delightful period music, and perfect curtsy at the end. Entirely lovely.

[@3Rayfire]

Wednesday most certainly studies classical drama, her execution of Gary's "vision" in Values says it all, "Your work is puerile and under-dramatized. You lack any sense of structure, character, and the Aristotelian unities."

[@rhaenyralikesyoutube6289]

Me too. She's awesome in her drama club.

[@tararocksong5085]

I’d give Wednesday an A+ for the performance alone.

[@mangaanimefan89]

@@3Rayfire And was she wrong? I mean, I know the comedy is in how bad it was but jeez! Gary's "vision" was utter cow s**t.

[@procrastinator99]

Something you didn't mention about the therapy scene: I like how, when Gomez doesn't know about "displacement", he turns to- and asks- Morticia about it. He accepts that she may know something he doesn't, and without a second thought turns to her. His masculinity isn't harmed by turning to his wife, he doesn't even think about it. And that's awesome.

[@fazbearfanatic4358]

I love how the Addams family, who is obsessed with death, is the best at keeping their marriage alive

[@remi5309]

i think its because they are supposed to be the opposite of a "perfect suburban " family which tends to have dead marriages

[@michaelleoanrd194]

Edit: apparently not true according to a Spanish speaker. One detail that is ALWAYS overlooked in the school play scene (and I'll forgive you because it's not about Gomez and Morticia's relationship, but the relationship with their kids) is that Gomez doesn't just shout "Bravo" He shouts bravo (masculine) and brava (feminine). He makes sure to applaud each of his children and it's a detail you'd miss if you didn't think about it being a romantic language. A lot of captioning actually gets it wrong and thinks he repeats "bravo."

[@alicecain4851]

Very cool!

[@krystledn]

I imagine that was not the writing and was instead Mr. Julia.

[@HanDaKilla]

LOVE this

[@ladyethyme]

Wow that’s cool

[@caitlynstarrparrish]

Everything I learn abt these movies makes me love them even more!

[@TheDragonsRose]

The animated versions that came out recently really did this family dirty. They made their relationships seem much more toxic, primarily Morticia and Wednesday's relationship. When Wednesday chooses to change her appearance, Morticia scolds her for wearing pink, like Wed is under an obligation to be only as Morticia expects.

[@alyssamay9237]

Broke Morticia: “You’re my daughter and you can’t wear pink!” Woke Morticia: “I can’t say I’m too pleased with Wednesday’s current style, but if that’s what she wants, who am I to get in the way of that?”

[@demy1393]

@@alyssamay9237 isn't that pretty much what goes with the summer camp in the sequel?

[@alyssamay9237]

@@demy1393 that too! Supportive parents!

[@Brey__]

For real, like in the second movie where Pubert turned blonde and “normal”, they bemoaned over the sudden change but they never really did anything to the baby-in fact, they changed the baby’s room to a pastel coloured room (which we all know Morticia hates) because she thought it’s what “normal” Pubert would want.

[@thatvalensteingirl]

@@Brey__ Morticia sat and lovingly read Dr. Seuss, to her own disdain, bc it made Pubert happy instead of trying to impart her own tastes on him. That was awesome, she was willing to set aside her own comfort and familiarity for her children

[@artespeck8091]

Morticia is so iconic she warps the environment around her to make it look like shes in a 1930s fantasy horror film and honestly i wish i could do that

[@victoriasalter1701]

They are not “horrible goth weirdos”, they are a charming and loving and loveable Gothic family. Goths are (for the most part) not horrible or evil, and can be very nice people.

[@trinityfaith_rabbit_trails]

To be fair, these goths strongly imply they've murdered many people

[@beans1325]

I'd like to believe they're just mocking what society typically says about us goths

[@ravenartistofficial]

Thank you for defending us, most people take one good look at a goth person and just assume they are negative or downright evil in general. Most of us aren’t like that at all, we just prefer a certain style of music and clothing. A good portion of us are just big ol romantics.

[@FirstDarkAngel2001]

Ty for the liking of us. It sucks that we get many odd looks, or compared to people that cut themselves, later known as emos. ^^' it's not fun either when people think of goths and think of being consistently depressed. 🙄 depression is not fashion based.

[@DrFranklynAnderson]

Yeah, you say that-but you weren’t in Rome in AD 410 when it got sacked! 😉

[@gurglequeen433]

The Addams family are like, my ideal, my goal for the kind of family I want to build in the future.

[@trinaq]

Me too, the Addams' are a very accepting family, we should all aspire to embrace our differences.

[@qwertydavid8070]

make sure to not forget the disembodied hand

[@gurglequeen433]

@@qwertydavid8070 I already got that part covered.

[@marshmallow927]

@@gurglequeen433 Hold on-

[@neuralmute]

@@marshmallow927 That's the hand's job!

[@kitirena_koneko]

I've heard and read too many comments on how women claim that they would love to have Christian Gray from 50 Shades of Gray as their dominant in a BDSM relationship, but I definitely wouldn't because he's a stalker and a control freak, and that always ends badly. If I were into men, I would love to have someone like Gomez Addams in my life, because like me, he's a switch and not at all ashamed of it, plus he's incredibly romantic, genuinely caring, wildly passionate, and he'd be a lot of fun to be in a relationship with!

[@labellafleur6262]

Switches make the best partners.

[@monabohamad2242]

Oh so YOU'RE a stalker and a control freak

[@Amira_Phoenix]

50 shades of BS is a trash read

[@laurinha2892]

@@Amira_Phoenix wait, what? The movie was bad because it romanticized the book. The book is actually trying to tell the reader that Christian Grey is *not* someone you want to be in a relationship with

[@annabeinglazy5580]

@@laurinha2892 then you have read a very different book than me

[@maiamaola6143]

I don't often see healthy couples in media who just want to be together, without the expectations of sex. Here, I love how Gomez and Morticia could be seen as a couple who doesn't have to equate sex and love to be happy. They adore and respect one another, they have unique interests outside their partner and they are completely honest about boundaries, communication and trust. Yes, they have children and yes they do have a sex life, but I always got the feeling they would be just as happy being together without having sex. They proved as much in the 1960s TV show where sex was implied, but you never even saw them kiss on the lips. The most Gomez ever did was kiss Morticia's arm when she spoke French. I found that infinitely more attractive/erotic than any "sex scene" in the films. Seeing a healthy marital relationship focused on partnership and trust before and/or not including sex in this movie is both positive and refreshing. I hope one day it can become normalized and that media will change the focus from sex to healthy partnerships.

[@TaraTara-ld2xb]

Interesting. I find them highly erotic, but also romantic and an example of true love. And yes, Gomez kissing Morticia's arm like that is very sexy!

[@imanaimokay3390]

I'm so glad someone mentioned that, I'm ace too and that's exactly how I feel about couples in the media, I'm so tired of everything just being about sex, like you can be romantic and erotic without the act of sex itself and you can build a meaningful relationship without it too. Gomez and Morticia are one of my biggest "inspirations" on the romantic area of life, the mutual respect, trust and love they have for each other is just beautiful to witness.

[@_50_ducks_]

Yes, my ace brethren! I agree. I get sick of those types of scenes, they are in most movies with romance between characters, I love love, but sex just isn't it lol. That's kinda why I love the 60s one so much, it doesn't cross the lines to be uncomfy to be around, and you can tell that this is a way of them being close and intimate.

[@idkjkshdjkhdk]

As a fellow ace as well, i agree they seem so cute and loving together they're literally couple goals 💖

[@redwitch12]

They're deeply passionate, but that passion extends well outside of sexual matters. They're passionate about *each other*. The innuendoes sure do rain from the sky around them, though :D

[@mumenRhyder]

My boyfriend treats me how gomez treats morticia and that's why there's not a single person in the world I want more than him. Almost 3 years now and that hasn't changed.

[@its_the_bird]

🥺 That's so wonderful!

[@jayemerson9499]

Same here! Almost 4 years in, engaged and he still flirts with me, buys small gifts for me, calls me beautiful every day etc, we need more examples of happy healthy relationships like this, they're lovely to watch and good examples for kids to learn from

[@Wargatron]

6 1/2 years, same. I truly love him.

[@alexthegrape2848]

I think this movie had a huge hand in shaping my concepts of relationships as a kid and helped me break a lot of the toxic masculinity I had been taught as a young man

[@ilovelittlemix4034]

:)

[@Drekromancer]

Congratulations, king. 👑 We will free ourselves from our shackles, one man at a time.

[@scarletjester7831]

I don't use terms like toxic masculinity, I prefer Toxic Behavior, but I see what you mean. Gomez and Morticia are textbook examples of a healthy relationship

[@Septic-Hearts]

Despite being literal homicidal lunatics the Addams family has the healthiest relationship dynamics I've ever seen in media. People should aim to be like Morticia and Gomez, just the right amount of crazy for each other.

[@ohshanana2397]

I love they’re relationship so much: they keep the passion alive, respect each other. Love and nurture their children. Have a healthy relationship with other family members around them. And are willing to seek outside advice and help

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Absolutely!

[@georgethomas4567]

It always made me laugh how they always seemed to be one flirt away from stripping down in front of everyone and going a few dozen rounds on the floor.

[@danaondrackova3431]

and I am always so confused on how their kids are like "ok parents are up into their shiz again, whatever" or if the granny and Large takes them away when things get too saucy :D

[@TimedRevolver]

@@danaondrackova3431 I highly doubt either kid cares, honestly. And Lurch seems to just go with things more than the rest of the family.

[@spiceupyourafterlife]

Plus, Gomez and Morticia were amazing parents! They loved their children unconditionally and supported their interests and desires even if they didn’t always understand them. In the original series, there’s an episode where Pugsley wants to be a boy scout and while Gomez and Morticia are freaked out by this, they still support him because they love him. Likewise, when they’re told that their kids want to go to summer camp, they support that.

[@joshray3855]

The revelation of his kids wanting to go to summer camp nearly killed Gomez, but by god they supported em

[@Pippa87]

Watching this on my iPhone, which is encased in my “Forget Romeo and Juliet, I want a love like Gomez and Mortica.” Perfect timing

[@jimmoriarty9440]

I would like to live beyond the script, thank you. Hahaha!

[@belaytriks]

After some time, actually after the all Twilight fever I started to ask myself why Romeo and Juliet are consider "the" romantic couple. They do not know each other, they are just teens that got their first "love" and never really ever think in the repercution of their acts. They lived a pretty fairy tail about each other and that was all, I really can see them as a real tragic couple now, I see them as troubled teens that really died before even get to live their lifes for cause of their own incapacity of self reflect and their parents incapacity of listening their childs. I still love the whole story as a story but not as a romantic story anymore.

[@aionicthunder]

@@belaytriks Well, that's likely because it isn't a romance story, but a tragedy. As for how they became "the" romantic couple... I got nothing. If I had to guess, maybe just Shakespeare's popularity meant that story became iconic and, through pop culture osmosis, the original meaning got left behind

[@belaytriks]

@@aionicthunder that explain a lot. Thank you for the information, I eraesed for my mind the tragedy part, English is not my native language and we did not study Shakespeare work at school ever so what I know is more second hand references and what I have read myself. Thank you.

[@AnInsideJoke]

@@aionicthunder Nope, it actually got popular for the same reason that Twilight or anything else with a forced love triangle or "ill-fated romance," gets popular: dramatic teenagers who think high angst and unhealthy attachment are "true love." Shakespeare actually wrote it to point out how dumb their behavior was, only for those same types to eat it up. It always frustrated him to no end that it became one of his (if not THE most) popular plays during his lifetime (personally, I always preferred MacBeth and The Taming of the Shrew).

[@blakehawk4087]

Gomez and Morticia are the best example of secure attachment: *They communicate very well when things are going wrong. * They don't need to keep tabs on each other, yet know they are trustworthy. *They compromise, instead of sacrificing. *They are very welcoming of others.

[@efraim3364]

Gomez is a successful business man, Morticia and he have a passion for each other thats worthy of envy. They both dote on their children and are very involved in their lives encouraging them in all things.

[@efraim3364]

@Seven Ellen in the series he gets depressed about not being able to make a bad deal and Morticia cheers him up by saying that hes a "Failure at being a Failure"

[@J-manli]

I've always found it weird that the Adams Family have a relatively healthy family dynamic, and yet they're branded and advertised as the weird ones. I guess that was the point to some degree.

[@doodlefawn4742]

From what I know the idea of the Addams family was to basically be everything opposite of what a family was portrayed at during their conception. The family is dark and gothic, "evil" monsters, and a husband and wife who stood on equal footing, with a family who all respected each other.

[@AngelJuliet]

Yeah I actually never understood it. Their actually relatively normal just different. I’d love to be apart of their family honestly.

[@vintagejenta]

Charles Addams, the cartoonist who invented the Addams family, gave them healthy family relationships specifically to highlight the dysfunction of 1950s and 60s suburbia at a time when TV couples had separate twin beds and everyone was constrained by rigid gender and age hierarchies. Only "creepy and kooky" people would have multigenerational households, free range kids, and active love lives.

[@lucyfur]

Relationship goals

[@golwenlothlindel]

That's the point, because it's a satire of sitcoms. At the time anyway, sitcoms almost exclusively featured highly dysfunctional (often to the point of being abusive) families.

[@ashleytuchin7693]

The great thing about The Addams Family is that even though they have macabre and grotesque sensibilities, they're actually kind, loving and accepting people who are always quick to help others. It's a great contrast.

[@lucieellis3149]

The fact that the Addams parents have an obviously passionate sex life and being madly in love is what made them stand out. Normally you get the odd sex joke or a lovely dovey comment but this family just went, ‘Hey couples and parents have sex, sometimes kinky sex but it’s all done consensually by two people in love’.

[@abbycolby4543]

I have literally written an essay about how great and healthy the dynamics of the Addams Family are.

[@renclear3825]

Do you mind sharing this essay lol

[@zainabambia2148]

Yesss I would love to read the essay xoxo

[@cupofcozy708]

I would love to read that essay!

[@joelletatter4063]

I too would like to read this essay

[@eclipsemoons6557]

I would also like to read that if you are willing to share

[@princessjonie]

I'd love to see y'all do an episode on LadyBird because it highlights the toxicity that is overlooked in Mother-daughter relationships

[@stellarkat4657]

YES PLEASE

[@sea_of_love]

yes omg please

[@dietotaku]

oh my god warn me first because i'm going to need ALL the tissues for that one

[@Moszan]

As a spearhead counterpart for father/son dynamic, I'd like to see their take on Fences.

[@XanStephP]

Yes please!!!

[@grahamrichardson9620]

"It's for widows and orphans, mother! We need more of them."

[@JakeSweeper]

I knew a girl who loved Romeo & Juliet as the ultimate love story. I disagreed and said "If you want a romantic relationship based on a fictional couple, go with Gomez and Morticia Addams, not a pair of dumb teenagers who suicide by misunderstanding."

[@Samantha_yyz]

This is the peak of Adams Family. The modern version seem to just not understand why this movie is so good. Wednesday and Morticia sparked my interest in goth fashion before I understood it lol XD Also just love how confident everyone in this family is. They just enjoy who they are and it's great

[@antoniousai1989]

The modern version is fine but the late 80'/ early '90 had a thing for gothic in general and it was a general trend, so the movie was more tuned to our memories.

[@Samantha_yyz]

@@antoniousai1989 but like the 2 animated movies like just don't understand what the Adams family is. They ton everything about them down, when the point is they are like any other TV show family but just dark magic and goth. They should be leaning into the weirdness.

[@Theeight8b]

@@Samantha_yyz Yeah, nothing in the animated part understood what made these two movies so good. But, then again - cast of Addams family just chewing out this script.

[@totallycrazystudios1801]

I prefer the black and white show but yeah

[@Samantha_yyz]

@@totallycrazystudios1801 that was def a good show. I prob partly like the movies now inpart because they introduced me to The Adams Family

[@Firegen1]

What makes me deliriously happy is this version of the Addams is now a lot of people's childhood and just old enough to be a classic. We all need the joy of Addams togetherness in our lives. ⚘🥀

[@trinaq]

Precisely, I can't believe that the first movie is 30 years old already! May we all be as accepting and harminous as the Addams Family!

[@Firegen1]

@@trinaq hear hear 🍷

[@trinaq]

Funnily enough, if Debbie hadn't been so insane, she would have been instantly accepted by the Addamses', since they were nothing but understanding of her murderous background! 😂🖤🕸️

[@acrylicgodoy]

I think it was more because she was selfish, robbing Fester away, and marrying him only for money... Pastel preference aside... She was for sure almost perfect for their circle. They didn't mind that she was insane

[@gurglequeen433]

If she hadn't tried to break up the family, they would have accepted her as the psychopath she is.

[@Vashtibucket]

@@gurglequeen433 Yeah I agree lol Debbie was the one who wanted to break the family up, but she fit right in.

[@jimmoriarty9440]

"But do any of you love me? Do any of you truly love me?" "Hands!" *everyone struggles to raise a hand* She'd fit perfectly with them if she could accept that. However, once Grandmama curses you I think your time is limited.

[@CortexNewsService]

Right?!?!?

[@nezuminora9528]

"Tim Burton without the bullshit" is extra funny in light of the Wednesday remake

[@enicole1203]

I love this iteration of the Addams Family so much. My mother commented the other day that "those aren't even the real Addams," and I was lowkey offended. 🤣 But she remembers the original TV show. These will always be the authentic Addams Family to me.

[@theflotingheadproduc]

If you haven't seen any of the original black and white tv show, I highly recommend it! You can even find some full episodes here on youtube! 😁

[@caitlin329]

The TV show isn't even the original 🤷‍♀️

[@thalstantrailwalker2393]

Both iterations are great in my book. Yes, the 90s version was darker humored, but I think that's more an indication of the time each of these was made in. But in both, you have a family that loves and supports each other, no matter how different they are from "normal". To me, Mr. Austin will always be Gomez and Ms. Jones will always be Morticia, but I absolutely loved how Ms. Huston and Mr. Julia made the characters different and darker, but also kept it so recognizable. That said, Ms. Ricci will always be Wednesday in my book. BUT...the Adult Wednesday Addams series someone made as a fan project here on KZbin was funny as heck. I understand why she had to stop making the episodes, but I am certainly glad they are still available.

[@faldasrojas4636]

@@thalstantrailwalker2393 wait, they are? Do you have the channel? I never managed to find them when I search them up time ago

[@thalstantrailwalker2393]

@@faldasrojas4636 I think this is the official channel. kzbin.info/door/JX-sH1VBFVlB8fg1_xJMLAvideos

[@justanothermortal1373]

The Addams family has got to be one of the most delightfully chaotic films I've ever seen :)

[@nenmaster5218]

'Wolfwalkers 2020' is better though.

[@justanothermortal1373]

@@nenmaster5218 I haven't seen it yet but I heard its really good!

[@nenmaster5218]

@@justanothermortal1373 Oh, it is. I was genuinly surprised, cause i know how rare quality is nowadays.

[@nenmaster5218]

@@justanothermortal1373 FREE GUY 2021 is also very good, but too much s-jokes though.

[@nenmaster5218]

@@justanothermortal1373 I would like to talk to ya more, but... no kidding: My YT-Notifications 'broke' and now i dont get any anymore... oof...

[@missipenix]

"Relationships should be like an arch because both sides have to work together for the relationship to work. Putting each other on a pedestal is lonely and it's too easy to get lazy instead of working at it." This is the one piece of advice my Mama has not forgotten since the dementia started getting worse; some days she doesn't necessarily remember me or Mom (her wife), but she never forgets that relationships require equal effort.

[@co7314]

We see Morticia as always bathed in ethereal light... I feel like that is representing Gomez's adoration of her. He treats her like a goddess.

[@jennaheiser625]

16:58 I think it’s a very small moment, but I always smile when “Dr. Pinderschloss” asks if Gomez has heard of displacement, and he says no and turns to Morticia. “Tish?” He knows that she considers his problems to be hers, and her knowing about displacement when he doesn’t would be both possible and is completely comfortable with him. Honestly, the moment breaks the flow of the scene slightly, and adding it in just serves to hammer home how connected they are in a lovely, subtle way. So great!

[@christinaclark9754]

I loved that part. I thought it was really cool that his first thought was to ask her about it. Not just assuming that she didn't know either. Also when he sits back down, he instantly reaches for her for comfort.

[@erikperhs_]

By doing that, he admits that maybe she knows more than him about something, which is not very common for men to do.

[@rebecca_rh]

I would like but I don’t want to ruin the 666

[@jennaheiser625]

@@rebecca_rh Morticia and Gomez would both approve! 😆

[@rebecca_rh]

@@jennaheiser625 yes exactly! Ahah

[@KacielNolwen]

Addams family: Relationship goals. I love that Morticia has that one specific type of light on her face in every single scene. I noticed it when rewatching the movies this year it's just so well done.

[@Stettafire]

Comes from old vampire films :)

[@daniellemusella1594]

@@Stettafire Yeah. It was an ever-present nod to Bela Lugosi. (10/25/2021)

[@princessangel821]

I love that they're so weird yet still a loving, supportive family

[@leahalfonso2735]

It’s the weird things that turn out to be the best things

[@Stolanis]

'Yet'? I'd say it's *because* they accept their weirdness that they're happy. I've yet to meet anyone who isn't weird in some way. If anything, I'd say it's the folk who swear blind that they're normal that you really have to watch out for. Denial can be a dangerous thing.

[@CheshireAnn]

Grandma adams : “Adultery?” Morticia Immediately : “No.” I love that line just because it shows, even in a small scene, that Morticia is so confident in their relationship and their marriage that she doesn’t even consider that that would be a possibility in their lives because she loves Gomez and Gomez absolutely adores her🥰🖤🖤🖤

[@ambercherise2391]

I was actually looking for this post.

[@myplateisempty.4292]

They both respect each other...... Gomez treats Morticia as his dark Queen and Morticia treats Gomez as her unhinged King. It isn't a relationship of a Queen and her faithful knight who would do her bidding..... It's a relationship between a King and Queen. They both raise and support each other as equals. Yes we see Gomez being more extravagant of his affection, but with how much she receives Morticia gives and makes Gomez her king. I think when one partner gives too much they can easily be taken advantage of, but here Morticia isn't taking Gomez for granted, the more he raises her up, the more she reaches out and raises him up to be with her. It's a relationship where both parties are on equal footing and they both are respectful of each other above everything else. Minus the kinky shit, this is something that my parents have taught me to look for in a partner. Valuing each other, be equals and have a respect that becomes love or is formed when you love someone. Even though it was an arranged marriage (it's common in my culture) they have managed to make it work through thick and thin.

[@MrCheenibum64]

imagine if your parents also taught you the kinky shit, this comment would have been platinum 💗

[@myplateisempty.4292]

@@MrCheenibum64 lol please don't scar me like that😳🤣🤣

[@MrCheenibum64]

@@myplateisempty.4292 😏

[@tealablu3759]

Morticia def does more subtle behind the scenes support, like taking “fake” fester and letting him know not to mess with her husband’s emotions. You don’t mess with her man or her family.

[@QuidamByMoonlight]

Well, it’s super healthy to be kinky, too, or at least sexually expressive. If you’re missing that, you’re missing a key ingredient. My two cents.

[@Jinxed-Oracle]

When Morticia is asking her mother for help... Mamma: Troubled husbands...adultery? Morticia: (immediately replies) Oh no. Jonathan has stated several times that the sexiest thing about a partner is one who shows respect and trustworthiness. Can we just talk about how that ONE LINE from Morticia about being so sure that, even at his most stressed, that Gomez would never cheat on her or betray her like that?! 😭❤ I swear, they're the best fictional couple!!!!

[@KanishQQuotes]

She would kill him before he comes home after cheating

[@thatvalensteingirl]

@@KanishQQuotes Gomez would never step out on her. Period.

[@MissCandiDandi]

Amen, trust is such a valuable thing. My partner often tells me I am the first relationship he'd had, where he hasn't a single doubt in his mind about my faithfulness. That he's never questioned it (and it's a big deal because he's Ben cheated on in the past) I adore that he trusts me, and I trust him. Our relationship has so much strength backing it even just from that alone.

[@emmavr-525]

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[@danagalletta8349]

There is an entire episode of the 60s tv show called 'Green-Eyed Gomez' where an old friend of Morticia's stays with them for a bit. During the stay, somehow, both parties think the other has fallen out of love because of misunderstandings involving both Lionel and Mildred, a maid who Gomez hired to try and pry Lionel away from Tish, they both become depressed. Gomez goes so far as to try and unalive himself because he doesn't want to live without her. It's dark, but beautiful, and speaks to how much these two truly love each other.

[@takkycat]

The scariest thing about the Addams Family is how successfully subverted their healthy relationships are to other popular media relationships. It was meant to be that way but it is terrifying at how well it works!

[@DavidGowers]

I've ALWAYS believed that the whole Addams Family are a fantastic representation of what a genuinely healthy and caring family should be like. Gomez & Morticia adore each other and always lift each other up, as you pointed out, they're present for their kids at every opportunity, also as you guys pointed out, they have zero problems with involving a therapist if they feel it can help...the only thing really "odd" about them is they're not into loud, bright, colourful, 'happy' aesthetics. Their aesthetic is whatever makes them feel comfortable and happy with themselves and each other. Morticia and Gomez are 100% relationship goals, and the family as a whole are family goals

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

The more times I see this movie, the more I realize it's an _actual_ masterpiece. It is SO messed up, and there are SO many things in it that are just f-ed up and wrong in the most hilarious ways... but that's not _all_ the movie is, because at the exact same time, we get an entire story of a healthy, supportive, loving, tight-knit, amazing family and marriage. AT THE SAME FREAKING TIME. That is just *_genius_* filmmaking!!!

[@someoneontheinternet9617]

I once read a comment that was kinda sad, it went something like "The Addams were made to be the complete opposite of a normal sitcom family, that's why Morticia and Gomez love each other so much". It's pretty sad but it makes total sense.

[@lifeofcharlotte5887]

I’ve known my now husband for 10 years, been married for 2 years. We still fall for each other every day. People are quite surprised when we say how long we’ve been together for as they assume we are just starting out in our relationship because of how affectionate we are with each other. He’s my Sun & Stars and He calls me “Moon of my Life” (I know cheesy) but it’s true. We are different individuals with our own interests but we also have fun together. LOVE this movie because they are GOALS! ❤️ xxx

[@alyssamay9237]

That’s so cute!

[@nicoleajobo3415]

😍😍

[@waddledottz]

i hope i can have something that cute and special as what you have, my best wishes for everyone

[@juliancain3872]

A song of ice and fire/game of thrones reference?

[@jessicaharrison4719]

I still have hearts in my eyes when I look at my husband, and we've known each other for fifteen years and been married 10 years. It takes work, but he and I are worth it.

[@johnspetkitty81]

I love that as a whole, it's generally widely accepted that Morticia and Gomez have the perfect marriage.